Forget the "Soulmate" Hunt - Rabbi Yitzchak Botton

People always ask, you know, how do I find my soulmate? How do I know that the person is my soulmate? So, the truth is, to really give you the proper advice, you have to know that you can't really have a goal of of of finding your soulmate because that idea is really hidden from you. You can't tell if that person is your soulmate. So, what you really have to tell is is this person right for me? Are we going to make a a good a good couple? Are we going to, you know, be able to make this work? If you get a person that drives you crazy, you know, and that you're going to fight all your life, but the the Kabbalist tells you, "Oh, but you're soulmate." So, what are you going to do? You're going to marry her and live miserably ever after? That's not the solution. So, I think that we should focus less on who our soulmate is and focus on finding the right person for us. And hopefully, God will take care of his part, which is getting you your soulmate, and you pick the right one and it'll be your soulmate. That's the best answer to that question.