Empowering Our Children - Avi Fishoff

[Music] we all know of the tremendous challenges that are facing us and our children wouldn't it be amazing if a parent could do something to up the odds and give his child the strength the emotional strength to overcome the challenges that they face well there is the tah tells us that when they told yakob ainu that his son y was gone and the dream was over it says came he refused to be consoled and they brought him the other 11 kids and they said look you children and your grandchildren you have so much that he refused to give up on and they said but he's different he has long hair he's creative nobody likes him he wouldn't give up on him just one para later one chapter later Y is faced a challenge that the med says was greater than him he was doomed there would be no y there would be no y the challenge was greater than him and what is the word that the T says says theom the power of Y in the time of his challenge to overcome Beyond his ability came from the fact by that he had a father far away that refused to give up on him this is a power that our children have from us we can help them you could have two kids that have the same power the same Challenge and one will have the emotional energy because they have a father far away that refuses to give up on them by infusing this love and this belief into our children we Empower them to have extra energy above what they have on their own to be able to be the med says that basa when y was faced this challenge that was greater than him he saw he saw his father's face says the when he saw his father's face he felt the love he felt that he had a father that believed in him that would never stop believing in him and the words are of [Music] the he became emotionally connected to his father and he was no longer alone if I'm going out to fight somebody with a knife I'm doomed but two people together we have a chance the Nan was greater for him like it's greater for a lot of our children and many times this Nan happens when our children feel all alone but when they imagine your presence you can give them emotional energy M even when they're physically alone emotionally when they think of you your effect in your belief and love in them empowers them to be in that are greater than them and this is not not just a nice fart let me tell you three stories that will blow your mind there was a boy that was on the streets he moved into home sweet home a home that I had for kids who were not from he didn't fast on yum Kipper for six years he was rough and tough his grandfather was one of the gar zikar one of the oldest of the generation and I felt he should meet his grandfather after many years of being on the outs I arranged for a meeting and I brought him to meet his grandfather on the way there he told me you know I really respect my grandfather I respect my grandmother but it's very strange you know they don't hug they just wave and I don't get it he's talking about hugs this rough tough kid he's talking about hugs anyway I brought him in I sat down and after 5 minutes I said I have to go to an appointment I'll be back in an hour and this big God looked at me like I don't think he was expecting private time for an hour I slipped out I got on the car I called up the boy's mother I said what's with the hugs she said by us we don't really hug very very cish we don't hug the boys after Mitzvah but my husband did one time I said what about your the God she said ask him so I went in after the at the end of the hour and the boy's back was to me I couldn't say something in front of the boy so I kind of felt bad but I motioned to the scuddle I said I need to speak to you he got up really slow and the boy went to wave goodbye to his grandmother and get some cookies and I had only a split second and I whispered into his ear a bang for a hug he's yearning for a hug and I don't know why this grandfather never hugged his grandchildren but this is what happened on a spin of a dime spur the moment he turned and he started going like this and this boy was much taller than him his hands were shaking and he reached up and the boy didn't know what he wants he pulled down this boy's head and he gave him a half a hug like that and then a kiss on the cheek I made Believe like I didn't see anything we got in the car and this rough and tough Rebel is freaking out he's like I can't believe it my zi my zi hugged me he kissed me I can't believe it and I said wow I thought you said he never does that and he's like he never did and then it was quiet I was driving back from barop Park to pn1 16th in Flatbush as we got in the middle to Avenue J an Ocean Parkway the light was red and the boy turned to me and he said AI what do you think maybe I should start keeping shabas I don't know what to say this boy isn't from for at least 6 years years I said I can't tell you what to do but maybe if your Nish is telling you something maybe you should listen he kept that Rashana two days he kept shabaha he kept Yumer for the first time in over six years by there were tears running down his cheeks his sitter was wet I witnessed a miracle he kept shabas he kept the two days of sukus he kept sh and I gave him an Aliyah in my sh the first Aliyah he had since his bar mitzvah because he had a grandfather that showed him love number two we had a parent that came to me about their son and their connection was so so close that it was one shabas afternoon and the father told his wife our son who was in a different country very far away our son is in danger they had a connection a sole connection and after shabas he spoke to his son and his son said that at that time he was going through a crisis he was suicidal and he wanted to kill himself but he envisioned his father and when he envisioned the face of his father and his mother who loved him he was able to calm down I want to read to you an email that I just got today dear AI something happened and our daughter became very scared and her first reaction was I've got to run upstairs to my parents she used to not talk to us but since we started Twisted parenting and they were following my guidance their relation ship was repaired and now the parents are her safe people she was about to go upstairs and she started to have respect something she didn't have until recently and she realized maybe they're having a shabas nap so she said to herself I'm going to imagine I'm going to imagine my daddy and mommy are with me telling me don't worry we'll work it out I know that they will support me all the way through this and this calmed her down she normally would have had a f full-blown panic panic attack but now our relationship is so strong that just the thought of our love embracing her and holding her was enough for her to avoid an anxiety and panic attack of course she told me afterwards and I told her she should have woken us up and we're always there for her and she said it wasn't necessary just the thought was able to help her in her time of need this is what we can do for our children we can be there with them and love them so much so when they see our face they will have the emotional strength to overcome their challenges [Music]