Don't Be Fooled by What You See - Rabbi Joey Haber

[Music] you know sometimes when you see Society it's not so tempting you see people out there with their tattoos and their piercings and their funny colored hair and there's nothing tempting but then you'll see someone within our own communities and you'll see a couple walking in the street and everything looks perfect mother father with a little baby in the carriage and you're like wow I wish I had that I want to give you a little Lon L when you find yourself having those thoughts when I was a little boy maybe 15 years old my parents took me to a children's museum in stal I don't remember I just remember pulling up on a winter Sunday it was shabas khanka and the museum had an exhibit that I don't think I'll ever forget they showed you different parts of media and then they wanted to show you how the power that media has and they showed you on a screen a scene a man was walking a white man walking with a designer suit designer shoes groomed hair and ate shase he's walking on the sidewalk Park cars on the left and a house on the right and as he's walking minding his own business out from behind the park cars comes an African-American man who jumps the white man and shoves him against the wall it's so clear that you're seeing a mugging then they show you the exact same scene again man walking on the sidewalk white man designer shoes designer suit groomed hair at their shakas walking on the sidewalk now from behind the parked cars comes an African-American man about to jump him and this time they show you the scene from afar and you see that on top of the house where the white man was walking past there was a boulder of bricks that was rolling off the roof about to hit the white man to kill him the African-American man who jumped from behind the Cars and shoved him against the wall wasn't mugging him he was saving his life I want to tell you something that comes from a lot of experience when you see a scene you don't always know what you're seeing sometimes you see a couple you're like wow their life looks magnificent and they're from and they and they're dressing modest so it's like it looks even more innocent to you don't ever get fooled you never know what they're dealing with you never know what it is I would tell you from experience of being a r for over 20 years I can't tell you how many couples have sat in front of me that seemed perfect their life seemed unbelievable and their life was such a struggle don't ever get fooled by the scene cuz there's always more in the scene That You Don't See and even if they're not struggling don't think oh if I would have this and if I would have this so many times if I would have this and it would have this and something else would have been and something else would have changed and your life wouldn't be nearly as good as it is today so stop thinking stop guessing because when you think that you're using your imagination and you say to yourself if everything in my life was the same but if I flip this one thing everything would be perfect your mind is lying to you so don't get fooled from scenes that you see within our own Community scenes that you think you know what you're looking at because almost always the scene is so much bigger than what your eyes are able to see [Music]