Chanukah: Prep Yourself - Rabbi Gavriel Friedman

[Music] good morning everybody so a few days ago I was on my way I was well that's not true I wasn't on my way that was the problem a few days ago I was in my house it was on Thursday this past Thursday so when people say stories a few days ago and they really mean like six years ago I actually mean a few days ago Thursday morning I was in my home and I get a phone call at 11:15 a.m. and I was supposed to apparently be somewhere teaching now this is one of my biggest fears in life is to be late or miss a class but this is what I ended up happening someone calls and says where are you I said I'm where I am where are you you feel like being judged I echo you know like I don't know any sorry guys well you said away what do you need they said well you know you're supposed to be teaching a class at 11:00 so I look at my watch and I see it's 11:15 so I said oh and I just let me check my schedule and they said yeah schedule has confirmed what you have just said I said listen I I'm really sorry I'll be there in and then you start you know and you say I'll be there in and you say like five minutes but really I mean an hour right so so I don't have the luxury of seeing that cuz there was a group that was waiting for me and then later another teacher after another after she didn't work like I'll be there in an hour so I made real-time I said listen I'll be there in 15 minutes which is really not possible where I live it's just it wasn't possible but okay it was better than singing you know five minutes I said I'll be there like 15 minutes and then I you know the I went to my head when I found that that I messed up is what every man what goes through every man's head and we learned it from other Marie shown what went through my head it's my wife's fault my wife was sitting right there and I get I'm like you don't have a class at 11:00 I was like look at my wife I'm like and in my head I'm thinking why didn't you tell me I'm like wait a minute she's not a responsibility so I actually didn't say it but I said I was thinking to say why didn't you tell me so now I could say it without having I didn't mean I just thinking it you know but I gotta head out like oh man and the next stage I'm like how am I gonna get there in time how am I gonna get there I had to get to a showers I was in French whatever just it's like it doesn't make sense I'm gonna get there in time there's no way I'm eating at a time it's already 15 minutes late but how am I gonna get there with you know salvaging something so then I try to maybe hint to my wife to give me a ride you know because like it's her fault I'm late you know what I mean so like the least she can do at least in my head so I was like oh how am I gonna get there she goes take a cab I go into Stan but but how am I gonna get there like how am I gonna how am I gonna get to where I need to go she goes take a cab I understand I heard you I'm just how am I gonna get there you know she's like take a I'm a guy fine you know I call the cab I say you know again bar alone you notice I said any cities mo need yeah you know I said okay come at the Colt I said no a little bit how many is it about the coat I said listen for minutes for real or like I said 15 minutes like really how much time we gonna be her and I said it'll be there okay now I'm thinking um this is like bad I get into the cab and he starts driving quite leisurely as I said time listen I have a class at 11 o'clock the guy looks at his watch he goes p.m. like what what do you mean I said listen I don't think understand I have a class I live in o'clock a.m. he's like it's 11:20 I said intent dry faster you know and then we get to a point basically you could go right or left I I chose to I chose the wrong one and I said it was his fault and the kids are I called someone else to get and on the way there I said to the guy you know what trying to just relax myself and if a lot of things running through my head has anyone here ever been late to something yes and no yeah I thought me over women of course not because when you get there that's the time right anyway so we have another way it cessation us on grandma guys anyway so so I go out and you've been late to something and people are waiting for you there's not just like you're late and and if you miss it you miss it and and they came for this is like a group that came from America for one hour you know they came for two hours but I basically it's bad if I miss it I ended up working it out by messing someone else over saying I can't teach in whatever but but point is that I'm anxious I'm nervous I'm thinking oh no what's gonna be I'm late and okay what's gonna be anyway like nothing is gonna be everything's fine it's no problem really other than I miss someone over okay life goes on it happens but I'm thinking of makes you some nervous and I said to myself you know what I remember I got for all the things we say not good about whatsapp and technology and whatever III got a a whatsapp a few months ago and this whatsapp that I got a few months ago it's it's I get a lot of these things in my neighborhood I live in a neighborhood where there's like a whatsapp group for the neighborhood and it's mainly Israeli so everything's in Hebrew so what do I do like everything I get in Hebrew when I get a Hebrew letter I just open the drawer and I put it in and I close it and I hope it's not important yeah I don't know else have a drawer like that it might be a anyway so I have that Joris I have the same thing on this what's up the guy we D broke I just kind of like pulled down and pretend like I'm reading because my kids are watching and they speak Hebrew so they're like oh must be taught to speak Hebrew he's looking I'm like oh yes Oh interesting oh very good okay oh way now and but I caught my eye an amazing line and this is what I want to bring out today it's an amazing concept which really changed my life and in a positive way sometimes it's negative this is positive now the truth is only if you think about it a lot of things can change your life and a lot of things have changed your lives and the question is though are we thinking about her it's like in and out so here was a line and I said it to the cabdriver I said you know there are two things in life that a person should never worry about two things in life you should never worry about so Israeli cab driver right away of course his answers he goes not enough huh you know a livelihood I said oh okay what's the second he said no what's the second I said that wasn't the first either so let's let's take it back yet two things in life a person should never worry about I know this is probably not set up and such form you'll excuse me for being a teacher what are they okay when one will go and this one will die okay that that is very morbid and it's it's also perhaps true although the ministers maybe we should be worried about that but okay that's good that's good it shouldn't be through it anyone else what should we never worry about yeah oh nice I think did you hear another class of mine once that sounds anyway so good that's uh if I was giving that class I would say that but we're in a different class now there's two other things okay two things officious in every way you know what something goes the most important thing is and then they say the next talk the most important thing I think you said that last week oh that was kind of calm no we're on Purim right okay where's our two things appreciated in every worry about yeah the weather okay good these are all good answers but another answer I want to share with you they're all wonderful but another or two are the following number one and you know what the weather works the death thing actually works all these work and they're all true they're all accurate and they fit into what I'm about to say there are two things you should never worry about number one you should never worry about something that you can change guess what number two is number two is you should never worry about something that you cannot change so in other words what should you worry about nothing's ever to get that now I could have started with that and say don't worry about anything you'd be like oh sure everything's great now thank you for that piece of advice but it's very different to be worded differently two things only two things this is just two things number one I don't like that someone number one it just doesn't work with number one never worry about something that you can change because simply put if you can change it then change it that's it what are you worrying about it if you could change it then change it oh and by the way you know what else things you can't change see simply because if you can't change it then you can't change it anyway what are you going to gain by worrying is everybody here this you can't change it anyway what are you gonna gain by worrying now obviously and maybe it's not so obvious right but I think it's obvious it's almost like a silly statement scrye else you never ever worry it's like getting up and saying Emunah everyone you have a hard time emunah thank you emunah now I'm better Emunah the answer is a Mona the answer is don't worry but how do we make it real how do we make it better it's practical how do we make it a point that actually can get to that level of those two things that a person should never worry about now understand the Mishnah tells us in Pirkei avos submission found in Perak valid Mishnah gilmore human been a lousy Rohmer shim Eliezer says very interestingly cuz you know what's what's the worst thing you could say to somebody when they're very upset or angry gums Willet over okay we're gonna get to that in a minute that's coming up in a minute that said in the next statement to the Mishnah we'll see let's start with anger first someone gets their very angry I can't believe it huh angry what do we say what do you say them calm down calm down Riley that's the best thing don't you love when people say that you're like I can't even something like calm down you're like you know what I never thought about it like that thank you so much and yeah I guess I will all calm down now thank you come on seriously now let's go to the next statement of mr. what you just mentioned a person goes to visit someone at a sugar house what is the worst thing you could say to them gum Zula tofa we out of our minds say someone just wants the left on you like you know that's a plan Chum love zero gum with a little talk I'm thinking out for it comes through all the gum Seuss you crazy is it true that it's comes to loot OVA is it true is it true the person who's angry should calm down are we dealing with the person that can hear truth right now says the mission of further when a person goes out and they are gonna make a net there don't try to understand what they mean because there's different ways of a person making a net there of a vow that you can get out of you can do a forest in the Durham if a person says that's it I've never eaten cake again I'm so fat balloon others clear so is this another a person should never go to them and say what do you mean by cake like what kind of cake do you mean do you mean like chocolate vanilla ice creams raspberry strawberry fudge what do you mean cake see because Anil close-knit durum in the laws of vows if somebody makes a vow they can get out of a vow as long as they didn't lock themselves in to the vow what does that mean if a person says I'm never going to do something and then afterwards they realize oh my goodness what I say that there's an event this morning with food how could I have done that and then they go and they're like rabbi I need a help what'd you do I made a vow okay what did you say I said I'm not even cake again what kind of cake did you mean I didn't really think about it I just said cake well did you meet chocolate I'm not specifically did you mean vanilla no I don't think that either I mean so what did you mean I don't really mean anything I just felt that you know that's that yes then we could say our first and Darby can get yourself out of it because you didn't really like yourself in but if somebody said specifically I will never have a b c d e f g h rj then we've got problem them it's got a problem and you came to a photo said I can't get out of it there's a way of locking yourself and you can't get out of it so never say to a person who's making a vow or what kind of cake because that will totally mess them over when someone is angry who never say calm down when someone's dad is lying before them don't try to comfort them when someone is making a vow not to ask them what they mean already get what's going on here we're dealing in very high emotional circumstances and when a person is in a very high level emotional circumstance use go up to react in 10 and that is understand where they're coming from take a step back and just I'm so sorry that you're going through this yes it's hard it's difficult all I'm also fat but I'm still eating cake and whatever it is let me go through but we have to understand never go ahead and do that why what will happen you're gonna mess them over so let's go with the concept so I say to you ready two things in life you should never worry about those you can change and those that you can change the kids when do what do I say that do they say that to you when you're upset and you're frustrated and you're in the circumstance that's the same thing as saying somebody when they go ahead and they lost a loved one gums over someone's angry calm down right now's not the time right now is clearly not the time to talk about this the time to talk about it is when it has nothing to do with high-stakes emotional situations so then when do we say it and when do we learn it and when do we get it so this my friends is where things get quite interesting we understand now we're starting we're coming up to this beautiful holiday of Hanukkah and there's a interesting how luckily we have a Hanukkah it's a locket that one has to do something every night what do we do every night like candles lights menorah well Broncos ok eat fried food thank you that's what we're talking about so there is not that by the other we do that also where's the Mitzvah there's a mitzvah to go ahead and do something on Kanaka and it's reminiscent of something which we did in the base hammock - but what are the Ivo does one of the services that was none of the basis of meekness what is it I'm hearing lighting the menorah is that everyone saying lighting the menorah so interestingly the Rambam brings down in hill cause BSM mick does chapter 9 love a seven says the following idea that it's miss of the come on humor the going pneumonic ophthalmic base says hot laka love a voter he lighting the menorah is not part of the avodah you mean of alcalá vivoli that's the movie would it be doing Seneca we light the menorah because lighting the menorah is what it's all about in the miracle of the oil and the fire and that's what we do all right and it's reminiscent of the base I make that sure we wrote B Louise we let them in Nora here's a can okay yeah there's I mean oh we like the menorah curse at the a vote of the menorah but you know what their arm says before or yes that there is no a vote about laka laka is not the avodah at laka the lighting is not the service what is the service at Ava's honey rose preparing the candles preparing the candles is the avodah the avodah isn't the actual lighting the avodah is the prep work all of life is prep if you do not prep you've got nothing all of life is bread like we know a very famous class I'll say we get reminded of this every single week every single week what do we reminded of every single week what Shabbos what do we but that's what we is every recorder we reminded of every week of Shabbos preparing for hola my Bora anyone who prepares on Friday will have what to eat on Shabbos anyone who prepares on Friday will have what to eat on campus anyone who does the prep work will have what to eat on campus are we prepping are we preparing and I think my bar right now I'm talking about here right now our life circumstances are we preparing there are two things a person should never worry about those things you could change and those that you can't change if you could change it then do it if you can't you can't anyway so just accept and move forward what about how do I get to the level of where I could live with that in the circumstance perhaps we've got to prep ourselves the menorah teaches us every single day prep it prep it prep it now you know excuse me for not being such a professional here and this is totally unprofessional I'm going to do now you could fill in the blanks and help me I heard a story I knew a number of years ago I just don't remember who the rabbis were excuse me but and I know if I would say who they are someone be like actually was the author of all right so fill in the blank with the rabbis all right there were two very holy rabbis and these two holy right they were so holy I can't even see their names you're so holy he's - holy rabbis we'll call them holy a and holy B now holy a was on a higher level than a holy beet and he was considered the rabbi and underneath I have some names I don't want to say them because I'm nervous I'm gonna say the wrong ones you'll fill it in after so there's these two rappers are traveling together and when they were traveling together traveling together a baby sister rabbi a holy rabbi a Oh what happened was the end of the town ended up in at I forgot the town part right because every story is to have a town made it up into town far far away and there was a king there's no king just it's part of the juris thing anyway so these two rabbis are going out for one of my friends every rabbi so was always sitting there he said every rabbi goes to the same rabbi school every muscle that's ever given in Judaism has two things number one is as a king and number two the rabbi is trained to repeat the word King and a high-pitch the next time he says it once upon a time there was a king a king I know nothing good with this those two rabbis and these two robbers came to a community where they got to the community there was someone there that was having a bris they were having they just had their beautiful baby it was the the night before the bris and there are these two rabbits coming Holy rabbis how honored would be if you guys could you guys if the Holy rabbis can participate in the bris yes no course so they went to there in and when they were in the end rabbi B says rabbi rabbi it's a little bit not fair you know everywhere we go you're greater than me it is what it is and when we go take a key butum you get honor it's just not fair because you always get the higher honor than I get and like I would like it if maybe I can get the higher honor it's just not fair can I get the higher honor he says absolutely what do you want he goes I would love to be the sondik you know let me be the son that can you'll do I meet the little shamey I'm said like let me let me let me let me have a sondik he says you know what you're right you deserve it you're wonderful okay so the rabbi a goes to sleep rabbi B is so ready he's getting ready so excited for tomorrow is gonna be the sondik he goes to the mikveh and he starts learning Torah and he writes a Torah and he goes to it throw another bristle in the meantime and he is just mom is getting into it excited comes the morning of comes the morning of and they take son dick Robbie a gets up and sits in the chair and I be was like maja what uh-oh what's going on over here doesn't say anything some public it says okay leaves it my hind what's going on they finished the bridge he's this he's that they finished she goes rabbi hey I don't understand I thought we had a deal I was gonna be the sondik you're gonna be anything sir man eight turns back to our business I don't understand you you got to go ahead and stay up all night learning mikvah growth connection prep over and over you got so much can I get a little something also just not fair come on now it sounds a little bit silly but if you think about it being the person who just sits down and holds the baby that's a big stuff we speak about sound think it's big stuff but a person who works on themselves and starts getting themselves ready and grows who gains more prep is life life is prep the only way we're able to succeed in anything is if we go ahead and we prepare ourselves there are two things that a person will never to think this is that two things you should never worry about what you can fix and what you can fix but if you think about that in the case it's gonna be very hard we know there's a point of no return when a person starts to feel as though is getting upset or angry or anxious or jealous or whatever it is and it starts to build and it gets to a point where you start thinking yourself you know what I should really oh my god and then we go over that point I'm like I really shouldn't do what I'm about to do has anyone ever said that to themselves I really shouldn't one of you okay the rest of you don't say you just do it I really shouldn't do the truth is many of us don't even say it we just do it because we're not even thinking at all those who've worked on themselves get to the point where they realize they're about to do something they shouldn't do and they say I really shouldn't do what I'm about to do and about thirty seconds later they say I really shouldn't have done what I just did right because we go ahead and we fall we were there it's this cognitive dissonance where we understand but we falter when we break what have you grabbed it before what if you can go ahead and right before the point of no return right before that point to see there's some hold on hold on a second there are two things that a person should never worry about before you hit that point you're not in the state of anger the dead person in front of a vow you right before that point you're not feeling good you hate too much like ice you know what it's okay I could not eat next time this much I can go ahead and do something differently by the way I'm not even discuss this but how many times is it that the reality is the things that we're angry about other were anxious about other upset about or that we're scared of or whatever it is how many times does it actually come to fruition in other words more often than not the thing we're worried about doesn't happen and something else happens that you didn't have time to even worry about right we have things that happened to us I mean I take a look recently I was a little bit sick and and okay a lot and I was sick I had no idea I had no time for prep it was like I was fine and then within an hour I am I was in the hospital who's this thing out of nowhere was the out of nowhere with nothing like it was in illness but moving on but but what I'm saying is that I don't have to prep for that I worry about many other things and those are the things had nothing to do with me and then these things happens I was even ready for it so what are we worrying about this happens to be also a beautiful beautiful idea that Gemara brings Amazon hedging on page 100 be tough on my base if you have the arts girl 100 B to now it says the following statement the kumaras discussing something honest farmgate so neum finally tell you mean outside books outside books there is a prohibition for one to read outside books question is what are outside books what does that mean so just very loosely understood without going through the old Gemara it basically is generally understood to be books that are heretical books of heresy polytheistic let me make that clear for those are unfamiliar with the Asia terminology here that I'm used to using Fira things that are voters are ideas that are gonna take you away from the Ramona schlopp this is something which is you know how to do and if you do it's bad news you know how to be involved in Stoneham of course is what falls into that category the como discuss is that there's one book when it goes to the discussions called Ben Sira there's a fella named Ben zero so what a book lots of his story about that enough for now but Vince truth is it would be for now but I don't know the time to go into that but see what goes along any writes this book and and they say you know how to do that like Ben Sira said well why not what's the problem with reading Ben Sira is a lot of statements and anecdotes and ideas and the girl goes back and forth and explains you can't say this well why not this what's the problem that's the same part as a person can devour him you can't do this why that's like Shama Mellon says well I can't do this why that's like governor Melek says and it goes back and forth so finally it gives a reason why you can't read it or you shouldn't be reading it but then it goes through lines you are allowed to read ideas you're allowed to learn and I'll read to you the quote that he says the Gemara says quoting Ben Sira owl Tate's arts Aras Makar do not be worried or pained about the afflictions or pain of tomorrow kilo Tay da mile idiom you have no idea what the day is going to bring it gets more intense now scheme' Lamacq are a nano maybe tomorrow a nano what does that mean a nano says Rashi you'll be dead a nano we won't be there my show explains why is it speaking a third person because shouldn't be a god for a bit of curse venom some myths star our olam Shaina shallow and you find that you just were worried about a world that doesn't belong to you what are you worrying about you have no idea this is actually gonna come to fruition in the first place now I want to be clear because some people like to say like okay fine I'll just live my life and throw everything into and everything will be totally fine why don't I just throw my burden on God and he'll take care of me anyway punk and Taylor mashallah okay so are we taking that'll be very good to get the point like that but wouldn't mean just forget everything a person is a lot of plan nobody said you can't plan nobody said you can't live a life of working things through of how we should be doing certain things but where does the worry come in what are you worried about who knows what will be this morning at a conversation with my wife I said do you know where this particular file is she goes last time I saw it it was downstairs I said okay can you just could you get me the file because of course it's okay as my father's okay I said kids get me the file she says well what if it's not there I said if it's not there then we'll look somewhere else then we'll deal with it when it's not can we deal with it when we first let's see if it's there yeah she came back it was there so I said see how the phone she goes yeah I'm like well were you worried about you guys what are you talking about my career here we go now we're not even talk about anything right what happens is what are you worried about that maybe it's not going to come out and if I don't even those then you'll deal with it then you deal with it then but the bottom line is it's got to be prep this is why it's important now Laura it's what done that luck I believe it's found Simon rish Lamas it's not luck that a person should accustom themselves who say gamsu the Tova this too is for the best again not to someone god forbid who's who's dying I once heard of line I don't know where I heard it and I hope it's not the Ben Sira stuff you're not a lot of learn but but I once I once heard a line that when a person themselves is going through some sort of personal tragedy or suffering Emunah when somebody else is going through some sort of tragedy Fira what do i mean by that what I mean by that is you don't go to someone when you're suffering god forbid if someone is themselves that has suffered in the past or their suffering they have to save to understand that Munna Hashem knows it's past and we get it and there's a plan and comes a little calm at the top of it everything is good everything is one everything's great but if someone else is suffering we're meant to look at them in a way like there's no God in the world how could this be happening like as if I'm so sorry this is as crazy as if there is none the way we deal with somebody else to be for their right to really be there for them but for ourselves Turkish prep Gamla Tova I said to my son Thursday also Thursday was a big day Mona was Friday it's Friday it was Friday 11:15 it was at 11:15 a.m. it was 24 hours after the first story 11:15 how do I know cuz my wife is gonna pick up the kids at school and she's making cookies someone's had a baby Friday 11:15 my son decides to help so he is open to things up I said okay you know grab me the flour so he brings the flour and they said okay and these are all right when you say get the flour it must mean take everything else out also so he starts taking something else out and it takes out a half a bag of sugar we don't have half a bag of sugar there well now we do because the other half was there still in other words when he pulled it it got ripped on something and a half the bag just spilled out into this cabinet which if I get into you know whatever so I said he goes oh here's a sugar I said where's the rest of it you know where's the rest he goes I don't know you know and I was like oh okay gamsu boat over I think I was a little over and then I wonder I said this all the time I've seen my kids about this I wonder do you even know what it means I said to my son he's three I said I said Yona what is gum Zulu Tovah he said come over means ieave another way of saying it because when you grow up hearing it over and over someone bings are like gums of the Toba that must be all you pay I said that's what it means the next one up my daughter about that I think she got a little bit more she again we've been educate our children young and and and okie comes over is this thing which I like to speak about all the time I'd like to talk about I like to speak about its how loca I just kind of some of us even all of them I like to in theory so we go we say I'm Zulu tobik I'm Sula toe becomes left over so my daughter she'll come to me sometimes she like pings your like once I'm like oh no you mean you like she goes yeah but comes Lou Tova she was you know tapti even if I would have broke my leg comes Ulla Tova right I'm like what everything's good this - it's for the best right I said yeah we just hope that doesn't happen I brought her a watch recently home from the states is about a week ago and this week and I brought us this watch and she came home the day we gave her the watch and it's not on anymore she doesn't have it so I'm like where's your watch she goes I like where's where's the watch just cuz maybe it's in the car maybe it's in my maybe it's in my shirt you know she's like checking everywhere yeah she says she's little she's 21 and I'm kidding she's a little younger but she she goes head and she's looking she's looking I said okay like maybe you lost it she goes she goes yeah I guess um Tomsula Tova but Patti it comes a little taller but I'm sad I said yeah okay you know but is it good she goes I guess it's good can we get another one I said it's a good question but okay you gonna call me really sick but excuse me for the therapy I'm about the cause my daughter too but I said but what if there's no more in the world what if there are no more watches because there's no more watches I said I wasn't in it but what if there are none she said I guess gamma Zulu Tova but really are there no more I said I'm afraid there are no more I'm just kidding ever but I said yeah we can find it whatever that was she found it we got it find beautiful where was it in her bag okay but prep seeing it over and over getting into a mode or you're constantly on your mind that comes from what ultimately if you want to keep going in deeper deeper obviously it comes down to if you have that a shemin's the world and a chévre knows what's best and everything that's happening is for a reason everything is really good but then when somebody asks the question well what are you gonna say for a person who has a head and their spouse is is sick with a terminal illness or they're passed away you're gonna tell them also that answers of course I'm not gonna say that to them there's nothing to say to them of course I'm not gonna say that because they're in a very hard difficult stain so what would I say to them nothing what would I have said to them if I would have met them before it happened and prepare prep yourself prep yourself there was recently and biros I don't mean down the last week is about four months ago there was in the cosmos about Tommen but this is in Kozma and but it's with going this there was a fight in in the in the non-jewish world boxing fight and there's a fellow there who's pretty pretty decent fighter apparently in the world his name they call him I think I called the Mayflower his name is like Mayweather this guy Mayweather he's fought from a bunch of years his record is fifty and no he's never lost a fight he's never lost a fight he was 49 and oh he was retired but he came out of retirement to fight some other guy and Nebel he won but he only won four hundred million never okay I think he'll be okay and this guy never ever ever lost a fight does it mean he never lost a fight the answer is he never lost a professional boxing fight did he train though as he grew up did he train yes or no as of course he trained did he lose when he trained he lost over and over and over he got knocked out he got knocked I got knocked down but he got up again never gonna keep him down he kept getting up he got knocked down he got up he got not gonna get up of course we get knocked that over and over again but then when the fight starts he wins time and time again why prep he prepped himself there two things a person should never worry about he prepped himself over and over and over if I were to walk into the rink with this guy when I win of course that I get to maoist why cuz I never did anything a person who goes through a hard thing in life you go through a challenge in life are you gonna win the answer is of course not unless you prep what about of you prep will you win maybe if you prep hard enough definitely and when one goes through the hard times and they're going through the challenges you beat people like this sometimes you meet people that go through the challenges of challenges and you're like how are they so how are they able to handle this how are they able to do this it doesn't make any sense I don't even get it what's going on over here they are superhuman the answer is no they're not that the same as you the only difference is that when things were going well they prepped themselves to recognize God's hands in the world to see how wonderful shamanism what he does for us the miracles unbelievable over and over daily more than a knee lift or neck off and when they said modani they meant it and they paid attention they weren't drooling all over saying when I say money where am I but he said more dare mo Danny could walk in mo perineal of a mutiny rafinesque over Omega column man it's our loud there I feel about Marco Athena I'm okay I'm something which understood Coulomb understand that Hashem is there Lajo dosa Lala what are we doing Hanukkah we are motor and we sing praises we said sham yes thank you you're wonderful you're great are we saying hollow are we paying attention yeah can we get a man makes a car we do know what we're saying we're listening for the word pizza help ma'am it's our pay attention words over and over throughout Feliz we're thinking a sham or recognizing a sham but are we paying attention to it if we'd be paying attention to it you'd be totally fortified then no matter what comes your way by the way there's two things in life a person should never worry about and when the thing hits when you get in the rink and comes this guy against you or whatever the life is gonna throw at you you say to them there's two things in life you're never worried about because you've prepped it over and over again let's put this all together and off there's one point and then I got to get out of here here we go so something very silly put the story that happened was lately my wife of course in the SantaCon for the capture the two things I lifesaver worry about is what you can change what you can't change death is one idea to talk about and I do all the things about the results what's gonna happen over here and I was gonna put it all these are accurate in the weather all these things are true all these these are actually true we're say gonna be the bottom line is we'll put things you never worry about those of you chins which kid if you can change change it we can't catch any we're gonna do about it right the files that there is out there so then we'll check afterwards bottom line is work your life do what you got new people do what you gotta do is live your life it's gonna be good it's gonna be good okay sure wonderful someone goes out there angry calm down sir and ever thought about of course that's not gonna help but who is the presence up sighing OH what are you we crazy I'm never eating cake again okay today these are the high level intensity you score to prep yourself in law prep is everything purpose everything the Mitzvah about locust nails is beautiful wonderful but that wasn't their vote that they are voters October scenarios and that's preparing the nearest a getting them ready and every night we do that we prepare it and we prepare it and we're very and every week what do we do in an oven when your life schedules but a lot of times you have let's say your husband's will go ahead and prepare them beforehand right doesn't mean they're like ourselves not to miss it of course it is these you're all even though look this nervous is a mitzvah but the prep is where it's a peeps when the person is going to putting it into giving a concert where they're prepping and they're prepping they're prepping and Mayweather comes into the mayflower forget about it you cheat doesn't stand a chance you get up there and knock to think Oh before you even get off the feed Columbus wasn't Jewish another think you maybe was realize what's really happening over here is that that was life is coming along you do not prep you going down consulate over they know it's not I leave a gums old is this - it's for the best yes it's oh no become Zulu Tova there are no more watches in the world but realize that a person who starts to react to this concept realize the fact what do we say I'll take the charge muffler like we said the Gabara and 100 bre person shouldn't go ahead and be worried about tomorrow cousin you working with a well that doesn't belong to you who knows you're gonna be here who even knows you're gonna be here it's a beautiful poem that myself boosted just shared with me it's a poem that's found the ibanez I'm assuming Kaufman's beautiful Hvar ayan Hasid a dyin hochche of care if ayan M Cain dagger me nyan for those who don't speak Hebrew all I did was pause intermittently and say random words I will now translate the past is not here anymore the future is yet to come then now is the blink of an eye where does where he come from you gonna worry about the past it's gone what about the future it's not here yet you were now it's over it's over it's over it's over it's over if there was a recording I just II won it's over over over over over right and then what happens we could do it the video though we was it's always so what are we worried about and I'll end with this idea we'll end with this idea and when I say end I mean like the rabbi end you know rabbi say and we'll end with this I will end with this you should know they're not saying a and B they're not saying I will end ent they're saying a and D and they'll end and I'd like to share with you something and another thing so I will end with this and then end with something else at the end I want to share with you is rabbi Akiba everyb Akiva what a weird statement you'll be keepers dying he's literally literally dying not figuratively people here is going through pain how many people here have been raped their skin off to death anyone no okay dying he saying Shamar you say he's dying Shema I've gone maybe Akiva he's in a state of sim card he says to them what my life I've been waiting for I've been praying for what are they gonna rake my skin off as I'm dying one day every day he pictured herself when will I be able to live the coal National when will I be able to live giving over everything Tasha I got the hard thing call of Avoca cold Africa como death huh I got them cold love love car I got the concert Oh Peter I'm glad that I got back home or death car but with all my money all my means interesting at the end goes in order but Oliver local national home Odessa all of your heart all of your soul all of your money I think it's an order of challenges right God I'll give you my heart I'll give you my soul but don't touch my bank account right understand but he says I got it take my heart take my bank what am I gonna give you my soul and every time he said Shema he would envision himself giving himself to him I guess what had happened what happened he was that state of simcha you say that simcha he said we got it I've been waiting for this prep work track work prep work how much are we preparing the time to prepare is now not one God forbid we're in a challenge we should never know any challenges I mean we should be rich she never to challenges I mean she be rich I'm a Haitian me okay we're only challenges when I said unfortunately that's the way the world is and it's fortunate to a whole nother discussion which will probably never have but realize but when we go in we have when we dive in a sham please don't give me challenges but if I do give me the ability to overcome those challenges we see that every single morning but are we paying attention are we saying Madani and are we benching us and us all them cool orbit to the famous katyusha misguided Baraka McComas are we saying Java charcoal Rococo Marcel we paying attention to the words are we listening to what we're saying God willing with Hashem self only with Hashem self that's a truckie sorry I could say inshallah only with Hashem Salazar Shem will be able to slowly but surely start putting that into our lives slowly but surely edged away slowly would surely edge away at this lack of understanding of connection of commitment that Shem slowly but surely inculcate that into the way that we see there's so much more I want to say no but it's not fair because I'm already way over time but slowly but surely then God willing God willing it should never happen but you know there are two things a person should never worry about things that you can change and things that you can't change thank you very much every wonderful day you [Music]