Chanukah - Bringing Light into the Home

I was once asked why is it that religious Jewish families the divorce rate is even less than 10% what is the secret of the Jewish marriage so I told them that the secret of the Jewish marriage can be found in the myths and the commandment of Chanukah what is Hanukkah have to do with Jewish marriage Hanukkah is unique in that the Mitzvah of lighting the candles and Chanukah tonight emits fur and the individual but it's a mitzvah and the house tomorrow says near a shoe base of that the commandment is to light a candle in your house for the family while most mitzvahs are individual mistress a man puts on tefillin it's an individual myths or a woman prays it's an individual Mitzvah why is it the Chanukah is a mitzvah advanced to understand this we have to understand what is the concept of Nair the concept of lighting a candle so we have a Nair for Shabbos and the lighting of the candle on Shabbos is supposed to be an indication of Shalom dies of having tranquility and happiness in the house also the lighting of the candle and Chanukah teaches us how to have tranquillity and to have happiness in the house what is special about lighting a candle a candle has the wick which is physical and the flame which is spiritual the combination of spiritual and physical together that is a way of creating true happiness when you have balance the husband and the wife balance each other each with their own special characteristics harmony that they work together and tranquility that gives the special atmosphere which creates a feeling of unity and gives everybody in the house a happiness which they could not orderly not yet we have a custom in our family which is called Shemesh what is Shemesh mean Sheamus is Caesar respected sweet sita means a discussion which bhakti the family shavoo it every week every Saturday night after Shabbos with all the family together and they would discuss different things that they aren't interested in and we'd sing together this shemish this light which permeates the family gave this members the family a unity the person that represents this idea our own haquyen who was the priest in the bet HaMikdash he was the one that ran after making happiness making people feel united feel together and he is the one that lit the candles in the Potomac - so lighting candles and happiness and tranquility worked together since this is the basis of the Jewish home then the Jewish home exists and flourishes to this day