Believe in Your Children - Rabbi YY Jacobson

sometimes you have extraordinary parents and beautiful homes and beautiful families who do quote unquote everything right and yet the Apple Falls far from the tree and as one of the great rabbis said apples don't fall far from the tree when there's a regular weather Outdoors but when there's a thunderstorm then apples sometimes fall far from the tree so sometimes parents right away blame themselves you know it's our fault it's my fault maybe they're right maybe they're completely wrong that doesn't help to blame yourself it's very painful you need a good support system when you have such a child or such children you need to be vulnerable you need to learn to cry you need to learn to laugh and most importantly the marriage has to be strong because it's the marriage when there's a good powerful marriage that can carry a family and it can ultimately help that child and help the father and mother and the other siblings so I would always encourage you focus on your marriage and very often problems in the marriage subconsciously affect the children very deeply sometimes it's not a child issue it's a parent issue sometimes it's not so everything could look wonderful on the outside don't blame ask yourself what does Hashem want from me right now number two every has its Journey the says in B the Shah writes and many of the greatest cabalists and Mystics and rabbis write every Nish ultimately is a it's divine it's sacred so the question is not if they're going to come back in a way they're never separated there's nothing I can do to sever my the cord with my child so the relationship is always there and you have to believe in it believe in those children believe in their souls even if the journey is painful and difficult the yeshiva.net [Music]