Hechaltzu chptr 3a- Rebbe's answer to a flyer Abt Jews in Marin County, CA, Tznius at the Beach- RCD

So good today we're learning from we're at chapter 3 giml just to briefly recap from the kitser on we're using lessons in page 13 the rebba asked different questions some were technical grammatically on the verse for example why does the ta use the words instead of since it was only part of the people, a thousand per tribe that went to war. So the word is more appropriate than he and so too the word the word um uh he says the word mik instead of mis should have said mik any those were questions and other other so basically he wrapped up four to five questions and now he begins his treatise his explanation let's go pay the gim page 14 the general idea And this is the way my goes. There's like questions and then it goes into a concept. I think I told you once the real who were like big muskid when they would they would they would start with like who they wouldn't many times even because when the for example Rashab and early at times he wouldn't he would not start with all the para and the questions I don't you know I don't know if anyone knows when and when But he didn't know he was start explaining later when it came time to to write the mime and for writing you have to put it into an orderly fashion and all of that. So he add he he added a beginning and an end. Okay. So just again I'm not saying it was always that way. I'm not saying it was never that way but definitely sometimes. And I I know a particular who's very brightidis when he at his vart he started a mimer and and it was like it caught us all by a surprise. You know where's the beginning of the mimemer. So we found out quickly that he and his family were of those type that focused on the husk of and and the questions were like you know ancillary but truth be told that the ourb made a big to-do from from the the questions and theim and and he didn't let it just go by and you could take a look at many myim in which that till you get to the beer the spends significant time in explaining theim and the words and the the juxiposition and things like that clearly indicating that it's very very important. Okay. So the word is associated with the word which means strife and contention arguments. calling. This is the entire concept of the clip of Midos. It is the concept. It is the idea of separation and division. Each clip of Elville has its symbol. What what it come what it looks to do. For example, amus is suffic doubts apathy. Midun is not doubts and not apathy. Maybe by extension, but really what is midun? Midun is strife and contention, division, separateness. So when you when you deal, let's put it in our vernacular. When we deal with an issue of separateness and division, we're dealing with midyun. So for if you're in your sho if you're in shu and and and there's an issue going on that's of separateness and contention and argumentation and strife you don't say hey you're clipus malik that's wrong you're not clipik not that you are you're not displaying a behavior of amalik you're displaying a behavior of midun so be very clear okay not that most people know the difference they don't but um those that do and if you want to be intelligent say the right clipper that you're referring to. Anyway, going back to the text. So he says this is what Midian sought to bring to the Jewish people to separate them from themselves and from Hashem in various ways as we'll learn. Now here it here it is here he start he gets to kind of the crux of the mimemer albeit he'll explain at length later. This is the idea of baseless hatred and separation of hearts between people which is contrary completely from the side of holiness which is the side of holiness is so it's very clear you want to know when there's a if you want to know something is kadusha I'm sorry look for If you want to know if something's clipper in this sense, clip is mid look for strife and contention. You know, you don't we tend to build up buildings and and philosophies. He says it here in one line, even less than a line. Very simple mid is is miva separateness and contention arguments. And by the way, we don't mean arguments in you shot your shot. We're talking about ugly baseless dis disagreements that lead to baseless hatred and just you know um fighting and and and and and departing of the hearts etc etc all of that and kadusha is just the opposite. Let's continue inside. We find the level of top of page 15. And this is the entire idea of the unity of the name. This is where Hashem unites with his mid, his emotion, his attributes and his right is the first K is bina and then the is and the last k is. So we have the is the hashem when it says when it's talking about the the way the is in the world elo it says elo but then there is over there doesn't say because us is in the v ink that's why it says only I don't that's make that's my understanding based on different myimm I believe anyway although there are 10 emanations 10 three intellectual ones and seven emotional ones nevertheless They are united and inclusive incorp all together. That's the concept of the where there's total to total. So when someone says what's special about the shame compared to locu compared to kale compared to shalom compared to whatever the other names hashem is the answer is the concept of unity how hashem is united with every part of the world and every aspect of his of his of his of his emanations are one with god the godhead as we say the anov that's experienced in the now comes what's the opposite the opposite is of this kipa is just the opposite this kipa thrives on separation and divisiveness it gets a high. Did you ever see? Did you you you know there are people that get a high from being divisive? They feel great about it. Oh, I was able to bring a fight, you know, to stir the pot. Now, I want to want to be clear this stirring the pot at times it's justified and necessary. Otherwise, you're a docile uh sheep, okay? And someone has to get up and say it. If someone doesn't get up and say it, how how will you be informed? Right? But we're not talking about to create to do it in a way where it creates aus and you know enough said about that. I I don't want to elaborate. I don't want to get into politics and things like that. We're just talking about the concept. I want to continue inside please. So next page says coyious right he says I have everything why does he use the word coy lalut coy means co everything meaning in a way that is together we're all together in this we're not separate his co versus asov look further of moyers I have a multitude what's the difference between they both mean the same thing okay they both had lots of sheep and lots of possessions but but Jacob expressed themselves yes coy and asov the Russia says yes you got it says yes coy because aus unity of god includes includes everything. If someone's left out of the um of the equation, it's not coil everything. But then there is I have a lot. I have division. I have separation. You're this and you're that and you're this and you're that. You know, the Reba told me, I told you this once, but just briefly, the Reb told me in 1984 when I came to Marin County, California, and I saw a flyer that uh Rabbi, Rabbi Shyman of Chicago, which Misha knows, By Shyman, a good friend, he put out a flyer with his picture and alongside >> what? Yeah. And and and and he put a flyer and and and he said next to it, "I am not reform. I am not conservative. I am not orthodox. I am kabad. And then in smaller words, this is the philosophy a blah blah blah blah blah blah. I saw that I said this is the flyer I'm going to send out to,900 people on the Jewish Federation list that I got a hold of when I came to Marin. I had to introduce myself rightem. I got a list in those days. No computers. It was all, you know, mailings, mailings, mailings. But before I said and I printed up 5,000 uh of those flyers, it was actually cards. I made nice cards, not like large flyers. And this, you know, I said and I said that I'm here in the community to work with everyone and would love to know people. No, no, no. I sent it to the Reb before I did anything. After I printed it, I sent it to the Reb, my boss. And uh lo and behold, a a few hours, I I don't remember it was an hour or two or three, a four, very short time, Rabbi Klein or Rabbi Gron, one of the secretaries sends back uh calls me, I don't recall that either, an answer. Actually, it was in writing. The Reb has a remark on your flyer. I said, "What?" I just let him know that I put out this flyer to be mared. That's why I'm here. Otherwise, I'd be in 770 in Gran Heights Burough Park in Brooklyn. So, uh not that you can't do their last 29 years, I has shown otherwise. But in my youth, youth youth, it was like has to be outside of Betshallay, outside of Burough Park and Kanites, right? You can't do there. They're all fumies is in Marin County smoking dope and sitting in a hot tub and we'll leave it at that. Okay, that's where you do or on a college campus in Ann Arbor or Evston or Colombia, you know, that's where you mar was at Stanford with in in in in the late um 70s. Yeah, I was there Stanford helping Rabbi Darren, you know, arguing with the students. Is there God? Is there no God? form prove that that's real. But what are you going to go to a guy with a beard and yam and pay us a litfac or or a labure and say learn a little more a little more is come to faban is that real is but that's not true by the way that that was my naive and probably most uh new bakarim and newly married couples coming out of uh 770 you know you want to conquer the world you want to go to Cologne where where we're we're we're velvous and over there you want to build a big doesn't have 500 people and the Rebel tells me they say the Reb was there once. Now that's but come on in. So anyway, so I sent in this flyer to the Reb and the Reb answered me and basic basically said don't send it out. He basically said you're trying to say that Kabad is all about yet you say there's reform, conservative and orthodox and you're not that. So right away you're making a distinction between the three sensitivity. I mean today in my writing sometimes I have to use the word orthodox. Each time I use the word orthodox and I named one of my books has the name orthodox in it. I I feel so guilty. But because that's the world we live in that they relate to orthodox reform, you know, so I I have to bring them in. So I utilize that. But if if if I was able to, I would not cuz the Reba suggest told told me it's not he told someone else. He told me in writing that you know that's that's divisive. Okay. So when we say yes >> one second one second when we say yes it means to include everyone is making distinctions yes what do you want to say myers should say um with respect isn't it kind of semantics when you say we're not reformed a conservative orthodox we're kabad but people understand kabat is an orthodox based organization right >> absolutely absolutely but but But but but but Moshe and Debb wrote to me in that answer if I have to talk if I have to you know address it it's enough to address it speaking the the you know I I showed this answer to three people to Manis Friedman to Abu Khan to label Groner because I I could not relate to it because in Marin County we we had you know um deer uh dope smoking people and uh and uh and uh what's it called? Jim, not Jim Joe know the guy from from the Manora, you know, Billy Bill Graham. Bill Graham lived in Corner Madera. He built the first Monera. He paid for it at San Francisco at the Union Square Union Station Square, you know. I mean, I didn't have a Snagdom. I didn't have Lynf Fox. I didn't if I had three or four or five Orthodox people from people I was lucky in all of Marin County. Okay, I'm talking about full shabas. We built it up. So what's the Reb what's the Reb concerned? And none of them and these were three you know you know who the people are you've heard about them you've read their works very they they couldn't answer it they said we don't know but it seems like the still oh and the wrote to me I'm reminding myself more details what he wrote to me is sir he wrote to me why do you want to a awaken the old argument that's what threw me for a loop the old argument he's speaking about the time who's from it that even knows about that that That's what threw us all off. That's why and they they didn't know what to make of this answer that I got because you know when you're in Brooklyn when you're I can understand you know there are different pe people worshiping Hashem in different ways other so why why bring it up you know but not a marine county but that's what he told me. Yes. Yes sir. Look what I heard from earlier in my life with my exposure to was that there are no labels. The only label is Jew. There's not conservative. There's not reform. There's not orthodox. There's not terms. It's a Jew. >> So that's that's that's what >> that's what the flyer said. It said also I forgot. I am a Jew and a Jew. It said that. But but but but the the Reba focused on those first words. I am not reformed. I'm not conservative. In other words, and he's saying, I'm giving credence to three different divisions. I'm a reformed Jew. No, you're not. You're a Jew. You happen to pray and worship in a building that's been called by a movement reformed. So conservative and so too Orthodox. Listen, this, you know, it didn't come from me. It came to the Reb. Take it as you wish. I'm sharing with you a one I don't believe anyone else got such an answer as far as I know. It was a unique um revelation and you know that I married it to and that the Reb shared and I I publicized it. They have a book of of of answers that got. It's about 800 pages and they called me and they asked me to give them whatever answers I got and I I I gave them this answer too, you know. Um so anyway, but I want to go back to the text. That's the only reason I bought it because yes, there's a difference between yes coy and yes rav is accepting the differences. That's divisive. Coyle is including the difference to be no longer differences. So in other words, maybe we could say this way is regarding your remark emphasizes I am a Jew. I am a Jew. There's no labels. Yes emphasizes there's reformed conservative and orthodox but they're all together anyway just possibly let's go back to the text and I just want to say and if you knew that he lived that way I saw this this wasn't just this wasn't just hearsay he really you know so many different kinds of people from aikurim to apostates to Jews for yoshka to the most fum fanatical, you know, uh, the Torah cartonic, but they all came. They all met him, right? How was he able to like deal with everybody and stay cool and calm and because he he lived a yes life and it's not just in lab, but we could do the same thing. And if I may say so, I feel that many times, not always, but many times I I I'm able to do this. I go into uh divisions to shul down in the bet over there by you guys and I'm as though I'm doing a bor park in the shabash, you know, I can go into satar. I've been into satar. I've been to the tur carta and I've been you know I don't go into you know not fruls and all that but still you know if if you are a if you live coyo or you're trying to live coyo then you know we're again we're not let go you're not allowed to go you know I told you this many times to stand on Venice beach with fill in uh or for Fort Lauderdale here you know at the beach Um, only Ash Schwarz can do that. God bless his soul. But most people can't do that. Myself included. You know, it's just it's a very hard avoid. You know, you want to put on filmy when all you have. And I told you I was down in Tel Aviv over there in um went to see and film where the previous stayed in 1929. Today it's a midra of and there's an ice cream store where you know where I you know in the building and I was taking some film and all of a sudden there were these uh women girls that were very preachic you know it's a peach and I had to shut the film and erase it it so so there are certain situations where you're not you shouldn't be there you know what are you going to walk around with blinders I mean it's not a joke it's not a It's not appropriate. But but at the same time, at the same time, there's plenty of places where you could be and you should be to to bring the dvarashem there. And in a way, that's coy. And by the way, I'm not saying that those women that were improperly dressed shouldn't be part of coy. They should be, but you shouldn't be standing on the beach. You have to get to them another way. like they make they coming to my daughter's son-in-laws is simpem coming in right and also you think that is there is 100% it's so it's not 100% and it's very hard for me when when I'm there you know it's it's very hard I mean there's a proper and everything but then there's the kdish and people are chatting and people are standing and and and unfortunately some people are not dressed you know sneez so it's it's an so this is You should know that I I believe that every if not every most and and don't want to be in those situations. Trust me, they'd rather be remind you these stories one in Marin County. I took out the Tyras and then I walk with the Tyra to the women's side that all the women can kiss the Tyra from their side. And of course, we lower the curtains cuz that's the way it's done. also in in in the in Brooklyn and they could see what's going on. You know, I'm not saying in every shoe they'll do that, but and a woman I remember her last name, Pastor Neck. I remember she was from Hawaii. She she was not not but she lived in Hawaii and she was a loose cannon in a sense that she was very very lively and she wanted to dance with me. So I'm bringing the Tyra to her to kiss the Tyra and she wants to start dancing with me. I said stay where you are. Don't move. You're not coming into the men's side to dance with me. It ain't happening. But just rabbi. It's Torah. The Torah. I want to dance with the Torah. And you have the Torah. I want to dance with you. I said you're not dancing with me. Just stay put, please. A good lady. You know this was Maring County. >> It came from a holy place. >> Right. Right. It did come from a holy place. I I believe that's em. But nevertheless, you got to put a border. You this you can't this you can't do. I'm not going to do. I mean I don't want to go into many of these details but Schllay Schwarz told me of blessed memory that another famous Schllaymer who he was close with said to him Schllayala he said just one hug just one kiss and Schllay said no said no till here at Vul In the name of Kiru, the hug and kiss stays there, not here. You understand? That's why he was ach and not the other one. The other one did tremendous things and I'm not you know but the lab from that period and that mindset knows and believe me I was at Schwarzy's poor parties at UCLA. It was wild. It was wild. Okay. But you don't touch me and you don't involve me. And I know I have a wife. I have kids. I have a reba. I have a community. I know really what I am. All of this is to bring you all together. So, you know, and I think it's very very important to know that distinction. Okay, let me just see if I going to finish here. Um, so the Reb says the reason why by it says because the word implies multitude, multiplicity, separateness, and divisiveness. Conversely, Jacob had 70 souls, 70 people in his family, right? As it says in in the Tyra, right? Why does it say would be more correct? Yes, sir. It doesn't say. It says it's singular because it's the concept that we mentioned earlier when on the side of kadusha when it's at a holy holy level even though there are 10us comprised of three intellectual ones seven emotional ones nevertheless it's all one That's why it says 70 souls came from his family. It's seven emotions. Each one has included in it 10 has brought in the cab. 10 * 70 is 70. 10 * 7 is 70. The point being that that's why the says not plural. Yakov went down to Mitsay with 70 souls with a s at the end but 70 soul nephesh grammatically it's not right but Hashem writes that in the why because who is who we talking about and yakov takes of the 70 and makes them one coy he takes all the differences and brings them together. We'll stop here. We'll continue with Shabas. The Shabas is the 11th month. I've been saying Kadesh for 11 months for Dr. Jim Lavine. His name was Team Shiman Beniml. He was a congregate of mine in Marin County. He was he became the chief of pediatrics at Kaiser Permanente in Marin County. And uh I had a a very nice relationship with him. And u so um should have an aliyah and um we should all have on a good chabas. Byebye. Good. Byebye.