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>> Good morning everybody. Welcome. Thank
you for gracing us.
Today's class is dedicated in loving
memory
of Ellie Ben Farida.
A true of somebody who pursued kindness
and love and generosity especially for
our people, our brothers and sisters in
the holy land. dedicated in his loving
memory by Danil and Dina Hamu from St.
Paul Brazil
and may his soul and love always be a
source of empowerment, blessing and
inspiration for you and the entire
Jewish people with abundance of
blessings. Thank you very much. Today's
class is also dedicated in honor of the
birthday of Esther Lea Moscowitz Maztov
sitting right here gracing us in the
class wishing her a year of good health,
joy, many many blessings.
and all of abundance in the most
revealed and beautiful way. Happy
birthday.
Today's class is also dedicated in
loving memory. Leonish chevah basis of
blessed memory in honor of her yard
today the 22nd day of tamos dedicated
with eternal love by her son of an his
family
and it should be a source of all the
blessings for you and your family and
your loved ones.
Thank you very very much. One of the
challenges
in life or I should say one of the
opportunities in life is flexing the
muscle of
experiencing everything that has
happened to us with us connected to us
in our life and yet learning from them
rather than getting stuck by them. We
have a cellular memory of almost not
almost of every single experience from
the moment of conception.
And uh how does one move on? How does
one move on without stepping away in the
sense of I'm naive. I don't remember
anything. But how does one in a very
integrated and conscious and loving and
healthy way have the courage to be able
to learn from the past but not remain
stuck there practically, emotionally,
psychologically and spiritually.
The Tyra, as you know, we always talk
about the fact is the blueprint that the
creator has given the Jewish people and
humanity
to navigate the voyage of life.
Everybody remembers the days before
Google maps and GPS when you were going
with your husband somewhere and he did
not ask for directions, you remember?
And he got lost cuz he knew better than
everybody else. And you had to stop in
one gas station, a second gas station.
Nobody will realize how much Salbayas
ways and Google maps have created. The
problem is those who don't even listen
to directions when somebody is telling
it to them in the car because it's a
woman's voice telling him what to do and
he has enough listening to one he
doesn't want to hear another one.
In life we have a GPS called God's
positioning system. The voyage of life
is complex winding roads. We can end up
in traffic jams. We can get lost. We can
end up in a ditch
or we can simply go in the opposite
direction. So the real function of Tyra
is to be a blueprint. It says in Z that
the word
comes from the word like a mor is a
teacher an instructor. The job of a
teacher is not to give in not only to
give information especially in today's
day information is available. It's to
guide. It's to mentor. It's to become a
trusting voice and presence. Tyra is not
a book of laws only. It has laws of
course. It has history. It has stories.
But it's a blueprint. It's a guide.
The word means instruction, lessons.
That means any story in Tyra or any
mitzvah in Tyra if you don't see in it a
lesson for your life we are not touching
the core texture of that message because
if it was just here for history there's
so much that was deleted if it was just
here for laws so many laws are cryptic
and some are not included certainly not
explicit the real genre of Tyra is
there's history there's laws there's
stories there's mitzvah
there's speeches there's presentation
ations. There's all types of events, but
everything is
it's a lesson. It's a blueprint for
life. And today we'll see how one story
in Paris Matis
literally a few words that are inserted
that don't belong there or something
very strange open us up to a grand
subplot that it's conveying to us in a
very very profound way with tremendous
implications and applications for
everybody's own journey in life both as
individuals
each one of us individually and as a
collective unit as part of families,
communities and of course as part of a
nation and as part of a world.
The context of the story is known it's
midbay which means numbers chapter 22
parishious matis
and the background of the story is that
the Jewish people are now at the cusp of
the holy land. It's been a long journey
as they say 40 years in the wilderness
and now it's ending.
This is the last months of their time in
the wilderness. The Tyra now is
finishing up the last stories and then
next week already we start
which is simply a speech. The last final
will and testament of Mishenu that he
presented over the last five weeks of
his life. That is Mosha speaks over five
weeks. The last five weeks of his life.
A month later they will enter into the
land under the leadership of Joshua
Yahua.
One of the last stories when they are
already at the border, when they're
already close to the edge and they're
about to go into the holy land is a
sudden shift of plans. That's not
expected. What happens is two tribes
come to Mosha and they say, "We have a
dream.
We have a dream. I have a dream and our
dream is we would like to
settle what we call today Trans Jordan.
What's Trans Jordan? If you're familiar
with a little bit with the geography of
the Holy Land, you have the Jordan
River. It's called Yard.
You have the eastern side of the Jordan,
which today is known as Jordan, the
country of Jordan. That's on the eastern
side of the Jordan. It's called Aarin
Misra. That's Trans Jordan. And then you
have the western side of the Jordan.
Some people might call it the west bank,
the west of my west of the Jordan where
you have the cities of Urik and so on
and so forth where the Jews would enter
into it is through the Jordan. Two
tribes come and say we don't want to
cross the Jordan. We would like to
settle in the east Jordan which there
was a lot of territory after the wars
that the Jews fought against and who
came to attack the Jewish people and try
to annihilate them and in a defensive
war they were victorious. There was a
lot of territory. We would like to stick
it out here. Mosha's response is to put
it mildly very unfavorably.
It's the longest and one of the most
scathing
presentations in the Tyra. Let's see the
story inside. I'm going to read it fast
and translate of course because I want
you to hear the language and then we're
going to focus on one detail which
becomes very very enigmatic. Okay. Now
it's going to be your job to figure out
something that it's a serious class.
What do you think? Think you graduated
by that's it. It's over. Education stops
when you're 18. Doesn't work that way.
I want you to listen to the story and
you'll see hopefully
something that is strange. Something is
weird. Something happens that doesn't
belong to something happens
does something that's not expected at
the end of the story. We'll get to it at
the end. So let's see.
This is the context of the story.
There's two tribes. The children of Ru
and the children of God, they have a
tremendous amount of Mikna. Mikna means
cattle, flock. They have an enormous
abundance of whether it's sheep, goats,
oxen, livestock,
which means very very potent, a very
strong army of livestock.
And they observe the terrain, the land
that's called Yaz, the land that's
called Gilot. It's amazing for pasture.
It's amazing to graze animals there for
animals to graze there and live.
So the children of Ruven come to Mosha
to Alazar Aaron's son Aaron already has
passed on. So this is his son and to the
leaders of the community and they say
all these territories names of
territories
This land is a perfect terrain for
cattle and we have so much. We have so
much cattle.
If we found grace in your eyes,
give us this territory as an
inheritance. Let us settle here on the
eastern side of the Jordan. Do not have
us cross the Jordan River to the western
side where you don't have the same
conditions for raising so much flock in
abundance and fertility and prosperity.
That's the request. Very simple request
responds
unforgettable words. Will your brothers
go to war and you will just sit here
apathetic?
And why will you dissuade
discourage the heart of the children of
Israel from crossing the Jordan to the
land that God has given them?
This is exactly what your fathers did
when I sent them 40 years ago to go
scout the land.
They came till the valley of Eshko. They
saw the land. They came back and they
dissuaded the heart of the Jewish people
from coming into the land. They depleted
them. They discouraged them. And they
made them feel that this is a horrible
idea. And what happened?
God was angry and he made an oath.
If anybody over 20 will actually see the
land besides and Yeshua, the only two
spies who did not go do do this do this
act that the other spies did. And Mosher
Rabenu continues to describe what
happened. And then he continues the last
two verses.
And now you a new generation are
following in their footsteps. You have
risen under your fathers creating a
culture of transgression
so that this wrath should be should be
wrought upon us again
of turning away from God.
And again he will be again he will add
more time to stay in the desert
wreaking havoc and destruction on this
entire people. Sou
says to them first of all your brothers
are going to war you're going to be
here. Second of all this is literally a
repeat of what happened 40 years ago in
the desert. And we know that 40 years
later we're still here because of those
people and you're literally doing the
same thing. Everybody's going to hear
about it and the message is somehow
that's a cursed country. It's a
dangerous country. It's a catastrophic
place. Let us all stay here. Let us
follow your example. And now will be in
the desert who knows how long this time.
This is quite a speech forenu. They
don't walk away.
They don't even stay in one place.
They approach him and they say to him
love. Now they've been talking to them.
They approach and they say,
"We're gonna build pens for our flock
and cities for our children.
And we will march ahead of the Jewish
people armed
until they each reach their destination.
We will go before them and fight their
battles until they reach their
destination.
We will not return home until the last
Jew will not receive his or her
inheritance init.
So this is their condition. You're
telling us that we're not going to war.
We're apathetic. You're telling us we're
like the spies. They say that's not the
case. We're going to war. We're going
with them. We're going to fight with
them. WE'RE GOING TO GO BEFORE THEM. We
will actually add
encouragement. We will be the mo the we
will be the warriors who will march
ahead of them. We'll actually increase
their motivation. We're going to help
them out. We're not just going to be one
of them.
It's ahead.
And then when they are successful, then
we're going to go back. Our children are
going to remain here obviously with the
proper protection.
Vayen and Mosher Rabenu listens to this
and he acquiesces. He says you're fine.
If this is the what you're going to do,
it's fine. And the Torah concludes the
story.
Misha bequeaths, he gives to the
children of God, to the children of half
of the tribe of Manasha, the son of
Ysef, the kingdom of Sikh and the king
of Amayi, who has been annihilated in
his war against the Jewish people. the
kingdom of the king of Bashan, the
entire country, all the cities over
there in the borders, he gives it to
them to inherit based on this condition.
And indeed, he explains what happened to
the rest of the Jews. And as we learn in
that when you get into they fulfilled
their promise exactly as they told
Mabenu and this is how history worked
out. Okay? Do you see a stark difference
between what they requested and what
Mosher Rabenu did? Does anybody notice
anything?
They requested something and then what
Mosher Rabenu did.
Quite a stark difference.
Anybody noticed anything?
I'm sorry. What? No. He gave them the
places they wanted. He didn't give them
different. He gave them the places they
wanted.
>> Yeah. What? What did he add?
>> Yeah. Very good. Very good. Who came to
him with the request?
Two tribes. Remember there's 12 tribes
of Israel.
And two tribes came to him. God and they
had a lot of cattle and they wanted this
place. And that's what it says.
They came and they approached Mosha and
he responded to who?
So this is a conversation between Moshe
and two tribes. In reality when he gives
them the land something happens you see
manasha half of manasha what they
never asked for it.
And it's interesting if you want to give
it to Shay Manasha for whatever reason
why you splitting them up. Benet Gi
didn't split up. Benet Ruveni didn't
split up. They're the ones who initiated
it. They got it. Manasha never asked for
it and Manasha ends up going to a place
that they didn't ask for and getting
split up and the just doesn't say any
word here like what happened? They
didn't want it. They didn't ask for it
and Mosha just did it and it's only half
of them. That is the one of the enigmas
in this story. The Torah does not make
reference to it in the sense of
explaining what happened in the language
of Gmorash.
Who ever mentioned his name? He's not
part of the story. Where did he come in
here?
Now some of the Ramban others I mean
everybody asked this question. Some say
it was such a big territory, such a
large territory. He realized we need
more people.
Okay.
So what happened is it that he said
anybody else is interested that's what
some suggest and then some people of
manasha SAID OKAY LOOKS GOOD you know
taxes
tuition will be cheaper the mortgages
will be cheaper you know when new
communities go to a new place you can
buy a house instead of for a million and
a half you can buy a house for $220,000
with a garden with two pools with a
tennis court yeah with a stable for your
horses with a pen for your sheep with a
coupe for your chickens like my in the
1960s, right?
Yeah.
>> Right. Very good.
Very good. That's question number two.
Bye. At this point, if you don't know
where who is the father of theatim, so
you got to start over with batious
again. It doesn't say ben
ben lea ben lea,
right? Ben God, Benzilpa
or Ben Yakov.
When it comes to Manasha, suddenly Ben
Ysef, by the way, the tribe of Manasha
came from Ysef. Yeah. If you learn, you
know that Ysef had two sons, Manasha and
Ephraim. But these two words, Ben Ysef,
your second question, your question, Ben
Ysef, captures the riddle. You know,
there's always uh they haved in the
mall, Palisades Mall, something called
an escape room. You ever take your
grandkids there? It's a lot of fun. I
went there with my kids one day. You
have to figure out, you're like the FBI
and they give you a few codes and you
have to break a mystery and you have to
figure it out. So the is filled with
these things. And whenever you see an
interesting name, an interesting word,
that's usually the key that will open
the safe, which will bring you to
another key, which will bring you to
another riddle, which will bring you to
another safe. And at some point you like
wow and you go layer layer layer upon
layer. The two words here is manasha ben
yo manasha the son of ysef even though
we all know who manh is and why didn't
you say by the other tribes who their
father was and the answer is not
necessary. We know that god's father was
yakov and we know that ruin's father was
and if you don't know that then we have
a bigger problem than that at this point
but manash it says ben.
So that's the question, right?
Right. Good question.
>> Yeah.
>> And you see, Mosher Rabenu didn't get
upset at them.
>> He got upset at them because they're not
going to war. And he got upset at them
because they are creating panic
>> and depression and anxiety in the Jewish
people. They're draining their energy.
That's what he was upset about. Once
that was dealt with, Mosher Rabenu said,
"I'm fine with it." and he gave it to
them and that's where they settled. And
not only that, he adds
a whole other section of the Jewish
people that didn't even ask for it. So
there was not even a necessity, wasn't
even fulfilling their requests, at least
according to the plain reading of the
verse.
All of this,
I want to point out one more thing. I
underlined it. I made it bold.
You see,
it's the fourth paragraph from the top.
What does love mean? Gasha, they
approached. They approached him and they
said, "One second, they're talking to
him the whole time." If we're in the
middle of a conversation, you're talking
to me, I'm talking to you, you're
talking to me, I'm talking to you. You
ask a question, I answer. I ask, you
answer. And then the middle of say I
approached you. I didn't approach you.
Where? In the beginning, you could say,
"I approached you to talk to you." But
here, they're having a conversation. In
the beginning, it doesn't say they
approached him. In the beginning it says
they came and they told Mosha vayu which
makes sense they came to Moshe wherever
he was and they said we got to talk and
Mosha said yeah what do you need you
want an ice coffee
and they said no we want to settle here
we don't want to cross the Jordan great
now responds
responds in a very very powerful way I
would expect they should say and they
said they answered
of they approached him. That means they
came close to him. They came even
closer. That's very interesting. In the
middle of a conversation, what is even
if it happened, let's say they moved a
little closer. Okay, it happens
sometimes. You get a little closer. But
the TA mentions that in the middle of
the conversation, that's always a clue
in the blueprint of Yiddish, in the
blueprint of Tyra, how we are to
understand this.
And the truth is that all these little
clues
open up a vista to a deeper
understanding of this entire story
beyond the literal reading and meaning
of it which is of course the basic meat
and potato of the story. It also alludes
to another dimension of the story that
is often with the Tyra is not stated
explicitly, but it becomes a subplot
that you discover when you look at the
words, when you study the context and
you see the particular expressions of
the narrative that the terra employs
that opens us up to this experience.
And here we always have to ask a
question. Do we remember a similar
story? Of course, not the same story,
but a story that has a similar what you
would call light motive.
When did you hear that word last?
>> Huh?
>> What? What? Say
what? What are you What are you What are
you What are you referring to that What
happened?
>> Well, before they reunited, what what
what is it reminding you of?
Yeah. Very good.
>> Very good. Yeah. So let's get into it
and let's see because this is quite uh
fascinating and deeply deeply both
troubling and meaningful both and
teaches us a lot about transformation
of pain and tells teaches us about our
own lives for the past for the present
and for the future especially when it
comes to people who are close to us
and I want to thank a I have a I have a
friend Rabbi a David Foreman from Olive
Beta. I met him first in Lori and Sammy
Freedelland's home a number of years ago
and in his website Alveta has a
beautiful shir on this. One of his
students has a beautiful sh and this
Rabbi Sber which I listened to and I
really enjoyed very much and I'm taking
some ideas from there and adding some
other ideas. But I wanted to acknowledge
that
this conversation.
The first thing he tells them is
you cannot do this to your brothers.
That's not what brothers do to each
other. If your brother goes to war, you
shouldn't be sitting on the couch and
sipping your iced coffee with apathy,
with indifference. We're part of a unit.
We share responsibility.
That's the first thing. You can't just
sit here grazing your sheep in comfort
and prosperity. Are you really going to
leave the other 10 tribes to fight their
own fight? That's a betrayal. That's
number one. Then he goes on to express
another form of betrayal. One form of
betrayal is they're going into such a
difficult situation and you're
completely detaching. That's number one.
Number two, he says, what you're also
doing is you're changing, you may change
the fate of the people. This is what
your fathers did. This is what your
parents did 40 years ago with the sin of
the spies about to enter the land. A
group of people also small group 10
people came back and everybody followed
their lead. They went into mass hysteria
and panic. They decided they're not
going. And that's what says to them that
you are now a new culture.
You rising up a new culture creating a
similar calamity today.
That's the second fear of Mosher Rabeno.
And that's when they come in and they
say, "No, no, no, no, no. We are not
sherking responsibility. We're not
apathetic. We're not indifferent. We're
not grazing our sheep while our brothers
go to war. And we're not discouraging
them from entering into the land. On the
contrary, we will fight side by side. In
fact, we will fight go as a vanguard in
front of them." Beautiful. When we
listen to this conversation,
what does it take us back to? There's
one more major story in the Torah, not
with so many people involved, but it
touches on this theme. The theme of
brothers betraying brothers.
I send my brother to war and I'm like,
"It's your problem. It's not my
problem." And of course, as you said,
it's the story of Ysef and his brothers.
Let's remember the story. And of course,
as always, that story also involves
sheep and cattle,
right? So, if you take a look in the
next source of your source sheet, what
do you have? We go back to bacious
lammed Zion.
We're now in Numbers 22. We go back to
Genesis 37.
Your brothers are shephering their flock
in OR MY FLOCK.
I want to send you to them.
Go check out.
I'm here. I'm ready.
Go see the peace of your brothers. In
other words, go seek the welfare of your
brothers. I want the family connected.
I want to know how the flock are doing.
A LOT OF FLOCK OUT THERE. I want to know
how they're doing.
And give me back an answer. Come back
and give me a report. I want to know how
your brothers are doing. I want to know
how the sheep are doing. And he sends
him from the valley of
And that's when Ysef comes to
and we all know the continuation of the
story. As the brothers see Ysef
approaching, they conspired against him.
He balakom's bar the dreamer is coming.
Let's kill him and throw him into one of
the sistns and we'll tell our father
that a wild beast has mowled him. But
then with the suggestion of Ruven, what
happens? Instead of murdering him, they
decide on a different course of action.
What is the different course of action?
Take a look again in the sources.
speaks to them and he says,
"Do not kill him. Do not pour his
bloodbar.
Throw him into this in the midbar."
Which words are extra here in his
sentence.
Right? What is he trying to give them? A
map.
We all know it's a desert. If it's a
desert, they knew it's a desert. throw
him into this in the midbar,
but do not directly
perpetrate harm against him. Don't take
your hand and kill him.
Love if his real intention was to save
him and bring him back to his father by
delaying and by delaying and not
allowing the murder and he'll be in the
sister. So this is Ruven's suggestion.
Throw him into the pit in the desert and
we'll leave him there. And they say, you
know what, we won't kill him. He'll stay
in the desert. Of course, Ruven has an
agenda here. We all know what happens.
Ysef was sold as a slave and he ended up
in Egypt. But 20 years pass and the
brothers are forced to come down to
Egypt because of a devastating famine.
Nobody has food. Nobody can survive. Not
they, not their children, not their
families, not their animals. By this
time, Ysef is the prime minister of
Egypt. Pare has appointed him as voice
row. He is in a position of power and he
meets his brothers. They rec, they don't
recognize him. He recognizes them.
They go, they take the food, they go
back. He asks them if they want to come
back a second time, they need to bring
Binyammon, his baby brother, his only
brother who was a full brother from his
mother Ra. And we know the end of that
story back in Parish Mikates
where Binyammen comes. Ysef has the
person in charge of his home hide his
silver ga, his goblet in the sack of
Binyammen without anybody knowing. And
once they are on the way back to the
holy land with their food, Ysef's
officer, the one in charge on his home,
his CEO, so to speak, pursues them. And
what happens? He says, "Why did you
steal the prime minister's goblet?" They
deny it. Of course, we did not. And
that's when this man asks them each to
open their sack.
And they search and they find that in
Binyam sack you have the silver goblet
of Ysef.
And what happens at this moment? Look at
the second to the last source. Beracious
Mdalid
Ysef's man searched.
He started with the oldest son. He ended
up with the youngest.
They found the goblet in the sack of
they all tore their clothes as a sign of
grief, of mourning.
They each went on their donkey and they
go back to Egypt. They can't go back
home anymore. The thief was just caught.
When they come to Ysef, he says, "Why
did you do this? Why did you steal my
goblet?" And then Ysef says, "The one
who stole it will remain my slave.
Shalom
and you go back to your father. In other
words, 10 of you can go back home with
your food. One, the thief, the guy of
Binyam, he stays here. This is how Paras
Mikates ends.
That's the moment Binyammen is about to
be taken into captivity.
In other words, the second brother is
now about to be abandoned. Ysef was
abandoned 20 years earlier. He was
thrown into a pit and then sold as the
brothers went home. And now they're not
doing it. The prime minister is doing
it, but they're about to lose the second
brother. What happens the next moment?
The next parish, how does it begin?
After Mikates, you remember
a love Yehuda.
One second. Ysef was talking to the
brothers.
So why did Yehuda have to approach him?
They were in a conversation, right?
Yehuda. Yehuda approaches him. What does
this mean? He approaches him. He steps
up. He gets closer. He looks him into
his eyes. And what does he tell him at
that moment? He says, "I cannot do this
to my father. I cannot do this. My
father suffered enough.
He's lost his He's lost one boy. If I
come back now without Binyam,
Their
souls are intertwined.
How can I come back to my father without
his child? Their souls are
interconnected. When he sees us without
he will never survive this. So what do
you want? What's his proposition? His
proposition is I will be your slave.
I'm older. I'm stronger. I'm more
efficient. let me be the slave instead
of Binyam and let him go back to his
father. That was Yehuda's proposal. At
that moment, what happens?
Ysef can't play the game anymore. Ysef
removes the mask. He looks at his
brothers and he says,
"I am Ysef. Is my father still alive?"
And they can't answer. They can't
answer. And what does Ysef tell them?
get closer to me.
Get closer to me. And they get closer to
him and he says, "I am the boy who you
sold
to the Egyptians."
So that's the moment when Yehuda says,
"I will take responsibility and become a
slave." That turns everything around and
the relations between Ysef and his
brothers begins to heal. The profound
rift and rupture created in the family
begins to be mended.
Now hundreds of years pass we come to
paras matis a very similar theme is
developing
like y's brothers the children of god
and ruven what are they occupied with
their sheep.
Yseph's brothers were busy with their
sheep. Yakov said that to them they're
shephering. They have a lot of sheep
are not busy with their sheep.
Mosha tells them that if they stay on
the eastern side of the river, they will
be betraying their brothers. They too
will be abandoning their brothers.
It's interesting if you look at Mosha's
words to them. I want you to look at
Mosha's words to them. I underlined this
is the third paragraph. I put the four
words in bold. You see he says if you do
this
very interesting word what does this
remind you of
means he will add again to put them
what's what's Mosha saying like
everything in there's many layers this
is the name of
we hear's name AS IF MOSHA IS saying
this is the spies all over again but you
know what else It's Ysef all over again.
Midbar. Which midbar? You remember WHAT
RUIN SAID? PUT HIM IN THE BAR IN THE
MIDBAR.
YSEF WAS LEFT STRANDED IN A DESERT. THE
SPIES KEPT US STRANDED IN A DESERT. AND
YOU ARE GOING TO DO THIS AGAIN. THIS
TIME IT'S NOT GOING TO BE one person.
It's going to be the entire nation
stranded in a desert. The same midbar,
that pit that Ruven spoke about. And you
know how it's going to end.
You're abandoning your brothers in a
desert. Just as Ysef was abandoned in
the desert just as then they didn't feel
responsible for him. You also don't feel
responsible. Your brothers are AT WAR.
WHAT DO I CARE? IT'S NOT our problem.
And just as then they left them in a
desert. You might also cause them all to
be left in the desert.
What happens next?
A love. If you see love, what's this?
They're middle of a conversation.
It's the love of Yehuda. It's not
physically. Of course, they were talking
to him. Vayiku love means this was a
conversation where you approach somebody
else. You see, there's a conversation
that's about checks and balances. I come
to you and I say something, you know,
I'm working for you. This is what I
want. And you say, you can't do this.
The whole office is going to be
destroyed.
and we make a deal, we make a condition,
we sign a contract. That's one way of
negotiating. But there's another way of
negotiating. The other way of
negotiating is you could call it the
masculine way of negotiating and the
feminine way of negotiating.
This doesn't mean that all women do it
one way and all men do it one way.
Sometimes it's the opposite, but I'm
talking in the in the energy of it.
Vikue love means I come close to you
mean I want to feel what's bothering
you.
I'm not just here to sign a contract so
that legally you're protected and I'm
protected. That's good for lawyers.
With all due respect to lawyers who have
an important job
means
I want to be close to you. I want to
feel your heartbeaten.
You're worried about something very very
powerful. You're hearing here the echo
of the story of Ysef.
But let me tell you this is like the
story that way it ended. I love Yehuda.
Yehuda came close to Ysef. He looks him
in his eyes and he says, "You're also a
father. You also know what it means to
have a child."
Yehuda speaks to Ysef's heart. Not
saying, "Oh, Binyamin has issues with
thievery. When he sees nice things, he
doesn't know how to contain himself. I'm
going to take him to therapy. We're
going to deal with these issues that he
has." is when you see a nice silver
goblet, you know, you put it in your
pocket. We're going to deal with all of
the underlying symptoms.
He goes in, he puts his skin in the
game. And this is the words that they
use here.
They come to Mosa and what do they say?
We're loyal to our brothers. We will
take full responsibility for the rest of
the nation. In fact, we will put our
lives on the line for them just like
Yehuda did for Binyammen.
So this whole exchange is bringing up
this memory.
Now you'll say one second
is only focusing on the spies. That's
what he spokes about. What is he saying?
He's saying they're going to end up
again in the desert. He's basically
saying this is a nation at the cusp of
going into their homeland and you're
going to change that. They're going to
deviate from their course. They're going
to again be stranded homelessly in a
desert.
But one second, let's think about what
Mosenu is saying and see immediately the
connection. How long has it taken for
them to arrive here? 40 years. 40 years.
They have been wandering in the desert
since they left Egypt. But that's only
one part of the picture. How long did it
really take for them to arrive here? And
the answer is from the day they sold
YSF.
That's the day when 20 years later they
lost their own homeland. So it didn't
begin 40 years ago. When did it begin?
It began the day that they sold Ysef.
Because that's the day that caused them
to end up where? In Egypt.
So when they sold Ysef, what happens?
Over 200 years ago, they lived in their
own land.
But then when Ysef ended up in Egypt,
ultimately they all relocated.
When did this begin that they begin
living as a landless people? It begins
when they sold the first Jew to Egypt as
a slave. Before that, we all know what
was happening. The whole family was
living together in their plot of land.
Vayesh of Yakovitz Murit Kanan in the
land of Kanan. They were all living
together in their ancestral homeland
with their father Yakov and their
grandfather Yitzk. But the sale of Ysef
hurled them into a completely new
position where ultimately they end up as
refugees in Egypt. In the beginning, it
was very nice. Ysef took care of them.
Par took care of them. But that chapter
came to an end and the entire nation for
more than 200 years lost their homeland
as slaves in Egypt. Now it's about to be
over. Now they're coming back into their
land. And Mosha turns to them and says,
"Isn't this the story of Ysef all over
again? We're about to go back into that
homeland from where we left. When did we
leave? We left at the day that you sold
Yoseseph into slavery and he ended up in
Egypt and then everybody came to Egypt
and now YOU'RE LITERALLY GOING BACK
HUNDREDS OF years to keep us out of
Israel in the DESERT ONCE AGAIN EXACTLY
THE WAY IT happened to Ysef when the
brothers abandoned the brother. So the
clock is going to be set back all the
way to the first time that they betrayed
their brother. Of course, Moshe is not
only alarmed, but Moshe himself is so
pained from this proposition. When Moshe
warns them about the devastating
consequences of their actions, he's
speaking about the present, but he's
also speaking about the past. And not
just 40 years ago, but he's speaking
hundreds of years ago because they were
in Mit for 210 years. 210 years they
were in Egypt. And this was 20 years
after Ysef was in Egypt. So you're
talking about around 200 and 30 years
together with Yisf. Plus they were 40
years in the desert. So it's close to
300 years ago.
Uuven and God they got the point. They
got it immediately. They understood that
Mosha is not just saying you know I
don't like this idea. You're
discouraging the people. Mosha is
bringing up a narrative that shaped the
people.
And what do they do? Vikue love.
They come close to Mosha. They got the
point. And they respond to Mosa in what
you might say is the best way possible.
They will not return to the dark moment
when the brothers betrayed Ysef.
Instead, they took their cue from
Yehuda, the moment when he stood up for
his brother and redeemed the betrayal of
the past. Mosha sees this. He goes ahead
with a plan.
But before he seals the contract, he
does something. He adds one detail into
the mix.
And now it becomes very very clear when
he announces that these lands will be
distributed to the tribes of God. And
what does the say
Benf?
Suddenly the words Ben Ysef become so
clear because Ysef is really the figure
that stands at the subconscious if you
wish of this entire story. So we could
truly understand this piece of the
puzzle.
Mosha says you can have it
but you need also mana. What part of
manasha? half of Manasha. Why Manasha?
Ysef also had two sons, Manasha and
Aphria.
So for this we remember how Manasha got
his name. How did Manasha get his name?
Very good. If you look in your third to
the last source vious
called the name of his oldest son. Why?
You know what the word nashani means?
Huh?
They don't use it in today's Hebrew.
Yeah. Nashani. We have a similar word.
Ghanosha. You know what that is?
>> Huh?
>> Forget. Forgetting. Yeah. Yeah.
Why did he name him? It's a very
interesting name. So TA says God has
allowed me to forget all my suffering,
all my anguish amali is my anguish, my
misery, my anxiety,
everything that happened in my father's
house. This is the name he decides to
give his first son. Very interesting.
Now we know names in Yiddish and in
Tanakh are very very significant.
Profoundly significant.
If this is the name for his first son,
it means this is what was on Yseph's
mind. And he felt that this child will
embody this sentiment. And what is it?
Manasha's name literally means moving
on.
Hashem gave me a gift that I don't have
to be stuck. I could forget. What does
forget mean? Forget doesn't mean that I
don't remember the facts of the story.
That's not what happened. The moment
Ysef saw them, he said, "I'm your
brother who you sold." You never forget
when somebody throws you into a pit and
sells you as a slave. It's not something
you could forget.
He even tells his brothers, "You did not
sell me. God sent me." So what does he
mean forget? There's two types of
forgetting. One is forgetting that I
physically erase it out of my memory.
But that's sometimes an act of
repression or suppression. The
difference between repress and suppress
is a very interesting difference. One is
conscious and one is subconscious.
Sometimes we repress things or suppress
things. Sometimes it's conscious. I
consciously do it. Sometimes I don't
even do it consciously.
My unconscious self makes me not for not
remember certain things. That doesn't
mean I dealt with it. On the contrary,
it means that now it affects me
from undercover with lack of awareness.
That's why the things that we suppress
unconsciously
often have the deepest impact on our
lives. We just don't know that they have
the deepest impact on our lives. But
this is the cause. Why I why do I get
angry? Why do I get angry when my spouse
says this particular type of thing? Why
am I so triggered when my brother,
sister, brother-in-law, parents,
sibling, nephew, niece, children, child,
teenager, child, of course, grandchild,
what what what is it? These are clues,
but I may not even understand. I may not
know the full impact of it. And remember
if my psyche understood at a very young
age that this information needs to be
relegated to the subconscious sellers it
means that there was a very intelligent
part in me that knew the danger from my
system to know these facts. Somehow it
felt when I was four years old or 6
years old or 10 years old or 2 years old
or maybe even younger that for my brain
to have this information is going to be
dangerous. It's untenable. It's not
something I'll be able to handle. So, I
don't even know about this.
What we sometimes see in a person's life
is, and in many ways, it's so tragic and
it's so perplexing and it's also so
fascinating and incredible because it
shows us the survival instincts that
Hashem has put into every single
organism that we sometimes
cause ourselves not to know about
certain realities. Now, of course, we
know them, but we don't know that we
know them. The soul knows everything.
Remember in the womb of your mother, you
learned the whole in nine months. The
soul sees everything, knows everything.
But the conscious self is unaware of it.
And sometimes
people will dedicate their entire lives
to make sure that they never know this.
And they don't even know why. In other
words, they invest enormous amounts of
resources, skills, ingenuity, and
brilliance to keep this undercover.
They call it in sometimes firefighters,
managers, protectors that when this
information is coming close to me,
there's an entire mechanism in my brain
that knows how to distance it from my
consciousness and that way I can just
remain in avoidance and there's a reason
for it. We have to have compassion
because when I was four years old, maybe
I couldn't deal with it. I couldn't deal
with this information. Maybe when I was
10 years old, I couldn't deal with it.
So actually forgetting it was a
necessary skill in survival. Now as an
adult and I see it's wreaking havoc in
my psyche. I see that I'm an angry
person. I'm a jealous person. I'm a
miserable person. I'm a not content
person. I'm triggered. I'm not in flow.
It's a gift. It's an opportunity. It's
knocking on the door. You remember the
verse in
the voice of my beloved one is pounding
on the door. Open up for me. Open up.
What is this pili?
You're my sister. You're my spouse.
You're my dove. You're my twin. And you
know what? She answers the loving groom
who's banging on her door in the middle
of the night. She says,
"I have already removed my tunic. I
can't put it on again.
I already took a bath tonight.
You want me to make my feet dirty? You
want me to get out of bed? put on my
clothes, make my feet dirty so I can
open up the door. I can't do that. Do
you understand the psychological depth
of this exchange? This is not a physical
issue. Just get out of bed and open the
door. Shine.
If you're really professional, you
should have a remote anyway so you can
open it from bed as in today's style or
just text somebody to open the door.
Right? So you say, "Oh, in there were no
text messages yet." But I'll tell you a
better answer. It's a psychological
exchange.
There comes a point in life where ki the
voice of love the voice of the inside of
you is dy it's pounding on that door
it's pounding on that profound profound
door peace
open it up open it up can you open the
door for me and I say
I took off my shirt I'm not putting it
on again
40 years ago I made a resolution We
don't go there. I washed my feet clean.
I'm not making them dirty. I'm not
opening up that can of worms. I don't
even know why, but I'm not.
I can't get dirty again. I worked very,
very hard not to be a mess. Heaven knows
how much energy I expended to keep
things together. Heaven knows. Nobody
else knows. But God knows what your
system did. He knows it even better than
you do because we were doing it
unconsciously with two hands tied behind
our back. You want now me to get my feet
dirty? Come on.
To get to this place took a lot a lot of
sweat, blood, and tears. But do and the
beautiful thing is he doesn't stop
knocking. If he would love you a little
less, he would stop knocking.
He would say, "Okay, just go back to
sleep. Go back into your psychological
coma.
DK,
I want to read something to you. Let me
see if I could find it. If I could find
it, I would love to read it to you. It
was so moving. Wow.
My daughter, Luba, I have a daughter,
Luba. God bless her. And she graduated
from a school in Florida. It's called
Yitzer.
Very, very special school. really very
very special the way they uh build and
nurture the children. So she graduated
high school a few weeks ago. So I went
with my wife and a few of my children to
celebrate the graduation and one of her
classmates her name is Naomi Herman
and she gave a speech at the graduation.
I was sitting in the front seat near my
wife, the principal was sitting on the
other side and uh
I was listening to it and I started to
cry from how moving this was and I asked
my daughter afterwards for her text and
I asked her if I have permission to
share some of the words you said with my
women's class and she gave me
permission.
I wasn't planning to use it today but as
I'm talking about it I realized this is
it.
And I want to read you a few words of
what this student said at her
graduation. Okay, listen to this.
And this is 17, 18 year old girl. We all
have doors in our minds. The ones we
place in order to protect ourselves from
what our mind thinks is the enemy, the
threat. All past experiences contribute
to the collection of lead. the lead
which I gathered to build the heaviest
doors. But the taller you climb, the
harder it is to find your way back down.
And the thicker the door, the harder it
is to ever leave.
Being behind that door can feel like
you'll never get out. But then there is
a knock at the door and then another.
And it's the people showing up when you
thought they wouldn't. It's my friends.
They came to ask me to be myself.
And when I don't answer at first, some
might walk away, but some sit and wait
at the foot of the door. They keep
knocking.
Some have been sitting out there for
years. The theme of my life has been
learning how to take down these doors I
took so long to build. To answer the
door when somebody knocks, to leave it
open and trust that whoever comes
through the door was always meant to.
So, thank you to the friends who
encouraged me to open the door,
introducing me to the life of
vulnerability, a new found strength.
Winnie the Pooh once said,
"How lucky I am to have someone to miss.
Looking back at these years, I have so
many to miss. My friends who turned my
worst days upside down." and she
continues to thank her friends.
And each one of those girls gave a
similar speech. Really, really
incredible. I was listening to it. I'm
like, "Wow."
Sometimes it takes people 50, 60 years
to realize this. And between you and I,
sometimes even 50 60 years, they don't
realize this. And it's all in that one
verse in
I was truly shocked when I saw those
words.
My friends were knocking. They came to
ask me to be myself.
Right? There are those who knock on the
door. Come out. Come out. Come out.
Right? I need I need this. I need this.
But those who knock on the door, they
have come to ask me to be myself.
They have come to ask me to be myself.
Open up.
Don't forget
you're safe. You can put on a new shirt.
You can put on a new way of expressing
yourself. You can put on a new garment.
You don't have to be stuck in that
distancing, the alienation, the fear of
vulnerability.
You could get your feet wet. You can get
off your bed. You could go into
connection. But it's not easy. When Ysef
Hatsadic
had his first son, he had to make a
profound choice. He could look at the
child and always remember the pain. And
the child just triggers more pain
because this child was born without
Yakov, without uncles, without aunts.
Who was at the Shalom Zak from Manasha?
Who? Par. Imagine Par eating chickpeas
at a shalom zar.
Yeah. Chamomile tea. Chamomile tea. How
do you have paralom? But there was
nobody else.
Maybe pifer came to the shamik
and the wife of pifa made the food. You
understand
right? Who was at the brris of mana?
Nobody. Who was at the who was at the
bitzvah? Nobody.
Ysef could have been in that state of
resentment and every milestone would
just remind him of how sick his family
is.
But when he had that child and he looked
at the angelic innocence of the child,
it aroused in y of something very deep.
God helps me forget not through
suppression and repression. I know
everything that happened, but he lets me
not remain stuck
in the prison
of not having the ability to ever love,
to be openhearted again, which I needed
to do maybe at some point in my life to
be safe. I needed it, but I don't need
it anymore. Um, the adult self can
nurture the child self and hold it with
tremendous courage, but also tremendous
compassion and love and tenderness and
soften the heart to relationships that
now are not threatening me. They will
actually enrich my life. But for that, I
have to be ready to put on a new
garment. I'm so used to I'm so used to
my old style, my old design. For that I
have to be ready to get out of bed and
allow my feet to touch the surface,
allow my feet to actually feel the pulse
of life.
So for Ysef, he never forgot. But when
his brothers met him 22 years after
their sale, he could look at them and
say, "You did not sell me. God sent me."
As we spoke often, it's the key question
in life. Were you sold or were you sent?
things happened. But was I a pingpong
ball who was just thrown from one end of
the table to the other end of the table
by some random force that I ended up
with or
I was a
doesn't take away the pain. It doesn't
take away the suffering. It doesn't take
away the fact that Ysef went through so
much. It doesn't take away the fact that
there was hurt. It did give him the
ability to soar. It gave him the ability
to remain free. He was not anymore
captive emotionally by the events of
others. He can empower himself and look
at it without naivity, without any
coverups and say,
"Hashem has given me a gift." And that's
the gift to use my past experiences as a
springboard, as a catalyst, for
self-awareness, for empathy, for deep
sensitivity, for courage, for strength,
and for the ability to know that my
mission in this world actually came
about through all of those experiences.
What happens in true healing is
transformation. Every single thing I
went through in my life even if at the
time I could not understand it is
responsible for creating the human being
I am today. Now it doesn't mean it's
easy and it doesn't mean there's no
anger and there's no frustration and
there's no resentment and you get angry
at God, you get angry at people, you get
angry at the world, etc. You get angry
at yourself as a good Jew. The
self-contempt, self-shame. But the Isf
saw in Manasha that that ability that
power. So now
hundreds of years later when Mosher
Rabenu is standing here and he sees two
tribes who in his mind may be recreating
the tragedy that got us into exile the
first time.
who will he send with them to the other
side of the river to be able to
represent that my mistakes of the past,
our experience of the past don't have to
define the future. I could step in into
a beautiful relationship or as Miss
Herman says, I can open the door. I can
allow my friends to come in to allow me
to be me. I don't have to repeat the
same cycle. When my husband, my wife, my
child, my the other person says this, I
actually have the choice to hold space
for everything that was and is. And I
can actually react and respond from a
day place of deep presence and choice of
knowing my divine infinite power. That's
manasha.
And he splits manasha in half.
Interesting. He splits manasha in half.
What does this mean? AT LEAST SEND THEM
ALL. SEND THE WHOLE MANASHA ON THIS.
There is a unbelievable medish. Again,
you could read it at the surface. You
can go a little deeper. But now we'll be
able to go much deeper. And this is your
last source.
And here you have to remember all the
stories are connected. You remember I
read this to you. I don't know if you
noticed that detail. Ysef sent somebody
in charge on his home to pursue the
brothers. And when they found the goblet
in Binyam sack, what did they all do?
>> They tore their garments,
says the Medishi
Shagurashima.
Who was the man Ysef sent? His oldest
son. So was his assistant
because he caused them to tear their
clothes
because of the goblet. His
inheritance was also split. It was torn.
Half
at surface it seems like just a negative
story. Nothing is forgotten. And every
every energy creates a reaction. Every
action creates a reaction. Everything we
put into the world comes back. It goes
around.
It's true in the negative. It's also
true in the positive. That's the power
of chuva. To make amends, to be able to
say, "I made a mistake. I want to
apologize. I want forgiveness. I want to
learn my lessons." Because
truth can never be deleted. And it's not
a curse. It's actually a gift. It means
that your soul is too authentic to make
believe that it's inauthentic.
You understand? People see it as a
curse. It's not a curse. I used to think
it's a curse. It's not. Your soul is too
authentic to make believe it's
inauthentic. It's too authentic. And
when you're very authentic, anything
that is inauthentic that hits on the
canvas of authenticity gets rejected.
It's like, no, we got to deal with that.
We got to deal with that. We got to deal
with that. In all real healing journeys,
there's things that come up and they're
gifts. I never dealt with it. I never
looked at it. I repressed it. I
suppressed it. So, that's one dimension
of the story. But there's a deeper
dimension of the story. Why did Manasha
want them to tear their clothes? What
really happened when they tore their
clothes? What was really happening? Was
the family becoming fragmented at that
moment or something else was happening?
The tearing of the clothes was the
tearing of a garment into two. It was
separation. That's what ka is. But what
was really happening beneath the
surface,
it was allowing them to reclaim
their loyalty to each other. Why did
they tear their clothes? THEY COULD HAVE
SAID, "BINYAMMEN, AANV,
WE have black sheep in the family. Ysef
was BLACK SHEEP NUMBER ONE. BEYAMMEN IS
BLACK SHEEP NUMBER TWO. YSEF IS busy
with HIS HAIRDOS ALL DAY. AND BEY IS
BUSY STEALING. This is not our family.
Sorry. We're not a bunch of gunmen. We
pay taxes and we're honest.
You pay taxes.
>> Yeah. Yeah. You do. You do. I know you
do. Huh?
>> What?
>> Oh,
>> it goes back to the right now. Remember
when it says in I removed my garment.
How can I put it on again? They
removed's garment. They took it off.
That royal garment that represented his
connection to his father. They got rid
of that. That's when they could throw
him into the bar. What they were really
saying
has a beautiful lesson. What they were
really saying to Ysef is you're not a
real king. You're a makebelieve king.
You're the king who puts on fancy
clothes and walks around and says, "Hey,
I'm a king." You know, people who have
their father's money and they think
they're rich. You know what I mean?
Sometimes you have your own money. You
have an inner royalty. Sometimes just
living off other people's bank accounts.
Who died and made you king? Your sinus
pass is fake. You walk around. Yeah. I
find
TUNIC BEAUTIFUL. YEAH. PRIMADANA, Miss
America, whatever it is. But really
strip the pim
and you're a slave. And what of course
happens amidst his slavery he becomes
the leader of the world. Ysef is not a
king based on his garment. He's a king
based on his soul. In the pit he was a
king by pif. He was a king in prison. He
was a king. In his dreams he was a king.
I have A DREAM.
THAT'S WHAT THE BROTHER. THIS IS NOT IT
doesn't begin with the clothes.
SO THE PERSON
I TOOK OFF MY clothes
you want me to put on the garment of
royalty. It says in medish the is big
malus after the we removed our garments
of priestliness and our GARMENTS OF MAL.
I CAN'T PUT IT ON AGAIN. I'm not a king.
I'm a victim. I'm a slave. I'm a bitter
person. I'm not royal. I'm not a coin. I
don't have big de malus. I can't put it
on again. And that's going to require
paradoxically to make my feet dirty. I'm
not going to do that. Better to BE
WITHOUT MY ROYALTY. BUT MY FEET will
remain protected in my bed cozy big
blanket with my novel. And I don't even
have to look out of my blanket for three
weeks. You remember when you were 18 and
you got sick for three weeks under that
blanket and you're safe from the world.
Even your mother doesn't know where you
are. At least you think she didn't know
where you were.
He saw this element. So when Manasha had
them tear their clothes, what was really
happening? They realized our family is
torn. The tearing of the clothes was
paying tribute to the mistake that
happened and it will not happen again.
And that's the moment they all go back
and they're saying we're not leaving
without Albany. Binyammen is our
brother. That tearing of the garment is
what allowed the healing of a fragmented
family. Paradoxically, sometimes
acknowledging the tear, the pain, the
fragmentation is the prerequisite to be
able to sew it up again. Because if I
don't acknowledge that there was a tear,
I don't have to sew anything up. You
know, when we walk around my family,
perfect. Perfect family. Anybody else
has a perfect family here? Raise your
hand. You besides you. Yeah. Right.
Yeah. Perfect. As the
All thehat in lakewood and my even in B
park this is the perfect family
whatever it is for my little experience
the only perfect families I know are the
families I don't know
families I don't know are perfect
but as a great Jewish singer once said
I think it was Leonard Cohen he said
when I was young I used to worship ship
perfection.
Today I search for everything that has a
crack in it. It's the cracks that allow
the light to come in.
It's the tearing of the clothes that
creates a crack. Nishbar says the
balatanya doesn't mean a broken heart.
It means a cracked open heart. When
there's a wall, the light can't come in.
Open it up so that the light could come
in. A broken heart doesn't mean I'm
broken and shattered and angry. A broken
heart means a cracked open heart. A
heart that can be vulnerable to the pain
of life and vulnerable enough to long
for real attachment with truth and
Hashem. And therefore, a heart that can
also experience the flow of love that
pulsates through life and pain that
pulsates through life. When I shut the
water in my house because there's a leak
and I did that, I also can't take a
shower or take water from the sink. The
moment we shut our emotions down, we
don't feel any emotions. Maybe we won't
cry anymore, but we also won't be able
to laugh. Even at our children's
wedding, we will smile for the pictures,
but deep down there's an anxiety.
There's a void. Only the eyes that know
how to cry are the eyes that can giggle.
Only the eyes and the person that takes
down the doors, opens up the door
piskily, allows for that relationship,
for something to touch me. I'm not
afraid anymore if you touch me.
I don't have to be afraid of that touch
whether it's physical, emotional,
psychological, spiritual, that
connection. Manasha embodied that in the
deepest way. He is the one who caused
them to tear their garments. So Mosher
Rabenu says half of Manasha will remain
in the holy land. Half of Manasha will
remain in the other side. Because
manasha has the ability to realize that
just because half are there, half are
there, it does not mean that we're
fragmented. We're torn. We're split. At
the surface, you're here, I'm there. On
a deeper level, there's a oneness that
connects us. Sometimes when I insist
that everybody has to be together, it's
because it's a superficial oneness. When
you're really one, there can be
differences. You can be here, I can be
there. It's psychologically as well.
Good relationships allow for people to
be individuals. We don't always have to
be doing the same thing, agreeing on
everything to be one. When everything
has to be superficially uh my uh my son,
I'm talking about my kids schools.
My son goes to a school for Morayell
Nadav called Yo Tora. Can I mention
somebody else who's in that school? One
of the common denominators between me
and Mrs. Klein is she has a grandson in
that school and I have a son in that
school. And if you need a school that is
specially specially nurturing to the
individual
identity of the child that can't always
be done or is not yet done in all of the
conventional schools, it's a very very
special place. So why am I telling this
to you? Oh, I just forgot.
>> Oh. Oh yeah. Yeah. So the principal and
the founder of the school is is Mora
Ayelit Nadav. So she once told Huh. She
once told I remember she once told my
wife and I my son has been there for
quite a few years and it's been a
blessing a blessing the first of my
children who wakes up in the morning and
looks forward to go to school because
the Jacobsons are not good in the system
we just don't do well in the system it
has to do with I don't know some
rebellious genes so this was like the
first school he wakes up in the morning
and I'm like wow it's a miracle it's a
miracle deno deno he likes school right
so uh what am Am I telling you? Oh, so I
remember
it's called all over the place. They
call it in English all over the place.
You want to know why I didn't take my
ADHD uh medicine today?
I like my ADHD. I don't want to get rid
of it. It helps me. It helps other
people too sometimes. So, we come come
in once and she said something very
profound. He said, you know, sometimes
you come into a classroom and everything
looks perfect,
but under the surface, you know, the
internal life of the child may not be
addressed. We learn obedience. We learn
to do the right thing and everybody's
following order. And it's nice and
there's something very comfortable about
it. I'm not knocking it at all. You
know, if you're running an army, you got
to have the march and the uniform march.
He says, "Here," she said to me, "Here,
you're going to sometimes see what looks
like chaos, but it's not. It's not
chaos. There's a deep rhythm, but it's a
rhythm that comes from the fact that
children can express themselves. Now, it
needs it needs an understanding because
this doesn't just mean you come into a
classroom and just, you know, create
chaos and that's individuality. They
don't always work together. Not every
chaotic scene is about expression of
individual strength. Sometimes it's just
pure chaos, right? Nobody knows what
they're doing. But it was a very
profound truth because sometimes, you
know, you walk into a house, you walk
into a family, nobody's really
expressing themselves. So everything
looks perfect. You go to a Shabas table,
you know, everybody's doing the exact
right thing because nobody's expressing
themselves. Sometimes when people
express themselves, there's a lot of
energy. And if it's people who have deep
souls and deep emotions, sometimes it
can be very, very, very potent, very,
very intense. So when I put on a sweet
face and I always say the right thing
with the right tone, it's nice and
sometimes if it controls me and allows
me to avoid outbursts, it's much better
than the other way. But sometimes
there's a danger in that because my self
is being amputated. I'm not expressing
myself. Manasha had that ability to
understand that the two parts can be in
two different sides, but they're one.
They're connected.
That's that what happened to him in
first Manasha. Manasha grew up the first
Jew to grow up not in a Jewish
environment not init
right grew up in Israel. He was exiled.
Manasha was the first Jew to be born
where in Galos and that's why on his
deathbed
Yakov told Ysef he says your two boys
who WERE BORN HERE BEFORE I came
because they will set the paradigm what
is it to be a Jew in exile and that's
manasha. So now when there's GOING TO BE
JEWS OUTSIDE OF ISRAEL, WHO IS THE
master of having them hold on to their
true identity? This is Manasha. Number
one, we don't have to go back to old
grudges. Number two, we can maintain our
identity and there's going to be half
here and half here because the two
halves don't mean they're not connected.
Sometimes they bring out a deeper
connection in a very practical way.
Manasha had to travel back and forth.
There were I don't know how they got the
message if they had WhatsApp then but
whatever the WhatsApp was you have been
in the eastern Jordan on the western
Jordan
with
pes with
a barbecue manasha was the one who
travels back and forth to be able to
maintain that level of identity that
level of unity that level of
cohesiveness
and now take a look at the name manasha
The name manasha somebody shared this
with me the name of Rabbi Akiva Tats I
don't know the ex if it's his own or
from another source but a very very
beautiful idea the word manasha
represents connection between two things
that can tear us apart the word manasha
first of all has within it the first
three letters she oil
is that which fuses the fire and the
wick if you would just ignite a wick
after 40 seconds the wick would be burnt
up and that's it. It's the oil that
allows the wick to burn an entire night.
If you put in more oil, you replenish
the oil can burn for eight days. And if
it's you don't even have to replenish
the oil. If it's not, you got to put in
a little more oil. Oil has that unique
ability. The fire on its own, the wick
on its own, they're beautiful, but
they're not going to be remain
connected. The fire will destroy the
wick and that's the end of it. I love
shalom. It's the she man is me nun shin
she the oil that fuses
the oil the fire and the wick. So now
you have a beautiful flame glowing on
the wick. The wick is not being
destroyed. The wick is fueling the flame
rather than being destroyed by the
flame. Take a look at the word manashes.
The same letters like Mishna mesh nun.
If you know what the mishna is, the
Mishna is the link between
and the entire garra. Mishna is that
link the bridge between and the entire
literature of
what else is the letters mesh.
And what does the nishama do? Nisha is
the consciousness that fuses together
all the parts of the body. We have 70
trillion cells in our body. Think about
that. Not 70 million, not 70 billion, 70
TRILLION CELLS. IF ANYBODY EVER asks
you, did you meet 70 trillion people?
Yes. Right now, there's 70 trillion
people inside of you and each one has a
different opinion. That's why life is
complicated. One cell says this, another
cell says this. What brings them all
together? Nama. Manasha. The letters
nama brings it all together. And when
Ysef needed an interpreter between him
and his brothers, a meal, who was it?
Manasha. It wasn't just because he knew
both languages. It's because he had that
ability to fuse to connect the Yeshu on
the eastern side of the Jordan and on
the western side of the Jordan. And
something else happens here and that is
Moshe has been begging Hashem to go into
Israel. Hashem said no. But as a result
of this, where is Moshe buried? Moshe is
buried not init but he's buried in
semiarit Israel in the territory of Beng
and Benu. So Mosha himself is now
reconnected with the people. He's not
completely outside of Israel. So in
every detail here of the story, we see
Manasha representing a new paradigm
where healing can happen where I could
remember all the facts but never ever
remain stuck in it and in that begin a
new beginning of a much deeper and more
powerful unity. Have a wonderful week.
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