Harmless Words Or A Curse? - Rav Zev Smith

like to welcome everyone to from1 851 8651 or email.com partially sponsoring today I recently overheard two people talking and one said to the other about one of the politicians that was Aid and I was shocked you we don't usually say and a and then I started realizing that um this share for today is long overdo you know we hear the concept of Isa we think about billum and wicked people but as will'll see today that the concept of a is unfortunately much more NE than we realize besides the fact that there are makes there are five associated with the he speaks about cursing cursing cursing any person and we find a few places in the the which is imagine there are with and this well over 50 garas and that's well over 50 garas that we find the concept of kwas where they did curse and now let it curse but suff quote the words of so felt it important to talk in his times how how much more today you know it's noteworthy the go wrote the famous he wrote to his family before he left there and he writes and I quote hit the children when he comes to and he PS of all examples he pick don't make sure but obviously is now you know need long enough we don't ever try to make make and you know create but here we're going to learn the sugya it's a beautiful sugya very much Hands-On like every other sugya and as we'll see we'll try like we always try to do to find one and then we'll say the whole really flows from one simple this is clear that the main source of the for regular person is the don't curse a deaf person of course Rashi quotes not let to curse anybody now why do I say the main source because in there we see the of that's cursing a or a but basically today we're going to focus on the is of cursing another Y and of course the for itself and I'll mention it once and for all that besides cursing but of course if someone curs someone else he's violating and but we're just going to focus on the is CL not about the or parents simple is OFA is certainly a share for itself now here's the big question because a person is inclined to say what he said like what do you care why does a tur let him curse you know in America they say talk is cheap and it's harmless talk like why is the so so and the is stronger if you remember the you with the mothers of the K would have to DAV that the people in the mikl shouldn't DAV that the mother would give food to the to their inmates so they shouldn't D that the Cen dies frar like what do you care if they D that the C should die don't we know says no it wasn't because they should have D that this shouldn't happen but we see based on a mish and again quote the so what do you care if the person curses and to the extent it's but that conclusion cannot be as we said there is sh is full of different curses we find we find in tanak and you find the beginning of the Torah there's a concept of of cursing so here I'm going to just be a small we'll have enough information for the rest of the the he says Haven me man you listen let me explain this to you he says a person by Nature when he's angered and upset but naturally he wants to take revenge that's human nature but it depends on a person's level sometimes he just a verbal Revenge he just retaliates verbally he says something nasty and he feels fulfilled sometimes he has to damage someone's money to feel to put a closure on his anger sometimes he has to hit the person and some them he's so enraged that he has to kill the other person you know today we hear about road rage someone cuts him off he shoots him with a gun you know that's a g attitude but you know don't get mad get even you look at the M how he how he describes the person that's angry he says a person loses control he could destroy the whole world and why do we see this now the ra thata this is a person when he's out of control now we would of course if only he would remember the the person just would hit the the the pause button you know like say in America just so don't react you're angry okay just wait don't don't because whatever you do now you're going to have but when a person lashes out he's always going to do something wrong Z and here's a play and I read this the of is not to protect the victim at getting cursed but it's for the TOA of the one that's cursing because if you allow yourself to curse that means you're giving in to your anger and you're out of control if you know you got to be quiet you have to Bo PIV you can't say anything cursing you're not hitting him you're not damaging his money you're not killing him but you're responding and that's the enemy the enemy is when you let yourself respond when you're out of control so listen to It's Not only for the protection of the what a gem of the you know we know about it's for your benefit now when I say word you I don't mean this I mean the you out there that are not learning and not listening but the you that's doing wrong it's for your benefit that's it's a training not to allow yourself to explode when you're angry another has the same it's a protection if you don't get angry this time next time you certainly won't get angry and the was thinking that's the of the because if lat it says is training and but this is not the only he also asked this question you know people don't understand he says what's wrong with cl what's wrong with words so he says but CLA is so effective that even as the gar says even kill in other words a has a much more powerful but it's not limited to even a is effective what's the and listen to how he says it we understand that if you break someone's window you damage him right that's that's that a person says something it has an impact we also know that the essence or bet at the Godless of a person a person's a person's greatness is his words so if you if we could damage someone else with our hands we could certainly damage him with our mouths cu the of De is unfathomable and he says that even go understand the terrible effect of a curse because words are not harmless and then he says gra he says another that he says when a person the biggest cause of is when people hear what they said about him oh you said that about me I'm upset of you and he says if you curse someone he'll find out about it but that's not his main reason his main reason is because words are not harmless words are very devastating and then he quotes the r respectfully the ra says a different reason but I think my reason is better but here we come to an extremely important words are not harmless the also says the same he I'm going to I'm going to straighten you out in what theor says one of the many about the curse they worried about the curse he says Phil philosopher philosophers go with but someone that knows anything knows that what we don't see does not mean it doesn't exist he gives a m do we can we explain how a magnet moves metal or how a person when he opens his mouth during the cold winter smoke comes out of it so today they do understand but he's saying the fact that we can't explain or understand does not mean it doesn't exist and his main example is the point is that words can bring and words can bring there's a and there's a what does that mean you say something it happens and he says this is the point words are aik so it's a very different understanding and I would add according to's also says words so basically there's in the fundamental understanding of like it's for our benefit like it's because words are now before we apply this I want to make a point again that even though will see from as we proceed has a much more effective use of his both and but don't minimize like the says Ked is also very meaningful the another point I must mention although the r explains that it doesn't mean the r h there's no in a curse the R's is know it's not only to protect the victim but of course the r accepted that words have meaning that that's that's that's repad in ch so now again let's apply this we try organize it so we could retain it better the first question is the most obvious question what exactly constitutes a a CL does he have to mention sh do you have to say a of or M do you have to be a a PhD and Claw like bam know exactly what to say is there any special so the answer like to every question of today is like the ra the point is control yourself so you know what the problem is any reaction like I minded once walking with a tal and a guy say something very nasty and the responded so the says you didn't respond like a so goes how does respond he goes he doesn't respond that's the's response you don't respond the rambam holds how do you respond you don't once you said something even like like bam that means you're not in control you're out of control so there is no specific certainly doesn't have to be sh but even according to the if the words do damage so why do you have to have a of or says even when one said to the other one one said to the other about Aus and it happened to him once you understand that that words are very very powerful it doesn't have to have a of it has to have the mag of and again there are many I'll give you one for now says when someone doesn't keep his word they give him others discuss what about the the CL but he deserves it we'll soon see when you deserve it you get it doesn't have a of Cl it's a statement the ter is if you know I found the the the Beautiful he says he ties that the is of is means you wish someone that's that's the definition OFA and therefore it's it's the opposite of that's using is using words in any form so basically it's you know it's is and is the I give you a but so many but person that's good is terrible a difference of an O because every word counts says never tell an sit or sit why cuz it means sit in the how do we understand that if you understand that words weak havoc in someone's life this is a word also I should mention and this is aor in a few places CL life and death not curse someone should die in The Guild of saw someone that was working on Pur so he cursed him we soon was that was a curse I he didn't curse he should die but but cursing someone that his m is should be be affected is abusing the of so like the ra the is is you're angry you're out of control type of Cl I just saw in another I want to page 345 HEI is there any sheare even a small amount responded but a any type of is big or small and and the is like ra and like the reason applies someone I heard once overheard the boys were talking and they had had a test the next day I hope the teacher gets sick so he won't he won't to come and give a test so that's a CL it's a CL is you know even if say hope he gets a flat so he be delayed it's also CL is you're using words to to to to hurt someone else someone his neighbor's doing work and it's very loud I hope he gets a violations so stop the hacking and the banging so I don't know if he means it but he said it and words words do damage we'll get that soon even without shame there's an is now why so like the ra the problem is you're leashing out is now the is that's why in of course if someone use the shame hasem that's much worse but I I just give you my Asus I one I saw in the sa he points out something fascinating if someone is really not by daving but he's daving and he says on he says totally inappropriate right even though it's because it's a half sick but it doesn't but we know a if someone says during the summer he has to D over why how could that be worse than than Al and the qu this because it's CL because rain during the summer is CL now who's ding it's not the rash it's little old me so I say the world start storming maybe yes but that's not the point a word that a person says no difference who he is or what he is is a CL and that's pass more than daving and saying because every person has a now the is the tour in the beginning of our by the way we have a whole Simon today but the Torah beginning of says that the and say that as well maybe is but the way the mo most place understand the only sh is if he gets malus then do you need or not but almost all if he he seems be more but I think the mainstream is to get say but the is even without sh but one thing I will say that you see the fact that of course that's a euphemism but so basically we have to be careful I saw the and all the see if youest someone says because using the actual Shem even in Yiddish that's also Shem I give you an example I hope it doesn't sound familiar but I'm talking to the you that are not here today the P an eres when someone gets angry and curses his children he somebody says oh you're going to have you're going one you're going to have children just like you and boy he's out of curse if you know what I mean so he says you know people not thinking he wouldn't want to hurt a a hair on this child's head but he's doing much worse he says you know if you're angry better beat the child cuz that he could recover but you're cursing your own child he's he's he's Shing his children now the EM is you you might here you see another because really deep down the parent doesn't want the child to get hurt but he's so angry he leashes out but that's the problem so we see even though maybe he doesn't mean it deep down but at least superficially he does and and you know and ain't de Ain doesn't doesn't so basically it's something that a person has to be you know a wearer but there's I think another point that has to be mentioned you know as I said human nature a person gets angry he lashes out and that's do we have enough in this do we have enough that we that the greatest is the best is when a parent is a good example you know used to say the best is CAU not taught quot means when a child sees when his parents oh he's my father's very angry but he didn't say a word he's in control but the worst is when the parent curses the child or shows that when you get angry you're allowed to do what you want he is fortifying his child with a new ammunition to called CLA and that's the so it's basically a good very very good a very lasting when a CH child remembers my parents get angry they're also human but they never said a word they were control P it because even though we don't they don't really mean it but like the PK says a m it's like shooting an arrow and a bullseye and he said I was just joking what mean you're just joking you're just killing that's the word so basically it has to be you know and again the best is when the parent is a good example coming back to someone asked me if he curses be F of for example this what he told me he was made up to meet go with someone and 8:00 so he's waiting outside in the cold 8:00 8:15 8:30 and he was so angry he said I'm going myself so before he said I'm going myself into and maybe made a but so the answer is that the is not for the it's it's for you and here you blew it you ruined it you you you got loose but is also because the the problem is the you say about that's not a very you know very very beneficial way of talking so that's why the is even but the biggest is from the the doesn't hear doesn't know but it's not what it's it's not not necessarily what if the person hears so maybe you're also getting a bonus the is and after but minimally curse is even now this leads us to the next question let's say a person is angry but he he doesn't want to be politically incorrect so he keeps his he keeps his his curse he keeps it in so the EMS is the answer again is z cuz the Ra was supposed to be in control not to activate our C if a person makes the effort of cursing that's the problem you're supposed to be in control the only thing is the question is here we have to have to CL does do damage know is a terrible CLW a terrible ma is there a so this should be totally in the question if her or not if you all heor so just like a claw of's ma we could assume that but probably that's not true for two reasons first of all we three places but even if as we once spoke when a person thinks shameem he's not on saying sh even there's no is of saying Shem if it's not necessary why because when it comes some an Isa of debor and even if heror but there's no Isa OFA by so it makes sense that if the the of the CLA is the de the who says there is an of there's a of now the embassies I do know that that b had the ability to curse even because was an expert that there's no now there's Noah it you know that's the but at least there no that's page 347 of that safe now there's a more of an interesting question is there someone was very upset about someone else he wrote a letter to his father and he expressed all his anger in the letter so again he was politically correct he didn't tell the person anything but here we have to really think about that for a moment how do you identify writing in other words it's worse than heer because it's coming to AA he did a not just it's not just we don't say on but we do say on writing but then again if we understand the is is using maybe there's no so we have to know is there something effective in so the embassies we once gave a whole about this but we that's for sure has his to his debate with his uncle in that he held that there is and has to say the person could do aah if he writes that's famous but most seem to assume that is regarding but the question is maybe regarding CLA since he's expressing it he's not holding it in like and could be even like is something very effective so the a beautiful they discuss this and they leave it as a suff now the is talking about which is but again a beautiful discussion you'll see in the official parel is there an Isa of cursing by so for us that we have no we will say of course all these Nast nasty pasillas if you don't know what that means it's worse than it sounds but the nasty hate letters and hate posters is definitely a CL you don't have this person have to sign in it to Bea so they hate male and they hate pasas should be you know outlawed because they are against the law but basically it's it's de and as well interesting question that made it to a mishna can is there an Isa when a person curses himself so you wondering who cursed himself will soon give examples but is there an Isa for cursing oneself so the answer like everything else today if the is like the ra is the so there's no on oneself you know the famous says there's no one to the other because left hand to right hand the question is according to is a person himself with so this is whether you curse someone else or yourself you're it sounds like that that there an Isa CLW the by cursing oneself but it's not the truth cuz the gor says where's the is what's the is cursing oneself you have to watch your own health and cursing yourself is damaging yourself but you curse someone else that's this like so it's interesting the is telling us there said the of cursing oneself out protecting your health because again curses do damage but there's no is I thinking very since cursing oneself to oneself doesn't exist there is so what then is the it's like a person that commit suicide he's hurting himself because words hurt so therefore we could say that there is no is a cur cursing oneself means that cursing but it's dangerous and you know it's noteworthy because ask a question so why is cursing it's worse know what the answer is it is worse because words CLA is worse than than but this is now again we don't usually curse ourselves but I'll give you a few examples which needs a to our children and grandchildren because it was something were always very careful about and lately it became a little uh a little disregarded says that when a person learns don't show on yourself that's that when they learn they show that's wrong when we learn again I'm talking you I don't mean you people say you die I die your brother my brother why are we saying our brother should die do you know when he learned with his he would fast the day before he was afraid someone would say about your brother die my brother die and he would fast that the should protect them they shouldn't be harmed by their learning he said he didn't we him because he has a stomach problem about himself said next year he's going to die talking about himself going on [Music] himself says say about that might happen to him says don't say saying about yourself and then you have people saying oh I I I I I went through a surgery it's the worst thing they they they lay you down they cut you up and you know he's describing cut you up and L you know even didn't talk that way what did say not you know people you know it's it's a way of talking that's against our whole so basically we have to be careful you know we we we are careful what we say things that really need a because the children know until they're they're told but I'll tell you I wonder if a person is allowed to be so like not careful with M of his own M they say about his life but it could be maybe he's not really maybe got be mous we don't say that but no one says it I'm not sure doesn't seem like it's the right thing to do question the famous suan he did what he thought was wrong and he cursed himself in a very real way his eyes his hands and his feet it's so again the discussed this and basically as a tick as a as in fact we find in beginning of person's allowed of fast self- Affliction as a discuss how to say if I won't remember same ter but there a ter because it's a KAS it has to be the discuss how a child could say about a parent when the parent pass why is that a violation of so the has to be if that's the and that's the mitvah it has to be done but there has to be a before we talk someone asked me is there a if the victim the gives me to curse him so maybe the fact that he is so the answer is the problem is that the curse is is doing damage there's no het a person can't give you a right to hurt him right then he can't there's no head to hurt some else even so according to the r you could cleare maybe if he lets you but then again if you're doing it Al that's the problem the whole Kasha does the whole Shadow doesn't begin cuz if a person not to curse himself even though he gives it's a it's a mishna just doesn't help next group of questions which is a little more challenging is there ever a for cl so one thing I want to say to whom may concern people think if I don't curse by name but I curse groups of people you know he has an ideological problem about you know group PL and he curses them so that is worse than cursing a because a is one person and a group is thousands and that's in fact gives an example on a that a person will never do Chua because he thinks he never did an Isa and that's cursing a group of people beginning even is is a the same is if not worse now we are very opinionated and sometimes we don't like other groups of people so that's an issue you have to deal with but to group to curse a group of people that's a much bigger Isa and certain not a if you didn't mention names more of an issue is a person feels Sin from is there any in cursing a so that's it's limited to you look at end like the but cursing is not says this as well but again you know that want to have a Hal why put yourself in clawless you know if there's a reason to curse a guy okay but St to curse you know and always the spoil we find by not to give they but the after they gave they have to have what they do wrong because physically you kill someone so that that's that's affecting it's impacting your am your Rite cursing people is is impacting our Rite so why curse you know better learn a Raj take but don't curse but if there's a reason it's no us yeah yeah yeah we find L also curses enemies so well soon there has to be a reason for it you're right throughout throughout D is cursing yes so when to get wait wait get that now the next question is there an is by a mace to curse a mace sometimes a person passed away but his his evil lives on so the answer for us is the the this is not for the for the for the victim it's for me if I'm angry and I can't control myself that's the violation of Malo we have to wonder is a curse effective even to a person after he dies does a CLA affect a a so we have again I told you many we have we know regarding there's no but brings from the famous you can't you shouldn't say about B mace do we find any reference to that M mace it's the beginning of explains because there is a to the why because it does damage to the even you look more is not if you hit a it doesn't hurt the mace but buta or is and that could affect the person the even when there's no but here's the here's the question maybe let is a that who said regular person it's not a relative it's not a parent and you look at why regular person there's no and that's but I'm sure you notice the obvious of poter sounds like he says the of the ra and is because still to curse even a ma that is not and I imagine the reason is like we said a person is it's it's denting his mid and St with talking bad about other about ideas but only the big question is is there any to curse a Russ about about another so we're talking about someone that's a rush you know if someone doesn't agree to My Philosophy doesn't make him a Russia and I'm talking about someone that will say is a Russia you know people like to find that's that's the given I'm talking about someone that's you know subjective you know that I don't like his sheet is a real Russ so the MS is if he's a then I'm to curse him and Tak we find numerous place like you mentioned in in again the back of that I think it's called find 53 places in sh alone that they cursed one another that's the name of P has over 50 places in sh alone but you're looking to them it's replete with these ideas and taka there's five places in sh other place as well there's no but again the L throughout these suas is obviously there might be something wrong but I think RAB say you have to realize there was a lot written about this question because throughout the D we we we lied from from some people that are deserve to be called but the big question is you know it's a lot easy to talk about a chicken a piece of chicken talk about an Arab and talk about anabis but to talk about thousands of brothers and sisters of our was is no simple matter you know the says in cursed Russ and a real Russia but his wife corrected him you don't curse you curse two stories we find about cursing the bad not bad people a ye should know to curse of the ye you're playing with fire the has a terrible terrible from what that Rush is doing but it's only EX ated when we curse him like even talking bad and that's really the don't tell a father bad about his child even if the child is rebellious but it hurts terribly when a parent has a rebellious child and let me read you of course it's transes but this is the exact should but listen to from this world but a beautiful without there wouldn't be an wouldn't be so who knows what your eliminating with your words you mean but the doesn't want to hear bad about his children used to say so I know we do say three times a day and some people add the word mean okay that's their prerogative we do say in soon say but who said it go going on who said the bulk of it is not going on so again it's questionable but I want to say the that I mentioned earlier in he quotes a number of that they cursed but he says because there was to protect to maintain theover that was a Jeopardy in other words the basic CL is there is a and when it's necessary D did it yes did it and and did it in inar but I told someone I think this a very good bit of advice if someone doesn't curse and he comes at live says why didn't you curse why didn't they bother you he says I was afraid to it was your children he's okay guaranteed but say why did you curse I couldn't be and the burst out and laughing you couldn't be what about your so it's much safer to Bea you know you don't curse because you're afraid the's child again we find it very much throughout T I'll tell you one story that puts in perspective you was the ad of the I'm sure he was a someone once said in his presence about another so let me ask you a question let's say this ye dies and he has no children what's with his wife right why the says and these what a beautiful attitude not to be and the only exception of course is that's his name because he was the unar but anybody to curse anybody a beautiful story we have aab someone came into the and M was time in a terrible way and on the spot he suffered he went muga literally went muga and he went so much sugar he ran to the lake jumped in the lake and committed suicide and they came back and there was a big write up cursed him and we have a letter I saw the letter I never cursed another ye but I will say he got his because he played around with t put called his SP his Spade but he said I never said I never curse another ye so this is the advice we have from the that that cursing should not be used I once heard someone I guess he wanted to show how right he was if I said about someone else who was alive I don't know if he knows what that meant we find said and says now what does it mean I know it sounds pretty exciting you say dramatically what does it mean so the I know which the one is that fill your mouth with dirt so you won't talk so much but there's another shot by a mace they put the offer in his mouth so you're talking about a s he says that is it should happen to him what happened to the which is also called so it's interesting I once always SPO the ra the RA in beginning of I quot Aristotle so even he's talking about the Russ Aristotle he says but how could it's people are not thinking how we have to be careful he says the brothers came back the son of Y came back and they said about this Russian M this wicked Vice Roy he's framing us he said we did things wrong and he's terrible terrible terrible so what does what how did yob respond he sent them a gift and he saids don't worry go back and and hopefully things will work out pointed out imagine if yob would have cursed that Russ go that that shake it who would he destroyed his b the son Y and I think there's a here because lost ra because of the wrong word because when they were when they they accuse him of taking the TR said no whoever did it and happened to and now he was Ming it whatever that means with y y was so it is a hear of not to not to shoot out a word because words are very meaningful just give you a dogma of of how is is is focused on every little thing the question is is a Russia allowed to be M himself because you allow to M Russia so can't be why because is also I saw the that's the he has a question ra says if someone's he gets but if he's himself he becomes so he says he becomes a Russ in the same second that he cursed himself so why does he get malus so he says he thinks the ter is pit because he's getting malus not for the is of because there's no he's getting for the is of so he's that I mentioned earlier the is is not for the the is is for the but that gives meaning in like we said when we say things even inadvertently don't don't shouldn't be probably the most challenging question is cursing Lis someone not listening to bz does bz have the right to give him a CLA so the EMES as I mentioned earlier is repl with instances that people gave other people Claus he was there was a CL there was a we don't even say the word we say there's a concept of I'll give you a mus N I don't if you even knows a little history you look atas they written on 200 years ago and further back the bulk of the was not about the greatness of the M you know what it was protecting the rights the copyrights of the I'll read you one just one wrote that as gim writes if he doesn't listen to you to we know so there's something very very important about maintaining a certain control a certain Law and Order so was a curse but bigger curse if even don't listen to bin some there's a person M to come to din so what do you do it has to be some type of control I saw a beautiful stickle from in he says a CL which you see repeatedly the more you learn the more you see the CL this not not everything is always aome it depends how it's used and he gives so many there's an of but you're allow to ha a Russ you can't be someone but you're allow to hit to hit malus and a father is allowed to hit child at least before America but you're allowed to hit a child I'm one of is and in other words is terrible but the same that permitted it but of course the big question we say mus mus 10 times is make sure it's a legitimate don't forget the very wise advice of don't curse another don't be another because it's he gets first punishment and then he says and I quote because the says you're causing me to punish him I'm going to punish you and is D cursed Y and all the calls came back to CU don't forget one of the with it comes back to the person so there is a but don't forget that make sure that they really is a but one final point I think is important to mention that the point is the of words are are just something is unfathomable you know imagine a person got a license to have a gun but he was a person that did things right he got a machine gun he didn't how to use it so he went in the street and he was showing it and he held up show and he and he shot and killed 37 people so they throw him into jail it comes to the judge and IM she's crying judge why are you doing this to me I didn't mean it it's not my fault I don't how to use the gun because that's why I'm putting you in jail for life you have something as potent and and dangerous as a gun you don't how to use it this is really the point of of the it's we have to realize and never forget the but we like to always be more positive you know the the of it when someone watches his words when he the way he learns the way he talks with people so he has a and that's the of you know Stern quotes he has become about someone an old old yid he was very old and very sick he refused to go to the doctor so the family begged him you know you have to go to the doctor because I not going to the doctor I know I'm going to live long cuz when I was a little child I in the's clo that was a St of the and once I didn't realize but I was stepping I was standing on his tius I was on the ground I was stepping on it so the going this are words that we have told his child he should live a long time but I have to go please give me my Talis and the said that and I'm no going to live a long time and he lived so I said this someone say he knows a he knew a year in Melbourne Australia a year that was Mish in his 90s and so active and he said why because when he was once a young child he helped down when he got he helped him down from the stage and Le now this is the of I don't know if the probably the said it he meant it but just like there's there's to quot we find the concept of andw but does it work says in famous story he said something he didn't mean it but so so says you see from here that there's a thats without just like a gar does damage whether you have or not words have an effect whether you do kav or not he says but an average person because he is's not careful with his lotion he blunts it he dulls the the sharpness but a true his is so powerful it has effect and that's used to say if someone doesn't profane his words I'll leave you this story my family my stolen he had his mother once went they were very close the very close and she asked says now this this B I knew very well I remember when it happened she was very sick and she was not yet bank's age few years earlier and the family was were very very worried there's no hope for tomorrow she lived a few weeks after she lived a little longer she passed away but it wasel they don't know how she lived so many weeks in such a condition so one of my cousins also anle he said he couldn't he could be he didn't like this he went to told him the story he says I don't know I don't believe in you know but how could he 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