Halachot For Purim

uh well I mean we're going to discuss pouring a little bit more once we get a little closer to it uh the mcgillat stem is something that you have to hear from a person uh from a person you cannot uh listen to it on Zoom you cannot listen to it uh on a uh a recording you have to listen to it from a person if you are concerned about coronavirus and things of that nature then you have to arrange for somebody uh to come to your house and read the Magilla for you uh I would uh suggest that if you have somebody like that in your community to already make it uh Arrangements now and uh make sure that you are giving him some money and promising to give him some money for doing it ahead of time so he actually shows up uh this is typically there is at least one person in every Jewish Community if not more that goes around different houses and reads the megilla for the sake of the women uh every year the women have a tough time going to the mcneset uh to hear the megillah so usually there's somebody that goes to the houses and reads the miguelot for them so if you have somebody like that in your community uh then make arrangements for him to come to your house and read the Magilla but if you're gonna have you know 10 people in your house uh then uh really there's no reason for you to bring anybody to your house to to read the Magilla just go to the Magnificent you already have a lot of people it doesn't really make sense that if you can have all your friends come to the house anyway listen to the Magilla instead of you know being selfish just everybody go to the business and hear it but either way remember that poem is a uh is it has several one of them is to heal the megillah is also to give the uh makatsita shekin which is actually starting this week to give them is based on a third of the value of an ounce of silver which is approximately ten dollars we're gonna start a campaign like we do every year for anyone that wants to donate their machacita for us to give it to uh to poor people uh that's uh one Mitzvah of uh pulling there's also matanotle of unim which is a uh a separate Mitzvah to give to the poor uh and then there's also Mishra so these are other mix both in Purim you have to make sure that you fulfill all of those getting drunk is not an obligation in uh in in Purim uh what a person should do is to drink a little bit more than what he drinks during the year uh but if he knows that uh that he has even a one percent chance a one percent chance of making a sin as a result of him getting drunk because that's how he is he's the type of guy that uh makes sense says stupid things does stupid things once he's a little tipsy then he should not drink uh wine to the point of getting drunk but rather drink just a little bit more than what he drinks typically so let's say for example if he drinks a little bit uh like this during the year then he should drink just literally one percent more and that's it go to sleep without getting drunk without getting a buzz without getting nothing just go to sleep and wake up later that day that's what the rambam says that he should drink and go to sleep he doesn't say drink to get drunk uh so the point is is that people that get drunk as a result of uh them wanting to fulfill the Mitzvah and because they're fulfilling this so-called Mitzvah of theirs they end up making a bunch of sins they start cursing they start making all types of other crimes and they they act like uh a uh fools Hashem and so on not only is another Mitzvah it's a sin and it's a sin that they're gonna have to pay very dearly for and like I said it's highly highly recommended not to drink not to drink on poor him unless that drinking makes you servation better because you know yourself that when you drink you have more hidushi you're more comfortable sharing you're you're more likely to sing because typically you're a shy person so now you're gonna sing and dance and celebrate the Day that's fine but if you know that as a result of drinking you're gonna start falling over yourself possibly punching your friend yelling at your wife hurting your kids looking like a fool do not drink you're not allowed it's a sin it's a sin it's a sin and that sin is a lot more dear than any Mitzvah you can possibly imagine so it's most important for people to know that the uh the Pulliam is a auspicious time to pray to akados it's an auspicious time to pray that God doesn't know who there's the fastest the time of poem itself with an auspicious time to pray to akadas bohu because that's a time that who gave us a uh a uh uh Salvation so if you're gonna be a drunk fool during that time not only are you making sense but also you're missing out on an opportunity to pray at a day that akrosbah who is uh known to have given us our Salvation whether that salvation is your own personal salvation together good health and so on and so forth or is to pray for Clarissa to have the same thing to have a chuva to have more Torah and so on and so forth doesn't matter point is is that you're missing on that opportunity and that's why you should spend your time on touring uh celebrating but celebrating in a Kosher Way uh so again I think most people in the community should be able able to Simply go to the show to listen to the Magilla you know you want to put those dog masks on you can put the dog masks on you don't want to put them on then obviously it's better that you just stay home and have somebody come to you and uh and uh you know cover your face when when they come because don't make them uncomfortable but uh you know the point is is that there's no uh permission to recuse yourself from those meets but you have to do whatever you can to fulfill those meats but I can tell you myself it's a uh a little difficult to fulfill them it's fine this new community that we're in because there's really nothing here you know anything that I have any synagogue that I have to go to is going to be a nice drive uh 20 minutes or so from here so we'll have to figure out where we're going please do not ask me where I'm going though I know a lot of people like to ask me oh where are you going where you go don't ask me where I'm going for two reasons number one I don't know number two just because I'm going somewhere doesn't mean I want to see you there when I go to bigness it I don't want to see anybody I want to go pray I want to leave I don't want to socialize you know I know I know that may sound nasty but let it be nasty I don't want to see people I know in a synagogue I want to go pray I want to leave so people always ask me where you going where are you going don't ask me where I'm going okay because again I don't know and also I don't want to see you with all due respect I love everybody but when I go to synagogue I want to go I want to leave that's all I want to do people want to socialize oh what are you doing then they think that it's stumped around by life start asking me every single question they had since yesterday I I don't want to do it I don't want to do it this is a uh uh especially during pouring where I have to go back home so my wife can go so again it's for anyone that's a uh asking don't ask don't ask please uh have some mercy on me holidays are and Shabbat are for my family they're not for the public thank you [Music] let me know uh what you think and make sure to share it because other people need to learn too