Halachos of the 9 Days, Rabbi Yosef Braun, 5782

last week there was a sheer by the lux of the three weeks and someone registered a complaint which there's two aspects of the complaint first of all why are we going through all these negative alarms associated with gullahs and when we know that already mashika is already here and we're standing on the threshold of gullah and the second aspect of the questions of course i mean obviously we have to keep what it says but we wait until it's not as negay instead of saying it in advance because it's probably not going to be relevant it's a legitimate complaint i wish more people would make such kind of complaints so just reminds me of something interesting that the rabbi actually once asked the question how is it that we keep the halals associated with the three weeks if we know that mashi is coming very very soon because the three weeks are because there's going to be a tish above but we don't believe there's going to be a tissue of this year and maybe there won't be a week of tishbo the middle that won't be the nine days the mail we don't have to keep the i don't keep in three weeks right now and then i've explained that [ __ ] that is a rag that writes in a number of places based on the gemaran sukkah the manastuka says that hazal made a rule like zetas tikra made a rule that you can't use boards that are wide more than a certain dimension fought [ __ ] because you might just think that if i could use these kind of boards i might as well sit in my house and you want to understand the difference that this was done with shame success but the is that even if you have boards that are wide fort [ __ ] but you twisted them on the side and now on the side it's narrower you still can use it explains that agave because once the thing receives an issue the issue applies whether the reason isn't there or not there becomes the issue asks me to use the rangachava language and rebecca brings this principle many many times so the rebbe says in this case also the reason for the three weeks is because of tish above but once there's a reason for this but the three weeks retain their own identity obviously during goals we're talking about it so as soon as the machine is going to come it's going to change but so longer and goalless even if mashik is going to come and imitate he will come in the next moment but at this moment it retains its own identity that was the explanation that every once gave so it's good for the rabbits good for us but it reminded me of something else that it was a fabling that beheld that every few times health blame is an elvish and one occasion that ever said that he was looking very hard because of it or the mater i worked very hard to find a hater that i could bring tonight three weeks make a fabregan and the rabbit said i found a very good hatter and i don't need anything better than that that is the professional musicians that are doing this to their parnassa a lot of play instruments for paranormal reasons i mean there's restrictions to that but that's the general principle so trevor said ifa bling is a profession that's my profession this is my parnasso that's my header to do it tonight i think it was at that fabric in the yeah was it that's what lincoln would ever said that i've waited till the very very last moment and i don't want to talk about the nine days too much in advance people will start being me is the spear of coming so i waited till it's edited the night of edith i can't wait longer because these are things that people need to know before the nine days begin the purpose of their fabric was to inspire people to do things to transform goddess and bring allah before the nine days begin so here we're also in the very very last moment the ambition is magdamer davis to gives us always the cure before the wound and we have to follow the ways of hashem before the makkah before the wound of the nine days begin we already start before the nine days thinking how we're going to do this in the best way that it should get rid of the entire gullus which the basic way for that is by increasing in tolerance particularly resolving already now that during the nine days we're going to make a lot of sumim and keep all those hierarchies of that i will just mention before we get into the actual halachus one of the specific hierarchies that we gave for the nine days was that on arabic we should give sadaka the amount of food that the amount that it cost us to eat two meals matter of three meals over here in america most people eat three meals a day some people eat even more than that so we should give to dhaka on edible shredder shop before heideshev comes in how much it costs us to pay for i don't know some people eat in the restaurant some people eat just uh cereal and milk and basic sandwiches tuna fish sandwiches just for one day yeah foreign again moving on to the halachus of the nine days so i might repeat one or two things that we said last week i want to keep this stand alone sure there's some things that are negaya so if you heard it last week doesn't hurt i heard it also of the three weeks and the nine days as we know in the various kufist is the three weeks is the nine days is the week of tishbo this is perhaps you could compare it to what we have in avelus we have over there works the other way around there's an oinin the day when the person passes away before he's buried where the relatives have one level of mourning and then at the morning over there works out the way and decreases in morning after the burial there's the shiva after the shiva is destlation and after the slaughter was the entire first year so the people actually tried to match it up but we're not going to try to do that right now see which periods of the nine days in the three weeks which matches up to which category in availables but over there works that it goes down and down and over here as we get closer and closer to tish above the level of available increases so one of those categories are the week of tish above ashkenazim don't i'm not very well aware that it's such a classification called the week of tish above because for in almost all halakhas that apply in the week of tish but we keep them in the nine days or so fire them stick to the original when the original there's a major distinction and the gemara this is the mother already tells it's not a question of a minute that is halakha's that apply in the week of tishbo ashkenazim have extended many of those things to the nine days some inspired them too some start them yes some inspired them not yemenites depends on different communities have different cultures and traditions about that but the week of that actually is already mentioned the mother a lot of things he can't do haircuts laundry all those things i mentioned the government like we don't do here because for the three weeks for example even though it doesn't say then and here comes the big question what happens this year is there a week of this above is there a week of tishaw so we touched a bit about this last week but this week it's much more relevant to this week's share because this year tishma falls out on shabbos and the fast gets delayed to sunday so if the fast is the latest sunday that means the week of tishbo is that sunday or no only the fast is delayed but remains and if the week of tijuana is the whole entire week before the shabbos tishb of next week travis which has to do with how you learn when hazal pushed off the fast that ghazal originally ruled that whenever shabbos is going to be on sunday the sunday become the real time for the fast or sun is like a tash lumen it's supposed to be in travis we can't so we make up for on a sunday there's a lot of afghanistan this lundus i don't want to go into alumnus right now a child who comes by mitzvah on the 10th above sun the descent above so if you say that the fast was established to be on the tenth of so of course he has he has an obligation to fast like everybody else but if the fast was established for fish above it was just being we're making up for it he didn't have to fast on tishberg because he wasn't bar mitzvah yet so he doesn't have to make up for something that he never did wrong that's one of the one of the differences so this is a question there's no such thing linguists to be fast but let's not discuss that right now that's a myth straight out myth but even if it wouldn't be a myth we're talking about the strict right now so getting back to the subject at hand how do we define the week of tishman that has been for ashkenazim only on a few small halachus where there's a smile there's a couple a handful of halakhas where there's a distinction between the week of tishb and the nine days so in s usual there are two opinions about this does this coming week have the status of and the resolution is that strictly speaking it is not the week of tishbo but the custom is to be stringent and treated like the week of tisha now what difference does it make if it's a strict allah or a custom because any of those things which to begin with are not really us or it's only a custom so in a year like this we won't mind about it because the whole week of tishma doesn't really apply also only due to custom you follow the logic so anything which you're not allowed to do in the week of tish above we're stringent this year and we don't do it the entire week before tish above all those things which is accustomed to be stringent in the week of tish above this year to keep accustomed to do the week of tishma the week early which was to begin with only a custom we're not mock but i'll give you one example i don't want to go into all the halaquahs one example we all know that i've encouraged very much to mix human non-stop as much seem as possible including on tish above including on shabbos even though shabbos why do you need to see him for shabbos is a happy day whatever did i be encouraged very very much now the halakh is if there is a similarity meat and drink wine in the nine days the week of tish above but here comes there's a lot of there's a lot of catches to this i'll start i'll start from another angle because this is because this is there's a common talk about myths it's a common myth out there but there's a chabad custom that we don't need meet at the seam in the nine days and we have a sephiroth which lists all the chabad customs there's not such custom mention anywhere in safe manner nor in any other city but let's let's things have sometimes a minor difference in the packaging makes a big difference the custom is that the rebel asha would make a seam even though he didn't have meat and wine and not that we don't eat meat and wine because the theme we make a seam even when we don't have meat of wine now let's go back to the root where did this come from so by the polar shack siding they had a big deal about making cinnamon in the nine days with the purpose of eating meat that was the purpose and why did they want to eat meat not because they were balotiva because they felt it's in special indian to transform the same principles that we hear from the river many times to transform the nine days into happy days and therefore we could go and eat meat and drink wine and make it into a proper simcha that's the right thing to do and this is brought from many tell me about it there's no there was no such kabat tradition until we heard from the rebbe about this what happened was that due to health reasons happy meat he had to meet in the nine days also so according to our luck a person for health reasons needs to meet is there's a large amount of room for leniency a delivery shop is not looking to get off the hook and therefore he made sure to make a theme because he wanted to do it in the right way here comes the catch that never said but he didn't want to make the toyota cardamom he didn't want to make toilet or something which we use out in order to be able to have meat so what did he do he made sure to make human even on days when he didn't eat meat so some days he made a seam and he ate meat but he con continued making consume even on other days so shouldn't be perceived he shouldn't use out the seam only for me so i'm not making the same all the time no there's nobody like dude who takes a story of the debate makes it into her lesson for the whole entire clause so now that i've pushed us into a lesson therefore it's hour and we should make seen as much as possible eat me you don't eat meat just makes even because we learned this from the rabbit and we find by the palestinians that have quote us all the time they used to make seem all the time so never push their agenda assume him in the llamas in the 1970s that never pushed us very much on from there onwards until then there was no such thing as about to mix human again that doesn't mean we're not letting meat it means the agenda is team the agenda is not meat now if it's a real genuine seam and there's no real you're not doing it for the meat it's a real theme and there's nothing wrong with the scene and nothing wrong with the people that were invited there's nothing wrong essentially with eating meat says that straightforward if there's no bad custom that goes against the best of my knowledge but this restrictions what's called a scene what's not called the scene and there's so many rules about that for example that many players can say and i'll let her rush or delay the theme so to come out in the 90s the our place couldn't say that there's also restrictions about who you invite at first of all many people make assume they never learned from a sector but that's not a discussion whatever they just went through it they have no idea what they did so if it's a real scene and it wasn't scheduled for the niners it's a real genuine scene the second thing we have to talk about is who are you inviting uh all of a sudden the whole entire class you throw became your friends because uh we have a chance to eat meat i had a child who had to travel yesterday to the catskills last night two hours long and then two hours back so he asked me if he's allowed to hear music listen to music while he's driving during the night he drove throughout the entire night so i told him no you're not allowed to you know music you must listen to music i don't let you drive without listening to music especially dangerous because i want them to be a safety issue because this is going to stay up and even as it was my daughter which was in the car started getting worried and he's a bit tired with a lot of deers on the way and we had people from the family kept on calling him just to keep him awake so he made the comment he said who wants to hear music we have a head of music if you come with me in the car want something to come along with him the accounting right we have to hear music so all of a sudden yeah everybody's coming to the scene everybody's your buddy everybody's your friend these are people he would normally not even invite so in halakha there are restrictions who you can invite to such a theme you can't just unhide everyone so they are posting that mentioned that there are places where they made a meaning that for me they they shouldn't have to make an issue who comes and who doesn't come and everybody is welcome if you're serving fish and serving rice it's open anybody could come so they also have lack restrictions about who could come to the scene who can't gonna say what's called the scene what's not coliseum but leslie would be a real seam and a person was learning rambam and today a couple years ago we finished rambam in the nine days it wasn't planned for nobody was planning to make to be able to eat meat and a person really learns ramen every day and this is his share in which they're learning rambam so of course you should make a scene you should make it with me also not doing anything anything unusual so here there comes a halacha that in the week of tishbo that says you can't just invite this restriction on inviting is only a minion and close relatives that's for the week of tish above you can you cannot survive other people if it's in the nine days but not the week of this month you can invite other people people that would normally come but the week of tishbo the restriction is a bit tighter for a scene with meat obviously we're talking about only if it's craving absolutely this relatives which are not cautious to be a this view because they're close relatives and a minion so now this year which one is the week of this above this is i said i'm going to give you just one example but the example took some time to explain so the margin of ram says this thing that we only invite certain people the week of tishbo and other people we don't invite this whole restriction isn't strictly found on the gamut it's a custom that developed and when it comes to this custom for in a year like this we don't have to be so particular and worry about the week of tishbo the week before because it's actually not the week of tish above so therefore we don't care about what's the week of tishma not the week of this week we're only going to worry about it on the following week which is anyhow that's an example where the week of tishbo does not apply this year in some things it does something else but in most things this has no relevance for us because in most things we treat all the nine days like the week of tishaw now having said that introduction let's go to a number of actual halachas one of the things that the mother says applies same with the mission that says that when of comes then you decrease happiness says so too when other comes we increase happiness and then explains you just that's that's that's very nice about other when you're comparing it to us when we talk in the month of other we're saying it's like in the month of so that ever tells us bishop is faker that the minimizing of the symmetry of is all for the purpose of other to be able to transform the negativity into light it all increases the similar other when there's a famous joke they say that what's the definition of of which day is the happiest day which day is a saturday it's very simple you start increasing symphony when the month of other comes go up and up and up and never told you to stop so you keep it going higher and higher and higher until this kind and the mission says do we decrease in similar motherboards it is accidental many times that i have a quote from the name of the moon the moon i haven't seen it in the moon i thought another sodom but there were quotes the name of the moon catcher obviously that's not the simple meaning that's now there's no such thing as a vaccination so how does siddhis come and and this is magnum this is father famous not going to have a lot to complain about hasidim so obviously we're talking about two different types of simcha this which is minimize according to and this which according to is supposed to be increased the sim card is supposed to be as wrong as always if not more the simran gash means matters that we should cut down on and since we believe the ultimate simcha comes from kedus so really the month of over really be very very happy because we're decreasing in the gas music is already a safer two barracus which is a talmud of from the gurihar diesel from that group uh an individual by the name but in those things that it says we're not supposed to be doing that the the the gives us the guidance so one of the examples of decreasing in simcha is massive business happy business not too many people are aware of such allah you're supposed to cut down in your business in the month of and the reason for that is because the placement said nowadays we're very lenient about this about cutting out a business because out nowadays all the business that we do is considered paranasal you know the business just a pleasure of business that in paranas we're in gullits we're stuck we we we have difficult times and today's indonesia has been accepted to be lenient about the business of simcha but building of simcha and purchases of simcha not business and planting of somehow that's actually mentioned that's part of what is that starts from the beginning of so building of simcha is nice painting nice expansion renovations so if a person is building not because he needs a dwelling place but what's called he wants to expand that he's not supposed to be doing painting a home so yesterday someone asked me the pieces are falling down from their roof and if it's because it's not being painted for who knows how many years and that's not called painting that's called painting you shouldn't have things that fall down on top of your head which is not safe and wallpaper on the wall that's that's not necessary maybe today's image is considered necessary but it's still a lot of ah alma there's a custom that became that's mentioned in some place when some people had a custom they wouldn't rinse the floor map the floor in the nine days they could they consider that also some form of simcha alpidin there's no problem with doing that i'll be doing there's no problem during the week of tishbo certainly if it's done for shabbas there wasn't even a minute for that certainly if the floor stained there was no meaning for that either but it was like cutting on and doing things to make it fancy i guess people who would map the floor maybe you know it was an occasion they were going off the floor so you know what i can do in a month above one thing which makes sense which person says you shouldn't do is shining the floor shining the floor is clearly done with tynuk it's not a necessity that's like sierra vapor that's like painting making nice um engravings in the wall so we we don't shine the floor and waxing the floor that's kind of thing we don't do the nine days putting down a new carpet buying a new carpet so when it comes to renovations you need to know this is renovations which is people need and they're just thrilled the place can realize is a major major problem with apartments for in the light there's a real estate crisis so therefore a lot of placements are all extremely leaner to build buildings in the light because then you have a way to live therefore you have nowhere to live so that's not called obama do you have a place to live it's not called binus but some to do renovations in the house which usually we know that the style the way it's done in in in our community often the renovation is because you want to expand you have a bigger kitchen and a nicer kitchen and you have a what is it called an aisle and and the breakfast bar and all those kind of things that just extra kind of stuff extra kind of stuff you don't do in the nine days the person got a good a contractor and the glacier contractor started already before the nine days this doesn't apply to everything it's not everything you started before nice let it continue so since a guy is a contractor a contractor actually is considered that he's working for himself there's a day worker who gets paid for the job that means he's working for you a contractor he has a job to do and you payment and set him out for the job so you have a gracious contract he's allowed to continue working in the nine days same if you have a go issue contractor who's painting the home also in theory you'd be allowed to but over here the price can say that if you go to the gun you can ask him you know what here here's a couple of dollars do me a favor wait another few days you should really try to do that tough enough if you do because it's stuck not appropriate to paint a home in the nine days shoes we have no problem building and painting putting up a fence which is a sakana it's a mitzvah actually to put up a fence no problem even on tish above a wall which is about to fall even if it wouldn't be sakana i don't know how it's possible to have a wall which is about to full which won't be sakana and even if it's simcha for some reason to fix up this wall but since the person's gonna have a loss of money because if a wall falls he has to pay a lot of money to fix it up that's also he's not doing it for him he's doing it to to not lose money planting trees for shade for beauty flowers you know all those kind of things that's not appropriate that's called bini shall sit in the tia there's nothing wrong with blind buying flowers people that buy flowers for shabbos especially if they do this every single week nothing with buying flowers but planting a simple is a problem purchases which are similar what's purchases of semiconductors so we said business is not a problem and we do it for paranosa so if business is not a problem a person needs a car for business because that's the only means that he could do for transportation he's allowed to buy a car but he's buying a car for his home actually it's much more serious because that's not considered that's a it's not part of the paradise it's something it's an extra thing to have you don't have to have a car so you really shouldn't do that in the nine days buying spoons forks that's basically considered basic usage buying silver dishes buying the things for the house fancy crusher furniture those are the kind of things you shouldn't be buying in the nine days new clothing obviously now that i won't buy now we know about this not buying new clothing in the three weeks when the three weeks is purely a minute and not everybody has accepted that minig when it comes to the nine days that's part of the mission of muhammad and bessemer it's already much more serious and therefore we're not even if there's a sale all those kind of things yeah she's not supposed to buy clothing the nine days unless it's for a mitzvah like a new pair of children not not a new talent because the talus is the government film is not a garment film is a mitzvah item a talos or talos cotton is a garment you really shouldn't be buying it in the nineties i'm not talking about if the person talus is ripped and doesn't have another talus and you can't borrow towels from someone else or he's uh sensitive to other people and he can't really wear someone else's stuff i'm not talking about that a question my grandfather asks and his say friend a lot of contemporary person talk about this this comes up every single year people who don't have sneakers for tishov so they're buying for tischev and of course they wake up in the middle of the nine days you're not supposed to buy it says clearly mean alum kardashian so if you hear the post malinian that that um if he's buying it purely for available purposes and he's not going to wear in the nine days he's only going to wear on tish above and he has no other sneakers then there's an exception he could buy sneakers in the nine days this all falls under the category of of this is all like i said mentioned in the mishnah then there's things that the mother tells us in the week of tishb the things that are forbidden and one of the things it talks about in the in the in the the mother is laundry our customer has been to take this gemara about laundry and extend it all the way through the whole entire nine days sfardem are not so particular about that so when let's talk about laundry is that a person is not going to do laundry in the nine days even if he's doing it after the nine days even if he's traveling a lot of people quote this had to if you're traveling after tish above they let it do laundry in the nine days the only thing is but they didn't realize that this is a hetero which is first of all a questionable header and according to the elite have another place come even then you only threw a guy could do laundry but other very important things they're talking about in a situation in those days we travel somewhere and have no we could do laundry now there is no such thing that you came to a location where you can't do laundry there's almost no location which doesn't have a laundromat or a washing machine or something so you don't have a washing machine in your house okay so you have to go somewhere else it's very hard to rely on that header nowadays so should not be done the nine days whether you're gonna wear an hour later not even giving a garment to the cleaners which they don't use actual water i don't know what to use um it doesn't only apply to clothing it applies to tablecloths applies to towels applies to all kinds of things applies to your clothing or clothing of a guy it applies to giving you clothing to a gaucher cleaner to a ghost laundromat your ladder gift a gaucho laundromat before the nine days even if she's gonna end up doing it uh in the nine days applies to a schaetler shaital is a garment straight was not here now since in a straight list more room for legacy based on a number of different factors which i'm not going to go into but in the week of tish above we'd wait us or to actually do laundry it's not just a minig then even a straighter should not be done as one of the advantages of shadel of other over other garments is besides the fact that it's not for beauty fitness and all that is there's a special called somebody stuck with only one garment i don't know what that means today's day and age means that today's day and age a woman opens her wardrobe and she said and she's full of plug she says i have nothing to wear like like men open the fridge which is a stacked fridge they say have nothing to eat over here so i don't know what that means there's nothing in today's day and age i've never met such kind of people but in such a concept so much so that the person can talk about when a person watches laundry when an english that when a person's washing laundry only has one one cloak one robe you can actually see that he has only one rope because he's wearing a special belt because he doesn't have what to wear right while he's doing his laundry so he's his belt that he's wearing right now is indicating everybody sees no one is going to think they allow to come to talk about kalamood that he lighted the laundry in holland because they see that he has no clothing they see he's not he doesn't even know what to wear while he's doing his laundry so we're talking about casey really the guy has only one piece of clothing so sit sit right now i think you should hold on tight to your chairs now the person can say yeah but we're not that machman the whole nine days since this is a crazy situation where he has only one piece of article of clothing i'm gonna talk the practical relevance of this so if we don't the nine days the halal of washing clothing only applies in the the strict allah was only the week of tishbo swear them only keep it in the wake of this well so a person has only one article of clothing to be machine on him the whole entire so now let me go back to the shaytal a sheitel is a classic example of ayla hello now there's some women that have ten shades i agree but often a shadow can be a woman has only one shaytan and the shaytan needs a wash she has only one cloak one garment it happened i mean she has many other garments but from the head she only has one garment so in this case to wash the schaetel before the week of tishbo this wiggle room when it comes the week of tish above that's going to be much harder to be allowed to wash the shredder even if because even if you have only one garment you know during the week of tish above and because this is not just a minig that even this year which is not really the week of tish well you shouldn't be washing the shreddle the entire week before tishrov that doesn't apply it doesn't apply to setting a shape to combing the shadow to shortening the shape doesn't find anything i'm talking about physically washing now i'm i'm going to talk soon about what do you do with mom and she just talked with i'm going to talk about that in a second i'm going to go let's just say that over here from soon as you wanted to ask me about yeah everybody's going to ask that question um washing clothing is is a pro is not a problem if you're doing it because you don't want to lose money or lose clothing for example somebody called me tonight they have bed bugs all over having exterminated coming to the house exterminated have to be out of the house for two this is a serious issue and after two days they have to wash all their laundry oh they're not the laundry but all their all their linen they're a lot of washington tonight that was their question a lot of watching the nine days watching if there's mo to avoid mold this is the whole issue of washington is has had a small village you're taking your mind off morning but here you're watching currently because you don't want to lose lose your linen and lose your clothing for kids so although the meaning is that we don't wash clothing of clothing for kids and if the kids that soil their clothing all the time which is approximately about six years old there's no problem whatsoever but over six a minute because they wouldn't wash their clothing but there's a lot of room for leniency that's only a meaning there's a lot of room for leniency particularly this year where there's no real week of tish above again i'm told my washing for kids they need to have clothing right now i'm not telling you you're washing because you want to have half the tissue the same way we now want to wash clothing most another put on laundry freshly laundered clothing freshly laundered clothes means that you didn't wear before the nine days if you want it once before the nine days that's not freshly laundered now this is something which is relevant for tonight and tomorrow because it's freshly laundered clothing tala has straight from the gemara and the gemara doesn't say the nine days it was the week of tishma but how many is the entire nine days so the person can bring an eighth over if you're living in a place which is a hot place you're not one of those people that are going to be managing sticking to the same clothing for nine days straight and this year 10 days so they give you an ace you could put on all those clothing before the nine days begin which clothing are we talking about so the meaning is that when it comes to clothing which is made purely to absorb sweat like undergarments socks especially nowadays that everybody is nobody is going to stick to the same undergarments for 10 days there's no such thing i know a particular individual not that does it all the time that nine days was very very magma everybody knew about it so so um now we're very very making when it comes to garments of undergarments that's not considered a similar that's not considered that's not what's included when the shogunate talks about laundry laundering clothing but shirts pants suits how much more so dresses those kind of things that it is to put them all on before the nine days begin i'll talk in a second how to how you do that exactly now you i see you're you're not only you but everybody is desperate to find out what i said but what i said before that if you only have one garment the halal is the ladawah shouldn't wear but not in the week of tisha which means in this year since this is halacha then even this year the whole entire week before tijuana the person has only one garment he's not gonna wash it which means all those karmas became sold in a lot of that's the halacha now i'm talking about that right um so if i talk about washing a stain a stain is not for washing clothing an isolated stain especially if it's obvious and it's ugly and it's cover that please have a stain on the gum you want to wash that individual stain that's not a problem but here we're talking about well there's no stain in it it's just not comfortable to wear the same undergarment or even over garments shirts every day one after another so again the spirit allah is you're not allowed to so what do you think about you don't wash it in a case where a person is not just uncomfortable but there's extreme extreme tsar for example undergarments or even over garments where it's past embarrassing to walking down the street because it's obvious what's going on over here in this case this hatter to wash mamashvam is the bare minimum so knows i make a distinction between just the plain principle of which that's not a hetero or where it becomes a serious issue of cover debris or target uncomfortable is not a hatter i i always watch every single day tough well that's what the nine days are about that was a mistake that we lost and there's things that we lose out because of that and we have to know that the big deal that i won't be able to wash my clothing is like when i tell people when you're going camping for three days and there's no place to do laundry and there's no place to do showers what do you do then because for the for the thrill of camping we do that right and the thrill or the hypercar thrill of basilicaine of the smithsonian was destroyed okay but we don't take it that seriously because it happened 1900 years ago and doesn't affect us on a day-to-day life but if a person is blind and meditates and contemplates the fact that the bismillah was being destroyed right now at this very moment like the famous secret that ever says that even a person on this heart of stone would feel that then or something i do have what they change i don't know what the change like a person is in a stress start situation when there's a real real crazy situation he doesn't even care about these things until it becomes pushed unbearable and it's not fear to people around you that's a whole different story so when it comes to such a situation then if it's undergarments the best thing is actually not to wash the best thing is to buy new undergarments because buying new clothing with undergarments is not really considered a simcha it's not like clothing but since now that we're freshly laundered or new clothing so the only eights that we have and we get stuck at some of those nine days so there is the trick of putting it on the floor which normally that's not ideal but if the guy is stuck so he'll buy new on the garments put on the floor when i say the floor i don't mean on the carpet i i don't mean on in inside the house i mean on the actual floor on the earth that's considered putting on the floor and and that's the best thing to do if you can't buy new clothing passions nor to buy new clothings let them just wash my mushrooms what it needs and put on the floor when it comes to over garments over there buying is a much more serious issue so we let him wash the one garment that he needs the one garment something which has been in between undergarments and over garments is a shirt shirt is like in between because a short does absorb a lot of sweat but it's not a garment just purely for sweat it's not like a suit so the day of a person whatever the beer minimum moments where the person needs again strictly speaking another washing to fill the only one garment but if it's mama she can't go around like that let him wash what he needs put on the floor and rely on that i was saying before so the way to avoid all of these problems is before the nine days to prepare the clothing before now what are you supposed to do tonight and tomorrow to prepare before the nine days you put it on how long do you put it on what do you do so the only thing that we really have to worry about is is the shirts that's the biggest issue it's not a undergarments we said there's no problem to wear freshly laundered undergarments the problem is washing right there's no problem wearing undergarments those who want to be mahmoud some people are even with undergarments and they put them all on before the nine days that's like a bit extreme um if you want to be max in the week of tishma you should be making about it before the week of tish web and this year you don't even have to imagine that oh so you want you want to be mad put them on the floor well you don't have to do the whole thing of putting on every single pair of sacks and every single undershirt and every single pair of underwear because the minigames that we only care about about over garments not laundering about wearing freshly laundered so how long do you put on your shirt for it's hard to give a number of it on it the shack right in the this over there is about an oval who wants to wear put on a shirt so he gives it to someone else to wear for a short while tishbo we can't do that because everybody's available but an oval could give it to someone else to wear another person wears a short aisle and he gives it to you how much is that short while so the shah says and then he means says hour but it doesn't mean an hour on the clock it means a considerable amount of time so how much rabbi how much is the considerable amount of time the considerable amount of time is the amount of time that it takes that it won't have the pleasure of something which is freshly wandered i can't give you a number but it's if it's it's worn it doesn't feel like something that wasn't worn while phrase it differently something that you would mind if someone else wore it before you for that amount of time so somebody puts on something for a second most people don't mind but from wherever a while and you start feeling that you wore it 20 minutes half an hour whatever it's hard to give an exact number in it that's considered it was one before some by the way some place give an interesting acer and they say like this fire them keep these alarms only the week of tish above ashkenaz and keep it for nine days so instead of putting on all your clothing give it to asparty to wear before the week of tisha because he could put it on but instead of bothering someone else just be prepared in advance and you could do it on out of description tonight and tomorrow yeah not tomorrow night tonight and tomorrow day lukavic shabbos this does not apply lakova chavez he allowed to put on like every shabbos including shabbos kazan you put a lot of power on freshly laundered clothing now meaning is the way daft bigger shabbos not like ashkenazim who are the non-hasidim who we're there they know where the shop is clothing not new clothing blue under clothing new clothing in all the way even a shabbos and we put a freshly laundered tablecloth on the table but that doesn't give us a license to put on freshly laundered linen for shabbos that is not heater for that freshly laundered tablecloth freshly laundered clothing that you like to do for shabbos some people by the way suggest that's an it's also somebody didn't prepare well enough in advance so he could use other shabbos for that friday night one shirt shabbos day another shirt and slowly so it's supposed to be obvious in such a way that it's not considered preparing for the weekday so if he's gonna put on a blue shirt on travis because he wants to prepare all this clothing for the nine days then it's gonna be obviously preparing for the weekday or if he's gonna put up his thing and say oh this uh you know have a good chat i could do it now and do it later the minute you're saying it you're gonna make it obviously you're preparing for the weekday if you don't say anything and it doesn't look i mean people do change the shirt occasionally on the shabbos and he puts in a shirt friday night and then after the meal puts on another one a shot this morning and he comes back from the family and another one so you could work with the shabbos in between gives you a bit of leeway but really true will be done before the 90s begin one of the other halakhas in the nine days is meat and wine it's not asa medina gemara not to eat meat and drink wine medina gamara even adif tishberg lady meat and drink wine unless it's actual sudama but this became an established issue and the person writes that somebody who eats meat and drinks wine in the nine days or on those places where they keep this meaning in the week of tishma when the week of tishma toilets gather children's chinese breaching a fence which was made by the early authorities who paid us together is somebody who breaches a fence a snake comes and bites them a snake means the rabbinic there's been a curse on people that play and try to breach manhattan because they say oh it's only a meaning so it's a very serious meaning when we talk about this meaning of not eating meat that includes chicken that includes things that are cooked with meat not something that's cooked in a pot of meat in response to the question that was asked before about the what do you call those things in the back sternos so do you have to change the sternos we have to change the wires you could have even keep the same exact tray allow to use a pot that was a flay sugar pot even if it was used that day for flagships that's not a problem but food that was cooked with flesh even if you have onions that were cut with a flay sugar knife which would bust the bacon particularly about this but not for the halals of the nine days that's not considered flashing for the purpose of the nine days kids is the difference to our kids on the sticks when that went out mahmur why knows if we don't drink and that includes grape juice and includes food that has wine in it but it doesn't include mascara and it doesn't include beer it doesn't anything which doesn't have wine in it now when it comes to benching since we're not so machmer during the year always to do kosher on wine to me so therefore you can't all of a sudden be holy and all of a sudden even if you do it always when you have him as women because if you really hold that kosher black as a necessity you would have to do it even when you bench privately so we obviously don't hold questions as a necessity and therefore you we don't make her we don't bench on a case or you give it to a child when it comes to half dollar so that's what we do comes up that will give it to a child we don't drink to why we give it to a child now the child has to be a child that is the age of number one because he's being judged with my brother gotham kingdom because if a person is not the age of being yates abdullah i can't have him drink the wine i have done throughout me being yetzer he's not old enough he's not mature enough to mourn your shalom so an older kid who's already almost by mitzvah we would assume is an already mature favela singer a young kid that's a little kid is not even the age of kennefa abdullah from february so it's an in-between kind of age so i often joke and say people asking what's the age of us in shalom i say that unfortunately now there's many people that are 40 and i am adjourned off in in the novellas but usually it means like a kid normally between about six and eleven is normally as sort of the the age so that we give it to a child if there is no child you just make you drink it yourself because really allowed to drink the wine for abdullah because wine of a mitzvah but we give it to a child now often what happens is we give we we some people ask the question my child's like wine should i make a dollar grape juice no makeup dollar online and if a child doesn't drink wine you drink it because it's only a hitter to give it to the child but we're not going to give it to a child because of that cut down on the way you're supposed to make a dollar properly the father makes the guffin and his might see the child now what happens oftentimes is you make that guff and you tell the child in advance that he has should have been might have a mind to be yourself and then he tries to drinking and says he doesn't want to drink and there goes my bracha or he doesn't he gives up not even before he starts so that's a serious problem because then you have to make again by your paragraph because when you made a very proud muffin your intention was for the child not for you to drink that's what we call nimlax you obviously have to make a new berry guffin if the child went and you said very prayer guffin and then the child went a lot of kids do they make again because they used to every time they take it to hashem they're trained very well and make again a better prayer guffin don't start thinking oh that means my bread breakfast for nothing that means i should drink also now you better but it wasn't for nothing the child had a problem they made a very prayer girlfriend but uh you shouldn't drink the wine no it has to be daft a boy woman is a macho if you have admitted all together so once i was just finished let me send you a question and answer this question then my flights of women have the mitzvah of abdullah altogether that's one of the reasons why if a man a man may have dollar ready zlatan may have dollar again for for another man because there's a concept of arvus that we're responsible for every single year so therefore even if i did a mitzvah myself i can make a bracha to exempt another person it's best that he does himself because when it comes to a loan you could always go to the guarantor but first you're supposed to go to the guy that owes you the money if he doesn't have money you go to the guarantor we're guarantors for all claudius at all so therefore i'm allowed to make kiddish for other people i don't make a dollar for other people but first the person themselves supposed to do it so if a person can't make kiddush themselves either because they don't like why more because they don't know how to read the kiddush whatever it is so i can make kids for them even if i already made kiddish same with abdullah however a man cannot make half dollar for a woman if he's already made half a dollar because there's a debate where the women have the mystery of a dollar all together so if a woman makes abdullah itself no problem women do a lot of misses that are not obligated women bench make up they don't even have the mitzvah love they make abraham lulu they could do that so whether they're obligated they can make abdullah that's not a problem but for me to go make abdullah for a woman i'm in ibrahim for someone i already heard abdullah and i can't say because i'm responsible for her because who says she has a mitzvah together so if i can make half dollar for a woman once i made half a dollar that's how long that people have to know when you go to school and listen i've done surely can make a gang of dollars for your wife she has to make herself but not but now back to your question so if i'm going to make if if i'm going to make a dollar i want someone else to drink has to be someone who has the a child a male child has a rive a female child to begin with we don't know if she has a here so she has to be has to be a man so you can ask me a question yeah you could do it cause you're doing for the child that's fine that's not a problem no no no no i said that before drink it yourself not only that you don't have to be no make online that's what we said before if you have a child they give it a job you don't have a child you drink drinking yourself you'll not even go to some people say no i shouldn't drink that much wine i have to make sure drink only the beer minimum there's no such thing you may have dollar wine you later drink it if there's a child you give it to the child this is by the way particularly relevant this year because tishburgh is delayed to sunday and therefore we make abdullah sunday night and there's a lot of people that can fast mr norman's going to be fasting this year but we're talking now the goddess plan part of our honor machine has to learn how goddess so then it's going to be the extreme thing we learn all those just a theoretical so we're preparing for that now by already learning now all the gala and having said that so since the fast is delayed and the people that can fast particularly this year it's even more lenient about alexa fasting so people who don't fast have to make half dollar so if a woman is breaking her fast a woman that's expecting or nursing whatever it is which will very lean to about in a year like this she has to make a dollar she has to make a dollar she has to drink it also now she can't give it to drink to a child because a child can be nice to have dollar from a woman who says the woman has the miserable together so either she drinks it herself and since his tissue shouldn't be drinking wine and a tissue above he shouldn't be drinking the nine days altogether but the nine days okay no but on tears above itself the drink one day for the minute is that the people make up they'll make medina they make usually on coffee or tea and if they make no quote for the people that are going to be eating on tishav so they make half dollars on coffee tea and they can drink it themselves if they're going to be making online because they don't have cooperative for whatever reason then they should give it to a child but what kind of child so a female if a woman is making a dollar she should give it to a to a girl not a boy because the boy can be yourself dollar for america because it can't be accepted from a woman got it the problem is woman and woman on the country women are not obligated in time i'll miss this so therefore they really should not be obligated the reason why abdullah might be different than other all time i misses they're not they're exempt abdullah might be different because there's a rule that calls me that if you have the halacha of observing shabbos you might have the allah of remembering shabbos and therefore according to one opinion so kiddish is considered remembering shabbos for sure they have the mithra the question is do you extend it also to have dollar to remember shabbos after shabbos because they observe shabbos also that's the name and because of it remains a sufficient until this very very day and therefore women some women don't make abdullah for themselves all together because they're worried that maybe women don't have the mystery but i'll tell the pascals women are allowed to make abdullah for themselves the only problem is when a man makes for them when he didn't really the mitzvah whether some people suggested that could be the reason why a woman adopted a custom not to drink from the cup of wine you know there's a thing that women don't drink in a cup of wine they even say a joke not a joke so i think they say if a woman drinks she'll start growing a beard and all that kind of stuff so so they where the custom come from it's passionate because if the woman is going to dr if the woman doesn't have the mitzvah i'm going to make a dollar the one's going to drink so then anything you know women don't drink from it let me come i think i'll take one more question go ahead so i didn't mention that when it comes to putting on clothing before the nine days no you're not supposed to be putting a bunch of one on top of each other because it really defeats the purpose the purpose is it should feel like it was worn and usually when you're putting 10 shirts at once it doesn't feel that way so now it should be one and then another one and then another one so yeah it takes it takes a bit of time but that's what's supposed to happen yeah you should use one if there's a child to give it to a child matsutish above sunday night according to moist place we don't even have to give it to a child because it's ready after tishb and after the tenth of love you don't even have to give it to a child i didn't mention a few more things i don't want to keep people waiting over here there's about we didn't talk anything about bathing people can be very happy because they didn't talk anything about showering in the nine days i'll mention mama's very big sir before we get to that cutting nails is only a problem of the week of tish above this year we shouldn't cut nails the entire week before tishberg except for lukavichabas le cover chavez meaning and of shabbos edition of jabba this set of shops is not a problem next set of shop is not a problem either bathing is a very very controversial topic i'll mention it very very briefly i don't want to go too much over time in chicago it says at least for ashkenazim that a person is now going to wash their body in the nine days even with cold water the latter rinse pan of yard of face hands feet head in cold water or even other organs as long as they're not washing the majority of the body now often i get this question whether during shiva usually don't shoot people ask before shoves one take a shot for shabbos that's when they ask the question the rest assured they don't really particularly worry about the salah and the answer is we're not saying you can't wash what was saying can't do the whole body if you're doing less than majority of the body it's not a problem really where's the problem the problem is because people sweat that's why people don't like this that's why it's uncomfortable because there's certain parts of the body that sweat more than others so since you're allowed to wash face hands feet head as long as it's not the majority of the body so this it's not really the end of the world even though we said it has to be in cold water cold water does not mean you have to turn on only the cold water and be freezing and shaking cold water means less than the regular temperature the way people normally wash so it shouldn't be a nice beautiful hot warm shower it doesn't have to be freezing cold it's a lukewarm kind of shower less than normal that's considered cold in this context so the problem is for some people that's not satisfying they don't like what i just now said they want to take a regular shower now while the says you're not supposed to take a regular shower so people say yeah i don't know because that was those days were different because people wasn't happened those days and people didn't sweat and today today's day and night you know stand today we take showers every single day and it must be different and for those who say that i have some news to you that the marine bruno which goes back hundreds of years writes that a lot of people used to go and take washed themselves in the rivers in the nine days and and even the week of tishbo and he says the reason was because the month of love is very very hot and they're full of sweat and everybody's sensitive to sweat and therefore they go and shower themselves but they didn't shower they didn't have showers but they the washing the river and he says i can't stop these people if i would have the ability to be make i would stop them because the real shouldn't be doing it so in those days they came up the same exact excuses we come up today in those days they worked in the fields and they didn't have a condition having said that sometimes it becomes really unbearable a person is number sweating and is not doing it for any other reason other than to get rid of sweat so like i said before if it's just to get over sweat take those areas that are sweating which i'll pee how lucky you're allowed to use wash face hands feet not majority of the body with cold water or not warm water now if the person feels that you're sweating it's not coming off of the lukewarm water so he's allowed to even use hot water if hot where this physical sweat is sweating like crazy not even use soap he's doing it purely mushroom keys but a person should realize he's doing it kefir hashtag according to what's necessary not just becomes a thing where you just take showers on mondays it doesn't apply and when we give ahead to a person it's not to do it in the mikvah because i had to like a person is allowed to eat them shouldn't sit down and she'll eat on tissue in his house eat some tissue so a person for some reason mahi he's crazy sweaty he's okay in his house he'll wash off those areas whatever is necessary certainly a person should change from what their regular practice is especially in the week of tisha which this year means the week before and to quote the lesson that i mentioned a few times kedai who basically knew our base amigos deserves they should be treated with some level that there is yeah it's uncomfortable of course yes so this is basically when it comes to sugar people somehow manage with this when it comes to the base and make dust then it's like ah that's only basically just not really apparent so again if it's necessary it's necessary but anything that beyond that which is necessary a person shouldn't just just um treat this just out the window going to the mikv is not a problem that's considered going for a mitzvah going to make us not a proud person that goes every single day person that doesn't normally get and go shouldn't go on the nine days either and our meaning is we make even a hat makeover when we travel even in a hot mikvah but we don't sit in the mick we go in and you go out to sit in the mikvah so we instead of the shower the miklo becomes instead of the shower and you're sitting in february because this is a mikvah if you're going to get to sit in february then it's not a mix then it's a shower and it's actually even worse than a shower in fact my grandfather suggests one of the leniencies he suggests why people are very leaned with taking showers and head of shabbos and of chav as there is a meaning of oxygen that we take regular showers and the person can give a lot of explanations a simple explanation is that the hectare for us out of shabbos is the same hat that they had in this chat it says the atlanta just washed your head a night of shabbos what was for them washing their head is a regular shower because they didn't take showers every out of shopping they couldn't take a shower video shabbos they didn't have that so they should wash their head for us we're doing a feshaba so we can take a full shower but my grandfather brings an interesting cola and he says in the olden days i was not seeing the showers so i was going into a bath no so this wasn't part of the issue this was in a bath not a shower a very creative kind of a header but he also only applies in a case where a person's really needs and he says okay so to make it a bit more lenient he adds this new slaughter that is not the same as it used to be but if a person is going to go into the mikvah and use that as a shower that's my mashed issue i'm going into a bath right so that should not be done and if there is no health from the role this is going to be all theoretical halachas and we should be certified reminding everyone about the rabbit tells us to increase in these days in simcha through learning liquors by sabrina giving a lot of dhaka learning extra torah and doing everything we can to make us human and get it men women and children all to listen to him and should be to the goal and have the ultimate siddhas tells us the days of of these days are high than all the other days of the year the biggest days of yamtiv