Hadlokas Neiros on Shabbos - Whose Mitzvah, Dinei Habracha and how many candles

in tonight's year I would like to cover three topics and end on time also number one who is with the Mitzvah of shabas number two the BR the BR the Mitzvah and number three how many n how many candles to light m who so the we learned already we started this the beginning of Theon is for men and for women so why ladies now the the says as well the says whoever even though it's included in the any they're also as well they also have that so just like the any of in theah near shabas as well you actually find that the Mitzvah of eating sud shabas or maybe actually sh the brings that explains why he has a a different reason and then he says the reason why is ladies are also now is like this who lights does everybody light by Mah Mah even though it's theas everyone can light could everybody light so the emses the emses that there was such a Min by some I saw used to light his wife the rabbits and lit and he also L with a but but it's not so par for two reasons like the you can't just go and lie to make a number one CU one even though as we said you lie in the dining room where the suit is for and you have to lie in the rest of the house as well also Shas but this one BR covers the whole ad so it's not so you could light but to make not so the whole the a big sh look because we have electric so we don't really need it do we do the we make a but for more people to light and to make more that's only one person shall light so who lights if it's a house that is only a man or only a lady it's par whoever is in the house he's the one who lights but let's say let's say he's a husband and wife and only one person lights who lights they have the Mitzvah and these three reasons for it says two reasons one they in the house they're around more I don't know if it means that they're around by the Z or the they're connected more to the house the husband is out learning and KY is out working that's reason number one the second reason the says is because they're they prepare the food they clean the house they take care they make sure that the house is functional a third reason brings is that the as well also the was supposed to live forever the of the was that should which came through the lady was it's better she do to bring back three reasons the the lady has and we're going to hear more about it that is going to give a I believe more I'm just bringing the point that it belongs to the says that if the husband goes and lights the the lights the shabas he has to pay like he took away a mitzah brings not like that he argues you don't have to but belongs to her the Mitzvah belongs to the wife to the lady however all the preparations is on the husband the brings to prepare the including in the preparation is what the ra says that over here the says at the end of the says that to make it easier to light you're supposed to light the candles and put it out makes it easier like the M over there explains first makes it easier but frat when the lady is going to come light right before shabas it shouldn't take as long so light it and you put it out this also this also is part of the the husband should do it this concept that is on the husband the the M says in child birth if they're not they not and asks by it doesn't say if they're not n and it says so why doesn't it say if they're not what's and if you're saying so the Miss should also say of course we're referring to theah of but for the lady to get the Kal it's Kal it's the whole business but peering the door making the whole Kal it's it's only everything up the till she lights it that's all on the H appear brings the the says that everything is dinner on the husband to prep he has to pay for it or she has to pay for I want Tak you want to know who has to pay who has to pay for it I mean the EMS is that they're both that's like what I started it's CL you mean pay to make sure that you have an air from whose bank account you mean does it come from is it something that's extra her Mitzvah say so the EM is is the husbands also they even speak about what G is that's not the the discussion but he also has a see he would he has to pay has to pay maybe they should chip and they should buy but but if he has to prepare it so that means also has to pay for it I don't know it's both both have to do both do it and she liks it he also has a that the house should have n who does the what you say everything else anyone everyone is doing it's his also he's it who does the put it like this the that's clear both have the of who does the the she does so you could gine here that he has to pay also because he needs the cover as well lady the she pay for it yeah has Supply so I wonder if the is maybe because that's part of appearing it how could you appear it if you don't have it what say what say everybody has yeah says it's only the why should he be only she has okay and he the the's why she they should both have to pay for it it's a Mitzvah on both she does the what say she uses her own money might have I'm not sure I'm not sure sometimes you have you want because you want to be included if she does the myad loer and he her own money and he lives in the house and he has shabas and he has shabas and he has Shas I don't see why shouldn't be y why shouldn't he be y he has to pay for the ne he's what what happens good will be M good to be M what happens l if the mother the wife is not in the house who who's M who's mck so they bring that if the the lady's not there the light why because they have the same that the wife gets it take care the house they have the reasons the M they should light it's interesting I'm I'm talking about if only one person lights and who's the one as we said the wife lights what's if she's not there think was and he started lighting the cand and his sister was also she said I should light the candles so said she should she get the even though had already interesting her she gets I'll get to that in a second saying very good we'll get in a second but just this when stole the husband the father you talking about a case that it was just the brothers and the sisters but let's see he's the father says the daughter should the son Miss is and he says between husband and wife when he's a husband and wife so the the wife is M but and it's both both of their Mitzvah when the wife is not there have why the daughter should light but the husband and the wife so if the wife doesn't do it and the husband doesn't he's what happens they both R away the parents went the children are home so it's a very Hills bring up a different side the is even we'll get to that even the sun started ready but let's see the parents are away the daughters over the Suns but this case would be a case that the Suns already started that's a you take it away cuz I still him the says that doesn't light the first week the first week after someone gave birth she doesn't light the husband shall light so so what does that mean I mean if she's away so she stop that's what we just spoke about obviously she's away so then she can't light but if she's home why shouldn't she light so the brings this and he says the it's talking about that at least in those days that she couldn't get up to go light the N so is which brings later you could bring the N to her and she could light over there in her bedroom and she can light there with the but the says that it's not you shouldn't light and then move the N somewhere else if you could leave the nus over there then Tak she should light but if L you move it away rather she should not lie that's what the tear is but if a lady comes home she gave birth Monday she's home two days later from the hospital she's home she didn't go away and she could go she could get up she'll go to the dining's 100% if bring it what say you bring it to I I it's better to leave it over there to be M to leave it over there than to move it away because the says you're not supposed to the brings Su also if you shouldn't lie in the suck then move it elsewhere look if you're not supposed to move so so it's NE you're not supposed to move it even if it's yum if the first night suck us that's you should have move it but even in such a let's say she lights and even like let's say we learned the bah that it is a cabal shabas but it's only cabal shabas for her so the husband or somebody else could come could have it she'll light and he'll move it away wasn't M shabas yet what that's the reason you mean no we can't move it why can't you move the N what do you mean which case only that you can't be be the whole is made say not to move it not to move that's why y if you can't move the NYS so I'm saying we're talking about it's before shabas she lit and it's not chabas yet and somebody else wants to move it I don't do it so tell me tell me where's stad says that you can move [Music] it let's move on now to the next the of being when do you make the bra so we spoke about about in the previous year when do you make the bra speak about a little bit afterwards more to be when do you make the so the you make the like the says so you make the first and after the after the you you do the Mitzvah that's the Posas however Z brings two days one day is T to make the first one day is not to make the BR first because with the you can't light anymore so you light and then you make the I I you already literally you did the Mitzvah so the ter say you cover your eyes what are you gain with that you not yet so even though you did do the as we're going to see soon but if you do a and then you're not from the not so she covers her eyes but that she's not in the hand yet from the till after she makes a so it's you have the she wouldn't be in you don't have the why can't you be why can't you be with with oil why not she doesn't have goes on that but what comes out let's say so so again the M says you make the bro and then you light we don't do that most people they light and then they make the it's not that's what you do why because if you're going to make theas so the what come out is a a man that lights whether a single person the wife is not around a h a man that liks should yes make the BR first and the same would be a lady let's say she's not being ma shabas we spoke about of so she's not being then that she can make the first do it properly do the afterwards hold like that a man that lights shabas and a lady that's lighting with a she's not being shabas they hold you should Tak switch it around to make a and then afterwards light brings it however and they say you're right you're right should be like that that you make the first and then you light because it's however however imagine the week before she made a t so she makes the BR first and the next week she has to remember to switch back and forth and forth and back and then the husband one week like this and it gets mixed up so L plug always across the board first you light and then you make the Tak so says very good that was the next thing was going to get to very good y as well also y it's moreid person let's go regular I'm not going to get into the sh when you li on y you li on you're lighting and and with the you could be and then you could light because you a lot of light on y so and the the brings bash mother that y to switch it around yum when when the wife sends left she should first make the because that's that's the right way after making the to light and he Tak argues and he says this that says in the name of his mother to switch it around you don't for the same reason what say so brings in the case not by but he brings in a regular case and he's handling by is also to double check I saw a few times even today but but I think it's also even though you're right plug but I think the get of plug it's going to get mixed up the wife's going to see that week when the husband did it like this it's it's always across the board but you're right you could be between her is like this and the next week is as a you're saying you could say that it isn't a the husband when the man lights he always makes the first what happens if a person forgets to make the BR so they lit so even if you make the BR afterwards you cover the eyes it's attached to that what happens if somebody forgot to make a br could you make a br later so the m BR doesn't speak about that case he speaks at a different case in the olden days it was much more common that he was weddings air of shabas the was Friday afternoon and the suda was the Friday night suda to save money had the sud of the and Sh all in one package so the was Friday late Friday afternoon she would want to light nous now but then she's maab shabas like we saw from the bah but she still needs more time last minute preparations take an hour she needs a few more minutes after the it's going to be too late she can't lie anymore what should she do what should she do brings that she shall light before without a and make the later by night Friday night she'll make the so what comes out Le this if we would stop right here if a lady or a man forgets to make the could you make a the answer is yes and even if they remember Friday night to the case that when she lit and she didn't want to make she didn't want to make that she can make the even Friday night so may if you forget the same thing however the argues brings from the I think he argues yet and others that that you that you can't for two reasons first of all because the Mitzvah is the Mitzvah is to light the and you did it already two hours later you can't make the how could you say I have a Civ now to light n it's Friday night you don't have it C to light you don't have a you cannot make a s Friday night because you have two reasons the reason it's already lit Friday afternoon also you can't why not because you can't say lit already oh so be give me two minutes be a little more ofah we'll be a minute to see so what what do we have so far the marash says that if a lady forget or comes out from the marash if a lady forgets to light nus I'm sorry to make the she can make the even Friday night that even if she even Friday afternoon she lit and you schim the light 40 minutes before she lit and she just wanted to do one thing shabas and she forgot to make the BR even before shabas you can't then there is a third himself and the beer says that he's a if it's Friday afternoon she could still make a br if it's Friday night she cannot make a as we explained Friday night the problem in general that you already did a Mitzvah in addition to that how could you SA Friday night so what's what's better and what Friday afternoon she could so the says that if a lady forgets Friday afternoon to make the BR and it's before sh she can make the BR Friday night you cannot make the BR so so what's the hez what's the HRA in the and this will also come a little bit to what you were pointing out to bring out the Auda this that the says you have to be is it meaning to say is if somebody did a Mitzvah already could you make the BR afterwards he picked up the he did a mitvah put it down he's done could you make the now if it's this that you have to make a before is it or not you cannot make the afterwards however if you're still a middle of the Mitzvah you're wearing you're holding the L you already picked it up but you're still in middle of the mitz if you're still in middle of the Mitzvah you can make the bra many many examples you can make the it's true you already lit and the is to light that was done already however you still he's still a key Mitzvah what's the key of Mitzvah if it's Friday afternoon he's covered he's going to be there's going to be sh the key of is still applicable so for the you can make Friday night you also have a Friday night by you have the so why can't you make the Friday night the ter is the other reason that we said you can't make the you can't make the how could you say Friday night the other point that we said that it's not over is over because you still have the part of the mitv the cover the and the shom just real quickly and biter we'll go in a little bit into the part three how many candles are you supposed to light is there is there a minimum to be is an amount of n what' you say two so the answer is not two the answer is one to be important with one make a nice one in a previous year I said over the that's bothered that if the after the first with one [Applause] however like you mentioned two to do two like we find in the gar the gar brings in shabas that came out of the he saw somebody running with that's the he asked him where you going it's not a we going with so he said what do you mean chabas he say I hear but what do you have to two so he said one for one for so to be one candle however there's a mile of doing two that's two beer but in in the he he's goes with a whole very nice to explain that chabas has two carbas he's always two but just to Beed in m in a nutshell why why maybe we should have three candles for the three sudas or maybe seven candles for the seven alas why why the two say very but the is is now without Locus NYS we're going into shabas shabas even so shabas is made out of two parts it's made out of the dos and the don'ts thez ofas and that's the Z SH we li to for and Sh one one what' you say should light one have the other one not left what do you mean the other one one for not to be left I hear I hear but that also needs to have a cover even though there's a l of the Lo that's also good speaks about that some have the Min actually to do two together so so that's two that's two and the that's when one of wife candles go out you tell you could be if you like with what he said says the Ramos says that you could you could you could add on you could add on the Ramos says you can add on that could you add on just like AAS you could add on the emesis these other places we see you could add on he if you add on you lose the and some argue under not to add on not to add on because when you add on if you have two it's ni you add on some doesn't have any light the more he put for good good so then if you need more candles Shas is all around the house not by the if you need more light you put more light the the the sorry the yeah the says that for that because if you have let's say two candles sticks and then you add on more so it's ni then you add on more in a CH about it he speaks about it he asks if it's and with this I'm going to conclude again there are those that are not the by only lie too but he by a lot a lot every child that you have you add another one which by the way the first two is and then you add on it's it's interesting it's not brought in it's not brought in the it's not brought in I'm saying it's not in the the the reason also that would be if we're being a channel we of how much to be Mar like says even though you do two you could be add on more the addition of more would be this but like says you could add on more all