Hachana L'shabbos - Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger: Shalom Aleichem

Okay. Good evening, my dear brothers, and welcome to everybody from Torah Anytime. Thank you so much for allowing these shiyurim to be publicized across the world. Shiyur is l'iluy nishmas my mother, Henya Kaparsman, Shkava, Frieda Bas Yitzchak Aryeh HaLevi. Amira's Shalom Aleichem. Amira's Shalom Aleichem. How many of you say Shalom Aleichem? Did you know that some sofer did not say Shalom Aleichem? As I bring to mind a book, we're going to see that tonight. It is not kashered. Because you're saying you're bringing in the malachim, and then you're saying "Barchuni, you should bench me." >> [laughter] >> You should bench you? You're asking a bracha from a malach? You're asking the malach to give you a bracha? You're only supposed to get brachos from the Eibershter. How do you say that? As always, when we learn the halachos of Kiddusha Shabbos, the idea is to understand one of the biggest issues that Klal Yisrael has is everybody's airlich, and everybody does, but they don't know why they're doing it. Baruch Hashem, aber what would it be like if men voll farshtanen yo? If you would understand, don't you think that you would get more s'char and more gishmak, and it would do something would make you better? Tonight, we have the s'chus to learn about Shalom Aleichem. Where did it come from? Where are those who say it? Who don't say it? Let me learn in the sugiyah. So, as we always, every week, we read the shiyur. K'ivan she nahagu rabbim Yisrael l'shiyur Shalom Aleichem b'leil Shabbos, since it's a dua minag, the question is should you skip and tamper with the minute? If you turn to page page five on top, eight on the bottom, it looks like this. Looks like this. This page right here. Here you have it. Shalom aleichem malachei hasharet. Malachei hasharet malachei elyon. Bayachem. So, you give them shalom bayachem. Come. Barchuni. Bentshuni. Tzeitchem leshalom. Did you notice in tzeitchem there are little brackets or parentheses, which means that somebody put that in because yesh omrim not to say it. How are you going to tell them to go? So, go back to our introduction. Yesh sod nem yesh asher pi atzei gan barchuni leshalom. Do you take it lock, stock, and barrel and do the whole thing? Or are you supposed to omit something? Or maybe not say it at all. Chakira yesh sod nem shema achar she don't know ach ro'im she'ein levakesh ezrat mal'achim. Since you're not supposed to ask mal'achim for help. The lifnei achbarach lebo yedei olam. The only person we ask bakashot is to the HaKadosh Baruch Hu. Mamila yesh sod nem yesh if you can say lezamer barchuni leshalom. Lo chairei, you're asking them to give you a bracha. Shebezeh amar shemispalel chas veshalom aleihem. She'ashpi'u bracha. You're asking them to give you a bracha. Tzeh beseder. You're allowed to do that? Ve'ein anaf panim leHaKadosh Baruch Hu. As they used to give you a Kodesh Baruchu asked the Abishter to give you a bracha. Or maybe you're not saying really that they should give you a bracha. You're asking them to be your shaliach in front of the Abishter. Could you imagine that? You maybe you can leave Why is that any different than giving a being a bracha from a godly person? Oh, that's a That Rebbe Yitzie. Going to a person asking them for a bracha and thinking that they're blessing you is close to avoid the Zora. They're the makara bracha or you're asking them to ask the Abishter to daven for you, to be Yeah, you ask you think the you think the you think the the he's like Eliyahu Hanavi that the Abishter gave him the keys of rain and parnassa. And you got to go back to school then. Right? You got to go You have to learn what it means to go to a rebbe. Has v'shalom not to make a rebbe into avoid the Zora. Right? There's one makara bracha, that's the Abishter. You have people who have such siyata d'shmaya that when a tzaddik is mispallel, the Abishter listens to his t'filos. So, he can maybe with his chos air can baiten by the Abishter on your behalf. When you're asking the rebbe for a bracha, you're asking him to intervene on your behalf with the Borei Kol Ha'olamim, the makara of all the brachos. If this whole shear wasn't just to make that clear of clarified, in my bonim alim b'shvil came brochos. The Rebbe can intervene for you with his sick kiss, with his air look like and his brochos pack a dish. So you can ask him to bless you in a sense that through him and through his words the Abershter should bless you. What's that? Oh, that's what it That's what some people might be dying so maybe we can ask the malachim to intervene on our part. That's exactly what he's saying. Good gizock. Now, where does Shalom Aleichem come from? How long are they doing it? Take a look at page number one. One on top, four at the bottom. You just have to turn a page. A safer called Minchas Toyva. Minchas Toyva was someone in the 13th century that was around the time of the Baal HaTurim. After Rashi. Minchas Toyva lamed vov at the bottom of the leil Shabbos. K'she bo'im b'nei Yisrael k'nesses, leil miyad etzel hanneiros. Listen to this. You go to the candles. Hadlikem l'chvod Shabbos. V'chishenem borech aleihem. These candles are holy because you benched, you did a brocha on these candles. You made a brocha for a kedushas Shabbos. V'lo amad neged sheteihem. Stand opposite the candles. V'lo amar malachei rachamim. V'shalom. Angels of mercy and peace. Bo'achem l'shalom. Bo'achem l'shalom. Come in peace. Aleichem shalom. L'chulchem shalom. V'chein. Motzinu. >> I'm not sure who that was. Have to check that out. Over here, also had such a minute to justify. What's the makor? The Pnei Tsaddik over here on page two. Please turn to page three to to the quote on Shabbos Kuf Yud Tes. There are two malachim that accompany a person. Probably you're familiar with this. Right? There are two malachim that accompany you from shul to your house. A good one and a bad one. And when a person comes home and you find that the house has been organized and prepared the covered Shabbos, his table, the candles, and the bed. The next week should also be the same. Then all right, that that the the way the week finished and the kedusha of covered Shabbos for this week should be a blessing for next week as well. Interesting bracha. Interesting. Maybe we'll see that soon. Hashem. And the malach ra says amen against his will. The Malach if it's not the way it's supposed to be and the house doesn't have the Kedusha Shabbos ready. Malach Ra takes the advantage of exposing the chisorin in the house. He's showing that the house at tznious is not the way it's supposed to be and he gives a he wants that it should be like this going forward and the Malach Tov has no choice but to admit to the Malach Ra that you're right. It's not the way it's supposed to be and it doesn't have a zchus that next time it's going to be different. First Tutzach tov, what is this Sugya about? Let's see. They used to the mouth give a brother. I'm sorry. They used to the mouth give a brother. The mother. How about you see that? Okay, that's why you see your first time here, right? That's why we have a whole booklet. We talk about it. Baruch Hashem. Thank you. So [snorts] let me explain. What's the problem with Malachim? What's the problem? So if you're familiar in Slichos, there's a there is a right a Ma Machnisei Rachamim. Machnisei Rachamim bring my tfilos to the Abishter. There are people who don't say that. Take a look at the Talmidim of Rav Chaim Volozhiner who was a Talmid of the Vilna Gaon on page number four. HaPizmon Barcheni l'Shalom b'Leil Shabbos lo amar. He didn't say it. Because b'Slichos Malachei Rachamim shor say Elyon chalon b'nei Kel. He didn't Malachi Machman either. It's actually Bahab now. Tomorrow is going to be the day and there's a pizmon of Malachi Machman. There's no problem that a Malachi should give you a brocha, said the Vilna Gaon. If it's his job to do it. You don't have to ask him. He explained It's your obligated They're obligated based on the person's actions. If the person does what he needs to do, he's coming in a minute. If a person does what he needs to do, he will be benched from the Malachi. And if he does that, as Reb Shimon is pointing out, very good. No, Reb Nachman, sorry. Yeah, and That's what the Malachi do. Here you go, Akiva. This aura of Reb Chaim Volozhiner it comes from the base medrish of the Gaon. If you look on page number five, the next page. There's a little star by Berchuni. It looks like this. And right over here is a little asterisk. I saw it brought down in the name of the Gra that he complains. How is it possible as a mabek? You're asking about kasha. They only said this regarding Malachei Rachamim. Meaning whoever quoted the Gra says over here, this is I think from Isha Yisrael who said over the minhagim of the Gra. On the contrary, Barcheini L'Shalom Malachei Shalom, do you know why you're supposed to bench me? Melech Malchei Hamlachim, because the Abishter says that this is the hanhaga. So therefore, on the contrary, it reflects the Gemara b'diyuk. Melech Malchei Hamlachim. The definition according to the Isha Yisrael is from the melech, the Abishter, you have a job to go out and bench me. So immediately, you should bench me. Right? The Yasei K'mevor b'Shas b'Shabbos kuf yud tes, and that's why the Gemara quotes it. There were those taka, like the Gra, who said it, but as I mentioned in our introduction, some sofer did not say it. Take a look at page number six, the next page. It's right in front of you. Adonai Shalom, that whole pizmon, the Sam Sofer did not say it. Zog there in the Orach Chaim Mishpat. Kima ein onu nehagim lomar, hischabdu mechubadim. Be my mekhubadim, those who give me honor, you ask them to please wait. The The quote of hiskhabdu mekhubadim is brought in Bishnah Berurah, and it's brought in halakha that their key malakh yitzavakh lishmorkha bakhol derakhekha. In addition to these malakhay hasharet, which are the erev shabbat layl shabbat malakhim, there are another two set of malakhim. Key malakh yitzavakh lishmorkha bakhol derakhekha. These angels are there to escort a person. But when a person goes into a bathroom, the angels don't go in, so you turn to them and you say, "Is it okay that I I I hate to bother you to wait for me, but niskhabdu mekhubad. Lefi, but says the Mishnah Berurah, we don't say that anymore. Lefisha einanu makhzikim et atzmenu bemadregah zo ish shemalakhim melavim otanu. We don't hold that we're zoykhan today's day and age to have such askhut. If so, said the Ksam Sofer, just like those malakhim don't come, who are then im ken gam lefi ot zeh ein lanu shaykhus. So too we don't have shaykhus. That is base Ksam Sofer. That's from the Beit Midrash and from the teachings of the Ksam Sofer. Interesting. Reb Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld, if you look on page number seven, the next page, in the middle over here, and by ha'arah hey, it says in the middle that someone came to Reb Yeshua Chaim Sonnenfeld to ask him a question and he said that he should learn and I'll show you where it is. Right over here on this part of the page. For our time constraints, there's a lot to do. I'm not going to go through this whole piece. These that some say for said that we don't say anymore is those are those angels who we're not for. This is they're a different type of them. They're that are Shabbat which is the cloud Israel. And every week when cloud Israel is keeping Shabbat, we're to a special with the master. He was between the of the key of and these them. He grabbed in this this is from Lieberman. A Russia Shiva of the gear. He tells over the following story. I think it's a myth for the first time this story. >> [snorts] >> The last thing on the page over over there. Over over there over there have a a little bit of a hoodie. I want to tell you a story that I heard says of Lieberman. He was in a black neighborhood. Old Harlem. You know what that means? A big big Kushi. Right? A big brother. We call him in Yiddish a tinkele. Okay? That means dark. V'lo heziko. And he didn't touch him. L'mochoros nitpas hakushi l'mishtara al shachar agish. That same black guy was caught by the police for having killed someone. V'hoyda she rotza ligzo v'lo hazaka Yehudi. He wanted to hurt He wanted to right to um What's that? He wanted to rob him. Mug him. That's the word I was looking for. Aval nifchad mishnei hashayim hagvoyim sh'livuhu. He was intimidated by those two big fellows who were accompanying that little Jew. So, he didn't start up with the Jew. Hareishah einanu machzikim atzmeinu l'yereim l'havia t'micha malochim. While it's true, we are certainly not on the madreigah to have malochim us accompany us. Aval b'eis tzora chas v'sholom k'she Yehudi b'sakonah umispalel One has to assume that that Jew got pretty scared. B'frat im maskil aposuk "Ki malochav y'tzaveh lo lishmorcha b'chol d'rachecha." Sho'el him oisam min hashamayim. They say "Oh, it's a fascinating story." That's a fascinating story. "Az if like men ibberzogen." That's what they would say. That they that a mole I Listen, we are we are the Abishter's kinderlach. And we are when when he turns to us when we turn to him, excuse me, he turns back to us. So, how did the Russia Shiva's of today how were they know it? One second, I have one more point. At page number nine. We talked about Berchuny Leshalom. We also mentioned Seischam Leshalom. Now, if you look It's a little bit of the old print. How is it possible that you tell them Malachim go? Don't you think it's better that they should stick around? And let them participate with the Seudah. If your Seudah on Shabbos looks like it's supposed to be, it's a Shabbos with Zmiros, with Divrei Torah, where there's Shalom Bashalom Ba'achva Vereius at the Shabbos table, it's a very relaxed and Gishmaka place. Like we say in Yiddish, "Zol ze bleiben." Let him stay. Why would you want to send them out? Ki Lecha Bo'im Immanu. That's why they're there, they watch us. Maybe maybe because our tables are not so the way it's supposed to be. Maybe we're scared that the Malachim will see things that are not appropriate. And we're worried that they might leave in disgust. So, therefore, Nishkach maybe that's why we went there and sent them away in a nice way. But, says right, says the Mita Zohav, he says according to him it make more sense he should let them stay that that they should stay longer. Indeed, the Chida was oimed on this on page 11 and he brought down an eitza. He added a letter. Instead of saying seitzchem l'shalom, he said bitseitzchem l'shalom. When you leave, bitseitzchem l'shalom. Take a look on page 11, Machtzik Bracha, which is from the Chida. Letter base. Apologize for the print type, they haven't redone the sefer yet, or at least when when the Machon did this, they did it the old print. The sefer Teitzavah Shabbos came become a godol Echad Shemochack Hanusach Benusach Shenitzav Betikun Shabbos. He erased in his bencher, or in his sidder, loimer, to say seitzchem l'shalom. Why? Like we just saw beforehand. How is it you're asking them all of them to leave? The right, and the Teitzavah Shabbos wrote She'atin Eemoy. Vani oimer, says the Chida, Benusach She'einu Kasuv Bitseitzchem L'shalom. When you leave, when you leave, you should bench me. V'achavona Shenimshach Acharmasha Kasuv Brichinu L'shalom, V'rotzo Loimer, and he means to say as follows, Shivya Shivarchu Bizman Seitzchem. You should bench me when I go out when you go out. We're going to Rabbi saying Rabbi saying, excuse me. I apologize but it's it bothers the sheer. Thank you so much. Not that Hashem should we push them out and we pat it. Say go out. When you're going to leave when you go out and that going out could be even after even the most of Shabbos. When it is that you see it's time for you to leave, please leave me with a bracha as I learned the chida. No. So that meant so far we have the Sam Sofer didn't say it. Some people wrote say it but erase a little bit. What is what's the minig? So let's see what Rebbe Yeshiva Rebbe Fisher and Rebbe Yosef the Gedolim of the last generation. How were they noig in their houses? Take a look at page number 13 as which was written by the talmidim of Rebbe Yeshiva and his minhagim. He would say shalom aleichem standing the and he would sit down. Who be name Kim love of the love of the smoke of the car. I don't want Reb Yasha said shalom aleichem. The Reb Fisher Reb Yasha Fisher on page number 14 Reb Yasha said be at shalom aleichem amida. The same without changing it. If you look at the bottom at number three in the footnote it says actually it says Reb Yasha gimel on top asha's the truth of amida. I am the truth of the same truth of shabbos. I am conscious of the same truth of amida. You shouldn't say the truth of amida. The truth of truth of shabbos right you're not supposed to say it. Why? Because what it says inside he said to me to see Did you really? He locked in a way side. Did you really? Not all the things that it says did you really do? So may so you write this you say I'll be there there are those who say because all that it says in there is not 100 accurate. Go back to the second on page number 11. Take it there by conscious of the same truth of gimel on the top right over here. I am conscious of the same truth of amida. I wrote the same Reb Yasha Reb Yasha. They didn't say it. They I hear she ain't person doesn't show you the truth of shabbos. The same truth of the same truth of amida. The same truth of the same truth of amida. The same truth of the same truth of amida. >> There were those, I don't know what the minute by you is. You don't say it? You do say it. I hope so. >> [laughter] >> They don't know who's talking, don't worry. >> [snorts] >> On page 15. He said He didn't have the gears of the door with bits of them. And he didn't want to say say some, so maybe he didn't let them go. But I think most people say it. What's the shot? As well as to do it. I will finish with this. See where this is page 16. But a pillar as we've seen tonight why we asking them why we asking them to leave? It bothers you, what's wrong? >> Okay, and like the soul of Yakov and we know my love him who came down my love him who came up said goodbye to one meaning it was a changing of the guard. So as a changing of the guard you could say shalom you could say by Yakov and shalom and then at the end you say goodbye to the other ones. The actually I shall I want to say says of Shimshon Pinkus a different shot. It's your dua the base on mikdash. When a coin worked outside it wasn't a problem people could mull around. Everybody could be there. And people were busy. When he went into the kodesh hakodashim it was a private moment. Everybody should leave. There should be no one there. The I see you even my love him even the angels were sent away. It was a sir It was a certain cashier. It was a certain cashier total individuality. And even the Malachim with as big as they are they have to go away. We go to our house. And then It's a moment of intimacy. Tuition it's inappropriate for you to be here. Look at Sadiq Khan. Go back to page number two. As it says in the Gamara In the Gamara Hagiga when the The Malachim came to watch. And like sitting in the stands as spectators to watch as the Malachim came to watch. >> says Reb Tzadok What Reb Pinkus meant. There is nobody in the world that can bring out the of the like when Shabbos. I want to ask you a question. I've asked this question many times. Does a really appreciate what he's doing when you keep Shabbos? All people of the world No one would keep Shabbos, even us. Would Shabbos exist? How would everybody's driving, everybody's working, everybody's on their phones 7 days a week, 24/7. It wouldn't exist. So [snorts] when are Shabbos, we, us, are the the that to the in such a way that they could do something that the can't do. The that and is connects to the is in such a special intimate way that it's not that anybody should see that that's the celebration of Shabbos. Reb Tzadok and with Pinkas that's a moment it's so special we can bait and you can ask them the kasha. I need a little private time with the baster. And they won't get insulted cuz everybody understands when you need private time two's company three's a crowd even if it's an angel. They also have to leave. They also have to leave. The kids are part of the hood. By the way I once said in the Shimshon Shira. There's nobody who's allowed in your bedroom. Except your kids. They can always knock on the door and come in. Right? So that's man of the Shabbos when there's a special with us and the master. That's a because man it's only us no one else is there.