Hachana L'shabbos - Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger: Giving Presents on Shabbos when Invited for a Meal

Okay, good evening everyone. Welcome back Torah anytime. Tonight she is my mother's my father and a rafu shalma for Raas Esther and a Yeshua shalom Ben Shalom Then okay, you get invited to someone's house for shabas and you want to bring a matuna. You're going to a bar mitzvah and you're there's no weekn night affair. So you brought a safer for the bar mitzvah. You're a RV in a shul and the shul always gives the baritzvah a set of Mishnabas. Are you allowed to give it to him? Are you allowed to make a canyon on shabas mata? Can that be done? And how about if somebody's giving you a bottle of wine, but it's such a good bottle you want to save it for another occasion. Do you have to use it on Shabas already or once it's mine I can do what I want has to be used on Shabas? Take a look at our introduction page as we always do. The introduction says a person's coming for can he bring of course where you can carry a dessert a candy platter etc. or you're bringing some Nash for the kind and you know they're not gonna eat it on Shabas or And here's the Shabas we're about to see is a and it's to do on Shabas meaning business is of shabas on chabas you're not allowed to make business is it davco is it because as we'll soon see the because you're going to write it down and if you're not going to write it down it's you don't write it down. What did they answer? They answer they answered I'm adding the words to the Shiloh. They answered the if they asked if the is you're not allowed to make a making giving a matan is also making a should also beer. So therefore, okay, that's the sha let's begin. We start with the ramam on page two. Looks like this. We start with the ram on page two. Writing is one of the putting on I think this is like a mascara or putting on makeup on shabas is awesome cuz writing doesn't just have to be on a paper. It can even be on a person's body and since you're coloring and it doesn't just mean writing letters any type of some changing that is that but it says that it's you cannot borrow or lend you might come to Right. You cannot acquire something, sell something, rent something. All of the isim of transactional isim were all user because a person is going to like when you go into the mit, right? They wouldn't pay necessary all the time. You'd buy something the mollet guy writes it down on his pinkus on his little ledger. That's the gift. So purchasing and writing used to go hand in hand. So Kazal said even when you made a kenyan without any writing that's already so any transaction you shouldn't hire. What happens if you have a one of one of the Talmid I think it was Ki who said imagine you you go to a schul and there's a group of singers misam and they did a Friday night and you ask who's this what are you doing you want to come to me I'll I'll pay you then you're being shabas that's also not you can't just and you know let me let me rent you for this that doesn't work either that we just saw. If you wanted, let's say you're missing you, you you forgot to make iron. So, what's what's your eggs going to be like if you don't have any iron? So, so you go to your neighbor and you want to borrow an onion. You're allowed to do that. You're allowed to, but you shouldn't do it. It shouldn't be transactional. That's what the Rambam says. Okay. So to learn that the gather of the is of buy of selling the gather is an is what the rabb calls it because of now does that apply to a matana or not? If you look, let's go to page two. The the the excuse me, the tour in is talking about it's a person forgot. We talked about this. He forgot to make an air of tapin. You're not allowed to cook. This was titman. What do you do? One of the says in the gor is take your food and be m it over to your neighbor who made an let him cook for you. Take a look in the tour. If a person didn't make an you can't cook and others can't cook for you your so you have some you have some you have some fish you have some things that you want to cook but you didn't make an you have a neighbor that made have and they could be do me a favor. Can you acquire this from me and cook it and bake it and then they make it and you get to eat it? How were you ming it to them? You made a Kenyan. How did you do that? You gave it to them by matuna. You didn't. It doesn't say you if it's yours just like you didn't make an air of timar learns out from that your food is also user. If it stays yours, it's no good. Has to own it. I have to give it to him. They made an it became their stuff and therefore it's says the base the way I'm going to do it here's the first place we see that there's an exception to the rule is user matana is mut don't should be aer but because he has to eat and he doesn't have what to eat. We know we live in a time who doesn't have once upon a time in Europe there was one lulv and for the that's all one and on the first day it says it has to belong to you can't borrow someone else's lul and that the second day you could, the second day you could, but the first day you can't. It has to be yours. So, how you going to get it? The terret says he has to be magnet to you. Mnet to you. But I thought you can't make any says says the I give it to him as a whole. It's yours. That's not our subject. Now our subject is one thing. It's one thing. business. I didn't make an So, I'm not allowed to cook. So, how am I going to get some food? The terret is mitzvah. I need to eat. You can't fast on yumptiff. That's already that's already be uh uh that's pain that the only reason we're letting you give a mat is because it's a mitzvah. If you have a bar mitzvah and you want to give him and the wants to give him a mat on shabas in front of the whole seab excuse me who says it's mut take a look at the moan go back to page one quotes the raam and quotes the morai it's right over here Page one on top, four on the bottom. That's what we just saw right now. Unless it's a mitzvah. The categories of mitzvah were that you needed category was food on because you didn't make an so your food is also you have to be m to and yen now is cooking his own food because yamim made an then it's no on the other hand please take a look at three who are matter and argued with the first one's the base mayor on page five. It's a real short piece over there mayor. You see that little piece over there? This that it say it's also because of mechano. I think it's not true the was like no business and since giving a mat is not business it's who lived I believe in the 1600s or 1700s on the next page on page six says It's two different things. Means we make a transaction. You give me something, I give you something. You give me an object or vice versa. We switch over here. There's no transaction. You give a mat. So the according to that the base may of I think that's the lumbus here. What did they ask her? Did they ask her? Or did they ask for a transaction? Transaction you write it down in case I don't get the go. So this is not a transaction. That's so do the on page seven. even if you don't need it. Why? It's not part of the you know I don't have to try to find I'm going to use it according to this opinion it's not user it's not user it's not part of the gaz the some schos have in their coat room they have a lost and found right and they say after 30 days it's heker so there's a hefker It's shabas afternoon. It's pouring cats and dogs. You forgot to bring a shame. One of these months. You know, you weren't expecting the rain. And there's a raincoat there, right? It's Are you allowed to take it? Are you allowed to make a Kenyon or not? According to the opinion that says that user raam morai you might borrow it so to speak taking it from heer you're not taking it from anybody but right you want to you want to own it right >> is also the getter is what The question is what was the is if the is toan it's still if the iser was to make a transaction mat what's the difference between taking from that's exactly what the iselling too he's saying if mat to be from IS ALSO GO take the use it no problem if that's that's his opinion so I have we have the base. How did how did how did take a look at page number the next page eight. It's right in front of you shabas. It's talking about and by the way it's not our subject for tonight but when you talk about these type of things selling alias how you do that okay you're buying and selling >> it's not a nobody pays >> when it's not a physical thing nobody pays where we d in village green Okay. But what do you mean? It's people pay a lot for it kind of right. It's thousands of dollars. And there's business. That's what this talks about in says the You're not allowed to give a goes out of his there's a the mat has that transaction. It's a transaction. He's quoting for the Mishnab is being you know who else is Mahmki. If you look on page 12, if you look on page 12 on top, which is 15 on the bottom, it was written in the conversations I think that maybe his anle had right with his with his. Are you allowed to give a mat that you can use on chabas? He was was go back to page nine. This is which was like a contress that was written and it's signed. I'm always I find it fascinating. It's a base mayor who argues with the When you want to make a like a sud which is the way like a you sell the to the r you make a sud those areim of mech and that's what was user That's what the brings down. When you walk into somebody's house, says, and you give him a candy platter or you put a bottle of wine on the table, you give him a over here. Here, I want to be m like a little muffin dish. You put it down on the table. It doesn't have tin of the same type of transaction as it does in a regular canyon. So it doesn't look like a canyon. Why was the mission of Bur as so like the when there was when there were those people you could the excuse me mayor there were those. So was Right. Something which you can do in the week they can do. Okay. So we have a big So what's the tas? What's the you want? If you're going to bring over a bottle of wine and they're going to use it on shabas and it's a mitzvah to use. So you can kind of maybe it's there's a mitzvah. But what about if you want to give a bar mitzvah like the RV in the sh and he gives this bar mitzvah he gives I remember four years old giz in KBA used to always give every who became mitzvah he gave them a set of mishnabas on that day yeah the means you need it now yeah what is it because of mitzvah afterwards So listen to what you do. There are three that's over here on page 13. The ya the is because there's such a tumult amongst the not so simple. Even though there are you want to give him you can activate the before shabas. You go to one of your kids or over bar mitzvah and you say here we're going to be bringing this to the to the family. I'm going to give this to the mitzvah be it now for him. It's a win-win. You could be know that he'll want it so he could be as long as it wasn't 100%. That's number one. And what do you do if you forgot to do that? If you forgot to be magnet to someone, take a look at Yehuda Yala. This Rab Assad was born in 1790 in Hungary. He wrote like this should have in mind should have in zen not to be coed on Shabas. It stays here like a you wanted to give it to me as a mat. I don't want to be as a mat. You can't force me to be. So therefore the mat wasn't so I'll watch it. I'll keep it there as a and then after this way number two on this has a tiny he's not so how so >> yes >> the next one it says don't give >> says you can't give very good don't give a mashkin says there's a concept of also called ammono. If you give someone something and then afterwards he doesn't like your person would give you made a deal we had a handshake we're going to do something even though we didn't make a kenyan if you back out it's not so if you already gave it to him and now you can't go to take it back it's like a transaction I have an for you I'm not going to read the whole thing because I want to do the at the end also if you take a look on page 15 okay There's a there's a big part that's that's got grade off the person giving the I want to have the right to have which means there should be no muser and therefore there's no activation whatsoever. That's so >> not gonna use it on Shabas like on Shabas. >> He brought it already. We're talking about after the fact. He already brought it. He brought the matona. >> So if it's if it's a bottle of wine, if it's a candy, so then use it on Shabas and you have a mitzvah, then you're doing then it's okay. So then it's okay. If it's something that's not a mitzvah, right? So then let's go back to the case we had. It's raining shabas afternoon. You're in shul and in the heer pile you have a raincoat. It's heer. Can I make the canyon? You're not according to some opinions. No, you're not allowed to even though it's not transactional. You do it. You put it on. I'm not being kind. It's anyway he I'm not making a kenyan. No one's telling me I can't wear it. You're going to ask me maybe it was mah because nobody belong it didn't belong to anybody. So maybe it has a d of mah may because it's a maybe it's not that's a good sha. I don't think it's a mukah problem but I have to be if that shouldn't be a muk maybe because it's a kay anyway. So it doesn't have a because since it was already from before shabas but it's not it's not because it's a in any case but what's the is not to have in zin not to have in mind to be this way the person and then you can have in mind to have the that's so should you give a ma to someone on shabas is we saw in the no because there are many and that way based on the other mission what do you have to put your head into a case of number one is before the person you want to give them You want to give him a present before buy you didn't have that in mind before Shabas bring it over. You want to bring it over to the house cuz you're going to forget. You tell them I'm leaving this here. It's not yours. It's not yours. I don't even want you to be a shimemer. I'm just leaving it here. That's all. Don't have to be it. I don't have to give it to you. If I change my mind, I'm allowed to change my mind. Like says, if you speak that out, then you're good to go. If it's something which is we said for example there has to be on the first day everybody holds that that's surely no problem if it's something which you didn't make an you don't have any food you have to be everybody holds it now now I just want to finish off with the It's brought down in the middle over here that the number of mitzvah I say in the Tyra and the mitzvah aim of a person is both the same and the is plain and when a person does a mitzvah he's being that specific a in a person's body as it says over here a person who puts on fillain you on your hand so you have a hand of and a hand of gashmas when a mench will come back to to will be have a have a we have mitzvah say which if every single mitzvah is with every mitzvah you do or you learned about because you can't do every mitzvah you put there are some aarim every a is important there are some aarim loyal a person loses a finger loses a hand, you can still live. There are some mitzvah that very important. If you don't have it, it's your life doesn't depend on it. Hearts, you can't live without a heart. A cup, you can't live without a cup. There are some which they call in the belt mega mitzvah. These mitzvah is the hearts of he says on the top a person who keeps shabas the way he's supposed to says What's up? You know what is to the world. They're the rabbi start. The worst is the shish. They're the shish of Desar in the world. is that means he denies the how is that possible come to America you see all the people outside how they live their life the person can how is it possible that's what happens that's what happens what's the status Right. Why the terret say is shabas is not just an a of a person. Shabas is one of the main aim. It's a mitzvah that a person is being made that the aish created the world. In the same time that he's being foolish and being but when you keep shabas the way you're supposed to you're plugged in in such a way that the of your goof is in the right place. That's the that shabas we learn every single week kadusha shabas. The kadusha shabas is not about what you can't do as we've said in the past. It's how to enhance the shabas and make it gishmak in what you could do. You want to bring a mat. You want to enhance somebody's shabas. There are ways of doing it. There's the right way and there's the wrong way. When you learn the of shabas and you understand how to do it, then you know exactly be the person that's supposed to do it. as you saw.