Greatness In Saying I DON'T KNOW | Torat HaChassidut (11)

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know all of you are going to love are going to help us actually have a strategy of how to do this but not only a strategy even an additional motivation of why to do this and in fact even specific target times of when exactly to do this when to minimize your conversation because sometimes mundane talk is actually necessary as of bre advised his that there are times that you have to speak about absolutely nonsensical topics meaningless topics with different people just in order to finally get that spot where you could give them some and do with them and this is a strategy that have used in order to get to the hearts of people sometimes you have to speak their language as we all know from the famous story of What's called the the Disco Rabbi uh who uh built a uh enormous Community uh and uh just as a result of him sacrificing his time is Nish in order to get am to do Chua even in the worst of worst places which still unfortunately uh were not as bad as the ones of today I don't think he would do the same thing today as he did back then but nonetheless uh we see that Gman uh took major risk doing things that were unorthodox speaking to am is in their language in their way just in order to find an opening to finally get them to hear T and do chuva so we see that there are times that mundane talk is not only allowed but it's actually necessary so at the same token told us that we have to run away from mundane talk so that means that we have to learn when is the time to not and when is the time to do it now this certainly sounds trivial and it is it may even sound antisocial it's not but tonight we're going to find out the greatness that a person can achieve with these words by being selective with their speech in fact with a lack of their speech so brings us on this journey where we're learning how important it is to train ourselves not to speak to anyone mundan nonsense and even then when you have to speak you should keep it to a minimum weighing your words carefully and ensuring that you don't contain any trace of falsehood flattery gossip tail bearing belittlement of others or self- agisent God forbid up to here is what we did and learned last week this week we learn to train yourself to follow the sages principle of teach your tongue to say I don't know and there so before we get into it thear also says sometimes it's good to start off a sh with a joke it opens up the hearts of people and also the minds and since this joke is a scarly joke there's always room for it and since I remember it it's even more so and since it has connection to our this week's par as it always does and even more so in this week's yobu leaves the yes of and on the way to lean's house that he will later find out will literally try to destroy him in all of as we read from the he falls asleep at the place a holy place and he wakes up from a dream and he's scared because he realizes that hem the of hem is there and it says Yakov awoke from his sleep and said surely Hashem is present in this place and I did not know that's where the word where that's where the teachings of I I didn't know comes from where the sages say that a person should teach themselves how to say I don't know but it's a side note there a joke but certainly some from it there was once an evil priest that had a lot of control over the government that uh said that he wants to pass a decree to hurt the Jewish people and uh unless they could defeat him defeat him in a debate where the first one in a debate that says I don't know not only loses but gets thrown off a bridge now while the sages of the time were debating who should go who should go some average Jew not exactly known for his wisdom if quite frankly the opposite he was known as a fool comes in and he says to the listen let me go and debate this this priest I'll go to the bridge you yeah yeah yeah listen best case scenario I win worst case scenario if I lose they throw me off a bridge and you guys don't have to worry about anything because if they come to you say listen you're going to get punished now say no we didn't send such a fool it's not our fault and this by the way is a something that has done several times over the years and it's mentioned so anyway they say say go ahead go for it he goes to the bridge of course the priest is with his people everyone's excited to defeat another Jew and they see this lowly Jew he says okay priest I'm ready for this uh debate but since you are so honorable and so Majestic and so respected and so much more knowledgeable than I am I think that it's fair that I get the first question and the priest of course with his arrogance says sure go ahead what can you possibly ask me he says well can you please give me the meaning of the verse where the Torah says what does it mean and the priest says I don't know quickly his foolish people that were supposed to guard him take him and throw him off the bridge now of course that's actually what the verse means means I don't know but they didn't know that but the clever foolish Average Joe average Jew I should say wins the contest is celebrated comes back to the Jews and they all ask him listen I'm amazing great job how did you do it how did you know that he's going to fall for the trick goes what trick what are you talking about how did you know you're going to defeat him that way goes what do you mean for 20 years I've been coming to synagogue and we get to this parasa and I look at the parasa and I see the translation and over there in a translation it says he says I don't know so I asked the religious guy next to me what does this mean and he says I don't know and I asked the guy next to me what does this mean I don't know so then I went to the rabbi asked him what do you what about this one I don't know nobody knows so I went to a different synagogue and I asked them and they kept saying I don't know I don't know I asked big rabbis rabbis that were visiting for 20 years I've been asking rabbis and different religious people what does this mean and they kept telling me I don't know so I figured if these big rabbis and these religious people all don't know then surely this priest doesn't know either saw a little humor at the expense of the uh of the enemies but nonetheless this is actually something that the brings several times that similar similar things happened uh throughout Jewish history in order for Amis to save itself but the truth told is thatu the is telling us that this is actually something that a person needs to train themselves train yourself to say I don't know now why would somebody want to train thems to say I don't know I mean this quite frankly seems like it's the opposite of the mo today it's the opposite of the way people behave in fact he says train yourself to follow the sages principle to teach your tongue to say I don't know and when people who are careless in this specific teaching of I don't know speak to you about frivolous matters you should use any means possible to avoid conversation and if you cannot you should offer the briefest answers possible no more than absolutely necessary so obviously here without us understanding what is this teaching of I don't know we're going to be dumbfounded we're going to be at a place where we have no idea where to go so of course we have to find what does it mean to say I don't know and why is it great page 4 a this you will also find in in z 31 and thear talks about when is midnight and it says who knew exactly where midnight is says David knew midnight was because David woke up at midnight each day to pray to Hashem and he had even a uh special musical instrument a harp that would automatically by itself he positioned it in such a way that the air would go through it and it would make music in the middle of the night to wake him up said whatav knew when midnight is and mosu didn't know why do you think mosu didn't know because when told him about the plagues to stop it when is it going to be is it going to be at certain time and mosenu pretended like he doesn't know the exact time it's going to be around midnight meaning mosenu made it seem as if he didn't know what when midnight was so the sages said no no no mosu did know exactly when midnight is it's just that mosenu was teaching us that you have to teach your tongue to say I don't know lest you be caught in falsehood meaning that sometimes it's better to profess ignorance in order to give information instead of giving information that could be considered false or could make you lose your credibility where since mosu did not exactly know when hasem is going to do what he wanted to do he can't demand something from hasem so he said it's going to be around the midnight because if it's a minute before a minute after then par and is NE romantic I say ah you didn't know look maybe it's because of this maybe it's because of that so M said it's that time around midnight so they don't start saying no you were wrong by a minute you were wrong by this you know sort of in a obviously a small comparison where if you notice almost every film and practically every lecture we've had in the last decade there's always at least one loser that makes a comment about something that is not material to the entire lecture but that's they don't like oh you mentioned it's R but really it's Rael oh you said it's the mishna it's a uh the fourth uh uh Mish but really it's the it's the third one oh the uh the uh the music is too loud oh the uh you know you this or the lights or all types there's always going to be somebody that mentions something that has nothing to do with the topic at hand I mean there's a two three hour video that's what you got out of it there's always something like that there always something like that it's I don't even fault those people not even upset at those people I don't even react to most of them anymore just simply because I know it's the but this is this is something that always happens instead of getting the information and applying it to your life people always find that one thing that one thing they don't like so doesn't want par to do that so he pretends like he doesn't know exactly when midnight is but from here we learn in the that it's good to say I don't know it's good to say I don't know why because if you are like what most people are today and you act like you know everything especially young people then you're preparing yourself for embarrassment you're preparing yourself for uh disgrace and in fact you're preparing yourself for a problem why because one of the reasons why anytime we speak about business on this uh you know in our shim it's typically in a very negative connotation is because I've spent over 30 years doing business with literally thousands and thousands of companies and individuals and from every way shape and size and I've always told you guys I've been young and I've been old and I've haven't F found a single company a single individual that actually does what he says I've paid them I usually don't even negotiate but I've yet to find someone that actually does what they say this is unfortunate reality one of the reasons why this is the case and why this is the standard in society today is because typically the average person out there especially in the world of business says a lot because they're selling can you do that yeah of course we can do that how many you want he doesn't even know what you're talking about but he wants to say yes why he wants to make a sale well can you do this too of course of course we can do it anything you want Rabbi anything you want anything you can do that too yeah of course we could do it you sure absolutely he's whispering to his friend what is he talking about what is he talking about don't worry don't we can do we can do it we could do it we could do it we could do everything and what ends up happening in business is that people overpromise they tell you they can do everything and in reality they cannot even do what they promised the bare minimum and this obviously leads to a lot of disappointment but this is not just in business this is simply in life people love to say I know I know and that's actually a bad character trait especially when people want to tell you a story and they want to tell you a story and you already know the story or they want to tell you something about the par and you already believe you know what they're about to say saying yeah yeah I know I know is a terrible thing to do if somebody's about to tell you anything relating to T it's extremely difficult to overcome the negative character trait that is telling you to interrupt them that is telling you to show them that you're becoming impatient because you already know what they're saying but in fact if you're able to overcome that bad character trait you could reach extraordinary high levels of Kusa but it is very difficult to say nothing or to say I don't know especially somebody comes to you says yeah did you ever hear the story about radya and you in your mind you're like what Rya I can tell you Ra's bio by heart I can tell you I can tell you stories that you never even heard of now if you do that you're hurting the person if you do that you're minimizing the person if you do that you're never going to reach anything of significance if somebody tells you do you ever hear of a story of this or this sadik or this story about the par that's the perfect place where you say no I don't know no go ahead I don't know never heard it before even if you've heard it 50 times even if you wrote a book about it there's a time in a place where saying I don't know is perfect because if you're one of these people that always says yeah I know I know why the yeah of course and then really he he wasn't going to hurt him and then he did and then went to G then yeah yeah yeah exactly yeah just like you said oh yeah yeah I know that one okay great guess what not only did you just embarrass the Storyteller on top of that you demotivated demotivated him from telling the story to anybody else cuz now he'll assume everybody else knows the story number three he'll probably not want to study anymore because he'll assume that everything he's learning everybody already knows so you're lowering the Torah in the world and number four you're missing out on an opportunity that there may very well be a fact in the story that you actually didn't know that he did but now that you're telling him that you did know he assumes you knew everything about the story so it's a very bad character trait to say I know if someone anyone comes to you and tells you I want to tell you something some some some story some anything you have to be welcoming them with open arms and never show any level of impatience and that is a very very hard character trait to master but it's certainly one that's worthy to do so because if somebody wants to tell you or a Torah story and you already knew it it's not enough to just listen you have to show interest even if you know the whole story even if you yourself have told the story if you show them that you're impatient if you show them like come on this is like part two of seven parts let's go then there's no point this is even more important when you're dealing with kids if your kids want to tell you a story even if you're the one that told them the story you just told them a week ago you just remember it now or you told them earlier today they want to tell you nowat you have to empower them you have to tell them wow amazing the best story ever act as if you've never heard it before because that will encourage him to continue learning and that will also help you continue growing in your but if you're one of these people that tells everybody yeah I know I know I know I know and guess what you're going to be very easy to hate people are going to hate you very often because no one can tell you anything no one can teach you anything no one can talk to you about anything and it's going to be very very difficult to get along with you and in fact you're going to miss out on some great wisdom one of the worst types of people to deal with when you're a rabbi is someone that cut you off while you're talking says I know now usually when somebody says I know if they do it once no big deal they do it twice no big deal but if everything that you say they say I know I know usually there's no point for the rabbi to continue helping this person because they're unhelpable you simply can't help them they are a person that does not want to learn they're a person that wants to show everybody they know more so the first thing we see is that this I know it all type of mentality that is unfortunately a very common trait among society today is the opposite of D D tells us that there's a time and a place where you have have to say I don't know and that's in fact the best thing you can do to show ignorance on the other hand we have to look further page 3A and thear here first starts off with a question it always starts with a question which develop on the ultimate goal is to show how much wisdom and knowledge the sages had of the Torah to the point where they literally knew the number of letters and where each letter in the Torah was and why they commanded us the Torah commands us to know it better than anything else but before we get to that point the question is asked by ra Safra in the name of Rua B what is implied by what's written in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 6:7 and you shall teach your teach them thoroughly to your children this is by the way for anyone that's familiar with it it's because it's a you say it every day what is the meaning what what is this that you teach them thoroughly to your children so first the says this is where a person needs to divide his studying to cover all parts of the Tor he has to spend a certain part of his life learning the written Torah then the uh the the Mish but then the goes into how much to what extent the sages went as far as knowledge of the tah says because of this teaching of how much we have to spend our lives learning toah the sages were called the earlier sages were called Sim which means those who count why were they called Sim and remember this is 20 years ago well before computers or calculators because these counted all of the letters of a Torah to such an extent that they used to say that the letter VAV in the word gon this is in the Book of Leviticus 11 verse 42 where it talks about a uh the creeping creatures that are on their belly and you may not eat them it's an Abomination and so on in one of those creatures the gon the word gon the v in the letter is Big it's unusually bigger than the rest of the letters and the sages said you know why the VAV here is big is because this VAV represents halfway point to the letters of the entire Torah scroll and the word d d also in Leviticus 10:1 16 represent halfway point of the torah's words not the letters but the words and in the verse that starts with the word uh uh Vidal this is in a um Leviticus 1333 this represents the halfway point of the Torah of the verses meaning that the and then it tells you the halfway point of of the book of Psalms but the point is that well before literally Millennia before calculators and computers and artificial intelligence and even AI Rabbi the sages knew a whole lot more than AI Rabbi or the computers could ever know even the supercomputers literally they knew the Torah left and right they knew every sing Single part about it to the extent where they knew the number of letters where each letter was this is like somebody knowing where each hair on their head is that's how well they knew the tah then the in K anyone that wants to look into it further says some interesting facts numerical facts talks about how many verses are in the Torah how many uh um letters how many verses are in T and so on it's a very interesting section for those that like numbers 5,888 is the number of verses in the Torah scroll whereas in the Book of Psalms there are eight more verses whereas in the book of Chronicles there are eight less verses so you see everything is connected now why why did they have why do they know T to such an extent not only knowing what it says not only knowing what it means but knowing it so well that they knew the letters the verses why this letter is bigger or smaller this is because the rabis taught in what is the meaning you shall teach them thoroughly the meaning is to convey that the words of Tor should be sharply honed in your mouth that that if there is a man who asks you something concerning some point in the Torah don't stammer or stutter before answering him rather you will be able to answer him immediately meaning that the Torah is going to be so sharp in your mind in your heart on your tongue that somebody asked you a question about Torah you have an answer this verse that page this number you go through you know the Mish you know the you know the you know the T you know everything you know where everything is it's like a blueprint in front of you at all times like thear says about that he was the only one that when you would write a he wouldn't look at another seph while doing it is when you write a seph as a scribe you have to copy it from another SE so there's no mistakes was an exception to the rule how could it be an exception to the rule they said R was to such a high level spiritually that he had a seph t a seph image that he can see at all times better than what you can see in a book in front of him at all times what that means I don't know I'm not at that level I will one day perhaps I'll Merit to even have that for a second but imagine someone that has a t in such a way they literally has some type of illustration in his that he could actually see like it better than what you can see so now the says these are telling us what seems like the opposite of what they said earlier earlier they said no went to say I don't know here they say you have to know the Torah is so good that if somebody asked you a question you don't stutter before you answer them you know exactly where it is in fact they even give you a uh something to to to to such an extent that you should know it to the extent where just like you know that your sister is forbidden to you that's how much you know the Torah as it says in the uh um it says in the Torah book of proverb 7:3 says say to wisdom you're my sister what does it mean say to wisdom you're my sister just like I know that my sister's forbidden to me the Torah is clear to me you the Torah are as clear to me as the prohibition of incest is so here we see that there is what seems to be a m a debate contradiction no contradiction why no contradiction because as we've said many times we don't learn T from one place we learned T any particular issue you learn it from different places take all the pieces of the puzzle then you have a full picture if a person looks at the I'll have one opinion say I don't know if he looks at will say you have to know everything and go spit it out right there tell everybody you know you know you know you know you know you know everything so comes the the to comes and comments on he says we see that this seems to be a contradiction in where it says to say I don't know what does it really mean to say I don't know says the TOs what the what the sages are trying to teach you is say you don't know when the conversation is regarding meaningless talk when somebody asks you who won the elections what do you think about this politician what do you think about the news what do you think about the media what do you think about the uh neighborhood what do you think about the real estate prices about things like this get yourself accustomed to say no I don't know I don't know why save yourself to time you never going to get that time back you're never going to get that time back this person is trying to waste your time with meaningless talk the one common denominator about people that never get a response from me are people that send me a uh a message that just says hello or says hi why I know that's bait that's bait for just simply a conversation about nothing you have a question send the question don't send me a hi or hello now here the t is telling us when people want to chitchat with you say I don't know be honest you I don't know no but the you know the elections didn't uh Donald Duck won Donald Trump Donald somebody didn't he win don't you know I don't know do you think it's going to be good for the Jews I don't know the the is going to be good you think the Market's going to continue going higher I don't know why aren't you investing in the market you know I don't know I don't know I don't know anything why save yourself the time you're never going to get that time back stop wasting your time with meaningless chatter what do you think about this podcast what do you think about this show what do you think about the grass what do you think about the weather which route of traffic did you take from point A to point B meaningless talk save your time even more so says the tosot also say I don't know even when it comes to Torah matters if you know that by you answering it's going to elevate your ego where they're asking you a question and you already knew this question 25 years ago they're asking you a question and you know it so well that you want to show off how well you know know it say I don't know why it's better that you say I don't know then present the Torah in such a horrendous matter of ego and arrogance because people are not going to be attracted to Tor with somebody like you so if you're going to be one of those people that likes to show you know everything it's better you don't teach toah this is why many times when people ask me if I think that they should teach T because they like to learn they're usually they're B and they say I want to do what you do Rabbi I said great it's a nice compliment people want to do what I do but which part of what I do do you like to do or do you want to do well you know I want to debate people right there and then I know that this person should not teach toat for a while why because he doesn't want to teach toat to help people he wants to know information so he could show people he's better than them that means it's not about the tah it's about the platform for such a person say I don't know I don't know anything go learn go grow you have a long way to go no but I need to know and I want to know I want to answer these Christian I want to answer these Idol worshippers I want to talk like you no no no I I promise you you don't you think you do but you don't why it'll bring you a lot of problems if that's the way you want to do it and that's what you want to do it's not going to help you in life in fact it's not going to help anybody so tosot says if somebody comes to you and wants to talk about nonsense say I don't know and if somebody comes to you with Torah matters and you know that you are an egotistical person you know that you're an arrogant person that like to say I know everything then also say I don't know on the other hand if you have worked on yourself and you're not going to insult the people with their minimal knowledge in comparison to yours and they have a question then certainly you should tell them what you know like you know it what are some examples of this one of theal of edstein told the story himself to R my own dear R and they talking about the G the gaon edstein you know he's spoken much he's written much he's built much I mean this is one of the Giants in the past generation and he says nearly all of the questions I've ever asked edstein started off with the rabbi saying I don't know even though Charlie thereafter he wrote a whole chuva about it wrote a whole sepher about it he gave a whole speech about it initially I don't know why practicing what the sages said they say I don't know this is also important for a teacher to not only always say I know I know I know about everything because sometimes you need to present yourself almost in a same world as the students are certainly there are times you have to be show them that you are much higher than they are in order for them to respect you and listen to you but there are times where you need to speak to them on evil evil grounds even grounds why because if they think you're so far away from them they're not going to communicate with you so the ofin says every question almost started with I don't know another example of this is an enormous story about rki know people know Kanki from The Bu how much he saved his words in his last years literally to even turn which means blessings and success into an acronym that's how much you wanted to save speech how much you wanted to save time because he knew all too well from finishing completing thei and many other every single year for decades what says a verse from the prophet am 4:3 where the sages teach that even a simple conversation between a man and his wife is going to be shown to him during his Judgment day it's going to tell you every single word so why waste the words why waste the words says that my life came out through the words where a person doesn't realize that they have only a certain amount of words that hasem assigned to them during this lifetime SOI people were asking questions all day and they were used to getting answers not only answers sources exactly where it is why it is but one time one of the people came to him and asked the r a question and said you know there's a question about this particular issue and all of a sudden the RV is hesitant and almost like stuttering a little bit go yeah yeah uh some people have asked that before well does the rav know remember what one of the answers was to this question says yeah I believe they had some answers about it I don't know this obviously is unusual for rki who the entire Tora I don't know some people asked it's an unusual response from rski so this student was clever realized there's something to it so he went and looked into RV kani's books the books he wrote and he realized that the RV already wrote an extens of chuva about this topic maybe 25 years before this guy even knew this a question RAV kvki was practicing the mid the the the humility instead of telling the guy yeah of course this question I already know it I already wrote about it 25 years before you even knew it was a question he figured ah if this guy really wants the answer he'll look and he'll find he'll find that I wrote about it if he doesn't look that means he doesn't really care about it so why why should I get a uh my ego boosted because I already know so what we see from here when it comes to baseless talk when it comes to meaningless talk says use any means possible to avoid the conversation and as Rob F says isn't it a shame to waste time now the in page 19B will give us the next point of our journey of what the value of words are we need some inspiration and there's no better inspiration than fear at least at the start if you tell somebody listen you should love God because he's good to you that may make the person do a Mitzvah but it's not going to stop him from making a sin if you tell us tell person don't do a sin because then God will burn you and G home forever typically a normal person will stop making that sin as I said normal person some people need a little bit of practice to become normal so the sages many times throughout the throughout the Z throughout all of theim speak in a very very sharp language very threatening I like it motivates us inspires us it reminds us where we stand the sages talk about same thing same place in where we're told that we should speak of them what is this speak of them speak of them the Torah is referring to speak of the words of Tora speak the words of Tor that's what T is referring to but why does it say speak of them rather than just say speak the words of Torah to teach you that you have permission to speak them the words of Torah but you don't have permission to speak other matters aside from what you need to live Raba says one who engages in Trivial conversation transgresses a positive commandment for as it says in the Torah and you shall speak of them which implies speak of them but not of other matters says a person who speaks trivial conversation meaningless conversation transgresses a negative commandment also so because it also says in the in the uh um tanak Ecclesiastes 1:8 all the wearing words a man may not speak meaning that when you speak about mundan talk things that are meaningless you're spending a lot of effort a lot of energy but you don't actually have any positive results to ever expect out of it you're wasting your energy that should be used for Torah such a waste is forbidden so of course a person that's just starting out in the world of Torah and is not even remotely close to ever being a Torah scholar to this this is foreign to them and that's why we say is something you grow into over time it's not something you just adopt in one second and it's certainly not just based on clo there's a lot more to it than just wearing a certain type of clothes but if a person understands that at the very least they have to be more careful with how they use their words not to lie not to cheat not to curse as the says somebody who curses can lose blessings that were decreed upon them for 70 years meaning if it was decreed on a person to get blessings for another 70 years worth of blessings one curse can lose all of those blessings why could you used a holy vessel that ASM gave you and you profaned it so when a person understands not to speak nonsense not to speak to just anybody not to use dirty language not to be a flatterer a gossiper l insulting people all types of things like this that's easy for everyone to understand that if you are already above that and you can become more more careful with your speech start off with eliminating all mundane talk as much as humanly possible but there are times that it's not possible and that's what is talking about he knows we live in the world he says train yourself to follow the sages that tell you teach your tongue to say I don't know but when people who are careless in this come and speak to you and they want to talk to you listen I really need to talk to somebody what what do you talk about listen I'm really stressed out what happened is everything okay your wife's okay yeah yeah she's fine she's fine your kids are okay they're healthy yeah yeah they're fine they're fine what are you stressed about oh the economy you know the economy the national debt is so high right now and also worried Russia you know Russia is crazy right now they they they want to start a third world war and I'm really concerned about the weapons and whether we could afford to go into another War and you know what happened with the medicine and Corona was really killing people and what leave me alone there's like literally already like maggots coming out of my brain because you're killing it leave me alone that's what you want to tell this person but you can't why this person may be your father this person may be your mother you can't tell them leave me alone I don't want to talk to you you have to sit there and say yeah yeah not the not theem find a way find a way to get out of that convers ation without sliding their honor even a little bit even a little bit or perhaps they're your student or there's somebody that doesn't have anybody else literally they don't have anybody else and they're coming to confide in you and sometimes you have to do it a little bit because it's for them to simply just listen to them train yourself because there are going to be some people who are careless in this that come to speak to you about frivolous matters and you should use any means possible to avoid the conversation but if you cannot avoid the conversation you should offer the briefest answers possible no more than absolutely necessary meaning just because there is a permission to be there and talk to them and listen to them doesn't mean you go start waste your whole day on it or start wasting hours doing it or doing on a regular basis meaning there's a in a place for everything and a person has to be clever to know how to utilize their time but of course in order for us to value our time when a person is Jewish and knows that his Torah is priceless hearing it sounds good knowing it is much better so for that I'll tell you a couple of stories raim heard the story from his dear father this Shabbat and says he spoke to the man spoke to the person behind it he says years ago maybe 30 years ago there was an that uh tragedy Came Upon him and his house burned down his apartment burned down everything destroyed and he was actually Neighbors with this came to after he got the worst news aside from the burning house which is that to fix it it's going to cost 200,000 shekels this what is he making a few hundred shekels a month what is he making 200,000 shekels you might as well tell him 200 million he's just as far from that as he is from the 200,000 so he came to Rya he told R the story and R told him listen I'll write you a letter and you could take this letter and go try collect the money and says please what am I going to get from people 10,000 15,000 I'm going to get from them I need 200,000 where I going to get such money plus going to be such a waste of time effort so says okay let me think about it let's pray now and let me think about it they went and prayed in the and after the prayer a rich Jew was visiting and came to Rya and asked Rya if he would please honor them by coming to the Brit Mila of the first born grandson that this rich man has they're having it in a very fancy place and they want the honor to have the r be as the sakya was a Sak on many many breits but in his later years he said no more being a Sak anywhere else other than his own sh in order not to waste time traveling going back and forth anyone that wants to be a s bring the baby to his they do the prayer finished two minutes literally they're finished with the but this rich man did not want that he wanted Rya to come to the place and Rob says no I'm sorry I can't cannot do it too much time it's going to take an hour of my time I can't wasting time and the man begged him said please Rabbi please I'll do anything anything the Rabbi says I'll do I have I promise my son this is the first grandson the family has I promise my son that I'm going to have come be the Sak for this baby everybody says anything okay go help that you see that over there sitting go help him you help him I'll come of course the rich man runs over to this that he never saw or heard before says sure listen send me here to help you what do you need whatever you need I'm here says no no listen I'm okay no no what do you need what do you need come on tell me I need I need something I need 200,000 shekels you got it no problem here takes out a checkbook on the spot writes 200,000 shekels as if it's writing $2 gives it to him in his hand runs back to wait hold on a second what you what is this for no it's for the rabbi to come be the immediately the runs back after the guy goes in front of Rya goes no no no no no no no no absolutely not absolutely Ely not and he gives back the guy the check goes why not he goes you think that I will take upon myself to waste an hour of R's Torah time absolutely not no way let the house be burned and we'll just live in a burnt house rather than waste an hour of's time when Rya heard this of's respect for his time time for his Torah immediately got up and he told us of listen to me go and sell your house as it is sell your house without changing anything take that money from the house there's a place called B shees that the country the state is trying to build there's almost nothing there go and buy two houses over there one big house to live in at one small house the small house you're turn into a little synagogue you go do that I promise you're going to succeed for the Merit of how much you valued my hour of Tor that you gave me an hour of Torah you're going to see success listened to this's advice listen to the's advice without second guessing anything today even if you tell people the Allah something they second guess you but maybe there's a different opinion immediately he took the's advice to practice sold this house burned as it is sold it got some money but the houses in betes at the time was so cheap there was virtually nobody there you could buy things for pennies he was able to buy two houses with that money got a big house for himself got a small house as a besset but now there's a problem what's the problem there's no Manan and he's there doing whatever he can came to ra for a blessing because I promise you you're gonna succeed don't worry you value Tor you're gonna succeed and this is in a Sho one day in betes and a person com in a businessman comes in said listen we are looking for somebody to be the head of all of the institutions we have that we're building here Yesa synagogue you know Seminary for girls everything and I want you to be the head since I see you're the only one that has come here and is trying I want you to be the head what do you say says i' be happy to but I don't have any money I'm sorry he goes no no don't worry about it you don't need any money the the state already gave us land as part of this whole thing that they're trying to push for people to come here and build and for the building I already have a donor all you got to say is yes and of course he said yes and the blessings Came Upon him and until this day until this day his institutions are some of the biggest in bemes and of course bmes has prospered tremendously over the last 20 or so so years but we see here what this man got just for valuing one hour of toah one hour of tah when a person understands the value of Torah in the next World the story you just heard means nothing in comparison to it because because as much glory and Glamour and and and and profit that a person can get in this world it's literally worthless in comparison to what a person gets for that single hour in an next world so why waste the time why waste an hour of your life talking about mundane nonsense that cannot help you nor the other person but unfortunately some people are addicted to this so much so that they actually study for the conversations they read the news they read the news they watch the news they listen to the news so they could have something new to say to the people they waste their life with literally it's it's like drinking poison and then expecting to live the way a person needs to look at these types of conversations where people come to you and ask you to talk about nothing and what is trying to tell us and when someone somebody's coming to you and trying to talk to you about nothing you have to think about it as if they're about to take a part of your life that you're never going to get back a half hour an hour two hours three hours however you give them and if you give it to them an hour certainly they're going to come back tomorrow for another hour and the next day for another hour and perhaps they're going to come on a regular basis and literally this person is going to steal an hour from your life now people don't value their time as much as they value their body so imagine this if somebody came to you and says listen you have two ears can I have one huh what do you mean one you have two ears see you have two you don't need two let me just take one how about I just take the ear LOE how about that okay fine you don't want that fine how about your nose can I take your nose okay fine you only have one nose get my cheeks maybe I'll take your cheeks listen crazy guy get out of here I want my body as it is how come you want your body as it is but your time you don't when a person does not value their time as much as they value their body they could easily lose both without realizing it the which is a super commentary on the by RIM lived in the 1700s he was an extraordinary that hid himself from society in a very clever matter for years before he un veiled his wisdom and became one of but in one of his letters to another he told him listen at this time of your life you should do what I did and hide yourself anytime people come to you and ask you Torah questions pretend like you don't understand what they're saying pretend like you don't even know what the question is pretend like you're not you're confused that way they won't come back to you over and over again there are plenty of other places and other they can go to let them leave you alone for now because this will give you more time to learn and more time to better yourself and more time to write the Books because if you start now answering everybody's questions you're never going to have time to learn you're never going to have time to write your books you're never going to have time to develop yourself so hide yourself for as long as you can this is not just what the did this is something that many did even after they became Shalom is famously known that he generally would not go to events many of would not go to events and if they went they went literally for minutes I remember when I went there was a couple of events that we were invited to R FR and I but the way we went to events the way R FR goes to events and I learned from him of how to do it is very simple first you generally try to get away with not going but some people really care that you come so there's a sh a picture everything has a sh everything has a measure and there's a measure of how long you need to be there in order for the house to be happy how much is that measure enough measure for them to take a picture with you in it so literally we would go to a place we say hello sometimes sit down maximum three to four five minutes there's a picture usually taken thank you very much and you leave and we did this for at least a half a dozen events that we were invited to that we could not not go to and this is the way it is many of this is what they do they go they say hello somebody takes a picture they pay the respects and they leave there's no meal there's no nothing even sometimes they'll have enough time within those five minutes to even dance with the for two minutes he's happy now okay now it's time to go Shalom anytime he couldn't get away with not going he would go he would sit at the table but he would make sure to put a hat on the chair that's next to him and one time they asked why do you put a hat on the chair next to you he says because I'm putting one extra layer of distance for anyone that will have the to come and bother me while I'm learning T they won't come and sit next to me they'll see that I'm busy or that they can't sit there cuz there's a hat W they I take my hat and lift it from the chair that takes an extra level of to do that let them let me be so I could learn T even at the event wherever I am in the morning in the afternoon at night on the way before I lay down before I go to sleep at all times the are learning why why waste time why waste time why waste time because what happens when you waste time what happens when your mind is empty of Torah aside from what the rambam says that immorality comes to people that have a mind that's empty of tah but if a person lives a life without having toah in their life all of the mundane talk about politics about business about sports about fashion about everything else in the world you literally can sum up in a matter of maybe a couple of conversations has no more to talk about without getting new information and a couple of stories will give you an understanding the hostages that were taken hostage by the monsters of Kamas on October 7th reported themselves saying that one of the most difficult things that they experienced while being hostages was the boredom because they weren't allowed to do anything and they just wanted the time to pass so what do they do they literally when they would get a bowl of of rice finally to finally eat they would to pass the time they would eat one grain of rice at a time one grain of rice at a time just to pass the time I mean some of these poor people were there for 100 100 50 days and didn't have any Torah knowledge didn't have even a verse of is that you could recite in your mind and not only increase your marriage but you could delve into it and think of many other things from it didn't have what that means how does the transmit from all the way to us mhe gave it to Yeshua Yeshua gave it to theim gave it to theim gave it they didn't have anything they have no knowledge of Tor and therefore whatever mundane topics they studied whether it be in school or in society or the news and every that all ran out within a matter of a day or two and literally for the vast majority of time they had nothing to talk about this is also most apparent with people age as thear itself says that when age they get older they get sharper their bodies may give out but their minds become sharper that studied to his whole life is much much more sharp when he's 80 years old than when he was 20 on the other hand people that don't learn tah as they age they become more dull because their mind has not been utilized to the best ability throughout its life and it becomes worse and worse in fact the worst thing that old people suffer is boredom shom Shalom one of the most profound and and speakers that we had in the most recent generation said that one time when he came to the BET mid he told him I just learned something while making schlom what the make what he see what he do so as I'm walking towards the BET mid I see that there is a old couple maybe mid 70s 80 years old arguing at the bu upop 38 37 38 37 38 you don't know what you're talking about you're always uh pessimistic you don't know how to count you're forgetful 37 you always exaggerate you don't know what you're talking about you always see things 37 38 37 38 back and forth immediately I said what's going on here I went over there and I say can can I help you with something oh Rabbi great that you're here maybe you can help us with this big problem that we have okay what's the problem says Rabbi we're here we don't have much to do so we come we sit here and we count how many buses pass now my dear husband over here he counted 37 and my dear your wife over here the husband says she counted 38 but of course she counted 38 because she always exaggerates he only counted 37 because he's pessimistic and forgetful he doesn't remember even anything of what he ate yesterday so we want you Rabbi to tell us who's right 37 or 38 in his wisdom of T says to them you're both right huh how could we both be right listen you counted 37 he counted 38 that's because there's a double bus that's a bus that's connected to another bus you counted it as one and she counted it as two oh wow perfect amazing yes you're absolutely right May hasem cre more like you wow what thank you so much yeah thank you thank you sh says to us yes on one end it's great we make SL bite but on other end look at what happens to a person if he does not learn Torah in his later years he's not going to have anything else to talk about other than counting buses this is why we say and emphasize every single week doing chuva and learning Torah is not a gift you're giving anybody but yourself because all of the other information you're consuming all of the other things that you're doing every single one of them would lose its value shortly after you attained it but the tah the toah that you attain the toah that you acquire only increases value over time and that's why on another end when raim was young and he went to visit his uncle his dear uncle that I've met several times a sadik and he went to visit him for Shabbat and he saw that after they finished praying for Shabbat there was one old man that stayed at the synagogue got AAR and sat down and Raa told young R FR and he told me see that man he's not going to go home until he completes seven or at the of the because even though itself says that you shouldn't delay doing K after completing prayer on on Friday said here he made an agreement with his wife since he's older and she's older there's no kids or grandkids at their house there's no reason to hurry up having the dinner at a specific time and since he learned seven the of every single day to complete the once a year and doing it in the in the morning or the afternoon on Friday is very difficult because he needs to help to prepare the house so he does it before before he comes home so sometimes they'll have the kou at 9900 p.m. sometimes at 10 p.m. sometimes at 9:30 depends on how difficult those s seven or eight the that he does on that Friday night because he's not just learning on Friday night he's learning the whole week but he has to complete his learning that Friday night we see from here this a person that not only values his time is very particular about how he uses it but also as a person that has not lost his Zeal his purpose and his excitement for life because he still has toah he still has toah he doesn't have to count buses he doesn't have to count grains of of rice he's continuing to develop his mind in his old age and this is why when a person learns Tor and dedicates thems to it they'll know that the value is priceless but then they'll also start to understand why the value of wasting your time on baseless conversations is also Priceless but on a negative end so let's try to save our words only for purposeful things make sure to encourage others like your kids or other people that want to say t that we give them the time of day we give them 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them didn't want to listen one of the things that I've been speaking against over the last several years is Cash advents lending money with high interest some of those rates legally are as high as 19 100% a year people are not searching for the truth what are they searching for quickly out of my problems one of the things that the talut teaches us simply how to behave social media is discussed extensively in the tah in the oral tah in the written tah [Music] in God wanted to give you a chance to follow the tah you decided to go against you desecrated his name the amount of punishment and suffering you're going to get is literally going to be endless every single second you stay friends with your old Christian friends with your old missionary friends with your old atheist friends with your old friends that are anti tah is a life [Music] risk you have to get rid of a lot of the stuff that triggers you if you want to progress that means you have to abandon the past by being modest in behavior and clothing makes the person a vessel that is able to accept a certain amount of Holiness in the world pornography is no less addictive than the heartest drugs in the world experts say there's another pandemic children exposed to pornography on the devices we give them [Music] [Applause] [Music] says after you make the same sin twice tells you it's allowed here we see that aad is not just a fairy tale that sometimes people would like for him to be the majority choose to be evil before the mhia arrives today they look like they're a millionaire today they look like they're living large look around the corner and they're [Music] gone I tried to warn them but they didn't want to listen