Grand Purim Farbrengen with Rabbi YY Jacobson - 5782/2022

[Music] the yeshiva.net everybody knows the gemara says that uh robert of zeta [Music] and there's the whole story what happened afterwards the next morning he brought him back to life the next year rabbit told him come let's do a sudos put him together such we had such a great time last year why not repeat it on malay tsukumari says not always do miracles happen last year was a miracle this year i think i'll do so just put it myself i'll go to my shred it'll be calmer than baidab the santa mice is a paladin so there's a lot to say about this story [Music] but there's a beautiful piramas it means greatness largeness zeta zeta means in aramaic small z [Music] every person in their life has a part that's rabbi you have a part that's zeta we all have our katniss my pettiness clank kepler de kite they have it in monsieur bristol ah rabbi smith [Music] you have moments of rabbi so godless and then you have to say that everybody becomes very small-minded very petty and the truth is that's what a person is a person is it happen a person adam has two pollution [Music] says adam is milashan adam comes [Music] you're a reflection of ainsof which one is emes [Music] and the answer is both both how could they both be ms the answer is because adam is sula muts of artsa which one is they're both emmas so sula moots of arza so he has everything of eretz but virus because the adam was the only one who could be who could be who could synthesize a ken mccabe's [Music] up that's the kiddush of adam that's the whole life rabbin and zeta have to come there rabbit could go on his own way the zeta could go on his own way but the kiddush of putim is they have to have a surah together what happens at this every person needs to be able to eliminate or vanquish or conquer or better the gemara says um [Music] sometimes a person looks at themselves and they see katniss see i'm small i'm petty i'm anxious especially i'm pudding people get very anxious yeah it's like the happiest day of the year right a stressful day why because i'll have to figure everything out together to be able to graduate katnos so many things happen because of katnos arguments my own stuff inside outside people think they're small if you could see that you're large you're bigger you're not small what's that you small small means i live in a very small cuban a very small blah blah blah in a small uh bubble in a small box comrade every person you have days do you feel god losing of days you feel katniss you have moments you feel large and you have moments you feel small you have moments you feel great and you have moments you feel petty insignificant dejected valueless comes putin it's time to say katnos you could live in a much bigger space in a much more expansive space of arcade move it's a fine of an eggbone simcha pirates i don't have to live in smog darum the ashrae ashrae me somebody who could notice when they're in a moment of katniss and say i have pira i have kira because against so now you want to know why the next day he made his amazing [Music] foreign is part of the process we don't get rid of any parts put it says mama that can can go undercover the next day we have both but rabbi invites the person and the next year the poseidon says i would love to come i would love to come he doesn't uh why why not why shouldn't i'm saying they liked it very much islam said zeta hates it's the way katniss thinks it's going to have godless by being katniss nobody is small because they want to be small they think that's how they're going to be great so you have to just expand you understand what i'm saying people are small because they think that's how they're going to be great it's called coping mechanisms the therapists call it coping mechanisms is [Music] in we're talking about the zeta inside of us the one that always asks why why yeah yeah yeah yeah why this why that why that why this why do you have to be like this i always point fingers on the other person if you would only be this i would be instead of realizing that i'm being triggered because of my katniss i want to bless everybody who's here yes [Music] foreign [Music] ah [Music] uh [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Applause] [Music] bye uh [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] hey is so before the story of rabbi and zeda right before the story the gomorrah says something else [Music] that they actually did it that way so what should others say that a person is obligated will to become joyous inebriated through wine until he doesn't know the difference between arya and barak martin what is the difference very good [Music] is that you shouldn't know the difference in other words the difference shouldn't come from yadah the difference should come from a place that's beyond yada in other words a whole year [Music] so why are we celebrating if i catch today should be a sad day oh yeah the whole indian it doesn't make sense so developed it means just get drunk and lose your marbles and become a sugar man that's not a system teenagers could smoke and throw up all over the houses sometimes they could throw up on a regular thursday night so without without amkus you think it's like one day judaism is such a hard religion so one day god says you know what let loose i'm closing my eyes for 24 hours as the abrasive [Music] do whatever you want but that's all if you describe this tucker a hard religion so one day you need a pizzazz i feel the [Music] real judaism is about truth so what happens i'm putting fakert the uh kesha comes out that's not the other anymore you don't need the yoda it's a medita because what comes out of the edison comes out the core that's beyond the other that's what about hanya taiji's what does this mean in life what does this mean practically in a person's life ralph you're still here okay i wanted to make sure for the next piece that you hear but he's not the only one this is negative [Music] the real question is how do you how do you access yourself i said this to the women in the class on tuesday it took me around two minutes to say and they were all nodding because but the vibe becoming with the men in them but it's not going to take a few hours hopefully put him it won't take two minutes of knock apartment but hopefully he'll be faster than usual you don't have to wall nod your heads kasper it's not it's not mine i said let the men [Music] huh [Music] how do you how do you talk about yourself to yourself anybody ever does that you ever talk to yourself about yourself anybody i told you don't nod don't don't don't make believe you know what i'm talking about the next piece you don't know what i'm talking about okay i'll be much better i'll be much safer but for those who know what i'm talking about like the ezra snowshoe and a few people in deserts i'm so we talk to ourselves about ourselves that's what people do especially in our generation previous generations people didn't have so much time to talk to themselves about themselves right because it was a ukrainian matzah you were busy surviving but today barak hashem hashem gave everybody time extra time so melo we have seven eight hours a day where we basically talk to ourselves about ourselves yeah you understand what i'm talking about at least one person understands that's to say that you talk to yourself about yourself and if you're not talking to yourself about yourself your wife is talking to you about you if your wife is not doing it your shri is not doing it if you shrink is not doing it your therapist is doing it if your therapist is not doing it somebody else is doing it but how do we talk to ourselves about ourselves always through yada that's the tool that we have yada yada right through knowledge through self-consciousness i talk to myself about myself how through my knowledge about myself and that's where all the problems come from all the problems come from that the way i process my self-awareness is through self-awareness did that make any sense really if rabbi litzman said it made sense then attacker made sense because he does it not usually okay you think i understand you don't have to understand you just have to hear what i'm saying let it go in let it go over your over your head i'm saying they'll be much better [Music] the number one stood up with the one senator he said that a group of students from university came in to him and they asked him was [Music] he said so they took out their pads they started to write she said so they went out of the room with a paper wrap with an epiphan paper first taste first okay so the kitchen emirates i don't want to explain it first of all i can't explain it and second of all samantha for the summer but then i could have got him i should be a typhus and if i'm typhoo said maybe a few people will also be a typhoon so maybe even better worse whatever it is the way i got a text this morning from somebody he's struggling with tiffany on him and he told me that he's having a very hard day he wrote to me early in the morning that he's having a very hard day which is not surprising because putin a lot of people are miserable the stress that they're miserable but they're miserable it's hard for them so uh am i happy i'm not happy almost i'm supposed to it's like on vacation you know i'm miserable people are on education i know somebody tells his wife before she goes on vacation one thing i ask you don't try to enjoy yourself when people try to enjoy themselves it's the worst it's don't try to enjoy yourself please so put them you have to tell people don't try to enjoy yourself because you're going to be miserable try to be miserable then maybe you'll be happy anyway so [Music] so inaudible he texted it to me so this is what i wrote i want to tell you what i wrote i don't know what's gonna put him to canyon this is what i wrote i'm quoting myself at my own fabrega and you like that okay it just came out i'm quoting it hot news hot news hopefully not fake news put him this is what i wrote to him and it was nakadaita he's a he's a deep guy purim exposes many of our vulnerabilities it shows us how much we need schedules and structures to define ourselves to ourselves so a day that doesn't have those schedules and structures is a very hard day for many people so what is abdullah it's not trying to know anything not trying to make anything look a certain way not trying to fit anything into my brain not trying to negotiate happiness with my brain not trying to know myself through knowing myself just letting go of my brain letting go of my expectations letting go of my guilt letting go of my frustrations of how things should be could be it's allowing myself to become one with reality to just celebrate what is with complete surrender to embrace the infinity of reality which could never be reduced to the finite tools of the brain so whoever wrote this whoever it is was before whoever it is yeah it's before he put on his mask which reminds me about my son this is a good mice i heard it from the bala myself himself [Music] what's so funny [Music] no no no no no i'm not the beloved that would have been good but it was actually i'm clay rishi clarition so uh there's ajit he comes here off and he has mushpaka here in in wesley hills his name is wine rep he is uh he is the translator of the korean english gemara the raj stains out english edition of gemara and he's i think president emiratus of ou something like that you'll google the titular he told me the mice himself he uh he's a love he's a writer a psychologist he was a rabbi in maryland in the 19 late 1960s and early 1970s and he was going through a midlife crisis as he put in an early midlife crisis and he needed advice so he came from a certain yeshiva certain kehillah he didn't want to go back to his russia shiva's because they knew him too well and he knew what they're going to tell him he wanted to have advice from left field from somebody who doesn't know him fresh advice not somebody you know who's going to put him into the box you know i watched because that advice is already abyssal not me but whatever i know you you know he wanted to go he told this to me saying who couldn't he call somebody wants to go somebody's going to ask the laboratory for advice this was 1970 or 71. he lived in maryland near baltimore he was a rav over there so he called up the rabbi had a secretary his name was [Music] and he said that he uh he would like to come in from baltimore to new york to visit he's having a midlife crisis and he needs to consult the deb about the future of his life [Music] so if khadakov said that the bookings are already full for six months it's impossible so he said he's having a crisis he doesn't know what to do he really needs help he's not going to be long just a few minutes [Music] so he said you know what i lashed it up [Music] i'll ask it up couldn't speak on the phone he didn't take phones there was letters he would write answers but with rabbi khadakov his office was close to the episode there was a phone line between between [Music] weinrep said he knew that ebba's voice because the fabregas would be on the radio those who remember w.e [Music] evd radio so the rebels for pringles would be there in the weekdays so he knew the voice he was never there but he knew the voice she tells me here's about putting through a line to the number and saying saying on the phone as uh siddhariyeed a roofed [Music] tells me he says i hear that let me tell rabbi khandakov socked him as a definition telling him he doesn't have to come at vintage in maryland in maryland is [Music] so he gives a scream in the phone [Music] a mind rap so he says he was about to faint now khadakov was about to faint he said he says i'm the guy i need the help i should go to so khadekov completely uh confused tells the remember and is vined up [Music] she said without skipping a beat that episode's on the phone [Music] sometimes a person has to have a conversation with himself so mccarthy says to him it hurts he says ahead bye boom he hangs up that's it the episode have to come in go talk to vine up he tells me it was the best advice he got in his life he sat down with himself he spoke to himself he said it was the best advice he spoke to himself he says he sits down with himself and he talks to himself [Music] now it's a profound idea but here is where it gets complicated can you talk to yourself not through yoda can you talk to yourself actually from yourself to yourself who's talking to me about me who's talking to me about me is the brain that put me into a certain box and tells me who i am so you're going into an event yeah and you're feeling anxiety why are you feeling anxiety nobody nods nobody knows what i'm talking about i know that one person you see the kids all night once you hit a certain age yeah it's basically shidduch mage all self-reflection becomes distorted by what the shotgun is going to think it's interesting huh okay so uh huh you wanna know what i'm drinking tonight okay so what happens i i the tools that i'm using to find out who i am those tools may be the most problematic tools because what if those tools were distorted what if i have ptsd what if i have trauma what if i have childhood wounds what if i'm suffering from deep fears or insecurity so they're gonna tell me who i am who i'm not where i can go where i could not go this house i can go into this house i can't go into now i have to be nervous now i could be happy now i'm free not i'm now free now i'm supposed to get frustrated now i'm not i don't even realize it my whole self-perception is based on yada and my yoda may be completely blemished and distorted by years of a self that's accessed only through the tools that i have in order to find out who i am and what if those tools are completely blemished and what if those tools are so limiting and one of those tools are so narrow and one of those tools are completely confused and one of those tools are filled with inner pain and strife what happens my whole perception of self is completely imprisoned by uh imposed doctrine that has nothing to do with me it has to do with how i see me your first aid was exaggerated huh yeah so on my rather rather it [Music] to find out what it means to be a human being how are you going to find out what it means to be a human being even an inish there's four names for a person the lowest name is enosh he owes it to himself that once a year can you access yourself not through yoda can you access your eczema nephesh so you'll say rabbi why why how do you access your head samantha's everything is through yadah ooh but that's the goal that you should live life not from a place of yadah you should live life not from a place of yadah because if you live life from a place of yadah you could never be free everything you have to ask the yoda this mask mask you know how crazy that is everybody wants to know why is everybody so anxious push it too much yoda so what are guys doing either they're drinking or they're smoking everybody is looking for other yoda but how do you find out that you can't add the other you could do through distracting yourself from yourself or through going deeper into yourself that's the difference between drinking or smoking and learning when i say learning siddhis i don't mean that's only on put him i don't mean the levus i don't mean and i don't mean i don't mean saying i mean in a way that it becomes visceral you know what visceral means physical the problem is when we learn it's also yadah and when you learn through your diet there's albert problem the gemara says in tightness [Music] the same information that for one person is for another person for him it becomes not that it is [Music] what does this mean emotionally that everything is going through yodan if it's going through yoda so what happens so then all of my behavior is filtered through this filter so it's like all the water you're drinking comes through a certain filter and the filter affects it if our state was exhausted [Music] there's a marshal in physics heisenberg gave it to einstein it was masturbating [Music] that's the east side it's a very good marshall i told it to the cover a few times [Music] distract yourself then don't say there's no mitzvah for you to drink you could do that a whole year oh yeah [Music] you think [Music] so you think you need to put him to get drunk he get drunk on thursday oh it's tucker thursday he got drunk on wednesday you don't need put him to get drunk you need put him you have to get sober first taste put him here how do you get sober so you have to sometimes say a little to get sober you don't need to put him to get drunk [Music] didn't come down to this world to get drunk you know someone came down to this world to get sober sometimes in order to get sober but it's not the engine of first taste yeah when are you gonna already say you don't understand the rebel was once forbranging the shabbos and he went for hours and hours and he kept on asking somebody vicholazeiger is yet his name was popek so he kept on answering because at some point that was says [Music] so he said a muscle there was a fisherman who decided that he wants to ascertain the size of the fish in the pacific so he lowered down a net for six months throughout the pacific and he lifted up the net and he discovered hundreds of thousands of species of fish do you know that in the oceans there's two million species and they're messiah that there's another few million that we don't know how many species of fish can you count besides tuna and herring on jalapeno heading filter and jalapeno gefilte fish chili and sea bass [Music] very good on tilapia tilapia right but there's two million that we know about and there's another few million that we don't know about so i'm just you just realize hashem's world so every one of those species of fish is here to teach them just know that so when you finish [Music] the fish so he lowers down the net and he picks it up after a few months the hundreds of thousands of species and this great fisherman comes out with a declaration to the world and he says that i discovered conclusively that there's no fish smaller than five inches [Music] in your dining room is a fish tank with a goldfish how many inches is it less than five [Music] so he became the laughing stock of the scientific community until they realized that he actually wasn't lying the holes in the net were five inches [Music] he was talking no fish more than five inches he was right the tools that you use to define reality will define reality and from your perspective you're scientifically accurate nobody thinks maybe the tools are the problem right so the tools you use to define yourself will define who you are maybe the tools are in guns the tools you use to define your wife are whose tools your mothers okay your fathers huh therapist the therapist those and your fathers your figures you whatever it is so you decide yeah it's it's it's cutters retire this is a decision somebody told me 30 years i'm analyzing my wife i said that's your problem 30 years does gone are going in yeah it's analyzed that's your problem maybe you could stop analyzing he says no i'm an analytical person i said that's the problem so and and the further you go so what happens the tools get a little better so again it's a therapy that's unsecured so instead of five inches now the net is two inches it's fundamentally the same problem you're still stuck in yadah [Music] same is true with your children how are people judging their children through their tools people told them what nachas is yeah what nakas is what a beautiful family is what a perfect family is what a dough yusharim is what a shabbos table is supposed to look like who knows what a shampoo table is supposed to look like moisturizer with you element this is the trauma you have now you girls don't fit into that so melee you're a failure yourself melee you're angry so now you're spiraling and shabbos becomes the most miserable day soon [Music] you know what this looks like in most houses [Music] yeah i saw a guy in a beagle eyes and he had he was buying forty hakados from basically 40. he had the moderates he says he wants to have divided for the satan i said thank god i'm not coming to you say that how old are you kids two three six seven ten eleven twelve i said i'm thinking to myself [Music] what happens is we define what life is supposed to look like people define what's put them supposed to look like now no pudding looks like that i hate to tell it to you that perfect pudding doesn't look like that doesn't look like that you know the guys who get angry when they clapped human too much they go crazy because there's noise right that's what people do to themselves the whole day there's too much noise come on hum so what do you do you bang harmony even more so there's more noise you understand [Music] so maybe we should stop mentioning him imagine somebody gets up and says nobody should think about a pink elephant what is everybody going to think about a pink elephant so every year don't think about amalek make sure erase amalek you know if you would stop talking about him every year stop making a shabbat zakha min yeah and you know all the shiite in the week of shabba zakha today it is right you know everybody coming [Music] it's very stressful maybe if you stop mentioning amalek yeah they'll forget him [Music] if you're not going to mention amalek amalek is there it's called shrama amali comes up constantly if you at least know how to identify him then you can give his with him america is going to be there you understand the yada is going to be there the gemara is acting [Music] everything is processed only through das everything is through das the moment you process things through das you're going to get confused between taiwan how do you start processing things without douse oh this is a heart avoid it's not simple because the das mixes in 24 hours a day and the dos is the cause of all your triggers it has to be this way it's supposed to be this way it's supposed to look that way my wife this my husband this my son this my daughter this is let me give you an aide safadalayada adlayadam is the hardest avoid in the world it's also the best avoid in the world what's the void of adelaide just let go but letting go is the hardest thing you know why because the mind wants to control that too i'm gonna tell you now let go let go no no don't let go just let go ego easing god out let go and letting go is not easy because we let go also with control i'm going to control my letting go so i want to bless everybody that tonight not without no don't do it with don't do it because if you do it without zoe it's going to ruin it trust me [Music] you're over to yourself you're not if you don't have to you owe it to yourself rather was almost i promise you this is a massacre mcgill so when did the rather say kaya vinish when do you think he said it i think he said it for him right after there's a story of rapper zeta [Music] that we should have the courage the omits the common courage [Music] should have the ultimates the courage to be able to stop filtering yourself through the tools of self what does this mean how do you stop you don't stop you know how you do it just become aware what does it mean to become aware to become aware yeah when you walk into your car or your kid tells you something or your wife tells you something or this one tells you you get a text and you find yourself you find yourself ungood so you can very good how do you say i'm going to take enough english doesn't exist in english english doesn't have a word for anger saigon because english says [Music] ah not frantic hungar means ungetsaigen anxious frustrated upset triggered he's 13 years old 14 years old and he knows about triggers [Music] a boy this boy came over to me tonight and he said if he derives [Music] imagine i didn't know the word trauma until i was from two years old the kid has to hear me anyway but i hope you hear the other side too so uh is that you want to be able to embrace reality the way it is and that's what when nothing's frustrating you don't have to expect you don't have to give perusam you could just tune in it's very hard i'm telling you it's hard because the brain doesn't like that but it's really letting go just opening yourself up and being a channel is [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music] foreign [Music] is [Music] yes foreign [Music] wow [Music] [Applause] foreign [Music] my [Music] i'm [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] hey [Music] is [Applause] [Music] is [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] and a funny thing happens besides a person goes into the space of then they're much calmer they have much more they have much better shalombias [Music] huh no no no because they're up when you have to when you don't feel the need to process the self through yoda you could just open yourself up so then you're always in a place of vacus [Music] is [Music] foreign [Music] said you have two cups two cups one cup is fragrant delicious wine with with honey and clements is vinegar so he says that causes it's two cups but this is a cup of wine it's a cup of vinegar so moisture says zachary say my shabbos locator is a cup of wine [Music] is a cup of vinegar this is azaka to celebrate this is ozaka to penalize to punish what's the mattress rash coffee is china the whole marriage doesn't seem to make sense what's the question [Music] the whole question doesn't make sense you can't remember shabbos and amalek why not and what's marcia's answer is a cup of vinegar a cup of wine of course okay so it's a language language but i won't just want to bring out the mamas the nakuda [Music] there's two ways of living one is you're a cop a kois [Music] a cup and a cup is a cayley a caylee is a container and a container is mookable it's finite it's a cup i don't know if i told the story in the sheer but the cadets could to tell the story [Music] of 1966 [Music] yes [Music] so at the end of the fabregan it was like i think three in the morning says that all the bottles that i still have yayan or mashka in them they should empty them out caleb shouldn't be any full kill everybody should say look how you so they emptied out everything they emptied out they'd have emptying out all the battles by him he drank the dick then he gave us a shout out to call our punisher of course he's been a gay opponent but he said call our person everybody understood whoever comes he's going to give so the whole island started to come together never finished giving the whole island a few thousand people and the moscow was finished came out to go home so people brought new cases of mushrooms he stood over there by the elevator the lady would give dollars and he started to give the mashka finish so he left he went to his car on eastern parkway and people brought new musk and the island from crown heights a lot of others siddhim and other jews everybody came because there was a hidden over everybody came together wanted to see what's happening so they climbed up onto the car that would take him home so when the car was in the sky what we say in the morning [Music] and all the full gal gala fine but that every game was giving monsters thousands of people came from all over the neighborhood it was already like four in the morning to get the time and put them night from the number so my uncle told me he was there so there was a bachelor who came with this cup to get and already thousands of people went by downstairs and shawl and then by the this room and then by the car [Music] took a look at him thousands of people but he was there from the first ones and surely [Music] but i had a hole in the cup okay a cop means two things cup means cup [Music] what's going to help if i give you a second time he's going to pour out again see he says i acquired a new cup he says ah the hustle cup fell again and he gave him a second time [Music] it's a profound story about life if i have a lock in the cup you could pour and pour atsumo if could pour and pour everybody at leo everybody could pour [Music] that if it's water that's detached from the source you need mem saw but if it's a mayan if you're connected to the marker if it's a living well speaking order that these make rather cultural you don't need memphis theoretically if you can get your whole body into the culture with maybe a pramf but that's already the hackball of the goof it's at the mikveh the hurst he used to tell us he had a lisp he says in lebanon [Music] but it's not a thousand you need one maya and mitai you need a kosher mushroom a cultural culture of ms you don't need memsa so if there's a logan cup was a dolphin you could get memsa you got a thousand so [Music] an epson stuck in locking cup yeah is my inventory why am i telling this to i wanted to bring out a point a choice is a good but there's one problem with the cause what's the problem it's yoda it's a container seven ounces ms nine ounces hashem is not a cause ain't safe is infinity if you think you're going to get ain't surf with the coyotes you don't do it you take ain't safe when you limit it now we live in crisis emma's koi's beggar matriarchy the host huh [Music] so the jews come to marsha and they say we live with shabbos shabbosham [Music] i'm not talking about you you as i cannot go but those of us we're good we're normal people [Music] if you're like if you're an addict yeah then you need you know nice judaism but if not you need real judaism [Music] i don't need people that are masking with me [Music] huh [Music] paid download base so used to spiral through so they found it the guy was masking whatever he said you know like somebody says very [Music] you think you need a wife to agree with you of them you need somebody to say yeah yeah yeah you're a cuddle that's not what you need you need somebody else in the kitchen you don't like what i'm saying you don't have to say this over to your wife that's fine i'm telling you the ms you need somebody to be masculine what do you need that yeah your ego should become bigger you don't need that yeah but [Music] if you want to use it for carbonus it needs why even a kais they tell moshe where shabba is the key we don't have a shaykh malik a malik is for sick people they get triggered by all craziness but we even shabbos the [Music] is processed through crisis there's going to be a molecule as long as a lucas is processed through yadah as long as a lucus is processed through a coast is going to be amalek what's up and my lake is when you cut the birds neither the nape or the bird you the beheaded what's on my lake amalek is you understand everything but there's no connection with the heart the head gets cut off you understand everything you're brilliant you're cerebral ken's dying you finish the bottom line is you're angry the bottom line is the yashas is the same yeshua's the ego the frustration why so the moisture says you take a sharpie from wine comes vinegar you can't compare vinegar to wine but for mine there comes vinegar as long as you're processing godliness through yadah through matsias taina kamarkev the murderer [Music] as long as passes through your diet there's going to be anamalic don't don't don't worry and it's fine when you reach beyond crisis there's no harming aids then there's no this is the touching of the mind what does this mean practically what does it mean practically in life [Music] so practically it means [Music] crisis are wonderful yoda means it fits into a certain box there's a cup and i need the wine to fit into the cup i want my life to fit into the cup and if the fly fits into the cup even when you're holding by shampoos you have to know how malik is going to come let's have it see us why because you're a cop what's the alternative not to be a cup to be a channel [Music] clay clay pottery earthenware vessel so it's or goes into the overview the cavity but comes from even if you don't touch the kali [Music] okay because why because it has a cavity this is flat like a plate a flat plate or a counter it's not the cable tumor only if it has an opening like if it has a cavity a bowl a cup a spoon a jar that's not with clay carrots it's this next week's parachute kyla it has to be toy so the ramen asks a question what if you have a sea lion a pipe made of hares of earthenware you have an earth earthenware pipe on one hand it has a toy there's a macabre thumb or not so that was a name for cable tomorrow let me not tighten the lamina from why because even though yes clay cable oscillate a pipe is not made to receive it's made to transmit so even though it could be a big pipe and the water is there it has a clay cable ain't never cable so that ever said over there and he started to cry i was listening i said what's so emotional when people hit like that is tuma they shut down everybody knows that right that and carbonis leave me alone do me a favor okay what's so emotional that a pipe is not my couple to i couldn't understand they never said over the nominee started to cry it was i didn't understand a siloing is not macabre the club the whole dinner of tuma today [Music] a person is a claytonis the only type of clay that is that could be macabre is a clay herreras that has a toy it has an inside there's two philosophies in life one philosophy in life is i have to be macabre i need me me me if you're flat you're not makable the question is can you have personality and still not be macabre can you have a toeic uh inside now so the rambam says yeah for pipe or channel so the episode like there's a yid it says in kidus [Music] every person you're a pipe your channel hashem reveals himself through you so he says not because he's not macabre you can even cover everything he says you can have everything you can have everything inside this cover with richness with allah [Music] what does this mean in life [Music] you could come into a life and you're a cop you decide that this is who i am here this is a yui this is a zelig this is our metal you understand this is who i am this is my personality this is my family this is my nachos this is my yiddish guy this is my aveda mensch you know people who walk work on madregas you ever heard of madregus [Music] the moment your child doesn't fit in as they point the moment your wife doesn't fit in oh yeah you're gonna have a blow up i'm telling you a molecule is gonna already look like a tsar de la caveo and you see sometimes holy people yeah they're preparing for pesach for nine years they prepare for puerto macross and then somebody doesn't work out commercial and they lose it why do they lose it why do they lose it they lose it because they were living in a very very very tight bubble the truth is i don't know how much was it about a lacusa was about the ego but even if it was taking the shape shamayim even zozai which is very hard today it's usually about my own insecurity i need everybody to fit into my own narcissistic stuff but zozy even if it was mama let's say but if you define what life has to look like based on a cause there's going to be an amalgam what's in a molecular molecule is a trigger that comes unexpected yeah that even though you understand everything but somehow your heart your nervous system goes crazy i'm a licking he chops over the head it's like you know people that understand everything but they just lose it that you're angry you're frustrated you represent what's the problem the problem is it doesn't have to do with sexual you don't need to learn more muscle you don't need to learn more you don't need to learn more enough you learn more you don't need to learn more music you don't even have to learn more tanya it's good to learn all this smarter but there's something else it's a fundamental issue and that is your nervous system is for your issue is not learning your issue is amalek [Music] what do you have to our mullet don't remember him he won't be here he's going to be here if you remember him at least you'll be able to know how to deal with them amulek is going to be here whether you like it or not me to shy liz if you know that he's here if you don't know that he's here he's going to be here but he'll be subconscious he's going to control you without knowing it if you know that he's here you'll be able to say ah [Music] thank you today a mother is going to be here there's another shiloh why because that causes my health nothing what's the data they just add the lawyer what's the lawyer and the other means i don't have a curse accomplishment curse i'm not a curse i'm a sea lion i'm a pipe i want you should imagine yourself think of yourself i'm not a cop i'm a channel even your cup is not a cup it's a channel if you're a channel you're not afraid of anything you're just a channel it's whatever we have somebody shop this morning in the shirt god of it's so he starts he shouts out his command i say a word he says he says it just came in ups shabba's delivery just came in ups yeah your head is also it's ups you know the voice of the bass nation the [Music] dna and in the strand of here you have the same dna that you have in the brain if it's at some it's everywhere it's not like if your toefl so it could be in the here it could be in the saliva spit yeah how do we get into ice [Music] says in other words there's detachment he doesn't realize it's a ups delivery you're a channel you're not a choice don't get stuck always be a channel there's a flow you're having a sensation and experience it's a ups delivery it's fine vanishing the spawn your kid said something to you your wife said something your husband ain't moving don't limit yourself just be open this is not avoided right now it's exactly what i did now this is a right now exactly what it has to be like there's no what pudding has to look like what does it have to look like it has to look like what it looks like what does a nice sharpest table look like what it looks like i there's nothing happening notice the trigger [Music] nobody [Music] has to look like this peso has to look like this maybe nothing has to look like anything it has to look like exactly what it looks like then you say what's a good bacha what's a bent it has to look like this maybe you don't have to look like anything exactly what you [Music] we see that he did good research he did good the whole speech was prepared necessary this is why because it's a case it's not a channel it's not a flow so that messes like this in life you have to prepare a teacher has to prepare shiva has to prepare a darshan asks that you have to prepare but you have to know you have to know the challenge secretary's visa even if it's a case of yay and it's going to bring to a case of climates wine becomes vinegar what's the aza date says to be a channel what does a chat to be a channel to be a channel is what's the dots in hashem right now at this moment what does it look like it doesn't have to look like anything we get so stuck in life because we force god into cups stop forcing ainslief into a cup break the glass you like my void at the end of a cuppa you break the cup the worst thing for a marriage is if everybody stays in their cup and then you process your wife through your cup and she processes you through her cup oi oiva break the cup it's not easy to break a cup it's not easy i know under the hoop it's not so hard but in life it's much harder you gotta clear samsung you gotta break the cup what's fred break the cup cause kaiser material kim ask not what god can do for you ask what you can do for god ask not what your children can do for you ask what you can do for your children ask not what your spouse can do for you ask what you can do for your spouse ask not what the whole world can do for you ask what you can do for the world kamraba shakthila zeda [Music] it doesn't have a lock today it's gonna have a lock tomorrow and even if it doesn't have a lock it's out simpson and kais is elokim what's teva nature but what's the teva the word teva comes listen from the words [Music] a coin why is my bear called baya rabbi moses because because it's stamped because it's minted because the picture is stamped into the madbaya in messages we have madbaya [Music] is when you tell yourself you tell yourself this is who i am oh yeah really this is who you are how do you know that this is who you are based on your yoda maybe it's not who you are maybe you can ask hashem who you are no i know who i am how do you know who you are from your net but your net has holes with five inches so how do you know who you are i know who i am maybe ask hashem who you are no i'm supposed to get angry now this kid said this to me i'm supposed to get angry how do you know you're supposed to get angry because this is what i did for 42 years maybe you're not supposed to get angry [Music] it's all because you're threatening my cop but if i'm a channel you can't threaten a channel you know why you can't threaten the channel because it's a flow if it's a cop you could threaten it because it's uh you'll destroy it i'm going to lose everything but if i'm a channel what are you going to destroy i don't have anything i'm just a flow so what are you going to destroy you'll break the pipe so the flow will be without a pipe you don't have to be afraid if i don't why do people get angry why do fathers get angry at their kids why do teachers get angry at their students why do spouses get angry at their spouse why do people get frustrated and annoyed only one reason it's called coping mechanism you're trying to survive you're trying to survive the cup is afraid if i don't get angry the cup is going to be destroyed i get it what if you could be a channel [Music] what's up shout the channel you're with me the murder are you with me or not huh okay think don't think too much the only way you could change this is tomorrow when it happens all i'm asking of you is not to change just be aware amalek just came in disassociation anger negativity toxicity amolek has nothing to do with understanding you don't need another shear i don't mind if you listen to another shears those islands i'm not gonna charge you whatever you pay for the first year will you pay for the second year it's a pasadena i don't care if you're here but that's not what you need it's not about a sheer you'll hear another you'll be in a good mood you'll watch another clip you'll say wow very nice you'll pass it on to the family group right but the moment that happens you're done your vinegar you became a piece of vinegar so the bashar says that moment that moment you need adela that ever says [Music] today doesn't mean to kill yourself nobody has to kill themselves leave that to putin he's killing himself or somebody will do it for him who is uh okay [Music] ukraine slavo kreiner they say karona two years ago put him as a congestion [Music] the next day is everything went crazy the answer so it's just two years later so kreiner so corona and doctors are linked with zelinski and dr putin [Music] right i'm shredding on very delicate territory these people are muncie with very strong opinions it's fine i'm a channel [Music] huh [Music] so people ask where do you see with me so somebody once said it's a mishna of akama that be made he says [Music] it's bad because if he damages you he's potter but if you damage him she said debbie really should have put in a fourth category agave [Music] before putin i lost my train of thought again [Music] i'm a citizen of fish so we hear mercedes netflix we right away think go into fire today it's it's it's a difference it's not fresh and in a funny way it's as hard we said it's not fish i don't know i'm not comparing solo [Music] yeah yeah yeah [Music] it's never to be a cycle breaker whatsoever cycle breaker at that moment that you're reacting to the person in a certain way to be able to let go of everything you know about yourself and say this doesn't have to be me try it it's very hard this is my reaction it's been my reaction for 30 years it's all yoda ada yoda means maybe i could say i don't know myself you know what i'm going to surprise myself there was a year he once said what's up where the soul surprises the mind that's a good goal in life let your soul surprise your mind that's adalayada the mind says this is who i am this is how i have to react this is my coping mechanism if you could be aware of what your coping mechanism is that i told you there's no zakir amalik is there subconsciously he controls you if there's could be what zacher watch it wow this is intense but this is how i've been doing it my whole life my citizen efforts never shiz to be able to say i don't have to be the person i'm familiar with i don't have to be the person i always knew i don't have to react in the same way i could surprise myself and then you're a free man now you think it's easy it's not because that new way you've been doing your whole life and i'm telling you in your mind it's survival if i don't get angry right now if i don't get nervous right now if i don't get frustrated the world is going to destroy this art not just ukraine the whole world is going to fall apart my anger holds the world up you know that my frustration guarantees survival there's no nuclear war because i hold on to the nuclear war inside that's what people think dr twersky's attorney of rachel once said dr abram he said he was in a psychiatric award and he's there was a fellow who had his hands up 24 hours like this until he fell asleep from exhaustion he had his hands up they tried to explain to him everything but he doesn't need to have in la naga valley parker because it wasn't episode of a que vega that he registered it was absolutely dr twersky was young he walked over and he whispered something into his ear and the guy put down his hands she said what did you do meifes said i went over tim and i said for the next few hours i'm going to hold the world up i'm going to lift up my hands the world is going to be standing on me because i said okay here he gave it up to me whiskey understand it in his mind but i want to say we look at that person who says in every person every person thinks if i don't respond the way i'm responding the world is going to fall apart this is you don't let god hold up the world you could let go and say you know what i'm gonna respond in a new way in a way that i'm unfamiliar with and if you do that again and again and again that's very immense huh yeah stop being a cop and be a channel is that's coming in is an opportunity that hashem just gave you in order to go down the layout to tell them thank you you have been at my service for 35 years to protect me but now is the void of a new summer citizen fish we're going to find out about a new person you know what's going to happen you guys are still with me the hindi cabac the waste us yeah yeah we think we have to dumb it down for the 60 year olds you have to dumb it down for the 20 year olds you got nothing done for the 10 year olds you could say it without any filters and for the five year olds you just let it flow it's my machine mama's the case for the 13 year olds you don't need many filters today yeah yeah it's america's man it's a mighty dick's mom huh possessed that's the cook of the panama a gun said sign yeah there's a good to kill yourself physically it takes a second the tenure of mr snapfish is every day every hour it's a tanua it's a tenure so it's new of having the courage every moment to say i'm not the person i always thought and decided i was in other words i don't have to reduce my soul into a cup not into a cup and not into a comp rabbi moses is the host the problem is as mahatma good a cop i'm hunting got a cup it's not a problem that's when the basham developed a motion shoot them they didn't have a good cup if you have a good cup it's a problem because you're like give a coke i say the cup so you become more dangerous that's the air stopping the underlying now to run away today because then you have the opposite problem there's no tickling there's no structure there's nothing you fly away the real avoider is to lift up the yadah to add to bring the adalyad into yadda in other words to be able to bring it back into caleb to enter the santa zach after [Applause] foreign [Music] there so they used to escape him i'm not that type you don't need my shin i am it's not i have the same action [Music] you need your own i am not much [Music] foreign also be there with the people with poorer that ever with poor it's an interesting thing when they say there was over the kaiser leo was a cup and wasn't touched so it was poured back into the bottle with a funnel so to do that themselves with a funnel to pour back the cushion into the bottle and they would sink kayleato okay so and it was an interesting thing that himself would do it so one set of engine before pesach he said of art that there's there's four crisis that's nephesh [Music] bring it back into caleb and that's why they'd obey him to do it themselves because to be able to bring ancient soif and put it back into the bottle back into the caylee oh that's a special thing he said it was a very fast enough to bring back back into the battle that's that's a big thing because okay it's also a big thing it's not a small thing but to live with abdullah and yadah that's the day after putin that's why rabbi brought her back to life why did he bring the zeta back to life you got rid of the zeta no no no no we bring back them you bring back the caleb because if though kavanaugh was no kaelyn they didn't have to be at simpson they'd have to be able to save it [Music] the door was narrow so only one person could walk through so the bad ditch of it tells the balatanya you go first one time he says you're older than me he says yeah but you're the gonna you're the gone of the generation yeah but you were beloved by the market and they got into this whole argument who's going first so the badichiva says [Music] let's walk through the wall and he meant it we don't have to walk why we have to walk through the door we'll walk through the wall so the melatonin says is all the tear vedim breaker let the door expand walking through the wall means there's no walls you walk through the wall walls are all relative you'll ask about realm in physics it only exists because you think it exists doesn't really exist well tanya said no no no we go through the door but the door has to expand in other words the kayla mccallum caleb mccallum showing him but caleb caleb the others yoda in order that the yoda should be a kalifa yoga you [Music] but the next day he brought back the crusader the singing of nissim's inion of teva was proud to bring lawyer into yada means that even when i'm in a state of caleb of yoda you should be able to always have the freedom to go to it's like uh almost like uh like on the radio you know you go to there's am and there's fm those are remember the radio all of our people don't listen to the radio anymore they used to be on the radio am and fm what's the difference am is the news right the talk radio if you listen to am the world is about to come to an end within the next 10 minutes between biden and putin and the world is about to come to an end between north korea and iran and global warming and global climate and corona there's no future that's am you go to fm whatever soft rock hard rocks gender rockers right it's a whole different mahala yeah so where should you live so sometimes you have shidduchim yeah one spouse is am and the other spouse is fm and it's leviticus yeah yeah one spouse is am it's like the world is about to come to an end and it's your fault because you didn't show up on time and the fm is like he's busy singing and they come to the therapist and she says the guy is out for lunch and breakfast and dinner you know putin is about to explode the world and as it's then as he's sitting he's relaxed and he says she's anxious she's stressed so the sheila is we supposed to live in a.m or fm the am people think that the fm people are completely nuts and the fm people think that the am people are just completely meshuggah so where do you live the mission that says about the success used to juggle and used to juggle he would throw up a torch and catch another one so hosugi and gemara that the greatest hanoi man used to juggle it says they're levy and abaya imagine today the biggest goddess would get up sukkas or put him and start juggling there would be an embarrassment by the constantness you have you know the athletic guys juggling we don't know how he was doing this but then this man of the gemara wasn't that way he had the greatest of the greatest with juggling it's interesting it's also forgotten they were all drunk they were juggled with eggs and cups of wine cups of wine it says and uh and torches eight shmoina eight torches of fire shiva mangalil he was the sea israel he was the head of the sun edge and he was the spiritual leader of the generation [Music] no so once a sukkah is fabregan the little one said i made it to kevart he said that in life you need rodzo and you need then always has to be able to go up back to the source connect to ainsoif but you can stay there you have to come back but if you come back you could get completely swallowed up she said the art of life is juggling juggling means one part goes up and as it goes up another part comes down but it doesn't stay down it goes up and the other one comes down and that's the constant flux of life ah one part of the neshama always always has to you have to stay up you have to be able to go out of everything yeah and sit down and melt away and divide the kimchi and melt away in ecstasy [Music] of german or whatever it is just completely submerge yourself in the mikvah of ainsouf have that ability with vacus with serenity on the other hand somebody has to be picked up from school somebody has to be taken here so you have to come down but the part that goes down is going to have to go up again to refresh itself so where do you live do you live in a.m or do you live in fm the answer is life is the art of jungling the great people know you live in fm and in a moment's call you have to know we go down but you don't get swallowed up you can go right back up why only if you're a channel if you're a cop it's going to be a disaster if you're a channel the you have to allow yourself to be a channel to be a channel you have to free yourself up from all toxicity all static all resistance and just be open to the energy of the moment when you open to the energy of the moment anybody knows what i'm talking about huh [Music] is [Music] when you i go out of that space when i go into the course there's some already so now as i'm happy i'm not happy i'm almost happy try it out you'll see it you let go of everything you think there's no simcha because you're not controlling it now starts because you never could pursue somehow has to pursue you if i'm trying to be happy i'm never going to be happy right try it you'll see i'm going to try to be happy happiness is a byproduct of being aligned with your source happiness is not something you could pursue i'm now going to be happy okay let me pinch my cheeks i'm very happy i'm so happy [Music] happiness is just an internal space where the less you think about it the more you can have it but it's hard because we're used to thinking about things of course [Music] yeah we're all if we could become two-year-olds we'll also be happy the problem is we're afraid to be two-year-olds because we're busy protecting ourselves we want to cope it's a coping mechanism that means become a two-year-old get down on the floor with your grandkids and become a two-year-old nobody's stopping you you know the mile of two-year-olds there's no expectations right now this is atmos whatever has happened there's nothing we have plans busy and busy [Music] is [Music] is [Music] uh [Music] me [Music] hey [Music] [Applause] [Music] this [Music] foreign [Music] now [Music] oh [Music] hmm [Music] hey [Music] oh [Music] hey [Music] oh [Music] foreign [Music] hey [Music] foreign [Music] oh [Music] me [Music] hey [Music] [Applause] [Music] i [Music] um [Music] so [Music] do [Music] hey [Music] foreign [Music] ah is [Music] see [Music] ah [Music] ah oh [Music] uh [Music] is [Music] uh [Music] uh i know [Music] hey [Music] me [Music] hey uh [Music] oh [Music] hey [Music] ah see hey cc ah uh oh uh [Music] bye uh oh hey [Music] yes i [Music] hey uh hey [Music] hey [Music] bye foreign bye [Music] oh [Applause] [Music] the difference between words and a negan words are a case [Music] writes indirectly says it's an interesting thing with a speech how many times can you hear the same speech once twice depends who says it with a negan you heard the vortex you'll hear the vart again okay you'll be polite after six seven times it comes from the heaven and if you love a how many times can you sing it huh you ever see when teenagers get obsessed with a song huh it's an audience a thousand times not enough someone said i don't understand it's just information you already heard the song you heard the speech words take everything and they put them into a coast they put them into containers so it's cool so you got it you got it a in touches on the ain't safe how do you get infinite how many times it's never it's inexhaustible because you can't contain it you feel that it's something you can't contain like dalton said words are the pen of the mind and music is the pen of the soul he said [Music] so you have it once i didn't get it yet give it to me again a thousand times i still didn't get it you went typhus huh yes it's on the borders huh [Music] you remember we were once in a program in a hotel so marduk and david was there so he got up to sink after an hour the island says enough with your new songs give us the oldies [Music] give us the oldies so he gets onto the mic he says it's not fair and by why why gives a speech if he has over one joke or one story that he said last year you said it already he said with me i'm trying to say something i'm trying to sing something new and all they want is the oldies they're not interested [Music] my son mendel i remember he was a little kid and i once took him to an aflamel freed concert so he comes home he's very upset he says it's not fair he sings the same songs every time and he gets paid much more than you you give every time a new speech says it's not fair [Music] to do something yourself [Music] that's why you know how to fight sahara gotta thank your father you gotta thank your father for taking you to the wrestling matches the ffb's have a hard time [Music] you're still shooting huh gears of the yankees [Music] so what are you supposed to do on shabbos he says nagina nagin is ali assalamus ain't safe but he can't sing a whole shabbat so they said you have to bring it into caleb so you'll because that was [Music] what happened on purim that it became the yomtiv it was pesach later it was good days beautiful days what happened this whole indian that we spoke about underlying go beyond crisis beyond the kim what happened on putin in fact there's a matter is that love [Music] is going to be so strong to be like a candle in the middle of the day but put him not what happened i'll put him that created this matzah [Music] so yesterday i was traveling so i listened on the car i listened to our moment of the night [Music] put him tough zion put him 1957. we rather learned last week the second mine was but i was listening to the first one so he said there a vart i was in the middle of driving and i was it was like my breath was taken away for a moment he said it so fast it was very easy to lose but it was unbelievable he said like this the next of putin was oh so you came in the right time you came to the right time again without without diplomacy usually they say i'm a diplomat i make everybody feel this but now it's going to be without diplomacy the way you like it pure ukrainian style unadulterated [Music] she was born in georgia because they escaped ukraine to go to georgia because stalin was better stalin was easier on the georgie and jews the georgie andrews he was a georgian stalin yeah so he was a little lighter on the georgia on georgia he was a little he was not so mad he was not so crazy with them so her family her parents ran from paltava to georgia to kutais so she was born in cotais but at origin my said my mother zeda was uh the schulen the shoe of the soldiers so that's special he was there over there his name was she was named after him kayetivia my mother so they went to georgia i assume so my mother's father lipscore my father was born in mamantovka that's nemaska his father came from georgia they were there from bayes rishi so my father was born in mamanta so we have strong ties to russia and strong ties to ukraine the was born in ukraine near the carpathian mountains and he grew up in ukraine and measured budgets in ukraine so the wholesalers came from ukraine but he escaped napoli and he went to ukraine and that's where he passed away so he's buried in hadith which is not far from poltava galicia was also ukraine at certain parts in history eastern galicia eastern poland is also ukraine ukraine it's a serious thing that means something in ukraine is against [Music] something in the rebel wanted to be buried in uman he looked at the mountain there and he said 30 000 jews thirty thousand jews buried there some two jews who changed the jewish world both born in ukraine are raised in ukraine the balsamic vendetta both ukraine andrews al-shamdiv and they're the carpathian level was born in the collierville and he grew up in petrovsk kamanetsky didn't leave he's still there because the one rabbi didn't leave but how do we get into that ukraine yeah slava ukraine right yeah go fight go find it no no god it's a pillar i mean i said this in one of the clips but the zielinski phenomenon is appella because he was a comedian it's like a very good comedian they would bring him to dinners to make latzanas and charlie chaplin became winston churchill overnight alex became the most prominent leader in the world that the president of the united states is like oh he's listening and he like almost he triggered the consciousness of the world it's amazing britain and even the swiss the schweitzer that they usually sleep through everything they slept through both world wars they slept through even hitler couldn't wake them up the swiss huh fast the schweitzer no no they have trains and swiss accounts they're busy i want to stay here but i need a ride home afterwards did [Music] [Laughter] what's the it's just 132 i don't give tonight we're not trying to be cops we're trying to be channels he wants to know how long it's going to last my biggest fear is what's your biggest fear now is i'm going to get sober and i'll be bishop you know this be sure that it's clean the highest level of bishop and once i'm sober i'll be embarrassed to be here so you know what why not [Music] my point is you see the kayak of a person one person a jew 44 years old 44 years a young young kid stood up to uh one of the most powerful people in the world who never thought anybody will stand up to him and he triggered the consciousness of the world as a conscience america america has been asleep for a few decades they forgot that they used to believe in something america doesn't have a mission statement anymore what's our mission statement today transgenderism there's no mission statement what are you living for who hasn't known me america the united states of america and when you don't have a mission statement you can't live there's no life without a mission statement an animal could live even animals have a mission statement i gotta live i got to propagate in america we don't have that you don't have to propagate don't propagate i without i'm going to be on video no you'll be probably going to achieve without me no you're famous but but if you do speak intelligently we could put you on video and it could create good business for you but for that you have to be speak intelligently and you can advertise your business and then you can it's too good not bad you know the mice said that mendel used to say i'll tell you a good mice it's a good put of my son that mendel he was he was in the gulag he was in the gulag for more than 10 years by stalin so anyone who survived that gulag you know they came out on the other side there was what they listened to so amanda used to tell stories i knew him in his later years because he once told us [Music] once told a story that in every state in russia there was what's called a statement he'll figure it out uh he said in the city of la bavers there was also a statement he was the meshuggard in the city maharashtra the fourth he would go each day he needed for his health to take a stroll so he would go on his coach to the forest and he would walk around there in the afternoon one day the meshuggener of lubavitch as the devil was in the coach he jumped onto the coach and he sat down there they couldn't the gaba couldn't take him off because he was already there and he's talking to the rebel and they had a long schmooze and he jumped down and he came back they said what happened he said he had to consult with the rebbe about a serious issue he said what was the issue he said the meshuggan of vitapsk in belarus there's another city called viteps it was a very famous jewish city still there vitepsk viteps so the stock machine came to lubavitch and he met me and he said viteps has such a big community you can have two michigan and we'll keep each other company there's enough money to go around now i'm alone and you're alone so uh he says such a thing you have to ask that ever if you go to the taps you can join another meshuggah or you're your own meshugane now he says i knew that if i would ask the godby to go into the deb he wouldn't let me and he'd say i'm a sugana so i had to take desperate i had to take things into my own hands i jumped on the coach and i uh asked it up so what did ebba say that episode maybe there's more people there but over there he's gonna eclipse you he's gonna get the attention over here labage belongs to you it's your territory over there there may be more people but you're going to lose the dignity that you have here here the islam loves you and cherishes you that was it gazak so he jumps off says they say what are you going to do he says what's the side load i'm going to do it that episode i should stay i'm going to stay they said really how did you have such wisdom to ask that evan to jump on the wagon he looks at them he says he may be crazy but i'm not going to sugar sugar but safely after half the house but that's stupid yeah yeah my grandfather made the balcony sending himself my grandfather yeah yeah he said to say yeah i would put it a little differently but i hear the vart him so what a mendel once said a mice that there was ones [Music] a deep story i wouldn't always say it was put him coming that sailor doctor you're in siberia a lot of interesting stories so mendel said like this there was a bird and the bird it was winter and you know the birds migrate during the winter because they don't like to get caught in the snow and the hail but this bird was going with the other birds they were migrating but this bird nebach she couldn't uh go along she she had to go to the base like he say whatever so she took a little stop and by the time she came back they were all gone so she stayed there and it started to snow and the snow covered her and the bird was mama stuck they couldn't get out and it was starving and dehydrated and exhausted and freezing this was the matzah anyway a horse came and punked walked over and the horse had to go to the base of kise story don't blame me [Laughter] so the horse went right there and the bird initially oh he gave all the smell but slowly the ice started to melt from the from the igneon the eye started to melt and suddenly there was a pathway this was a bird of nightingale bird she loves singing so she sees [Music] so what does the bird do the bird starts singing the birds start singing for happiness the fox was hungry suddenly the facts here is a bird singing so the facts comes the problem is the bird is covered in the sawyer of the horse so the fox starts licking up all day and the bird is singing doesn't realize the fox licks up everything over the board and the bird goes into the facts and that was the end of the story so the men lost on this term we're all one write down this story [Music] what is that men telling us a story [Music] he said i learned three lessons from the story he says number one you'll never remember the theory i'm just going to say the way he said it even though it's not the most lush nakia not everybody who unleashes some stuff on you is destroying you sometimes they're saving you niche there how they live not everybody who licks you really cares about you when [Laughter] if you're submerged in certain things you don't have to sing this was a mendel but he gave us wisdom it was wisdom for life it was wisdom for life sometimes your wife tells you something you don't like sometimes your kid tells you something you don't like yeah [Music] maybe this is actually going to melt the ice then you have other people who lick you they lick and lick and lick and lick they're going to kill you they're going to eat you up for dinner and the claw you have to know when you're somewhere you have to know you don't always have to sing you have to have perspective what does that mean no don't sing don't tell people about it no in other words be honest with your condition for zingstone you know the mice you don't know the mice a kid came home with his report card from school sixth grade he comes in with his report card and gimmel minus dollar minus you know 40 30 20. everything camaro homework organization reading kriya javarusa's everything minus minus gimmel dalai davoff but in this school they also had dancing and singing dancing and singing this boy got olive plus when the father comes to that he smacks the boy so i don't understand the other thing is he didn't smack here i got a hundred why is smacking he says you fail everything or the towns you fail everything and you're still dancing so that's the idea and the idea is you have to be aware of what's going on anyway this is akdama the last akhdam the third academic of the mind is another thing that mendel said that in his barrack in siberia it was forbidden to play cards but his chevra they would play cards the russian peasants would play cards the nachalnik the warden would make sudden inspections but he never found the cards and the mendel wondered how they never found it at night they were playing cards and they hear footsteps and within seconds he bursts open the door i know you're playing cards i can hear i want everybody to empty out they didn't have pockets they had like these gowns you know and there were no drawers this was a little barrack in siberia where you laid on planks of wood and straw it was nothing to hide but i want to see everything in the room and everybody has to empty out whatever they had and he looks there's no cards he goes out after half an hour and a second later they take out the cars they start playing so that mendel turns to the guy next day and he says how do you guys do it so he says since i trust you i'm going to tell you but if you tell anybody i will physically kill you with my bare hands so he says we have here in our barrack the best pickpocketer for moscow when the prison warden comes in he has all the cards he puts it into his pocket he's a professional okay he looks everywhere he doesn't think to look it's in his own pocket the moment before he leaves this guy takes it out of his pockets when he leaves we play cards so mendel says that moment i thought to myself he says everybody is looking in everybody else's pocket nobody looks in their own pocket but they don't realize that the cards are in your own pocket it's not in anybody else's pockets stop looking in other people's pockets and he would tell the bachram he would say you're looking for this you're looking for that zucchini kashmus go into your own pockets the truth is we're coming to pesach right from the alpha vision he said he said like this i didn't bring in hummus to your house why am i boy dick in your house after you look at my house so why are people boy dick in other people's houses you bring in muhammad that's where you buy dick i didn't bring the comments into your head i don't have to be bitter you have to buy dick in my hand but it's easier to buy the comments in your hand than it's in my hat so what does this mean this means that when you really want to change people you don't change people you change yourself the cards i have to find in my own pocket i don't change you i don't change you i don't change him i don't change her the only person i change is me and even that's not simple it's the hardest one but it's the only one where you're going to be successful and when you do that you see automatically everything changes and the reason is because life is a chess game and when you move your pieces you force your opponent to make moves people think how do i change this person you don't touch his pieces all you can do in chesses or checkers or backgammon all you can do is change your own pieces when you change your own pieces automatically your opponent has to stop moving it's all in life that way we all want to change other people's pieces i can't it's your it's your peace i could change my peace you change your peace there's a reaction right away so when people [Music] when people their own families especially you're going to change your daughter you're going to change your son you're going to change your wife you're going to change your spiky and change your spirit your father your mother your brother your sister everybody doesn't work that way you don't change anybody they just get more upset and you become more alienated what you do is you go into yourself you find the cards you'll see they're in your pocket the pickpocket i put them in your pocket but it's not easy to do that because i'm a nice guy you are a nice guy you tuck a nice guy but you're still a curse you're a nice guy when you're a case of yoda but melee your reactions are coming from what you know about yourself but if i can open my pockets and become a channel so then everything changes and other people respond as well it's a fascinating thing so you heard the three academics number one was huh no that was number two number one was meshuggah right usually we think people who are licking us want to save us people are criticizing us want to kill us sometimes it's the opposite that's why people want to take selfies with somebody else take a selfie with yourself you know my pockets where i am oh that's a good thing that's important thing because you have a reputation i guess [Laughter] that's a good thing okay thank you this does seek there's a common term that's used a few times and it always strikes you like very deeply lahashmed is really gets to you could have said lahai schmidt could have said lada you could have said mcgill makes sure to obliterate murder destroy decimate we got it when i speak they say i use adjectives unnecessarily but because i like to get the point across and sometimes it seems like the people don't understand so i say it in different words and also those who don't know english if they don't understand the first word they'll understand the second word is [Music] to a negan double spell oh no so if you one one day you'll mature and you understand that siddhis isn't the good is beginner you understand you think it's information because i can't set you now that's a problem [Music] but you know what you could do you could set yourself on double speed and dragon abyssal set yourself your brain on double speed thank you i'm sorry no problem it's fine i'm quiet no problem you don't have to talk about the fact that you're quiet [Music] so uh so and then mcgill says it again like it's not once it's a few times so we all we all describe it as an indian of rishis as the zodiac that he's not just going to kill a few people and it's the first time in tanakh in recorded history that somebody has such a plan paris didn't he killed a lot but it was ghosts and there were those who he liked he left them and i just saw gadalia and others the first time there's a recorded plot of somebody wanting to destroy every last one this was the first time what happened was that the jewish people felt it and that moment transformed them and when my austin said with cities and provinces of it triggered everybody to their core and then the zeta came out you'd give a listen three days later four days later hormone was dead already it happened fast because esther made the fast day the third day she went in there was a party the next day haman was hung but the xeda was still there haman was gone there was a geval dike indian but then esther convinced the khashwadus to let the jews defend themselves that in a year you'd gimmel utter when the enemy comes when the enemy will come and destroy the jewish people the jewish people have the right to fight back the first gazeta wasn't people think the first gazeta was canceled it wasn't the first crusader was there that's where they had to fight if the first xavier wasn't they wouldn't have to fight just go home why'd they have to fight in shushan they killed 500 people everywhere else it was 75 000. why because they had permission to come kill jews it was a pogrom of a massive level five thousand people came to kill drew's not a small number and then shushan hundreds and then mcgilly will read it okay i didn't listen to the story so read it you'll read them again you'll see i didn't make up the number that's huge numbers why did they come because they had permission from the king to kill every jew element the king gave permission to the jews to fight back and during that year marduk became popular it's messiah they were elevated judaism was promoted jews were promoted because their whole status was transformed welcomed them and he embraced them and he he showed how he cherishes esther and he cherishes murder and he gave them right the right for self-defense so it changed the climate but it didn't change the xed because in the mcgillik it's not like america where there is woke you cancel over there there's no cancelling in other words once the mello gave exeter does not cancel he gave it to zeta so that you can't cancel lmi there's going to be a second sagadin that the jews could defend themselves so it wasn't a simple thing you have to understand that a whole year the jewish people stood with a tenure of messiest nephesh because haman wanted to kill yehudim if a jew would say i'm not a yehudi i'm not made about his other you can get over the hook but nobody denied their jewishness a whole year they stood as yahoodam and it was a bigness saying because it was a difficult year even though human was dead he was dead but his sons were around the anti-semites were around the chief architect was dead but the whole all the henchmen and the guns all the anti-semites and all the khan found fundamentals they were all there all the essayists and all the journalists and all the professors and all the politicians and all the thinkers and all the minutes they were all there still human wasn't there it was actually wasn't there but still dixato was there but here's the vart he said during the whole year jews stood this is what got me and the republic said it so fast he said jews a whole year stood in a tinua meaning they experienced themselves from a space of non-existence and therefore they went into a place of adelaide and the mailer they reinvented themselves that you can only reinvent yourself from a place of lahash with lara galabad wow that was not just the void of haman it became a new definition and in a very positive way obviously it started in a very negative way and in life we understand what this means what does this mean in life and it it could come out for someone in pain but it can come out in simcha also the real way that a person gets from yoda to ada is only when they go through the lahash with london wow you see it sometimes with recovery people who who lose everything i don't know yeah what's the hashtag you feel like a dead person why as long as i feel alive my yoda works it's nice a little wine a little vinegar okay sometimes but it's a cup when it's shattered when there's lahash with lada golab and what's left nothing so the way what's the from here is you can only go up we in in in english there's an expression when you hit rock bottom the only way is up exactly why so there's a mind mare i saw once from the tamar no the son-in-law of the middle earth it's a good thing for you to practice as the vibrate that's true so if you'll practice on me you'll help for her too he's not the middle editor what's the matter [Music] yeah but what let's take let's understand what it means it doesn't mean like some people think that you should smack yourself and kill yourself and destroy yourself and then you'll have great omaha but that's not what we're talking about then you become a victim of oppression we're talking about a very adele indian and that is like this is always moving and the sham is a mahalik it says a mallach has an omid and a shama is a mahalak doesn't know how not to move like it says in the past hashem nishmas adam the neshama is like a flame so it says in tanya peric you test that the flame always moves you can't have a flame relax the flames that's not that's inviting i told you imagine i'm your wife practice i'll be very good the next time she gives her russia the flame always moves always sways and the shaman is not in one place and the shama always moves how does the nashama move it could be different directions sometimes you hope that the shaman goes up but sometimes in the summer goes down it says it's the lowest place it has to move so it has to go up so immediately having life on the kuda as long as my case is working i don't have to be adlayoda because i somehow make sense of my reality and i process myself through myself and it's nishika he says that the jews lotion was they were in a shef in a tenure of lahash midland even though they knew human is dead and they're going to be saved but now their existence was not taken for granted they tasted death and not just death wrong place that was bad but you meant well i understand about [Music] there's no live stream make believe he's your wife you should try to be quiet make believe make believe i'm your figure [Laughter] so this is the trua what's that you know is bitter macias in a very positive way because as long as things work as long as their structure put him they experienced what it's like to feel that way and that experience is overwhelming because it's almost like i don't exist anymore and when you stop existing you could start existing as long as i exist i don't exist because i'm busy with my tsum tsum because i like it i'm in my comfort zone i'm an akai's become atrial fib but bashas is a true of the hash mid-latigua abit which is a very deep noah and that's the tenure where i lose everything and there's nothing left and then so then i opened myself up to become a channel and you become a new person [Music] that's why you'll see that people who suffer from mental illness are usually they're type is the deepest spiritual things because what is it really depression or other stuff this is sensitive this is very sensitive for certain people what is it it's a person that nothing is intact everything is in question life is questioned there's nothing that they take for granted there's nothing that's secure there's nothing that's confident their deepest self is shattered there's a point in life they wake up in the morning and they're like i don't feel like i'm alive oh comes a different type of they have to go there because sometimes khashoggi could stay in the la maliha they have to go to adelaide and maybe it's the opposite also maybe i can't say this with certainty because this is very scientific you have to know the ms but it could be that science is going to be magala that mental illness ultimately comes to people who feel adelaide but how are you going to get out of the other so they're kale and break so really their shivers are caleb is just a hakhana because they feel adlayada since they feel adelaide so they're very spiritual so because they're so spiritual how are you going to access it so it gets access to mental illness because that's golos golos really what what's mental illness from a ghouler perspective it's artists that are higher than caleb but from a gullah's perspective what is it it's you're crazy it was when you crazy you just see a little more and you feel a little more and the oil is not ready for it right this is this is heavy so what it's really is the people who are tofu is the embassy and they don't have caleb for it nobody has kalin for it so how do they say it it comes out in in in in in very strange ways what does this mean in all of our lives that sometimes the cayley for that is daftke or tanua i'm forced to give up everything if i'm not forced to give up everything i'm going to go into my cup it's very nice my cup it has the slightness but it works if you understand what i'm saying you understand if you don't understand what i'm saying i can't explain it better but in life there's a tenure of lahash midlandic you feel like everything is destroyed you have no self you have no marriage you have no relationship you have no identity like everything is gone and you're like why am i who am i oh oh that moment put him is born from the hashmat that from putin was born putin was born at that moment the jews became new people they were different jews afterwards it was a new kabbalah first kabbalah it was second there was a toyota from the hash with it yeah yeah it's a different mathias nobody forces it on you because nobody could force it on you you already if you have nothing you have nothing to lose you know what are you going to threaten me it's like you're threatening certain teenagers you're going to lose your life i lost my life already you're not going to be successful i'm not interested in being successful father told me his daughter told him he told his daughter he said you know with this lifestyle you're not going to be able to to live she says that would be a blessing he was like in other words all my arguments are based on the premise that you want to live if you don't want to live so then what's your argument exactly you're going to be successful you're going to make a lot of money people are going to like you it doesn't speak to me and there's nothing there's nothing left so what is left if you go to a place of yacht that the stucco nothing left only when the person can be embraced and realize that there's something left and that is that everything they're going through god is going through through them whatever you're going through hashem is going through he's going through you it's not separate so now you're just a channel that's bringing out this truth into the world oh it's a different matzo so so so this is what made pudding pudding and that's a very powerful nakuda because what it means is that in every person when you have a moment that you feel that you lost it it's also an opportunity for rebirth because the moment when a person feels that there's nothing left that's when you can open yourself up to something that's completely transcendent completely infinite completely beyond you and we all have such moments you know you tried and you tried and you thought you did well and and then suddenly boom the cup is shattered so there's two ways of looking at it one is you surrender to the spear and one is that you actually say okay there's no cup anymore so now i could be a seller and i could be a channel for the ain't south whatever comes through it's not you anymore and it's very powerful then because then nothing could trigger you you're free because nobody can trigger you because you don't have expectations you're triggering me because i decided you have to be like this so i could be like this but if i don't have to be anyway i'm i'm just a channel for hashem so you don't have to be any way whatever you are i'm just here for you so i become an ambassador of compassion as the bahrain says an ambassador of love and light and hope and compassion and in every situation instead of asking why are you not like this and why can't you be here and why can you be normal instead i ask what's my schliches at this moment is what does what's my mission at this moment to be able to do for this person and maybe it's completely alien to what i thought yesterday and maybe it's even alien to what i had to do it's much more than open-minded open-minded could just mean that you don't believe in anything here you believe in everything it's not open-minded you're just open-minded you don't have any convictions you have very strong convictions open-minded people are not always loving people open-minded people the moment you touch their their their their pupik they hate you they cancel you open-minded just means open-minded yeah it's nice until you touch my puppet i'm not talking about that i'm talking about somebody who's very serious they're sincere and they have the ability to transcend their ego and then amalek can trigger you why because amole can only trigger you if you give room for clipper and the only way you give room for clippers if your own clipper still controls yeah clippers trauma yeah all trauma's clipper if if you're if your clip is in control of you then somebody else's clipper will trigger you because his clipper will trigger your clipper but if you got your clippers worked out i mean doesn't mean you don't have them but zach you're a channel so then somebody else's clipper you're good it's like wow they're struggling they're struggling and my job is to be here and you're fully present and when you're fully present you don't have to run anywhere you don't have to squash them you don't have to delegitimize them and you don't have to judge them you don't have to repress enough to suppress you could be completely present but the clip is not triggering you why because you already know what lahash with lada galabin means in other words you lost everything already and when you lost everything you can gain everything as long as you didn't lose everything then you're busy with negotiations the moment of pudding was they experienced what la hashmet largolava does and they came from that space and once you come from that space there's no holding back right when biden offered zelinski to get give him a suite in the ritz carlton in manhattan zolensky said i don't need a ride i need ammunition exactly i don't need a ride i need ammunition now there's biden thought he's looking for a ride she just wants to be safe his brain is sharp [Music] he thought he wants a ride he wants comfort he said i don't need a ride i need a munition it's lahash with lada gala but not running away so in life it's that way you have a moment it's a new it's a it's it's a it's a change where it's not anymore about i i don't want to die i could face death the moment you could face death you could face life in a new way so so a lot a lot of us we're not living in that situation where we're right life or death right we're not so we can kind of glide through right you're right you're right but the kids are bringing it out today from the parents the kids are bringing it out the desperation the how jews have already been through that one already today it should only be in that liberates you and lifts you up and that's what happened by putin that they weren't killed they lived and they made a mistake but their party was integrated with mercedes nephesh and that's usually a person gets drunk without this you can't understand pudding it's just like a drunk that's another a strange holiday where people get drunk the kiddish of pudding is that the mercedes nephesh infused the feast usually a party i'm a citizen of fish don't have a shikas so parties are party animals but it's nothing citizen never serious people the kiddush of putin was that within freedom and within emancipation they lived with the through of the citizen fish so how did it express itself practically so you're a mister it's a day of simcha you eat and you drink then you dance but it's with other layers that was the word that ever said i never i never realized there's a connection that's the way it means you lose it that's the lahashmi because we all know going from yada to lawyer there's a form of death because your trigger tells you if you don't do this you're going to die this is coping like i said before if you don't get angry right now at your wife you're finished it's my coping mechanism i have to be angry and and if i don't it's death so what about the means to say to myself maybe i didn't know myself maybe i'm going to open myself up to a new self that i never that's mercedes netflix that's and sometimes it's the hardest thing because every part of your brain is screaming no no no freak out freak out freak out huh yeah every miner of the altar really just opens us up to this [Music] this person went through a very hard life they had terrible terrible challenges but not just regular like every every possible thing that people complain that people talk about they went through the family and in school just very marriage and just catastrophe after you know they say a cat has nine lives i once told this person and you have 18 lives this person once told me something unbelievable this person told me that all the pain i went through in my life was worth it because it allows me to understand lakota that's what the person told me i i i was speechless i said well i know what they went through they told share it with me and it was crazy stuff in terms of whatever every type of abuse just crazy stuff not small things this person said it was kidai because the to understand these my modem you need allah but everybody can understand it but with bitter you understand it in a different way because he takes everything apart and then he says let's start over again every minute so uh so uh so this was so so because their whole life was so disintegrated when they hear ain't so if you're just open to it because if my life makes sense at the moment nothing every coping mechanism that we develop is a form of survival the nephesha bahamas when they develop these coping mechanisms it wasn't doing it from a sinister bad place the nefersa bahamas felt felt that this is the way you're going to survive and therefore it created the matsur that it created from its perspective it was very true it was very true and you have to have that's where the altar always in my mind says you have to have midas he believes very much you just have to have compassion compassion means you don't turn darkness into light but you don't get angry at the darkness you just have compassion for the fact that it had to go to that place in order to live because when you have compassion then you let it free itself up if you criticize it you reinforce the reason it couldn't trust so if you stop criticizing it and you have compassion it can actually open itself up and show you the flower inside and you could caress the flower and you could say you could let go now and you could trust and you'll be fine but that's very very sensitive without midosaracham nothing happens nothing ever happens with a hammer maybe a sukkah you could build with a hammer but a person you can't build with a hammer all right we learned to mime a few weeks ago the same billy being been in so he says why do you need this whole introduction so most people say you're asking hashem have rahmanis and give me understanding he says the only way you'll be able to understand is if you have middah sarah you're asking him to give you midas you can have understanding without compassion you're not going to understand what's happening you're going to completely confuse everything it's very hard without compassion you're going to misjudge and misdiagnose everything with the saying give me not just have rahman as i should understand the setting allows reality to come to the fore and and when you could see what the coping mechanism was you could see it wasn't bad you were just trying to survive the nephesha bahamas was trying to survive and you can have compassion for it and then you could say you know what now we don't need this for survival and when that happens the person could recreate themselves and that's adelaide isn't everyone but the lotion the lotion in that mind might i almost missed it i have to see if the writers were told to sit the lesson was that for years when i heard that was gone but that tenure didn't go away from them and it allowed them to celebrate put him the way they did to the point that we can have put him a party but it's people think that they've put them is the party no yoda is that even in the mister you're completely one in other words a jew is eating and drinking it's a very social family day it's a very earthly day it's not a day of predictions not a day of crying and hajj and telling myself how destructive i have a carrot but it's in a tanua of adul ayada it's like huffington and that's going to be even mashiach because this gilui is with beyond caleb that's it lasted lovely so even when she comes it's not going to be bottle [Music] of purim it says won't be bottle comes because this paradox paradox now what's happening in ukraine with with him you see when there's such a moment of crisis you see it right zilenski told the european union he says this is really what got the world shocked i mean he was smart for saying it but he said this is the last time you may see me alive you're right and everybody was like you understand when you say no there's schmidt i'm not here it's not a comedy show i'm not here for entertainment it's not a stock market it's the last time you're going to see me while he's fighting for his life it changes everything right we now live in america but the chinua the chanua is a different new and in a way today it's harder to have this to do one because 100 years ago everybody lived at the verge of survival so this was the tenure that's why people had their priorities much straighter because you had to fight for your life and the lifespan was short you know when you were 30 you have just another 10 years to live you got to figure out your stuff today till you're 70 you could still figure out if you want to get a phd huh yeah you can still be into this and the death and what will have to have priorities what's wrong i'm going on vacation next week i'll figure it out after vacation so we live really in a time of tremendous blessing but but this chanue is the true of life and and ultimate goula doesn't mean you don't live that it means you live like this from a place of cover you live at the edge but not from a place of being on the edge because you're jumping off a cliff because because you you live with an ms with epinephrius you understand you're a real person you're not fake news you're not in comfort zones you go out of your comfort zone so throughout history it was triggered through zetas today it's a different indian vatican goes from the highest to the lowest why because it's the only media that's very interesting it doesn't [Music] why it's very very powerful because mr sarah has a paradox in it and it's fine usually when we see something negative we have to either shoot it down or deny it one of the two either you're a danger you're you're bad either i i kill you or i make believe you don't exist which is also killing you right and that's kasir yes it is you don't exist it's just love and guru is i'll fight you middle i could look at you i'm not going to whitewash you i'm not going to turn this into rosiness i'm going to see the pain i'm not going to be naive i'm not gonna but i don't have to fight i could just have compassion but i don't have to have compassion because it's good no it's painful but i can have compassion [Music] yeah so i don't have to criticize and judge i can have compassion but i'm not going to turn it into something sweet so this is the only media that allows everything to be what it is but by having compassion you let it open itself up to its own truth and say oh i was just i was just trying to cope uh so i don't even need this with hesed you deny it so it goes into hiding guru you fight it so it's fights back my enemies back you don't deny it but off the fight i could just look at it i could just two tears could come down two tears could come down and that's changes everything try it you'll see [Music] it's very all this is hard to do empathy is very hard for yourself you can only do it for others if you do it for yourself if you don't do it for yourself you can't do it for others it's fake you have to experience it viscerally [Music] that's a good shiloh but you have to be sober for me to answer that [Music] tomorrow you'll be intimidated is also a coping mechanism [Music] it was once increased one year was he was before a coffers and he told the story but he got a letter from a kid in russia this is 19 i think 68 to 69 the late 60s i think one of those years obviously the letters were illegal it was very difficult he said this publicly he got a letter from a bachelor the bach asks him a nature [Music] he has distracting thoughts and he doesn't know what to do it's disturbing his nominee [Music] he writes a letter to new york to the river to ask for an answer at this point it ever told a story and he started to sob like a baby and he said people in america also write him letters how do i get a bigger house [Music] how do i get a hollywood kitchen then everybody was into hollywood kitchens a wall-to-wall carpet [Music] in the soviet union he says he has no cash mess he has no rookney's either [Music] he doesn't have a teacher for more than a few weeks because if they're exposed if the kid is exposed and it's a sakana to send a letter here but he sends a letter and he wants to know [Music] and he doesn't think anybody's going to know about this letter he's not expecting a compliment he doesn't think his letter is even significant because it would be significant yeah he doesn't even think it's significant he's writing it with absitas in other words for him it's like a basic concern he says and he doesn't think just like the americans as of m developed that the world is standing on him and everybody's going to bang him on his shoulder and then he said the emesis has developed the truth is that the world does stand on this and he said you see ayd a boy in a far location in russia those years [Music] what is it he was trying to explain the american people five thousand american people what's up they didn't know they didn't know hashem they didn't know and he said here everybody is busy they need a juice in the morning and a subscription to the new york times whenever he would talk about it they need jews he's trying to bring out what it means a person living in an episode with hashem not the beauty he was just emotional about the bacha yeah yeah the satin get it something the old one he came to the level once and i remember i was a kid and you hit this he came so he started talking about russian jews i got a letter from a jew in russia i got a letter the jew goes to work on shabbos because if you don't go to work on chambers you're considered a parasite a parasite they could send you you lose your job you lose your house [Music] but he stands by the machine everybody thinks he works on champions he can't even tell his wife and his children because by the communists the children were encouraged to tell on their father and they would be promoted so he doesn't tell his wife and his children that he doesn't work on tribal so they all think he works on champions but he doesn't [Music] allah he comes home and he makes kiddush he's really not a mahalo shampoo but they think he's a makala shampoo so he wants to know if his wife is allowed to drink from his wine because in her mind he's a mascara shabbos [Music] few weeks later he said that and he started to cry again huh he didn't say what he told the truth he said it's completely irrelevant when he told the truth he didn't feel it's negative to the island when he told the truth was what are they going to gain they'll be another gymnastic they'll miss they'll miss the point [Music] of this fine so you'll have your pill i'm right i'm not right i'm wrong you'll miss the point you know how yeah i remember mandala ashkenazi jews you know how they are yeah blah blah blah blah blah [Music] so in the summer in camp they made a song this song on this story in other words a russian boy's helpless plies [Music] dreary fills his night [Music] survival is slim [Music] finding no source of true comfort to the debater [Music] compelled to describe to him how life could have been so much better the boy did not ask for an easier life nor for chance [Music] russian boy's plane the boy did not end for an easier life nor for the hope to be free [Music] that was the russian boys [Music] with emotion [Music] stream from his eyes the boy did not for an easier life nor for the hope to [Music] that was the russian boys [Music] the hope to [Music] that was the russians he said a boy is sending a letter from russia to america ask that you should go free to be able to come to america go there you go writing a letter to the asking you should be free you should have a better life your father should be liberated from prison what are you asking that's more important than everything else [Music] it was [Music] huh what do you do with this it teaches you the essence of either sky the essence of either sky is not pr and commercialism [Music] and business and uh you know [Music] it's not you know that's all that's all that's just the system [Music] he was a kid there was no he's not part he wasn't trying to get into seminary he wasn't he didn't have to fit in he was a five orphan in russia somewhere where to be a frumiyan wasn't normal yeah you can ask he grew up in russia wow yeah so what was it what was it it was about the atmos but it wasn't what a jew is still of course it's not it wasn't social stuff but the father and your teacher [Music] foreign [Music] is [Music] he said this boy doesn't think his letter was remarkable and maintenance does develop so the as ms valk state offer the amethyst is the welsh state of the truth is the world stands on such a boy but he would never know it because if he would know what he wouldn't write [Music] there was no recording [Music] some people said it was ichimosu love and i don't know i once asked him he said no but that doesn't mean anything they said a name for my kid and somebody can't bother wounds could have been a lot of people he didn't say from russia this is the late 60s before everybody left [Music] is [Music] i [Music] i am [Music] is [Music] oh [Music] hey [Music] uh [Music] uh [Music] oh yeah [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] my [Music] i'm [Music] sometimes [Music] my wife told me that by one o'clock i should be home [Music] for our brothers and sisters in ukraine and in russia also jews were in ukraine and all the jews were left refugees [Music] watch everybody and save them there should be peace in the world you know that part of the world is full of jewishness jewish histories [Music] hopefully i should [Music] [Applause] i want to thank friendship and shimon on the video [Applause] [Music] hey [Music] my [Music] hey [Music] hey [Music] oh [Music] hey [Music] um [Music] um [Music] oh uh [Music] oh bye uh [Music] uh um [Music] me me um [Music] um [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] me [Music] two okay [Music] hello [Music] like [Music] uh oh foreign [Music] so [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] hahaha [Music] huh [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music] so [Music] is [Music] yes [Applause] [Music] is [Music] this class is brought 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