Give Something Real (Ep. 138)

hi this is dodolowski and welcome to the rubbery elastic show whoever you are watching or listening we are happy to have you along once again for the experience uh we we've been doing a series in perkier house of which there are six crockett now is a little tricky because purchase is actually messages and uh it's um it's really only five broken the sixth parrick is a collection of bryces which is known as para kenyanya torah which talks about the importance of torah and uh it was added in pashas it was added in so that there are six prak him for you to be able to learn during the weeks in between pesach and trust but it's uh become part of piccadillas it's interesting peric in that a lot of them before shim certainly among them shown them don't even have a parish on it they did not recognize this as being part of mesefa's others so uh you really you really need to uh to be my iron into the parrot to be able to get there correctly so we are going to do a mishna or i should say bryce from the six pair of pikabos today and with that we will have finished one line from each of the six prakkin needless to say i could go back and take another line and do another six and another line and another line i could do this for years maybe i will i don't know somebody said to me i guess it takes a lot of time to prepare for your podcast and i say no i used to sit down and my producer michael would set everything up and i'd say so what do you think i should talk about uh it uh it often uh is on the spur of the moment so okay when i do a series i talk about seminaries or i talk about shidduchim so i have to actually plan out and advance more or less what i'm going to talk about but uh like this i a little open up the parrot and i say what should i talk about choose one line one line out of an entire pair of pair gamuts which is not really difficult but before we go any further we have a very special sponsor this week and that is the torah newsletter torah suites if uh you are not 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action-packed i'm gonna go to the end i'm gonna go to the end yeah sometimes i take the first uh i'm gonna go all the way to the end everything that god made in the world that he made only for his cover created the world he created for his own cover that's a problem does it need anything infinite doesn't need you to serve him doesn't need you to davin doesn't need you to eat a matzo from his point of view really doesn't bother him if he uh if you eat a ham sandwich he doesn't have emotions he's remarkably stable it doesn't go through mood swings it's all part of being infinite so i mean he created the world for his cover we're coming down so it's hello rosh hashanah time so uh i'll throw in this idea as well we say on rosh hashanah what is our voted to be to make hashem king now the messel sasha and his first beginning of the first parakeet says why did hashem create us this is [Music] why did god create us and put in this world to get the greatest possible pleasure which is the spiritual pleasure of being close that goddess he didn't create us to serve him he didn't create us to take care of him he's fine he could always create some malachi but he doesn't need anything that's that's the idea of being infinite you have no needs you have no wants the only thing we can say is hashem chose to create the world says the messiles asham why for us to get the greatest possible pleasure so what do you mean hashem created the world for his covert what do you mean that we have to be mamlekh and make him king hashem put us in this world and he gave us free choice and he made it clear that he wants us to use that choice to come close to him because if you want to have a meaningful relationship you have to choose it relationships that are wished upon us they don't tend to be as meaningful that's why i have asked this question to audiences all around the world from all religious backgrounds and all ages i always ask this question who tends to love who more do children love parents more or do parents love children more and every audience has told me the same thing parents love children more why because every kid knows they have that line i never asked to be born that's true you really couldn't have asked to be born could you who are you going to talk to yeah but parents chose to have children and because they chose to have these children there had an advantage in a relationship because they chose the relationship the relationship that's wished upon you like your parents you have very little say in it so it's interesting when parents become older and become more dependent on their children very often the relationship changes because now kids feel that they have a role to play in the relationship they're not just forced into a relationship so krishna who created the world for us to get the greatest pleasure which is what his hashem to get pleasure from hashem from this relationship with hashem but in order to have that relationship you have to choose it so he puts you in this world and he gives you things that you can choose to do or not to do completely up to you you can choose to follow hashem or choose not to follow hashem there'll be no lightning bolt that comes down what's alam haber is enjoying the relationship with hashem what's gehenna sensing the distance from hashem that you created by choosing not to work on this relationship so in order for us to build a relationship we have mitzvos mitzvos are relationship building tools in every relationship there's i have to's there are expectations so kurzberg who puts us in this world and gives us bits first and says this is what i would like you to do i'm always amazed i hear this from people sometimes what they say i'll serve a college barbecue how i think no one's going to tell me what to do i'll come close to god however i think you understand how absolutely ridiculous that statement is your wife says to you oh i would really like you know flowers and to go out uh for dinner for my birthday and the husband says don't you tell me how to make you happy i'll tell you how i'll make you happy i'm going to take you on a very very long walk on a very hot day at the end i'll buy you a drink and i'll buy you a blender she says but i don't want to blend them don't you tell me i'll decide what you want so you understand it's just ridiculous now coach barbara says this is what i want you to do and a person is going to say they're going to bronco no you don't i'll tell you it's ridiculous so he sets up mitzvos and he says this is what i would like you to do now you don't have to do it you could choose to ignore me you could choose not to do what i've asked you to do but then there's not going to be a relationship okay now because marco could theoretically just put us in this world and say dig a hole and fill it up so you're doing it because it's russian hashem and hashem i asked you to but at the end of the day you know you've done nothing meaningful so coach barco created a world where you have free will and because you have free will in this world there are two things that hashem cannot do for real not ilu in this world in this world where there are beings who have free choice there are two things he can't do he can't make himself king and he can't give himself honor what does that mean there's a difference between a melech and a motion shows a ruler when saddam hussein how did he become the head of uh iraq he called the leaders of all the parties in for an important meeting and he shot them all i'm in charge in communist countries there's only one candidate you could either vote for him yeah or you could well the other lever and a little pellet will fall out of the machine into a little a little pan underneath [Music] there's no choice no choice but here a melech is only ruled by the will of the people as was explained so well in that documentary on the subject that came out i guess was 30 years ago maybe 40 years ago called monty python and the holy grail so king arthur says i am author king of the britons and this peasant says who are the britons he says we are all britain's and i am your king i said how did you become king the lady of the lake clad in the most simmering sapphires brought forth from the water excalibur thereby signifying by divine command that i am your king and he says look strange women living in ponds distributing swords is no basis for a system of government supreme executive command can only come from a mandate from the masses not from some farcical aquatic ceremony i mean if i said that i should be king because some moistened woman threw a seminar at me they'd lock me up that's really true pulling a sword out of a rock might be pretty dramatic but that does not make you a miller america only rules for the consent of the ruled you could be emotional you could be a dictator but in order to be king people have to decide that you are a king they have to accept you as king and you can't make yourself a king you can make yourself a ruler emotional you can't make yourself a king melech below um what's the minimum amount you need for its seaboard good so count in the other phase all of these gimbal dollar [Music] what are the three letters that come to meet you in the other direction the king needs a people to accept him well you're not a king that's what you need if you want to become a king be a melech hashem can't make himself king you have to make him king he can run the world he can do whatever he wants but you have free will the same thing with covet you understand if you give yourself covered it doesn't really mean much so you get an invitation in the mail harry rabinowitz being honored at a dinner oh who's honoring him harrier benowitz he's making his own dinner says harry why should i pay some organization to give me a black i can make my own black say he rented a hall and he uh making a dinner and he lined up people to make speeches about how wonderful he is and then he'll present himself with an award shapiro tells the story that you know sometimes when an important person is coming they take an ad out in one of the from newspapers here in israel i read here the lion is coming it's signed you know they tell me dove shell whoever it is one time it came out the guy took out the head himself if you give yourself covered it doesn't mean anything a kozmoko created a world where he gave you free will which means you can so to speak spit god in his face khashoggi i use that lushen because that's what rashi says by miriam he says if a child spits his father in the face shouldn't he stay outside for a week let miami stay outside for a week miriam had no intention of doing such a thing but when i give kavo to hakuras the bishop shapiro said once what do i mean by free will should i have vanilla or chocolate ice cream he says a cat has that level of free will should i jump around in this garbage can or that garbage can free will is only one thing am i going to sublimate my will to hakunas or not am i going to do what i want or what a coach borrow who wants i may have told this over once the only time i heard that moshe shapiro say this phrase he said i'm going to tell you something and it's hard to hear there's a lot of things he said that were hard to hear but he said it about this and he said it twice [Music] let your heart turn away and you serve other gods and bow down to them about the most [Music] so that seems like there's only two choices serve god with all your heart with all your soul or bow down to a voter zone instead of moshe there's nothing in the middle and he said again listen closely because it's very hard to hear either god is god 100 or he's not god at all because if i say to god you're a god you run the world torah in mitzvos but this i'm going to keep for myself this i'll do what i want god can't be god 99 he has to be god 100 or he's not god at all you're god i just decided to allow you to have 99 of my will but that's only because i chose it it's either a hundred percent or it's nothing when we say we're going to give a kurdish borrower who covered that means that we're going to give him the one thing that we have in this world that he doesn't have which is our will so when he says when we say in pekie of us everything that hashem created he created only for his covert it doesn't mean for his covert it means he wants to give us the reward that we deserve by doing something real i'll be doing something silly doing something i don't need you ask somebody to wash the dishes and then you wash them over again they didn't do anything they know they didn't do anything you ask a little kid oh the kid wants to help he said okay fold the laundry but you know he doesn't know how to fold the laundry so you fold it over again afterwards so the kid did nothing you could fool him into thinking he did something but in real terms he did nothing means he puts you in this world to do something for real to give hashem covered to give your will to a kurdish brotherhood you don't have to do what you want and as much as you decide i don't want to get my will and that's it you have not fulfilled the purpose of creation at the end of your life when you get up to the next world you don't have a relationship with a coach borrow because i only gave you what i felt like giving you let me give you a real cupboard and then give you what's what's the episode [Music] is heavy zul is light zalzel's leaves that blow around it's not important to me so when you talk about getting covered you understand that that's it the only thing in this world is a conspiracy and odd milivadai i think i told this story recently and so i apologize for beating i went to a racial shapiro after the twin towers went down anybody would listen he said this is goku mogum this is it this is the end it's time for us to get ourselves together so at the time i was teaching in north smash i said okay well you know these guys come in and they don't really know anything and we slowly ease them into a total lifestyle so should i tell them listen uh that's that's done now okay we're at the end of time it's uh fish or cut bait okay you're gonna have to come from like right now and he gave me a look like he would give me from time to time some people he would scream at them never me somebody observed once they said you know it's amazing but misha always is so nice to you why is that i said because he knows that you know i i'm i'm just a little baby and if he screams at me i won't get upset i'll just die i literally died before so he gave me a look i didn't say anything and as i was leaving he says [Music] certainly we have to keep doing what we're doing i'm doing that up here ain't no mother there is nothing in the world but hashem it's a mindset it's an approach that we have to have that's the key to everything the brisker of and you know the briskers are not really into kabbalah but the brisk arrived when he had to escape from the nazis he knew that as long as he concentrated on in odmandova they couldn't harm him and there are different stories of miraculous things that took place ain't no melovando there's nothing in the world but it goes borough and if you recognize that and you give him that covert and you make him the melech then you have something that you did in this world so to speak for a kurdish borough that he can't do for himself he can't give himself covered he can't make himself the king only you can ain't no levante and even if i may fall short in other areas up here i can always keep that thought in my head there's nothing in this world but i couldn't borrow amazing concept i've mentioned this in the past and had a laboratory said it's possible for a guy to sit and learn in color a whole day and never once think about it it's possible for people to dive in and not think about it i always say that i say let's pretend that he really exists sometimes from people say to me i know god exists i just don't believe it and there he is oh my god i mean that's you who'd you think you were diving into i nobody really i i never thought about it there he is travisia chamberlain negdy donut he's really there he's for real and so by giving my roots on overtakers that doesn't mean we're not going to make mistakes we're not going to fall short but it's up here i live my life in this world to give cover to our not for anything else represent hello told the story her daughter was teaching someplace and one of the teachers was expecting and her first child was born with many many disabilities physical handicaps and things and so one of the other teachers and the show of empathy said aren't you afraid this baby is going to be sick also the women looked at her and said they're not my children they're hashem's children and whatever he gives me i'm going to take it's not about me i'm here to do rats and hashem me to give coventry i'm here to take the children that he gives me and raise them the best way that i can life's not fair if you haven't figured that out yet you must be one of my younger listeners life's not fair otherwise i'd be like six foot two muscular i'm going to bump you up i remember everything wouldn't have any learning disabilities yeah i'd have a couple of billion dollars life's not fair some people get the money some people get the brains some people get the looks some people like me get that acerbic personnel that's the line that mendel used to do that that he did in the farms feel that in my house we still quote was the way i was giving a share and i'm telling joe etc and then somebody like says yeah isn't that like whatever it is i gotta i am you think i like getting interrupted in the middle of a sentence now i've mastered that not everybody has somebody was at my house with shabbos and they said you know my name in german means iron man no meant like goldsmith like a goldsmith you know iron man was that but you know me of course he says my name in german means iron man i said really because arlovski and polish means captain america he said really i said no [Laughter] i felt bad afterwards but so my son he says someone asked me how did you learn to get so sarcastic and i said i went to sarcasm school and they said really i said no all right every one of us has our own abilities life's not fair you play the hand you dealt doesn't make a difference superman can fly burn things with his eyes he's invulnerable batman is a psychopath who dresses up like a bat he obviously snapped when he saw his parents you know killed in front of him and he just became insane yeah you have to be crazy just look at that throw batarangs at people and that's it it would be nice to be nice if uh if life went differently but you you have to handle whatever comes your way it's not about me take everything that i'm given and be he's my king give him cover give him your rude son when i do then i've done something truly meaningful in this world and that's the last mission i'm picking up is because that's the summation everything that hashem made in this world is for us to use it to give him covert so that at the end we can turn around and say i gave her something real my red zone my will and i sublimated it and that's it for this time my friends if you want to find out more about the show or make comments write me an email you will sponsor an episode go to my website robiolowski.com and until next time i'm debbie dorolowski and this is the ravioli show it's the rabbi orlovsky show tora and simbra ready to go the rabbi orlovsky show knowledge and wisdom will help you grow lots of fun in every episode and we don't have to rhyme no no it's the rabbi orlovsky show on rabbi orlovsky.com [Music] till next time till we meet again throughout my orolovsky show it's the rabbi orlowski show it's the rabbi orlowski