Getting ready for yom kippur - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] [Applause] [Music] so in three days we are going to celebrate yom kippur one of the most powerful days of the year that the reason why it's powerful because yom kippur has the ability to atone for most of your sins which begs a big question how and why dufka that day will atone for most sins now the reasons why i'm saying most because yom kippur does not atone for sins between me and another person that's why you had now the whole month of elul to go and patch things up with people and you still have three days to call people approach people come amen to become amends with people and to make sure that there's nobody holding grudge nobody's upset nobody's angry because other than that yom kippur is you're going to lose most of its power another group of sins that yom kippu will not atone is all the sins of karet and mithabi deshame we went through that i don't want to repeat but it is all the sins that there are severe sins that the punishment is correct that the soul gets cut off and meetable is death by the heavenly courts yom kippur will not atone for that rather will put the sin on hold now you have to go through a series of hardship and suffering and whatever it is and hopefully that won't be too much and then if you do what you need to do and then that allows you to continue living but for the rest of the sins which is the majority of your sins by the way hopefully the yom kippur will wash them all off so now comes a big question how what's what's the secret behind the yom kippur that it washes it off now interestingly that it says that the yom kippur will reach to an atonement now comes another big question is this a day of atonement what's called kapara or is that a day of silica or forgiveness or a day of merciless well that's a pardon these are three different things by the way that most people don't seem to focus on the fact that you have three stages that you have to go through you have first of all has to be forgiveness it has to be and the order released first kapara first has to bring atonement then has to come forgiveness and after that comes which is pardon now just to give you an example like how it works let's say a person owes you money and he comes to you and he tells you i'm i'm sorry i owe you money i know you i owe you money please please give me megillah give me a pardon so you say listen i might be able to give you a pardon but it doesn't mean you don't owe me the money you still owe me the money i'm willing to not be angry i'm willing not to sue you i'm willing not to hustle like to be a a girl holding grudge on you but you still owe me the money so you can forgive the person for uh the fact that he's late in payments but it doesn't mean that you can give him a pardon yet because you're saying no i uh you still owe me the money if you tell him that's it you gave him a party and he doesn't owe you anything so there's different levels how you approach kappa rameki landslicha tormen forgiveness and pardon now let's say for example a another way around that the person owes you money but the the you owe the person money the person owes you money and you're saying listen i i'm not angry with you but i'm demanding that you give me the money so either way you're looking at it there's a three-step level that of course you can skip levels but it's three different things now the same thing hashem is with us by the way it doesn't mean that right away hashem says that he uh we get a kappa that that city was forgiven yom kippu you see really the word is the same word kaparan because it's yom kippurim we can reach an atonement on yom kippur but after that we still have to get forgiveness and after that we still have to get pardoned so yom kippur really is just like a pause system whether that's what it boils down to so they say hashem says listen i will atone you i will give you kappa but you have to do if you do chuva even if it's by the avid means after the fact i will forgive you but the kapara the atonement is a condition so really the kanoshima comes and tells me listen let's start a new page today i'm willing to give you kappa i'm willing to give you an atonement but it depends on your chuva you do chuva i will forgive you your chivas is real and authentic i'll decide if to pardon you or not it doesn't mean you're getting a pardon on yom kippu now what does it mean that you didn't get a pardon you still owe so the example with the money again i will repeat it again somebody owes me money he comes and tells me mekhali give me my give me a pardon no i need that money i will give you capara what it means i'm not angry at you i'm not holding grudge at you i'm not going to sue you i'm not going to send towards the whole city that you owe me money gave you a capita when you give me back my money i'll forgive you or maybe i can forgive you now even i forgive you i understand you have issues with money but i'm not giving you merciless i'm not giving you a pardon i need the money if it takes you three years i don't care give me installments so the exact same thing the kaloshva who does he says i'm willing that i'm not angry not going to be a punishment yet this is going to be a condition what's the condition now of course if you reverse the situation and you do chuva entering with already after doing shiva then you did your chiva then you can get pardoned that's why we have the whole month of elul hashem tells you now we have 10 days of chuwa why so you walk into yom kippur already with the chuba then you can get a kapara then you can get a forgiveness and then you can get a party in america that's what we're going to be singing in in three days right everybody has their tune but what do we say it's three different levels of of a process that i have to go through therefore you still have the opportunity to do shiva in the ceremony and you know why you want to do it now because it's not easy to do chuva throughout the year at the month of elul hashem is giving you 80 percent discount a 70 mh 99 percent discount the talmud says on ascertainment now the second we're going into yom kippur that's it hashem is sitting on his throne right now it's not so easy to do chew on your kippu you do chuba prior to yom kippur now with that said that comes to teach me that yom kippurim which corresponds to the level of kappa of atonement you know what it does it just gives me another year to live hashem says i will give you an eight year to document if not i'll kill you right on the spot you don't finish the year so really the kappa is hashem saying okay i'm giving you a year to do shiva now let's see how you behave yeah you you do the you do you'll do it right i'll decide if to give you therefore i told you that right after yom kippur you have another 10 days the days that hashem says okay you promised shiva i'm promising i gave you already i gave you atonement and now let's see 10 days you're under magnifying glass and even after that you're going to be under a magnifying glass to see if you are holding your promise you hold your promise hashem decided to give you forgiveness and after that to give you pardon now why is hashem giving me that year so to say question says i'm i'm giving you a year to work i'll give you an example let's say a person goes to court and the court uh finds the person guilty and the says to the person you owe x amount of money hundred thousand because he says i don't have any money go to jail right away throws you to jail three years in jail that's a harsh deen that's a very harsh judgment right away go to jail imagine a much less harsh judgment that the jail the court tells to the person oh you don't have money okay give us 36 installments three years take to pay the money that's capara by the way i'm not finding you i'm not putting you in jail not punishing you i'm giving you three years if you don't pay in that three years then you're gonna get punished that's that that's the idea of kapara that's what yom kippur does puts you in a buffer zone that tells you now go and work now of course you can skip that part if you do chewbacca prior now it doesn't mean that you did shiva perfect or the 10 days of juvenile you might still go into yom kippur with the with the owing and need to do chuba but nevertheless if hashem does not take anything from you it means that he gave up it means you got a pardon now how would you know that you're not going to know but nevertheless i told you already if the day or two after yom kippur you get a slap to your face you're doing good now usually most people will after yom kippur suddenly the boiler explodes the car gets uh a particular something that always something happens that's for you the sign we accepted yochuva here's a slap now start doing juva okay now if hashem nothing happens after yom kippur for a couple days or a week or two that's not so good because maybe your chuva was not accepted i i see and i can tell from my experience every year after yom kippur you know slapped to my face oh thank you you accepted my chuba now let's start doing the chuwa now on yom kippur you have the ability to reach to a level of kapara i'm not talking right now forgiveness and and a pardon that has to do with your level of chuva but you can reach a level of kapara and hashem puts everything on sat on the side no hard feelings i'm gonna give you a year two five years whatever take your time so what does hashem tells us to do he tells us to do five things to torture ourselves which that is already a source for us and this by the way can be found in the book of chapter 23 verse 32 where it says you shall afflict yourself that's already besides yom kippur that's the source that hashem says you want atonement you want forgiveness afflict yourself fast a little bit do something anything you're going to get it for free my name is hashem tells us that we have to put to afflict ourselves in hebrews annoying in really the word he knew in hebrews torture but nevertheless what is this torture what is this affliction that hashem is telling us to take on ourselves notice he's not saying i will do it to you he says you take it on yourself what are these five things the talmud tells us eating drinking wearing a leather shoe marital relations and sika which is some say it's massage some say it's a rubbing oils and ointments and so forth a little bit of a different argument which is kind of the same thing because when you do a massage you rub all the oils but nevertheless these are the five things that the kadosh burger says eating i mean not eating not drinking not wearing a leather shoe which i don't think for most people it's not much of a torture but nevertheless marital relations and rubbing oils ointments and massages and so forth now there is another type of inui another type of this affliction that one can take on themselves this is a total different level and it's not requested or yom kippur and that's to deprive yourself from sleep this is i'm not going to talk about it now because it has nothing to do with the yom kippur but when a person wants to take on himself these inuim one of them is called shayna is don't don't stay up don't go to sleep and of course don't stay up and go to a club stay up and learn torah and do something i mean many people say oh this is great i'll go to a club i took on myself but nevertheless this is something else and this is a whole different madrigal we're not going to talk about that now these five in-wind these five afflictions that it's talking about it's uh the root of five prayers and the acronym of these five prayers is called shimon why shimon shacharit musaf and i know musaff you're saying where's the vag musaf the only day of the year that we have five prayers during the week three prayers same thing with yomtov we have another one which is called so we have five in five afflictions corresponding to five prayers which most important corresponds to five levels of my soul which is the prayer of shakharit corresponds to eating prayer of minha corresponds to a drinking the prayer of await corresponds to tashmish to marital relations mustaf corresponds to the jew and is corresponding to which is the last verb corresponds to sika to the washing the ointment and so forth and this is corresponding to what's called five color hamisha where did we mention the five color that we're talking about the chord means a voice or a sound then on rosh hashanah we blow the shofar this to hear the sound of the shofar what is the sound that it's referring to then if you remember right before the kia of the shofar we read the chapter of the chapter 47 memzine and and what do we recite in this verse 10 we says hashem because god shall be exalted with the trumpet blessed the lord with the sound of the shofar and the blowing it's called hamisha lot five sounds that we do and these correspond to those five in five prayers five levels of the soul now it says in the verse that i just quoted in the book of thelim chapter 47 10 it says it doesn't say utkib it says the name of hashem elokim elokim corresponds to the concept of ascending of being exalted what's called aliyah and every day of the 10 days of ascertainment you go one step higher one step higher this is called the liar kodesh now why is that because the soul is dirty from our sins and really yom kippu is a washing day there is a part of the vessels of the mishkan was the mizrakot this is was like these little tools that they used to wash the the the altar and the and it's called kapoor not kappa or the same the same letters kappahot and it was like it's kind of like a kind of like uh i don't know to define like a tool that they had water in it and they would wash the the altar so really what we get from that is yom kippur is a day of washing so we have 10 days that our soul gets elevated and elevated and elevated to a high level that or that by the end of yom kippur when we reach the peak of yom kippur which is that we have reached to the highest level of all which is also the level of the yikidashi bananevesh and then we can reach to our full atonement life hashem elevates us to the highest level and then applies to us this kapara this cleansingness that cleans us really that's what the point behind yom kippur is now in order for me to go higher and higher i need to be cleaned how do i get clean then i have to do chuba i have to accept on myself to do chuba now really what we want to take from that is that yom kippur is the gemara the the grand finale of the kapara it's not the forgiveness and it's not the pardon that has that depends on the qadosh but you know besides that it depends on the ecological it depends on you you're coming on on a yom kippur and you're saying to hashem let's cut a deal i'm willing to stop my nonsense i'm willing to finish and i'm taking on myself to do chuba now you don't have to do it today but i would recommend you to do it on sunday if you didn't do it yet is that you take a piece of paper and you put in writing what you're willing to take on yourself for the next year and you clearly declare blind neder you know the darim that we do on rosh hashanah it's mainly for the darim you took for things that you said on yom kippur next year i'm going to pray three times in a minion next year i'm going to learn two hours a day torah next year i'm saying for every time i eat next year but you forgot to say blender for that so we do it for the things that you promised hashem on yom kippur so this yom kippur you you scream bleed nether without a vow but you want to take on yourself you can do it today i'm better to do it sunday this year will be sunday i hope that this video is not going to be watched next year that means shalom we have another yom kippur but nevertheless this year is going to be sunday you take a moment on sunday and you make a list and you a list what you want willing and and you are ready to put the effort to put because that's the list that you're going to come to the canaan to tell him i want capara i want an atonement i want all the name all the judgments to be moved aside here's the list that i'm willing to do i'm taking on myself not to eat not to drink not to wear sandals not to wear leather shoes not to have marital relations and not to pleasure my body with ointments oils massages and so forth i did chivana for 10 days that's it this is what i have to offer in his great mercy tells you i will give you atonement now let's see how you act out after yom kippu you do good i'll forgive you you do even better i'll give you a pardon you don't know anything and hashem can give you a pardon like that like a president like a king you know any prisoner that sits in jail wishes to get a pardon so hashem says you want me to give you a pardon let's see you know talk is cheap as they say do you talk the tank or you walk the walk so what do you want to do before you come to yom kippur if you did great shiva in the last 35 days good if not then you still have three days to do serious shiva so you walk into yom kippur with your chuva that you went through the sins you apologized to people you made a list we went through this i'm not going to repeat now 35 days of a chuva boot camp hopefully you did something with those days but if you didn't you still have today shabbat and sunday and even if you did think that you did shiva still apply chuva as much as you can that you're coming into yom kippur clean that you you don't have to do much to yom kippu and the main part of yom kippur is prayer if you notice of course not eating and not drinking but the main part is prayer five prayers you know in an average soul depending how the how much of the hazard is uh smears it an average prayer on your chakra is six hours on yom kippur i mean it depends on the hazard some places they zoom fast some of them they're like he finishes five but nevertheless this is a minimum of a six hour prayer then you have minha and naila it's mainly the prayer and why the prayer i told you already we went through that with the with the power of prayer the prayer is what elevates you to a higher level but practically saying you have to do chuva sunday if you think it's going to be too intense sunday do it today make a list of what you're willing to do and and but you're taking it serious don't just say you're saying okay i'm this this year i'm really willing to to to put to put effort why because that's when hashem is going to tell you okay that's the level of atonement i'm giving you but it doesn't mean that you're done with yom kippur and you go home means that hashem cleaned all your junk and now you're ready to serve hashem i don't know if you noticed in previous yom kippur usually if you did yom kippur real good the next three four weeks after yom kippur you're on fire why because this the shema is not so bad your evil and disgusting thoughts are not so uh intense i mean i mean this is about so at least what i feel but it means that the kalosh but who is willing to give atonement he cleans your neshama now go get to work so you need to have the right mind friend what am i coming into rosh hashanah to yom kippur and the same way that you're accepting on yourself these five afflictions hashem is also telling you let's see what you're accepting on yourself for i'm not going to call him inuim or affliction but what are you accepting on yourself what are you willing to put on the table in the negotiation for the next year now you're going to have a problem because if you're putting it on the table and hashem says no problem i'll i'll move all your debts but pay up so you if you think you're not going to be able to do it don't come to the canon with a great deal but you have an opportunity you have an opportunity to get rid of all your sins i told you already this is why we're fasting now every day that says fast every day in the 10 days of juventus all your sins of all your life will be forgiven so we're taking it serious this is a i don't want to say our last chance but we're pretty close to the end so we want to give it the best that we have we want to enter this yom kippur in the most clean perfect pure way therefore we have a whole shabbat now i told you already take on yourself don't talk the whole shabbat clean you know read as much as you can every free moment this is the shabbat you do not want to sleep in this is the shabbat you don't want to spend too much time with the kids in the family you tell your wife you take care of the kids the shabbat i need to do it and i'm doing it for my for everybody because if you do chew on the right way it will affect your kids too and definitely will affect your wife but this is okay i understand shabbat you want to rest eat well enjoy be with the kids walk around this shabbat you nailing yourself to a chair and you read the elim and you do serious juvenile your chiva will be mainly with how much you pray and read and how much you don't talk then you're left with sunday to do the final touch-ups on sunday which will learn that already sunday morning and you're entering yom kippur that you're already not coming dirty to yom kippur you already come ninety percent clean then you can present your deal to the cashback and by the way the deal has to be presented before yom kippur because yom kippur you want to come in that's it you did your video on friday on sunday we do mean early video confession you present the deal to the canaan that's it you're walking in yom kippur just to pray and that spirals you up from all the levels of your soul means lock really what happens that point aka who elevates our souls to the highest chamber in in in the world above pushes everybody out on his left is the souls and he locks us in the room with him nailah is also a conclusion it's the conclusion of the day but really that he locks us in a room with him and that's really when we reach the highest level of atonement but bear in mind this is not forgiveness and not a pardon that will come later if hashem decides and it doesn't mean that it can't it can come on yom kippur it depends on your level of chiva and how authentic you are so this is a little bit of a material to think about what you want to do in the next couple days take it serious this is a once in a year opportunity it's an opportunity you can't even fathom really what's the opportunity hashem is willing telling you i'm willing to wipe it all off all your debts everything that needs to be taken seriously and needless to say that if we do it right who does forgive us does give us the pardon blesses us with a great year full of happiness and and health and this year we're going to really need it israel to remove any type of judgment or any type of decree from us that this year should be the year that we actually see with our own eyes with their own physical eyes not theories not fake people that coming and declaring their mashiach to see with their own physical eyes the coming of the true mashiach and the return of hashem to this world and most important that this should be because with a lot of kindness and a lot of mercy and a lot of ham bazaar to fulfill the prayer that we say every day with the haze we should see the coming of hashem with mercy back to tion and we should be sealed and signed in the book of life i told you the book of life means not life that you have a long life life means that you are attached to the kadash that you should be sealed in the book of life you should be blessed with everything that your heart desires and of course the most important is we should finally be redeemed and go out of this horrible exile and to finally to the true and final complete redemption bazaar this year [Music] you