Getting Professional About Teshuva - Rabbi Efraim Stauber

[Music] okay the next tragic mistake people make about chuhwa there's a simple mistake because we don't get serious about it when you hear people talking about rumor they see like these like fluffy things we're gonna try it's all it's all about trying you know one small step at a time you know this fluffy fluffy junk imagine in the business world and we have a proposal to your boss and you present it and he's looks it over and he says well it's a nice idea but what about this contingency what about that I got a daughter no listen listen I'm just giving you an idea you know and you gotta try one day at a time he's gonna throw you out that's not serious you know a serious plan worries about contingencies has you know what you're gonna do when things go wrong and what is it what it's a full time so let's apply that to Shuba what is our trooper goal what is our one-day plan our week plan our month plan what are we gonna do under contingencies what are we gonna do when we're tired you know we when you take a business like we need to get professional and bring that into teshuva I'll just give an example and I started my organization I work with couples who became religious again so we're talking about posts father - okay people have been affirmed for a few years they're married and they have children and I realized one day that there's no one helping these people succeed young families succeed there's a lot of organizations working with you know beginners maybe single people but what happens after they do teshuva to help them continue in learning Charlaine bias emotional how fitting it to the community there's a big problem okay so that's this great idea so whatever is the people my family I'm like okay you know I need money to you know fund this idea so I have one contact who said I'm gonna get you an appointment with this really rich guy but it's not just a rich guy he knows how to build businesses he's gonna help you so I was all excited this guy is gonna solve my problem he's gonna help me saw me prom he will give me a lot of money or he'll tell me how to go fundraising and make a lot of money so I could take my idea and that could happen so I sit down with this meeting with this guy and he says okay so you got this nice idea huh tell me more about it what's your one-year plan what's your growth you know how do you want to be growing in five years what programs will you start implementing guys you grow I don't know what you're talking about man yeah what are you saying let me start again I've got idea I wonder what kind of help the Jewish people and you're supposed to fund it okay my team really tell him that but that's what I was thinking and I left that meeting very disappointed I had two more similar meetings over the course of the beginning of this and every professional I spoke to did the same main thing to me instead of solving my problem it gave me more work to do the next guy says okay I get it you're starting this organization you don't really have much money to get it off the ground so I know what you're gonna do you're gonna like cut corners here you gonna cut corners there don't from the beginning build your institution to healthy ok have an office make sure your taxes everything is transparent you don't want to end in prison you know just because you didn't cross some T's or dot your i's do it right I left that meeting Thanks stead of giving me money you tell you've given me more work the worst experience I had was my brother-in-law introduced me to this guy who was once again not just wealthy but he he builds businesses and the guy just ripped me apart for about an hour and I remember one question he asked me he says how was your institution going to save me money what are you talking about I want money give me your money ok or tell me how to get it I'm not here to save you money like what are you talking about I walked out of there mad at him mad at my brother I met her all these people how come no one's helping me I think we some time but eventually I realized these kinds of people were giving me the best advice in the world they were giving me their expertise of years in the business world they're giving me their professional advice and I need to learn how to appreciate that I'll give you an example of how I did learn how to appreciate that that last question was wrangling me what does it even mean well I'm gonna say for money what's he talking about what do you I'm not here to save people money I'm here to help people succeed to be able to Healthy Families that cost money think about the question one day I realize you know what I am saving him money and I'll tell you why because the biggest drain on the Jewish community is dysfunctional people and families and all of those people who are not functioning well and families are not functioning well well they become a drain in the community you have all of these institutions and organizations that try to help them and those organizations are gonna knock on this guy's door because he's rich so they're gonna come to him for money but what my organization is doing is helping couples individuals and couples achieve emotional and spiritual health so that you're gonna have a solid family and those kinds of families happy Jewish home all the whole thing you know happy to be Jewish in Torah those are the biggest resource for the community there's anybody that helpers so those families are going to save money they'll be less people knocking on his door and after I came to understand that of course I've been using that and the next time I went back to a different wealth individual he says you know what I think you're upping your game so we need to get professional about to schewe and the center's having like a nice you're like a kid with a big idea that's good but that's not enough let's get professional about you but let's ask yourself some difficult questions or you want to choose that's fantastic really what's your short-term plan what's your plan today this week this month this whole year what are you gonna do when you wake up too tired to do Shiva what is your teshuva vision what do you want to accomplish can you tell me a laser focused spiritual prayer if you're talking to God you're saying ah Shem please help me fill in that blank what do you want what is your dream what is your vision if you don't have that you're not serious let's get professional about you but so join me in the spiritual you to Shuba kabura where we're gonna learn all about the chuva and get professional about it get serious about it so we'll know we're serious and we're gonna approach God with something that actually makes sense send your email to the Torah Center at gmail.com and join us [Music] you [Applause]