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she says Gary I'll tell you I remember it like today the custom in England is the old tradition that the Prime Minister of Great Britain has a weekly audience with the Queen Tuesday I think at 6 o'clock p.m. the Prime Minister goes to Buckingham Palace and spends one hour with the Queen of England in which the Prime Minister sheers the major events that have been going on in the government during the government in the parliament during the last that during the there in the previous week so Margaret Thatcher comes one week to the palace to the Buckingham Palace she comes in to her appointment it's Tuesday 6 o'clock p.m. she walks in and she gives the traditional bow to Her Majesty the Queen of England and then when she takes a look at the Queen a great night Mirror and folds in front of her eyes now the young men listening to me may not appreciate this but I know the young women listening or watching will appreciate it what does she see she sees that to her dismay and horror she is wearing the exact same outfit as the Queen of England mama SH an identical replica now for us boys and men it's not a big deal we're very happy to share garments more or less but then the opposite gender can be a big deal and she was just horrified but as great gentleman or gentlewoman in Britain you couldn't say a word so she spent the hour repressing her shame and horror at this uncomfortable disrespectful reality that they're wearing the same outfit doesn't say a word but finally when it's over 7 o'clock and she leaves the first thing she does is she sends an apology note to the Queen and the policy note reads that I am so sorry for the unintentional disrespect I displayed by wearing the exact same outfit as the Queen of England and I henceforth commanded my staff that every single week they should find out what the Queen is planning to wear so that I do not repeat the same mistake and where the same outfit and the Queen of England responded to the Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher I think it was the next morning and this is what she wrote she wrote no worries at all there's no need to apologize because the Queen never notices what commoners we're I loved this story first of all maybe it tells you a little bit about the royal family in Great Britain but I also love this story because I think there's a powerful lesson in it and I'll tell you the lesson that I took out of the story in a very positive and upbeat way it reminded me of the famous question of the Evan Ezra umpires choice why the first leader of the Jewish people moysha did not grow up among Jews you know we have a law in the United States of America that if you want to be a president you have to be a native you have to be born here one of the great conflicts between former President Obama and President President Trump was when Trump accused Barack Obama that he was not born in the United States of America and there's a logic to that you have to be a home growing potato or at least a homegrown tomato you know you're born in the country you're part of its culture asks the evanesce remain irrelevant as to how is it that the first leader of the Jewish people wasn't raised among the Jews he was raised in a non Jewish palace he didn't know what I shall him so he looks like he'd know what about Mitzvah looks like what I'm up shemesh looks like you didn't know what a jalapeno herring tastes like he didn't know what sponge cake is come on he didn't know what connait life is connait like our gefilte fish how could you be a Jewish leader without being entrenched in the culture of the Jewish people that's what Devin Ezra asks he gives a very powerful he gives a few answer he gives two answers one of the explanations is he says if moisture would have grown up among the Jewish people he would have had the mentality of a slave because the Jewish people were all slaves at the time and somebody who grows up with the mentality of a slave cannot change the world Moshe Rabbeinu was destined to be a melon to be a leader he had to revolutionize the landscape of Egypt theater staged a revolt the mutiny against the most powerful monarch of the time monomino had to take a nation of slaves and set them three and give them a sense of liberty and independence and power and destiny if moshe himself would have grown up among the slaves he would have had that mentality of small-mindedness of dejection he would have been downtrodden beaten mush had to grow up in an environment of broadness of expansiveness much had to grow up in a space of Malthus so he could think be he can dream big and then he can accomplish what he had to accomplish as the ambassador of the ultimate free being Dhirubhai initial olam avid mela mela moisture urbane who could now fulfill his mission one of the greatest challenges of so many people and so many young people is when you don't realize the inner royalty that lives and breathes within you when you remember who you are call you sir Albin a mulatto MAME as the Mishnah said every Jew is a prince or a princess or as desire puts it call you sir all melaka may you're not just the prince you're the king or the queen you're one with the king and the queen then you look at the world differently you look at yourself differently you see yourself from much larger eyes much bigger eyes much more expansive eyes and even though there's always a commoner in us which tells us how small we are just like the Queen said you don't have to notice what the commoner is wearing of course you know that there's a commoner there but it doesn't take you over because you remember your essence you remember your identity you remember what the gomorrah says in truest ever delyth mela the servant of a king is the king he or she becomes an ambassador of the king a representative of the king and therefore you yourself are internally internally liberated and I feel that during this time of coronavirus when we're all quarantined and you're not going to school or whatever else you're involved in it's really a time to define yourself in a new way because you're not so much affected by your environment you create your environment that this is the point where you have to ask yourself are you a slave or are you a king very often my life is the based on the environment I follow other people we call it social conformity they once asked a 100 for all the woman what's the advantage of living tour 204 and she said no peer pressure usually there's a lot of peer pressure and I fit into my school I want to fit into the clique I want to fit into the friends I want to impress my teacher my principal there I should she but this one that one but now in many ways you're on your own now you have to answer the question am i a slave or Maya King Who am I for real who are you as an independent person remember those words in Elena she Hamal whose shell kahe mouth hos belongs to you what does it mean mouth Oz belongs to you royalty belongs to you we're not only talking to Hashem in heaven we're talking to Hashem inside of me inside of us and we're saying ya mouth who shall kahe who does my mouth was belong to who owns my life who is the king in my life is it the slave in me or is it the royal in me is it the animal in me or is it a divine in me who rules my life is it the part of me that's infinite that is capable that is confident that is full of resources that is full of power and energy and creativity and hope the part of me that is invincible and indestructible because it represents the divine light in this world is that the mellah thin me is that the one who rules my life or maybe it's my laziness or my fears or my traumas or my addictions or my insecurities of course we have all these things every not everyone I and many of us have all these things but the question is who has the Maoists who has the reins who carries the flag of royalty we say three times a day one of the most powerful statements in governing she her mouth was so high he mouths us today is going to belong to the part of me that is royal the part of me that is that is divine that is sacred that is wholesome that is always perfect and has clarity and strength the part of me that is completely one with infinity himself with Hashem and I hope all of you take these times sees these historic opportunities there is a lot of pain in the world now but with in pain there is also opportunity I remember when I was sitting Shiva for my father so one night I went out of the house a little bit you noticed on the stoop I went to the to the alley on the side just to get some fresh air after sitting a whole day with people coming and and I remember one of my nephews came out we were snoozing and I turned to him and I said his name is Mendel and I said Mendel my brother's son I said Mendel you know with tears in my eyes I said it's the end of an era because my father was he was quite an interesting personality he represented an era he was an institution I said it's the end of an era and he looked at me without skipping a heartbeat and he said that's true but it's also the beginning of a new one those words were very comforting coming from my little nephew very powerful because what they were saying is that it's the end of an era the door closed and the door won't open until he is amazed and the door closed this door is shut sealed until Messiah comes and the Dead come back to life he keeps it around and roshani off of him here Bo may know but you could look at it as the door shut and that's it or a new door opened up it's the end of an era but that means it's the beginning of a new era this is the end of an era first of all so many people of the older generation and of the younger generation passed away i watch in community where i grew up in and many of you communities who you grow up we saw so many people mentors teachers parents grandparents great grandparents great uncles people we looked up to men and women who saw were taken away the end of an era the question you and I have to answer is is it only the end of an era or is it going to be the beginning of a new one and this is the time to be able to focus on that opportunity seize the moment to be able to discover so many deeper parts of yourself so that you can declare key Hamal host shall come he my they're teenagers and now let us go to the questions lots of questions came in I'm gonna try to do as many as I can eight four five seven seven seven four seven four seven for the questions let me go to the with the questions and let's see what is coming in and we shall we shall begin okay question number one what is the definition of a true friend I like this question what is the definition of a true friend the definition of a true friend is somebody in whose presence you can think out loud we all have acquaintances and friends but we think before we speak we decide what we're gonna tell them what we're not going to tell them a true friend and somebody somebody in whose presence you could just let your thoughts flow not just your words you can actually think out loud because there is complete trust now it's very very rare to have such a friend but if you can have a friend maybe that is a little close to this definition you're doing pretty well if you can have two or three friends like this Wow if you can have one friend like this oh so pretty well you're very lucky if you have a friend with whom you can be truly truly open and honest and beer-beer your soul be your heart and it's important in life it's important in life to have a few people or at least one person with whom you can be completely completely honest because honesty liberates your soul honesty allows you to be an authentic person and there's no greater gift in life than the gift of authenticity of integrity I don't feel excited about Yiddish guys anymore I do all the right things but there's absolutely no connection to Hashem Wow I Darvin I say I do the mitzvos I follow all the routines I follow all the habits I follow all the customs and the Wars but I feel no connection whatsoever it's dead and boring I'm going to give you the following answer what does it mean to have a connection with Hashem what does it mean what does it really mean to have a connection with Hashem so one way of answering this question is a connection with Hashem means to have a connection with you what with yourself a connection with our Shem means that you have a real connection with yourself and I'll tell you why what is yourself what is a shed Hashem is not some big strong muscular being who sits somewhere in heaven and waits to reward your upon a shoe that's a very primitive definition of Russia Hashem is the core of reality Hashem is the essence of you it's the essence of me Hashem represents the essence of all reality Hashem is the life for is the meaning the purpose the core of my being of your being of being of existence Hashem equals reality a relationship with Hashem means a relationship with you a relationship with me and therefore I want to suspect something and I want to suggest something I think may be the reason you're not feeling a relationship with Hashem is because you don't have a real relationship with you with yourself if you can try to get rid of all the cover-ups all the layers that cover up your true essence if you can have somebody in your life with whom you could be so so honest and really get to the core of your own being your own existence that's where you will discover our shop my Strabane who says this at the end of his life lava hashem elokenu ki who love God because he is your life what does my should've been saying how can you love God after sighs I'm gonna look at her why should I love my Shem the answer is you already love Hashem if you love yourself you love Hashem Hashem is your truest self the question is do you love your superficial self or do you love your truest self i said 'yes you the more you can get in touch with your own honest self the more you will automatically experience a relationship with Hashem because that is as you at your deepest core let's go live we have live we have live and we're going to go live anybody who wants to go live you can send an email to live at the yeshiva dotnet if you would like to ask your question on video so that we could see your beautiful face and hear your beautiful voice or you could continue texting your questions to eight four five seven seven seven four seven four seven so let's go live we have Arizona okay let's see if we can hear you we have Bingaman from Arizona do we hear you Benjamin okay everybody can hear Bing um and I hope right great how will you be on and where are you from Phoenix I know it's not called Scottsdale it is Scottsdale I have I had the opportunity to be in Scottsdale Arizona a few times so I see Bingaman here from Scottsdale thank you so much for coming on to our program what's on your mind how was quarantine in Arizona first of all how was quarantine in the desert is it better than New York it's boring okay what's on your mind tonight Bingaman I need a lot of help like the problem is that they're too afraid to open up to get help that they need so whatever the a teenager that need help but I refer to the parents reaction right so let me discuss two possible options and I think everybody has to apply one of them to their own particular life in their own particular situation imagine somebody offers me the following option they say you know you can have a child who's gonna be I'm a father you could have a child who's perfect he's perfect first of all as a baby he never he never cries he never demands anything he always follows all of your orders and does everything right everything right Wow amazing you can have so much novice from them there's only one issue this is not a real baby it's a mega believe baby it's a statue of course every parent will mock at that the worst type of news to a parent is that their relationship with their child is not the real child it's a statue child even though unasked relationship is painful but think about if you have a close friend and everything is fake it looks one way but really it's a different way it's really a worthless relationship it's a meaningless relationship do you know the concept of bonsai tree binami you know what a bonsai tree is so they are a bonsai tree is you know trees have viruses as trees have weeds and trees have bacterias and animals come and damage trees and bird come a bonsai tree is you create a tree that's not natural you uproot anything that's negative you cut in the tree you cut around anything that is extraneous and external the point that it becomes a beautiful beautiful perfect tree the only one problem there's nothing real about it it didn't there never said because it's the dead it's a painting real people of ups and downs real people have struggles real people go through things so that's why I tell you teenagers you may be surprised if you sit down with your parents and share this with them say Patti mommy do you want a relationship with a fake self whether you want a relationship with a real self let them answer that question Tapley if you want a relationship with the fake self no problem we'll make a painting of me of buñol men or or Yankel or mayor and though we'll put it on the dining room wall and that's who you'll have a relationship with but if you want a relationship with the real self I want to be able to speak my heart to you many many parents will cherish it I encourage you don't be so scared have the courage of taking that first initiative and sometimes our parents need help many of them come from a time when they didn't have anybody to seek to openly and they themselves are dealing with a lot of so take the take the bold step and the courage to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your mommy and have a hard time conversation with your tapping now I know sometimes that's impossible sometimes there are parents you try and you try and they're just completely in their own world and they're not capable of that and then you need to have that relationship with other people you need to reach out to somebody outside of the family maybe it can be a sibling an uncle an aunt a friend the therapist our rabbi Omar SPEA a confidant somebody a rabbit's in but somebody who you could trust who you could begin that journey of honesty and frankly even if you're very open with your parents it's good to have other people outside of the family with whom you're honest but I think that in many cases we are projecting on our parents our own fears and you may be shocked if you're completely open to a parent you know somebody wrote to me once a teenager that their parents have all types of guests in their home because their parents are very into Kirov so they have secular Jews constantly in their home and they hear all types of questions and struggles and yet when it comes to their own children it becomes very very difficult for them and we could sometimes in a very respectful way speak to our parents and say listen do you one have a real relationship with me do you think just because I'm your child I'm a perfect bonsai tree if we get terrible negative feedback from both parents I can't speak to my mother I can't speak to my father then there are other other situations that will help you mM ellika says until he'll and remember chapter 27 remember prev meows oh honey waha shemyaza fini my father and mother abandoned me but Hashem took me in so we always have to remember that sometimes there's stages in life where we feel that our parents can't be here for us for whatever reason good reasons are not good reasons intentional or unintentional usually it's because of their own limitations they're also people our parents are not perfect they love us many of them will die for us but they're not always perfect they're usually not perfect and sometimes we have to remember that despite that God will always embrace you and I have to develop that relationship with Hashem and sometimes other people will help me out in death that's how I would respond to your question anything else Benjamin on your mind great thank you thank you Ben young man for coming on we appreciated a lot of hot slothy you can come on live if you wish and ask your question live at the yeshiva that net or you can text your question but if you want to come on live live at the yeshiva dotnet next question I see that I see okay I see that alcohol Wow is not only alright but it sometimes encouraged by religious people of course under control not overdone not driving when you're drunk a proper setting with friends and a wedding at a Bar Mitzvah the kiddush in the synagogue pot is now legal in many places and soon everywhere both alcohol and pot can be abused or not abused both are intoxicating albeit in a different way one can make pot brownies and have it and a kiddush and so on Shabbos many do is there anything wrong with that if yes what's the difference between pot and alcohol this is a question by Moshe Wow my shahe this is an interesting question so let me try to tell you how I see it and that is the first thing is let me make a collocation about alcohol yes we say like I am we make kiddush on wine we drink four cups of wine on Pesach and we make a look I am at different occasions whether it's a kid dish of a brain in a simpler people's house Robison sholdit cetera but you have to be very very careful with alcohol because you and I know many many people who are addicts they are alcoholics and their life is unmanageable and they destroy themselves through that addiction to alcohol so it's very very important to be able to know that that alcohol can be extremely dangerous and destructive and don't learn from adults who drink and drink and drink because it's not a Jewish thing it's repulsive it's disgusting and it's destructive pour him the halacha says hi of inertial observer burp or you could become intoxicated yeah there's moments we say all the time but it has to be done with sensitivity with measure with discipline as you said but now let's discuss Pat for a moment the fact is the fact is that you're dealing with something that is extremely addictive and you could just look at people who take it and they take it again and they sometimes take it all the time or at least very very often it's extremely addictive and you know what happens so many people who are addicted to it or just take it so often begin to live not real life's they're living delusional lives they become Veet matched from reality because it makes you high and you see the world in a certain way in a certain perspective it feels very good but here's the rule in life my son let me tell this to you because this is very very important Annie's joy and stimulation that comes from outside of yourself is fake it's not gonna last and it's ultimately gonna make you more miserable than before because when you come back to your regular yourself you're gonna see that your void is still there and you're gonna need more and more and more to fill the void the proper path and life is to be able to find the stimulation and the joy from within so you're dealing here with something that is extremely addictive something that can also damage damaged cells in your brain neurological cells and that's also extremely extremely dangerous and what happens is you develop very often people develop a lifestyle where they're just not honest they come home at night there's a little pressure you start communicating with somebody and he's not here he's flying high his eyes are glazed and especially later in life you want relationships with people I know fathers who take it they come home they can have a relationship with their wife and their children why because they're addicted to all these types of things can you explain why if hummert's is so prohibited and pesach because it symbolizes ego and matza symbolizes humility we should eat mats all year around and not be allowed to eat hummus all year even Shabbos we eat bread we eat Palin these are very inflated foods we eat sourdough I don't understand if hummus is so bad it should be bad all here great question and the answer is because comets represents the ego matzah represents humility we need a ego but we need a healthy ego we need a godly ego so for eight days we focus on bittle we focus on complete human ability so now we can rediscover a self that is not a negative self or a superficial self but it's a divine self that's the idea so for eight days you focus on come humility it's like when you're in a situation where somebody really strips you from all layers and you could be so so honest and you're completely humbled and now you can recreate yourself but you can discover a much deeper self an ego that is really part of Hashem is ego not ego of easing God out but rather ego which is if Ben got Hashem an ego which represents you are an ambassador of Hashem in this world that's who your real is they say that the students of the mazurka magnet were once sitting around and they were asking a question what are you supposed to do with your ego what are you supposed to do with the sense of of holiness and NN and arrogance and pompous Ness and I can't make mistakes and everybody gave a different of a different solution how to deal with the ego and they came to the bow a panier rabbi schneider's almond of liad he was the youngest student of the magician market and he answered with four words and he said hag IV huck doula Lakai Elliman hag iva v hug doula the arrogance gave is arrogance Aaronson great belongs to the one who lives forever meaning the solution together is to have real Guyver to align your Guyver with Lakai element to realize who your real self as my real self is an expression of a sham in this world a conduit for infinity in this world that's the ego that you want to cultivate that's the ego that brings you ultimate self-confidence when you realize that yourself is aligned with the ultimate self that's the great answer to your wonderful wonderful question I am NOT motivated rabbi Jacobsen I am not motivated at all anymore it's very very hard for me to be our home we do have some schedule in school but I'm really cheating I'm not doing anything there's no social environment I can go to school I just stay home I don't really open a book my mother is upset my father is upset and I really don't know what to do during this time of quarantine I'm lying I'm deceiving I'm fooling them they believe me very often but inside I feel empty Wow that's a good question comes from Yossi thank you thank you for that question you know I have a friend mayor Kay and he produced a beautiful video a very very interesting video I want you to see it let's let's play the video if we could for a moment let's play the first video I want you to see it it's a great on the way back our tyre busted and we have to push the car all the way home and because of that last name we didn't have time to rest up or prepare for today's test stick to the story and we'll be fine I just hope the professor falls for this story because I cannot fail another test we went to a buddies went in and went in times busted out yeah it was like really really scary I was literally I was frightened so the tire busted and we had to push the car back and took us all night and thankfully we're not ready to take today's test okay I tell you what boys you can take the retake these tests tomorrow okay how's that really thank you pop some rest thank you and I'll see you guys tomorrow okay all right thank you so much thank you have a good day oK you've got 30 minutes to complete this test please flip over your papers and begin now boys you have got to take responsibility for your lives that's today's lesson and your lives are gonna be the test it's not your parents it's not your age it's not past relationships it's not an argument you had it's not the flat tire that's to blame you and only you are responsible for every choice and decision you make so own up to it force and make your futures great Wow you get the point these students were lying to their teacher they weren't ready for the test because they had to fix their tire all night they didn't have time to study and then this teacher was quite brilliant and knew they were lying he asked the question on the test the main question was 99 points was which tyre was it and of course each student had to answer that question independently because smart perceptive people know when you're saying the truth and know when you're lying here's the rule in life my dearest friend and that is ultimately you know we could blame a lot of people for a lot of things you may be right you may be wrong probably 50 percent right 50 percent wrong there comes a time you have to take responsibility for yourself you have to be honest with yourself remember you could fool the world sometimes not all the time but the person standing in front of the mirror you can't fool that image do you see in the mirror you won't be able to fool be honest with yourself and take responsibility for your life this is a great great moment this is a great moment because as I said in the beginning of tonight's program because were isolated the cause you're in quarantine realize that ultimately you are the one who calls the shots you could blame your mother you could blame your father you can blame your Rebbe you can name your community you could blame your teacher and a lot of it is true a lot of it is true or not true I don't know the situation but ultimately in life realize you're a master you're a king you're a helical akame mom Amish you're an ambassador of God in this world you can choose to be the author of your own biography don't let other people write your biography let you write your biography and you know which you the real you the deep you the infinite you let that you write your biography let's go to the next question my dearest friends if you want to come live and ask your question you can email live at the yeshiva dotnet I would like to ask you you told us last program that Internet itself is not the problem it's how the Internet is used and how often it's used and what sites are visited how do you explain the citi field gathering in 2012 where they said that internet is evil okay well I think at the Citi field's gathering in 2012 the speakers were addressing the dangers that could come from the internet because I assume that I don't know everybody but almost every single rabbi that I know has an email address which means he has some contact with Internet maybe himself or his gay bi or a secretary as internet I think every single Russia Sheva in the world his office is run through Internet at least there's some level of Internet so how can it be the embodiment of evil if almost everybody is using it in some form or some fashion I don't know if today there is one safer that is authored without the assistance of internet on some level so it can't really be the embodiment of evil of course the idea is it's a very powerful force and it could be used in the most amazing ways and it can also be used in foolish ways and sometimes in destructive ways and that's why it's so important to be able to have control how many hours you're on the screen what websites you visit making sure you don't have a gaming addiction and a screen addiction making sure you have the right protection and filters and so on and so forth because of the powerful dangerous but on the other hand this could not happen without the technology of the internet all the schools that are teaching the children today we call Hitler evil and the reason we call Hitler II belief so we also justify genocide we have our agenda we have our belief Hitler did genocide but the tyro so says you should kill out all the children of Amalek he had a vision for the world and Jews had their vision for the world why do we call him evil of course I know he was wrong for obvious reasons but why are we judging him as a brutal when our religion also calls for the genocide of Amalek oh okay how do we do this how do we do this in a brief way this is a very very good question this is a good question it's an it's an important question let me just make a few qualifications and that is as the RAM Bob puts it very clearly with all of the seven nations and they're too strong the fact is that the gomorrah xiaomi says it and the Rambam quotes it yahushua sent each of them a letter and the letter was he gave them three options one option was to leave another option was to make peace and they would pay taxes and have to live according to the sheva mitzvos bnei Noah under Jewish rule and the third option was to fight so there was no Mitzvah there am observes no Mitzvah to go and kill every konami and his wife and his child do with letter that yahushua sent to every single nation in fact the gear gar she left so they always had a chance to leave or to remain and observe the morality of the shipments Mennonite and a Jew is not let a touch them or there was the the ability of the third choice which was war this is the view of the Ramba who was considered the greatest her logic authority in Jewish history the Rambam says this clearly and it's based on a Gomorrah New Rochelle me that's number one even when they went to war against the Canaan him you know what the hell oh who was they weren't allowed to surround the city from four times four sides you know why because then the enemy becomes desperate and he has no choice but to fight back they had to leave one side open so that the enemy could run away at any point imagine fighting a war this way this is how the Jews have to fight the war this is what the cause I'll tell us they surrounded it from three swords one had to remain open even on mullick the Rambam says the first choice had to be to allow them to make peace with the Jewish people and to live according to the moral standards of civilization which is the chef emitters Benigno Aquino murder and the other sheva mitzvos bnei knoweth no stealing no murder respect for God respect for animals respect for marriages and have a judiciary system the severance has been even I'm Molly this is what he says Amalek he says you have to first offer a peaceful agreement in which they would let go of the sword and let go of their ambition to kill every single Jew that's next step now I'm gonna go to the next step when you ask about Toyota killing a Moloch if they didn't agree to this and you killed a Moloch and the children you have to see it in the context of all of Judaism when you read through the Toyota who invented the idea of our half dollar Erica Maya love another person like you love yourself this is from Judaism practice Kadosh who invented the idea keep it's Ella Miller Camus SR them every human being was created in the image of God - mhmm but Dumbo you shuffle when you pour the blood of a person that this is a death penalty because you murdered the image of God not a jewel even an Andrew this is priceless voracious and Patras Maya that every single human being was carved out in the image of God and therefore every human being man and woman Jew and non-jew child an adult has infinite dignity keep it selam aleykum assess are though this is Judaism is what Judaism gave the world who invented the idea that is something called right and wrong there's something called morality there's something called a moral conscience this is Judaism the Mishna says in son Hedren the judaism thought the world autumn was created as one person why so that no human being should ever turn to another human being and say I am superior to you my race is superior to you my tribe my religion my faith my background and therefore I could kill you which is the basis of Nazi racism why because we all came from the same person if we all come from the same person how could you be superior it's like brothers and sisters we share the same genes we share the same chromosomes we come from other man kappa that's why I Shem created one person from which everybody comes these are the gifts of Judaism to the world so when you look at Judaism you have to understand study not see textbooks and see what they felt about people who are people who are black people who are crippled people who are disabled people of course who are Jewish look at their culture look at the literature they produced about people who did not embody the great Aryan race the whole culture the Civ zatia was based on that ideals that are the opposite antithesis of Judaism the ambition to create a world of bloodshed violence barbarity brutality Hitler once said that we hate the Jews because they circumcised the world they circumcised the world physically through a bris and they circumcised the world psychologically by giving us a conscience for him conscience was a curse he once said we have to get rid of the Jews and their life denying Ten Commandments the Ten Commandments are life denying because the law of the jungle this survival of the fittest if you're stronger than me you kill me the lioness fights with the Antelope and the Antelope loses that's the law of nature and he said this is how life is supposed to be if you're a weak which means if I could kill you that's the right to kill you look at the jungle that's how it works the baby elephant doesn't say but I'm so cute why are you killing me because you're a baby that's why I kill you because you're because you're crippled this is the greatest antithesis to Judaism so I want you to look at Judaism in its full context see all the pursuit come see all the hollow eyes and then look at our Moloch store we don't just pluck out one Mitzvah from all the business of the tailor and compare that to Nazism study Nazism I don't know if you want to study it but you could read mine Kampf I don't think you should but it's available unfortunately it's quite available and you'll see understand the whole backbone of what Nazi culture was what Hitler represented versus will have the what mercy should have been our representative sages represented what the morality of Judaism was of Judaism represents rockman and by shunned I'm going with her Sodom the camera says amiss f has cited avi adalat that the whole tired he lost said Miller's I saw them deciphered maliska Sodom the tire begins with kindness and it ends with kindness it's the beginning of Judaism and the end of Judaism the Gomorrah says in Shabbos la made all of that Hillel told the convert a non Jew he said teach me the whole terror on one leg meeting 10 second and he says the whole terror is what you don't dislike what you dislike to be done to you don't do it anybody else the ethos pure show everything else is a commentary now go study the commentary the whole toy is a commentary on treating another person like you treat yourself it's important to understand context now finally you'll ask the question okay but how can you kill every child of a Moloch and the answer to that is I guess it makes us uncomfortable and you know what I want to tell you something you know what makes you uncomfortable because you grew up with Jewish values that's why it makes you uncomfortable because for thousands of years we have been preaching about the dignity of life and that's why it makes so many Jews uncomfortable when we read about a mullet there's certain cultures when you tell them that every Israeli has to be killed that's perfectly fine every Jew has to be killed they're perfectly fine they have no problem Jews when you tell them a mullet has to be killed we all don't feel good about it you know why we don't feel good about it that's the greatest testimony to Judaism because for thousands of years we have been indoctrinated in the deepest way that life is the most sacred thing in the world it shows you the Jewish attitude okay now after everything said and done rabbi why why pathless what's the idea so I'll just say this is very very brief it's gonna thank me I think 30 seconds and that is as follows when you think about it let's understand if if I knew for sure that the baby in the crib is going to grow up to be Josef Mengele or Joseph Goebbels or Himmler or Adolf Eichmann or Alfred Rosenberg or Goering or Rudolf Hess where Adolf Hitler and I can kill the child or I could not kill the child what do you think is the right thing to do now nobody knows that this baby is gonna grow up to be Iseman but let's say you do think about it what would be the answer now even in this case the RAM mum says that if I'm mullick is ready to change his colors you're now let to kill anybody of our male and the Gomorrah says me been a bun of Shalom and Lum the turban attract the grandchildren of homeland came and learned tired and burn a brick and home and paid for my mowing because we trust that then this baby will be educated as a match but what God is saying is that there's a certain situation where I'm telling you that each one of these children is gonna murder and gonna want to murder every single Jew life and that's why it's a moral Mitzvah that's I think a brief presentation that at least gives some perspective to this situation if anybody wants to come out live we have another few minutes you can come live too you can come up why just email live at the yeshiva dotnet Wow this is an interesting interesting question and it goes like this it goes like this there is a big there is we just get the whole question it's a long question there is a big debate in there is a big debate in my house and the debate is is it possible that many rabbis made a mistake we know that some rabbis I'm sorry I just got confused here with the pages when we just find okay there's a big debate in my house there are rabbis a few rabbis who said you can continue to have many Yanam you could continue to go outside you can continue to go to to go to show is this das Tyra some people in my house are saying this is das Tyra and it's a legitimate opinion and some people are saying it's not a legitimate opinion what is the truth we see clearly that 99% of the rabbi's the moment they found out about how serious this pandemic was they changed their mind we all made a mistake poor him I had a big foe bring in a big party we were hugging and kissing each other but 99% of Rabbis when they found out what is going on when they started to hear about the funerals and the levels of devastation and illness they changed their mind and they closed the achievers to Shoals the seminaries and all the schools they themselves changed their mind because initially they simply we simply did not realize how seriousness was on the contrary we thought when there's a problem you go to show more you davin more you make a minyan you say tell them together but then when they realize that we realize unfortunately too late the tragedies and how dangerous it is 99% of Rabbis changed their opinion from one extreme to another extreme so it's obvious they themselves are saying that the original verdict was a mistake now you have to understand that rabbis are human beings they make mistakes even the Sanhedrin the great Supreme Court 71 people who got Smitha man-to-man from moisture a man who could make a mistake we have a homeless after cold her ears hurry is it's based on pouches Micra means that the Sanhedrin the greatest body and spiritual body of Jews who were brilliant and righteous and holy and educated and knowledgeable sometimes could make a mistake a rabbi is not God a rabbi is not infallible and sometimes he may not know all the facts he may not see everything he may not be aware of everything we have in numerous situations where our sages am i Ryan said Devoran shall mighty lift knees and toes hey be Adi the words that I said were an error that's why when a rabbi gives a verdict we have a halakha that in a respectful way one can find out may hey come down Tony what is the source the power of a rabbi is the power of titer if there's no traitor here it's not something you have to listen to a rabbi doesn't have independent power the Rebbe definition of a rabbi is somebody who's a complete conduit for tyranny and that's why a rabbi the most important thing is to be humble to be able to look for the truth and to be able to acknowledge the truth and to be able to always show what his sources and if a rabbi sometimes doesn't know the facts he can make an error not because he's not a good person he's a human being and a human being could may a mistakes I think we have to we have to we have to understand that if we would have known today if we would have known poor them what we knew today don't you think most rabbis would have a stirred going to other amis for homes for shallowness of course pikuach nefesh is more important than miss Lara - that's how I think about it I see for my balcony youngsters including buckram this is Israel I see from my balcony there mingling I tell them don't you see the Angel of Death behind you and they look at me as if I came from another planet I tell them I know you don't read the media but don't you know about the funerals about the tragedies why are you mingling with each other I speak to them but they ignore me they laugh from me they think I'm crazy tell me rabbi Jacobsen what's the root of this we are the flaws in our educational system which created people without feelings I don't understand this how does this work I am suddenly learning how in history people could be so indoctrinated that they don't think any more for themselves what happened here when this virus goes away are we just gonna go back to normal or we're gonna figure out what went so wrong in our education this is a question that came in from Jerusalem okay I can only tell you what I feel about this and what I feel about this is there's a few issues that I think first of all many of us suffer from our herd mentality our herd mentality means you don't think on your own when you're taught that your brain is bad and you're not little thinking you know let ask questions and you're not little wondering and I would be curious and you're now gonna be honest this is what happens Judaism is never allowed to shut down your critical skills don't become a zombie don't become a robot don't become a brainwashed person Jews always knew that their greatest gift in the world one of the greatest gift is to use your critical mind to investigate the question imagine if a froma veena would have believed this father what would have happened we would have still been worshipping statues thank god i've rum smashed all the idols what would have told them no no no your father says it's true Robin says this is not true this is ridiculous I'm gonna smash the idols the whole idea of Titan is to bring out the most creative parts of the human soul in the human spirit so that's number one I'm gonna tell you a beautiful interpretation from a presumption Rafal Hirsch and Pontius Emery you know I'm prior to them where it says that clay and him who were disabled or crippled were now on a server the base HaMikdash Devoy then he asks why and if some senior follower was a rabbi of frankfurt in the 1800's in germany frankfurt a mine he says something very very potent and powerful there are other explanations but I'm just telling you it reverse says and he says as follows he says that the Tyler was trying to teach you people often feel that religion is for people who are weak and disabled and crippled them and blemished and then you need a hold on to God and paradise and eylem haba because you're a loser in this world so you they tell you're gonna be a winner in the next world as Karl Marx said religion is opium for the masses the titer is telling you no no that's not religion a religion that's serving you because you're emotionally or psychologically crippled that's not religion religion is for people who are healthy who are creative who are critical who get it who are looking for the truth you this guy does not for weak people it's for strong people he buddy a car yeah I said varnish myopic old vari the posix says until there's an Easter and Toyota to castrate an animal that's why in Israel have a problem with all the cats you're not let a castrate an animal you know why why the answer is you never allow to destroy the productive power the creative power even of a door you're not going to destroy the clarify it serially this guide wants your fullest power and creativity and brilliance and genius not herd mentality you just I want you to explore to flex your muscles give buddy a car yeah I said soiree that's not what I'm Alex essent Tehillim when you create people and you destroy their creativity and you don't let them think this is often the result I also think there's another element many of our youth grew up in Israel where they were taught their whole life that there is us versus them we are the real Jews and the policemen and the soldiers are purchased all their sinners suddenly the policemen are coming into their communities trying to save their lives there's something awful cognitive dissonance all my life I was taught that these policemen are the worst of the worst but now the policemen are sacrificing their own life to help save our lives how do you deal with this to acknowledge that would be very very humbling and when there's cognitive dissonance people could sometimes continue their delusions and therefore they call them Nazis and it's horrible it's horrible I also think there's a third element it's too novel for a lot of people our whole life you're taught when you have a problem run to show you have a problem Gosei till a bit silver you have a problem go to the basement or to learn more suddenly we're saying you have a problem stay home it's not something that people could wrap their brains around another element is we often don't serve God we serve our image of God you know what the message Huffman says why might she broke the tablets because he told the Jews you're making a mistake that tablets are not holy we don't worship objects we worship a God who is not defined by any image some of us are used to worshipping minyan and I have to dive them with a minyan I have to go to the store I have to go to the mikveh this is how you serve God because we're not serving God we're serving our image of God my image of God is daven with a minion what if Hashem now wants you not the davin with a minion what if our chef wants you not to hang out in the supermarkets and the stores not to go to the Simpson I have to go to the mikveh it's very hard for people to wrap their brains around there's another element and that is in some communities there was failed rabbinic leadership and finally you'll forgive me but I'm gonna quote Albert Einstein who said two things are infinite in this world - things are infinite the universe and stupidity and I'm not sure about the former sometimes people are simply not not using not using their mind and this is I think the lessons that we should take away from this because these are some great mistakes that that some of us have made I mean this is how I see it okay do we have anybody coming lie Joell yo-yo is yo-yo arm here okay so yo-yo it's hard for y'all to come on web let me read this question why can't my sisters use zoom instead of phone conferences and do you think using zoom for a shear of Miss if the bottom is better than being on the phone my children's schools are all using zoom I have two boys who learn in a great great miss IFTA in Chicago it's a wonderful wonderful yeshiva and they right away moved on to zoom it's much better because you see your teacher and you see your friends and they can smooth as and ask questions and for bring together and discuss discuss the learning together ask questions together pill Paula Talmud them Dybbuk aver so I think it's much better and I think I think it would be would be a good idea I know that some of these shiva's are afraid because of the technology what my children's yeshiva is they rented they got somebody one of the father's to sponsor and they rented an iPad and they filtered out everything it only allows for the zoom of yeshiva and they sent it to each of the boys by mail which was an unbelievable gesture and that's where they're using it's great and a lot of other schools are using it and I think that would be a pretty good idea what can we say when we hear a rabbi lecturing and we know and we see that he does he himself does not act that way he is an absolute hypocrite and he's lying hmm I would make an appointment with him and speak to him respectfully give him the benefit of the doubt he may show you certain things he may explain to you certain things and he may show you that maybe you didn't see the full picture that's the first thing I would do give him the benefit of the down and talk to him or write him a respectful letter don't accuse him if he gets angry at you and he screams at you when he throws you out and he gets angry for even suspecting him so then maybe you need somebody else in your life because the most important quality of a rabbi and of a spear a leader is truthfulness honesty integrity ms which comes with real humility and knowing that you don't own Judaism you don't own God you are a humble servant the gomorrah says in her ears DAF viewed that Remenham lia want to appoint two great sages as leaders and they refused and when they came to him he said Kimmy do mushara Kim adieu my autumn session oh honey nice and let them oh there's any noise and welcome you think I'm trying to appoint you as leader as I'm trying to appoint you as servants because by Jews the definition of a leader is that you're an Evan you're a servant even more than other people the Gemara says a brofist avakov BAE's that when a qingdao instrument astra and he bounced down barakaatuh he doesn't pick up his head by a sham he keeps his head down the whole schmira everybody else in the shul has their head up besides the king you know why because since he's so powerful he has to understand that he's really more powerless yes to be more humble than other people because if not power corrupts and rabbis also need this very very much this is the most important quality of literally every single leader rabbi Jacobsen rabbi Jacobsen mati why are you from why are you a religious Jew I love you that's a great question I love this question excellent so let's give let's we got to wrap this up let's give let me give you a little a brief answer I'm I am from because I believe that toy is true I believe that tire is authentic I believe that toy is terrorist Emmis it's the true blueprint for living that's why I'm from that's my that's my short my short answer the tailor resonates its truth resonates and the more I learn the more I see it the more I understand it the more I experience it the more I feel I think it's the healthiest truest deepest most powerful blueprint for life I know the struggles of being a real Jew I'm not always interested I have my questions I have my struggles I have a y8 sahara i make mistakes but it resonates it's truth resonates and the more i open myself up to it the more i see it with each year and month and week of my life I see it more maybe one way of addressing this question is by looking at the world and I love stunning about the world the Rambam says in the opening of this book that the path to love and fear God is by studying the universe and when you study the universe you see that every single thing that exists every living organism and even lifeless matter everything has its function and purpose and it knows exactly what to do the bee knows exactly what to do the mosquito the bat the antelope the lioness and the elephant every shrub every Bush every tree every blade of grass the lightning the Thunder the Sun everybody knows exactly they follow the laws of nature that allow our planet and our universe to exist and they support life and it's incredible because we're not dealing with a few thousand details like a factory of a few hundred machines we're dealing with a factory of trillion trillion trillion trillion trillion infinite machines with each one as trillion trillion trillion trillion details and everybody knows exactly what to do there's 40 there's 50 trillion cells in my body and they know exactly what to do it's incredible and then there is one living organism who doesn't know what to do and that's who you and me we get up in the morning Who am I what's my purpose why am i alive it isn't that funny we're supposed to be like the after billions of years 15 billion years of evolution you have the homo sapien the human being and we're the only ones who confused I don't know what hit me I'm going to therapy Who am I not to have a purpose what's my meaning so the whole world is following this incredible incredible journey of give and take of give and take and we're the only ones who are like out of this picture you know we're at the wedding and we like where do I fit in we are the only creatures who have consciousness and awareness to ask these questions and it's the tighter that is the missing link between the cosmos and the human being the Toyota is the blueprint that allows me to appreciate where do I fit in in the whole picture so it's secret Isis me and nature as the Sun rises and I say SH man I Darwin with sunrise suddenly I gave meaning to all of the predictable patterns of nature and the more I explore terror the more I see how it becomes the blueprint that synchronizes the individual human being with the whole story of creation and the cosmos that's one thought that comes to me in response to your question how do you define spirituality what exactly is it well great question Mariam great question there's so much to say about it but I would just say the part in me the part in you that is searching for the truth of existence that part in you that is searching for the for the music for the secret for the inner core of the eye and of existence that's how I would define that's how I would define the spiritual spiritual self who what can you tell me what can you tell me why is it that so many of us waste our talents we waste our talents and we squander our lives they tell us and you see the one thing you have to learn and learn and learn and learn and there's nothing else but so many of us have different talents and it goes wasted until we die why is it then what can we do about it that's an unbelievable question and the truth is that I think what Toyota wants so much is that everyone should maximize their talents I don't see it as mutually exclusive the more I learn Tyra the more I see in Tyra the greatest invitation for ultimate human creativity Tyra wants from a person to be shoot the Gemara says and shabbos Coffea tests should the flick others burner hooba my sebaceous toyota wants you to be a partner with a reborn asylum in repairing the world with sakin ol number mouthwash and allah did we say in Elena and therefore I say to you maximize all your potentials the worst thing in the world is when you don't maximize your potentials and yes we have different talents and everyone should use their talents because we can only do it together we can change the world together so yes maximize your talents and don't allow Tyra to stifle your creativity it's the exact opposite the target is here to bring out the best and the greatest in you the whole turn is filled with this message including the first chapter of McGillis Esther what's this whole long story about our house Raiders throwing a party for 187 days with the most expensive fabrics and drinks in the world who really cares it's not relevant to the story the turn is giving us one powerful lesson and that is you have to live life to the fullest Maya how Josh made it was a melody bish I need the other fool understood that if you could flow a party 487 days the best could end I like Adam you got to do it certainly I do I'm comin oven should understand that when you have a potential in life a talent or resource of faculty live it to the fullest carpe diem seize the day you know the admission that said the posix says that there are two kosher signs for fish one kosher sign is fins and one is scales and the Mishna says in Hulan and neither that any fish that has fins automatically it has Gayle's but sometimes it can have scales and not have fins I'm sorry if you have scales you have fins but you can have fins and not have scales cause she actually cast cast especially snapper oh well yes she actually it's not remain Lucas Casas asked the Gemara if every fish to attest scales automatically has fins why there's a traitor I have to give two signs let the type of just give the signs of scales cause automatically it has fins answers the camera Yaga alternatively yadda to make the tire bigger none of the barrier be small yeah it'll turn away either make how do you make the tire bigger by adding the sign of fins which is superfluous it's unnecessary you don't need it and one of the most beautiful answers that I saw about this is incredible scales protects the fish from viruses from bacteria from cold water from predators it's a protection fins are like the wings of the fish it allows it to swim in life fins represents Eurasia maíam the red lines you're not gonna scroll oral boundaries it protects you fins is your power of ambition your ability for creativity so the Mishna says if you have scales you'll automatically have fins if you have real yerushalayim you'll develop ambition but some people have ambition but they're dangerous people because they don't have scales asks the Gemara what do you need this simin of scale of fins you really have the simin of scales the answers yeah go try to be either the toy that doesn't only want you to be protected the toyota also wants you to be big and creative to be able to take your wings and go through oceans and look at the distance and say tomorrow I'm gonna be there today I'm here tomorrow I'm gonna be here I think one last question who what can you tell me one statement that could protect me from suicide and give my life some purpose and some value often I feel like I'm not interested in living living as miserable and depressing what can you tell me to help me in this situation you know what so let's play that second video that my friend mayor Kay has another video he made and it's a powerful message I want you to watch this can't possibly make a difference [Music] it made a difference for that one [Music] I love those fish I really love us my sister Stevie the stoner boy or is that an enthralling in one bar for another this elderly man is telling him you're wasting time and I make a difference but you're doing two is worth worthless this is one I may make all the difference I think there is one our sister for whom you could may make all the difference and that sounds going to do every single day I want my asses to call on one one or citizen whom you know knows lonely maybe as a be a noble purpose maybe oh you know maybe oh you know you're maybe a brother maybe an old no friend for you I know something might not be in the middle interest in your long with yourself but they'll do it anyway because there's one starting from could make a difference and when you will first aside that you will find that they believe a lot of meaning of your life each and every one of us can make the difference don't you think change on the whole world but the world they made up of individuals there was one stars two stars three stars and then starfish for from you you convey make all the difference there is a result one a nature from you may make all the difference lastly one one refers to people we read people already are younger for from human they make the difference there is a heart of the world that you and only you can say fists you you can can make the difference up help help yourself along my life's busy meaningless my life is worthless birth this is you this is it's going to be okay we have 20 people who want to come Levante they have been waiting let's go now the long screen well um whenever we're ready you could call up and welcome to the program do we have Libby let's have Libby this is longus Libby just left so we have R a heli right do we have Raquel your mind would be texted or question okay do we have Raquel if we have Raph Kelly I see your text but if you're here we lost Libya and Raquel okay let me take their question Libby why do parents people walk into the supermarket without masks there are so many people sick Libby you are right I agree with you people should not go into supermarkets if they don't have to and even if they have to they have to remain physically distant and with masks and with gloves yes yes yes you're a hundred percent right Raquel II how can I please Raquel II come on well Kelly do we have you okay so let me read her question there's a problem with the technology here of her coming up so let me read your question how can I get peer pressure how can I not get peer pressure to do bad things by people who I am forced to be surrounded by I have to be surrounded by them and they give me terrible peer pressure what am I supposed to do Roselli asks ok the answer to this is as follows I don't know the details so it's very hard for me to be specific but let me give you a few ideas and then we could follow up by email or you can apply that which is relevant to this particular situation first of all sometimes we don't have to be surrounded by the people that we think we have to be surrounded it sometimes in our mind I feel that I have to be surrounded by this person sometimes you can create the proper boundaries to protect yourself in a nice smart and respectful way so that will make it much easier sometimes there's a situation that calls for you to be close to these people which is important but you could still create boundaries or certain times to certain spaces so you can be prepared and you can figure out what your needs are so I'm going to ask you to be creative about this and don't feel that you're trapped in any particular relationship you're more free than you think you are you can choose your relationships you don't have to remain stuck in certain relationships that's number one however even if there is a relationship that you need to continue or I should say you feel that you should continue make sure that you continue it in a way that is healthy for you and that means if the influence here is eroding your character then this is not a good relationship for you you have to find a different relationship you have to be a leader in this relationship not a victim remember I'll tell you a very huge story that was once a Jew who was planing to the lab amateur Drebin that his neighbor is not a good person and the Gemara tells us and suka euler Russia Allah Shana woe to the wicked person and woe to his neighbor so their ever responded and he told this Jew he said something very special he said instead of looking at it that he's the rush and you're the neighbor and you're being influenced by him let's do it the other way you become the SAVAK and we'll say toy outside the famous trainer it's good for the sagging it's antic is good the neighbor also becomes good instead of you becoming the recipient in the relationship you become the leader in the relationship don't let them define you you define them for this you have to be stronger another attitude is another important idea is if you can to have an open conversation with them if they're receptive to it to tell them about your concerns to tell them about the boundaries to tell them about things that they may be doing or saying that you don't like don't be afraid to be your true self because people respect you much more when you are true to yourself people are actually embarrassed by you when you're embarrassed by yourself so the truer you are to your own identity the better it is for your relationships because you want to have authentic relationships this is what I would tell you Raquel II my dearest friends there is teenagers my love and blessings to you stay healthy stay quarantined maximize the opportunity utilize this week well have a beautiful Shabbos a good high dish lettuce em bring recovery to all those who need it strength to all those who need it healing to all of us and to all the Jewish people and to our whole planet may we experience complete Redemption very very speedily in our days in this great transition from the month of Nissen to the month of ear that some cypher says ear is the acronym of ani hashem anni you'd-you'd ROI feta ani hashem Rafael I am God your heel or may we see that healing very very speedily very very soon I love you good night - hi - good Shabbos you