"Finding True Happiness" - Rabbi Lazer Brody & "The World Changes When You Do" - Gedale Fenster

great evening holy brothers and sisters [Applause] thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you everybody for coming here tonight it is beyond exciting extremely entertaining it's gonna blow your minds you're gonna have lessons for life that you're gonna take home this is the one night you should be here and I applaud every single one of you for taking the time out of your busy schedules because it can't be as busy as mine but thank you very much for being here anyway to get Rabbi Lisa Brody here is he's the one who changed my life we're going to talk about him a little bit later because he's the second speaker that's gonna close and bring it home even though I don't think anybody can topple we're about to hear first uh godalia Fenster I need to hold off on just a moment before we get into these guys we have to not only thank you for being here but it was a big effort monetarily to make this whole thing happen there are a few sponsors who really helped out and brought 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really nice born in South America a very modern family mom a clothing designer two sisters and he they moved to Florida English he did not know and University of Florida International educated it means uncle's electronics store he worked commissions to make money even more public adjuster his company is around still to see people's insurance claims center PICC adally is a powerful speaker to see but Dynamic delicious Divine delivery helps to rehab tons of people with inspiring advice tough love is necessary but deep down he's always nice he hit rock bottom depressed with a brain fog no connection to Hashem broken down on a log at a house minion he found a book by Rabbi Kramer when there's no kadusha there's poverty and that was a true game changer radnation's teachings transformed his life he made money now with a true loving wife sadaka brought blessings exponentially and podcasts now to thousands eventually idalia is a powerful speaker to see with a dynamically delicious Divine delivery helps to rehab tons of people with inspiring advice and tough love is necessary but deep down we know he is nice where in the world did you get this guy from that is the question where in the world did you guys get this guy from I still remember the Umar massage if everybody's familiar with the podcast you're you remember that that's what got me here nothing I love Staten Island God bless it but I'm telling you if if there's one thing you need to talk about in life is persistence there you go and there's a thing called in life the squeaky wheel gets the oil as long as you squeak enough as long as you hang around the the the the trying to get a haircut you're gonna get one hang around the barbershop you're gonna get one and we should we should learn from this we should really really learn from this on how how to speak to our creator and never giving up never to give up because this is exactly what you did every day every two hours blocked okay I can't block him I can't be Moroccan I'm not gonna block him okay let me block him now again and as I blocked him and unblock them they're getting the message again so I I said I have to give it to you and it was just that window and Barack Hashem were here we're here we're here with also brother Brody and we're going to talk a little bit about tonight a few things just to really relate and bring it down and have really really really we can open up the pipelines spiritually mentally emotionally Etc so I'm going to talk about today we speak about the connection with avraham when avraham saw guests what did he do avraham ran spiritually your intention the way you do things your little your ability to have their results ramnathan says is directly related to your level of Ramona your level is not what you do it's how you do it I'm not going to tells us that I could you could for example give charity to somebody here you go you're gonna get six plus six but if you give them a kind word that same transaction becomes 17 blessings the same transaction that you just gave the guy a dollar but you gave him a kind word you get 17. ramnathman says that when you do things with joy you transform whatever you're doing into you know there's category one storms into category five storm right now we're in category business in Florida but whatever we do it's the attitude towards it so this is why we're not going to advise this to wake up in the morning with the result and he says our level of your level of Faith determines the amount of energy you have period that your level of faith when there's energy there's faith when there's no energy there's a lack of faith sluggishness God forbid is a sign that you don't believe in what you're doing and this is a problem because the way we show up remember the curses didn't come to us because we didn't do the Mitzvahs the curses come to us when we don't do it when we do them as an obligation not as an opportunity so this is if you take breast love 101 it's try to do everything you do 10x put a little bit a little bit energy in everything you do and that is where the energy comes the energy does not come before you have to activate it and that when you activate it the energy flows if I waited for energy when I started doing his about to do it or anything I do it doesn't come before it comes as I get into motion and this is where I see today a lot of us were waiting for the energy we're waiting for things to happen they don't come it comes afterwards and this is where your level of their results is your level of when Abraham avinu ran to the guest ran he knew the importance of running because running makes everything completely different just like if you ask your son give me a cup of water and he runs together for you what would you think of him wow but if he says what would you want like 2020 style 2022 stuff are you sure can't you get it yourself but he ran to get it to you I just want to give you that analogy ask yourself what miles per hour are you running spiritually ask yourself 15 12. your level of energy is directly related to your level 11. and let me explain to you something you cannot minor in a Muna today because if you minor in a Muna you're going to major in problems bottom line but if you major in a Muna you're going to minor in problems or sages tell us that a Muna is a source faith is a source of all blessings wherever you see faith in your life you will see a blessing in your life wherever you don't have faith in your life you will not see a blessing in your life so this is where we speak about this and what is Faith related to Faith is related to speech this month we are dealing with the consciousness of the snake we are dealing with the Fallen nun of hashwan the floods the confusion this is the concept where we say the word modim Modi means a hundred and there's two nuns there's a fallen nun and there's a straight nun when a person falls down it's a sense of Contraband falling down hard times make you fall down your job is to make a Decon and go straight up and that's the tikkon this month to build resilience at all costs and in order to think greater than you feel today you need Faith there's no other way explain to me practically how you can think greater than your current situation how without taking any substance how can I practically think greater than I feel today it's not possible only through faith and that's what we have to work on today we have to work on faith and faith is related to speed speed just like you go to work it's fast got to do the same thing spiritually if you take up the tempo in both areas in your life you will see a blessing in both because the way you do anything is the way you do everything in life so what word does is he activates us he gets us activated he gets the razona he gets the desire up truth is anytime we fail it's not really to knock us down the whole purpose of a person having an obstacle today it's only to what to feel the desire obstacles are not meant to break you obstacle obstacles are meant to make you and if you're not you you don't have a good relationship with obstacles or the way we're doing things and I see sometimes we walk into a synagogue three miles per hour four miles just people have no energy there's no energy what's going on here there's no energy there's no energy because there's nothing but there's no faith there's no energy you have to scream sometimes like laser you have to scream you've got a woman you think people are getting uh robbed over there people are screaming for their lives because they're activating their hearts and we all know this tremendous amount of pain in this world but when you let it out I've already taught my kids three four years old get get used to screaming get used to screaming it's good for you screaming to your creator instead of holding it in for 25 years and go to therapy for 20 years I don't know which one would you like better I don't think there's that many therapists in the Brussels circles do you know that they're out of business you know why because people are already screaming to God and you scream to God you don't need to hold it in I hate my husband for the past 10 years a good Moroccan breast of woman boy she would let you have it right away it wouldn't have gone 10-3 hours but there's a concept that the opposite of depression is expression you have to find a way to activate it you have to activate your heart you have to let it out you have to talk this is a it's a problem I don't know where we we became so silent and this is where Vernon tells us how you wake up the narak says if Persian should strengthen himself like a lion in the morning so that he is the one who wakes up the Shahar this means he has to wake up and rise with the result without a trace of sluggishness the trait of the result is connected to a Muna there's a very simple Concept in life anytime you put a low effort in anything in life it's because you're looking at it as an obligation not as an opportunity and if you don't look at something with opportunity that does not activate Cabana you can't activate Cabana and Cabana is where all the blessings come when a person has Cabana when he does something that activates the blessing if I say something without kavana without intention doesn't go anywhere Cabana activates intention but first before you do it we have to develop ratson we have to develop a little bit of fuel a fuel a little bit of zest that is what it's needed and when you do that you'll feel like a million dollars your spiritual task will feel like you're in another world but any single time that I'm bogged down with prayer I'm bogged down another Shabbat um bow down with this off another this you're not even in you're not even there you're not even there and this is where you should you shouldn't say okay it's not for me you should cry out you should cry out from your heart and recognize I can't believe I got to the level where I don't feel anything you shouldn't just say okay not for me you should cry out and say I cannot believe this is the distance I've had with my creator that I can't even feel the words my heart is so s Like a Stone that I can't even hear those words and that's what we're missing today we all want energy but if you don't have faith you cannot activate energy and where Matthew tells us this is the way you wake up in the morning look it's a brand new day God recreates today it's a brand new prayer it's never existed before everything is brand new that's exactly how you have to live your life if you live your life like that life is constantly recreating for you but when we hold on to things when we don't do anything with all this trauma and pain what happens we just we sit with therapists for years and years and nothing happens and this is this is the this is the goddess of the srina when we talk about says the Galas of the srina the srinath is in Exile is when people are sad and depressed am I talking about clinical depression but this is what I feel the energy here that's what the name this is the month where you can take that pain and and really use that pain to fuel you he didn't walk he ran great people run the things they look at it as an opportunity they're not walking around like it's an obligation because if you the what you focus is the energy you get into anything and this is this is the key to this is pretty much the the beginning of everything because if we don't have this I mean if our attitude is off you know people show up they give you a wonderful resume and they want to hire you and they want to uh they're asking for the job and then the person shows up and you're like is there a stolen identity here like what happened to you that's the way we show up sometimes so this is why we're not going it's okay to be Brokenhearted that's the time you yearn but you cannot settle for mediocrity spiritually you just can't do it and that's what I'm trying to do I'm just trying to change the game get people more activated because when you have energy that energy will show up you'll show up with that energy to your wife and you'll show up energy to your kids and that energy will flow everywhere but when there's no energy you don't affect anybody you infect people and when there's no ammonia there's no energy just related no Mona no energy because without ammonia we cannot think greater than our current circumstances and from that one says this plenty says and this is is a very evil trait and it's not about mean the same thing when a person has confusion and a person has is very sluggish and he muddles his prayer and he muddles things and he does things with with his head is somewhere else it's all due to a lack of faith and this is this is exactly the bite of the serpent we're going to talk about four causes of anxiety but the most important thing even if you're going on a date even whatever you're doing Brand New Day brand new this don't walk around oh it's the same thing over and over again oh another day same thing because what you say is what you got the only reason I've had I think consecutive classes for the past you know 1200 classes it's because of this attitude the attitude of Renault the attitude is today is my first day getting in class tomorrow's my first day giving a class everything is new today's workout is new today's relationship is new the whole Mikvah concept of the Mikvah renewal why because that is our life our life is renewable and if we can't renew we will expire and then we will drop outs and this is something where I'm telling you right now there's so much light just doing just a you know I've gotten his bow to do prayers that I felt like a person on cocaine I've gotten spiritual experiences where I felt like I was on top of the world and I didn't do nothing I didn't buy anything it was all done through prayer that is what ramnachman brings us he says when a person has simcha in his what he does he transforms the simple action into a higher level than nephesh ruach it goes it takes a simple but it's the attitude the minute the attitude is off you don't get anything The Joy when you when a person has Joy when he does something and yes you could worry about something that's not going to happen tomorrow or you could just be in the moment when you're in the moment and you're able to have that kavana that transforms absolutely everything you do and when you do that that's where the blessings comes blessings come breaks every obstacle and simcha breaks all the gazeeros that is the key that is what we have to get into and we say many times not all successful people are happy but all happy people are successful not all successful people are happy but all happy people are successful that you're guaranteed whether it's with your children either way you have to do it anyway do you understand either way you have to do it either way either way you're going to pray you're going to shabbat whatever you're going to do you're going to do anyway why what's what's with the attitude why can't we just turn up the attitude a little bit what's what are you holding on to like what what are we buying are we have we bought into this program that the dullness and the worst thing in life is not to do more it's it's it's to recognize that we don't need more information we need more connection there's a lack of connection between the hearts and the mind when the heart and the mind the distance between the heart and the mind that's why we can't do anything and we're not getting anything in the world we do and there's nothing worse than walking into synagogues and walking into places in life where nothing's nothing's Rising nothing's rising and this is what hasidis brings us to the table it's a gift because otherwise it's nothing more than worshiping tradition or sometimes we worship cause of law but when I worshiping God because godliness is joy if godliness you're the screen in your life there's joy a Creator dwells with the persons in the state of central doesn't stay with the person whose husband so let's talk about some of the reasons why we could be losing some of that let's talk about some of the reasons what's causing us I think I picked up pretty much four reasons of what what's why are we not in the moment and how do we get there and I think you're going to relate to all these and I said to myself what out of all the thousands and thousands of people comment the phone calls situations what is the what are the common four common things that I get that people end up becoming God forbid either they're anxious or depressed or whatever it is again I may be right I may be wrong there could be others but I pretty much nailed it to these four and I can pretty much guarantee what you're going to see sadness you're going to have a problem with time time Consciousness are directly related time only exists in an absence of Consciousness let's remember that when time when you when you have consciousness time no longer exists for you for example let's say you're at on a great date or you know you're about to close the deal for a million dollars you're not you're in the moment or anything that you're in the moment anything you like like we say time flies and then you have when you're having fun we've said that a lot but when you're not there time contracts so the direct there's a direct relationship between time and consciousness our goal in life is to develop the consciousness so that time does not affect us because remember what happens when time does affect us imagination takes over that means imagination cannot exist if there's consciousness if I have a hundred percent Trust where does paranoia exist where does worry exist it can because I'm what I trust I take action and I'm all in there's no room for paranoia there's only room for fear fear induces paranoia fear induces worry fear induces all of these things but when time when when we rise in consciousness time no longer exists so when I tell you I need you to talk to your creator for 20 minutes some of you 20 minutes could be like oh my God I can't even stand I can't even I have never even been where I haven't touched my phone for 20 minutes I don't even know what that looks like 20 minutes talking to myself impossible but if you know 20 minutes is nothing it's just like your kid telling you how long does it gonna take to Orlando three hours are we there yet are we there yet are we there yet are we there yet for a kid he doesn't understand the concept of Time Of Consciousness so time is a problem you tell a kid you get you'll get it in a half an hour he'll go out of his mind so our job in life is to develop our Consciousness where time no longer exists and when Thailand no longer exists there's no dinion which is Imagination because it's the imagination that's causing the problem The Madame the imagination the paranoia the thinking of the worst case scenario things that don't even exist I mean I know people buying toilet paper after covered why why toilet paper I have no idea that you could see when there's hysteria people run to the toilet paper because that's where their heads at that's where that heads at God forbid you should run out of toilet paper right that should be here the world's coming to an end let me grab on the toilet paper thank God you just I just want to explain when you're not thinking straight your mind will go to the point of even getting toilet paper yes because that's where your head's at toilet paper think of where your head's been when you haven't been in focused and you see this is not the first time what happened with the Jews motion didn't come down in time they freaked out next thing you know they're serving the golden calf from receiving the Torah to serving a golden calf what happened because when we lose track of Consciousness that means if you're not constantly working on fueling your mind and growing you're automatically getting defeated and when there's when the imagination takes over the rest is history your imagination will take you to Dark Places that don't even exist that don't even exist 90 things don't even happen to people ninety percent of the things that people worry about don't even happen so imagine you're wasting 90 percent of your life on things that never even happened and you're so worried about controlling and not letting go so what do you want to blame God for what do we want to blame God for what our ego did to us but when there's no private conversation with your creator when there's no consciousness there's no growth yes this is what we get this is what we get so let's talk about the four things to remember the snake is no longer inside of us outside of us the snake is inside of us and the purpose of the snake is to make us depressed the snake is obsessed with control and the more control our controls the way we control why we control things is only because of insecurity if we were secure we had beta Han no paranoia nothing to worry about we spoke about yesterday that Abraham avinu he was 75 years old and he was also in the word betahon which is trust 75 my year what will be 75 what was llama why 75 so there you go 75 you have 75 you have to worry about the future you don't have to worry about the past and you don't have to worry about getting out of comfort there's the solution your creator wants you to trust him and to the extent that we fall from that we fall into anxiety Etc so the number one thing that's causing most of our sadness I would say which remember when we don't accept pain the more we control things the more we get angrier and angrier leads to the rest his number one self-obsession obsessed with self everything's a things about me there's a guy that asked him what's your problem he says my problem is I'll let bent he says I love bent foreign self-obsession we walk into a room look who's talking about me everything's about you the number one problem is when you have low self-esteem we become the center of the world so you think that everything happens is about you and if you're thinking about yourself all day long you're going to guarantee to be anxious the more self-obsessed we are the more miserable we are because believe it or not you were not created in this world to just think about yourself all day long that self-centeredness self-centeredness is the root of low self-esteem the solution to self-centeredness is what humility humility is not it's not about me that means somebody could say something to you things can happen and you don't automatically predict the worst case scenario you do that because you're self-centered and that is a result of a lot of self-esteem and we relax self-esteem our ego expands and we become the center of the universe everything's about you if the coffee machine broke at Starbucks my massage everything's bad everything's about you nothing no everything's about you it's raining it's about you so right away that there's no way you can have happiness unless you start becoming humble and humble humility means not to be so self-centered to look at the whole picture to look at the whole picture you have to ask yourself are you a can I look at the whole picture or is everything about me if you're saying all the time I'm getting insulted all the time this is a sign you're self-centered because at the end of the day you can only get insulted if you take it personal if you don't take it personal you can get insulted it's not possible for you to get insulted unless you take it personal and the reason why we take things personal is because we're holding that energy inside of us that's number one number two social comparison a classic stain in your lane if you compare your life to other people which is again same concept it is going to guarantee you to become and not only does the egg Tahari specializes it custom makes whatever you're lacking he shows you if you have no hair you're going to see everybody with so much hair of chefa that you'll be the baldest guy in the room if you have no kids you're going to see strollers everywhere if you're broke you're going to see everybody's making money easy if you're single everybody's married but me the answer is custom made to you custom made so you what happens you compare your life and when you compare you this spare see how he's got you he's got you it's got you as long as he's got you out of your own lane he's got you the minute you compare the gamara says when a person focuses on what's not his he loses what he seeks so that cuts the Law of Attraction and whatever he does he won't appreciate it so he'll lose it too do not compare and if you're going to take if you want somebody else's life make sure you take the whole package not just the highlights that you see but what are you looking at somebody else's life for anyway we all have we all have problems in life nobody has the easy we all have it just some of us work harder than others some of us work harder some of us trains have flipped but we're not in this world this is not this the wholeness the matter of whether or not you can bring light into your situation but to say oh this guy's got the perfect life she's got the perfect life it's the most ridiculous thing you could ever say and not only that it's taking away from what you're supposed to be doing what are you doing in somebody's Lane what are you doing you don't have enough work to do in your own life you don't have enough work to do so when you work on yourself you recognize oh my God I have no time to look at other people's lives I'm busy social comparison the minute you compare yourself you're going to come to despair compare leads to despair so ask yourself are you socially comparison yourself to people the only thing you should do is there's people that are successful be be grateful for them or ask them for help but to give them jealousy give a lie want bad for them and compare your life to theirs and that's what social media does it's unattainable goals these goals some of these goals are unattainable some communities have Eating Disorders because they want to be have unattainable goals when in the world did you have these Eating Disorders at this rapid stage like this who has heard of such a thing like this because you compare you Despair and you lose yourself and this is where you have to have SIM card that you don't compare the whole point is when you when you have a Muna this is his life this is my life and remember we all have different missions not everybody has the same mission so the minute what are you getting involved in somebody else's life form what are you what in the world are you getting there so that's a guaranteed way to lose because anytime you're jealous is an absence of a blown up and there's no way your life is going to get better because you're lacking a Mona so there you have to you have to actually stay in your lane and in life it's funny because it's exactly what you the desire of what you want is blocking you from receiving so not only are you in the wrong lane but the desire desire stops you from receiving for example let's say your friend is really popular and then you want to be just as popular to him and you're going to try to be so so nice to everybody so you can popular it's actually going to block you because people are going to see that you're desperate the more you want to be liked the less people will like you the more honor you want the less you're going to get it the more attention you want the less you're gonna gather so it works it works actually the opposite because you cannot attract from scarcity you can only attract from feeling abundant you cannot attract you will not attract nothing but problems when you live in scarcity you can't Attract it knocks off the law of attraction because you're saying I am poor but I want Rich it doesn't work because you're living in scarcity you cannot if you have if you feel abundant you don't even have to ask for things although just come to you on whatever you feel in your life and it works a thousand times because you don't ask anytime you want something out of black it's coming from sadness it's coming from I'm not good enough I am not good I need this and that itself is exactly the hope the problem so when you have social comparison it's basically sabotage blessing sabotage how many times do I get I don't understand she's not so from and she's doing great and I'm from and I'm not doing great are you playing God now are we so busy that we don't have enough time that we're actually playing God who God who deserves to be punished who doesn't who why is why is I'm up 10 nothing and she's only on 3-1 and how come I'm not getting more of that what's what's going on with people's heads this is a weird in elementary school here but these are the phone calls you get from from people your shots why am I not receiving number one you're not ignoring you're not in the right lane what are you looking at your neighbor for the blessing came in our lives is when we didn't stare at other people's tents that was one of the blessings don't stand don't stare at another person's tent and if you do want him you better take the whole package mother-in-law everything everything correct it's not a buffet where you get to pick this this I'll take this I don't want to take this I'll take it that I don't want to take you have to take the whole package many people say goodbye I want to be just like you do in class okay come come to my house 3 30 in the morning and we'll I'll teach you come 3 30 in the morning you're more than welcome are you ready to have some discipline oh no no no I can't do that okay go go somewhere else but you wanted this there's a price there's nothing's for free nothing's for free you want it you got to put the work in you gonna put the work in but don't tell me you want to do this and you don't want to put the work in that you cannot do so if you want to be in shape there's a price to be in shape there's a price you want to be in a higher level you want to be happy because the price for happiness too takes tremendous amount of focus everything has a price point but there's also price for not doing it too so in life you have to ask yourself what price do I want I'm going to pay a price I might as well get paid get get something out of it so there's a price for doing and surprise for not doing there's definitely a price for both but nothing that's not an option that's not an option number three outcome Obsession outcome obsession I'm so anxious I'm waiting to get married I'm so anxious I'm waiting for this I'm so excited outcome obsession that is the number one number three way to be miserable just wait for the outcome wait for something to happen so you can be happy I'll be happier when my wife becomes nicer to me take a number pick a number grab some snacks book a five hour massage with laser and he'll break every bar in your body take a number I'll be happier when this happens and the minute you wait you make your life on a condition that's it you're already lost it's the decision not the condition you need to make more decisions and less conditions you cannot tell your creator I will be happy when this happens I will be happy when this happens it's not doesn't work like that does not work like that the spiritual law of attraction I already told you is joy when you are happy you attract things and things that you never even thought about but if you wait on conditions you are replicating the sin of Adam and Eve what was the sin is separated the the fruit from the tree they separated the process from the price you know why we love the edge stroke so much why don't we hold on to that joke why are we spending three hydraulics on natural what's what's with the head show three hundred dollars five hundred dollars people spend a lot of money on a Metro it has to be perfect because the etrobe the fruit tastes exactly like the bark of the tree it's perfect it's it's being present in life when you look at an intro okay the gemara in Suka 35 talks about it's the Perfection it's when you look at an edge up that's you in Perfection the Perfection of being present living a life of being present that is a present you only realize that being present is the present that's what we do we're looking at the that's the task list the goal is to be like the edge run to see everything that the process and the prize is one you should be just as happy as when you're single then when you when you got married if we could master that level that we can Master the process and then the prize will not take taste anything different and this is exactly what happened on the third day of creation the Earth disobeyed and then that process became two things so now all of us say I can't wait to make a deal so I can breathe no breathe and you make the deal when you make the process the prize by being present by not being a ah what's the scoreboard waiting for the outcome I can't wait for the house to be over I can't wait for this to be happy you're finished that's that's already that's already you lost because guess what's gonna happen guess what's gonna happen in life you think you're gonna stop there oh the worst thing we could do sometimes is gambling you win if you could only just stop if it was that easy but guess what The House Always Wins doesn't it you don't win you could win 10 times but then don't worry they'll catch you the 11th time they'll get you the 12th I'll pick you up from the airport airplane they'll get you they'll give you the they'll give you the attractive sweets somehow or another they're getting you in there because you can't stop you can't stop chasing and they know and they work on a set model of psychology you will continue to Chase because we are obsessed with the outcome how many people have really yeah and one that's it I'm good casinos wouldn't be open today Vegas would be a a swap shop it would be a flea market if everybody can stop gambling you understand you would see a flea market people selling melons but clearly it's the case so this teaches us a big lesson in life do not determine your life on outcomes determine your life on conditions and states are you in choosing to be Pacifica I don't care if the house is ready if the house is not ready if this is good if my wife is nice to me today if she's not nice to me if my husband is nice to me wonderful if he's not it's wonderful also you know why because our life is like the Moon it's not going to be full all the time the weather today is amazing tomorrow it won't be amazing probably and the next day things change it's called life life happens to those who are busy planning you gotta live in the moment you've got to live in the moment I'm telling you right now anytime you say to yourself I'm waiting for this to happen I'm waiting for this I'm waiting for that take a ticket and even if you do get it now you just doubled up on something else but when you're just making you a condition of I'm going to be I'm no longer a I'm no longer separating I'm going to be happy with whatever happens then what happens is people want to be around people that are happy but people are not don't want to be around people that are desperate and when you get into chasing things you become desperate and when you become desperate nobody wants to buy from a desperate person nobody wants to marry a desperate person nobody wants to be around the desperate person because they take from them neediness you're not you're not a giver you're a taker and people could feel it we don't want to act desperate fake it at least thank you take it till you make it do what you have to do but stop waiting for outcome that's why there's so much sadness because if you really really recognize that the process and the prize is the same thing I mean I'm I used to gamble I've already learned those lessons already but you for me you teach me one time you don't have to teach me twice one time I got it thank you for the life lesson Hashem whatever cost me thank you but I know anytime my my day is determined on an outcome so what happens tomorrow the stock market's up I'm going to be happy if it's down I'm not going to be happy what's my whole life is a is waiting on the S P 500 my net worth is my self-worth what would is this the way we're going to live what are we going to look you can't live like that because you're hostage you're a hostage to conditions and when your hostage conditions you're done then everything else takes a hit spiritually mentally emotionally and then what's next oh that guy's fault this guy's fault it's the same pattern over and over again but we're not learning the pattern learn the pattern don't separate the process from the prize enjoy it as much and not only will you get it you'll actually get the price but it won't you'll say okay wonderful I got it and once you have that formula you let go of control you do the work you let go of a control work hard let go of control like work work hard and let go control but when we're sitting here controlling the the outcome of things it's just what we're we're playing God and we're not gonna we're not going to succeed in that and that's what America is we're all into this if this happens if that happens if that happens enjoy the process but Beirut said it beautifully yesterday you have to even thank thank God for the problem itself because that's part of the process that's actually part of the process the process will never be straight it will they will have many you'll have many many many new terms that is part of the process the breakups how many times have you said God if you didn't break my heart you break you broke my heart to save my soul how many times did you guys think the relationship was perfect for you I can't believe you did it for you can't believe he did this to you you broke your heart but he saved you now you could see it but before you didn't see it you have to master master the present moment ask yourself today if you stop chasing if you just made a condition conditional happiness not decisional happiness instead of conditional happiness that will change your energy it will change your energy you'll have much more energy and you'll continue to do the work but we don't want to be desperate sad desperate look at me am I receiving and everybody else is receiving it you're not going to attract nothing nothing but problems and number four believing the challenge is bigger than you whatever doesn't challenge you doesn't change you that's the fourth most common call or situation that I get with people the situation happens and they don't believe sometimes I'm saying I see their situations I said are you threatened are you excited I'm threatened that's the problem God does not give you something you can't handle you won't he will never give you something you can't handle he will never give you something you can't handle but he will give you challenges but if you believe that the challenge is bigger than you automatically it's going to invoke anxiety Panic hysteria but if you believe that you can handle it and it's good for you then you will be excited Channel your anxiety to excitement that is the most important fourth lesson it's bottom line are you going to get challenged yes is it without challenges you won't change how else are we going to change with each other you have to get challenged but if you look at the challenge and say and the difference is when you feel challenged you're focused when you feel threatened you're completely you're completely fearful you're frazzled so whether you're not you're handling a challenge correctly or not is to the degree that your belief is this I can handle versus I can't handle this and whatever you do you think you can you can you don't think you can you can't also but if we don't these four things self-obsession number one stop thinking about yourself more time the whole world was created for you but not about you number two compare you will despair stay in your lane number three outcome Obsession look at the Etro hold hang on to negrove if you have to and remember the edge of represents the process and the prize becoming one no conditions anymore decisions decisions to be present and number four believing that you can handle the challenge with excitement not being threatened by the opposite man shouldn't help us all that we should all Merit to now refocus our energy once we're once we eliminate these behaviors and we change our food that will give us more joy and when we have more joy and presence then whatever we can do we could tackle it with more I also all my classes are on Spotify under my name guitar Fenster I strongly recommend listening to the Daily podcast it will program your mind it would change your focus because in life you get what you focus on all we have to it's funny if there's one thing that we just have to watch all day long is what we focus on if you can master your focus your master everything else I want to introduce it to you Rabbi brownie [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] first note anybody in the back that still doesn't have a seat there are seats in the front feel free don't ever hesitate to walk in if we're in the middle of a speech you can still come in we'd love for you to be comfortable and enjoy the night that we're having here um one of the most exciting parts of tonight just to give you a little heads up on what's going on uh next we'll be right out by laser Brody and then following that we're going to have an open Live question and answer session which is extremely exciting so whatever you want to be heard any questions you have in your personal life that you don't mind sharing this is going to be an amazing opportunity for you to be able to interact with both of these huge Superstars one-on-one right after the second speech that we're going to be doing after that's concluded we're going to do a mariv right here in the show for everybody that's not done yet which at that point after the question answer we'll ask the woman to go to the back or if they want to dive in with us today so now we're going to move on to our second speaker of the night and again anybody who wants seats please come in you don't have to stand in the doorway and enjoy while we introduce February and after the mara that we do anybody who is purchasing books over one signatures or a quick one-on-one time can come up we'll have time for that afterwards so it should be an amazing evening or a blazer shines bright he's a Muna beams on many platforms online you can find his streams he'll connect you to Creator find faith today with inspiration and a loving caring unique way of laser Brody was born in Washington DC studied agriculture in Maryland University in 1970 he moved to Israel joined the IDF where he learned to fly and chandelle 19 years in army combat the military chaplain completed 29 years of service therein he went to a chatura for rabbinical seminaries and got ordinations for many teachers from all of his rubbies relation shines bright as the moon of beams on many platforms a line you can find his dreams he'll connect you to Creator find faith today with inspiration in a loving caring unique way Rabbi Brody is the English and Muna translator mouthpiece of worldwide best seller books Garden of amuna and garden of peace he also wrote his own gigantic gems of which we speak including the trail to tranquility and the path to your Peak he's dubbed the voice of emuna by Israel national radio and as a sought after inspirational speaker around the world he does go a life coach personal trainer and holds holistic health we can all gain from rebbe's massive knowledge and wealth roblazer shines as bright as the moon up beams on many platforms online you can find his streams he'll connect you to Creator find faith today with inspiration and a loving caring and unique way love everybody [Applause] thank you laser and thanks godalia we're able to see not only on the berries that laser gave Denver we haven't seen each other in two years and I see beloved Friends Church brothers and sisters all haven't seen because of covert we were grounded but now we're back down down but not out we're back in the air now and Hashem for everyone to Hashem thank you Hashem that we're in Staten Island tonight sure I'll be aboff and everything they do and I want to thank everyone that had a hand a finger a little bit of desire and organizing tonight thank you very much Hashem it's a big reward for everyone for doing the game all of us learning together getting close to Hashem and in shamai and we say what is going on in Staten Island all this Joy all it is tonight we're gonna stop speak about finding true happiness if you haven't been happy up till now okay remember this date remember the state this is before the 13th of okay this is the last unhappy day of your life [Music] this is the last now for now it all goes up it all goes up anybody and I'm gonna prove it to you but to get us ready for it I'm gonna take a little bit of a result and mix it with some sore and the famous three volume book called it's a classic book that says what goes on after death people that don't have a Muna they say yeah bill you don't know what's going afterlife oh don't mess around with Hashem in Israel you know we just had elections and there's this party this left-wing party called merits and they said before the election they told the truth there's no Hashem so a voice came out in Sherman he'd been in the government for 30 years there's no merits and they didn't make the threshold they're out okay don't mess with Hashem okay there is a Shem and Hashem is Alive and Well Hashem did does and will do everything and Hashem is not retired playing golf in Palm Springs Shen is right here with us but we don't know so what happens in the afterlife let's take a view of the afterlife as if we're seeing a movie in 2022 okay you go up to the Heavenly court and Heavenly court is like a movie theater and it's your life you've left after 120 years and two days why 120 years in two days because Hashem loves you you don't want you to die on your birthday okay so we don't Bless the people behind here twenty hundred twenty two two days okay the day after have a nice birthday party all right after 120 years and two days you go up to the Heavenly Court and you sit up here and there's the Heavenly tribunal up in the balcony and in the audience wow your grandparents your great-grandparents all your loved ones and the sadiki Abraham Isaac Jacob Sarah Rebecca rahele they're all there and all the way down the tadiq him are a great prep and they show oh a show on the screen behind you the room becomes completely dark you can't see the noshomas because you're you're a new you're a newcomer a newbie upstairs and you're not yet you just before your trial your trial is not the start and they turn you around you're like in a straight jacket you can't move and share swivels and you're forced to look at a movie of your life that is very very embarrassing now here the good news is what's get edited out the non-desirable things that a person did shuva for if someone did true before she had enough you know let that come in they did true before but there are things that maybe you forgot to do chuva how does a person forget to do chuva we know if a person does weaken the body his bodily hygiene is taking a shower every day there's spiritual hygiene cleaning the nashama one of the prerequisites of being happy is to have a clean ashoma now how do we clean our show in the shop every day that we give a spiritual shower every day and what's a spiritual shower every day and Hashem I messed up on ABC and D okay they're very simple it's called the scar treatment a transgression puts a scar on the soul and just like they have scratch Windows if a window is clear it's translucent Divine Light comes through it sunlight comes through it the soul when it's scarred it loses Divine Light we do a scar treatment the light comes in what's the scar treatment very easy s that stop the bad behavior C confess to a shin a apologize that shame I don't know what got into me and aren't resolved to do better now we can't promise Hashem we're going to do better because he alone does that we will do everything and Hashem is not going to fault us but Hashem is going to ask us why did you not ask for my help why did you ask for help say she would do better oh because this we do every day and this right is where we speak to Hashem every single day and we have a smile on our face because we have no according to a couple of there's no deeming there's no Stern judgments we clean ourselves up every day every day so we have a smile on our face but a person that forgets about what he or she did wrong this is outstanding it's like a dead an unpaid debt at the store or the credit card debt it just keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger and these dating these debts they manifest themselves in all kinds of troubles and they bring us down and we become unhappy hold it we're back in the Heavenly Court we're watching the movie and the first movie you get to see two movies the first movie you see in your life oh is that embarrassing shows in the movie what you said behind closed doors well you didn't think anybody heard what you did behind closed doors or you think no one could see and think well you know maybe Hashem didn't see Hashem can't see here have been forbiddish it everything is right there and if you don't believe that every single detail is in that movie do you believe in Google search do you believe that you could type in anything you want to find in the world that's right there is Google search is more powerful than Hashem who gave his school I should have gave his Google search Moses he knew all about that but Moses preferred to learn from jerusal with Hashem and 40 days and 40 nights three different times and not mess around with high-tech that's the technicality no this is spirituality is much higher so you see that first movie The First movie is painful enough it's embarrassing the second movie is even worse the second move you know what the fire of purgatory is people think that there's a big fiery furnace like the one that nimrovino and his fiery furnace that's 1 200 degrees Fahrenheit No have you ever been really embarrassed and your face changes colors let's feel like a fire in your face it's on fire that's what happens in the second movie now they show you the second movie the second movie is what you could have done if you lived your life with happiness and somebody live my life with happiness they said oh yeah they showed the great people live their life the happiness and they were so productive and so positive that such Achievers it's so charismatic and they did so much rebe knock but look what he did the 38 year old life the Ariza look what he did the 38 year old life they asked the holy Ariza people said I always take your breath let me okay no breath understood let's talk to reason the Ariza the father of Kabbalah rabbit how did you get your spiritual level he says because I did every mythical with joy every single midst of this oh not cavunders I did hashem's name and a year and that I did every Mitzvah with joy that's exactly what gedalia said the resale I put on his track shoes and he did every single Mitzvah not in 10 flat and 9.84 he won the Olympics with every infant every single one this is this is the guy that died from did do a little hazor and what godalia said I hope everybody learned it everybody absorbed it okay this is the Sim but you're a slugger she didn't get anything done and what you could have done now they show you what you could have done okay now the trial starts and say first day you get to stay with yourself you say what a Hashem what are you talking about so I I didn't feel happy I didn't feel happy I didn't let you let you I didn't let feet it was your life more difficult than of ramadino do you know beloved brothers and sisters that every one of us is alive because of the joy of avrah mafino would it be true if I'm from how would you feel if a voice came out and say you take your firstborn then maybe you had Ivy maybe waited 12 years after the wedding but however would be to wait a lot more than 12 years after the wedding before he got insulin and when he finally got him Isaac and his only son and the one you love and take him up and harm my eyes and shift him wow so how can everybody enjoy so what Blazer what proof do you have them didn't enjoy a proof that we're all alive why what proof is that that we are all alive and Alpha mavina went to the UK to enjoyed and what could do the most painful possible thing and went against it logic what Abraham are you crazy the whole world you've been talking against all your life against rituals against human sacrifice and now you're gonna do it to your own son but monotheism it's finished before it's even started Jimmy the Greek the game's Throne is blown that's it you're off the court the answer gave him every single reason not to do it every single reason no Hashem told me he put his intellect and avrah mavino had a prodigious intellect he was a three-year-old and he observed the world better than anyone could do no philosopher in this he looked the Sun and came up with a cloud the cloud covered the sun he said the clouds were strong in the Sun and then cable wind and blew the the clouds away and one power another power and then came back he said no it's not that there must be a supreme creator and the Supreme Creator revealed himself to Abraham so Abraham filing 10 10 tests one test we're talking about Taylor picks up that knife and he's about to lay it on the jugular of yitzha and to slaughter him and comes the Divine voice a Divine voice that says Abraham Abraham don't touch your son all the time out on the field time out of the field call time out I'm gonna open up my good more you know what my Gamora says Michael Moore says the divine presence cannot be anywhere other than a place of joy which means If Abraham didn't go to do that mitzvah he couldn't have heard that Divine voice it wouldn't have been there [Music] lived and Abraham heard that voice and was married at the voice we are all here today now so say wait a second back in Heavenly Court and say how come you're weren't happy look what you could accomplished if you were happy look I think there's the the mental energy you want to save you want you to go down the physical energy you could save well because you're ulcer you didn't have a problem with digestive system it was your unhappiness and your your cardiac problems you didn't have a problem with that your pulmonary problems it was all because you're unhappiness Hashem said I gave you a body Hashem created a perfect body but the body cannot stand unhappiness I should be created but who says into stress anxiety nobody can't stand Stress and Anxiety so wait a second so movement is good stress and sagony why does everybody have Stress and Anxiety and they've got curse in their life gonna answer right in the Torah open up toys twice in the Torah Hashem wrote it once and the the end of the book of time wasn't it where it's a whole long list of curses which includes the Holocaust which includes the first destruction the first temple destruction the second temple acquisition the pogroms it goes it could get all the troubles why not because the war in San Henry tells three worse transgressions in the Torah idolatry and illicit sex and illicit Bloodshed not because of that because we didn't serve Hashem with zoy what is going on here and he said to the Heavenly Court you I didn't feel Joy how to service you but I didn't feel Joy had a little bit tougher life than you did and how about dinner got kicked out of the house with three years old his father thought he was a little German child according to the whole story but did you you can see it's a fair shamendrish father-in-law traced race kill him his wife gave it you talk about Sheldon by his problems you weren't married it's father-in-law anybody have a father-in-law tried to kill him had all that with government he smells a shame he says Hashem comments huh and what's it was this a moon and he's talking about it's how will we say that we heard this is he spoke to Hashem every day he did chuva every day you know what a warrior he was if David develops in the Olympics he'd be gold medal Javelin gold medal Sprinter The Matrix tells us that he would throw a spear in his Heyday news about 30 35 and it would skewer 60 moabite soldiers and when he was 60 years old he was hand to hand against 10 Philistines imagine if anybody knows anything about Krav Maga it's tough enough Against One two three that's ten ten Philistines all size of Goliath and they weren't prevailing and he wasn't prevailing and comes joov says his General your majesty you're slowing down I'm taking out of combat he retired from combat at age 60. because he was slowed down he could not defeat 10 Philistine soldiers that for King David is retirement King David had a rough life but King David was always happy one thing scared him the tenthood didn't scare him if we open up Psalm 51 he says always my happiness is with Hashem he had to be happy all the time because he knew that was a prerequisite of having Hashem with him okay so now he still would argue with me okay lazia give me example if I'm from a funeral I'm a from afino you give me an example give it a mellow give it a mela okay I'm gonna call now the greatest psychotherapist that ever lived his name is robino nachmann benfagi Rabin Ahmed bresliff okay and rabi nachman tells us a story in one of his 30 tales about the clever and the simple you think you got a rough life you think you got problems gedalia spoke about what we call the if only syndrome if only Mikey marries me if only I pass the bar exam if only I pass a CPA exam if only I start a startup company comes and that's not if only it's right now because if only it's always going to be another if only there's no if only if only I had this man juxtaposes two characters they grew up together the same background the same house but the clever one he had a 140 IQ he was athletic he was good looking even so you don't have the kids he played chews up football she was upside he was the first guy that got shows up all right he didn't coordinate great athlete charismatic everything and there was a simple one the simple one he had a 79 IQ and he had like two left hands and he couldn't he was the last one that got chosen up on team in the pickup baseball here's the last one he couldn't do anything he couldn't understand what he's taught about so the clever one he goes and it goes it does three Advanced degrees and he tries one profession he says I could do something better or do something better but he's never happy but he's doing he's always doing something better and he's traveling around the world and he's looking his Destiny around the world the simple one Apprentice himself by a cobbler a Shoemaker and he makes shoes and he sings all day long because not nail the shoes and he visit his work and the shoe it's too narrow in the point she put that shoe on it's going to squeeze your toes and it's so wide in the back and it's going to fall off it's like what they call flip-flops in Israel then flip flop flip flop flip flop wake up and where another cobbler would get five pieces of silver for a pair of shoes you would get 150 that's it third of the price and people say well aren't you jealous and he'd say massage that guy's work what would he do when he finished making and he says oh beloved shooter you are so Exquisite and why would kiss the leather he put in my word I put in my heart into this and he said I hope the person that walks in this shoe we should be blessed but that's the way he serve the shim he would come home and his wife would say husband what do you want for dinner he says let me have a piece of this chateaubleon okay Chateaubriand uh Chateau Beyond with what with the mushroom sauce Chateau brown mushrooms she cut off a little piece of dry black bread that's all they had and he said uh she said what would you like to drink he says I had the Merlot last night uh how about the Cabernet Sauvignon Galileo 10 year old okay she brings it that but it's a little Carefree of water water and black bread that's all he had he drank his what he had what Hashem gave him he ate it with the pleasure that he was eating chateaubrium in the best French restaurant he drank that wine as he was drinking a thousand dollar bottle of wine this is the way he did we went to go they only had one coat between them it's called the pills they take they had nothing but just as the clever one was clever and it depended on this intellect the simple one he had Hashem he had a Shem you know the song you just call my name and you know wherever I come I'll come running are you too young to know that James Taylor and Carly Simon okay too young you're too young too the simple one he had a shame and he knew one thing he knew the first principle of amula that people that don't have Smiles on their face don't know it I walk into people see people that are from their phone and you walk into a show and get up there and look at you like this up and down who are you how long is your beard how long is your code and they're from try and experiment say from and smile while you're saying from go do it don't work [Applause] the ball game is what the Torah says a lot of services he turns it from a negative to a positive what do we do how can we do a simcha and this is what the perfectly Court answers us on the second movie it says because what you got and this again we're strongly connected godalia said this I don't know if you're you could always say I'm gonna repeat it nobody could do what you could do so I said few people have the same Soul correction I say no two people have the same Soul correction and you know what that means why are you not smiling let me ask you a question okay position with I got a white beard I'm in good shape it's still Body and Soul the dog is in very good shape too see what's when we dance together if I ask we're gonna make Simon Says and take off my coat when Simon says I need a volunteer make it feel kind of dumb come up here and lift your hand and lower your hand lift your hand lower your hand lift your leg lower your leg nobody you feel embarrassed in front of the whole group okay so very quietly now maybe have a little financial difficulty and say how about uh two Benjamin Franklin's in your pocket would that convince you to come up for 60 minutes so that's a nice job stable to Ben Franklin's okay come up we know that we wouldn't do something without a reason why do we think that Hashem would do something for that reason hashem's less intelligent than we are everything that Hashem does is for a reason he couldn't understand why Hashem created black widow spiders he understood everything because he understood all creation one thing he had a showstopper black widow spiders I know what was black widow spiders Hashem says okay you gotta you got questions you got a question of who this was the only question the moon I ever know that that I know the dividend ever had Hashem why did you create black widow spiders King Saul and his lieutenants almost caught David and King Saul went Delirious with jealousy and he wanted to kill him kill his son-in-law and if you ever visited the Judean desert these high Cliffs are very dangerous there's a cul-de-sac and they had King David cornered in a cul-de-sac there was nowhere to go and he could hear the horses hopes they're getting there if he would have a psycho he'd looked at it now 60 seconds expense expected lifespan that's it but all of a sudden you saw an airplane of a cave you know where to go he jumped in the cave Hashem sent a black widow spider that in less than a minute she wove a web they were to take a spider two years to do and the soldiers very quickly they came there he saw and they saw the cave they saw this big nasty black widow you don't touch a web of a black widow spider because that's it very very very deathly very lethal and he said like he disappeared can't be in here he didn't come in here so they left and as they left the black widow spider took her web and her travel suitcase wrapped it all up and King David Heard a Voice any more questions my son any more questions this is what we all hear if we had enough spiritual awareness we'd hear this any more questions Hashem why this Hashem how come I'm not married I shall not come out of this physical problem Hashem how come this how come this Hashem you give me a soulmate I'll start serving you I shall you give me good health I'll start serving you Hashem you take away this terrible boss give me a better job I'll start serving you no Hashem wants us to say right now with joy in the middle of our Acadia and this again what gedalia said go one point point again what God you said we didn't talk before no we did that we just saw 10 minutes before unless we saw each other first time in two years okay it's the challenge it's not even been that way you want to lose the outcome doesn't belong it's how we withstand the challenge this does and will do the people saying so what is the barometer of oh talk a really good game aren't they really good game people come up to me and they say laser it's easy for you to talk about it you've got such a great life you've had such a thing you're popular you go around the world I too had right now 60 Minutes under Dr Goodman what a fantastic chiropractor and I warned her before he touched me I warned it before he touched me he said I had a lot of stuff that need to loosen up I said don't be alarmed but uh there's a lot of old injuries there the body uh would you find here sorry a list of okay you see as I'm looking at you my nose isn't Staten Island I'm looking at Staten Island my nose is looking at Chicago it's not clear okay there's ribs there's collarbon says here is that that's enough enough when I Ward came into the world I had the worst health problems in the world I was my mother was a holocaust Survivor so she thought I was going to starve and I was force fed like a goose a little kid that was fat I was asthmatic I had all kinds of stuff now as as older I did a too difficult workouts six years ago through my heart into AFib don't stop we serve Hashem wherever I went ladies that night that went ashitor in my rabbinical class graduating class there were guys from Harvard who are guys from Yale that after CPA and I was at Cal College University of Maryland I learned how to plant trees and to raise cows and chickens and that was two things I did had a dream two dreams to do an airty stroke to become a soldier and become a farmer okay it did both and Soldier my unit they went and went into my unit and they looked at me in the first day and they said what are you doing here I said I want to be in this unit I said what they looked at my ways like you ever looked at yourself in a mirror I said okay Sarge try me you know what he's messing with I was never a place where everyone was not smarter everyone was more intelligent than me but one thing at the desire and I'm listening you could do it happen so they went back to see red Berkowitz Rob Berkowitz my below drive two beloved rib is the Melissa rabbit and rubberkowitz the elevation Tori he was my age [Music] and he told me a story he told it to other people they said this on film but he told it to me the first time a year ago he said laser do you know when you came and applied for a pinnacle program do you know the committee didn't want to accept you I said what they said nothing's ever going to come out of this guy this guy's a turkey he said something he raised turkeys and fruit trees and nothing's ever come to him and Sarah Berkowitz says Robert says he says uh I don't agree with you guys somebody said what Burke would said about me I'm embarrassed to say I'm not going to say it here but Rob Berkowitz himself overrided the whole acceptance committee and came in and I don't want to say what my old classmates are doing and what I'm doing well Hashem thank you Hashem thank you Hashem this is and would show them wrote the clever and a simple one he told me but he wrote The Garden of wisdom this is my favorite book Facebook wrote that he said uh laser I just wrote your biography it doesn't matter the subramovino this is dividend Mella it doesn't matter what your setbacks are matters what you do with them how do you do with it there's one thing did you one thing tonight and it's the secret to finding true happiness and go with it whatever you do you should know that Hashem created you perfect and back to the thing with the Simon Says the fact that Hashem created you means that the world cannot exist without you because to say that the world can exist without you means that Hashem does things for no reason and if Hashem creates a black widow spider for a reason he's in one of his beloved Jewish children for a reason how many of us are there in the world how many of the non us are in the world one to how many how many thousands were one and how many thousands every one of us every one of us a tiny part of Hashem and we say what makes it sound like if you added like a breast of a hippie you know my brothers and sisters uh if I got hashems DNA and the Torah says and you have hashem's DNA and the Torah calls us brothers and sisters come on I rest my case you don't need a PhD in genealogy to know that every Jew is a brother and a sister and now you know why we have to love each other and why Hashem is so upset overnight one together one body doesn't matter what the person looks like what he dresses like it doesn't matter whether it's climbing on shop it's going to filter fishing shop is and remember that you you are unique and what is don't look at anybody else because he's looking at anybody else I'm just elaborate on it and the reason it's true is because I could go through his shoe and just to reduce him on it rewrite it and do a reducing on it uh the tower says or hazal say the true Torah has the power of reproduction prayer via Okay so not only are you the only one with your correction and I said don't look at other people laser will add to that if you look at somebody else you're a double loser because you can't be to somebody else Hashem gave them their own unique shama with their own advantages and seemingly disadvantaged or no seemingly disadvantages is there a disadvantage for a plumber that he doesn't have a saw and Nails in his toolbox he doesn't need a saw nails it's a disadvantage for a carpenter that he doesn't have a monkey wrench in his toolbox he doesn't need a monkey wrench and what the electrician has a toolbox the tools that neither the plumber nor the carpenter has this if you do what you think it's a disadvantage that you're five foot eight the ship didn't want you to play for the NBA who did that sets all okay so Chef took these unnecessary choices they'll break your head okay but it's not a disadvantage anything else and a disadvantage don't look at another woman she's better than you is she pretty no no you're perfect you're perfect and you only need one soulmate and you and the soulmate you say I'm blemishes like that there were one one board has a knot in it and the other board has a if it happens that the male and female they're not put them together and they fit perfectly each one they look like they're blemished but they fit perfectly you have the exact tools you need to do your job in life how come you haven't found your job in life thank you everybody say on me foreign bless the hands that brought that glass of water Jim gives you exact tools that you need to do your job in life which means you are perfect for doing your job in life oh everyone I'd be miserable if I want to be a guitar look at your hair they say you got every barber okay so wait a second let's start let's start again I'm gonna be a good day offender I'm going to a plastic surgeon doctor straighten the nose okay so you're starting to know it but wait a second let me ask a question does it hurt to be so good looking this is the barometer of a Muna um this is what they tell us be happy with your lot in life why be happy with you not in life because Hashem gives us the exact soulmate we need first Soul correction the exact job we need for our soul correction the exact neighbor we need for our soul correction the exact abusive boss we need for our soul correction and that is how the simple one smiles and then the king happens to be going through the kingdom and the king is really upset he knows his minister is there stealing from him blind and he knows they're unreliable and somebody tells them there's this Village and there's a Shoemaker who's truly happened he's smiling all the time King says impossible impossible yeah yeah you're Majesty there is something like that okay and he signs his name the simple one this King says there's no such thing as simple person on him what are we diving for it's not a single day in laser 40s he pulled through personal prayer don't ask for simple and Muna do you know the color that kabbola depicts Divine Light it's white nothing is simpler than white okay David King David says in Psalms he says those that have straight of heart there's nothing simpler in Geometry than a straight line color white straight line everything that is simplest the topless of simplicity Hashem is not complicated as Shem is so simple Egypt and the rambam tells us he did does and will do everything that's all Hashem and the Torah sums up in three words [Applause] wait a second my tribulations in life they come from a show my tribulations are all the best believe me neither in athletics nor in the military It Ain't Easy Rinko Starr made a song about you don't come easy you know it don't come it's just that that's the way life is it doesn't come easy nothing worthwhile comes easy and you won't see someone who is seemingly more cruel than a than an athletic coach or a military commander but the athletic coach wants to be a winner and a military commander wants you to come home alive Victorious and Hashem wants us to finish our 120 years on Earth with a smile on her face and there's only one way to do it we say on we dance with the Torah Torah and we say is Happy is the person that never forgets you and the person who strains for you what strain okay with all the static and all the Yates here hey it's not so easy nobody says it's easy you can't have a Super Bowl with one team on the field you can't have NBA Finals left there the whole action is the opposite team the whole action in the Torah is where Jacob wrestles The Angel who's the angel Esau's Angel who's he sells angel that's the sum of man that's the yank Zahara that was some fight all night long and it was a dead tie until yeah put him in a arm lock and that's it and we'll let him go so I gotta get out of here he's an angel I said someone no you're not getting out of here till I get a bra every one of us is fighting that angel [Music] and in order to fight that angel gotta have a smile on her face because a smile in Hebrew the word versus that's mashup you play Hebrew Scrabble which means that the thought process depends on our simcha in other words you see there's one thing I've had a little secret from a God in my God it's not the powerful one that wins it's the guy that assesses him God uses his brain acquire his brain his presence you see look for the weak point look here observe and then boom boom boom boom boom I gotta finish this off in two seconds because I can't do something wrong this is that very quick but a lot it's very simply it's very very mine it's a mind strain that's what we have to do we have to but we can't do on our own whatever we're doing you know we don't succeed when we don't ask Hashem for help when we forget the shifiti we forget Hashem we forget that everything is from Hashem will you forget that he alone did doesn't will do and you know where that forgetfulness comes from that Amnesia comes from the evil inclination and so everything we do going to give you a little secret how to be happy and how to be successful before you do a business deal before you put a cake in the oven before you put a challah in the oven before you do whatever you do before you cross the street Hashem help this deal be successful Hashem have this cake be successful Hashem help me do whatever oh Shane says you're asking my help beloved Son beloved daughter you got it there's no such thing as you ask Hashem for help you don't get it but people think people are egoistic no then I can't say it's me I'm me I want to be the big man on the campus I want to be the guy that does something no you need a sham well good afternoon this is just like the simpleton to make the story rubbing Outlet continue to have the King was so impressed with the simple one he threw out his advisors he started out as a governor he had a crooked governor and he started government was so simple simple simple management of the girl ask Hashem for help and he made it to Vice Minister Minister it was the king's right-hand man and who's the king the king this is the old Parable the king is Hashem it means what Robbie nachman told us don't think Remy nahmoud says that I got so tall and so great because I'm a great grandson of all Shinto anybody that does what I did I said that too like you want a big Italian Fester it's going to start 3 30 in the morning laser about 3 30 in the morning but uh you know get to the Nixon to show in the morning until you move your body a little bit okay not many people want to do that instead of the morning coffee you got to move your body there's a whole set of okay so that my body is ready to talk to Hashem and people ask how can you jump and you dance and you dive in like this all the time it's it's on fire this is this is in like the one time I let it go during the week the military says go it says nishmas let all the horses out of the stable we get the nishma ship out in the morning and Laser sounds like he whispers when you hear me in nishmas okay let it all go but it's real it's real it's real it's really feel a shame feel Hashem Hashem be with me Hashem be with me the moment you say Hashem be with me there's not such can you imagine your little baby daughter your little baby son say mommy daddy be with me and you're not gonna no no I'm not gonna do that of course she's doing but the moment that you ask Hashem to be with you hashem's got a law he can't be with you unless you're happy so Hashem will give you happiness in order to be with you it works the opposite if you ask it you invoke Hashem in your life and maybe enough and and I go I set aside at that time I did talk to Shem Hashem I'm not feeling my best Hashem I'm concerned Hashem I don't feel my be talking I shall I know what's going to be Hashem I need your help oh my beloved Son of God you need my help okay now you get simcha so that Hashem could come and be with you and give you help Divine Law that's it that is the key to real happiness it is so simple like the simple one and this is this it's a straight line This is the color white and this who else said it sign check sign check from King Solomon hello [Applause] Hashem created the person straight the straight line simple but they confused things it would be intellect no I can't say that I'm a 79 80 90 IQ could be 140 IQ book Hashem thank you Hashem I'm not a 140 IQ portion this is the key to happiness spend time with Hashem every day be with Hashem every moment everything you do and you're with Hashem this is Vegas this is the Vegas you could be the right away little Masada I shouldn't be with me ashamed with me as soon as shame be with me this as a request that Hashem does not refuse and it doesn't matter who you are and it doesn't matter how you didn't do true yet nothing it shouldn't be with me oh your Hashem son your son daughter tells you your son or your daughter they ran away from home they did stuff and they'd be building they'd come back mommy daddy take me back be with me it's right there come on sweetheart right back what parent wouldn't do it and fight Hashem in your life and that is real amona not the from card not the Long Black Coat not the this and not the stringencies with Hashem that's emuna where I live my life with Hashem from morning to night I wake up with Hashem I go to bed with a sham I start my daddy I thank Hashem for every single heartbeat don't take it for granted and anybody that's uh been in situations in life where there are more situations or whether heaven forbid car accidents heaven forbid entries and don't take it for granted don't take it for granted because the best cardiac insurance is to thank Hashem for our hearts the best pulmonary Assurance to thank you for the air we breathe thank Hashem and not wait rough the burgers no right now thank Hashem For Eyes thank you for everything we live our Shem we live our lives with Hashem we thank him all day long we talk to him all day long and if we can set aside time to be with him and we make Hashem part of our lives that is living and Muna living and Mona equals living happiness equals true happiness and you should be happy that's going to help you be healthy and it's going to maximize your life potential to 120 years and two days on me [Applause] foreign [Music] thank you very much for coming out a special thank you to Rabbi lairfield of the young user of Staten Island and the entire board thank you for hosting this wonderful event at Young Israel Staten Island [Applause] okay and so by beginning the Q a if anybody's a direct question that they like to ask to godalia or Rabbi Brody you can specify which one or general I'll allow either one to come up and answer for it once again thank you very much for coming out uh tomorrow night at eight o'clock P.M will be the continuation of this momentous event with Rabbi sham arush who will be here along with of a Diane El grad so that's going to be fantastically phenomenal we'll continue that tomorrow night at 8pm we'll give everybody just a minute if they want to come closer for the seats that are open to have the Q a and anybody else wants to leave thank you very much for coming out tonight yes Mario will be after the Q a session and then after that for those who are still here we'll be able to have a little one-on-one time and get some signatures and inscriptions in any of the books that they have you know okay we're gonna start to tune in now because it's getting a little later and then we'll see how it goes if people have questions uh raise your hand we'll either come over to you ask you to go with the mic yeah [Music] okay [Music] okay all right is anybody gonna be brave enough to raise their hand for the first question for the Q a session okay okay we're gonna hear from Ellie Diamond go ahead okay so this question is for both Catalia and uh Brody um so one of the things I was thinking about is that you both spoke about happiness which is of course a very common theme in Robert halfman and romanata talks about um the one of the ways to give to achieve Joy is through giving stuck us through finding the good points one of the things I think that might be a challenge is happiness is I think in two parts one of it is emotion but the other part is cognition sometimes our cognition I think we both sort of hinted to it our cognition could be a little bit off like when we feel down so we really think that everyone has a better life how do we fix our cognition not just our motion to try to connect to Hashem that our cognition is off when we are depressed how can we how can we fix that I think you answered your question the answer there's your question when you change your focus change your motion you change your emotion by changing motion you change your motion yeah sometimes you can feel broken hard if it could feel off we change or move around and that triggers the emotions so motion changes emotion so what was the first Studio I missed you said the second video is what you could have become the first video is what you actually did what you actually did and the second video is what you could have done if you'd have been happy questions this guy's on 24 ounces I gotta take you to Miami with me I'm coming I'm coming how do you describe a gut feeling versus actual fear gut feeling versus fear what it's a good question let me know how do you know it's right or you're just afraid of it I mean in my personal experience you have to make it right it's not you know you get the potential but in order to make the potential the actual I mean you can have the best soul mate and have the worst marriage and you can have the worst person and have the best marriage so as far as something good for you or not I would start if it how do you know by surrendering if it's like a fear try to surrender it and see if it still comes up and if it doesn't come up then it could be something there's a gut feeling that is not meant to be add one word superb answer man talks about misplaced fears okay and when I have a fear that's irrational fear it's irrational it means that my fear of Hashem is insufficient so the way to neutralize the fear of as he's going to the schedule just what we talk about ask for shem's help Hashem illuminate my eyes if it's the right one Hashem help me if it's the right one make it happen and if not okay but Hashem it's not my job to be afraid it's your job it's my job to fear you that's my job to be afraid of other things that's not shop you'll be afraid okay so Shan you'll be afraid not to give me the wrong right there she won't give you the wrong one so as soon as you invoke a shin you're not afraid anymore but you still have to run the marathon you understand like you saw everybody running the marathon whether they're afraid or not you still have to run a marathon though it is a marathon it's not a race you know where sometimes we're afraid of the short but it is a paradox definitely which one is right they said that the best way to receive is the first thank God for lacking it since the time has been coming and sing any prayers including two point but we should I personally thank God that I don't have whatever is the time hasn't come yet well tiguna college is more of a cleansing there's always a cleansing before the blessing that's a whole different story that's to get rid of extra entities that could stop that can confuse you but in general for not the fact that you have a lack God gives you a lack in order so you should come closer to God through that lack and by appreciating the lack that is a Muna and not becoming a victim but appreciating that lack was there for a different reason and that lack serves a purpose so I can come closer to God through that lack therefore I should thank God for that lack that's it Moonah and to add to that what roshalem intense it says the people say well how can I thank something for something painful or have a fake it in I'm gonna lie to hashan he knows if I'm lying or not no that's not it thank you for the broken arm thank you for the bankrupt thank you that I lost 100 000 no to say the Hashem if I have this pain I know it's from you and you're my beloved father and you're doing everything for the best so you're doing for the best for me I'm going to thank you for it and Hashem says you can thank me for that now wait and see the reasons you get to thank me just like somebody apologizing I'm sorry no that's not really apologizing you're just saying it to say because I told you I'm hurt but when you really apologize you apologize differently so you can apologize not really mean it so we've all been people have apologized but they haven't meant the apology and you don't take it if it's not meant thank you pick up emotion changes emotion correct and how do you change that it has a less energetic person changed yeah right so less energetic that's the story we've been saying you understand unless what does that mean it's it's less energetic because we're putting less effort in that gym so you have to work harder at making it happen so we you should never say I have less energy I just have to work harder in the second because everybody if you say I have less energy it's assuming already you're coming in there like oh I have a problem and maybe it's a chemical thing no you have to move move create motion believe me it's not easy for me I'm I'm extremely emotional and I have some tremendous tremendous challenge just but I know every single time once I get going it's all the beginning is always tough but once you get going it's lost but you should say you should say I have a highly energetic person not a not a less energetic person secular coaches and trainers say that they don't want non-energetic people that they want energetic athletic books they can train Tigers but they can't put fire in Pussycats and when a coaches say no say the person who apparently said doesn't have energy that's the person what do you like what's your favorite things is chocolate ice cream or Baskin Robbins or whatever and what about if you run to that corner I'll give you a gift certificate for basket Robbins for 53 flavors okay he's gonna run to the corner all right and just say you take every Mitzvah that's Baskin Robbins let's change his Outlook change this out looking you can get get to love and get to love and the reason the way to get to love to do is to to teach a Muna because the Moon is the one on the left side of the chick you take to fill in that's great Shabbos is great Nick feels great cautious is great but like zero zero if there's no amona then a person won't be able to wither a difficult time and that's where we have what's the number one problem in in Judaism tell yourself the Derek kids okay that's it and I guarantee you guarantee you when I was going around the world whether it's in London or Williamsburg and spoken in Michigan yes where boys all their lives and they look dead because nobody ever taught them a Muna and don't blame them because their rep is never learned a Mona very sad let's go to that side of the room and we'll come back yes can you be loud I'll try I'll try to be loud yeah um you know I just spoke about um the desire desires could be our downfalls in the context of social comparison sure but at the same same time as some of your lessons you you're you're empowered to have desires right so so how do you erect the Rectify having the right desires right spiritual desires you have to be 100 aggressive Financial desires is going to come to you at the right time you have to have a desire so financially if you're if you want a desire for example I could say created the world if I don't have a moon out I'm dead and you can you'll actually get a moon up because you're demanding it on a spiritual sense it's a need in heaven but if you're trying to chase something financially physically because of low self-esteem and you're doing it through sadness that is not necessarily going to trigger that because what happens is if that person himself cannot even if he receives that money it's going to lead them to worse and worser things so the good question is is what do you become after you receive the money do you become chasing double or is this going to change you you understand that's how you know if you receive will you be a giver or you will you be just you know yeah the more you have the more you want so that's necessarily not going to solve the problem so anything when you're where you're relating to Cabot honor or validation you don't want to go after it because ego based and the more you go after people see it's desperate or fear of not being loved and then people will usually run the other side who runs away from you you know a guy that wants to go out with a girl over and over a girl he just keeps on being like like laser except spiritually come on you have to go you have to go with that that girl will never go out with him because she'll she'll feel wow this guy's my whole life is he's a it's a creep because the girl is going to say this guy it's too desperate something's wrong so the same concept so financially you want to you want to have Pizza Hut and stand back work hard but surrender the outcome but spiritually you do have to turn it up surrender the outcome believe it or not okay hi how are you thank you so much I gotta try to be a little more direct with the questions to the point I'm going through the whole story I'm going to try to be as loud as possible so if you guys can hear me uh I'd like to apply your wisdom into practicality into today's world uh we have you know unfortunately we have drug addicts so how can a drug addict really have immunity when it's clearly trying to say sober another question is how can his drug dealer who's caused so much pain and suffering to people uh directly indirectly how can he really come back to a sham and have simcha at the end of the day uh could you say that that is borderline delusional foreign [Music] don't hate the players hate the game right the bottom line any any any attempt to to use drugs or anything is an attempt for higher consciousness okay for example let's say I'm depressed and next thing you don't have social anxiety I take two drinks three drinks I'm the life of the party my anxiety goes away the real me comes out talking to everybody the bus goes off I'm the same miserable person okay so what happens all that did is it blocked the ego all alcohol drugs do is it blocks what's making you feel horrible you understand that technically what you really got a taste of is that's what you should really be so what you need to do is we need at the person in recovery has to work on letting go of all those things that are making him feel the way he's feeling and he can get to that same high without anything that's the purpose of the 12 steps is to get to the same level of Consciousness but now through work and letting go and therapy versus that first you understand is that the question so that person could usually the purpose of a spiritual awakening comes when you first when you first have to surrender you can't fight you have the first surrender and that allows because remember drugs is very controlled you want to control how you feel so when you surrender that allows truth and that starts to process that starts the process of an Awakening consciousness so every every I've had many people people all my employees are in recovery and they're much nicer and much Kinder people and better people that they would have never gone through recovery so the purpose of all this darkness is you come higher when you come back you come much higher than you would have ever had if you didn't use talks about the dealer if we open up track data voices are up page 17b he wasn't a dealer but he was a guy until he was a dealer used his services this guy was called a I'd say nice word panderer I can't tell the Gamora because it's so it's so graphic okay I'll talk about here but this particular panderer he was the Hugh Hefner in Playboy was Mother Teresa compared to this guy okay this guy did everything and the worst low life stuff and he finally went to this world famous most expensive hooker alive and she said to him at a embarrassing moment she said to him I don't know how she had got in her mouth she says Hashem is never going to accept you and Shiva so he fell off her gold Laden bed and he heard that and it just pierced like an arrow in his heart and he went out you know the song Old American folk song Oh Sinner Man Where Are You Gonna Run two oh sinner man's from this Gamora from this Gamora so The Sinner Man he goes out he says son help me son says by time I help you I got to help myself I can't help you and he says Moon help me we can't open the stars that there goes to the sun moon stars and he finally says he says it only depends on me and he cried to Hashem he cried to share me cry to him he cried to Hashem so much that his nashama left him and then a voice came out and the guy's name was Eliezer bandordia and he said rebe Eliezer bandordia is now invited to the world to come he walked right in the guy did everything whereas he did one hour of treatment so the greatest Generation ribbon reviews he cried and he says some people work all their lives and this guy in one hour that's not that people don't understand that Gamora if he would have taken multiple hours with the same effort that he did he could have been it could have been the great the great day he was a great scholar he's a great Amora he was also a man of the night I can't wait to I could give you a couple of bullet Shooters it was the whole thing the door is never locked on Shiva now it may be difficult and this is the mistake in the Gorn they did everything the low-life stuff and he heard a voice from heaven and it said everybody is invited to do truva except ahar he didn't understand that as far as he was his mom is that about juva gets special sea out of the Shema but some guys go over to let Maybe the dealer is not going to have seat Ishmael because hey buddy you got to be aware that you wrecked a lot of people's lives if he's strong enough and he was chuva submission [Music] talks about and he does a quickly does spiritual Aikido the bad I brought in the world now I'm gonna do the good take the momentum and he does such Shiva like that and just like I brought people down now I'm going to go into the Bronx and I'm going to beat people up accepting the doors of chuva are never locked not to the I started you know the pimp and not to The Pusher and not to the bank robber not to this and you could see and it could encourage my first job as a rabbi was I had a tough internship I was Rabbi of ramla prison Israeli prisons foreign everything behind bars rapists murderers drugs come on come on that was it that was so hard I I gave it up after two and a half years I used to come home as if I ran the marathon every day my clothes were sweat the one thing we did and that's where it all started that spiritual Rehabilitation foreign he says you need 10 000 Russian cops so that people don't smuggle vodka from Russia to Poland the Jews don't need one cup they did only comment some PESA as soon as you teach a person there's a Shem you don't need a penal system you don't need chills you don't need anything that's the best rehab so the gates of Cuba are open they're not always easy but like we say they don't come easy okay don't expect that you ruin the world [Music] okay if you believe that you could ruin something believe that you could rectify it and I've seen many people that work for me at work dealers many I've seen clients changing lives and they were dealers I've seen them physically first thing first time many yes Pastor jurisdiction good okay okay I am very very impressed to um to um from home and I disagree with you the gay institutional are not open they are closed especially for people that want to become more from now you can hold it hold the wait a second time out the gates of chuva I'm talking about Hashem I'm not talking about people you do Cubit of people you don't contributed people you do jupitation Hashem is always there for you you keep on talking about a moment excuse me if you would get that you got to be ready you want to ask tough questions you're going to get tough answers okay you want to hit you're gonna get hit back all right they're just not gonna baby you not gonna babe you gonna give you the answer you need and we're not gonna play around go ahead ask whatever you want but be prepared to get an answer great Street back um and um Pizza home um trust and cost how do you get this moon or Peter cone can trust in God when people are not raised with this kind of thinking like like I am sending him this room where everybody has it you you talked about it and and like and there's people say Jonathan what's the purpose of topic it's like a Hebrew speed reading contest I don't know how to top it so there are many areas I'm definitely lacking in so how can somebody like me get pierced this and yeah you have to open up your hearts but you got to open up the heart because the whole lesson was just all about that let me let me answer this one to tell you open up your heart a little bit you said in this lesson don't look at anybody else yeah I'm playing that to look at anybody else you got to know one thing when you in your heart want to make shuva The Game Stops I should have said what my beloved Son that he grew up he didn't even know he was Jewish barely he didn't know he didn't know what matzah was you know what Shabbos was he didn't know what the filling was now he wants to come to me well the gates are wide open you are going to get seatmaya excuse me listen don't do this with the head listen that's the answer all right you come to me as a physical coach and you say I want to run the marathon or else I check you out you could be let me show me your blood work and you show me your blood work hey come on your triglycerides are up in the sky okay you see I'll give you right now look at you I'll tell you right now your triglycerides are up in the sky okay good proud of you but if they were I tell you what to eat and if your cholesterol is off tell you what to eat maybe eat too much sugar to give you a whole thing and if you want to run a marathon you never mind a marathon in your life you want to start with a walk around the block and then put a jog around the block you can't start you start you want to run a marathon don't look at people that are putting on an outer show do you want to know if people have a Muna there's only one test of amuna let him come visit me in Israel and I stood and I live closer to Gaza than you are from here to Teaneck okay by kitchen only takes 32 seconds we get a sire under 32 seconds to do it okay you see a person how does a person Act when he's getting shot at not the way he's rocking back and forth and then from chakras till late from hodu to Elena was 28 minutes uh-uh that's not a Muna because you can't say it but that's a guy that that has a morning he needs 28 minutes for schmonizly the right time toxic Shin they asked to shame for everything don't look at anybody else start with an English sitter start with your own words start with do what you can get yourself maybe maybe want to get some more information just be open-minded and see what maybe some people do right now companies can kind of convince you because you're blocked and 13 principles of amona nobody true believes in a few classes just try to open up loosen up a little bit and then you know little by little okay but take take the negativity away put a smile on your face because he wanted him to be with you don't look at people go with the Sham don't look at people don't look at people don't be dependent on somebody's okay if a person needs somebody say oh you're okay and he's an emotional handout that's just like being a per person eatable what's the difference between emotional handout and a monetary handout go with the Sham put a smile on your face I guarantee you I will sign a paper sign a paper with my olamaba and believe my alumba was worth something okay let's do people I sign a paper with oh my God that Hashem loves you you're his only son and the world can't exist without you fact fact one fact two facts that doesn't put a smile on your face I rest my case all right next question loud or I'll help you but just one second you should know that there's maybe three percent of people walking through my recovery center do they say I love God they only say that three months after four months out I found God I found God I just want to go over and take the whole world but nobody in the beginning said I love that it's normal to go through the process but after two three months I found God I found my Creator I felt that never right away this never happens right away sometimes it takes two months to get the guy to understand a little bit so but eventually they do get that eventually that is the goal but never right away nobody we can't convince people in 20 minutes that's some of that plan uh when does a mother's responsibility end with her children if she's trying to teach them Torah and teach them mutualists but they keep rebelling especially in the teenage years how much does she have to push and where does her responsibility and okay here's the thing when parents try to push and the kids are off you don't push parental example if you live it you can give it if you don't live it you can't give it what's a parental example your kids are looking what does abba do the first day in the morning does he open up a Gomorrah Baba Kama does he go in the backyard and talk to Hashem put yourself up in the Wall Street Journal it's a cup of coffee if he opens up the Wall Street Journal that's exactly what they want to do if Abba gets upset when a glass is broken or something there's a a five dollar monetary loss but he doesn't get upset when okay something that Mitzvah wasn't done exactly right the kids they look the kids are analytic and kids hate hypocrisy it's not don't do me what to do I can't see it kids want to see if the parents a real deal if Mom likes Shabbos candles and she's got a smile on her face and her tears in her eyes and she's begging a sham for the good of her husband for the good of her kids one by one and they look mama so gorgeous she's so attached to she'll only be just like Mom when the kids go to school and they hear dad talking about the stock market what and sure her dad takes his cell phone to the stock market and militiam say he's looking at his Twitter his email or whatnot they see that's more important than Hashem no which we need to take our cell phone okay so looking how does Mom service him how does Dad service him don't say a word to the kids you want to educate kids first we have to educate ourselves we educate ourselves that kids are going to fall just in the place don't have to say a word and if you say a word with 21st century adolescents are going to go the exact opposite them yes anything demonstrate don't instructors okay I have one question yes is he permitted correct okay so you said that we should serve hashems what if we like excitement excitement excitement exciting not not fast excitement okay he's also very slow I think we can see what we're there Chef chicken you guys all the broccoli tomorrow night [Music] [Laughter] we'll do five more and that'll be it right yes a quick question so I heard about shalom arush speak about that when was commanded us to pray he told us he didn't handle it he gave us he said speak from the heart to hit what they do essentially somebody is at the point where they're doing an hour of people to do every single day I've spoken to you before but is like what is like why is it still a necessity not for that person to pray for my sitter yeah okay so the question is for the recording if people are doing an hour of personal prayer are they still required to read from a text to pray and connect to God through right yeah I mean personally I got you I understand my my my sessions are much more powerful than the sidor but uh you still have to follow you know the order of the connection Israel but you know but the definitely I see 10 times more energy from my histology than I did from Isidore 100 I think if you get to that level just having a conversation with god my power hour that's what I call it that I definitely get tremendously much more emotions and I you know I put music on I'm free you know it's a whole different world but I you know I still do the other three prayers but I don't get the same energy as the other ones I do I do I do do I can't compare it but it is required and then and and and and it doesn't prove the prayer though there's something else I we're different I'm different than gedelia I'm just as fired up as I say as that many people do okay when you come to schmuck well they don't ask what you want coining at that means hiding a DOT what's the Prophet ishael says very on hoping talk about all the destruction for example instructions and he said why all this my people didn't observe what do you saying people go through thanks for the grub yay Hashem that's the brick at Amazon okay but the same with this is give me my brain power my understanding Hashem give me the understanding that it should put Divine understanding and understand the feel that you're right there with me foreign okay don't put the music on and something I feel like dancing but don't dance because uh one thing that tone it down then I don't put on a show for people and you keep things you keep the fire and then then you did the energy and go out in the field and the field do whatever you want that um if somebody is already in a bad place and a parent or a friend how can they have a responsibility what should they do to help get that person to where they need to be what's their obligation for somebody else but not for yourself if you're a parent and the kids already Way Gone in a bad place if they're already the question so what's the exact question to me does it get better how she feels better or what she can do for the kids yeah the mother or the child the mother of the child is in the deep depression what could she do again the number one thing is accept the situation because without any time we're fighting a situation that's what's causing the suffering let's say we have we all have people in our family that are not happy and you know we we can't change people we can only send them love and pray for them but when you're dealing with people with low self-esteem they usually don't want to hear it they don't want to hear that they're miserable why are you being miserable they already know they're miserable so I would say give them space pray for them offer a third party counselor maybe a therapist and and pray for that but don't don't push the agenda because though they're not going to want to deal with you good good yes no problem be funny it's okay it's almost 11 o'clock when it's Staten Island that's pretty funny that is extremely funny foreign to get out of Disney first of all right that's the first thing um what advice would I give this and would I would give something yeah change the movie oh there you go you got my lines beautiful I would tell her to change the beauty change the movie into seeing the Beauty and the Beast she's in the wrong movie change it to finding the Beauty and the Beast so she's looking for the missing Louboutin the missing shoe that's never going to come she's going to meet somebody else and she's going to see the good points of that Beast change the movie I would say find Nemo huh find Nemo right Define Cinderella a spoiled kid with sister no I I I'm like 40 almost 45 years old I don't remember these movies anymore I do but they don't they're not watching they're watching other things Toy Story is something else I'm sure he does everything to make fun of her she's always put down oh she's always put down like like the Frozen girl right like the Frozen one no no no she Advanced substance oh to build her self-esteem to build her self-esteem what else could there be to build defaults I haven't I don't know the movie I'm sorry there's enough movies already out there I don't know I don't know the movie it's not just Cinderella Cinderella what would you call Cinderella okay I told her get out of Disney first and then the rest the one who's always put down yeah okay what's a good point two more questions what is she outstanding in she probably had a great heart right wow good person wow self-esteem okay really built her up built on that point like I told one of the guys if you're five eight you're not meant to play man being if you're not miss Twiggy then you're not meant to be Miss America and Hashem doesn't want you flaunting your body anyway if you've got a good heart you're going to get a great guy and maybe he'll give birth to mashiach feel free good point go for a good point the good hearts look at this world it's so good they grew out the good heart look what she can do look what she could do look the amazing things she could do how do you deal with your surroundings she needs therapy she needs extensive therapy grateful and say thank you this is where what what's her sir how old is she how old is she how old is Cinderella AKA Cinderella she's an adult okay uh the Gamora says the people if there's one thing if she has a alternative or not an alternative in other words someone has an abusive boss but they don't have another job that means that Hashem has locked them in a situation now we've got to deal with it okay but if someone has an abusive boss and a Shem sends him three chop offers somewhere else Hashem doesn't expect this to be masochists okay if she deals with abusive friends uh maybe she's picked the wrong friends maybe she huh family family family that's abusive yes okay family should learn that the laws of okay all right bye but but here's the thing there is no law there is no law I'll give you an example I get young people with abusive parents adults young adults with abusive parents or parents that mix in with their lives this and that and they say how do I fulfill the Commandment that's kind of honoring my parents now okay good good okay so you pray for the parent you pray for the parent but if that parent is abusive there is no duty to a child to be a masochist there's no duty to child an adult child to subjects up to abusiveness and sometimes the parent is abusive to the son-in-law or the daughter-in-law and the son or the daughter should say mom and dad you don't speak to my spouse like this because I have to grow up to 120. and anyone including mom and dad that speaks to my spouse disrespectfully we're not going to have dinner together we're not going to visit us together and it's not a matter of emotional blackmail it's just a matter of preventing abuse if you have a way to prevent abuse subject yourself to an abusive individual and a parent doesn't have a right to abuse a child parents think child belong to them the midst of loving your neighbors yourself there's a midst of the Torah dear mystery it is worse than eating pork to cause pain to another Jew that person he's pork it's easy it has fast forgiveness for sin but uh Yom Kippur doesn't help a person's repair and plays to another Jew you have this forgiveness to the other two okay so this young lady if her parents are tearing her down and her parents are destroying her self-image that's uh but sometimes there is a case where you have to review you have to see the whole case because there's a lot of times where the you know that she'll tell you know if the parent is saying go get a job you're abusing you throw them away yeah yeah there's actually I really it's very important to go into get the right therapist get go into the details family therapists because sometimes you'll see this the story sometimes it is and sometimes it's not so this is not all the same I've seen 50 in one way 50 all the way go you need a family therapist you need group therapy and you need a a common goal and then the work has to begin obviously we'll just take one more time again first you have to stop the storm once you have the first you have to stop the storm and then once you stop the storm then you could start like we can't fix the roof when it's raining you have there's a time to go build first you have to put get the right instructions get the right therapist get the right diagnosis and then you know I've seen tons of times the clinic you know give me medications sometimes parents need medication there's a million cases in this story that could go one way or the other and it's very I don't want to give you the wrong answer on unlimited facts really quick last question okay last question okay an inverse question the question was asked here so for me I feel fire what I'm doing when I say when I'm doing my prayers and I well Hashem speak to Hashem pretty regularly but I haven't struggled doing it like pre like in advance like planning you want to do it when I get people to do it all of a sudden I like freeze into the spotlight don't know what to say end up just apologizing for everything that I've done wrong and uh right I don't know what to do just some common tips that I that I can recommend first pick pick a location pick a time that you you're in that that space because for example in New York I try to do it you know I got subways range my whole head was all over the place timing going to sleep you know there's some guys there's a lot of guys going on here so there's you really need Yeshua dots so pick up first in order to just get the best effects of this location time frequency you understand that that in the beginning that usually opens you up because you're in that same space now usually in time sometimes when you have nothing to say created a world I want to talk to you you told me how great it is well to do this you told me you could change my whole life from that one said it's higher than everything please open up my mouth another thing I can recommend you is read the 50th gate by ravnasan here's his prayers or or to Helen anything to warm you up just like if you're working out you can't sometimes work out sometimes you gotta stretch sometimes you got to go on the treadmill a little bit just to get motion once you usually get emotion sometimes I'll go into breathing and every day it depends on the mood situation what's happening in my life no two days are the same so this is not really a cookie cutter thing no two days in your life are gonna be the same every single day is going to be completely different there's going to be a new challenge that that's going to be what you approach God but the whole point of this whole situation is is not the score it it's to it's to display your ending now and you believe that this works talking to my creative works and when I speak things out I get it out of my system I don't hold it in anymore so the whole concept behind this is I can really go to a place where I let it out and and you and you feel much lighter if you have nothing to say breathe jump dance scream I've done it all until something and sometimes the words come out sometimes they don't and then you continue at another ploy suppose an angel revealed himself to you and he said if you've got an hour you've got an hour to thank me for every gift in life and what you don't thank me you can take it away wow Hashem thank you for my brain and you better learn anatomy in the bathroom we can't learn Torah cerebellum cerebrum padalo Hashem thank you for my eyesight thank you thank you my cornea Hashem thank you okay without that pressure when I get tongue tied it happens a lot if that fan your friend by the time you get out to the to the field and and uh okay checklist we're about to take off we can't take off what does the pilot do starboard engine important engine pressure oil pressure hydraulic pressure Hashem thanks for the eyes Hashem thank you for my breathing Hashem thank you for my teeth and think by the time you get to your ribs go you're going to forget about it and thank you that the legs always get left out that's why persons have knee problems because by the thing they don't get down there okay because by the time that they're so enamored by thanking and Hashem wow look at the gifts I got from Hashem day that otherwise it would take for granted and that warms you up really quick the gratitude [Applause]