Finding the 'new normal' frustrating? How to get out of the maze of confusion - Rabbi Alon Anava

Am I really happy? Think real good for a few seconds and ask yourself, am I really happy? And sadly I can say that a large amount of people will come to the conclusion, they say, "No, I'm not happy." Everybody wants to be happy. I don't know anybody that doesn't want to be happy. I don't know people wake up in the morning and says, "Today I want to be miserable." No offense, I guarantee to you you waste 80% of your time. Most people waste most of their time. Zero productivity. Anything that has dishonesty in a relationship, in business, with yourself, it's not going to work. If you know your life's purpose, then I don't think you would come tonight. You would be fulfilling your purpose. A word is worth is worth a lot. Not saying that word is worth even more. Enjoy yourself. I know it just came out. Get your But it's not about losing, it's about how you fight. How you get up. The challenges never end. You have challenges till the last moment of your life. What do I really want to achieve today? What am I accomplishing today? You're going to be happy. The sad reality that I noticed is that most people have zero guidance in their world in their life. And not only that they have zero guidance, they don't know where they're heading, where they're going. Most people are confused. And I'm not saying it's shalom to hurt anybody or to make fun of anybody. It's only to make a point that one can better their life. If you go into a car and you start driving without a destination, then besides driving and probably getting lost, where where you going? You need a destination. We need a what's called a matara. Matara means that I have to have something to focus on. Most people and again, I'm not trying to hurt anybody or to put somebody down. Don't take anything personal. Take everything as words of encouragement and hopefully tonight you'll be able to get some type of tools how I can actually find the focus in my life so I can achieve something and reach to the destination. Because most people they have zero knowledge what's my purpose in life. Why am I here? Why things don't work out in my life? Why things happen at the time that I don't want it to happen? How come life sometimes can be so stressful? The sad reality is that like I said before, most people they don't know their destination. Some people can be an unbelievable doctor. 40 years, 50 years and their target, their destination in the world has nothing to do with medicine. Just their mother pushed them to be a doctor cuz she wanted a son doctor and he might be an amazing doctor, but he was a miserable man cuz he's not happy with his life. He, she, just giving an example out of many. Most people they don't have a target. If you have a target, then you work to get it. If you don't have a target, then what are you doing? When you wake up in the morning, do you have a target? Do you have an agenda? Everything is planned? I'm not talking about robotically getting up and going to pray or going to work or robotically behaving. That's a robot. That's not the working with a target, with a destination. So, we titled the class is how do you find your life purpose? If you know your life's purpose, then I don't think you would come tonight. You would be fulfilling your purpose. But since most people don't know how to find their life purpose, then hopefully tonight maybe we'll give you some guidance and a road map to find your life purpose. And the reason I'm saying that because most people even if they think they know their life purpose, then they don't. They go on a completely different path. The indication to that is when a person is not happy. You have to ask yourself every day different questions. The same way that you eat, the same way that you bathe, the same way that you get dressed, you also have to have a certain pattern every day that our sages believe it or not, they did not establish different things for us to do to annoy you. Nobody sat 2,000 years ago in the great assembly and said, "How are we going to annoy these people? We got to give something that we're going to annoy them. Let them pray three times a day. Yeah, that's amazing. Let them struggle." Nobody sat 2,000 years ago in the the Knesset Hagdola and decided to oppose on us all sorts of actions to make me annoyed. They established a lot of our actions so as so we can have some type of a framework. Now, I'm talking about those mitzvot that the Torah tells me to do. And then there's a lot of mitzvot and a lot of them mitzvot called a takana. Takana means that an addition for us to do. And this is guidance from our Hakhamim, from our Hazal, from our sages. And they didn't say that like I said before to annoy us, they say that cuz they had Ruach Hakodesh, they had divine inspiration. And if you don't have a framework, then you'll never be successful in anything. So, a lot of the work that our sages gave us, apply that. And one of them is praying three times a day. There's a reason why we pray three times a day, by the way. Our sages made a takana, made an addition that every time I eat something, I should say a blessing. God doesn't tell you to do that. Our sages told you to do that. There is a reason why you do that. They also enacted that every time I finish eating, I will say a blessing. And many other things that our sages told us to do. Why? So we can have some type of a framework. With that said, you have to understand that when you wake up in the morning, there's certain acts that you want to do, so your day will be aligned and your day will be productive. Tomorrow by Hashem, while we pray Shacharit, we're going to pray a beautiful addition that is called Hallel. Hallel is one of the seven mitzvot from our sages. And in the Hallel prayer, at the end, there's a verse that to most kehillot, most nusachim will say, Avraham zaken ba bayamim, v'Hashem berach et Avraham bakol. Avraham was old and he came with full days and Hashem blessed him with everything. Simple translation and explanation. Not only that he was 175, rather, he was old. Old in Hebrew means zaken shekanah chachmah. He acquired a lot a lot of wisdom. Ba bayamim, he came with his days. Every day of Avraham Avinu's life was lived to the full. He didn't waste a day. He didn't have a Facebook account, by the way. He didn't waste his time on nonsense. Every second of the day was calculated, that when he finishes his time in this world, every second was to the fullest. He didn't waste time. If you look at your life, no offense, I guarantee to you you waste 80% of your time. Most people waste most of their time. Zero productivity, wasting time on nonsense, arguments, disagreements, movies of cats breakdancing on Facebook, all sorts a nonsense that that you catch yourself and after an hour, "What did I waste my time on?" So, time management is extremely important and time management was not invented by Tony Robbins. Time management was invented by our sages 3,000 years ago already to teach you that every moment of your life has to be productive. What that said is that I have to ask myself in this framework a bunch of questions. Every day have certain questions. If you don't remember off by heart, write it on the mirror in your bathroom or put it as a magnet on your fridge. And there's many many questions you want to ask yourself. Today, I'm going to focus on one question that you have to ask yourself. You can ask yourself that once a day or 100 times a day, am I really happy? Now, take 20 seconds of silence and ask yourself, are you really happy? You don't have to answer. We don't want to embarrass anybody. But, you have to think real good for a few seconds and ask yourself, am I really happy? And sadly, I can say that a large amount of people will come to the conclusion. They say, "No, I'm not happy." And I'm not not happy because of my financial situation or marital problem or health problem. I am only not happy because my neshama is not happy. End of story. I know people that have nothing in their life smiling all day long. I live in probably one of the most poor cities in Israel, but the most happiest city in Israel. People are poor there. Everybody's like you would think that they're giving out in the streets happy pills or some other things that some young people in the crowd we don't want to Maybe it's the altitude very high up in the mountain. People are happy. Why are you happy? Baruch Hashem. So, So, people they're not really happy and we want to solve this problem. You know why you're not happy? Because your soul is not happy. Not because you have money or you don't have money, or your wife is on your case or not on your case, or the kid is not doing good in school. Oh, this is not why you're not happy. You're not happy for one simple reason is that your neshama is not happy. So, you have to ask yourself, am I happy? When you answered yourself, I'm not happy, don't be ashamed, don't be embarrassed, and don't don't be upset at me. We're trying to better ourselves. If you answer yourself, I'm not really happy, and you really have to be honest. If you're not honest, honesty is the name of the game. In any type of spiritual refinement, any type of spiritual growth, if there's no honesty here, it will never work. Anything in this world that there's no honesty will never work. By the way, sheker, a lie, is written in Hebrew shin, kuf, resh. The middle letter is kuf, and if you notice the kuf has a long stick, a leg. It's called a leg. Has one leg. You know why? Cuz to tell you that a lie is never stable. It will always fall. Anything that has dishonesty in a relationship, in business, with yourself, it's not going to work. Emet is the foundation of everything. Emet is truth. It has the aleph, it has the mem, it has the tav. Aleph is the first letter, mem is the middle letter, and tav is the last letter. Everything is about emet. If you live a life of sheker, you're never going to be successful, and definitely not happy. So, when you want to refine yourself, you want to spiritually elevate yourself, has to be honesty. So, you have to be honest. I like using a term, and this term is, who are you kidding? And I'm not using it on you, I'm using it on myself. Who am I kidding? Who are you kidding? You think you're fooling somebody here? You might be fooling the crowd. You're not fooling Hashem, and you're not fooling yourself. And if you fool yourself, then you are the fool. I know some of you laughing cuz on Monday I said if you fooling yourself, you're a fool, and we've decided to make a sticker out of it. But, but that's the that's the reality. If you fool yourself, you're a fool. So again, we want to focus on ourselves so we can spiritually grow. It has to be done in an honest way. Put your hand on your heart or whatever term you will say it here in America, and you ask yourself once a day, if you want to be smart ask yourself it 20 times a day, am I really happy? If you come out to the conclusion, yes, then you are fooling yourself. I know very few people are truly happy, by the way. Now, once you came to the conclusion that you're not truly happy, then you have to understand that you're not truly happy cuz you don't have a target. If I'm targeted on something, I will be happy. First of all, I'm going to be occupied, by the way. Most people are not occupied with what they need to do, so the mind starts taking them to all sorts of journeys. And then they need some type of a stimulation to their head. But if you're busy, nothing distracts you. I invite you. I know you're not going to come, but I invite you one day to spend a day with me. From 5:00 a.m. to 4:55 a.m. The 5 minutes is when I put my head down. There's not 1 second that is going to waste. Sometimes people tell me, "Why are you in a rush to finish the conversation?" Because I said hello, I asked, "How are you?" Everything's okay. Now we move on. I'm not here to schmooze. Some people catch me in the street, I cut it short. "Why are you so rude?" I'm not rude, I'm in a rush. I'm not in a rush, I'm busy. And to schmooze with you right now, nothing comes out from it. The point is that if you don't have a target, you get distracted by many many things, and you're definitely not productive. So what do we need to do? We need a target, I need a destination, and then I need to aim. Having a target is very nice, but now aim. Now, to give an example of what I'm trying to say, imagine now I give a man wood, I give him a saw, and a hammer, and nails, and a drill, and sandpaper, and paint, and and I tell him, "With all these beautiful tools that I give you, you know what you can do? You can build a beautiful Aron Kodesh." I don't know if you see the Aron Kodesh behind us. Beautiful Aron Kodesh. And imagine you're giving the man the tools, but he doesn't know he doesn't have the instructions. Today they buy in IKEA, you get instructions. But imagine you don't get instructions. Would he build a beautiful ark or beautiful piece of furniture? No, it's going to be like a board on a board and a nail sticking out from here and a nail sticking out from there. I gave you very good quality tools and lumber and everything you need to do. Why can't you build me a beautiful table, a beautiful closet, a beautiful Aron Kodesh? Hashem gives you tools. He tells you what to build. And instead of you building a beautiful Aron Kodesh or whatever it is, you use your imagination, that's my analogy, you just put them together one on top of the other and it looks like my artwork of my 3-year-old when she comes back from kindergarten. I don't even know what what's going on here. Like, "Oh, it's beautiful, honey. It's amazing." What's going on here? I have no idea. Things are stuck to each other and then she starts telling me, "That's you and this is Mommy and this is Mommy. Ooh." Nevertheless, you get the point. The point is that Hashem gives you tools, he gives you the the product. Now he tells you, "Now build something beautiful." Most people they don't know how to build it. So they have the tools, they have everything that they need, but there's no guidance, there's no instructions from IKEA. And that's all of us, by the way. And again, it's doesn't mean you're bad. Doesn't mean you're a mean person. The sad reality is that most people they just don't have the guidance. Now, once you have the tools, and everybody has tools by the way, and tell him we're going to talk about it because that's how you find your destination. All the people say, "I don't know what's my purpose in life." Okay, let's see what the tools are, and according to the tools, I'll tell you what's the destination. If I want you to paint a wall, what would I give you? I'll give you a paintbrush and paint and a brush and whatever I need to and you paint the wall. So, you look what the tools that Hashem gave you. Now you'll figure out your destination. Now, if you're able to take all these tools that Hashem gave you, including the material, and build a beautiful ark like what Hashem told you, it doesn't have to be an ark. Again, it's just my example. Then you know what's going to be the result? You're going to be happy cuz you did it. Now, if you take all these tools and you use the tools to destroy the material, then what's going to be the result? You're going to be unhappy. That's it. That's how it works. Very simple. Life is very, very simple. Now, how do I do that? First of all, and most important, I have to understand, and I talked about that so many times in different classes, everything is rooted somewhere. Everything has a root. Nothing just appeared out of nowhere. I constantly need to go to the depth, to the root of everything. How they say, I think they even said here in America, "We got to go to the root of the problem." Right? That's what they say? Yeah? Okay, so I'm on the money. You always have to go to the root of things. When you know how to get to the root of something, you know what's going to happen? It's going to go to the depth of the depth. I'll give you an example. Pour now water on the ground. What's going to happen to the water? They're going to start going down and down and down and down. And you know when the water is going to stop? When they reach to the bottom of their the where they originated from. They're not going to stop. The water will not stop. They will go hundreds of meters into the ground. Why so deep? Because the root of the water is in the depth of the earth. So, it will go all the way down. It's not going to stop on the surface. Now, you know, the other day I was somewhere water spilled on the table and the water miraculously stayed on the on the tablecloth. So, they put some chemical material to keep it afloat. But, you put water on the ground, within minutes the water will go into the ground. When will it stop? When it reaches to the root. Why? Because it's that's the end. That's where the water originates from. Now, I need to always look what is my root. If I will understand where I'm rooted from, then I'll be able to backtrack, so to say, what I need to do. Now, in general, there are two types of targets in this world. There's a general target. It's called the target This is for all of us as mankind. And that we have to do together. Sometimes there's a certain certain task that needs to be done and it can only be done with a lot of people. One person cannot build the entire building. You need a lot of a lot of trades. You need the engineer, you need the carpenter, you need the plumber, you need the painter, you need everybody. This is a task that can only be done with many. This is called general task or a general target. That's one thing. Tonight we're not going to talk about that because that's a whole different thing. That's where we have to learn how to build a community, how to work in a community, how to work with each other. And that's another big journey that we need to figure out. And that's a big one because if the if would want us to be loners, then he would create 7 billion islands and then put us on different islands and we would just wave to each other, and we'll live on our own island. But Hashem put us all on one island, and then says, "Now get along. Now let's see how you're getting along." But this is not necessarily what we're going to focus on tonight. More we want to focus on what's called the matara pratit, the target that is private to me. And I have to know what is my private target. And I'm separating them because sometimes the general one can be me and my wife. That's already two people here. So it's not mine. That's a whole different thing. Nevertheless, it's the same guidelines. Now when I'm focusing on my own target, and I keep using the word target because if you don't have a target, then what are you shooting at? Or you can use the word destination. I will now go into the car. I need to get from point A to point B. What do I do in the GPS? I put a destination. Can you imagine me telling the GPS, "Take me home." The GPS says, "I don't know where you live." I know now some people will say, "Yeah, yeah, now you can program on the GPS home. The GPS knows just to take you." But hypothetically, you have to you have to program to the GPS where do I need to go? The GPS will tell you if you go from this route, it will take you 45 minutes. If you go from that route, it will have tolls, but it will take you 30 minutes. Same thing here. So I use the word target because in Hebrew, that's how we express ourselves. It's called matara. And in English might not be the perfect word to use. Target, I don't know. We'll call it a destination. The point said that I can have a beautiful target, but if I don't know how to aim, that's another problem. And usually what's going to happen, will come a lot of distractions, and I'm not going to aim straight into the target. 25 years ago, I was a soldier in the Israeli army. First thing that they teach you is they teach you how to shoot. They don't teach you how to cook. They teach you how to shoot. A soldier, that's what he does. He shoots. So they take you to the shooting range all the time. And in beginning till you get used to the machine gun, to the rifle, to the gun, it's done quietly. You're lying down, there's silence. Now, take your time and aim. But later on, when you're so to say more advanced training, you think it's they done so quietly? So, you are maybe lying on the ground, but the commanders are hitting you on the head, hitting you on the back, distracting you because when something is distracting you, you can't hit the target. You have to be very careful. Today we're not talking about the distractions, but you have to be constantly careful from the distractions cuz even if you finally figured out the target, and you finally got the tools how to reach to the target, then will come all the distractions. But first I have to define the target and then how to get it. How do I define the target? Most people don't know really know what they want. You ask a person, "What do you want?" "I don't know." "What do you want to eat tonight?" "Sushi?" "I don't know." "What do you want to do when you grow up?" "I don't know." "What makes a lot of money?" Most people we met, they don't know what they want. They think they know what they want, but they don't know what they want. Because what motivates them is desires and dreams that has nothing to do with them. So, a person will want something and then he will try to go and get it, but the person really doesn't want the thing that they're going after. They want what they receive from that. And I'll tell you what I mean. I share that story a couple times. For the new ones, you'll hear it once, but for the old ones, you'll hear it again. There was once a man that I met and we got into a conversation. Why did we get into a conversation? Cuz as many, he came and told me that I'm unhappy. I have everything in my life, but I'm unhappy. So, he said, "Okay." So, I told him, "What do you do for a living?" He told me, "I'm a lawyer." I told him, "Do you love your profession?" He didn't say no. He just went So I said, "So how long How many years you're a lawyer?" "About 40 years, 35 years." I said, "You're working in the same profession for three decades and you don't like what you do?" He's like, "So why do you do that?" He's like, "Well, I make a lot of money." He says, "Ah, so you're willing to suffering a job you can't stand to make a lot of money. Let's get to the bottom of it." He says, "No, yeah." So I told him, "So you went to college to learn law, a profession you can't stand. You didn't come to from righteousness and justice that you want to make peace in the world and bring justice to the world. You came with greed, right? And so you spend the x amount of a years in law school and then you went and work and you build a beautiful firm and you're unhappy in a job that you can't stand, but you do it cuz you want money. Okay, so you want the money. You don't want to be a lawyer. You don't want to be a man of justice." He says, "Yeah." I told him, "Okay, why? What's so uh What's What's the urge for money? Why do you want money?" He's like, "Listen, I live a comfortable life. I have a nice house. I have whatever car I want to drive." He says, "Why? Why? What a car? What's a piece of It's a piece of metal. That's what you want, a piece of metal?" He says, "Listen, you know, I like fancy cars." Okay. So you're willing to work in a job you can't stand to make a lot of money that you don't care for the money, you want the car. Ah. Why do you want a car? Why? You're I I never saw anybody driving 150 miles an hour on the BQE with your fancy car. You can maybe go 70 miles an hour. So why do you want the fancy car? Why do you want What Really, between us. Let's We're not honest now, right? Why do you want the fancy car? So he tells me, "Listen, you know, with a fancy car you can get THE WOMEN." SO AH. SO YOU want the women. So, you go to work in a job you can't stand. And you're miserable to make money. You don't care about the money, you want the car. Why the car? You don't care about the car. You want the woman. Ah, now I get it. Why do you want the woman? I mean, you I mean, most men will tell you, "Ah, they're driving me nuts." Why do you want the Oh, because you know, when I'm with a woman, I pleasure. So, you want to pleasure yourself. So, you need a woman for that. How do you get the woman? You need the car. How do you get the car? You need a job you can stand. And you're miserable. But, what is What's the root? You want to pleasure yourself. I'm not blaming you. I mean, we are a creature that wants pleasure. That's how God programmed us. We eat anega lavaya. We have to have pleasure by Hashem. But, we are a creature that one of our secret components is to run after pleasure. So, you want to pleasure yourself. Look at the Look at what the the cycle. All for So, you're willing to suffer so much for one moment of pleasure that that moment will go like that. It's not that you're telling me now it's a pleasure for eternity. Look how distorted your mind works. And I'm not blaming him or judging him. I'm trying to make a point. We have what's called a desire. It's called ratzon. The problem is that I don't really know what I want. I think I know what I want. Now, when I think I know what I want, then I will go after what I think I want, and I will turn the world upside down to get what I want, and in most cases, it's not what I really want. Finally, when I get it, oh, that's not what I wanted. You know when you realize that? When you shop online. You finally get the box. That's not what I wanted. You have to look at what's going on in our generation. Hashem is giving us all the options to understand how to really do teshuvah. He gave us the internet and technology and smartphones. It's all for me to analyze how to do teshuvah. So, take this analogy that you order something online on the picture. Wow, woo, looks amazing. Then you get it stinky, but fake. I didn't I didn't order that. You lost, you did. So, what happens is that sometimes we want something. I don't even know what I want. And the truth is that most people don't really know what they want. Now, there is a few uh major rules that are foundations in the teachings of Kabbalah. And Kabbalah is for everybody. You don't have to be a mikubal to learn Kabbalah. Everybody needs to learn Kabbalah because that's the engine of the Torah. And in our generation especially when Kabbalah is so accessible, then one needs to learn it. Now, I don't recommend to anybody open the book of Kabbalah because you're going to get confused. You need to learn it with somebody who knows how to teach it. So, I learned for 5 years to digest it, to chew it, to swallow it, and I can even give it to you over in 1 hour. But, the point is that when you concentrate energy, this is one of the major rules. You concentrate energy, you know what it cap what will happens? Power. I'll say it again for the ones with ADD. When you, no offense, when you concentrate, what is the reaction, the result? Power. Okay? Now, the terms in Hebrew, rikuz, concentration, will birth power, koach. What's the opposite? Is when you spread the energy, it's not concentrated, then you lose all your power. Most people, look at it in your life, they're spread their energy everywhere. They try to conquer the world. Now, you spread your energy too much. There's no power. You lose all your power. People who are very productive and successful is they know how to focus energy. It can be in business, it can be in almost anything you think of. If you don't know how to focus your energy. Our great sages, they were able to do unbelievable things is because they knew how to concentrate energy. And put it together. This is like a nuclear bomb, a nuclear power, a nuclear plant. You able to to put together a lot of energy. With that said, you need to see in your life how much energy you're spreading everywhere. I think they say here in the in America you cutting it thin, right? Or you walking on thin ice or something like that. Most people, especially when they have a lot of ambitions, they spread the energy all over the place. Having ambitions is very, very good. It's very healthy. We spoke about it last year. You know what it means when you have ambitions is because you constantly aspire to go to your to your potential. So, you constantly have another another thing you want, another ambition, another goal. That's very, very healthy. If a person doesn't have goals or ambitions, something's wrong in the system. But nevertheless, nothing wrong with having ambitions, but when it's not concentrated, then I'm not productive cuz I'm losing all my power. Sometimes I see people sitting for 9 hours, they barely send two emails. They started the email, go to Facebook, from Facebook to Twitter, from this to YouTube, then let me continue the email. Oh, wait, I'm hungry. Let me go and eat. They eat half the sandwich, go back to the email. Then they go back to the sandwich. 4 hours to write one email. Some people are so focused, productive. 1 hour, they knock it out. Productivity is a birth of concentration of energy. And the sad reality, I see many people how they operate. And then again, it can be in Torah and mitzvot, it can be in business, it can be in learning, it can be in anything you can put your finger on. If you're not focused, you're not concentrating energy, you're not going to be productive. And most people are extremely not productive. And again, nothing here is said to hurt anybody. It's for you to see if that's relating to you. If I'm relating to you, if I'm talking and you're nodding, means that you agree with me, means that you have to take notes and you have to see, "Okay, how would I How can I become productive? How can I manage the world?" Sometimes you see presidents, okay, I know they have a lot of assistants, but they're able to be very productive. This meeting is 3 minutes. This meeting is 4 minutes. I have 5 minutes to get there. Why? Concentration. Now, with that said, we're going back to the same question. What do you really want? So, I told you in the morning you wake up, you want to ask yourself, "Am I really happy?" Next question you want to ask yourself, and you don't have to take notes, you can rewatch the rerun or the the the video. Better to listen and be focused then later on you can watch it again, it's recorded, and then you take your notes. After you ask yourself, "Are you really happy?" You already came to the conclusion you're not really happy, so you ask yourself, "What do I really want?" Now, you can ask it in "What do I really want for my entire life? What do I really want from this marriage? What do I really want from this business transaction? What do I really want to achieve today? What am I accomplishing today?" I like working with notes. Everything that I have is notes. All written down. I have lists. Today I'm doing this, tomorrow I'm doing that. Yeah, it takes maybe 2 3 minutes to create these notes, but I am working in a system. Check, check. And I don't jump from task one to task three. Task one to two, three, four. So, I will write it on my note already in an organized way. And if I need to write make a new note, then I'll make a new note. As long as I know the task number one, that's the highest priority. Don't do anything else till I do task number two, and three, and four, and five. Now, the the example that I gave you with this successful lawyer that is very unhappy, that's exactly the question you want to ask. What do I really want? When I told this lovely man, I told him, "What do you really want? You want the pleasure and the story." And I'm not judging you and I'm not putting you down. Everybody wants pleasure. One person gets his pleasure from chocolate, another person will get their pleasure from a cigarette, from wine, from a fast car, whatever it is. We all want pleasures because there's nothing wrong with that, by the way. That's how we built. You want to get the real pleasure from sitting in a shiur Torah for 1 hour. Ah, pearls to my ears. That's the real pleasure. You know why? Because it sustains. It doesn't evaporate and goes out of the window. So, going back to the lawyer, I told him, "What do you really want? Be honest here. Don't be fake. You don't have to care about me. Don't lie to me. Don't lie to yourself. What do you really want? That's it." So, the second question you need to ask yourself, and it doesn't matter when and how often you ask yourself. I recommend you ask yourself it first thing in the morning. Some people they start the day at 11:00. They woke up at 6:00, but the day starts at 11:00. What did you do for 5 hours? I know a lot of you are smiling and nodding. So, I'm Most people wake up in the morning 7:00. First of all, 15 minutes, let me check my emails. Who emailed you at night? And even if they did, is it that important? You know, I also have an email account, by the way. You know when I check it? 4:00 in the afternoon. 20 years or some of you here are more or less my age or older. When we were younger, did you have an email? You didn't even have a cell phone. Somebody wants to get a hold of somebody, I'll call you in the afternoon. Once people used to actually answer the phone. There wasn't caller ID. Can you imagine 30 years ago caller ID? So, life worked very good without an email, without a WhatsApp. I also have a WhatsApp, by the way. And now I have everything that you have. I'm just not a slave to my WhatsApp, and definitely not a slave to my phone, and definitely not a slave to my email. I use it as a tool of communication. And it's actually not such a great tool of communication. So much uh uh confusion is going through this tool of communication. Why? Because they're communicating with smileys. Yeah? I have no idea what that means. Sometimes I send somebody a message, I get some weird face, like, "Okay, now tell me what what what did you What's behind your thought when you decided from 500 emojis to daff the one with the eyebrow up and the tongue to the left?" Is there like a manual I mean, who I want I want to meet the one who designs it. Now, in the beginning there was only a thumbs up. Okay, I can relate. Then a thumbs down. Okay, then it's also sort of like like like sign language. I don't know what you're talking about. Just tell me yes. Thank you. So, this is how pathetic the situation is that we communicate with with all sorts of emojis. Now, if you look at the phone, I'm sure you're more professional than me. And now it has all sorts of flags and cars and cakes. You write "Happy birthday." Boom! Pops up a a cake. I didn't want to put a cake here. You write I don't know. Whatever you want, boom! Pops up a I mean, you know what I'm talking about. That's how ridiculous it is. So, it's not such a tool for communicating, by the way. But, nevertheless, try to start your day without WhatsApp. I also wake up in the morning. I check my emails at 4:00 in the afternoon when I come to the office. Somebody needs to get me urgently, there's a phone. You can You know, you can call me. There's an office, there's a secretary. What's so urgent? Now, if you are a surgeon, I understand. Maybe, I know, you're running a law big law firm. Okay. But, why do you need to answer the phone at 5:00 in the morning? And definitely at 7:00 when you're praying. I don't understand why people come to shul with a phone. We have in my shul a policy, no phones. You want to bring a phone? I want to do what they're doing courts. You know how they make you leave the phone outside and you get a number? I want to tell people to come to our my shul, here give me the phone, here's the number. You get your phone when you leave. Why do you need a phone? You're praying, you're talking to Hashem now. You need to answer a WhatsApp message? Okay, my your wife is due, I'll give you that. Stand in the back, put it on silent, I don't want to hear it. And again, this is all these distractions. People are not productive because of these distractions. I talked about it, I don't want to elaborate it now, but I talked about it so many times that we are in exile, in case you didn't notice. And we are mimicking the original exile, which is the exile of Mitzrayim. Mitzrayim comes from a from a definition, a word in Hebrew, metzar. Metzar means something that limits me. So, we think Mitzrayim is a country 800 km south of Israel. It's not a country. It's a state of mind. It's a state of awareness of me being limited. Now, in our generation, they don't call it a limitation. Our generation, they call it an addiction. But, if you say that word, people uh uh But, everybody are addicted to something. Some people are addicted to severe things, alcohol and drugs, and some people are addicted to their phone. I mean, some. You all are addicted to your phone. And if you want me to prove you wrong, give me your phone. I'm leaving on Tuesday, I'll give it back to you on Tuesday. We'll see who how many of you will give me your phone. Three maybe people maybe from the entire crowd. So, you're addicted to your phone. End of story. Admit. Admit I am addicted. They need to make instead of an AA an SA, cell phone anonymous. Or smartphone anonymous. I'm not joking at anybody by the way. Not stepping on anybody's toes. You need to understand how bad the situation is. Cuz me people will live in denial. So, what is the state of limitation? This is Mitzrayim. Our sages say every generation a person needs to see himself as if he went out of Egypt. What does it mean? I wasn't in Egypt. It happened 3,300 years ago. Yeah, but we're still in Mitzrayim. Now, what's the king of Mitzrayim? The king of Mitzrayim, the ruler, is Pharaoh. Pharaoh, yeah, that's the name of the king. But Pharaoh is the power that controls the limitation. Take the letters Pharaoh, pay, resh, ayin, hey. Switch the order of the letters, you get a word in Hebrew that is pronounced haf'ra'ah. Haf'ra'ah is something that distracts you. Haf'ra'ah is distraction. So, you are stuck in Mitzrayim. You're stuck in some type of a state of limitation. How many times Be very honest here. How many times you check your Facebook account a day? You don't have to answer. I don't want to embarrass anybody. Some people go every 20 minutes like as if something changed. Oh, I saw these posts again already. Well, of course you saw these posts already because you were here 20 minutes ago. So, 40 years ago they wrote a song Hotel California. That was a prophecy about Facebook. Once you check in, you cannot check out. Okay? So, the young generation don't know what I'm talking about. They're like, "Who? Is that an app?" No, it's a song. But nevertheless, look it up. Hotel California. Once you check in, once you made a Facebook account, that's it, you're locked. You have like a chain on your leg. How many times do they check your Facebook? Why do you need to check it so much? Okay, same thing with your email, same thing with your WhatsApp. How many times you go through the messages? You read those messages already. What are you looking if they if the V turned from one to two and blue and Oh, you what? Oh, he saw the message. He read it. He didn't answer. 30 32 seconds, he didn't answer. I saw you read the message. Excuse me, I was driving. What do you want from me? That's a state of limitation. Now, by the way, an addiction is not only for phone or to drugs or to alcohol. You know, an addiction can be to anger. You don't have to raise your hands, but if we would make a vote, how many of you get angry at least 20 times a day? Everybody gets angry. Don't don't fool yourself. Everybody has unbelievable anger, they don't know what to how to contain it. That's also an addiction. You don't know how to control your anger? I bet you that if you're standing in front of the guy that is about to sign with you the $50 million deal, you're not going to go out of your out of your cleat. You're not going to lose your anger. Why? Cuz you're about to sign that $50 million deal with this guy. If you're going to lose your anger, you lost the deal, deal, right? Suddenly, you relax. Suddenly, you know how to control your anger. Well, what happened? What happened? Cuz it's a big deal here. So, you know how to control your anger or your thoughts of being judgmental or your mouth when you slander and lie. So, addictions is not only necessarily to substance, it's also to my midot, and this is where we're going to really find the the the important part that we need to know. So, again, we're going back. You know, I sidetracked a lot, but to to I don't know if you I hope you're following me. I know I'm going a little bit fast. But, just that I need eat all day, and I'm very hungry. Uh I'm totally joking. I didn't eat 2 days. Uh We are stuck in Mitzrayim. Then we have the king Paroh that distracts me all the time. Try to monitor yourself. You know, I also became observant 18 years ago, and I developed systems how to become a baal teshuvah. You know, I went to four different yeshivot, totaling about 9 years of studying Torah. Nobody ever taught me how to do teshuvah. They taught me how to learn Gemara. They taught me how to learn Shulchan Aruch. They taught me how to make They taught me everything. Just didn't tell me how to do teshuvah. So, what are you here for? So, I developed my own systems how to do teshuvah, and one of the teshuvah, by the way, doesn't mean to put a yarmulke on it to grow a beard. Teshuvah means that you refine yourself. That you elevate yourself to a higher level. People hear the word teshuvah, "Oh, no, no, I'm going to have to observe Shabbat." I didn't tell you to observe Shabbat right now. I told you to do teshuvah. I need you to be a mensch first. And then start refining yourself. Nevertheless, I developed systems how to do teshuvah, and one of them is to observe yourself. Is to be a critic of yourself, an honest critic, and you critic yourself. You have to observe what you're doing. So, look how many times a day you get distracted. I told you I work with notes. Everything is notes. I know it's you're wasting a lot of paper. Don't worry. Hashem can go like this, and there'll be a lot of forests. Don't worry about the trees. Okay? Hashem can flick his fingers, and there'll be a lot of trees. Waste the notes. I write notes. Why? Because when I see it, ah, I know I know what I need to do. Not only that, when you write something, you take the energy out, you put it out. It's already out. You brought it already to the world. You are establishing some type of a connection into the world. So, I write a lot of notes. When I became observant, I had these little uh How do you call it? Like a Wha- What? Something. No, no, like a little notebooks, you know, like like like Jacob has, but not a journal, but the small ones. They cost 99 cents, and you flip them over. I would write notes like a waiter, okay? I don't know how they call it. In Hebrew, it's called a pinkas. A little notebook, and you write your your notes, you keep it inside your pocket. I would write all the time notes. I told you so many times, you, I'm saying for the ones who listened a lot of my classes, that one of the first things that I had to refine in my teshuvah is to stop lying. That was the first thing. Three years after I became observant, after I decided to become observant, to make a decision The decision to do teshuvah takes 3 seconds. To do teshuvah, 30 years. But nevertheless, after I made the decision, then I took me maybe 3 years. I didn't walk with a yarmulke. I didn't have a beard. I didn't wear tzitzit. I looked like any other person. But, to the naked eye, it looked like I'm not doing nothing, but internally, there was a lot of hard work. The first thing, really the first thing that I started doing is I didn't like how I speak. Every word that came out of my mouth was a curse. And every word was an adjective, or wasn't a nice way how I spoke, and that's unfortunately how many people speak. I'm not going to elaborate on that. So, I had to watch my mouth. It was very hard. So, you know what I used to do? I used to go 3 4 weeks without talking. How are you? What are you doing today? I became a very good mimir. That's how you call it, a mimir? mimir? A mimir? That's how you call it? A mime? A mime. So, I I learned how to talk with hand movements. Without the smileys, there wasn't emojis 18 years ago. Can you imagine having emojis then? You know, so Anyways, so I used to go for weeks without talking. It's called ta'anit dibur. This is one of the most refreshing cleansing process a person can do in this world. I highly recommend. Especially good when you don't want to answer your wife. So, that way you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything. Okay? It's what my grandmother told me when I was a very little kid. Zip your mouth. And then then then nothing nothing bad will happen out of that. Nevertheless, the next thing that I need to really work on myself cuz I really wanted to pray. I bought a prayer book, but I couldn't pray. I would start saying the and I felt like I can't pray because this mouth is dirty. It still lies and it cheats and it slanders and it curses. But, I really wanted to pray. So, I had to refine the stool. If you want to now be a great chef and you want to cut the tomatoes, you know those commercials then 3:00 in the morning when they they cut the nails with the knives. Everybody's nodding. What are you doing at 3:00 in the morning? Everybody's like, "Oh, of course I know. Yeah, I bought I bought a set last month." Why why you up at 3:00 in the morning watching commercials? But, nevertheless there's these knives, they cut like tires and they cut nails and then they cut the tomato. Can you imagine they're coming with a knife like a butter knife that doesn't cut anything? So, same thing here. The tool has to be sharp. So, I had to refine the tool. This tool is a very powerful tool. It's how I talk to a sham. It's how I communicate with you. One word I can destroy, one word I can build. Don't do that the other day. What our sages say, "A word is is worth a lot." Not saying that word is worth even more. So, you need to know how to refine this tool. This is the most deadliest tool, but the most most powerful tool. So, I went on a journey. I'm going to stop lying. I used to lie a lot. Everything was a lie. And no offense, but you're all liars. Everybody lies. Do the what I did, you'll see what I'm talking about. I had a little notebook and every time that I said a lie, I would write the lie and I would also write the hour. And at the end of the day, I would look at the book and it would have two pages of lies. And really nonsense. It wasn't like that I'm lying now to to cheat somebody out of a million dollars. Real ridiculous lies. How many times, be honest. How many times you drive in your car, you are late to a meeting. You know you're late. And the person is calling you and you see the caller ID calls again. Finally you decide to answer, "Where are you?" You're looking at the GPS. The GPS says you're you're there 19 minutes. "I'm there in 5 minutes." No, you're not. You're lying. You're there in 19 19 minutes. Just say it. "I woke up late. I'm in traffic. It's going to take me 19 minutes." So I would find myself saying these little lies. Took months. Months to get this habit out. It's a habit by the way. Or in my dictionary it's called an addiction. Why are you addicted to it? You can get rid of it. Why do you need it? It doesn't help in any type of way. So this can be a lie, can be anger, can be being judgmental and so forth. Jealous. So again, why am I saying all this? Because we are stuck in Mitzrayim. The power that is locking me down is this energy that limits me and the one that governs it is this hafra'ah, this Par'o, these distractions. Take the same type of action. Buy yourself a notebook for 99 cents and every time you're distracted, write it down. You'll see how many times you are distracted. How long somebody not to know where we went somewhere. They told me, "Oh, it took me 5 hours to cook a meal." 5 hours? What were you doing for 5 hours? It looks like you took like 20 minutes. All you needed to cut a little salad and to make an an egg. No offense. 5 hours? What were you doing? You you ran after the chicken? So next task you want to ask yourself how not productive you are. How many times you're being distracted a day? So I like starting the day the right way and the right way to start your day is not with your phone. People have a bad habit they go to sleep with the phone. Like a They use it as an alarm clock. Worst idea in the world. Don't use your phone as an alarm clock. I'm not talking about the radiation right now because it's next to you. And when you wake up in the morning you grab it you're already checking your first message. Buy a $20 alarm clock, those old fashioned ones, put it in your room, close the phone at night. You don't have to need to open the door the the day with your phone. Make yourself a practice that you only open the phone 2 hours after you woke up. This is called discipline. I'm focusing my energy. Don't open the phone. You know when I started becoming observant I had to keep Shabbat. Everybody knows that being a Jew you have to observe Shabbat. You know what a mountain it was for me? Not to drive, not to watch TV, not to use the phone, not to I couldn't. You know what I used to do? I would keep Shabbat in increments. From 11:00 to 12:00. 11:00 to 12:00 I observe Shabbat. I'm not touching nothing. 12:00 and a second, hello. But it worked because I couldn't do 24 hours. I would do 1 hour. And you know that according to Halakha I kept Shabbat for 1 hour. This is totally acceptable in Halakha. I desecrated Shabbat for 23 hours, but for 1 hour I observed Shabbat. This is mamash Halakha. There's a question in Halakha. What happens on Yom Kippur? A person is fasting, somehow he tripped on the floor, he fell, he turned around and something went came into his mouth. He broke the He broke the fast. Does he continue you or not? Of course he continues fasting. He only broke the fast for 3 seconds. This is the same thing with Shabbat. If you can't observe the 24 hours, observe 3 hours. So when you sleep on Shabbat 8 hours, you observe Shabbat for 8 hours cuz you didn't do anything. So I would sleep sometimes 17 hours on Shabbat just to just not to desecrate Shabbat. But nevertheless, I would keep Shabbat in increments. 10:00 to 12:00, I'm not doing anything. And you know how tempting it is to touch the phone? How tempting it is to open the fridge? How tempting it is to put a a TV show on? But this is called discipline. No. I'll wait till the right moment, then I will open it. Put this practice into your life. Put yourself under a leash. You'll be very very productive and very successful. So, I'm already giving you the first task tonight. Don't go to sleep with your phone. Put the phone outside. Close it. Put an alarm clock. Go here to CVS. I think they're open 24 hours a day. Buy yourself an alarm clock. Do yourself a favor. Why? Because you wake up in the morning, if the first thing you do is you touch your phone, I'm not talking about the impurity right now. That that you're a slave to it. And I guarantee to you just by looking at all your faces that 90% of people in this room their phone is their alarm clock. And they check their phone within the first 5 minutes of the day. You don't have to nod. You don't have to say just Why is that? Because you want to know how to put yourself under control. And I know we're talking about my purpose in life, but this is one big build up for one sentence of advice. When I wake up in the morning, my first few moments in the morning are the most important moments of the day. What did our sages told us to do? I told you already that our sages gave us a lot of instruction, a framework. Our sages taught us to say a sentence when you wake up in the morning. Modeh ani lifanecha melech chai vekayam. I'm sure you know the sentence. Most people say it faster than an F-16. Sure it's going to be there. What? I'm Israeli doesn't take me so fast to say modeh ani lefanecha melech chai vekayam shehechazarta bi nishmati bechemla. Take a pause. Rabba emunasecha. If you don't know what it means, I highly suggest you open the translation, learn what it means, go to a rabbi to teach you what it means. If you take this 15 seconds to start your day, you're already two steps ahead. Most people if they wake up in the morning either they put the blanket on their head either they smash the phone for the snooze. I don't even know who is the I don't want to say the the the definition. Who invented this snooze thing? Just get up. No no no no no another 5 MINUTES. WHAT KIND OF an invention? I mean, this we have to sue the person that invented the snooze thing. Just get up the first time and finish with it. As you're you're fooling yourself. 5 more minutes. You know what the joke is? I'm sure a lot of you will not. Some people when they set up their alarm, they put three three times. 7:00, 7:15, and 7:30. Are you planning to wake up at 7:00 or 7:15 or 7:30? If it's 7:00, just put 7:00 and that's it and mark it without the snooze. Just get up. Get up. If you're already a slave to the snooze in the morning, you are waking up to a day of slavery. Meaning that not nobody's going to whip you, but you're already a slave to anything. Yes. Yes. Yes, I'll do it. So, how you start your day, you want to start it the right way. We're not going to do now a a class of starting your day, but you want to wake up in the morning, you want to wash your hands next to your bed, you want to say modeh ani, you want to The first thing you do is of course wash your teeth, brush your teeth, wash your face, right away say birkot hashachar. Don't wait till 9:00 in the morning to say your quota shower. Say it right away. That's again why our sages say go right away to the Knesset. Pray Shacharit in net minyan of net. Finish with it. Do it in the first part of the morning cuz how you start your day, that's how your day will be. If you put your feeling at 1:00 in the afternoon, no offense. I'm I'm not I'm not trying to hurt anybody here. And I'm not trying to have a shonda make fun of anybody. Whatever you did Whatever you push, I'll do it soon. I'll do it soon. You lost already the momentum. With that said, all this is to concentrate into one thing. You wake up in the morning, you already said the Modah Ani. And I don't want to elaborate on Modah Ani, but it's one of the most powerful statements you say in the morning. It's how you start your day. Start your day the right way, the day in its the entire day will be amazing. The next thing you want to do is after you brush your teeth, you wash your face, etc. You made your cup of coffee. That's another thing that you want to put on the list, by the way. You know, I I can I can easily with no shame tell you what I'm addicted to. Nothing. But uh I Everybody's like, what what what? Coffee. I love coffee. Uh where's the Okay, she said she's going to give me coffee. Yeah, ah baruch Hashem. I can go 4 days without eating. Just give me coffee. But I yeah, I have a weakness to coffee. I love coffee. I feel very bad for the Americans. You have horrible coffee here. It's It's horrible. No offense. I love coffee. Love it. You know when I have my first cup of coffee? 4:00 in the afternoon. Not at 5:00 when I wake up. If you go Not a lot of the classes, by the way, go on on on on YouTube. A lot of people say, "Oh, you taught once a class. I can't find it." It's on a different website. It's the the Be Miriam website. Just technically saying it's going to be merging now with the Atzumot website. The point is that there's a lot of classes that they don't go on YouTube. Go and look at the classes that I teach in the early morning. I have a Yeshiva. Look at the classes that I teach early in the morning. You know what you see in the in the in the video? You see steam. That's what you see. Because they're all sitting I'm sitting like this as students around the table. It's not in that setting. And they all have coffee. The steam. I'm not joking. Look at the videos you'll see steam coming. And I'm sitting there and I smell the African blend coming from here and the I smell the Turkish blend coming from there. We have a beautiful coffee bar that you can be spoiled with all the types of coffee. You know what a yetzer hara? Everybody is And then there's the ones who do the noise because it's very hot. Can you keep it down a little bit? I mean I have my first cup of coffee at 4:00 in the afternoon. Why? My yetzer hara is on a leash. You're not going to tell me what to do. I'm going to tell you what to do and when and how. And you know, you build up. You know how tasty the coffee tastes at 4:00 in the afternoon? Because I waited already for 8 hours. So you want to put everything on a leash. I mean I call it to put things on a leash, but you want to have control. Control is when you concentrate energy then you have power. You don't concentrate the energy you lose power. So going back again. You wake up in the morning. I'm trying to say one thing I'm sidetracked to 50 other things. Baruch Hashem. We're almost done. One of the first things you want to do in the morning is to ask yourself these all these questions that I'm saying. Now you want to have it organized. If you have it already programmed in your mind, good. If it's not, then you want to ask yourself. I said before what is the first question you will ask yourself? Am I happy? The next question, which is the million dollar question, is what do I really want? So let's not concentrate now on my entire life. Let's just concentrate on the day. What do I want to achieve today? Start your day like that when you have already the notes written from yesterday. But you okay, how are we starting the day? Okay, first thing, check. Second, check. Third, check. By 12:00 in the afternoon, you're done. Finished. I did what I need to do. I'm not in all the cases. I'm just saying, you want to start the day the right way and the most powerful question is what do I want? Now, if you say I want a nice car, do I really want a nice car? I also like nice cars, by the way. Do you really need it? Do you really need this cake right now? You know, with the beautiful coffee that we have in the morning, we have a bakery across from my Yeshiva. Now, I wake up at 4:00 in the morning. Sometimes I don't even go to sleep. That's when they bake everything. And the Yeshiva is here, the bakery is there, and the mikveh is there. You have to cross to the You all the mikveh, you have to cross to the bakery. 4:00 in the morning, you're like the chocolate rugelach. So, you don't know if to go to the this mikveh or from there I mean the smell. 4:00 in the morning, ah. That sugar and the butter. Now, what happens? All the men come in the morning. All I hear is the is the you know, the paper bag. That's what I hear. I also I don't like cell phones. I don't like food cuz I hear All the classes in the morning, that's what you'll see, steam and paper bags. Leave the paper bag already. Just eat your rugelach at 11:00. Why are you eating it at 5:00 in the morning? Sometimes I on purpose ask questions in the middle of the class. Say something. Hold the rugelach to the afternoon. Don't have to eat it at 5:00 in the morning. Control a little bit. So again, why am I saying that? Cuz sometimes you walk into a store, you came to buy detergent. Suddenly you see that ooh, that cake looks really good. Do you really want this cake? Between us, do you really need the cake? You don't need it. Pass on. The point is that we want to ask yourself what do I really want? Now, practically saying, to start the whole process, and by the way, bear in mind that we're trying to figure out what's my purpose in this world. Up until now up until now we're talking about a coffee and and and emojis. But practically saying, first you have to really understand what are your real desires. The Kabbalistic term to that is called Birur Ratzonot. Figure out right now what you really want. If you don't know what you really want, you're lost. You're completely lost. Your GPS needs to say rerouting. But you have to do it either on a daily base, on a weekly base, depending on you. Sometimes every 2 hours. Birur Ratzonot. Finding out what is the desire. I go into a business transaction right now. Ask yourself, what do I want from this transaction? A relationship, money, control, power, revenge. You know, some people will buy a property to revenge SOMEBODY ELSE. I GOT IT. I'M NOT JOKING. What do you want from this transaction? If it's not kosher, I don't necessarily recommend to go after it. What do I want from this class? What do I want from the seminary? What do I want from my vacation? What do I want from this meal? What do you want? You have to ask yourself constantly what do you want, because most people do not know what they want. Now, who will give you this answer by the way? Not me. Don't email me. Cuz I check the emails at 4:00. I'll never get to your email. The only one that can answer you what do you really want is yourself. And I know you might ask yourself and think that you're going to get an answer. No, you ask yourself and you wait for your soul to answer. And if you let your soul talk a little bit, it will answer. But we have an ego that shuts the soul down. So, the soul doesn't have a doesn't have a say. Quiet in yourself a little bit, you'll see your soul starts talking to you. When do you see that your soul starts talking to you is when you able to dis to disconnect from distractions. Now, if your life is all around avot, your desires and lusts, then you'll never be able to quieten your thoughts, then you'll never be able to hear in a shamah. That's how it is. And again, I again and again and again apologize. I'm not trying to hurt anybody. I'm not trying to make fun of anybody. I'm not trying to step on your toes, but we are subject to our desires, to our lusts, to our will. And usually it's forbidden when you constantly running after another cup of coffee, another rugelach, another cookie, another chocolate, another this, another that. I'm talking in small terms. You you you think with yourself, what are these things that are constantly occupying your mind? I don't want to say certain things that will really going to insult people. But be be honest with yourself. Once you stop feeding that, you stop feeding your desire, then the thoughts dis par all this distraction starts slowly slowly quietening down. So, just by that, you're a little bit less stressed, a little little bit less anxiety, a little bit less worried, a little little a little bit less overwhelmed, because there's no junk in your mind all day long. Because if I want right now just for the sake of the example the cookie. All day long I'm just thinking of the cookie. How am I going to get the cookie? When am I going to get the cookie? I want the cookie with the coffee. I don't want the one the cookie and this with this cookie. I'm just giving you an example. I don't want to say there's certain things, but when you see that your mind is occupied with too many things that you're desiring and you're lusting, your thoughts don't operate in the right way. So you need to stop running after that desire. That's why I told you don't have the coffee at 6:00 in the morning. Don't open your phone right away. Control yourself. And I'm saying phone cuz everybody jumps on the phone. I don't know in your private life what you jump on other things. I'm not physically. I'm You know what I'm talking about. But the phone I know everybody goes on the phone. Maybe three people in this crowd today I'm talking don't know what I'm talking about. Control yourself. You control yourself, then what's the result that you're not a slave not to food, not to your phone, not to your business, not to money, not to your car, not to Facebook, not to whatever it is your favorite series. You know there's a comedian I'm very into laughing. I know sometimes I look serious, but I also I'm sure you notice sometimes we laugh a lot. If you don't laugh, laugh life is very sad. Make yourself laugh at least once a day. So I know sometimes it might not sound the most religious things to do, but there's a certain comedian that I really love. I seem I I'm in stitches. I'm on the I'm laughing. I have to do it in a closed room because it's very embarrassing to see me So I do it in a closed room, but I laugh. Sometimes my wife hears me from downstairs she's like Leave me alone. But it's so healthy to laugh. People are like Laugh. Life is funny, so laugh. Why am I saying that? Cuz this comedian that I love he posts videos online. Now, he's a very very I don't want to say who because I don't want to give all my secret weapons, but he's very very popular. He puts a video quarter of a million views within 10 minutes. But nevertheless, I don't know how they do it. They put it on YouTube. The video didn't go up yet, but there's like it's going up in a in 12 hours and people are sitting like this like drooling on the what? And the second he goes live quarter of a million people. You know when they see the video? 3 days later. Control yourself. I know it just came out. Control. Put yourself under a leash. Control yourself. When you know how to control yourself, you become nuclear power. I told you Riku's controlling, condensing power. So, you put it to your own test whether it's the phone, your favorite show, I don't know what the new iPhone came out. People sleeping sleeping bags outside the store so they'll be the first one. Whatever it is. Control. Why? Cuz when you know how to control your lusts and your desires then 90% of the junk of on your mind is already moved, then you're making room for your real thoughts to talk. Now your neshama can start talking to you. And your neshama will start telling you, "I'm hungry." Not for a pizza, for sheer Torah. I'm thirsty. Go put filling on. Your neshama will start talking to you. Now our generation your neshama is pulling from inside screaming at you, "Do something." But we're so coarse that we don't understand this is a neshama that is calling me. Once you make room in your thoughts, then your soul starts talking to you. And you know what your soul is going to tell you? "I don't want that. I want that." That's what you need to go after. That is the target. Go after. Nobody will tell you what's your life purpose. Nobody will tell you what's your target. Nobody will Don't go to all sorts of rabbis. Don't Don't I don't know so so many people come to me and they think that I have the answer. Like as if when you graduate from rabbinical school, they give you a secret book and they tell you, "Listen, don't tell anybody about this secret book, but this secret book has all the answers. And when somebody comes to you for a question, open the secret book. There's an index. You'll have all the answers." There's no such a book. But why do you go to a great rabbi to get advice? And I said that many times cuz usually a great rabbi, a real great rabbi, he's sharp. You know why he's sharp? Cuz he doesn't lie. And he doesn't cheat. And he doesn't say lashon hara. And he doesn't slander. And he doesn't eat anything that's unkosher. And he doesn't watch movies on Facebook. And he doesn't do all this junk. So the soul is sharp like those knives that they sell you 3:00 in the morning. So he see things straight. No no confusion. No distractions. No maybe. That's what it is. How do you know? Because I see things straight. Our vision is very not focused. Most people, their vision is not focused. They're very confused. I don't know what to do. So they What do you do? They start asking all the world. This person, that person, this person. And then who they find to Let me ask this rabbi. Maybe he will have the answer. You know how many people come to me to questions? I give them an answer, they don't do it. So why did you bother? Why did you bother me? Why did you drove 3 hours to ask me a question to hear advice that you'll never do? You know how many people I'm not joking. How many people come to me? I tell them do this. Never do it. Why don't you do it? A year and a half ago, I met in a lecture lady. She told me a personal problem, a medical problem. And for that specific case, I looked at her and I told her, "You need to cover your hair. You're married. You need to cover your hair." She did something along the line of I told her, "Why are you discounting what I'm saying? It's something that bothers you, no? Put it to the test. Cover your hair for 30 days." No. There's much more information in that, but nevertheless, a a year and a half passed. They came to visit me. In fact, one day they walk in, I recognized the husband. I quietly asked the husband, "How's your wife doing?" "Ah, same thing." Told her, "Why didn't you listen to me a year and a half ago? I would have caused her a lot of anguish to be saved. Why couldn't she listen to me? She came to me then all the way to ask for advice. I told you what to do. Why didn't you do it? So, now another year of problems." I'm not saying that every time people think that when you come to Rabbi, they give you a quick result, a quick solution. I told you already, somebody not too long ago came to me. It was a lecture. And the lady came and told me, "I have problems with parnassah, with livelihood." "And I mean real estate. Once I used to make a lot of money, now there's no money." So, she tell me, "Give me a blessing." I told her, "Okay, a blessing is Okay, I'll give you the blessing, but I'll give you advice. You eat every day, right?" "Yeah, of course." "You eat breakfast?" "Of course, every day." "How about lunch?" "Lunch, too." "And dinner?" "Yeah." "Snacks in between?" "All the time." So, I told her, "So, I have an advice for you. Why don't you say once a day birkat hamazon? Wash your hands. You eat anyways. Wash your hands. Say hamotzi. Say birkat hamazon." Birkat hamazon, this is known that this is the way to open all the shefa for parnassah. You know what she told me? "Do you have something else?" I think I am auctioning here. You asked me for a bracha for parnassa. I told you to say birkat hamazon. No, it's too long. Too long? You're willing to work on the computer for 2 hours, but you're not willing to sit 10 minutes in front of a book? And the joke is you are willing to drive half an hour to the other side of town to buy the pizza that is mezonot, just not to say 7 minutes birkat hamazon. I didn't tell you now to conquer the world. I told you to sit on your tuchus for 7 minutes and say a blessing. You wanted parnassa. No, give me something else. What do you mean give me something else? You know, I'm inventing remedies here. I told you what to say. So, I'm telling you that because so many people come for advice, me or many others, I can only speak for myself. Here's that's the advice. No, no, no. Why So, why did you come for advice if you don't want to do it? So, when you ask yourself, "What do I really want?" then you need clarity in your mind that your soul will start telling you yes, no. And it's it works. Put it to the test. Most people just don't want to put it to the test. Put it to the test. I guarantee it to you. You'll see things much more clear. There's only one way of doing it. It's actually putting it to the test. So, I'm going to simplify it one more time. Control your desires in things that are small. Put your yetzer hara and your lust and your desires on a leash. I know it's not easy. I didn't say anything is easy. But you will see that you're starting to have control over your desire, physical, and things that you lust and you want. Once you have that under control, there's going to be much more room in the hard drive. You know, there's there's much not much capacity to many people here. 1 terabyte, 5 terabyte, clear some space. Computer is not moving, delete some files. Clean the computer. Now, with that said, now your neshama will start talking to you. It's almost like having 100 people in one room, 99 have one opinion, one person has the other opinion. Can the one person have a voice? They all shut him up. It's the exact same thing. So many thoughts running in your mind. David Hamelach says, "Rabos machshavos belev ish." Many thoughts are in the mind of a person. Quietening all these thoughts, you know who's going to start talking? Your soul will start telling you what it wants, when, how, who, why. Now you get an answer for what do I really want. And then you know what you're going to find out? That 90% of what you're running after, you don't really want. How many times you come to a beautiful bakery, you see a luscious-looking cookie, and you you you are eyeballing that cookie. Ooh, you're standing there, nobody will touch that cookie. Then you have the cookie, it's stale. Ugh, what is it? Disgusting. That's what I wanted? Yeah, cuz on the outside it looked nice, but it's really disgusting, and you throw it in the garbage. And then you're saying, "Oh, I stood in line for 5 hours. I spent money to get something I didn't even like." Did you really want the cookie to start with? Probably not. Now, when I mentioned, we're almost done. I know you're like already want to go to your phone again and see if there's some emoji waiting there. But the lecture ends. The women sitting here, the men are here, they're texting each other. Isn't he great? So we're talking a lot about addictions that I'm I'm I'm I have weakness for cookie, for phone, whatever it is. A lot of it, a lot of the ti'avah, the desire, the physical desire. Physical, I'm not saying that I want it necessarily a pleasure to my body. In Hebrew you say ti'avah chomerit, a desire for something material, materialistic. And it doesn't necessarily have to be a car. Something materialistic can be my emotions, my characteristics, my middot can be anger, can be jealousy. Yeah, have you ever thought, let's say just for the sake of the example, a person has a lot of jealousy. Don't you think that that can be under control, too? Like you control the cookie, also jealousy, also anger, also feelings of being judgmental. That's also for you to put it under a leash, under under a leash. And there's methods for everything. If you are jealous of another person, then the way to put it under a leash is to look how lucky you are. He might have a nice BMW, but I have three healthy kids. He might have a $5 million house, but I have a faithful wife. Or whatever it is. I'm just start throwing things. Jealousy is horrible. Jealousy kills people from inside. The Talmud says "The bones rot from inside from jealousy." Jealousy is one of the most worst middot. Don't you think that can be also under control? Anything can be under control. So I'm talking here about physical desires, physical pleasures, but also the materialistic emotions that have that also has to be under control. Now, in all that said, is everything that I said easy? Not at all. This is a constant war that doesn't end. The Torah says something very simple. Adam l'amal yulad. A person is born to work hard. If life is easy, not good. If everything is too easy in your life, you're going down. That's the rule. Some people compare life to riding a bike. If it's hard, it means you're going up. Cuz when you ride a bike and it's hard, it means you're going on a slant, right? So, if life is hard, you're going up. If it's easy, then you're going down. And if you stand in one spot, then you fall down. So, I know it sounds like a a Hallmark card, but that's the reality. If life is easy, you're going down. Life has to be hard. If you ever worked out, you can't work out and become better if the work out becomes easier and easier. Cuz it becomes easier, so you add a few more pounds, or you add a few more miles. So, all this that I'm talking about, that's a war. That's a constant war. If there's no war, means you're not working. If you're not working, there's not going to be a war. Don't think that it's going to stop one day. You know, the seminary that I have, I have to correct Yacov what he said. He said one of the many. The seminary that we have, there's no such thing in the world. The seminary is designed for mature women that want to learn Torah. A 60-year-old woman that wants to learn Torah has nowhere to go. Unless they come to us to learn by us. So, we started the women's center. We have a student, she's 79 years old. Somebody before asked me, "What's the average age?" Well, the average age are all like my grandmothers. They all worry about me. I have like 17 grandmothers. I leave on a vacation, a vacation, when I leave on a tour. Please make sure you eat. I do I I are you cold? I get text messages from 17 mothers. Did you eat today? So, no offense. So, but whatever, I have a lot of grandmothers in my seminary. And the young ones are like in their 40s. So, after we opened the women's seminary, so they went and became very jealous, so we started doing the same thing for men. So, we have old men. Old. We have a student, he's 84 years old. And then the young ones are in the 50s. I'm I'm like the tsutsik there, like you know, the black black beard, all like with white hairs. Anyways, why am I saying that? Because they all confirm the same thing, all the people in the '70s and '80s. The challenges never end. You have challenges till the last moment of your life, with the grandkids, with the great grandkids. Oh, I remember. Those challenges, they don't end till the last breath of your life. You're going to have challenges and problems. But that's how you produce. That's called When you go to a gym and you want to work out, if you just going to go with your hands like that, you know what's going to happen? You're just going to look like a fool. You need something that will resist. You need force. The resistance is going to cause the development. Same thing here. The resistance, the fight, that's how I grow. With that said, that's how I can point, that's my focus in this world. You think you need to be a lawyer. You think you need to be a doctor or a successful journalist or whatever you think you need to be. That's not your journey in life. That's not your focus in life. That's a job. And usually most people don't like their jobs. Find a job that you like. Go after your passion. And because, you know why? Because you're going to be the most successful there. Why do you think that you love sewing and you love singing and you love, I don't know what, mathematics? Why? Because Hashem already gave you, that's the tool. Remember I told you in the beginning you get tools? Hashem gives you tools. So, he gives you talents. Some people are amazing singers. If you hear me sing, not too sure you're going to attend my classes anymore. Some people are very talented with drawing. You see these beautiful pictures? If I need to draw, shomer rochem. We're going to go bankrupt. So, everybody has a talent and some people have a lot of talents. Some people are amazing cooks, amazing gardeners, amazing storytellers. Everybody has a talent. Do you know what your talent is? If you don't, then that's another question you need to ask yourself and then you have to figure it out once in your life. Everybody has a talent. Everybody has a hobby or something they love doing, calms them down. Even if it's sewing, it doesn't matter what it is. Everybody has some type of a pull to a profession. Yeah, some people want to become doctors, not for the money. I know a lot of doctors that they want to help. They want to heal. They have a lot of chesed. Not all the lawyers are liars, by the way. I do know lawyers that are honest and they want to do justice. So, when you pull to something, Hashem is hinting to you, this is what you like, this is what you're good at, this is what your interests. Some people like reading history, some people like reading science fiction. Why do you love history and you love science fiction? Because that's what your neshama is pulled. Take all this, you'll get a very good road road map what you need to focus on. Needless to say, who you were born to, where do you live? How come you were born in New York and I was born in Tel Aviv? You think it's by chance? Because this is your place in the world to change something. And yes, sometimes you move. How many places I lived in my life? And I know I met a person last week who told me 64 years I live in the same house. In the house I was born my My parents died, I took the house. 64 years on the same block, same neighbors, same everything. I lived in like 50,000 places. Everything moves you from shamayim. The next thing how you can find on what's really your task in this world is like I told you, what are the ta'avot? If a person has a problem with anger then it means that you need to refine your anger. Doesn't mean you're a bad person, by the way. Doesn't mean you're mean. It means that that's part of the tools. Now, in the analogy I gave you in the beginning when a person gets the tools and he can build an ark or build some I don't know, some weird sculpture. You One of the tools is a hammer. You know that a hammer can very gently put a nail in the wall, and the same hammer can smash the walls. So, the tools are used for something positive. So, you know that Hashem gave you a lot of anger, it's not necessarily to calm down the anger. It's to direct the anger to the different direction. Now, imagine taking all this power to the right direction. Can you imagine if you have a lot of jealousy? Some people they don't jealous, they don't care about anything. Some people anything makes them jealous. Don't try to oppress the jealousy. Try to direct it to a different place. And I'll explain in a second what I mean. Because all the midot that Hashem gave us is to use in a positive way. Nothing that was created in the world is for vain. Everything that Hashem created had a purpose. Hashem created anger and jealousy and sadness and everything Hashem created. You know one thing Hashem did not create? A great rabbi 250 years ago revealed it to us, Rabbi Nachman from Breslov says a famous quote, anyush ba'olam. Now, people think when you say anyush ba'olam, there's no despair in the world, that it's in other words, don't worry, everything will be okay. You know what he revealed to us? Hashem created anger. Hashem created hate. Hashem created pain. Hashem created jealousy and many other bad things. You know what he didn't create? Despair. There's no such a thing. You think there's despair? No. Hashem didn't create that. It's the yetzer fooling you. There's no such a thing. It was never created. Anger, yeah. Jealousy and hate, yeah. You know why Hashem created jealousy? That I should look at a sage, at the great rabbi, and I will be jealous how much Torah does he know. I want to know so much Torah. I will now sit and learn 5 hours a day so I can reach to his level. Hashem created hate, you know why? So you can hate the yetzer hara when he comes to bother you. You should develop hate. You are You are your best You know who's your best friend? Your yetzer hara. Because if you would hate him, he wouldn't do anything to you. But you love him cuz he comes and delivers the goods. Hashem created anger so you'll be angry at the yetzer hara. And I'm going to I can go on like this on and on. Use the bad middot that you have, the bad characteristics that you had to direct it to a different direction. Don't try to bury it. You'll never make it. If you have a lot of anger in you, not that you're talking right now, that specially in this country, a lot of the anger, by the way, I'm just saying it as a side note, is not coming necessarily from your tikkun. It's mainly coming especially I'm saying in this country because I don't know how it is in other countries. 90% of people who are either angry and they have anxieties is not necessarily the tikkun, it's rather the food that they eat, the radiation that they have here, and many other things that's going on in this country that drives people nuts. Now, when you holding a smartphone all day long, you're going to have a lot of anger and anxiety. By the way, you're being barbecued all day long with a radiating machine. The other day some a lady came to meet me. The whole meeting she was sitting with her phone, but her legs were like this. I'm like, "Wow, I'm getting nervous just seeing your legs. Relax. Why why your legs are like Yeah, cuz you're holding your phone. Why you holding your phone? Were you baby sitting it? You came to talk to me. Leave the phone outside. So a lot of the anger and the frustration, anxiety, and so forth, and just saying saying as a side note, comes from nutrition and radiation, but nevertheless So, let's ignore anger right now. Even though everybody's angry. Everybody on the outside, how are you? I'm doing okay. At home, I I gave a lecture last week. If you want to be really true to yourself, behave on the street how you behave at home, and behave at home how you behave in the street. Most people at their home behave completely different. You know my famous example that I give? Put now music, real good music. You know what's going to happen now? Everybody in the room will be like Put the same song in four closed doors walls, nobody sees you. Suddenly, you're inventing moves that even Michael Jackson don't know how to do. Why don't you dance like that next to everybody? In your car, suddenly you see people in their car, they don't even know someone is looking at them. Then they look at them. Try once to behave at home how you behave in the street, and try to behave in the street how you behave at home. You'll see suddenly a total different person, like a split personality. At home I'm like this, and outside I'm like that. So, again, going back to the anger. Why don't you let's see you getting angry in on the street like you would get angry on your kids, or your husband, or your wife, or I'm not judging anybody, and I'm not trustful or making fun of anybody. I'm trying to make a point that anything can be under control. Now, when I look at all the midot, all these attributes that I have in me, the characteristics that are good, use them. If you're charitable, use it. If you're patient, use it. If you're unbelievable patient person, maybe you have to be a kindergarten teacher, or I don't know, an educator. You know, patience is required to teach 4-year-olds. And if you have good characteristic, use it for something good. But if you have bad characteristic, doesn't mean you're bad. It just means that these are the tools that Hashem gave you to refine yourself, and that's your purpose in this world. Refine yourself. You didn't come down to the world to become a doctor and drive a BMW. If you become a doctor, that's very nice of you. And here you have a BMW, you it's also nice, but that's not the purpose. And if you shouldn't you shouldn't have that, some people they go all day long. They don't have money. They will never have money. It's already decided from the world above they will never ever have money. That's their mazal. They would live either in poverty or very very modest for the rest of their life. And if they try too much to bang the door, it won't help. That's why you see people getting frustrated and sad because they're running after something they will never ever get. Be happy with what you have. Fulfill your purpose in the world and and pump up your potential. So when you want to make it a whole order with everything, so like I told you, I don't want to repeat myself cuz then we'll have another hour and a half. I want to summarize by saying the Kadosh Baruch Hu built or gave you a zoo or a jungle of thoughts and emotion in your mind and in your heart. And everybody has that, by the way. Don't think you're on the only one. I quoted already many times a great rabbi who lived about 80 years ago. He was murdered in the Holocaust. He's known as the Rebbe from Piaseczna. Has unbelievable teachings. Most of his teachings were written in the death camps. And he has a book it's called Derech HaMelech, the path of the king. Or the right translation should be the center path. Derech HaMelech is the best way to go on. Anyways, there's a mamar there it's called Inyan HaShkata. And HaShkata means to silence. And he's talking how a certain type of meditation, how to silence your thoughts. And he says something there very straight out and he says, "Most people they have a jungle of thoughts in their mind." That's you too, by the way. We all have it. And he says, "The only difference between us and a lunatic is that we don't do what we think. Lunatics do what they think. We just don't do it. We think it, but we don't do it." And he says, "We have a jungle of thoughts in our mind, but 90% of these thoughts are not even my thoughts. And if you know how to quieten your thoughts, suddenly there's room there. Ooh, some peace and quiet." So, you want to remove that. How do you remove that? Is you fight your ti'avah. You fight your desire. And it doesn't mean some people they have a certain desire and they fight it for 40 years. Will they ever overpower it? Could be they're not. Could be that you were created to fight it. And you'll never succeed. But it's not about losing, it's about how you fight. How you get up. But when you try hard, eventually you will. So, we have a few things here if we want to summarize. First of all, the questions you want to ask yourself constantly is if you're happy. And you have to be honest. Next thing you want to ask yourself is, "What do I really want?" When you don't know how to get the answer, then have coffee at 4:00 in the afternoon. And don't jump on every cookie you see. And don't open the phone every 2 seconds. Control yourself. And I'm saying a few examples. Could be that I'm not even hitting the hitting the target. Could be that somebody sitting in this crowd and says, "I don't drink coffee. I don't have a smartphone." Good. But you have other things that bothers you. And you have other things that you jump on. Put everything under a leash. All a leash, sorry. All these ti'avot, all these thoughts, all these desires, fight them. Why? Because you will minimize the jungle in your thoughts. Then you'll see that when you ask, "What do I really want?" Yiddish mama answer you. Don't ask me, don't ask anyone, don't go to Google, don't ask any ask your neshama and your neshama will tell you exactly what's your purpose in this world and sometime your purpose is for the next 2 years. Then we switch, then you move to another purpose. Then it's for 3 years, then you switch, you know, for some other purpose. Some people it's the same purpose. There's many at the same time. We're not going to analyze purposes. I gave you I think enough tools to kind of put your finger on. And when you trying to figure it out, you're not going to figure it out. You have to go through some pro- process. I didn't invent the process, it's written in holy books by great rabbis with divine inspiration with ruach hakodesh that tell you here's a framework. Follow the framework, you will be successful. And what's the ultimate result you're going to gain besides fulfilling your purpose in the world? You're going to be happy. I don't know anybody that doesn't want to be happy. I don't know people wake up in the morning and say, "Today, I want to be miserable." How are you today? "I'm happy but I'm going to be miserable." Everybody wants to be happy. Everybody wants to have menuchat hanefesh and it doesn't matter how many problems you have. I know people with a lot of problems and they still have a smile to the face, they don't worry, there's no anxiety, they don't throw their frustration on their kids or their wives or their neighbor and they take things as they come. Okay, that's that's what I need to deal with. You know, they say in Arabic, some of you here are Persian. It says "Yom asal, yom basal." Right? I see nobody's nodding, nobody knows. Okay. Onions are not so tasty to eat. So, sometimes you eat something sweet, sometimes you eat something bitter. That's how it is. But you know what? You have true happiness and that's really what you want to reach. You want to reach your goal, you want to fulfill your potential, you want to do your rectification in the world, you want to live a life with purpose and you know what? I know people that after 60 years and with careers, with so many things. I know a doctor was one of the top top surgeon, miserable surgeon, but one of the top surgeon. Suddenly became a gardener. Now is he doing it for a business? No, cuz many people depend on him cuz he's already an amazing surgeon, but now the approach is different. So he takes time a day to do his gardening. Why? Who? What? I don't know why. It doesn't matter why. But find your purpose, you'll find your happiness. Find your happiness and your purpose, you'll reach to the life of more happy people, the world is a happier place. You drive here in New York, so much miserable people blowing horns all day long. Do you know how many curses I got today on the road? Good thing that the windshield is up. I angry people here in New York. Come to it's like three and a half cars. How are you? How are you? I'm good. There's more There's more cars in the in the in New York than cats in Israel. It's unbelievable how many how many cars you have here. I'm good. I'm good. So we want to conclude. Make space in your thoughts. Put your desires under control. Put your desires under a leash. Control your thoughts. Control your desires. It doesn't mean that you have to squeeze it. Direct it to a different direction. You know when there's a flood with water, you don't try to direct the water somewhere else. It's with everything by the way. Any type of energy, just direct it to a different way. You can take a kid with a lot of love energy. In our generation, they give him a pill so he can relax. They call it Ritalin and now the kid is I'm not making a joke. It's actually extremely sad. Take this energy push it somewhere else. You'll see a very successful kid. You know, cut the diet coke. The kid is also not going to be having twitching, but but nevertheless take the energy. People don't know how to direct energy. If we would know how to control, contain, and direct energy, very, very successful. So, I'm going to wish you great success to fulfill your purpose in the world. And Hashem should enlighten your purpose in the world should enlighten your eyes that you should see clearly the path you need to walk on. So, you'll be able to become happy people, and then I don't have to answer emails anymore. Thank you so much for your patience. I wish you all the best.