Fighting your Yetzer Harah - from a long lecture of Rabbi Alon Anava - Part 11

first of all David says can be translated as against me that my sin constantly comes to go against me or L is in front of me if you have your your sin in front of you all the time it's like a little kid that gets burned you just show him the fire uh oh no you know or a bully comes once and hits him he sees that guy he crosses the street if you put you always remember oh this is the danger zone that I don't want to get to so in kind of a way you kind of can forget the sin it's still in your mind but if you're talking about that you saw a certain thing you did CH then you D and this thought comes up in your mind a this is kind of a good sign because because the will only come to disturb you when you're doing good if you're not ding good if you're not praying good that's will leave you alone cuz you're not you're not benefiting anything huh sikim is sikim we're not sikim we're people and unfortunately from what you said before when a person doesn't a there's explains there three levels there three and says that we have to come here with in reincarnations at least three times to do all the in so a person can be a good it doesn't have to be necessarily A that comes down to the world could just be that he's missing so half the you have to do but the certain you have to do now the problem is that if a person Pam makes a blemish that's when it will come back to you let's say when you down these are all the that come so if a person just to give you this example looked at the wrong place so first of all the the eyes went to the wrong place now there's not necessarily A here but in he also Pam he also blemished in the so he doesn't look anywhere in that place anymore so in the M's he he done his Chua but in maybe so maybe he didn't do cha in the level of Mak and he still has it in his thought and then Le is still on the thought yeah but then you can say that's Heart Like tempting him and like put another test in front of him exactly like how does actually like understand that if the person does a real good CH then at some point even in it's not going to come that's how you say a sad he will come to a level that he already killed the and then he doesn't have it coming to the you give it you gave it information is a computer you feed it information it comes and spits it back at you h seems like first everybody start for sure in most cases in but a lot of is in there's no yeah but also for example it can be in but it can also be in and it can be you can also think huh you see a person suffering and you have a thought wow I'm I'm going to go and help him in everything you can do almost in all three in you can you can look at a person Shalom and look and to judge that person look look what he's doing he's such a rash you you that person he did it in his mind he didn't say anything he just thought oh look at this guy oh look how he's doing this and this you know what I mean a person can do and the person can do the same thing the so for example it's aah how do you do you think you know you can say it in in in words you can do you can do in action in almost anything you can do the of course is the highest highest M and it's the I don't know how you say Ro maybe no red is like maybe the not layer but it's is like the thinnest layer so the is the worst so people say oh I can do aam in my mouth or with my ACT is much worse if a person thinks oh I want to do this he didn't say anything he didn't do anything he just thought oh I want to do this the is worse than the actual M why because theam that happens is in a much higher mad yeah we're talking right now more in PR so when you're saying how can you get rid of it either you your Chua has to be so refined chuva is not just one time that's it you have to like you said always comes and you don't know actually accepted so if you want to be Kad then you segregate yourself and you say I I I don't want to deal with it I'm going to go and sit an AA all day long it's not then you have to live in in this world so you have to know when to have put your heads down and when to put a filter on your eyes and if you and if you can't control it then you you have to deal with it but the thing is if you're looking here okay you look back nothing happened the the a starts igniting when you start toiling about what you're looking at that's when the a starts cooking so you know if you look in the street and you see something T and you right away move your face okay nothing happened you move here okay so you move here so okay it's it's not impossible possible it's not that you drive like that you know there's a lot of other people I also drive out in the world and I know what to look at and what not to look at and if you move your head and you're standing in the middle of my head and and something standing in front of you that you don't want to look at so you look this way nothing happen it takes literally a split second to move down your eyes so if you saw something t for a split second yes it will come back to your so if you so want to make yourself kados then don't put yourself out there in the world but the thing is that Hashem da can put you in the world cuz you have to deal with the world so you need to have the right tools that's why it's important that especially AAL es that goes out to the world and deals with people and goes out to like you said Queens in the summer so study good in the morning study an hour in the morning because when you study an hour in the morning and you refine your n first thing in the morning and right away you pray with a minan and you put F in the whole thing and two hours in on the way to go into pray and to go oh I don't know where you I don't know where you live but uh you know if you want to D at like let's say 8:00 right that's when everybody goes to work okay so look down for five minutes it's not so hard you know the all the the of the all the the these tricky things of theer is's going to bring you to be like oh I can't walk here and I can't do this no it's just the driving you crazy but if you're saying you know I live in this world this world is full of too much you know I'm going to giving yourself a lency where you putting yourself there's the even like thear face that guy's rash one that puts himself in the case where oh there's like a shortcut and he goes and there's laundry and he's like oh I'm going to close my eyes that's the same thing that's a person that's putting himself in the yar's hand so that's why my for you is if you are already in the level that you aware of that so move to a neighborhood when the in 8:00 in the morning you're not going to have a problem and if if you already got to the level that this is bothering you then you move to a neighborhood that you're not going to have the Temptations and you pray early in the morning and you put yourself in a situation like a alcoholic doesn't go to a bar so if a person has an issue with alcohol if he walks into the bar he's going to end up taking a drink so if a person knows he has a weakness for alcohol don't go into the bar so if a person has a weakness here so live your live in a neighborhood that you know going to have Temptation that you're not going to have to make the shortcut to look at the women who washing the the clothes it all depends you know if you want to walk in a Place full of so if if you already got to the level of such Holiness go move to I don't know mo to mon move to a place that you know this H Lakewood that you say okay I'm I'm like this and the women are snot I don't have to deal with this and I don't have to see this and I don't have to see that and I find a job you know a kosher job I can find a job that there's just men there or whatever it all depends how it's important to you when for me something is important to me so I put myself like you say I don't put myself in a situation that I'm going to have an issue with I'm going to I'm going to work it to put myself in a situation that it would be easy for me to serve AEM when a person wants to to to to walk in this holy path that's where hem will help you to go if you say Hashem please help me I want to live in a nice you know neighborhood that is Holy and I want to have a good job that I don't have to deal with the you know this and this and this Hashem will help you don't worry if you tell hem with your words this is what I want H will help you but if you say AEM oh I like living in Queens action and all this so hasm tells this is why you want to live so deal with it it's very easy you you kind of can control what you're getting exposed to exactly like if a person has a weakness to alcohol don't go to a bar cuz there's probably going to be a problem and you're probably going to end up drinking and if a person has a problem with gambling don't go into a casino so if a person has a problem with this don't don't yeah the Torah teaches us yeah like put you in a situation where let's say a person doesn't want to go to a bar yeah but not in a bar then who like a person oh I know I heard person into a situation where look the is constantly going to come and knock on your door if you think you're going to get rid of your I don't know the will constantly come and knock on your door and to annoy you why you think he wants you to he doesn't want you to do mitv now if you fall to the Temptation then you lost to the if you smart then you say okay I know it's the right now and I'm not going to listen to it but the doesn't doesn't leave you till you go till the last day unless you're sadik and you kill your your will come to bother you when you're 70 years old so you know there's many there's many stories in thear there's one t who says don't don't put me next to my to my daughter-in-law they told him your daughter-in-law you're like this old man why you have even the concept of even maybe thinking of looking at the daughter-in-law and if so you're this old man you think she's going to even go with you I don't want to even put don't even put me next maybe will be even the of maybe I'll Doom so if you want to make sure that you're good then you that they're putting they're even thinking about the fact of like oh don't even put me there because maybe something Happ is that like how do we how do we look at that from which standpoint do we look at that we're we're we're not say I don't think we're in the level of theim to worry about that and I wouldn't call anyone here a r the thing thing is that you have to do your to put yourself in the right place to focus that your your main focus is in if you're doing everything how you're supposed to do you're going to have less problems to deal to deal with if you constantly going to put yourself in different situations then you have to deal because everything that your eyes see even for a split second I told you is like a hard drive you give it information it goes into your to your brain so it might not it might come when you pray it will come when you sleep it will come when you're not thinking that's why Tor teaches uses you have to make yourself holy you have to to to sanctify yourself and how do you do that you you you live in the right place you eat the right things you learn Torah that's why I said before you have to learn at least at least two hours a day Tor because then you have you have your has a lot of power if you learn 20 minutes and between us the 20 minutes is half of the time you're checking your message your emails this is not and then what happens is that the whole day you don't have so any any thought from the will straight away come like a wave you know take you away but if you study a lot of Tor you know says I I created the but I also created the spice the the the thing to fight it and this is Torah study Torah and an hour two three a day I promise you you're going to have much less issues with your