Farbrengen19 Kislev Part Two, Rabbi Yossi Paltiel 5783 /2022

foreign [Music] so I I just did a class with another group and the the the point of the class was I'm talking about you this kiss this is the head of the year for Casitas so I um I made a statement which I believe is true I never saw it on my mind I never saw it in my own words but they're not my own thoughts I I think that the state that I'm about to make is a valid and credible and true statement and it's something that you have to really think about seriously change right can you say in 20 words or less what has changed over prehists that makes consider so novel so different so new so original that it has its own right the mission said we have four rosh hashanahs and that says we have five what is it about cities that makes it so unique so distinctive so special so different that it's a it's a whole new title and this is my statement until he see this the most important thing in yiddishkite was Taylor mitzvahs and you were Jewish because you learned Tate and you didn't miss us after Casillas the most important thing is the Jew and you learn Tate and do miss this because you're Jewish the center of gravity this is a very great pun there's probably a better word for it than that right what does the word gravity mean uh what does gravity mean pulling down right but the gravity has another translation in English also does anybody know what the second translation of gravity is very good something which is very serious is grave so the center of gravity right the heaviness of hasidus and the seriousness of hasidus is thought about the world and its purpose the first thought of the abyss of Mind was Aid because a Jew comes before Judaism until Judaism is referred you were Jewish because you practice Jewish and the ike is it's a real kiddish it's a real kadish it's a real change of thinking and in our lives this thinking that affects how we live our entire being the way we live our lives reflects this yes this foundation and the most precious thing in the world is that he is he does my precious data mistress and this is these Hebrew words the thought of the Jew come before everything even the thought of Taylor is a madridish which I spoke at length to the girls in the previous group so I want to continue that fabregan with you and I this is my another simple and obvious and logical truth right you know you don't have to be fright to have a pintolete you know what I think when you think about a pintillion who has the pinto here yeah you know the guy who's looks so not Yiddish and it seems like he has nothing in common with you or the girl who's behavior and whose philosophy is not the Yiddish at all and you can't imagine she being interested when you have to tell her and you sit down and you talk to her you meet her on the street and you talk to him and you find out number one that he's Jewish number two being Jewish matters to him number three he's so touched and flattered and excited and moved by the very fact that you talked to him that sometimes a person who you can't imagine having anything in common with it turns out you have an enormous amount in common with and there's a bond there's a connection there's an optimistic connection right this is this is what we know this is our generation this is right we call it schliches but it's not slickness this is your mindset right if you are about children about the children and you have non-religious cousins right and I am I'm not about sugar my parents not about each other but I have not religious classes a lot of them unfortunately because my family's been in America for way over 100 years so my mother's family did not suffer from the Holocaust they suffer from the American Holocaust my mother has many many causes who are not fluent men in America if we were Bobbers right we were little lit fish this is uh what can you do you feel a Babbage you get under their skin you bother them you send them a book you try to put the film with them you try to read and say and you say why should they be interested I'm the weirdo right I'm the neighborhood I'm stuck in the past they're American they're modern they're with it why would they be interested in what I have to say and then when you do it you see it they have less self-esteem than we do as less as bad as our self-esteem is their self-esteem is worse they're so hard and they're so touched that you consider them worthy enough that you should share with them something and it's relatives are tricky business you know that relative's a tricky business much easier kind of a strange and about relatives but very often becoming honor didn't came in on top and you can touch and you can move and you can uplift a person right but here's the Hub you don't have to be frightened up until yet you don't have to be going off the dead after a year in other words the pintal aid is not only there for crisis The balship's Invention was not just for the hidden who have spun out you know or to say it in different words okay I'll give it to you in Fancy um I just made it into a noun you all know about the debes right right yeah right if you don't if you don't know please say yes anyway okay in English it's called on the essence of hasidis success has been published it's been translated which is a it's it's a it's an Insight it's a window it's a commentary on what this is for those of you who know the countries and for those of you who don't know the kudras the magic word of Cortes is right that's the code the word that the rabbi uses throughout is foreign but the country starts with chapter one does anybody remember chapter one no not what people think it is four different definitions from different sources within itself is that what other people think four different definitions of Casitas all true all go to the essence of hasidis that are very very different and what happens is the level starts off the engineer shall take the sarcasidas with a question if you create an idea you create a movement if you created a new initiative in any Source right if somebody asks you why you could say why and it can have one reason when you do something big and important there's a reason only one you can't have four reasons why you did something and if you have four reasons why you did something one is the most important and the other ones are are you know they're riding on they're secondary the level starts off the countries by saying that there are four different priorities of four different explanations for why Casillas was created and the devil insists that each of those four is equal to the other three there's no icon and TOEFL there are four definitions because it is and each of those four are exactly the same and the devil's question is how can one movement Explains It by going to this big huge area because about what you see the means and so on and so forth okay communicating by writing to each other is equal to talking to one another especially if I can see um so the rabbit writes is foreign things about Casitas number one anybody number one to wake up a yedu's faint to wake up a yeet from his office this is our this is our business this is what we know this will be later when I ask Allah sleeping who's not sleeping he's faint which is even worse than sleeping and you wake up isn't it Sharma this is yeah number two see this is a movement girls that is about being extra from itself did the second reason should know it's not enough you have to do with it didn't be on the letter of the law number three to be the value of Midas to refine your character right the fancy words of whatever but put into whatever aside that means a personal Advantage me this and number four number four kite that the human brain including the bread of Nevada should understand godliness starts off the cutest by giving us this list the first item on this list we all relate to because we live it any person's Advantage let us saying knows this idea that you can touch ayid who is completely assimilated and wake up on a street corner just by sharing a few words and doing a mitsu with them it's a kayakalakida they never put into them right we related says there's four economics it is four one two three four to wake up who's faint number two to live a life based on the flame insurance number three team invite to develop media statements we find one's character and number four Bahamas should be able to understand godliness and the devil argues that these four priorities are shover they're equal they're equal they're exactly the same waking up a unit from a faint and developing your own mind to understand that are equally the purpose of Taylor now what is the point why am I suppressing on this nerve why am I making this point what am I trying to say with this what I'm trying to say with this is as follows speaks to every single Jew in the world but on the one hand it says exactly the same thing to everyone and on the other hand each one is getting a different message on the one hand the message of considers is equal to me and to you and to people who are not champions and on the other hand the message is very different the message that ever gives them and the message of the devil gives us is quite different what about in common how is the message the same how is the message you come to the biggest closet and then he does the most assimilated and giving him one message why does that message huh the message is that you're Jewish because inside you do the Peace of Hashem that's the message the biggest the biggest tadiq and the biggest never um inside you there's a fire a stick of the fire and a fire and this fire is a piece of Hashem and because of this fire your connection to the Aviston is not something you need to create or choose to create to learn to develop you simply need to reveal it because it's who you are that same message you said to the biggest Society the biggest cause the biggest of it being a yield is not based on what you do with your own brain and with your own heart and your own cushion your own sense even though you're supposed to talk and use your mind your heart and sense of service Hashem you are Jewish above all else because inside you there's a fire of your condition this is a cancer this is all Jews on the other hand the message is very different I was thinking about southern weekend I was thinking about over the weekend how the rabbit does this looks for every way you can bring them any drop of your described even if it's the smallest amount and the rabbi Cuts many corners you know to bring a easy dish guide and on the other hand the same level when it comes to announcement when it comes to see them he expects us to be the highest level of living shirts within and he gets very frustrated when he finds that we're cutting corners he it's it's a it's a it's a it's an act and only an ABBA could do he he speaks to one year that he's so open and so accepting and so uh easy in his expectation and the same rabbit to another person or to that same person when it comes to another relationship he says don't make any compromises don't make any compromises on the one hand it says exactly the same thing to every one of us and on the other hand for one person that defeated that you shouldn't you shouldn't you shouldn't go from from Faith to what's worse than Faith to another year then you shouldn't just do Mitzvahs you shouldn't be hidur a third myth you say you know you're a frying yeed and you're a wonderful you and you're very flu but you have to work on your Midas and to a fourth person you say you read the status very nice but you have to fill your brain would say hello you have to fill your mind with the understanding of Allah so this is the deal it's exactly the same and it's very very distinctive what I'm trying to bring out in this particular class is to talk to this notion that the all of us have Aid right come to our series and you you speak to them about what hasidus means to them not what considers means the people that are going to be my kind of but means to them to say this means to them also that I also have a I have an insurance inside of me and I want you to know that and we talked about it in the Tanya classes a little bit the hidden love what does Optimus tennis mean what does it means what does the album status mean the way doctor ever presents it what does mean that there's a yid out there right who's really what they like to call in the world whatever doesn't like the word they're lost and they're crushed in ghosts they're assimilated right Yiddish kite means not much to them they don't have much of an appreciation for it or perhaps they have no appreciation for it that yet when he's faced with a moment of mercedesh when he's faced with a moment which somebody is challenging his Jewish identity and he's secular in a day-to-day way but somebody touches the nerve of his Jewish soul and he dies I'll give this yourself literally he gives away his life this we know we know about it because we read about it in story books we know about Computing about this see this and we know about it because these stories happen even now when I teach Tanya when I teach those prakhaps this is I tell a story when I started out as a teacher I started out my first year as a teacher was 1990 to 91. and then it was a new story it was a year old two years old what was the story that you know that after the Israeli Army all the boys and the girls who serve at the very army they have to unwind so they leave at Israel and they travel east or they travel West they travel all all the places in the world where there's no Jewish communities and I don't know exactly what they're looking for but they spend their wild days of Latin in the Far East now wherever those people go to ruin their vacation you understand they're trying to run away right one of the most powerful he's trying to run away from the ABC yeah wherever they run away do this waiting for them with open arms and what's funny about it is they're happy to see him they're running away from the April step when they find the abuse dead and he's dressed with a beard with a shade of somehow yeah I like this version I like this music this same person that just said oh he wouldn't he would walk across the street if he saw you but in Bangladesh or in whatever it is and Myanmar places Vietnam or Laos or Cambodia you're happy to see him um so the story this goes back to 30 years in the Far East maybe there was this that's it almost lyric and those countries in Hong Kong yeah after so five Israeli boys went to Indonesia no Indonesia is Indonesia the string of ions it's a thousand miles across at least it's a bunch of eyelids many many hours big islands and little Islands right you've heard of the Sumatra and there's Borneo and there's a few femi big Islands a lot of small Islands thousands of islands um I think I think that Indonesia has 90 million people it's a it's a it's a very very populist country and it's Muslim it's the largest Muslim country in the world the more Muslims in Indonesia than any other country Muslims are I mean today after this type of Israel they don't like us and these five boys Israelis went to Indonesia and they didn't announce they didn't carry around the Israeli flag you know look at me I'm uh a Jew they hit it they wanted it just enjoy themselves anyway someone discovered that they were Jewish and that they were Israeli and that they certainly IDF Israeli Defense Force so they right away suspected that they were spies and they arrested them all five words were arrested they put him in jail and they were going to try them and kill them for the crime of Espionage if kids went on a vacation they had no intention they didn't even want to make money they just wanted to enjoy themselves but they decided that their spies they're going to take their lives when they realized that this age that they were going to kill them so you know you can die nicely you can die go out with a fight so they made a big tummel in the prison they fought with their gods I don't know how many of their gods they killed and they escaped and one of the two that one of them was killed let's say yeah then they were arrested a second time and they fought with the guards again and escape the second time and another one of them was killed two or three two or three came back to Israel in the life and one of the survivors was a from yet it was and he came back with a very very funny story these were his friends right friends in the Army are are serious friends because you depend on each other literally to keep you alive it's it's a bond it's a very debun people risk their lives you know people jump on grenades for one another people take their lives people die said another soldiers should live it happens every day in the Army in war so these kids were close and he comes back and says the story one other group of this five who was killed was and he was an atheist like he was religious his atheism was very frugal from an atheist it's a contradiction in terms but most atheists are very Froome and there for two years they're arguing about it for two years there's no English that there's no way no there's no harm there's no difference between a Jew and a gentile there's nothing about a year that makes us a distinct nation and a special nation and with a different Revelation goddess with no different than anybody else unfortunately a lot of people who are not from have fallen into that ideology and they made it into an Ikea by saying that they're being nice you know they're not being I don't know what the word is racist or or chauvinist or whatever it is I mean but the fact of the matter is a fact of life they go over there to Indonesia and they're arrested and they escaped once and they escape a second time and each time they escape one or two was killed and the few survived come back and tell the story that at one point the Agave came to see him a Muslim came to see him with an offer that IM it as Malu I'm probably mispronouncing it yeah islamu if they will become Muslims they'll let them live we were four or five boys like I said they were not investors from Williamsburg they were modern Israelis if they were the son except Islam they wouldn't kill them and accepting Islam is not even as bad as accepting Christianity it's not even a very disorder under those conditions so this kid this tremendous eneck this kid who for two years argues with his friend that the Judaism has no meaning at all and there's zero dividenda never happened and if you never existed and Hashem never gave insult to the Jewish people all the rest of the the truly cold classic lines this man this this kid when they're told either you can become a Muslim or they're going to kill you he says you can kill me but I will never become a Muslim so he's thinking himself I argued him for two years they got nowhere a muscle but a God got the truth out of him in two seconds flat first taste why and that's what drama brings in Tanya he doesn't have a missile Terrace and that when you when a year just squeezed about the most importantly it comes out but what is point why does the after that spend seven or eight trucks talking about the pentilian what does after that but mean when he brings up the city because wants to say every one of us me and you all of us have access to our pintolete in our avoid meaning we're not facing questions we're not facing questions we Face our tests which in the scheme of things are smaller and narrower right which is part of the reason we made ahead you know it's not so bad but each one of us in our tests can harness the kayak and the pente you don't have to be flying to to acknowledge that you have an assurement and you don't have to be fright to try to reach the nishama bring the nishama forward and be a yield on that basis this is this is this is the avoid of hasidus you understand it is a philosophy it's a way of life foreign talking to me in my daily life how seriously talk to me in my daily life instead of saying to me I have an insurance I have a soul and I need to reveal that so I need to bring that Soul forward and I need to make that Soul a priority in my life you understand yeah you understand you're listening you understand right if you're busy passing notes to your friend and whatever you're scribbling over there you're not listening so you don't understand but those of you are paying attention understand what I'm saying we also have a soul because this is what I was telling you all I'm teaching you Tanya right I'm teaching you Tanya in a tiny class I'm brainwashing you and notice I'm saying the same thing again and again right in that I told you this a bunch of times that the school year ends and you remember one thing my dining class I consider it a success are teaching us how to live a life of a closet what's the life of the life and girls now I want to talk about this now this is what I want to talk about have things that are very important one of the icon but I can see them is Bittle right it's Bittle it's a big bad word but it's actually it's a small bad word but it's a very uncomfortable word and as they always tell you nobody really knows what Bittle means and the word Bittle is so abused of the word Bittle because we use it in such unbit like ways or to say it differently this also make you nervous right what's a more nerve-wracking way of saying Bittle what's a neural nervous record right how does cabala cell work you're in the ninth grade you're the 10th grade and your teacher wants you to do something and you don't want to do it and you just you have to listen to me you say why is true but girls if your teacher makes you do something and you don't want to do it and you resent it there was no Kabbalah sale there was hattora sale means I accept had told me it was imposed on me someone forced me when your parents or your teachers make you do things you don't want to do now if they tell you to do something and they say to you I want you to do it with Kabbalah sale but I want you to be my Capital meaning the teacher says to you you I want you to do this I know you don't want to do it I want you to do it anyway and I want you to do it because you don't have to agree you don't have to like it you have to just do it because the Amish just said because the devil said because Taylor says because it says but I want you to accept that you're doing it I want to go to the same that's Kabbalah sale but if your teacher forces you and while you're doing it you resent it and you feel like your free will was taken away and you would never do it if I've affected you reinforced that's not Kabbalah sale there's no that's not you're being forced here's a story that I heard from Rapid City Argentina he told me the following story his predecessor was Rabbi battle Baumgart en passed away 45 years ago 45 years ago battle baumgarten was a very big closet maybe his grandchildren in this room he was really a because it's very dedicated they have a very big bukosher and the rabbit him had they loved each other God they're very interesting relationship he goes back to time to defeated he knew that he was the devil's boy in 1944 not 1954. he was a man she was the devil's person the last bunch of years of his life he lived in Argentina he lived in America like I clearly did all kinds of things Argentina for 15 years then he passed away so he had a very hard time around he was a big tadiq but he was no fundraiser he didn't ask people for money if you're you ask people for money you starve keep shooting so he tells me that the group that tells me that Obama told him as this guy can yell Cave of Flesh you couldn't afford to buy a piece of meat you couldn't buy anything plain chicks he would go into the kosher shop in Argentina he'd buy the bones that's all they couldn't afford he was push it poor he was a tadek he was a big hostage and a big schlier but the the man wasn't very enough in heaven he had to ask him for money he just didn't know how to do it some of the best looking in the world had that problem you don't ask me for money it's very hard to beat and it bothered him very much so I wanted his relationship with the debit was like a father and a son I mean he was in that category you know he really was like a child he was incredibly close to the debit and he was so open he's one of those considers who wrote the Dabba letter every single day and if he missed a day the neighbor said where was your letter from yesterday he wrote The Devil every day every day for for 35 years every day every day that it would happen that day he never had a chance to do an Aveda because we did within 24 hours of writing a letter or 12 hours of writing the next one yeah I will talk he was that kind of a man he had the kind of relationship he came back from Argentina one of the Akitas and Islam he wrote I'm starving I hope I know I can't I can't support myself and again you have to understand the relationship he can't understand the relationship and of course you can't understand that ever I don't know this or that but you for sure don't know this in heaven but he is he just was you walked in you handed the debit your note that would open the envelope or read it he put on his glasses put on his glasses and then we just take your paper and twirl it on the never used a pencil he twirled it on the pencil so he's reading one line at a time every once in a while he'd put the paper down and scribble something on the margin he read through the whole letter he put it down in the valley he made all kinds of marks on the margin which he took with it whatever did with his papers that we took his glasses put him down and he spoke to you well the devil spoke to you in yeh he didn't look at you he also looked down he spoke like a secret was very formal foreign look at you and I think because the devil would look at you you couldn't look back you couldn't did have his eyes were fire there was a fire this this I know because I experienced it did I have his eyes were you couldn't look into that because I wasn't shy he would look down and he would speak a man she was really close to the river and whatever was bothering he was bothering him that he couldn't have the money they have a reader's note took off his glasses put him down he was holding a pencil that was threw the pencil onto the table boom and he said in English no more complaints foreign he says no stop complaining and better baumgart's biggest complaint was not that he had no money he wanted to be next to the devil he he needed the devil every day he missed it up terribly you're gonna go back and you're gonna go back by simcha but you're not going to go back because I tell you you're gonna go back because you want to and you're going to go back because you want to miss him will you please tell me how that's nice and fair and gentle and kind and what are they called today empathetic this is what happened this is what happened in the neighbor's room you're going to go back and you're going to go back Pacifica and you're gonna go back now because I'm telling because you want to that's all that I've been told when you hear this the next day have called him told that every month they're going to send the money they never took care of him financially but not in yegridis that was the office is he can't raise money give him enough money to live his work but that didn't happen David didn't tell him in his room I'm going to talk because of the money in this room he said your soldier you go back and do what you have to because you wanna Now understand this little story is is a it's a real story why is it real story because the lab is not just saying words to manipulate him you know I'm gonna force you to do what I say how am I going to force you you know you have respect to me and you like me I'm gonna tell you don't do it for me do it for you that's what Kabbalah cell means girls Hashem gave us Mitzvahs often we want to do them often we enjoy doing them and often we don't and we do them anyway why Kabbalah cell means we don't grunt we don't wish we didn't have to do it and do it anyway we accept that because this is what they ablester wants this is what we want the the beginning of the sentence of Kabbalah says the word Kabbalah comes I accept that something for me very hard some things are easy for me some things neither describe I like some things I don't like and I do them anyway said but if I do them and I hate them and I resent them I mean one thing I need to tell you for sure if you have children and your children see that you're doing missions and you hate doing those misses they're not going to do them they're just not going to do it why should I do that if you don't like to do it why doing it is a very sensitive issue bitter is a sensitive issue you know why you know a bit of a sense of issue because a bit like about a sale come from is capable of saying I don't want to do this I don't like to do this this doesn't feel good for me and I'm going to do it with my own will my own will because Hashem said this is an ashama property just like that person who who streams a whole day there's no God there's no Tater there's no Jewish people there's no attitude so there's nothing and when a Muslim guy a thousands of miles away from itself tells him either you become a Muslim I'm going to kill you he says kill me I'm not becoming a Muslim and this friend says I don't understand it but I was here for two years about this and you wouldn't budget ninja not this guy this Muslim guy threatened to kill you become a big kid it woke up his nishamen how is that the news it's bittlesselves it's the ability to do with the abish they want just do but we don't want to do it and like the rabbit told him oh my God you do it happily you do it with joy it's an interesting it's you know when you re when you I mean you girls were the best chef you got you got the brainwashing right so there's more brainwashing and less pressure but the least brainwashing you you heard the message of Kabbalah sale right they made you say it so many times until you do it by heart and you still you wish you could forget it but you can't forget it yeah what does that means what does that mean it means Caballo cell doesn't make any sense cabelso shouldn't exist how Talla cell makes sense I can force you to do something cabala cell means I am teaching you that you should force yourself to do something that you don't want to do so if you don't want to do it why are you doing it why are you doing it because that means it's only on the level of yahidah on the pituitary level well that's a possibility on the pint of the year the level a yid is able to do something and as the devil told Rabbi Palm Garden and do it for one reason and one reason only Hashem said right to go back to the beginning how did I start this this little fabrina with a statement and the statement is that before hasid is the most important thing in Yiddish God was Yiddish after khasir is the most important thing Jesus Christ is [Music] and you don't have to necessarily be far away for this to be relevant to you you could be and the the this is the word the avoid of yes for us Cabela says one example and there are many examples right see them are always in the middle is in the middle you know a bitterly valve used to be Bittle beat I'm a battle myself now we became we have a lot of obviously throw so Bittle means in a battle the next guy you know I love you so much I have to make you feel like trash so you should become a big trusted what about me uh I don't love myself I love you I love you more than I love myself so I'm a battle you and I'm about to myself I told you it is my sin I told you this myself who succeeded his father and by his father the men it was by his father the many was he pushed it was a big event pushing when the father passed away the son took over his place the Father the Son says no pushing everybody including the bakrid are gonna have a seat everyone has a spot is it comfortable will send you a Google on a plate with a knife and a fork and with the Bell about it he stopped so they said to deliver the Sun the Tata has been pushing with such a big avoider see that that I think was the Galaxy this is so this the rabbit the son said by my father when people pushed they were squeezing themselves I see when I look at the pushing everyone is pushing the other guy he said I don't need that so sit comfortable say comfortable means after being battled myself not using that from me I have to tell you what to do you have to find it inside yourself and the kayak for this comes from the Nashoba the kayak for a person to do what Hashem says even they don't want to and Company so bit like about a sale are uh are a hasidisha version are four from people a version of how you have a connection and as I said you throughout this year I mean I've had a very interesting year so far yeah um to me to me and this is just my opinion but it's the truth because I'm saying it's only my opinion but don't you derive me ah it's tackled in my opinion but I really believe it I'm not saying it the funny I'm not saying it for a fact I mamish believe it the essence of hasidius and our generation is Hashem to be Samir and understand what that means girls what are the trademarks of a person who's a mayor what are the trademarks a person with Samir there is always only one way for a person to be happy but listen carefully okay if you were sleeping for the last whatever it is 42 minutes I got 30 minutes listen to these three minutes okay so there's one way for a person to be happy only one way to get over himself if you're busy with yourself you'll never happy never even you have everything in the world you're always not happy you're afraid you could lose it you think you're entitled to more or somebody else insulted you all kinds of nature the only way for a person to be is to stop thinking about himself and like I told one of the girls that one of my arguments that he had with them this year the old khabad who thought about yourself my darling my learning stop thinking so much about yourself the famous story a young boy came from Europe in the early years of the devil's disease with a list of avedis as long as the goddess I did this wrong I did this wrong I did this wrong I did this wrong I did this wrong and he came to the rabbi asked him I don't know how we should fix all these Las Vegas and the rabbit told him he just flew across the Atlantic and in 1952 fly across the Atlantic took 24 hours not the five or six hours he says take all of this all of this sadness and by the way there's another word for sadness all of this self-absorption that's being busy with self so I went into the ocean the rep is giving us good advice practical advice we just don't like it I think we even agree with it we just don't like it why because you want to be very busy very important I get this all the time I get slow time and I get this myself also I'm sitting in a house and we're talking about service talking about Titus real taught us that real people have taught us right taught us real people have and we're telling that this guy is amazing David this is and he's surviving all these others now I was the official fabrenger and somebody else gave this other guy a eulogy about this and I didn't like it why didn't I like it I didn't like it because I believe girls that the very definition of being a closet is never defining Yourself by itself not when you don't have it when you do have them the definition of a khasid is it's good it's good the nature to our nature to look at other people's lives for sure and in many cases to look at our own lives and say oh yeah this is the perspective now from a personal value perspective that everybody says to us hey don't think about yourself and be say it's good say it's good say it's good now why should I say it's good when it's bad why should I do it because of the level of the penalty it's good and you want to draw that point out because that point is going to help you deal with these thoughts but if you always go back to saying it's terrible it's miserableness it's bad getting worse I believe that the number one way to stop being all about generation is to be justifiably negative or negatively just negative justifiably and you have to be positive I want you to think about this I want you to think about it [Music]