Farbrengen Erev Yom Kippur - Chabad practices for Yom Kippur and Sukkos

so last night bought a Hashem we had a beautiful fabrengan in Crown Heights maisha's son Usher invited me to fabre for his class and based medish I guess from the Yeshiva amygdala amick and it was so good I could have sat there all night literally it was sober schmuck but knowing that I have to be up early morning for you guys and other things so I had to curtail the fabrengen but did invite them to join me Shabbos I said Shabbos there's no phones and no whatsapps and no emails and there's nowhere to go so if you want to have more walk over it's not a long walk 50 minutes an hour it's gonna be nice Shabbos and join me here but anyway um wonderful wonderful group of uh of buffer it must have been about 15 20 guys in total and I gave everyone a safer than that wrote which I was able to print not for him in indirectly but it's two famous letters that he wrote in 1980s when the satmar were attacking Chabad and it was very difficult and um there was Sheldon bias issues amongst the some of the submar because some husband some guys that were sat now became Chabad and the in-laws didn't know and they wanted divorce and Sarah Bureau wrote two tremendous letters in one he explains what the real sheet of the samura of about the Charlotte you know about Eric Israel becoming a state which he he he argued as a violation of the three Oaths and uh took that apart and in a respectful way and I believe shows that the the hasid and the satmer the you know the canoeing and don't really understand what he wrote and that's one long letter and the other one is about what's the justification in Chabad to put film on people and do them if same and Outreach how how is that my team for hours to see these flowers and you know what does that have to do putting on two people on the street we're not a social organization you can have many social organizations do that you don't need Serbia explains the whole shita the Reba the rep is the shita how it's rooted in pristine pure out there it's a must read I told them every single guy here must not just read it must learn it and must memorize it because it will help you the rest of your life you'll be talking to people you've been meeting people regardless of what you do the safer is called the response of the wise one it was um you know a friend a person I know here in Boro Park was a big time with him he rewrote's letters because he put it into Benet Torah right language you know what I'm saying he made it equal to any safer that any litv Yeshiva would have so um it's a it's a masterpiece and a must read it's not an English uh it would be a it would be a coup to make it in English but I don't have the the energy the time and whatever so um for now it's not in English I hope one day it will be in English but it's uh it's it's a phenomenal piece what do you want to ask Misha well yeah what is how how long it was safer is it it's 120 pages so probably it's uh it's 50 60 pages each something like that you know so it you know it's not long long and it's not short maybe it's even shorter maybe it's 80 100 Pages um and if you want maybe one day we could we could we could learn it together you know maybe one day we could make a sales will be fascinating fast things so yeah yeah so then you know Usher has no place I I gave I I have I have you know the story that I I had I reprinted it being told that you know um it will sell and you know and then some khasid went and stole the product and reprinted it on his own yeah and I was left I'm left with a thousand copies in my basement and I called him I found out who it is I did some investigative work and I said you don't even call he says you don't have a copyright review Khan wrote it show me your copyright I said God has a copyright I said this was like six seven eight years ago ten years ago I said it was before Yom Kippur I said you want to go into Yom Kippur doing this to eat I said you know check yourself out and that's all so um Hashem you know um what maybe I was gonna say maybe um maybe we could talk about how to get maybe get some from you you know so so yeah no that's you know it's not it's not a heavy heavy you know even 10 copies uh uh you know it would be a small package maybe ask Usher if some of his friends I think that between the friends each one takes two or this or that and they give it all to him when they come there and then he gives it to you guys so we could do that I would like to do that that would be a nice thing to start after yump if we can get it accomplished and if not some some a little bit but it's a worthwhile read at least one of the letters I'm not sure both is the second letter for sure so anyway so I gave each one a gift last night a safer I inscribed it whichever I would have wished him a good year and and I hope that um you know they'll it'll benefit them I know it will benefit them I didn't get a chance really to die a lot you know because I saw there was you know a lot of people a lot of the Buckaroo had things that they would want to talk to me about privately and things like that but you know it wasn't in in the setting or if I bring in and also when you're on a clock I gotta run at 10 30 you know so it just doesn't you know if we went to twelve one two in the morning and there's more time you can open up some discussion at the table but um it just wasn't that way so I gave them a taste you know and this way they'll invite me another time yeah yeah yeah and and I tell you I told Usher Before I said I have two rules one rule is no cell phones I said I don't hit you know and no talking you know otherwise I picked myself and that guy and I said well I have a lot on my plate then hey this is it's not easy for me to give you these two hours two and a half hours but I'm doing it and um the second thing is you know in the good name I said you know don't you know we got it and we and they were great there was no phones telling you and and they were singing with me and hi with them it was and we were momished I don't know if they they took a video I hope to come out and I hope we can get it put it on YouTube you know um but we were singing about 10 different good names with strong good name and strong singing it was uh it was really uplifting and I told him I said listen I'm looking for ways of of doing truva so I could figure it out might as well try this anyway let's talk for a few minutes about um by the way we do camparis in the morning uh if you can get to a chicken great if not use money and the main thing is to get to give the money to people who need it or or make sure that the chickens are given to people like that there's always a question is it better to do it with a chicken and you know they throw it out versus money and it goes to you give it to sudoka ask your local Rabbi what he who possums for you what he what he thinks what he poskins um to me it's a it's a it's a serious issue we need to say um you know it's it's a hard it's a hard question to answer because on one hand you want to do the chicken but if they take the chicken so that what's the answer even if they throw out the chicken the mice it gets the money from the chicken says that you should might eat the chicken you know my wife growing up in Australia they did cut for us in the morning then her Bubba grandmother took the chicken from caparus kosher that you know and they ate that chicken at so the sum of seconds the main meal the second meal but but anyway you have your abundant you talk to them ask them what they what what they asking or if you have a sock already whatever anyway so there's Capones in the morning it's a festive day in the sense of um having two meals you know that means you should wash twice a meal and how lucky means washing now again if because of dieting or health you can't you know we understand but otherwise you should wash twice doesn't mean you have to Fresh away in the morning you know you should wash twice once in the morning once in the afternoon and um make sure you like you light a candle or candles for your a parent or or or a relative or whatever for yisker and then some like a also another list another candle for young Kippur uh I forget not to check in the Min hug him I don't have that in front of me so don't quote me check in the in the Chabad and hug him if there's an Indian to light a separate cant of him Kipper does anyone remember here yes Maisha yes yes and we just so that we like that yes so uh again you know if you didn't light it it's not the end of the world but uh if you're buying the candles for the yunt of the light so make sure to do that too um and we go to the mix the pure strict Chabad meaning is to go to the mix for three times tomorrow once before capellus before caporus once before minha and malchus uh wait a minute Marcus is before is Marcus after Mikvah before Mikvah remind me I always get confused I think malcus is before Mikvah no anyway it says it into so anyway but there's Mick fur before menka that's for sure and then Chabad goes a third time after the soda before the yantev now okay this is if you're able to and you want to that's the the way I was taught as a bucket to do to go three times but again don't feel guilty if you didn't get a chance or for whatever reason you know go at least one time out of Yom Kippur if you can go twice is better if you go three times even better that that that that's it but yes uh the the the best way and the tradition if in Chabad is to go those three times that I enumerated okay uh Malco starts from the right side of the shoulder to the left side to the middle three times three times three equals the the dirt and equals 39 39 Marcus uh I believe our head it says in the cities that soften to the north when we when we when we kneel and when we lay the Marcus when we lay down the floor because with evil comes from the north Iraq is in the North suffering from and I just entered a touch telephone comes with the word hidden all hidden issues all problems come from hitting the hidden issues that we that are unresolved softened the person from the hidden issues within a person comes bad and therefore we have to face the face them and and encounter them and therefore our head position when we get Marcus is towards the north towards suffer this what I just told you the second part I didn't see anyone just it just entered my mind what do you want to say my show good to say just not to be yeah [Music] so why why so what what's what's the what's North Syria okay so then maybe maybe I yeah I don't know why I just I is it North to America I don't know oh no no so I guess it's just a mistake I I guess the mistake I was told or thought you know so listen serious ain't our friends either yeah yeah yeah okay and then there is a Kipper night make sure you you eat well by the way you don't need to stuff yourself it's the worst thing don't stuff yourself it's foolish drink a lot of water and um eat you know eat eat and and and the water and pace yourself and what I find very helpful especially if it's a very hot day here we're not gonna have a very hot day I don't know how you guys will have it but if you stay in the air condition and you don't talk much you don't exert a lot of air I'm telling you you'll fast much better again the person has migraines or special things you know but I find both tissue above and your Kippur the less I talk and there's not much to talk on you can be adopting the whole time and all that and and you drank before I fast but Hashem well so just uh just bear that in mind you know if you do a lot of cooking listen that it's exerting energy and and you get hungry as the day goes on if you need to lay down lay down even during the day now if you're able to lay down a sewer with your head like this and you know but if not I tell you sometimes I leave in the middle of that flight then I go lay down you know I'm not saying you should do that but um if I feel or whatever um that's what I do I'm just saying that you want to be strong at ni Ila you want to be able to double Cabana so if if it's adequate for you to put your head down on the table and then hop a little uh schluff you know do that but is mapped but they have a half I don't know how it's in what time you finish kadish but sometimes we can have an hour and a half to two hour half sick you know so um the rapper wasn't against having a long half sick so the same again you're not in charge you guys of how the shoe maybe moisha is maybe he decides should start but the idea is that you know a person should Pace themselves very very important very important okay the map to everyone knows Matthew says so of course there's um you know that probably goes on in your shoes um just for the record you might find this interesting Lazar brings a group of Russian balabata and some of them oligarchs to the oh hell the sharpest before he's been doing this for years so a friend of mine was there this this this um this uh that happened to be they all Daven together I guess in the large tent whatever in the large area and I think he he uh one of the important Aliyah for I think point something million dollars this is this this is by the oil yeah I'm at let's listen probably this guy I I don't know I I imagine he planned on giving you know that amount for the year I I don't know but regardless they heard that this 500 times 11800 it came out to a few million dollars in the Shula Miami on 95th and Collins the shoe um Master used to go uh Master yo you know I think almost for a million dollars of a tremendous amount of money you know whatever but listen I had Marine County in our little shoe I had someone from Iraq and Iraqi Jew and he come he came to show once twice a year I shouldn't killed her they wanted Mafia and I had an American dollar boss who started to make some money and became about true money and he also he said he says so they had a bidding war and it went up to eight thousand dollars I we all were sitting there this is like you know Marine County out in the in the Boondocks it's like what who's who's here again it's not you know it's not borrow back it's not your lion and this guy he had to have it it's Iraqi this was by him and and he and he bit him out and and and brother Hashem every year since then for years I don't know if it's still you know the the the khabaras we made eight to ten thousand dollars just from Australia and for us that was a tremendous amount of money for to for the operation costs and all that so it's all Muzzle you know it's all these type of things let's go on okay so um what else uh how great you know I'll hate I can say it says better to say a little bit with kavana than a lot not with the cavanas it takes some time to think about each other hate or somebody else hates every one of us knows the area of our weaknesses between men and men and men and God and the focus on that um and one thing's for sure you have to walk out of him keep renewing Hashem is Michael you and that Hashem gave you the Hashima for a good year and not uh not God forbid to to think otherwise but you need to you need to do you need to act so that's uh Yom Kippur what's a Yom Kippur is considered uh a yomptive because it's the it's not just what's a Yom Kippur it's the same Hashem yes my um yeah please you know I was I was conducting the impression that can provide maybe it's certain things to them in general I don't know not to dwell overly long and we doing like not to like you know beat ourselves up tensively okay and mean it but but not dwell over the Lord is that um does that sound does that sound like is there something too bad am I mistaken I would not say it's a Chabad thing no I would not say that I I I I I would say that in today's generation to beat yourself up is not is is not going to be helpful in the long run and that's for everyone but it could yes it could be in a literature shoe that's very musserdicky they're gonna beat themselves up [Music] and again this is not to be critical but some people have been involved what I'm thinking of one in particular that it's like a paperback and it explains video sort of in-depth so you see some people like they're they're standing with this booklet for long periods of time you know engaged in video yeah now how about we don't do that no no no no no that's my question at what point how do we sort of draw the line between look it I I'm just telling you you know no one told me this and it's not written anywhere if someone knows that a certain video is something that they're guilty of okay they should focus on that it doesn't mean you have to stand there for half an hour you know crying and that's you know like I said you know making yourself cry is ridiculous but but you know you should give an extra few mental minutes to to that issue you know you're asking for forgiveness uh but but but to to make a ceremony out of it no no no but again my to say that it's wrong for those people that use those booklets I would never say that because we show them if they want to use that and that's their their uh covered whatever but no I would not tell people to to that I would tell people to to think more about the the the okay how are you going to not repeat the same thing you know if you're serious about the video tell me how you're not going to repeat it because it's natural to do this or that no uh you're serious what so put your mental energy in the positive how I'm going to what I'm going to do not to repeat it let's go on okay you're welcome so then we go to uh sorry I said it says we have a suda actually we have a stickle sugar uh I I guess it's best to wash and we also speak about or start doing something for the sukkah the show we're going from one minute swim to another Mitzvah so again if you're too tired or it's too late then whatever you're not going to actually put up any part of the circle at least speak about it that's what it's I believe and um and then the next four days is is [Music] you know um Chabad minute is to use a collabia estrad from Calabria that's Italy um again if you can get you can get it you can't get it now I know what they've done they they've taken the Calabria seeds and and and uh planted in there to throw uh I believe that it's still better to use a Pure collaboration I think the Chabad tries if you're able to to do that second is to use such a asterisk that was replant the next snow has to show them to say anything and there's some people that are Macbeth dusk of America so because it's Haley so choose your tradition yes you wanted to say something yeah so look my my friend of mine I don't know if you know who he is the rabbi I know of course I know yeah so so his son is selling uh the Calabria the club the effects so you get the playhouse last week because it's gonna be huge he told me like a few weeks ago Jordan hugeot because Royal a lot of people are getting Dr Columbia that are not kabad okay very good that you won't believe who is my number one customer this year foreign I I I want to say that you know a person like I'm traveling to Florida right I was about to say to my son I'll use your because well if Sam someone packed up for me yesterday but I'm just saying it's all right if you're short on money and you know you use use someone else's asterisk it's not don't don't feel guilty I'm just saying that yeah people should know of course if you're able to go the extra mile to spend it's better but uh you know I a person needs to know sometimes the situation and then there's another thing if you know someone doesn't have a necessary you have to doctor money buy them an industry buy them industry do you know and if you know that they're Chabad they want the collaboria and you can afford it it's a beautiful mix very quietly you know it's like buying someone in a leader my father used to always buy someone in our school growing up who's a town called company couldn't afford and it wasn't outrageous amount but it wasn't make a strong income my father bought him every year and Aaliyah he didn't take the Aliyah under his son he bought it for that his friend you know there's something to something to be said about that it's a it's a very special maybe it's probably even greater than you yourself taking the idea when you pay the money you buy it you give it away to someone else believe me you'll get bigger mileage but okay so then we're going to sukis um minute is to have four walls four walls I mean three and a half walls and the other half can be like a doorway okay so yes logically two and a half is good but the mini Chabad is three and a half walls um number two a lot of even though it says you see the stars about instead of seven if you remember were there circus and you saw the the 770 uh you can barely see the the Stars I don't know where that came from but that's that's the the way uh habotniks have it if they're able to again if you don't if it's very hard to get the scar and all that it's very difficult for you to put it on and be very careful when you go up on a ladder please you know we're getting older you know the bones are more frail you know and there here's another thing if you hear someone have in trouble tomorrow this week next week and they don't have a sukkah and you're able to go help them if not send your kid to help them quietly you know these are these are great Mitzvahs you talk about Yom Kippur Maisha you know doing this Husson but I'm gonna leave for someone buying an extra for someone um helping them build their suck of Hulu believe me those are very big system that you go into you would discussing it's England Milam is it so they were saying you know because there are plenty of people don't have the kayaki get older yeah it's very hard it's very hard I know for me it's very hard to put a bazooka you know and they're the same yeah yes or maybe if you buy an extra low of an effort for the tool and then whoever doesn't have one absolutely absolutely and and I always say I wish my Esther becomes Brown at the end of during Young so many Eden made a book on my Instagram it became Brown I'll be the happiest so absolutely if you buy for the shoe and people make it's Mommy it's it's you you get this horse you get the schools we learned through the minor actually remember about the being fine doing merits being masakis Arab them and we spoke about it you know when you make a a sheer and others join you even though you made the sheer you arranged it you get all the people's questions that are learning at that chair the same is every time they make a Brach on the Easter egg and you bought that Astrid for the shoe you get part of the school the same as the water the cooler I see people's names they donate these big coolers in the show to people that have hot tea or coffee that's a great schools every time a breakfast being made for the little shama that passed away and you get the screws that thousands of people during the year about drinking coffee or tea from from that kettle because you paid for it to be there the certain every schools is a good but there's certain that you have a lot of mileage on it I love them to say yes so the answer answer your idea is absolutely things that you do for a community and a shoe and things like that that's why they're people that will sew the curtains or the tablecloths or wash the tablecloths you ever see people they'll take the tablecloths they'll bring it home they are the wife will wash them husband brings him back to school of the wife or the kids puts in a table that's a great source people are diving in a nice white tablecloths that you washed you know we we take these things for granted them but we think about it these are great schools and such thing doesn't even cost so much money to put it in the washing machine it's the tear her slapping it here slapping a deer for holding holy but you know I remember Maisha coming into to hco this show 5 5 30 in the morning there one one day uh I remember there was a a fellow or two every morning he put out chairs I don't remember his name and I was thinking myself what else what is who's he's setting up the shoe in the morning so people can have a nice chair of dominant so so this is these aren't to be uh you know uh it's not a small change let me let me just take another few minutes and then we'll finish so then we have um so the little vanessric and um I would say oh so our minute listen to this our meaning is to get up early as soon as you can as soon as it's Sunrise go to the mic fair and then make a pracha in Asuka before davening that's and then by how well we don't go out and we don't make a bracha because we already did it but a lot of people do it the other way probably more people do it the other way it's fine but if you want to follow Chabad yes we got up early so we can do the Mitzvah right away but first go to the Mikvah if you're able to okay to go to the mixer and then to make the broccoli after breakfast so first you get rest you say brother then you make the Buffalo vanessric and if you have a Suka in your house and there's a mix for nearby jump down get into the big fan come back up and and and and now um make sure that there's a little of an asterisk either a shoe or your house for your family to make a broken and women and girls should this is not something that the map in other communities in fact some communities koisenberg sounds they discourage women but Chabad doesn't and you know we should make sure that women and children have an opportunity to bench and you'll be surprised even if some communities don't Mock and that market on that if you offer them the womanistic the women and the kids you'll be surprised they'll make the brother so um that that's important and then there is and then there is and then there is um simple to tell you to the last day the last day and the last day is uh my house is 40 hours but it was 24 hours to be Pacifica to dance to clap and uh there too to be sensitive to people to honor them to open their own kindness you know sometimes hold on yep um sometimes people got volume and others are not careful and they give the same people them to open the archives or to hold the Torah and they don't give other people and I this bothers me a lot it's wrong you know you want to give someone we consider husher of the Rob the first Tire of fine but make sure that everyone gets to hold the toroid and that that includes every bucker not just the the people the marriage everyone should have a chance to hold the teller and and if you know you see ask I doing something I go over do you mind if you get to give the tire to someone else you don't have to who are the tires get give it a coffee yeah this is always given to the oldest people in the show you know yeah and then we're gonna put him in the museum and we try to make we're trying to make a very big effort to make sure everybody has a chance even even buffering even you know ever it's important this is important because if you know simple things are flying and the levitic and all that and you forget sometimes it's it's important to you know to make everyone feel important because they are important I asked the sixth Augusta goes to the Highland oh very in other words anyone that's been in the army or is in the Army right very nice yeah ah if I remember the days of the river back office you guys can't imagine I told the program last night how am I supposed to describe to you what was going on here history in my days not you know 1970s you can't it was it was godliness the energy I said something took over that room you know and and since I remember the river always had an a cover for people for merit Israel and I think sometimes he said people hyal in from the Sava yeah you know they never took the time to think about not just the politicians who came to him you know because they didn't keep a second day and they meditate to the Rev under wanted them to dance with a hakopha and others but um you know people um from the Army as well yes [Music] that the Weber used to dance just the rabbit with his brother-in-law yes yes to Rashad and that was the first and seventh of coffin they sang they sang the same league every year they would dance shoulder off shoulder you know and um the rapper had much more kayak as the years went on and he would make with his head intense and got a shot would just go around you know but uh he kept he kept tell us as much as he can then we passed excuse me he passed away in 1990 and 91 and the rabbit danced himself himself and he made to everybody it was it was it was beautiful I think I was there once remember yeah um colonarum is a great sauce all children culinarium is a great school if you buy that Aaliyah and and and um what else can I tell you it's just it's it's it's a it's a day of school sin and um at the end of the day and my mother said if someone's there to say A mimer you know and of course look you know it's an entity not to become vulgar and crazy with drinking and if you see that it's wrong and it's it's not right it's not Yiddish guy that's not Swedish kite no question you know I try my health allows I make it shine on a glass of scotch and and that's good for to go you know I you know I want to be a little more fraila but I'm not saying people that's if you feel but everything has to be done with taste and normality you know it becomes crazy and you become sick and vomiting this guy it's not that's not young it's not yontive you know and um you know but but like we discussed the one share we might just set two guys came in and they were someone comes in and you know you know don't don't Badger them and don't make them crazy and don't have a harmonious and you know sit down drink water you know what I'm saying sometimes people get carried away okay you have to you know but to throw them and to to to embarrass them that's opposite of simplest data even though they should have they they're wrong for becoming this way and totally nuts and all that but nevertheless that's the situation on the ground so what are you gonna do embarrass them now hit them I've seen the shoes it's terrible yes they're wrong for for disturbing and they're making noise you know becomes become very varied dramatic you know but nevertheless remember be in control you're the big boy and you know put your hand around them give them a hug you need come eat sit down you know and you'll see you can accomplish avram I don't hear from you anything what do you say he's so quiet yeah sleep deprived just leave deprived boy you need a good you need a good for bringing you should have been in that for bringing last night you would enough to sleep deprived if you were there for those two and a half hours you're innocent how are you okay you're ready you're ready you're ready you ready for Yom Kippur you ready for the Kipper trying trying to let some help getting ready be positive be upbeat it's another day closer to the gaullah that's what I told the book of him at the end one before I left I said mashiach will come we have to and and ask Hashem to be part of it but what what the title says what the represent is Emma's and that's our job you know to to to keep on going and having a Muna and and helping each other helping Eden and that's the the that's a ghoula practice you know when you help another yeet that's the biggest good order Kevin I want to wish everyone a democracy with Taylor a good Adventure we should only have simple Health children for us children grandchildren for all of Amish buffers and for Claudia's role Yeshua the karma the call of mamish now and maybe sukis maybe sukis we can do of her bringing you know online so let's stay in touch on that okay otherwise we'll resume I don't have the English State now but we'll we'll deal with it zygons don't take everyone [Music] thank you for mentioning shh