Faith & Trust in Dating & Marriage - Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser

[Music] a little bit on emunah and Batak own dealing with marriage and also engagement in going out the whole idea of marriage the idea of engagement takes a lot of Emunah be Tejon it's the whole thing because today many times a person says I'm not sure I don't know if I go ahead with it I don't know if it can actually go through with it I got some butterflies about it I just had somebody calling me late last night individual called me up that there was absent they got that the person the man doesn't want and doesn't know whether he wants to continue or not whether she Duke and there was all kind of upset what happened all of a sudden what happened everything was going beautifully and everything was all systems were go and then all of a sudden no way I don't know I got to think about it I got to speak to my Rob I got to speak to Elio on Navi maybe I get an assurance from him I got to speak maybe I Shem was gonna give me a C Mon that is gonna fall down from shamayim local cafe sure it doesn't happen so easy so let me start off I was involved in a fundraising effort and it was a wonderful wonderful evening where they brought a few of different people down in order to give sure him and it was on behalf of a hospital there there was a man that came over to me and he said listen I got an urgent request for you I said yeah tell me she says I'm going out with a girl and we've been going out for some time he's not exactly 18 years old and I would like to bring her because we have a consideration that we want to discuss with you to find out what you think about going ahead whether we can or whether we shut it I said come by all means the next day they came to my house they came both of them exactly on time he sat on one side of the table set on the other side of the table with low-cut of Szell's at not bidet out they were altogether different I said what's the problem so he began to explain to me Rebbe I have this savings certificate he told me the amount of money and then I have that savings certificate he told me that amount of money and she has this in a bank account she also has stocks that total up to three thousand and then she has other investments that scattered investments that are in bonds about ten thousand by the time they were done the saqqaq all the money that they had was about seventy thousand dollars and I'm going whoa yeah so I was wondering what the Sheil is what's a question they said to me Rebbe we don't know if we have enough money to get married we're not sure I have never heard of that amount of money of one place before and I'm thinking about a baby give me the money I'll tell you what to do with it all of it seventy thousand dollars I said are you kidding most couples don't have that much when they're married for 20 years seventy thousand dollars is astounding if you had a thousand dollars I would tell you come to bed Gabrielle make the wedding over here yaniv will make sure that it happens everything will be good you get married seventy thousand dollars what's the problem well you know you have to have a certain amount of money and then to buy a house and then the children and then the grandchildren I'm happy to open your body and then you have to take out the money for vacation and money for this I said what is your question where you going vacation last summer oh we didn't go up I said well you told me any money for vacation yeah I know but when we're married so we want to take a big vacation somewhere so I said tell me where would you like to take a vacation he said I don't know you know we would go to or now or maybe Providence Rhode Island I said I'll tell you what you got enough buddy now you don't have to worry about it I thought that and we're going for an hour rich so Nichelle autumns Air Cav although whatever a person's Rutzen is with that Zeca though that's their honor you gotta talk with them I tried and I'm speaking with them about $70,000 and I'm telling them that they have enough money have emunah habitat home if you have a moon on ya betta Kong you have faith you got a dollar in the bank you can do it certainly $1,000 you got enough to pay this month's rent you got enough to go under the hoop of the queue douching that's enough by exuberance it cost $10 for the ketubah witchity naive $3 you get married you go ahead bracha you both come together you bring in Brock on the house you'll bring Shep o come from Shem I am anyhow I'm talking to them and talking to them and somehow it's not going in I said both of you gotta pray both of you have got to pray that Hashem gives you the understanding that he's ook the inspiration they are they Emunah that it takes to get married because that is what's holding up now it's not the money it's not the $70,000 I argued back and forth with them they said thank you you have clarified matters unbelievable for me and for her they left it only took till they got married seven years seven years seven years you know young leshawna young lashonna so it was like a thought ten thousand seven years later I get a card in the mail we both prayed our we like you said we have the Emunah and we're going ahead with it beautiful how many years they went until they got married lacking one thing Emunah be taco when a person has a moon Amba Tejon everything works an individual that puts into their mind that they will be able to accomplish that they're able to go ahead with things that they can be much lay off and they're not afraid to take the jump they're going to be successful interesting Talmud Bavli Amara bah-bah-bah kana Amara buchanan kasha lizziboo ghoshal adam k crea yum so that the making of a matrimonial match of putting two people together is as difficult as the parting of the Red Sea now we all know the old question the part the Red Sea was not difficult for a sham Hashem could turn the water into dumb the water went into blood hashem could make the far ki neem no problem Hashem could make the daylight kosher darkness no problem what's the problem with splitting the sea that's not a problem not fresh m interesting Hashem wanted that Claudius Royale should be so hair should be privileged to the splitting of the sea by so hood that our merits were able to split the sea not better I said not that it's just gonna come down as a free gift but rather because we deserve it Rashi says baa Ram at math Kondapur sook says raise up raise your staff raise it up raise it over the sea by yoga B'nai Israel but Okayama by a Basha and bidet shall walk through the sea why was it what happened so Rashi tells us something very interesting is a hoot about a.m. it was the merit of their fathers everybody here this is such an unbelievable group it's unbelievable crowd everybody here comes from unreal families mishpokhe hood that are the shame ility ferritin Kleiser all of you it's Mother's Day today in the father's day whatever that is I don't know the day but the mothers and the fathers in cloud yourself it's great the greatness Shema Benny moose are a vehicle the LT Tosh tour at America why because that's our home is Sauron the fathers and the mothers that we came from and they were mostly nefesh no matter where they were no matter where they came from whether they came from Russia or Syria or Iran whether they came from Eretz Israel and they were the first there and they fought the Arabs with stones and with sticks they had nothing nothing at all or whether they came from Poland or hungry or Czechoslovakia and they fought against your map shamova zero and they persevered we have nasira Steffes in our blood no matter where we came from no matter if the person went out with the smugglers from Iran from Persia and they had to go at night little kids that parents had to say goodbye to them not knowing what would happen and then where they ended up finally in these shores until they were reunited sometimes a decade later all the great great families that are here where do we come from we came from the parents so it says in the school Tavo time in the great merits of the parents shamino the Emunah Shammi no boy the fact that they believed in me that is why the river parted that's the reason why the jung-soo came interesting we thought we're gonna come up to the Red Sea it's gonna part right away oh the Jews are here let's go part it up right no way we need it as the hook what was the scoot not shown better many daav came he jumped in the water as soon as they saw him coming in the water began to part and Munna will bring everything and Munna our belief our faith will bring a good marriage a strong marriage she'll him by it pernessa livelihood a person has to show that they believe an individual has to show that they are in my mean when we go out we go out we believe that this evil game where from shamayim we don't believe that it's just a Micra oh I don't know why I'm going out with him or I don't know why they set me up to go out there must be a total mistake there's no total mistakes a microbiome if their person went out with someone it is for us to learn the great likutey Mehran says there are many she do him there's ones evoke and that means that a person could come going out with a number of people but it doesn't mean that those people were for not those people were not just happened to be a circumstance when individual takes a look at that in a muna they don't come up the shotgun are you out of your mind how you set me up with that guy is a total disaster no you say I needed it what do you say every morning every morning one of the Brussels talks about our needs anybody if you know got shoes there is a Shayla whether you make that browser or not you got it to us Ali cold sake sure Sally coats a hem does everything for me he gives me so sock he gives me he's a brute Hashem gives to me Torah anytime all the things that I need Hashem gives to me sushi ice M gives to me all the nice things that I all the clothing and all the beauty and everything that I need in the world so many places to learn it's unreal sure us-ally cold turkey Hashem gives me everything that I need beautiful air Hashem gives me water sona fruits Shavuot i'll be able to learn all night I can do whatever I like sure Sally cold turkey says Rebbe Nachman a different shot sure us Olli whatever happens to me I'm walking on the street I don't realize it there's a hole in my pocket I have hundred dollars I didn't realize it it went out chefs only cold turkey all of a sudden I was walking down and I was so dumb I didn't even realize it I bumped into something I heard myself bad I had to go to the doctor what I need that for I went out with this girl and I don't even know the reason why I had to go out with her she insulted me on top of it when I went out with her hey Michelle him righto bad well I took her out to a nice take place right then she gives me an insult [Music] I'm angry right ah ah solely cold sake when something happens I know I needed it I say what I need this for I need like a headache I need like the visit to the dentist you don't know I'm late about go baby alright sure Sally Kousuke that's my emunah that's my belief that whatever I'm going through is refining me that that is helping me and when I get a little knock I don't say boy I hola why you did that to me come on I don't deserve that I'm gold watch it you know gold watch I think you sort of love don't we feel that way know what a process to say is sure Sally cold sake why the hundred dollars fell out of my pocket you want to know the reason because one time I made money and I was going to donate I was gonna call that charity and give it but I forgot it slipped my mind other important things were we're on there and I forgot about it so I never gave them out there Hashem I'm gonna help me you know why I get a little cut in the pocket or I lose a little change first two hundred always go down and Ani comes a little bit later a few minutes later finds it Donny sees it and says Hashem thank you you care about all of us every person who is poor Lowell a no and I got mighty kun but I'm still upset that night I'm saying the hundred dollars how could I be so dumb Weesa matter with that tailor they don't have a soap the thing properly sue the company where is it what's that company's name look in there I'm gonna write them a letter and we're gonna get the money back wrong way to go sure Sally Colts are key whatever happens happens a person has to know that they are in the seat of an individual that has a great bracha because Hashem cares about every single one of us every single day Hashem is seam lathe Hashem don't forget about nobody chef Esther Selma lived she was a great nurse great nurse in Eretz Israel she lived well over a hundred and one day she said I think I shouldn't forgot about me I said don't forget how cutter Kenosha yeah doesn't forget knows every person when we show our emunah when we show our belief we are so fair we are then privileged we then merit all the Bravo in the world in this school table emunah we have another case a Shem said benissa when they're standing by the river's edge maschera Boehner takes out a tell him share I'm alone me MA Hashem said no now is not the time for tea helium what do you do is Rambam Rambam says in a time of sauna time of any distress of any pain you call out to a sham you cry to a sham Hashem said no now is the time to show a Munna now is the time to jump now is the time to show that you believe now's the time that you join the club of mommy NIEM been a mommy name so two interesting thing the Gemara says when do you make a bracha over the gachami beautiful the rain it rained today right unbelievable God will your maximum greater is the day when it rains me on chanita nabo Torah it's greater than the day the Torah was given greater than the day in the future time that'll be three automating that the Dead will be resurrected greater than that day how could it be the day that it rains I wake up I see it's raining outside I pulled over to cover I said get up later you get it it's how is it today how's it outside it's Yaffe no Casa Shalom a person sees it's raining outside they should be male simcha they are happy rain comes the biggest Broadcom rain comes to our world we don't even realize it's unreal it is unreal it brings in all of the Brotherhood so when do you make the bracha interesting it says when the curtain goes to meet the caller that's when you make the bracha over rain what does that mean so it's interesting it says the lower waters raised up there's a whole scientific way to meet the upper waters and when they meet then you make the bracha this is symbolic a katana Nacala a boy and a girl could be from opposite sides of the world it could be people that are completely different you don't have to have somebody that came exactly from your city that has exact same friend that your mother knew and his mother knew and their mother and every doesn't have to be anything it could be total polar opposites they get together with one direction that they want to make things work that they want things should go well in this world it will work to people could be exactly from the same place they can grow up around the corner they knew each other the families knew each other and it may not work why because it's a moon on beat alone that's gonna make things work even an individual ghost or somebody totally opposite it doesn't matter interesting it says what happens family right number one thing that people argue over they shouldn't they're only a couple of things that people argue over in marriage right I don't argue personally but I know I heard from others they did do what's a one or two things number one mum may you did has it money money right yes this money so what happens individual starts to get money so the Talmud says that there is no lack of showing is only over escaped Fuwa about money so he says an interesting thing deema far assume the commentary say what do you mean over sk2 over the way that it's handled the business she says it's not the shot whether there's a lot of money whether it's a little money it can go some of the happiest people in this world don't have nothing in their house nothing you come in the house there's not much it's like I got on rebuked I'm Connie s key I've been saying I am it's like Baba sali he wouldn't keep anything in the house at one time he wouldn't go to sleep if there was any money there he gave it all away he would not keep any money that's a muna he gave it all away one night he couldn't go to sleep never how much did he sleep altogether so the family was going crazy white and go to sleep say he says there must be money in the house they turned the house upside down they pulled away a huge couch of the wall that never was pulled away something by accident a little coin came underneath if there was a coin in the house he couldn't go to sleep see that's a question if you're gonna give all your money away what are you gonna have the next day we're gonna have for a rainy day baba sali said no and moon on beat alone is you get rid of all of it you give away all your money I got some money in my wallet tonight aired please take it then the next morning I worry about it I knew that's a Munna that's Batak own is that the $70,000 we're talking about in the beginning of this year far cry from that that's mo na that's beautiful so it says that why is it that it's Al Eastgate wha because of the money that is in the house it's how they deal with the money it's how they understand the money do they take a little bit of money and say what abraca look what I have I can buy something to eat with it there are people that don't have what to eat what abraca I got a little bit of money I can take some of the money and I can give it away I can give it to taka I can sponsor a shear I can get us the hood for it I gotta tell you you don't even need to have money to give away money it's a big Shayla and Ani a poor person today I give to that car not well let me tell you the Achieva that I was at the is Shiva the great is Shiva's citronella they sent us one day to collect hard times they needed money so a group of us went to different place went to square town somebody opened the door in square town a lady she took a look at us and we said we're collecting for the Shiva she said one minute she goes inside she comes back she gives us an envelope an envelope already that's doing good you know the guy that give a dollar you know that someone gives you an envelope maybe she could be an honoree at the dinner right okay dick down below we're going down didn't open it up finally finally we're about to go back we made it the car opened up the envelope there were food stamps in the envelope she had nothing to give what's Ani what's poor with rich a guy wrote to me Russia shinai I wish I brought the card from a federal prison federal prison raising a little bit of money for people that needed money for Yom Tov federal prison he sent me a card inside the card he wrote Rebbe I'm sorry I have absolutely no money I cannot make any money whatever I have is taken for a little bit of food the only thing that I can do is to send you a postage stamp postage stamp and inside in a little white folder there's a postage stamp and he says please forgive me I hope will be the day that I could send you more I have this guy's card I'm willing to send you a copy anybody one see I tell you the truth whenever I feel bad about anything I just take out the card someone comes into the study and they tell me something I show are you less fortunate than that fellow and I show them the card that is what we're talking about escaped or how do we deal with it when it comes to us okay hi Mikasa Sherman bhavam so what is it about the rain so it's an interesting thing when the rain comes out is big broca's big blessing for all of us how do we know about when the rain comes down because the skies get real dark and the clouds come out and when you see the sky gets dark and the clouds come out you get nervous right oh it's dark it's good but you know what comes after that dark in those clouds the rain comes down from shamayim it comes down to all of us in the best bra coat happen for you and I that is what happens when a person goes through a difficult to Kufa maybe in marriage it's a little bit of a test it's a challenge to get past it to understand the other person they were brought up completely different I was brought up different than they were we weren't we're not like chatter at all so how do I accept it and how I accept the place where the wife came from where the husband came from and their men hugging and their customs and I'm so different than they are no you don't look at that you look at what your commonalities are you look at what you have in common you forge together you meet on a higher level and then there's total octyl so what does it say that of a person will understand that that even during the times of challenge great things will come about then already it's completely different a couple goes out a couple goes out they're going out to get married and unfortunately the guy came late okay you could come late some people's clock works better than others right you know it's a Shila by the way if you're giving a shear just want to tell you it's a Schuyler whether the Talmud or the Tommy that's allowed to take the clock it's 10 after 9 so you want them to stay longer if it's a good chair right so you want to put their hands back to 20 to 9 so the Rebbe takes a look at the thing and oh we got time but really it was over are you allowed to do it or not what do you say Vanessa got it you are allowed even though you think you're not allowed it's not like don't do it to me somebody else you can doing it the truth is not allowed but for Rebbe you could you want to learn more Torah you're allowed to put back the clock that's an amazing thing amazing thing when we are talking about understanding understanding the way that we have to operate with each other there's got to be complete understanding so the guy came late he came late it happened the girl happened to be a real yakin he walks in already the thing is gone that night I mean she's spitting fire it's just guys when I can do it the hi nice of you to show up okay okay they go in the car not a problem first of all he says I'm not exactly sure how to get to that place right okay it could be not everybody had a great sense of direction I was thinking maybe you could help me I have to help him he can't man up and take it he's supposed to be picking me up to go to thing I would I have to be in this relationship right kind of guy is this guy be a gotta be a man right okay that's a that's a second she's already toasted Dan problem happened the gauge for the gasoline was not exact so they sort of ran out of gasoline under highway could happen happens on the highway right by this time she's blowing smoke she's quite upset it's quite upset understandably I get to call the very next morning sometimes people and they're upset they don't even know two o'clock four o'clock it away Oh Rebbe is this early no I always wake up this time they answer the phone okay when she gets on the phone I got see my name I got my sign from Shah Mayan he came late he didn't know where he's going and now this is a final C Mon he ran out of gas on the highway Khepera now Hashem was saying this is obviously not the guy for you I said to her wrong this is a simin that it is for you it's a simin that you should take this guy and hurry up and make sure you get him engaged buy him a watch or whatever you buy so whatever has shops whatever is gonna get them why because when Denis your note when there are challenges in life that means that there's something important involved when a person wants to pick up I'll give them a tie and they want to start okay let me do it real quick guy let me get that cliff notes let me get the monarch on a row down there very good no it's going to take me going through it understanding it getting the I romics tray getting everything that I need understand English or note I'm thinking about understanding what's bothering Rush Ito sport it's gonna be a long journey but it's worthwhile because look what you get going out if there are few challenges that happen along the way then you know it's worthwhile if the first challenger person says ok that's it for me I'm gonna bail I'm jumping ship then the person does not understand things that are important things that are important there are obstacles there are Prevention's there are things on the road there are roadblocks that a person has to get over those hurdles are seen I are seen I kept a lotta Torah write machine I would happen in that time amazing amazing thing Hashem says has gotta be up on the mountain not a high high mountain but just Iceni a low mountain why why'd it have to be up on the mountain why couldn't I Shem say look I'll do it right on the valley right over here I'll do it in a place that's easy why because Hashem said you want to go you want to achieve something you want to get Torah you got to go up the mountain me I'll add vodka Cho Basham who goes up that mountain you gotta extend you got to be careful your footings got to be even you've got to go and raise yourself up listen I like to do certain things that it doesn't say in at or at it you're really allowed to do it you know so in order to be make a belt or I know I got to do it right I guess I got to do it it's a hard thing there are obstacles on the way and then the night before Kabbalah totora anybody here you go on an exciting trip night before your wedding night before your engagement night before your allelic doula you graduate night before any important occasion happens I don't know about you but I can't go to sleep no way doesn't matter how much wine you drink yeah I guess you're waiting for the next morning you can't wait right night before Kabbalah the Torah single greatest event in are you soil what was greater come a lot Satara next morning everyone's sleeping I shouldn't have to wake up listen rowboat I there is an occasion today everybody's gonna come to a show wakes everybody up please could you come to the Iceni it's good time for Kabbalah totora why why obstacles that's why we stay up every every year that's the whole reason we stay up at night we show us them that we are ready willing and able to be mcevil Torah so in the area of she do him in the area of Shalom bayit in getting along and understanding the greatness of Hashem has placed in our midst there are gonna be obstacles there are going to be difficulties they're gonna be hardships cause um there's gonna be things that I'm gonna have to get through in order to be much left in order to be successful Cheveley platonic become seven times it's something's gonna fall down seven times I'm gonna try seven times I'm gonna go out seven years I'm gonna go out seven times I'll go to the marriage thing seven times I'll go to the therapist seven times and it felled and I made seven new starts and it didn't work here come but the next time you'll be much Leah listen to this ain't a hoodie rabbits a dog haquyen Allahu Teala Thea ich mich um d'Ivoire a Jew should never ever despair no matter what happens in this world no matter what happens no matter how bleak no matter how difficult no matter how cloudy the day is or dark is the night bein being an a a goof whether it's dealing with the body like hazael say I feel Oh herro cada una cut outs Amaro Sheila Dom even a sharp sword is resting on a person's neck right person don't give up you know Rockley could be the last second never give up never give in never say I'm done never throw in the towel never say it's too much for me never say I can't those words got to be taken out not in our lexicon never I have to say I'm going to go until the last second interesting beim being an A&M fish even a person go to the lowest level the hut abode of America's all and they sinned in something that our great sages have said Shane to violet that Chava will not help custer shalom OSHA to vacasa or the Chuba is very difficult oh sure OA at smo or the person sees that they have reached a level i'll no matter what happens a person should never give up shal oh you're home I can't do it anymore I'm not able to I can't separate from this I'm in a bad state I'm in a stupor I'm lost key a Macomb the huge cloud there is no place to give up a cell issue hoody by a Jewish man or a Jewish woman when a person reads the words of rarebit said oak so then we realized that there is no way that we are ever ever allowed to give up no matter what happens no matter how bad it seems an interesting question was asked in the times of the Holocaust and at the time of the Holocaust there were many people that were unfortunately so oppressed so tortured that they had a question whether they were allowed to just put themselves in harm's way to give up to give up on their life and to say I had enough in Kosak erotic I'm a mourner Kaylee mother made I can't do it anymore the question was asked several times to the Chaillot to chew vote my mama came to the great robbery said sorry glabrata and also to the robbed of Kovno could they give up their life could they do it in order to come to cover you sir l to make sure they had a Jewish burial rather than being in a heap somewhere rather than their families witnessing their torture rather than being killed in front of everyone the answer came back no a complicated intricate answer using them of fortune no a person may never ever be my maid at smaller dot that is where we hold that is our level never ever to give up that a person has to be very strong and go ahead and show their Emunah when you show your Emunah even at the last second the last second doesn't matter it wasn't going good she Dukan weren't going good the marriage wasn't going good but a person shows that they don't give in even after the last second even after the time they didn't give in they get a big bracha that the whole situation changes let me just give you a quick piece in the Talmud the Talmud tells us it was the time of a leotta Raguel everybody was coming to you shall I am there was no water available in you shall I knock demon ben-gurion who was exceedingly wealthy approached a person who was a great diplomat and he said please lend me 12 whales of water he'll repay him with the twelve wells of water by a certain date otherwise he'll give him 12 measures twelve measures of silver they fixed the date when knock demon would pay back for all of the water that he borrowed for Claudia Sorrell the time for the repayment came it came to be that day the deadline was nightfall huh what happened the man came to him and he said knock demon it's a day it's the last day pay me pay me now demon said ona yo God o the day is still big the day is still mine he sent them in afternoon okay pay me it's already afternoon time is up pay me he said no still time left No rain fell through the whole year and he said knock demon you think rain is gonna fall now it didn't fall the whole day already in the afternoon not emo and went into the beit midrash and he prayed well um you know that i did the water i got all of the water that i borrowed for cloudy so none it will die' not for my honor not for my own kavod i did it only for Klaus RAL not for the honor of my father's house only for the Olay réguel all the good Jews that were coming through shall I'm immediately the sky became dark filled with clouds and the rain came and the twelve bare twelve pits were filled with water there was even water left over when Hashem had finally the man came out to collect he came to knock demon and he said I will tell you something I know that it was dark how did it get light it was dark how is it possible Hashem had the Sun break through the clouds after it was already dark after was already night the the first mass a question why did not the moon wait until the last minute he could have come in early in the morning special minion for Chaka Reed everybody come let's go we'll make a Nate's minion out of the hole Queens everyone will come from all the places and we're gonna meet we're gonna have specialty law everybody will fast on that day and we're gonna bring the rain why did he wait until the night why did he wait until not there person kept saying where's the water pay me back the interesting answer is is because not until a person already waited and showed their Emunah after the Sun went down after it was the deadline after said I got no hope anymore the Sun went down that's it I'm done doc diamond didn't give up he went to the Beit Midrash he prayed with his entire being with his whole heart and soul interesting it says ASHRAE L Yaakov Ezra happy is the person that the Hashem of Yaakov is his help what does it say there Sivir o Allah Shem a local his hope is Hashem the zora Kadosh says don't read it see fro but read it shivrang broken he is broken he is a person that has nothing that has already given up but he doesn't give up totally he gathers his strength he grabs onto a Shem and Hashem takes him Hashem helps him the way that we should approach any type of Chillon bias matter of any type of concern is with full emunah in full be Tejon and muninn be Taccone is knowing that Hashem in Sequoia Hall Hashem can make anything happen no matter where a person is that no matter what a person is going through Hashem can turn it in to a positive Hashem can bring the blessing out of nowhere hyah - Mt Sora is the hand about Shem ever too short to cause all the Bronco to happen for a person when we have the moon on when we have beat alone it brings every bracha I have a moon I ever beat alone there's nothing that is not accomplished for me there's nothing that is beyond there is nothing that I cannot do as long as I have that in my mind and I just would like to tell you it goes in a number of different ways there was a person okay happen to be an individual and she wished she wished to get into the family of Avraham Avinu now very interesting to get in the family of a rama v no it's not so simple I would like to go to get into the family of Rabbi Yosef I want to get into the family of Rome Konkani s key I to get in the family I'll calm yourself I like to get into the family not so simple a persistent bazooka can you imagine Avraham Avinu the shock on him were calling of Rama V know day and night we got this girl we got that guy right there was a woman the team now hoist up allegedly fa's team na was a pledge to a leaf us Benny South but tailor Lily Fonz esta my leg unfortunately I male came out the greatness of our ROM was the people wanted to be in Avraham Avinu 's family they wanted to be part of it they wanted to have a piece of the rock so what happened so there we see that team that said you know what I'm not gonna get into that family I'm not gonna become an actual like a daughter or daughter-in-law whatever it is so she said you know what I could be a pledge I could be a blackish I could be like a wife right a belief us she struggled and struggled and didn't let it out of her mind and continue to press on and continued and continued she had one goal in mind and muna Salema that she was going to be and she ended up and she was that she became the pledge how because she had a goal she had a muna I'm gonna do it impossible II come any part of a rama v no no there is nothing that's impossible once a person has a muna once a person does not let any negativity any cynicism doesn't read the things that are cynical or negative about anything and a person remains positive and they remain Emunah imam in bosch m uber toronto an awesome story they can accomplish anything in the world so she did however she was not exactly exactly lachemann the way that she did it she also did it in a way that was too aggressive it was unfortunately with Action News and because of that it did not have good results but what we do see is that a person has a moon on Batak own they can accomplish even the impossible you see that from people they survived all types of things how did they do it Khoa Ivan Munna ASHRAE hammam in happy is the person when we're going out and we have a moon Asha Lima about what we're doing deletion without any doubting without any person saying I'm not sure and the question and maybe no I know been moon ash Lima Shalom by it is possible even though 10 years went down down the road and there hasn't been any good days my gosh Lima Yeshua Tosh am okay if I and can happen in a half a second and so there was the owner of a jewelry store exclusive jewelry store a little girl came in and he thought she's looking for this store you know everything for a dollar they have that store everything for a dollar they see the little girl walk in and he had only the most expensive items but the way she was looking at the case he knew that she was very serious was strange little girl walk into an expensive jewelry store and she sees in the case all of a sudden she says I would like to see that piece a very outstanding piece of jewelry the mayor didn't want to embarrass anybody he carefully took the jewel out from the lock case he put it on top of velvet and she looked at it he said to her very nicely you should know we don't sell toys here we don't sell toys here this is very expensive jewelry the cheapest that we have is over thousands column the girl said I have money she whispered I have money even if she had money was he allowed to sell an expensive piece to that young girl where'd the money come from where would she go with the jewelry to whom in the future would he have to give an invis Hegeman and accounting of why sold it the girl was very happy that she found what she was looking for it was exactly what she wanted she took out her money to pay she had a little wrapped up bag and she took her money out carefully wrapped she had about seven Scully and a little bit of change the shopkeeper when he saw it he nearly choked he didn't have the heart to tell her that way is the door there's the exit he said to her patiently this jewelry cost over two thousand five hundred Scully you have only seven Scully H Scully at most do you understand he said gently you should go home and when you'll get another 240 thousand then you should come back when you'll have the money she said this is all the money I have I don't have more the shopkeeper became interested in what she was here for so he said tell me why do you need that piece of jewelry she said to him my mother died when my mother died there was no one to take care of us in the house have an older sister my older sister cooks in the house she cleans in the house she washes my clothing she gets me dressed in the morning she makes my hair she ties the roll to ribbons at night sometimes I'm a little scared she sits on my bed she holds my hand she tells me a story it is her birthday we don't have anything to make a birthday party for her so we're going to have a few cookies I want to buy for her a present to show my hakarat hatov my appreciation as soon as she concluded the words broke through to the heart of the jeweler he took that jewel he wrapped it up carefully in a box put fancy wrapping paper on it and said to her Mazel Tov take it she went she took it the next day her sister's birthday she proudly gives this little girl the sister the birthday present the sister opens it up and says where did you get this from how much was it and she explains that she gave her little money for it the next day the older girl the sister went to the jewelry store and she said could I ask you how much did my sister pay you for this your sister she paid in full the Micra said she paid all the money because sometimes the heart is worth more than all the gold Robert I remember it is for us to know the heart is worth more than anything inside of our heart it's got to be full of em una full of it the hoenn with that you can buy jewelry with that you can get the best you do with that you can have the bed Sholem buy it with that you can bring Michelle it takes the heart [Music] you [Applause]