Fabrengen Gimmel Tamuz 5779, Rabbi YY & Rabbi Pinson: Cultivating a Gulah Conciousness

the yeshiva.net [Music] welcome [Music] wowbody a good a good vibrate vibrate I want to welcome my dear friend RAB Dober Pinson who's gracing this for bran together with me and all of us and I want to welcome all of you here I want to welcome to rashak K who's here with us and uh all of the guests all of the locals and all of the residents and all of the guests who are here both physically and virtually make yourselves comfortable I want to share with you a story I want to share with you two stories both I heard from the people themselves who had happened with and they left a deep impact on me I think they contained very profound and relevant lessons in today's world I had a congregant in a his name is manim lei a son of the a grandson of the founder of okay some of you remember Rabbi barl leevy Bernard Ley yeah a grandson of his and he shared with me a story that happened with him and then his mother filled in the gaps it was summer it was a hot hot very hot day in July or August 1978 you know the humidity right the July and August humidity of a smeltery summer day in Brooklyn and uh manim leevy was a 4- year- old boy and he was playing around on Eastern Parkway if you're familiar with the geography of brookin and Crown kns he was playing around that e parkway his family happened to be there too his grandparents the last name deut came from Yim to visit and they were all there on the Parkway and the LA walked out shabas afternoon was a few hours after Shak M he walked to go home to make kdes to have the meal with his rabbitson and Le was holding on to the hand of his mother she was he was a four-year-old boy as he saw the rebba walking on the parkway he tore himself away from his mother and he ran over to the LA gave him his hand for gabas but then to shake away the Reb's hand like they were having a competition who can shake harder pulling his capot shaking his hand and walking with him good chabas and starting to walk with him and shaking his hand nonstop as his mother told me later she told me a number of years ago she says I was I was absolutely horrified by the disrespect by the I never saw the side of my son this aggressiveness and he's not letting the re go he's just shaking his hand on and on finally I got him I got him to uh leave the rebba alone and the Reb moved on and I was so uh I was so disturbed by what I felt was really disrespectful to such a great man that shabas right after havdala was par P I sat down she this Mrs Levy told me I sat down and I wrote an apology note on behalf of myself I apologize that my four-year-old behaved disrespectful and I asked my husband to give in the note to the LA now those whoever wrote a letter to the Reb especially in later years know that if an answer was more than a few words it was unique the Reb wrote very very briefly extremely concisely sometimes he would answer letters not even by writing anything but by changing a word and some of the biggest I heard from Rabbi Jonathan Sachs for example he didn't know if he should accept the offer to become Chief Rabbi of the United Kingdom in 1990 so he penned the letter to the LA and he finished the letter Pros the cons should I accept the position of Chief Rabbi the rabbi didn't even answer he just exchanged the should for the ey the should and the ey he reversed the order in other words now it read I should accept the position of Chief RAB and that was enough and the rest as they say is history rebba was extremely meticulous and precise and concise with words she expected either the wouldn't answered it wasn't the point he should answer or he'll say don't worry it's fine the de wrote her back that night the same night she told me two hours later she got a call from his secretary RAB K one of the Reb secretaries and he dictated a long answer the wrote shab is right when he got it she gave me a copy of it and I want to read it to you I printed a copy of it that I got from this mother who received this answer she wrote she's an Israeli woman so she wrote in Hebrew she wrote an I am um sorry I'm aggravated I'm in pain by what my child did so the Reb circled the words on he made a question mark and an exclamation point and then he wrote In other words why are you in why are you upset why are you sorry to the contrary this was a tremendous source of delight and joy for me there's no way to even describe the enormous depth of the heartfelt the hearts and the Simplicity and the wholesomeness and the sincerity and the truthfulness the authenticity of a child and that's why it caused me so much pleasure I wish that adults would at least behave in a similar way to this boy especially when you learn in the various of and about what children are what they represent especially that this boy knew exactly when to do it it was how does the I remember hasem says I remember the grace the love when you were a child when you were a n the grace of Youth the innocence of Youth may you raise this boy and all of your children and descendants to a life of tah to a life of marriage ultimate life of good deeds and then he concludes which startled me ask and I'm going to mention this on the resting at the resting place of my of my father-in-law how to look at a child what a lesson how to look at a child how to see a child how to appreciate a child and how to invest in a child we live in a culture in a time where people have often so little time for children even their own children WhatsApp Trump's children everything Trump's children there's so much everything going on that ability to be able to tune in and to embrace the world of a child episode number two I was visiting Sydney Australia and there was a rabbi there name was Rabbi sabransky and I uh was in his I was I met him and he told me I want to share something with you that something that happened to me in the 1980s and he shares with me the following experience he said I had a pressing dilemma in my life and I decided to pen a letter to the reab this is before the days of emails it was just the beginning of the days of faxes but you sent a mail snail mail that some people don't even know what that is you write a letter you put it in an envelope you know what that is you put in an envelope you stamp it especially from Australia you send it and you hope a month later a few weeks later you may get a response today if you don't get the response within 5 seconds it's a question on the Friendship but then you could wait two months for a response three months for a response yeah and people thought before they wrote too that was another Advantage so he sat down to write a letter to the LA in his home and he told me that he had a two and a halfy old boy who was sitting on the floor and playing around he was making pictures playing with crayons or with Lego and uh in his in in his own style the little boy turns to his father says tati what are you doing doing so he says I'm writing a letter to the Reb so the 2 and 1 halfy old says I also want to also want to write a letter to the re okay so he gives him a paper and he takes his pen and he scribbles scribbles a whole picture it takes him a while a few minutes he does this whole scribble on the paper he says to his father here this is my letter father looks at it this was a 2 and A2 what we call art of a 2 and a halfy old that you put on the refrigerator you know what it looks like right pictures of faces and pictures of noses and the attempt to draw Waters and rivers and homes and the family you all know what those pictures look like you keep them on the refrigerator until the next picture he looks at this and he's about to seal his own letter and he's like I can't send this to the rabbit I'm going to send him a scribble of a child so he thought to himself just you know cast it in the dust bin but at second thought he tells me he says I thought maybe I shouldn't mix in my son said he wants to write a letter to the Reb this is what he gave me maybe I shouldn't mix back and forth but it's the Reb's time was so precious I don't know if you know that re could receive between 500 and a th000 letters a day just to open up the envelopes himself CU they were private used to answer almost every single letter and that was not even the main work that Reb did so I thought every moment is precious he has to now deal with this this Scribble of my child it's unfair it's not nice no I'm throwing it out and then he says on second thought I shouldn't interfere in the relationship between a child and his own Reb so he tells me he decided to send it to send it as well he sends them both off to America from Sydney Australia 3 weeks later he opens the mail and and there's a letterhead an envelope on top it says laich but he sees two envelopes that come from laich from Eastern Parkway from Brooklyn to he opens up one it's a letter to him addressed to him with a title and responds to your letter the answers to his questions and a blessing he opens up the second letter and he showed me the letter the second letter is addressed to his son his son's name was y it reads as follows the young buing know I want to say the young man we wasn't exactly a young man the young budding flower may you be well shom peace and blessings which in English would be yourit your literally the Redemption of your soul the letter which you conveyed your soul was received and when I go to the resting place to the to the oil of my father-in-law the previous whose name was I'm going to go there and I'm going to read your uh your message your P to him and he concludes with a blessing to this to this young man I once shared this story last year I was at an event and somebody gets up when I finish the story and he says I'm the boy I didn't know he was an audience he's an audience I'm the boy and when I saw it I thought to myself I'm looking at a piece of paper and I see scribble all I see scribble but aad a Reb looks at the same scribble and what does he see he sees a p neish he sees the soul of a child sometimes you look at a child you can dismiss words pictures statements even trouble just scribble it's meaningless but if you look a little deeper you may find there aidion nees and I think this was one of the Hallmarks or one of the teachings of the Bal were commemorating the 25th of how much to take your children seriously to be emotionally present for them to be able to tune in into their inner world of course children are still children children are children but you know adults are also children but children are not just children that you dismiss and you just give another toy to distract them or put them in front of a video children are real people they're souls and today we know what Terra has taught thousands of years that the formative years of a child are in many ways so much more crucial than anything else the years between 1 2 3 4 5 those years when it's a child you know just entertain him take care of his needs or her needs but really those are the child those are the years when the the core is developed Reb would always give an example about education about the roots of a tree if I scratched a trunk or a branch or a leaf it's not so bad but if you make a scratch in the root it can completely destroy or damage or affect the entire tree cuz you went back to the core you say something to an adult you have to be sensitive but you say something to a child you're now dealing with the roots and when you're dealing with the roots it's everything it's everything and that's why education for him was so Paramount it's really at the essence of our relationship to Children the first message thatu told him so I think there's a very powerful lesson here for for us with our own children or our students and our disciples listen to your children listen to your children and celebrate them celebrate their lus their ptos their tus and their amus you have to understand what the four words exactly mean lus the heartfelt the Simplicity the wholesomeness and the amus the truthfulness of a child and we should all be able to find our own inner child and have that same heartfelt and earnestness and sincerity and tus and amus imagine if we would be able at some point to sometimes shed the need to be sophisticated and have the ability to dance like a child cry like a child laugh like a child celebrate like a child be sincere as a child be authentic as a child [Music] la la la la la [Music] you heard the story [Music] my [Music] la la [Music] la la la [Music] am [Music] [Applause] la [Music] la la la la la [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] la la la la la la la la la la la la la la la [Music] what [Music] h [Music] [Applause] [Music] like hey [Music] oh rich hey [Music] s hey la [Music] [Applause] [Music] the e [Music] sh [Music] [Applause] is L like k B [Music] tell you something interesting and the mo was this you know yeah and not only that but the en you know yeah yeah my name is it's all good yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah no [Music] just the Bring It's a um it's not a single it's not a single action you can't do it alone for br you need everyone to participate everyone say everyone's looking at me like saying something I mean you should not say you should people say no no I mean the you have to you have to participate you know he ran away sense oh said three for the first of all when you give somebody you have to say yourself that's you know everyone knows the story about no he leaves the table and he plants a Vineyard and he gets sh how does he have uh how does he have the The Vines The Grapes it's a new world everything is destroyed so is that when before he went into the T he knew that he's going to be saved so he prepared himself so when he's getting out of the table he's going to make and he little so what went wrong so it's a good thing according to trying to create a so what went wrong you know went wrong he said himself yourself everything goes downhill from there say together giml Thomas you know by the Yad or Y in general is called the idea of refers to this is all talking about but the says the calls talks about call means usually a day of Celebration Day celebration to they to be happy we say but I think there's there's another that's very before should startop stop everything that I'm saying I'm saying to myself that you should know I think I said this last time say again means that so I want to talk to myself and I Do by the way I talk to myself but I'm sitting here in front of the mic I'm talking myself loudly so you can accept what I say or not and it's so you can tell me your ideas and your interjections your comments yeah so there's an idea when you think about I think Lula the passing yite so there's two ways how to to this idea one is especially for the people that saw the re was see to be for many years so a lot of it creates Nostalgia memories I remember when this happened and that happened and uh recalling different stories events but it's like a a time for Nostalgia some people nostalgic talk stories and generally Nostalgia brings up a lot of sadness because it was once you don't see it physically anymore so for the person that experienced it it brings up sadness for the person that didn't experience it it's it's m okay it's stories there was aad that lived in this world so it also brings up maybe sadness but anyone that knows a little bit about the re would know that the Reb was a person this is all the that didn't talk about the past at all wasn't nostalgic person in contrast to other ebos that spoke about this happened that bich and this happen his biography was not relevant to anybody never told stories about his youth he said he had three famous few stories that he hled over but nothing didn't talk he went through the Holocaust never spoke about the war maybe once twice how many times I'm not sure but my days when I was listening he never spoke about it because the oil this is maybe we have to be momic a little bit to go a little bit deeper to understand this there's the O of Gus and there's the O of gula there's the Gus mentality and there the Gul mentality the Gus mentality by definition Gus means that it's it's it's bad and in this place of and in this place of darkness and confusion and emptiness and void in that you can find some more you avoid the you're really tempted to eat this piece of cake but you probably SC that's the little o in the you're really not such a good person you struggle with your Darkness you can find some o this is Gus this the mentality of gas but there's is an O of gula the O of gula started to be brought down as everyone knows with the with that there was a new Gil in this world and then this Gill of this oil that came down to this world it revealed a new type of way of a new way of thinking about things a new way of looking at life a new way of looking at yourself a new way looking at the world not from a place of gas from place of gula the there gas and Gul this go and G the of and of gas and Gul have the same letters gim gim means g means to reveal so there's a revealing of which is a a revealing of Gus and then there's a a revealing of gim it's a different type of revealing this the that lives in Gus what's the state of Gus gas is not only a physical thing physically Eng goas we're talking goas but it's also a state of mind and a state of perception and and and ontologically and how we think about things and Gus is the gal that's revealed the Gus that's revealed in the hay what's the hay the ha is alaz or if you want to use the O of the maral the hay is the D and the yud what's the D do is a do confar it's the four the four corners of the world the clol is spread out through all Dal and in the four corners of the world in the the and the corners and the edges in that place there's a sliver ofus of Y of the Y and that yud reveals that in the that's G so what what condition am I in I'm in gas and I find some type of connection to G in my life some type of connection to the O of the ud this is Gus this is the mentality of gas it's fet it's the past it's dark all you can do in gas is nostalgic you can remember you know what what do you remember when you were younger okay so some people it's 25 years they don't remember they have no memory some people were not connected they were alive they were not connected and some people were connected and still connected and we alive but we don't want to live in the past why want you live in the past because the past is Gus why you want to live in gas and you want to be mcoser you want to connect yourself to the oil that's in the present and in the future the AI that comes down to this world brings a new o into this world brings a new light the the O that's brought into this light is revealed in every aspect of life Jacobson spoke about that's a PR but but we and it's it's PR you have to understand the pr and sometimes you go from the pr to the cloud sometimes you go into details and you you pick up all the pr and then you say ah this is the cloud this is what was revealed but we want to connect to the oil to the cloud so we should know how to act in every single aspect of our life because we're connected to the O and therefore it's expressed in our voem how we relate to our children you relate to your wife and to your house and to your parents and how you do business and how you sit and learn everything because you connected to the O the O the O is not an o that was it's an o that is said this there's certain sikim that come into this world that they they they they're standing like 11 and Cedar like a strong pillar of Faith they uphold what what is there certain big and thead in his generation that's that's connects to that that strength and does it to the maximum level and he becomes the in this world he upholds the status quo and then there's come in this world to create a to create an unfolding of a new o that doesn't mean that they don't uphold but with a new A New Perspective a new way of looking at it and that oil never ends the O that was revealed by the Raj and the O that was revealed by the the O revealed bym it's not that it was it was one that was no the is present if you live in the and the is present and the same thing also we talk about you talk about it's Tak time of Celebration and doesn't mean that it's not painful because also is a little G in every one of us that is nostalgic and does remember and but I think the would want people to connect to the o to the light to the to the life to the highest to connect to the oil is to connect to something that's vibrant and something that's alive something that's present and connect to the G aspect of it this the Gus is the G of the do and the do conf of the a small little or that you can find in the in every single aspect of your life that's you're and you're dark and and it's trauma whatever and you find a little lawyer and then the Gul is you take the Al and that becomes the foundational level foundational letter it's the G stands on the AL the G stands on the AL means not that there's there's a gal of the he which means that there's a revealing of the ud within the dalad but it's revealing of the to live with hm's presence in a revealed way to see in this world to see the world the way it really is the way it really is that the world is is is a part of hasem it's part of ab's expression like and and this world is is is is this is this this place that will be revealed for there'll be a time that we're able to see this in our own lives so we have to make ourself a little biter to the the the in English it's called paradigm shift a new way of thinking there's a there's a that came down to this world and you can be You Can Be You Can Be You can sit in darkness your whole life and and you can D and you can learn and you can do to mitz but still gas and the O that was that began with the or of was finalized and revealed in a very gtic way the O of the re the O that's revealed to change the whole perception of what it means to be a human being what it means to be a what and to see the the G in this world to see the lus in this world so suggestion the only way we can do this if we do it together that that when a person does something alone so there's a lot of denim when something is singled out there's denim Mish minion something that's counted something that's measured something that's defined doesn't have a br cuz you off why do you deserve it I don't know maybe I don't but if you become part of a tior become part of the collective speaks about the minion of and the sh beginning of is how's how's it possible there be a when your counting them and Counting them is the opposite of ab thean writes the beginning of that was counted the beginning of the that there was counting that brought them that they came in front of they received right probably someone who learns knows this it's so how's there because the comes says the before they count it and after they count it because after they count they became part of the they became part of the then there's no denim anymore so when you fa you want to connect to the cloud want to connect to the oil we want to to a place that's beyond in but to do that we have to this is one together so you ready but to be ready you have to say you have to say or you have to be as if you said doesn't you don't have to actually drink alcohol that's St nonsense to drink alcohol is just an excuse for your body to know that it can relax and it doesn't have to start overthinking but if you can be you have to be in have to be brain together oh maybe someone should be talking to thank you for taking care of the is sitting with his hands folded yob we have to make a mat because the is sitting here and [Music] it [Music] this [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] la [Applause] [Music] know [Music] la [Music] I I I am [Music] [Applause] [Music] my [Applause] [Music] say la la la [Music] la la la la la [Music] [Applause] la [Music] am [Music] la la la hey [Music] know [Music] hey la [Music] I'm calar says [Music] not hey [Music] sh [Music] be [Music] the [Music] hey [Music] B [Music] the motion [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] I want to share with you a story Rabbi Pinson spoke about Paradigm shifts Paradigm shifts or in the language of uh or in the language of man I don't know the language of M yet I'm learning but uh in the language of uh of the b or the bat it's an right a new light a new a new energy A New Perspective July 4th also a new day also A New Perspective so in the fourth section of asks why it [Music] says in his words if's eyes are focused on from the beginning of the year till the end of the year so that means it's always because the beginning of the year till the end of the year means always because every year it's from the beginning of the year to the end say it t it right one word t it not beginning of the year till the end of the year so he says over there that theat is that every ER of at the end of the year the light the the Divine energy goes back up goes back up into the source and it comes down into the world will explain the difference of that this light never ever existed and came down from the beginning of creation so it's not t and at the end of the year it's over and a whole new Earth comes in so that means you have to be able so that's why it doesn't say tomit that's why it doesn't say t because then it would just mean it's the consistent a consistent energy but it's not the same light and how how do you become receptive to This Light you have to open yourself up to new possibilities but everybody knows that to open yourself up to new possibilities is always very challenging in the world of business they speak about different zones your father talks about this right there's different zones there's the Zone there the comfort zone Zone there's the fear zone right there's the fear Zone which doesn't let you leave the comfort zone and then what else the this is and after the fear Zone anybody knows from experience what happens after the fear Zone huh how old are you he says Thea I'm trying to explain this to the adults maybe you want to come give the she in the morning where's your father I think we have to have a conversation by litzman ah gal okay know the end Su huh and then there's the success Zone at the end but to get to there you have to open yourself up to the Earth so one of the most beautiful things in T is we say every morning this CL or Pratt this Pratt or CLW right this you know what all these things mean so says CL is always the claw is the first Claw is of it's co everything it's the Oneness the Pratt is the individuated energy that becomes very specific thises my life does your life there's your issues and all of creation is about the pr that came from the claw but the purpose of it is to go back to the claw without compromising the pr you understand what I'm saying in t also there's the CL of so the says body asked him say what it could have said and everything else what's this God is going to be saying a lot of things you can go through if you're doing and a lot of stuff all the words Lamer is that a person should be able to experience the claw so you go from the claw to the Pratt to the claw and the ability to be able to take every Pratt back to the claw is really the the going back to the to the light that comes out from every PR when you link the pr to the claw so sometimes so the Reb's teachings were very much focused on this what I'm saying the CLA the Pratt and the clown in it was the of in every Pratt he saw a clown there's a sanedrin I think I don't know sanedrin but the re used to quote this very often so I know it brings if your Reb is teaching and two students ask questions let's say he's talking about or percentage somebody asks a question about yeah if my laptop is on my chair by the dining room table Friday night what do I do it's a good question what do you do with the laptop what do you do with a screwdriver if the candle the life is on the and I want to clean up what do I do good questions how do you deal with M and then another person comes to the Reb and says uh are you allowed to celebrate July 4th according to right or better in July 4th he asked about Thanksgiving dinner if you allow to have turkey with cranberry sauce so may says you answer first the person who's asking kinan the person who's asking on the topic you ask answer him first disagree you know why they say no there's no no no no no precedence to anybody one person is asking why here are the words of the there's no such thing am talking about and you're asking me about Z I'm talking about ribbers and you're asking me about ch or t or t so you have to figure that out but it's it's one that's the claw the ability to go to the and go back to the claw and see it within the individuality is really the Utopia of seeing in every detail everything and today we see it in science the DNA right in every single cell there's 40 50 trillion cells in a body but in every single cell you know how tiny your cell is in every cell you have a double copy of the manual for the entire organism is an organism it's a human being and in every detail you see everything in a Tad's life in a small detail you could see a claw so I'm telling you a story it's one story it's a pratt but this Cloud Pratt and coming back back to the clown had a [Music] custom he would distribute cake whoever wanted to come take a piece of honey cake and give them a blessing for anybody who was there but a lot of people would come on so he would do again the end of explained in Zoya would stand at a had a su there near 770 Eastern Park and he would give Le honey cake was one year sh the rebba was standing and distributing honey cake the lines were very very long thousands of people flocked all types of people but it moved pretty fast because most would get a honey cake a and move on there were three people in the line one person from whom I heard the story name name is Rabbi Ley booket he lives in Chicago and he was the mut he was the intermediary in front of him was what you would call A Classic hippie his hair extended from his head far far down very unkempt and his whole SE his whole gestal his physique was one that displayed the fact that he's proud to be a true hippie of hippie culture behind RAB B was a rash who was a a very distinguished and prominent what brought him there something interesting theed away you were there August 1979 till satma appointed a new reab took some time I think a year or a year and a half so that edim Kipper that edim Kipper this was he wanted a so he decided to take the trip from Williamsburg to Crown Heights and get a piece of from it's a long line and the hippie goes by the Reb gives him a piece of honey cake blesses him and then he turns to this Jew with long hair young man and says where are you planning to be by the hakus he asked this Jew she says I don't have any [Laughter] plans no kidding right so the rebbi says these words it would be a privilege for me if you would come dance here with me in the sh together with so many other Jews we'll dance together on some it would be a privilege the man wasn't impressed he says what you say in English you know what do you say in English when you're not interested we'll see you know complete non-committal which basically is a nice way of saying it was nice seeing you we'll see we'll see and he left he went on right after that book it moved on and the SAT comes he saw all this the Reb gives him a piece of H cake and says good and sweet out of the blue he turns to him and he says you learn now to ask if he learns is like to ask a brisker if he learns gzz stencils if he learns it's like asking a if he learns T you learn was written by title he's considered the founder of the dynasty of sat he was the r of U in Hungary eel and he wrote a beautiful so the Reb is asking this if he learns so he says of course Lear so he said you so you remember the story that he writes in his to he tests him say that story he doesn't remember so the Reb is standing there and there were thousands of people waiting the line stopped he tells him the story he tells him the whole story that a called it's a story that he heard from his who was hisab yeah he heard it from his reab who was the SE ofin the ofin who was a student of the M which was the famous he used to call because he was a would say so he said he heard this from the there was was a tal of the B his father was a yid named uh d right when he came up to heaven he says he heard from the that rash rash came to greet the father of so he says why do I owe the this why do I get this honor as you should come greet me so he says it's in honor of your son and I have a question he creates a that nobody else do creates he creates a commotion in heaven like nobody else there's a pleasure that he gives hasem that nobody else gives I want to know what does he do so the father tells Rashi with a lot of Pride you know when somebody asks you about your child you know how did he become so great so he says my son he learns he learns t for the sake of Heaven day and night soash says gal but there other Jews who learn Terra so he says my my son fasts M shabas shabas he's completely Beyond materialistic Pleasures he fasts could be from a week to a week rash says wow but there's other Jews I know they don't create this tremendous Ruckus In Heaven so he says to Rashi my son also distributes enormous amounts of money that he collects to widows to poor people to destitutes dtit Jews who are destitute to orphans Rashi says listen but there are another few Jews who also give tremendous amounts of there something singular unique about your child your son and the pleasure he brings to the what is it so the father tells actually does one more thing and he quotes three words from the three wordsim May which literally means my son brought back many many Souls from a life of sin back to says heard that was satisfied Rashi was content the Reb looks at this I saw that you were quite taken AB back and astounded by how I spoke to this person in front of you so I'm telling you what says how Rashi was satisfied the man was flab aasted there were thousands of people in the line he was taken a back based on his education and his background it was very difficult for him to appreciate what the was doing he is a kid with long hair tattoos piercings earrings MF yeah tat piercings I don't know exactly but it wasn't exactly theic look let's put it that way very not like it what what's this and the was sensitive to the feelings of this who came to see him and could not deal with it could not tolerate he couldn't understand it so he told them the story from the title that she heard a bunch of things when she heard that clenched it if Rashi was content you can also be content and the S looks at the and says [Laughter] I understand what you're saying very well and said was before and he moved on the story has a little postcript book shared with me at night that would dance for many hours it was really an electrifying experience to be by by the Reb when the Reb would leave night it was very late cuz he start only at 1: in the morning because for a few hours before there was a BR that night from 9:00 till around midnight or later and then they would prepare the sh for our our would start around 1:30 in the morning or 1: in the morning and then it would go for a few hours the Reb would leave it could be 3 in the morning 3:30 in the morning 4 in the morning many would stay on to dance till Shak they would just dance and dance and dance it was quite a scene it wasn't no alone it was lot a lot of people Rabbi bit I heard this fromit he says it was around 5: in the morning the re already left Aus and he's about to leave himself he wants to get a few hours of sleep two three hours of sleep before Shak because tomorrow there would be another by the was something out of this world was it was something uh very even hard to describe he would dance for hours but there was not a not a not a tip ofus it was with such with suchas it was incredible just to see it was like a revelation of of Kad in this world that was incredible and uh for hours dance and dance and dance the remember the was dancing in his high 80s and the couldn't keep up there were 20y old nobody could keep up it was a it was half of a fell to watch to see to be part of it and uh rabuka tells me says he's leaving sh 7 70 to go home to get a little sleep 5: in the morning and who does he see dancing he sees this hippie dancing with a they were dancing like in a circle you know one hand and another hand they were dancing he said after all he couldn't refuse the invitation after all he couldn't refuse the invitation it's a beautiful story but I think also the story has a very powerful message for us it's not just a story it's part of a CLA it's a perspective I would say from my own little experience that one of the greatest challenges that so many of us have is contained in one word it's called judgmentalism people always feel judged I can't tell you how many emails I get from from from from religious people modern orthodox this type that type yeshivish more yeshivish less yeshivas all types I grew up and I feel so judged everybody's always judging me something happens in my life and everyone is looking at me an issue with my child and I'm stigmatized an issue with my marriage and I'm stigmatized the Judgment I change my hat and I'm judged I do something not Mish perfect and I'm judged and it creates a lot of people who are very unhealthy because the need not to be judged is what motivates so much of my behavior so I'm not doing anything because I'm there I'm just want to make sure that nobody judges me in other words my whole life is being lived externally and the judgmentalism is so powerful it's so toxic and many people think that that's exactly what yudish is of course you judge how don't you judge there the right way and if you the wrong way I judge you the fascinating thing you that the holiest Jews were not judgmental they would the people with more should be the most judgmental because they care the most about God but you see take all these types they had tremendous and they the in our generation was an example of this the year Shay of the Reb you can't be messah I tell people you can't be MH to see the on a Wednesday afternoon yeah if I could feel yeah like I felt when I saw the once in my life it would be a the year of the you can't be AE a from a footnote of a was incredible to see and without anybody even noticing you had to be able to notice these things because without he should have been such a judgmental person because his standards were beyond what people can imagine here's a person who lived 90 years you couldn't and he spoke a lot you couldn't catch him 50 years on one word ofar s he didn't speak to people he spoke constantly to people 50 60 years you couldn't catch 90 years he didn't stop fasting people don't know he fasted days and weeks I saw myself I saw myself in his 80s not when he was 25 years old he fasted tremendous kadha his mother once told somebody a I knew Gordon your neighbor he came out of my womb holy he came out of my womb holy I'll tell you something I remember myself there's a his name is Bob Dylan Bob Dylan yeah not Robert Zimmerman Shi Zimmerman okaya yeah shopi zusa not Robert I know shopi zusa he is considered the founder of rock and roll H more or less okay the founder of rock and roll Nite yeah you talk about Paradigm shifts yeah consider the icon won the Nobel Prize probably the only one who won the Nobel Prize who didn't show up to get the prize yeah because his b or whatever his stick he dresses like a homeless man I don't know if you know but when he's in public he would hang out in 770 Friday nights with a hood and a homeless guy cuz the Israelis didn't know who he was and it was perfect for him once in a while he would come to theb one shabas in the early 1980s midnight he came for shabas and they told the Reb before that he's coming so the Reb asked he doesn't it's yish said he's going to stand there somebody who's going to translate by the songs will translate what theb said so the rebba was expecting him boban he came and those who knew that he was there he wasn't dressed exactly like he was dressed M like a schnor bennar Benn trust me how he was dressed if you didn't know who he was he was not very respectable look every person whoever wanted would pick up a cup for and re said to everybody even if there were thousands of people the Reb during the songs between the talks the Reb would speak most of the time but between the talks there was a song for 5 minutes 10 minutes and during that time the rebba would look and greet every single person with his head even if there were 5 6,000 people he said to everybody sometimes you saw that he looked at somebody for a few extra seconds he gave a gesture to somebody and you knew that person needed a special it was quite an experience to watch sometimes in Middle the would go into Adas for a few moments or a few minutes Bob Dylan picked up his cup to say and the deba looked and just passed over and again the again just he just like looked and just ignored him completely aabis that asks one of his secretaries Dylan is G was Bob Dylan by the he says yeah he was there you said he's going to be there why wasn't he there he was there that I didn't see him I didn't see it that EV was maintaining it he said he said I didn't see him it was very strange was very strange somebody picked up on something there was a sensitive person he picked up immediately on the secret Bob Dylan converted to Christianity he converted Christianity and he probably never went to the m was it possible that chabas of and did didn't see him the with you know the yeah huh there was uh uh it was the mil milk people were drinking and he didn't see it they gave him to see he said he doesn't see anything later they found out that it was and he said there aish the Mish says was also Friday night he was touching the walls like like it's dark they found out that it was uh somebody put up the light but it was in a way that was forbidden on shabas so he said he didn't see the light so was it possible that in a Halo of Kad didn't see that he was there and the Y told him go to the mikah he went to the mikah cuz he came back to yish he came back to the Jewish people he went to the mik the next shabas he picked up his cup immediately theba looked and gave him a strong strong such a person should be very judgmental because when you have such standards of Holiness it's very hard to tolerate people who are not that way the was probably one of the most UN judgmental people that you would encounter but it's not was wasn't only his gift he inculcated this into thousands of T the fact is you have kabad houses all over the world that all types of Jews come to and they'll always tell you I don't feel judged generally the hmark of aabad house is that people don't feel judged you have religious people you have secular people you have religious people from all Stripes they don't feel judged this uh this whole sh was replicated on that Paradigm people don't feel judged here that's where everybody comes you look around you'll see who's here even I feel comfortable even you feel comfortable here right this how does it work does this mean you're compromising people who don't have principles of course don't judge if you don't believe in anything there was a Jewish Comm his name was Sam Levens and he used to say like this I have principles and if you don't like them I have other ones a person who's spineless is not aish if you don't judge you don't if you don't stand for anything then you stand for everything it's not that you're not judgmental it's just these things you really don't care about the Kish is when you care about something with passion oh then people who are not judgmental usually become very judgmental V when you oppose their view on abortion then suddenly you become the sist and the Barbarian of civilization well what happened to a tolerance tolerance for everything besides someone who doesn't tolerate your view why not why can you tolerate my not tolerating your view my not my not disagree my disagreeing with you it's not easy when you're passionate about something not to be judgmental but the Reb inculcated this approach into thousands and thousands of talid who are really not judgmental people and it's an incredible phenomenon he's standing in front of this person with long hair wants him to come to AAS but the person doesn't feel judged and a moment later he's standing in front of a and there's a deep connection to both of them that is very very powerful what's the magic behind this what's the mechanism behind this mechanism is two things there's many more but I just want to point out two things number one is a don't judge other people until you don't experience their life we don't know anything about other people until we live their lives there he says until I'm not wearing your shoes and walking in your shoes a thousand miles how can I judge you this doesn't mean I agree with you and that's the difference not being judgmental doesn't mean I agree with you maybe you're wrong actually maybe I'm right maybe you're wrong but I can't sit on a throne with a superiority complex what a low life what a sick person you are that is what creates separation fragmentation people become defensive and they'll never actually grow into their ultimate potential always always look at a person and appreciate the fact they may be doing the wrong thing actually but don't sit in a throne of judgment I'm so much holier than you you're such a lowly person the re wanted to be this attitude from CLA and to a significant degree he was successful and every day it's getting better and better cuz when you're not judgmental you can actually bring people much closer to their ultimate purpose their ultimate Destiny because they want to be close to you if not they become defensive and they become alienated and suspicious we always have to create environments where people don't feel judged where you can accept people be sensitive to their anxiety be sensitive to their pain as this young litzman boy says be sensitive to their trauma that's something I'm supposed to say not you you have to be sensitive and I ask you a question who who doesn't have shame in this world is there anybody in this room who doesn't have shame huh anybody raise your hand please huh huh nobody has any shame here about anything well I have some shame that one guy who says I have shame he's not talking about himself like one guy who raises his hand and says yeah I'm an addict we're all on a journey we all struggle doesn't mean doesn't mean that the fact that you did something wrong suddenly becomes a good thing but it means be sensitive to people's Journeys and lives lift them up embrace them number two what the rebit taught was that nobody knows about Nas is suffer from the in other words it's not a it's a nice word it's Mish what's Mish Mish comes from the word mamosas you can touch it this is mish yeah the pickle is mish you touch a Jew you're not touching a piece of meat you're touching a you're touching a and therefore you have to love cherish appreciate have tremendous respect it's a gift I he has flaws of course yeah people have flaws he may have done wrong things perhaps but you're dealing M with a with a godliness believe in it invest in it trust it look at it see it and then there's a certain appreciation that you have for every person wherever they are if Hashem is inside of them then you a pass dear to also stay with them and to be close to them so I think this little story about this Jew that it's not just a PR it's a paradigm it's a claw and when we can emulate that in our own lives and we can create that in our homes and our communities and in our schools and our shs imagine how healthy it would be for Yeshiva Boys for girls for teenagers and sat visit and B and Papa and laic in new Square in Lakewood in mon in B Park Crown Heights Williamsburg mayard benra Chicago Toronto Gold's green Stamford Hill if a 17-year-old would be able to say something and not be scared that he's going to be judged and stigmatized oh about you always say it as is he says how about a 70-year-old not scared of being Jud they used to say that there's three three ages 20 40 and 60 right when you're 20 you're very self-conscious any 20 year olds here right we have some are you very anybody 20 are you self-conscious like iron you're 20 no you know who am I what type of sh am I going to get who do I fit into I don't fit into you know it's like the whole Mah myo my Mahal whatever environment you're in you're in Lakewood freezer or you're in uh whatever or you're in it's not but you have your your way how you how you present yourself to the world because you want to be perceived in this okay then when you're 40 you say you know what I really don't care what you guys think about me I am who I am you like me you don't like know that's when they start putting on the t-shirts you know that moment yeah rakov Ma yeah Ma they start putting on the t-shirts and even though their father like this is who I am this is who I am Pride what do they call it in America Pride when you're 60 you realize nobody was ever looking at you okay but I'm not 60 yet so I don't know about that but that's what uh that's what they say so I want to uh I want to bless myself and all of us that we should be able to cultivate a little bit of this attitude to be able to love Jews to be able to be kind to Jews to be able to inspire people to be able to elevate people instead of being judgmental respect their journey and bring them to a more powerful place and finally I want to share with you this experience which is also so powerful so smart and so powerful there was a group of secular students it's a very interesting thing during the 1950s and 60s I don't know if you know but the rebba was an address for thousands and thousands of young people who were confused you had Holocaust Survivors and you had you had Russian refugees but you also had a lot of people who were confused students and this they would come the re would sit all night with people there was a group of students who came and they asked a lot of questions a lot a lot of questions when they finished asking the questions the re would answer all the questions one of them was aak he wanted a you know I guess it's called a trap question he says you we are a bunch of secular Jewish students be honest with us do you think we're good Jews or bad Jews this is m is a trap question cuz if they ever says bad Jews you know he just lost it that's it fine if he says good Jews there was no shabas there was no kasas there was noin there was no yish they were secular people what is he supposed to say he looks at the student he smiles and he says I'll answer you the student says I want an honest answer I want an Hest honest answer no fluff give me an honest answer so he said in my mind is a it's the lad in the dream of it's etched on Earth on the ground but it reaches heaven and it's the Journey of every human being for Transcendence we are a synthesis of Heaven and Earth there's a body and there's a soul and there's a ladder we climb from earthiness to touch Infinity to touch truth to touch the Divine and in the latter of the Jewish people there are rungs we call them mitzvas and each rung is a step in the ladder that starts on Earth and reaches heaven and that's what Yakov Jacob saw now I ask you a question there are two Jews one of them is on rung 612 one of them is standing on rung number two who's the good Jew and who's the bad Jew who's the good Jew and who's the bad Jew what do you say the student says well from your perspective the person on the 612th rung is obviously a lot higher and a lot Superior says but wait I have one more thing to tell you the person who's on step 612 yesterday he was standing on rung 613 person who's on step two yesterday he was standing on rung number one now what do you say the student was quiet the Reb says you see what matters is not which Rong you're standing on what matters is which direction you're heading in could be a person who's on 612 but yesterday he was 613 he's going down another person who's number two but yesterday he was number one he's going up what matters in the latter of Jewish life is not which rung you on its wear your head which direction you're going what matters really is not where you are but if you're allowing yourself to be challenged if you're allowing yourself to be stimulated if you're allowing yourself to grow that's what matters so you ask me are you a good Jew or a bad Jew every Jew essentially is good now you want to know in your behavior are you good or bad you have to answer that question it's never about where you are which direction you're heading that ability to be able to look and not put a person into a box this is where you are this is where you're not this is who you are it's about the ability to become the possible human being who you could become and that allows people to grow into their potential to develop themselves in an extraordinary fashion [Music] hey hey hey hey hey he hey hey hey hey [Music] [Applause] [Music] I know I know I know I didn't want to say the fasta the fast huh [Music] smacking [Music] man up yes they do take [Music] know my for you this your [Music] sa [Music] sorry the day is the you say think no [Music] what [Music] [Applause] [Music] have a lot of from all your children from your daughter you want that I should speak about in your email to be sensitive to a Drew [Music] do bring everybody together how are you thank you for gracing us yeah yeah thank you for gracing us with your presence [Music] [Applause] [Music] you heard the whole [Music] thing believe it or not [Music] think [Music] the ne [Music] us [Music] lhe there's that void there's the idea of a person the way a person serves hem so there's an idea of that a person is created to serve says in the end of says I never saw I never saw any don't have a job in the animal kingdom and I'm to to serve my master this is one Gea then there's another Gea I'm created to serve my my master I am not created I need and Ella which is the negation of all possibility means I'm created meaning I am Aus I exist I'm an eye and my eye is here to serve means I don't even begin to exist and my whole existence to serve my Creator we talked a little before but we really have to say to connect to this o is that there o there's a light that comes through there's a light that comes through Darkness but love and used to say you're giving out whiskey whis is Red vodka is white so he said in I live with love I don't really hate the adamites the red it's a worst case scenario you have to drink whiskey but we drink vka soia a person serving Hashem there's you're struggling you're tempted and then you overcome that's the the posture that's the of a person that's but then means there's a different sour the G the G know it's what's tamos what is tamas where does the word tamas come from where's the name of the word come from so thei says says that the were all that adapted these names from B Babylonians the acadians the Assyrians CL all adapted these names originally if you look at zakar it's called It's called The set forth month doesn't have a name they're called by their the names the numbers but the names do not come from sources sources but they actually come from other cultures that says that it's da All Because by because by P they celebrated so therefore so you count but the the second G which was a smaller Gul which with with Ezra so therefore they wanted to do a remembrance of that that so that K actually implemented which actually called kashus of B but the name t where does the name t come from where is the shame T where does where T come from so if you look the talks about that's called I think the r says that it's not but it was someone that was the name of the of the priest that served in this was called T what's T what's this and it's strange that we call you call this month why do you call you're not supposed to you're not supposed to name after what is the ofas so Rashi writes in that was was like this they um there's something that's called the summer and the winter sal sal sal which means when the days Chang from Winter to the summer the longest day the longest night and these were days that were marked in the calendar was occurred in the summer salces and therefore what they did was the practice of this AAR was that there was an image it was an idol the idol was Hollow so they made like an image of a t of a person and it was empty in the middle then the eyes they had had no had no place for the eyes and then the place where the eyes were they put lead they put lead pellets in the place of the eyes then they would heat up a fire within the AAR the Sash and when they heat when the AAR became really hot the lead melted and when the lead melted it looked like the was crying tears were coming out of the eyes this melted lead and when the tears ofar was crying says that the women CL would actually sit by this is trying to inspire them they shouldn't do this sit by the and they would cry they would cry together why cry what was the crying what was the idea of the crying the crying was that there was a spring it was a new month new year new spring new possibility New Hope and these women felt like this is going to be a time they're finally going to find a Basher they're going to get married they're going to start a new life and now the seasons that's turning it's already turning towards the winter it's already the the summer soles and the days are getting shorter and therefore they would cry and lament the fact that they didn't find their love and things didn't work out the way it should be this is the so why do we why do we uh why do we celebrate why do we connect to T and not only that we connect to the whole especially is IDE of tears of crying that day that they that they by the story of they did so through tears so there's two types of tears and there's two types of ways of looking at this world and this is the we're trying to say before a little bit about the O there's one type of a way of thinking that what is called tragedy or fate which means no matter how much you try no matter how much you're going to try to Aspire to be different to do things differently for things to happen in your life no matter what's going to happen faith is going to take control and the winter is going to come anyways you can't win this is the great tragic Greek tragedies which is that a person tries has a Hero Journey we're going to try I'm going to change the world things are going to be different he pushes up this big boulder up the mountain and the boulder comes flying down end the mountain and that's Faith you can't do anything you can't fight faith that is means you're crying from the possibility that was and it can't be any longer and there's never ENT possibility to change it this is the way it is this the way it always will will be you can try you can struggle you can move the dial a little bit but the dial is going to go back to square one you have you're a person that struggles with this and these and these type of thoughts and this types of depression and this types of this is who you are you push a little bit the dial and then it goes back down and to to fight with or the is G because the definition of g and the mocker of of gas is the tum right the mocker of all gas the mocker of all separation of all havala comes from the there's a of the the was not a place of emptiness and we're living in the place of the and therefore you're living in the place of the so no matter what you're going to do at the end of the day you're always going to be back to square one back to the so you have and you struggle so today you're going to push yourself to be and to do and you're G to do it and you're GNA have five minute success and then tomorrow you're gonna have the same and you're struggling with depression you're going to push the boulder you're going to push the the the the the the rock up the mountain and your mom going get to the top of the mountain but it's tragic it ends with a tragedy why is it end with a tragedy cuz the boulder always falls back down that's inherent in the idea of of inherent in the idea of Gus is that Gus is perpetual and it's it's Everlasting this is what the of is that it's and you could push some or but will always come back so when a person thinks about to to to move something to get somewhere he was old was a someone's asking B fact I think it's the only thing that's written on his C is he's a big a big he was the only person the only that wrote on him never wrote on other people but his own personal he never wrote the word sad but was wrot his his he a big someone came and told him how do you reach how do you get to a place how do you get somewhere and he was a that sat six hours every day learn for two three hours he was a person that was his whole life he was a big and uh told him like this 20 years you have to break yourself 20 years you have to DAV like a Manch DAV doesn't mean just to say the words but DAV really means to live the words two three hours to be 20 years you have to learn he used to learn with his nail he's learn a line a day with his nail he used to carve his nail into the page one line he would sit for five hours not sure what he did one line he five hours okay 20 years 20 years 20 years and then nothing sh nothing I'm not giving a pierce on on on this on what he said because what he said he said but when a person lives from a place of Gus from the that was Gala before is Gala of the oil of the ab that was revealed in this world this generation so your your connection to or is through so you have the dominant feature of your life is it's concealed it's empty it's lack and what you're trying to do is bring a little bit light into the darkness but darkness is is the most important thing so therefore what happens is the moment you're not connected to light all of a sudden the darkness comes back and that's why people feel like wh what happened I I I I I I did this and I DAV and I learned and I did isaf and I did all this AV and I still feel like I'm the same person like I was 20 years ago so there has to be another way that has to be there was another way there's another way not I need I need I need Lo Ry is the understanding that the the means Gul means already that in your neish and who you really are there's already G there's already Redemption you're already perfect there's already shus in who you are already before you there's already o before the the is not if the there's a little so you're stuck they could be here but it could be a revealing of the light but you're still you're still inherently in but revealed revealed and then the Reb revealed in even a more revealed way that simptom is mean that really there is no where is the of the everywhere where is there no you choose not to see it if you see it if you live that there's there's in your life there's there's in your life the spirituality and in your life then there is no it's not that you're trying to find in the some that's G and by definition there's for every thesis there's antithesis for every there's the opposite there's every there's a dialectic there's always opposites you have one so you have the opposite you have you have but then there's another way of thinking it's beyond Duality Beyond separation Beyonds Beyond hav in the there's the lower Waters cry they want to be closer to the upper Waters but the is because you can never M you can never reach it Jacobson said some beautiful stories I'll tell you a story that happened with my wife's grandfather Alber maybe this is the the of the story also some people know was a very he he said was originally his he on the radio and there was M the he was a and he was also he was sh used to collect money for Thea that's what he did for a living he was very close to a famous family in Brazil called the saffas very famous Bankers Jacob saf it was the it was in the 80s T Ms and at night one night it's 2 three o'clock in the morning he gets a call from Mr Safra he's a very famous uh G and he tells him that his wife is in labor and uh there's complications with the labor she's in the hospital there's complication with the birth and he needs a from the and uh the doctors are saying that that they should do a C-section and they should just pull out the child they shouldn't have a natural birth but his wife doesn't want to do that for his wife wants to have a natural birth and he wants to know what to do should go to natural birth or she go to the C-section and he doesn't want to do it until he gets a clear answer when they what to do so uh saffra tells uh uh y w tells uh saffra that it's 2:00 in the morning what should I do I should go to the's house knock on his door he says listen I'm Jacob saffra you you you do what you have to do he says listen the reab doesn't work that way I can't uh I can't buy them all for money but what I could do is I'll go to his office not g to go to his house I'm GNA go to his office in 770 and see if the lights are on I'll I'll knock but I'll knock so he gots see gets dressed he writes this letter that Mr Safa is asking a question C-section not C-section birth or not birth and what should be done so when he gets to 770 he sees that it's not sure if the lights are fully on or not it looks like maybe a lamp is on doesn't know if the re is taking a nap or not doesn't know what to do he doesn't want to knock because maybe if the Reba sleep doesn't want to do that so he decides he has an idea he'll put the note under the door and I'll make a little noise as the note is going on the door and if the Reb's awake and sitting by his desk the Reb's going to see the Note coming in he's he hear a noise he's going to look at the desk he's going to take the notes and read it if not I'll wait till tomorrow morning what could I do so kav starts P pushing in the note and he leaves a little bit of the note outside so he can see if it's being picked up and he sees he waits there for a minute and all of a sudden the the notes picked up the opens the door says what you know reads the note and the Reb says that they uh they should not do the C-section and she's going to give birth a healthy child and everything everything be fine he goes home he call saf he tells him that this is the story The said not to do anything the mother's going to give birth healthy child you don't have to do anything it'll be a natural birth okay of course the baby is a healthy baby the next day also wber is thinking to himself I should really asked M I asked M why because the re happened to be up he was up so I could have knocked on the door instead I put the door the page on the on the floor and I made theab B down it was not wasn't a young man so I should really ask M that I'm sorry so he wrote a little note that the baby was born everything's healthy but I want ask because I I troubled theb to bend down it's not nice so theba sent them back a note similar to that note before he says he doesn't understand why he's asking and then he said and then he wrote my whole thing in life is to pick up this is this is what my sh in life is my sh in life what I do in this world is pick people up called JJ and um he used to uh used to create was a l Boer there used to create a parade to come out to this parade and there was a lot of for the parade and JJ was if it's going to work out and he's had a little at the end of the parade turned to him and asked him if if the left him does he feel good now everything worked out smoothly it was good everything was about so he said pulled me out of my says I was there you're probably was loud you can hear in the mic says pulled you out no I didn't pull you out I lifted you up there's a very big difference between being pulled out and lifted up pulled out means you're dealing with and you're pulled out of the BL you're pulled out of the darkness there's there's a tum there's a there's there separation there's a in this world you're struggling with thear is real your is real the world is there is and then you're pulled out of that how long you pulled out of five minutes 10 minutes a day two days a year but then if you can be pulled out you can be pulled straight back [Music] in but then there's something lifted you out of this condition totally it's a different paradigm it's it's not an that says that is its opposite because if is its opposite then today it's tomorrow it's and it's it's a pendulum it swings one day it's good one day it's bad one day it's knocking one day it's not knocking one day you feel connected one day you don't feel connected but then there's another way of thinking about it and this this is the vo vo is is a total reorientation of yourself instead of focusing in this direction you start focusing in this direction it's it's one it's one care it's one turn it's one shift in your Consciousness it's instead of looking at yourself and looking at the world as a place of and Hester and simum and a place of darkness and you're struggling with darkness and you're overcoming in your better days and worse days you turn you shift to a different direction and you're you're the place of Life the place of gula I the world is notal and there still but if you're not going to be your own self then how do you expect the G come that we're un that gas is a un you know why we're in gas because we dream gas this is our imagination when you close your eyes and the auto Story the automatic story of your imagination creates you know what you tell yourself I'm a failure I'm not a good person I struggle the world is against me I can't really do anything I'm a failure this is the this is the narrative that you're telling yourself okay so then you wake up and you say no no no it's not EMS I can I can beem I can be connected I can be I can reach oil within this I can overcome my struggles yeah em you'll have a good day then you're GNA be back to goas the last few years that the rebba spoke mainly n Al in Bay those few years spoke about this idea that that that it's Nar it's already finished and now all we need to do is open our eyes what does it mean what does that mean because we know that the whole in this world is everything every SLE you're doing you do one you going another o another another right there's there's there's there's elevation of you're elevating Sparks and this is a whole and then so so what's stop thinking about means that a and you have to extricate you have to reveal the in that was Tak foras we're ready this is the sa this is already as manula it's not as it's not we're not it's not it's not we're not talking about that we talking about the O of Gul the O of G already was revealed so if the O Gul was revealed live it that's technical that means the world is ready for the O of of Mia for the O of G the of G is not a or that has an opposite doesn't have an opposite you have you have but it's one it's a singularity when you function from a place of a singularity there's no opposite you can't be in a place of there is no and if you find yourself in a it means you fell you left the perspective the orientation today the realf the real real work that a person has to do is not only not to have that bka okay that's already means you have a Ty for the babka I never understood babka until I started and our CRI and bka was not thing no yeah B was it wasn't wasn't but I I remember in the when I was a a 15-year-old B I was in the I was in a bakery monell and a Long White Beard came to the C says never heard of this should be wet chocolate like a whole another level of tyers it's like okay you eat bka n it has to be Nas said was such not saying you should eat NASKA should help you should have a lot of Nas in your house you should have everything should bealing but a a little means them this is not where your head is what B if you don't have the B no if you didn't get the B for shabas and and the kigle was not so good no come that's one level of because the more writes that if a person wants to create n in his life wants to create miracle once to cre something you have you have and US never said we don't know where it comes from but and he says that that that the reason the person was created is to break his break his nature means you love bka okay so I don't love bka anymore but that's a pro you're dealing with protim you're dealing with details and if you're dealing with details then every detail has a counter detail and if the if the O comes from the then there's G to be another tomorrow the is not the or that has an opposite it's not it's not that I'm in this darkness and I'm being pulled out of this Darkness it's living in a different different states you're living with an understanding that every single moment of your life is I'm not created only to serve the abish this is what my life is about not that I have a life and I'm breaking myself what is what do what do I live for I live to serve the Hashem for my life to be a for my life to this what I want this what I live for and I live with vas I live with a connection with and I try to see the abish in every single thing that I do and and life gives constant opportunities to this every single moment of the day you have an opportunity you're feeling you're feeling happy so you say thank youhm for making me feel happy you're feeling you're feeling Joy thank you for letting me feel Joy becomes that's the difference and to be be means we're a living God Don't Make can like this how do I serve the like this yesterday I did this this is exactly way they do it not true we have the the relationship has to be be alive and alive not nostalgic alive not remembering alive not fate and tears of the past but if there are tears this is the beer of tamas the elevation of tamas is that there are tears the tears are mirus the tears are because I can achieve something I can do something that tears of atus it's hopeless there's no possibility it's gone it's finished I'm never gonna kick out of this problem I just saw a few weeks ago I told Yankee we talked about this in the car he says why is it that the was not until the other three then there was another three says that they were not until after they did the other six ARL even though there's going to be another more ARL yeah after that that's the one the R's proofs from M there'll be a future be more but when was was established that's when was able to be why what's the what's the says because there's a m that says that is through Al elazar that uh that he would be the K and has to come through him so he says like this kill somebody goes into AR mlot when does he leave AR mlot with the m k the K passes away that's when he leaves AR mlot says this guy that killed before get stuck in the he right that's what it says he he Co should die because that's how he gets he gets freed but the co is not going to die because there a that says that the will live till after so he says he starts living without hope says he starts living without hope is not now listen to the story here's okay he's but is a mock amaz he's he's a he's daving for the highest person in CL for the to die so obviously he's a rash Ben Russ right he's a and he's he's D for someone to die not only so he's ding for the co to die but that gives him hope and if he doesn't have that hope it's not Co doesn't put you in a condition that you don't have hope even if a person says that it's hopeless and I can never get anywhere my life is a constant struggle and I will never achieve an amount to anything I will never manage to K out of my darkness if a person says that he's living without this is T this is it's hopeless it's fate I'm born this way I'm born this way and nothing will change it I'm going to push push the rock up the mountain and push and push and push the PO the rock is going to fall down I'm never going to out of this if a person says that he's we have to believe that there's another way there's a way that there's a way that we could actually reach a new light that's mgal us that's revealed to us that allows us to live in a different light in a different way and then it's notat you're struggling it could be also it's possible maybe that you will also have struggles but the struggles comes from there was a the gamor says says never has it's constantly moving constantly growing not in this world not in the other world so doesn't have the the whole idea is that like the says in is it's so once made to see him on this on this sh and uh and it's and it's a very it's a very accurate of what the RAB lived and the way he looked at life says that there's a d of movement within the context of Stillness of movement in a place from that man is not a steer to which in very practical language what this means is it doesn't mean you're not going to grow when a person says I'm shom okay I'm perfect perfect and you you have a place that's that's your that's the M that the wres that which is the which incidentally if you ever look in look all the you'll never find I don't think ever talks about m in the future doesn't talk about it doesn't mean they didn't believe in it one it doesn't talk about it is present now there's a famous there's a famous that it says so says how says if you're if you're living in the in the future in the present then you can laugh if you're living in you're living o it's the future and O can be the future can be the past so if you're living in the future in the fure okay in the future you're going to reach it so then why you laughing why you happy you haven't reached anything but if you reach the present that you reach a place of man that you're you're totally in a place of peace and perfection andus in the present moment right now then you reach the present so it doesn't mean you're not going to grow as a human being as a you're going to be over the and tomorrow you're going to grow a little one more but your whole movement your whole Tua is from a mock of of of your whole T is without anxiety without guilt without shame these things have to be eliminated from your Consciousness completely totally what what what are we talking about why you want to live with guilt want to live with so you're growing every day you're becoming more and more connected but the foundation of your growth comes from place I'm already perfect the foundation of where you're moving from is that I'm already connected to and this is what the in the last few years again one one of the G thatb brought down to the world and talked and and and the last few years of his life is that is is finished bir means like like like like bir like Bo like your Boer good from bad this is you know what you want what you don't want like like one it's it's over the B came was revealed we're hundreds of years later the world is already ready we're holding to ready mhia you have to start thinking differently now you want to do this fine continue but you want to live with with with with mashia with then it's a different Mah all you need is to open your eyes you have to change your perspective of how you look at this world what's the world so you it's epistemology it's not theology correct it's not it's not it's not it's not the msus it's your it's your it's your mind is everything is in your mind that sh is like a nice V it's if you feel yourself that you're no sh is no other place that you are you can be standing here and being wherever you are if you put your mind to that place that you are in the state of gula and you live like that you try to see the Y you try to see the the in every single detail of your life say every single thing you're doing is O it's not like now I'm eating you know this uh there's a difference between means now the r it's the same thing he writes it in one and that's the way the learn but came and said it's reveal a new order means I'm doing this for that it's a means to an end this I'm doing this action I'm eating no what should I do tells me that I have to eat you probably don't have to eat as much as you think you need but you probably have to eat a little bit some food you do need guaranteed probably 50% less than you think you do but that's already a whole another avoa so you you have to eat but may what should I do I'd rather be sitting and learning to I ra rather be sitting and ding but I have those seeds so therefore I'm eating so I maybe I'm a I have to work so I'm working for the few hours that have I can [Music] learn means something else means become the yourself who is and that actually writes in this week that is connected to and is connected to this means that A's Transcendent presence of which is transcendent is actually present in that there's a that's what it means that when I'm doing work and I'm eating food and I'm taking out the garbage and I'm doing mundane activities I'm actually serving the abish because there's no place that's up empty of the and you have to deal with so you bring a little bit more means you're struggling with the bring a little o but the O the O the O of the where's the where's the O of the of the the is the O that didn't that's not the O that had that is the opposite of it's the that's also where's that or it's that's which means that if you're learning to as as as a as a respit a place to to find Refuge as mikl I'm struggling with I'm run toes okay so it's going to last in thees the moment you go back to work you're back to square one the moment you go back to eat you're back to square you're the same behmer you're learn with a big ass mother you're ding with a tremendous isav and then uh 10 minutes later you're not sure you know you're uh I don't know you're knee deep in a nasab and you don't even know what what's with what's happening the b is all over your face and the same or that you had with daving the B the same as lavas and and and and there's no one to blame by the way there's no one to blame because if you have or you have you have and that's you're you're going to go your light bang ping ping like a ping pong ball this way that way this way that way every day is's another swing but this aula is a higher or the higher is a a a light that permeates and is revealed and every place is is is that's the BOS itself is it's not that I'm eating the shame so I should have so I can can D well I'm doing this this is you tells you to take take out the garbage it's an avoa you're serving the abish you should do it with an excitement with a passion with these slav say thank you AEM for allowing me to take out the garbage like thank you hm for allowing me to do to you thank you hm to allowing me to learn your this is the O that's gala this is the oil that we have to be connected with it's the oil that we could be connected with this that was revealed in this world comes into this world comes into this world is is is M the world it refines the world for a new that the world should be open to a new to be nikla to be to re to receive a new type of O it's not just it happened it happens and it it happened and it's continuing to happen it's continuous to happen we should be dou in this to see this in every single that we have amen amen [Music] I [Music] am [Music] am [Music] I am [Music] am [Music] oh [Music] [Laughter] ah [Music] am I am [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] wait some some [Music] [Laughter] [Music] hey about about some about [Music] come [Music] [Laughter] la la la la la la [Music] [Laughter] hey [Music] la la la [Music] oh [Music] hey a [Music] time [Music] for hey my great [Music] know [Music] say [Music] hey oh my hey my [Music] man [Music] hey [Music] am [Music] great oh my hey oh my [Music] my hey I oh [Music] my [Music] hey oh my [Music] oh my am I am great oh [Music] my oh we don't la [Applause] [Music] let's sing [Music] together another [Music] everybody join us [Music] am [Music] the [Music] oh yeah n oh [Music] yeah oh my [Music] oh [Music] oh [Music] oh am I am I [Music] [Laughter] [Applause] [Music] you [Music] oh [Music] oh oh [Music] oh n [Music] n know [Music] I know a few people have questions we're soon going to get to questions so the faan becomes not just a a monologue but also a [Music] dialogue the balat writes Ines why is it that byen we commemorate a yard site what's the hav in this the day that somebody passed away what's the idea of commemorating it balatan writes this he says this about uh was written after the P ofel of horok V the author of priit tal of the Magid and another letter to that was written to the holy after the of his son I think his name was May and he says there following point that when a person completes their life so that day when they completed their life their entire life comes together the L of the the whole life story of the person their actions their teachings their Ava it all comes together it's all completed it becomes wholesome and it's revealed on that day in a whole new powerful way that is unique and as he puts it there to give a more illustration for this perhaps maybe you know sometimes I guess you could say laav those of you who are readers maybe when you were younger you're reading like this big book this 1,500 page book and it's delicious and you don't want it to end you know those books there's books you put down before you start books you put down after a few slines you don't want them to end it's so good especially if you're a teenager you don't want to go to school you know you get into bed with a book especially if you're lucky to have a flu or earache or a virus you have a good excuse you don't want it to end but then it ends and you're very happy you're happy because it was a great read you're sad because it ended and the whole thing comes together Zer this a person's life is a safer the life comes to a completion so the whole story comes to a completion and at the end of the book you figure it all at the end of the book you see the whole picture the full picture the you know the sum total like the whole novel the whole narrative the whole drama comes together and there's an element of sadness that it's over but there's also an element of joy for the experience and for the inspiration so the balat says a person's day of the their whole life comes together and each year says by remembering it it's recreated in is eternal so therefore every year like P or individually in a person's life the year that it happens every year there's that energy that comes into the world of with the LA you see a fascinating thing in his lifetime he touched hundreds of thousands maybe millions of people but today 25 years later probably hundreds and thousands and millions more it's not a regular thing it's not a regular phenomenon usually a person 25 years years later it's Al 20 it's a lot of years 25 years is a quarter of a century most today never saw the or they were children when they saw the but that's even within the I'm talking even outside of it because the brought an an into the world that every day is appreciated more and more it's not a secret that when the devil was alive he had a lot people who criticized him because always that's the cloud the maral says whenever a great Soul comes into the world it's very hard to contain it's just natural what happened with the r for example what happened with M himself take a look at a k you think K was a nobody you think got 250 to attack M why is it because the of m is very powerful the Ram's you know how many opposition the rambam had the B came into the world bat K these people there was tremendous opposition not from people who were noodies from great people because it's such a big light it's very hard to hold on to it it's misunderstood and the same is true with theb but today you see a mat 25 years later that besides a few five six individuals from the Stone Age The O that they brought into the world is every single day appreciated more and more and more by all Jews and non-jews [Music] even that was an inside joke it's an infinite light but an infinite light it's not easy to deal with it's like what are you supposed to do with it unless you have tremendous B tremendous humility it's very hard to deal with it but every day and every year it grows more and more because it's an o that brought in who was the was an didn't have Aus of his own his whole msus was B so it's an of hasem that a real sadic brings into the world that changes the Paradigm and the perspective in very powerful ways the more and more you see that the perspectives and the light that the rebit taught for 40 50 years is pen rating in all every single place every single home and every single doity more and more why because it's the light that brings God into this generation so you say 200 years ago do we know but every Dirt has its challenges and every Dirt has its gifts and you have to have the to be able to speak to that D the B writes I said this once in a sheer and somebody said it can't be that he says this then I showed it to him so he said oh it could be people if they don't understand something it can't be I never heard such a thing after there's people sitting in she they don't understand what Al says it can't be cuz they don't understand the ofish is humility B if you're not humble you won't open yourself up to anything outside of your foolish narcissistic ego and your traumas and insecurities you have to open yourself up and you nobody will destroy you with your humility humility doesn't destroy you humility builds you opens you up to Infinity it opens you up to Godliness so the K SL writes like this he asks it says take everywhere in gor take take so says what's to answer all the questions will come and he'll solve all the problems I don't understand who knows how to learn better if you can go to a yeah and there's a sign in the here is going to give a is going to give a is also going to be the comes the says is going to be with us why is not going to answer the why why interesting question and him in the back you know what his answers listen huh says where was mha for the last 3,000 years in Gaden where was aoan over the last 2,000 years two and a half thousand years three almost 3,000 years he's hanging out every bris every bris he comes he goes into the S he knows the latest iPhone he knows the latest issues he knows the issues with addiction with trauma with therapy with with with kids at risk and kids in pain he knows what's going on with shom bayas he knows challenges he knows the mat he he knows what's called the Zeitgeist the Zeitgeist yeah of the generation he understands what's going on he hears what you know he hears what they talk about in the mikah and in the and in the bris and at the for a person to answer questions it's not enough for him to know everything he has to be part of the people that's what a man is is not enough that he's a a saintly Mal was one of the most extraordinary things about the Reb that combination the Reb combined royalty with Simplicity Heaven and Earth there was a part of him that was always in heaven not in anybody who saw that ever you knew he wasn't the whole of it like didn't register on one hand you saw we ate but without on the other hand he was as earthy he could talk to anybody about any subject any subject and not like from a place of superiority from a place like oneon-one with complete Simplicity like almost like a child there was a yid we knew him we grew up with him he was a yid without children he was a Russian his name was zman Tel he didn't have children and he became sin he had Alzheimer's and they put him into the nursing home AEL of R in Williamsburg you remember aav R they and a nurse brought him AR Kipper to get honey cake from the with a would give they brought him he was already close to 90 but he had Alzheimer's the knew who he was Al because he came from Russia and he brought toab a niggan that he was his [Music] niggan you know the know know in the 60s he brought that into laich zman now was already in the 80s later 80s mid 80s he was already uh unfortunately with Alzheimer's and they brought him to the rebba to get but he didn't recognize theb he didn't recognize anybody and the Reb was trying to connect to him but he couldn't was talking to him looking at him alsheimer took over his conscious brain there were thousands of people on the line this was after so there's a little time people have to go home to eat the meal so th but the line would move very very fast everybody would get a piece of C say and move on and he was there standing somebody was holding him up cuz he was much he was almost 90 and the Reba saw that you know this he's he's completely not here he he was not there he was there physically there but there was nobody there so the the whole line stopped theb started to sing and not after theb sang the whole to him know know the niggan that he composed decades earlier the saying the whole line stopped the saying the whole nigan from the beginning till the end you know music has a power to stimulate and arouse trigger regions of the brain that are very deep especially when it's your name again especially it's a niggan from your young years in middle of the and the Reb sang beautifully the had a besides other had a I don't know if some of you heard but the sang every heart would melt it was a combination of depth and simplicity there was a sweetness and there was a depth in his niggan that was very very deep very penetrating theb is Sayang it was like a like a special toog that was very deep like from the andb singing this him and the middle of theb singing the inexplicable happened he emerged from Alzheimer's he like became he became aware of his environment and he looks and he's in front of the and he broke out in such a smile cuz he couldn't believe that he's standing right here Mish at this moment and they two gazed at each other with so much love and the showered him with blessings and uh gave him and then the nurse took him away and he slipped back a few minutes later but for those few moments he was elevated from the abyss of Alzheimer's to the loving Embrace of uh of the how did I tell the story huh huh ta ta ta you have to be it's connected to heaven but you always have to be connected to people if you don't understand people if you don't understand your generation you can't inspire a generation because you don't understand what they're dealing with and if you tell them why aren't you like a different generation it's not fear I am I likea said you know I have to be Z I can't be so that's what theit says why only one of will be able to answer the questions the questions that we struggle with the articulated a road map for yite in this generation that has Mish inspired hundreds of thousands if not Millions I'm not talking in laab I'm talking in the whole world directly indirectly consciously and unconsciously it's a fascinating thing in the 1950s those who remember those years it's before my days but if you speak to anybody REM the attitude in the whole from world is that it's a big question if religion will last and how much it will last and where it will last the yush was so deep everybody was just holding on to the few little and institutions that they had first of all there was a holocaust and that destroyed not just physically the Jewish world but the spirit the the the passion how could it not talk about trauma but besides all that the the Embrace of secularism was so powerful right it was it was incredibly powerful he had finen but everybody was on the defensive and at that time the started to send out to the whole world and people were saying what to just hold on to your little Community built said no you don't understand Jewish World wants realish Jews want to be real Jews because the is a real thing Theus and Hashem is a real thing the world is a Divine world of the is the real world the real world and people were making fun it was that you're going to lose them all they saw man in the Public Square what are you doing to be anti-Semitism but re understood two things number one the world is yearning for truth and the Jewish people are Yearning For Truth they're really yearning for truth and number two he understood very very well and taught us that with the proper with the proper perspective with the proper attitude if you could see Theus in people and in the world like R Pinson explained they'll be able to see it and you'll make a revolution today then in the 50s for a guy to say my grandson is going to be more from than me yeah would be as realistic as saying that tomorrow we're all moving to planet Mars at best your grandson will marry a Jew zes used to beg their grandchildren hold on for shabas shabas something something today everybody says my grandson yeah he takes it seriously me yeah I'm not so sure but my grandson oh yeah N9 years here 9 years in the brisk 9 years in Lakewood n9ine years in the he takes it very seriously it's a common conversation don't take this for granted this was a revolution it was a transformation that happened how you look at yish kite how you look at the world how you look at God how you look at it's a paradig was it a paradigm shift and this attitude the positivity is growing every day was noal quarter of a century ago and there you go light today in Siberia a Siberia the just finished building a Mikvah in southern Siberia the women had to fly 7 hours to find the Mikvah 7 hours he finished building a beautiful Mikvah in Northern Siberia you know where Northern Siberia is you know how many time zones Siberia Hasa and Y they taught you how many times on Siberia have huh 11 Siberia Siberia is America July 4th and it was the place of where Stalin sent Mill tens of Millions to die in biran you know where biran is huh biran were Stalin wanted to ex Exile 5 million Soviet Jews in 1953 before he died on purm still has signs in yish communist yish the just opened up their GL restaurant Mah you could take your wife on vacation to you go to the today you go to 3,000 Jewish kids marching screaming 10 yard away from Stalin and Lenin's body in the in the mosum I want to say they're turning over in their graves but they don't have Graves they're there in the mosum they're turning over in their musim I almost feel bad for Stalin 10 yards away from Stalin yeah and they're screaming 3,000 Putin is smiling at Lazar that s Putin is smiling on this didn't happen in a vacuum today in the former USSR you have 400 you know what that is in Moscow there are 70 moas 70 moas I'm not giving you exaggerated numbers you could look it up and the inspiration the inspiration it grows the influence grows why cuz it's not about a person I always laughed when I grew up there were people who used to call the bich a cult and I used to smile why cuz I never met anybody who encouraged more independent thinking than the you'll be hard pressed to find a person who told people you got to f figure things out on your own not only that to send out to the whole world in their 20s they have to raise millions of dollars to put up buildings build camps schools without training with even without a good English education if you're not an independent individual if you don't got ambition and if you don't got a mind of your own you will be a miserable failure anybody who even touched Reb's teachings know one of his greatest themes is I don't we don't create followers we create leaders the wasn't interested in followers the once said m is good nine I'm happy with nine people to stay so I can have a Minion for myself everybody else go change the world go change the world that's what he wanted but today the differentiations the polarities this andol are coming to an end today is the generation of AK that this this that tried to bring into the world from Hashem is something that belongs to every Jew it has nothing to do with I'm aak I'm a Orthodox I'm this I'm not a I'm it's irrelevant you got to be a leader today change the world and everybody could change their own world how through the three loves that the B used to speak about and the didn't stop talking about and is and he used to say that the three are one if you love God you love Jews and you love T if somebody comes to me and says RAB why I love you but I happen to hate your kids this they scream then they see a Jew God says do me a favor if you don't like my kids have a wonderful day if you love Hashem you love his children if you love it's one love so come such a that is an o in the world special o in the world it's an opportunity for everybody to be able to find their own light not to be a follower to be a leader stop being AATA be a leader but says to be a leader to be able to understand that you were sent on a to light up yourself and the people around you that's did once said a v a beautiful V that if I bringing he said that what's the first thing creates so he asked light should have been at the end why because if you look at the system of creation everything was created so that it should be used at this point nobody was benefiting from the light Monday There's oceans and Brooks and rivers and and right this he makes the hav Monday Tuesday there's a a different between yam and yha so now there's finally Earth there's Earth there's vegetation there's produce you need photosynthesis you can without lights without sunlight nothing will grow so on Wednesday he gives us the Sun so the so sunlight could become what is it called glucose sugars everything can grow now you have vegetation so animals can eat fish can eat yeah birds can eat there's something to eat to ESS so Thursday the living organisms come into being and finally Friday there's an Adam say light belongs in the later stages of creation this especially K say that this is not the light of the sun like Pinson said it's special unique why is it the first thing like who who benefits from it so the said he said the first creation was not what he created it was the mission statement in Cutting Edge terminology if you want to create a company or a movement or a website before anything mission statement what do you want to accomplish without a mission statement you'll for 40 years every successful infrastructure needs a mission statement why cuz that defines you who are you what do you do what don't you do a mission statement is always one sentence Hashem creates the world he has to give a mission statement why maybe you want to tell me why there was a shiker that we grew up with his name was abalan he was a sophisticated man but he was drunk 24 hours a day so he once said of he says so rash says right away there was really no need for this yeah real can say it this was really a mistake you created a world tell me why the mission say let me tell you the mission statement the mission statement is your job is light woulde from a whole with workers and a boss about wages he paid he did didn't pay so there's an expression which means we're basically daytime workers in terms of legalities so we are daytime workers we're not nighttime workers we don't deal with Darkness we let other people deal with Darkness our job is to generate light sadly theara sometimes inspires people to throw in darkness what's the response more light more light more light more light our job is to create light let there be light what is that why do you need it cuz that's the mission statement the mission statement is any moment in life what's your job bring light so Pinson was saying a paradigm shift you could live with G you could live with messia there's no Darkness yeah and somebody is sitting at the table and saying very nice speech but his son is struggling with terrible demons and his marriage just fell apart employ Al is dealing with mental crisis in his life so it's all nice there's no darkness which world are you living in Redemption doesn't mean Redemption doesn't mean that there's being naive to a situation it means that my focus at this moment is that I am a messenger of Hashem to bring light into this place I'm never stuck in darkness I am an ambassador of light some of us are are sent into very dark places because we have a lot a lot of light so we're sent into very dark places I maybe told you once there's moments that I got from the Reb a perspective that changed me there was a boy who was suffering from uh homosexual uh Tendencies alternative uh what is it called compulsion to an alternative lifestyle he felt he can't get married unfortunately this is something that people deal with I I have I deal with this pretty often I have to say B Yesa B from different different groups and and and and Persuasions and killas communities this was 1986 and he penned a letter to the rebba a heart-wrenching letter to the rebba about his struggles the is obviously nobody can be Messiah it wasn't I still don't understand it NN all types now there are people who have big hearts there are people big hearts but usually they don't have such big Minds there are people who have crazy minds they don't have big hearts you'll see they're genius they don't have did had a mind that was like uh Beyond it's like the AL Beyond but his heart was equal it's very unique combination and the they were very balanced that on his own could sit sick on his own he would have sat 40 years in a room and read and learned and nobody would have known about him that's that was his plan he wanted to be an engineer and make a innocent living and do his own thing but I I guess he realized that God has different plans like everyone has to realize at some point God has plans and once he embraced it he embraced it but naturally you should know that the Reb was a shy a very internalized person he wrote a letter I once saw a letter he wrote a letter to the chief Rabbi of Bando in 1949 1949 he wasn't a re yet he wrote k we know each other for many years bu I got no feel for public activism I'm just not talented at it but you do have so why don't you do things and I always think myself for somebody Mish had no talent for for public acud he didn't do so bad for himself his mother would have been proud of him but that was his Mis people don't realize for the re to be who he was was M but once he realized this is his there was no looking back so I'll call upon him how did we uh ah ah the obious to a Jew who needed something was incredible I heard from his secretary bam Klein that EBA had a double heart attack in middle of a I was a little kid in middle of aus dancing he had a one heart attack and then a second one they didn't think that uh it was very very serious a secretary grer came out he was white like a sheet they thought that but the survived the heart attack and he he quadrupled his activities afterwards in the the 80s it was completely Mish quadrupled everything then came out with time to change the whole world M Etc the recovered from the heart attack it took come a very long time and he stayed in his room he didn't even go home because it was to walk wasn't s he stayed in his room from for more than a month he went home till today they PR the went home that year it was a big thing um so I heard from his secretary theba was still in bed a day or two after his heart attack he calls in he says tell me how is this lady doing go find out how this lady is doing there was a woman who recently got divorced and she had children and it was a miserable marriage and it was a miserable divorce and uh said imagine a patient who just suffered from this cup was a woman who wasn't part of his not alich nothing he said go find out I want to know how this woman is doing that was so this boy writes a letter to the Deb the debba wrote him back a three-page letter I told you the Reb was a very non-judgmental person he had very very powerful positions but very empathetic to people very empathetic empowering but not judgmental not dismissive not denigrating empowering but not denigrating he wrote back a three-page letter to this boy very beautiful letter I send it to many many people who struggle with it cuz I got hold of the letter was a private letter I took out the name and I I I use it a lot today and recently somebody sent me a letter that he wrote to transgender in the early 80s addressed transgender 1983 talk about a person who had Vision 1983 of course it's a letter to Berkeley Berkeley California where else right A whole letter about it his somebody who was suffering with the issue and they wrote and the gave them a perspective also beautiful letter but I want to say one thing that he wrote to this boy that startled me the boy asked him why did God do this to me why did Hashem do it to me not a bad question why do I have to go through the struggle of these Cravings that I have to deal with so the Reb wrote to him I'm not saying it verbatim but the the content the theme I don't know why this certainly is one of the mysteries of Divine Providence at we don't know the secrets of the world I don't know why you have to go through this however I want to share an idea that may be applicable sometimes the writes a person has inside of their soul the power to change the world but for the person to be able to get in touch with that Inner Light and inner secret and own it they have to be compelled to overcome a major struggle if not they'll never be able to discover who they really are and even if you tell it to them they'll never own it I'm reading this and I'm thinking you know many people that this B would come to sadly would dismiss the boy as just get over it learn another blad gamar cuz they're clueless rabbis who are a little more experienced and sensitive will be empathetic to this person the re wasn't just empathetic it was a whole different perspective this is called Gula perspective he didn't see this boy as a tragic figure ne ne and I'll be here for you and I'll invite you for shabas and whenever I see you I'll give you a big hug and I'll call you my holy brother and I'll give you extra pickles and Cake he didn't see him as a tragic figure he didn't see him as a victim of some neb what did he see he saw him as somebody who has an incredible light that can change the world and in order to get access to that light you have to be able to fight and overcome a tremendous struggle so you could learn who you really really are and it has to be yours not freear you have to own it only way you can own it is if you manage to work through yourself in other words from his perspective your challenge your crisis is an opportunity you're not some victim you're an ambassador of Hashem sent to very dark places to bring in light deer because your potential is of a different magnitude and that's why you're sent to places that other people are not sent now you could look look at your difficulties not from a place of case but from a place of where of light so every circumstance in life you could see from two perspectives you could see it from a place of polarities I'm like I'm a NE case look at this look at my marriage look at my kids look at my house look at my no open yourself up to the of me there's only light my is to bring in light to this situation you never take it personal you're struggling with one of your children anybody huh anybody no nobody okay huh the best of the best the best of complain but how do you look at it some of us we take it personal right my kid is not giving me you get upset at your kid you lose it or you get into a depression or you feel like a loser you on a mission to bring in light the circumstances everyone has different circumstances but you're not stuck in darkness and the same is true with your own Darkness there are people sitting in this room who have been through some stuff I'm not laughing I'm I'm I'm huh besides that kid there's another few people in this room this kid spoke about it but everybody else doesn't speak about it wall toall carpets everything is under the carpet those people went through a lot that's not a question what you the question is how you look at it do you look at it as neb you're a failure you're a loser you got stuck in darkness or you look at it from a different perspective you were sent on a mission to transform situations that nobody ever transformed you have a gal to bring into the world and a light that can reach very very toxic places and every moment and opportunity says I want to hear I want to see your light you know what that means Shem says show me your beautiful face let me hear your voice you have a beautiful voice in a beautiful Mar another thing that e could not tolerate is when people did not recognize their potentials can't lien when people looked at themselves as incapable and incompetent and losers he couldn't deal with with it he couldn't understand it he could understand it but he it was very difficult for him one of his great Motts is Shine Your Light and shine it in the most powerful way and don't let anything stop you cuz that thing that you think wants to stop you is really waiting to be transformed by you too I'll tell you a scene probably whereon remembers it also it was the night of I was a it was was middle of a there was a a uh there was a rabbi in E Flatbush but he was world-renowned Rabbi JJ remember Rabbi JJ r yud ncf j was a big Asin Rabbi JJ he had a SCH in East Flatbush so after he made a cus with his sh I guess and whatever he did or he had his P or his H whatever he was he came in the middle of the middle of he came in and I didn't see that he came in cuz I was looking towards the front where they were dancing with were but suddenly I see the re do a gesture that I never saw him do the re standing by his place there probably those years I don't know 8 n 10,000 people in a room that legally supposed to hold 1500 2,000 people hanging from air conditions and beams and ceilings and if you would drop a pin it wouldn't fall and you could see the vapor the the literally Rising it was quite quite an experience and uh the re is standing by his by his uh his place in MRA and they would dance T he would clap and make with his hands dance to the and suddenly I see the deba go like this he throws a kiss which was not a gesture that you would see by the at least not in public private I don't know but not in public especially surrounded by 9,000 with a big smile throws so I turn around to see who threw the kiss I see JJ y JJ who was a very charismatic person a big Asin he built a lot of Maus was a very dedicated Jew for har from the famous he family and he came in he came in and he was approaching and he was he came to his playwear he was standing and I saw that the de was looking at him and smiling as he threw him this kiss I knew that there's something here but I didn't know what that year a few months later RAB JJ passed away suddenly Tu in the summer in Camp he had a camp he made a camp called camp auna in the cats he passed away he was a young man 65 so I thought to myself right when I heard the news I thought oh maybe the Reb felt that it was the last he was very close to the Reb I thought maybe the Reb felt it was the last together in you know in GM so he threw a kiss it was like uh bidding him farewell so to speak which was very moving to me I didn't know I just thought I had a flashback and that was it you know life moves on two or three years ago I happened to be somewhere for and when I come out who do I see Rabbi JJ's daughter so I say you know him do you remember your father the year that he passed away he came into a and out of the blue from 10,000 people in the room threw him a kiss do you remember that it was this night this was this happened this uh was a few years ago so it was I don't know like around 25 years later I tell this to his daughter her name is Mrs abowitz she's she's AB I tell this to her walking at a SCH I meet her I say why did Abba kiss your father why did he Throw This Kiss do you think it's really cuz he passed away that year she says no no I say what she says you don't know I said no how am I supposed to know I got no I don't know how am I supposed to know she say let me tell you what happened her father finished in the meal in east Flat but she had a killer there and then he said he wants to go do Aus for the to the ever so I walked with him I walked with him from his house in East Flatbush to Crown night it's not such a long walk what is it uh few miles to go to 775 C on the way my father tells me that after yank was a he was a he workaholic he didn't stop working he was a big big worker he worked and worked he had a lot of moist and a lot of pressure and he says so he he barely slept he had a famous radio program that he did WD for many years Isel program he was a was a tour a lot of he did the you know you're familiar with release time program the uh the release time program he did this was an idea of the rebat that the Reb was unbelievable Public Schools allow one hour of religious instruction understand this so in the 1940s and at some one point they had 50,000 Jewish kids learning every MIT they call called the MIT the Wednesday hour the 50,000 kids in public learning and this the started with the of the theb continued all the years till today Wednesday B go out to teach for an hour public school kids fascinating program it's not even known to most uh most people but that's how did that's how that's how the thought the public so he ran the program for dozens of years and the Reb was very appreciative of that particular program because of how much yish that brought to people to kids you would never reach them because they weren't they wouldn't come to Jewish schools either because of secularism or because of tuition or a combination he's walking to hus she tells this to me 25 years later and she he tells his daughter you know I had a crazy dream what's the dream after the lunch after I was exhausted I sat down on the couch I was learning and of course I fell asleep I fell asleep and during my nap I had a dream and in the dream I see the re he's telling this to his daughter and I have this Ty he says I want to kiss the but there's a problem don't kiss it's not the don't kiss and they didn't even shake a hand by others you shake a hand when the bells of came to the Reb so all the bells were there with the hands stretched out so I remember the re said that it's not in Bells it's a big thing get wasn't even giving but a kiss you don't kiss so y says I'm in the dream I see the I want to kiss him but don't kiss so I decided I'm going to ask him permission so I went over to the Reb and I said do I have your permission to give you a kiss he said I didn't wait for an answer I went over and I kissed it in the dream I didn't wait for an answer it was too strong my love was too I went over and I kissed him I woke up from the dream I woke up from the dream he walks into 770 the ne returned This Kiss she told me she heard this from her father before the never returned the kiss she knew about the dream on the way to true it wasn't after she knew the story before he walked in return that's the the of a re to a and a to these things don't die these things don't die said is in real spirituality there's no such a thing as the past you understand if it's real if it's it's it's it's forever so this is a of connection connection to the connection to the to the to the to the T to the of the the B those who have the ability in the next few days it's K to go with your family to the to D over there to hasem for what you need it's K especially these days or even those those who can obviously but it's days in which person could seize the opportunity wherever you are whatever it's not NE get if you wear barcelino or you weara or you wear a baseball cap or you don't wear a hat at all it's irrelevant your background and where you come from this is not about a party of one kahill one the whole inion of the Reb was M every Jew without difference and that's what Jews are yearning for they're yearning for truth EMS the pus of yish the pus of to be to be to be in shom to be in your own relationship with yourself with your relationship with the world that's the greatest tribute to this that the whole Jewish world is looking for huh special huh I heard this from her mouth some at night I have to be M I have to I was a little suspicious I thought maybe after the suddenly there's a dream you know how it works with I said you heard about this dream after before I was just maybe I was projecting I don't mean to I was maybe I was just projecting for my own stuff I don't mean to be judgmental of anybody so she says you call over my husband he was walking with me don't talk to me call over my husband ask him what my father said that day during the [Music] walk said after they walked home tells he says I knew that the Reb knew what I thought I didn't know he knows what I dream [Music] about but he knows huh that that year he that year he left the world [Music] huh I once heard from SCH not a bad for I heard from he said like this said an interesting thing how long does it take two friends to open up to each other yeah there are I know for 10 20 years I still don't know anything about them even your therapist who you're going to for 11 years I promise you he doesn't know how much money you have in your savings account right you tell them everything because for Americans how much money you have is more confidential than intimacy do you know that how much money you have we're talking about guys who have money uh if you have $68 in the bank account then I know you tell your therapist and everybody else yeah I asked my sister she's in Manhattan her husband is I said how are you doing with paros she says when we came here there on the upper side of Manhattan her name is so she's a smart girl so I say how you doing with money so uh she says we we came here we started off with nothing and we're still left with most of it so uh but I'm telling about somebody who has you don't tell the secrets you don't tell anybody okay and then there's other stuff it takes a long time to trust somebody to be able to really think out loud so says an interesting thing he saw people would come to the they never met him before they were in his room for five minutes and they said everything everything they wrote on a note where they said everything everything that happens in their bedroom everything any how does this happen how does this happen so on one level it's trust obviously it's trust so he said one thing I want to add something else he said said I heard this from him he said cuz when you came into the you felt aasis shine he knows it already it's fine you're not going to be everybody else thinks you are he knows but I want to say one more detail it may be even deeper cuz the first thing is not something that everybody can relate to we don't know people's thoughts but the second thing we could learn from you knew that whatever you tell the Reb he will not give up on you and it will not diminish the quality of the relationship and we all know in a marriage that's the key if you know that you could be open with your spouse your spouse could be open with you and they're not going to judge you oh I always knew he was a idiot mgy low life it doesn't mean that rebba wouldn't be pained by what he hears but it means there's nothing you can tell him that will make him feel why in the world should I ever look at this person again nothing he may he may tell you something that you have to hear that's not so Pleasant if he's a good teacher that's what you do but not with a sense of such a person you'll tell anything to We should strive to be such people for our friends for our spouses for our children for other Jews and how does that what does that come from comes from a deep understanding of human nature and a deep understanding of the godliness that's always there [Music] huh huh but he are yeah the mission statement the mission statement huh find his the mission statement two words bring [Music] huh separate this is Wednesday this is Sun this is Sunday this is Sunday this is Wednesday last time we F bring your people asked a lot of questions very interesting questions you remember R Pinson answered the questions a lot about guilt and all these stuff and tonight he also said that guilt is a terrible thing and some people grew up that guilt that's everything huh equals guilt equals guilt learning equals guilt right never mind once El [Music] hits is [Music] guilt so this is something that really triggered a lot of um a lot of questions last time when we sat here so I'm just opening the floor anybody can ask their questions you could text me you don't have to ask if you're shy even though we spoke about harus Mari but if somebody is shy you could text the questions if you don't want to text them to me cuz you think I'm going to judge you you could text him to M he doesn't judge anybody right we're working on it we're working on it [Music] okay you're asking a good question in you don't have to overcome don't overcome we're still waiting for mashiach no no no no [Music] that didn't happen [Music] yet but it didn't happen yet sadly the world is still a place that needs a lot of healing and a lot of light but there's a life in which you start living with a consciousness of G when you're still in Galos you live with a consciousness of Gul and it's a different life and in the last years of the Reb's life he spoke a lot about this he said many times that the of is over I heard this from his mouth and today the is to open your eyes and see things from a g perspective what does this mean it means I have struggles there's people here are dealing with heavy addictions tell them there's no Darkness you know what's going to happen there's people who are dealing with a lot of challenges physical Financial psychological emotional spiritual social marital families children I mean there's a lot of people sitting here I know quite I know I know a few of you a little bit I don't know your bank accounts but uh and you don't have to tell me you could just give once in a while but you don't have to tell you don't have to give me the but um but the question is the attitude and it makes a very big difference I'll tell you a word from the from I'm sorry writes we did a she once on this says if you come to be cleansed they help you from Heaven if you come to contaminate yourself they open the doors for you it means hm is not going to help you sin but he opens the doors in other words he won't stop you if a Jew wants to be Mama himself you want to contaminate yourself he'll open the door right says the it's not what it means means much deeper and the is the one who says right is only if it's but if you're living now with G you could be very happy so it's connected says like this listen to this when when somebody comes to be himself meaning he has a thought or an addiction or a habit or an instinct that's going to contaminate him let's say anger jealousy hatred depression despere losing it becoming disintegrated giving up on yourself or on your family or on your relationships or other forms of immoral stuff that this person wants to do it's it's it's here it's it's inviting him it's inviting him a Jew has to know that this very this is his P this is his door we We Said Today in the morning what's the how does God open up the door for you what does this mean what does this mean it means this this Instinct that just came into my brain I could look at it in two ways I could look at it as what I'm such a horrible person look what I got to deal with or this is an invitation for me to reach a place in life that I couldn't have reached without it this will bring me awarness that I've never would have had and when I work it through it I confront it either I push it away I sublimate it I transform it I ignore it but I never repress it or deny it I give it its place and I utilize it for its ultimate purpose what is its ultimate purpose to bring me to a place of to bring me to a place of wholeness suddenly what what what did you see here this wasn't an obstacle it was a a tremendous opportunity without it you would have never been able to reach this place and that changes everything a person is running a marathon you ever ran the marathon mid sight when when I when I together with me he's running a marathon suddenly he sees a fence he sees a barrier right three types of Jews one Andrew starts screaming calls his lawyer sues the company goes on an ad campaign closes them down and wants to find the Nazis and the anti-semites who built it because he shouldn't win that's one type of Drew another type of Jew looks oh my God this is crazy these low lives but I got to win and he goes he runs around he finds away sh doesn't get in his SP this is already much more elevated place instead of dealing with fighting for the next three years you're in court you become stronger yeah first thing is called second thing is called but then there's a third mid what's the third mid he comes to the barrier and he says oh wow I didn't realize that part of the marathon is to jump over fences jumps over and he goes you see the difference for the first two there was a real obstacle in my life either I fight for the rest of my life or I just become stubborn inside which are both both have their moments in the third level I don't have obstacles this is part of my Marathon this is part of my mission and I don't take it personal nobody's here to put me down nobody's here to destroy me no I was sent exactly this this is my journey this is a beautiful journey and if I don't jump over it I'm not reaching my Destin ation if it wouldn't be here I'm not doing the marathon I'm doing something else this this is it now it's not always easy and we don't always understand why this person's Marathon has this type of fence and this person's Marathon my father told me I think it was there was no in 770 there was no water there so they used to walk to Brooklyn Botanical Gardens you know the botanical gardens F it's a beautiful Pond there it's a very nice the botanical gardens beautiful Pond there with fish they used to go for Tash now then cron Heights was full of Jews it's not later there was a migration from bronzville to bford serson was all Jews mostly secular Jews and the Reb with hundreds of would go on a little parade on right after from 770 to it's like a 20 minute walk or so right you know all the way down to the park and they would sing nun and all the Jews would come out to watch it was a very beautiful scene I think it was it was pouring rain but not just pouring rain pouring rain like uh you know those downpours when you go out for like 5 seconds and you come back you're drenched you know when the the borino die starts dripping on your face and it becomes black it was not St a mble it was a mble a real real mble but the Reb went on they came to Brooklyn Botanical Gardens and the downpour increased they come and the guy who was working there was normal so he assumed that nobody is coming to the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens today he of course didn't know about laich so he called it a day and he uh and he checked out you know he'll be home early two hours early 3 hours early the Reb comes the gate is locked there's no way to get in so the Reb gave his s to somebody and without without hesitation theb started to climb and everybody's on hundreds of people out the world elter there in their 80s old the started to climb himself climbed climbed the top jumped over was down and he's waiting for the isum and everybody climbed over everyone climbed over some people wasn't easy but uh everybody climbed over they said t pouring pouring pouring the with this embodied something it wasn't just was barriers are only in your own mind the says gas is Das and G is Das in my mind I'm in Exile and in my mind I'm redeemed in your mind there's barriers and in your mind there's no barriers this is it and everybody knows that when you in the presence of the rebba you came out and you looked at yourself as a different person cu the Reb really believed in the people he made you feel it you came out of an encounter with the Reb and you Cast Away forever your inner sense of mediocrity your inner sense of shius was was was cast away he just didn't see people that way and therefore he let you see in yourself what he saw in you and that was a tremendous quality and that's the answer to your question many of of us have [Music] struggles but to overcome those struggles we are much more empowered and much happier when we do it with aim how do you do it with a when you never feel like you're a victim of the darkness and somehow God is punishing you and you're a horrible person and you're stuck you're never stuck you heard the ver from the you're never stuck says the who's the God has barriers he doesn't have barriers you're the says me when you're an evid of the Mel you are the Mel me puted together I who am I I'm nobody but I'm an avid M he chose me as his conduit the more you're in an ego place the more you get stuck the more you say I'm a conduit for Hashem it's not me ever Mel then you are the Mel cuz it's not you it's the Mel who shines through you so your kid makes this common to you and we sometimes get so flustered and overwhelmed and angry take a deep breath always K take a deep breath and then realize you're a conduit to polish this diamond that's what you are you're a conduit to bring out the best in this diamond and that's what you're going to do with positivity with faith with conviction always positivity doesn't mean there's no challenge doesn't mean there's no struggle it doesn't mean there's nothing that I don't say you know God why don't what what what's the expression over there we're the chosen people why don't you choose somebody else you know there are ambassadors to canada4 their ambassadors America to Canada ambassadors to Afghanistan it's easier to be an ambassador in Canada than an ambassador in Afghanistan you have to for some people have such o in them that they're sent on that other people are not sent so you say I don't need your honey and I don't need your your uh your B bite okay these are Big questions of how the whole world how the whole Cosmos runs and maybe will tell us about all the and this how the cosmos runs you'll have the ra and you'll have the Von and you'll have all the m and all the and we still at the end don't understand everything but the question I have to ask now is where am I right now and that's a choice either I see myself a of and guilt and negativity and toxicity we call that gas or I see myself from a place either I look at myself and I say and I'm now a of God to do whatever I got to do now it's this and tomorrow it's this right I'm always in the same I'm good not you're not detached this is not Detachment this is more attachment with this attitude you can be attached to everything you don't have to run away from anything you can look it in the eyes because you're not afraid and the the most important person not to be afraid of is yourself and your emotions we have emotions that scare us we're afraid to talk about them we're afraid to deal with them never be afraid of any emotion you're bigger than your emotions the emotions are just part of your your path to awareness you can have the ugliest emotion in the world yeah you would tell it to the Reb yeah and you would think he was [Music] like you're dealing with this this is exactly your path this is going to bring you awareness this will bring you depth don't fall surrender don't become don't surrender to it don't become uh don't don't fall prey to it that's the opposite that's not that's not yish that's thear the want don't fall prey to it realize this is my the would always say is from huh n miracles from another next week's what's a n an elevated place a banner an elevated Banner he tests you he elevates youas you should be able to have D every n is an opportunity for an elevation and for a miracle that's what it is in order for me to be able to create Miracles I have to like Pinson said I have to be able to make that miracle in myself not get stuck now please don't take this as a lack of empathy this is not about a lack of empathy it's like e it's nothing no no no it's big stuff it's about empowerment not a lack of empathy sometimes part of the is to cry book about two types of crying there's a crying of Despair and there's a crying of pain some things are very emotional says the really oh you hear I'm crying I'm crying not from his place from your place wherever you are I'm not sometimes pain in the world before the there's pain but those tears are not tears of Despair it's tears of looking at the reality and some realities are very emotional there there is pain in the universe there's huh huh he said you were saying no no no no no everybody's dealing with you say no Darkness he says people are overcoming dark instincts that they have he say like this boy who had this terrible tyer which was which is against her he has to overcome what does it mean there's no he's not in a state of G he's in a state where he T terrible tyers from the so what are you suggesting to this boy itans shot is I think theat is this is the this question huh you were speaking of the T this question yeah yeah [Music] yeah I was explaining the question is everything has both we'll call it an OAS simple OAS or has a has the is the actuality of the thing this the thing itself and then is the which is the form is how we relate to that thing everything in this world the itself is not what is dark that's not the it's our relationship our narrative our story the way we connect with it creates the let's say you're having a physical problem let's say with parosa it's not such a big let's say you're having an issue with paros ISS of itself the of the ISS of what's that yeah for some people this will be so there's the issue of Theos itself you invest you lose money that in itself is doesn't have is not o it's not it's your relationship to that story or to that event that is either o or you relate to it as something huh why understand so what you can't pay the bill huh no it's I don't want to get because that's a drastic analogy but let's say you can't pay a bill to M what and then what and then no okay and then what you have to move to a smaller house and then what and then what no I'm saying what's your kids are thrown out of school and then what they come home and then what you go psychiatrist no no no let's go to this thing no matter how bad you're going to get the story no matter how bad you're going to get the story now I'm not saying it's easy I'm not I'm not for any one second saying this is an easy story no matter how bad you get the story it's always going to be your relationship to the story that's the so let's say theoretically yes you have to move Upstate and you have to teach your own kids and light your own fire I'm not saying that's a nice story but it could be he's getting excited that's what he wants it could be that that's the story that you want and that could be fine elmi you have a certain expectation of how you want your life to look you want your kids to be in a school that you pay $5,000 you want the house to be 5,000 sare ft and you want the house to be cool cool in the winter and I'm not saying you shouldn't want it I'm not this not Thea Thea is how we relate to that story is the is the the of the your father no matter what everything even sickness and every single mat in the in the Bria let's ask uh sh little when there's something that's a let's say there's a tree that's dying is the tree really dying it's dying like a person dies same thing a tree has a lifespan and it dies but since there's no consciousness to know that it's dying it doesn't really die it does physically die but there's no pain in dying if you look at the ran in the beginning of braus when he talks about the says that when a person then is going to be that you're going to die so brings a he doesn't say that he actually argues with it but he brings the first opinion he says like this that was a and a NRA by definition has a beginning and by therefore by definition has an end everything that's a NRA is not if it's a NRA means it has a beginning therefore it has an end so he says even were going to die so what does the say you're GNA eat you're gonna have you're gonna have awareness now you're going to know that you're GNA die you were going to die anyways now you know you die now it's painful but if you don't know you're going to die or if you're a tree that doesn't know it's dying or if you're something that's not a stim being something that's conscious you don't have the the fear or the the the the the anxiety or all the other things that are connected with this thing yes so in other words everything itself is aoral there's no to and there's no ra it's everything in the Bri before the is just Bri this is the cre the world without Das Das is is the key that opens up ourselves up to Jo the joy of life and also opens up ourselves to the pain of life we suffer and we have joy because we have Das the Das allows us to have a relationship to this issue and therefore according to our Das we have either positive experiences good experien we call to or we have negative experience we 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dying sh is you have to know you have to you have to know yourself and you have to know what is the what is the that you really need and what the you don't need and sometimes we we we get in certain Das that is not Ms what's G that the the the so it says in based on the that there was was a this this speaks about what's means you connect yourself with the stupidity this is the way should be that's that's that's he decided this is the way this is the way I should be you need EMAs you need R you need of K and and and between and is how am I related to my life so once you open yourself up and what this is what that the B says that when you're that is no longer once you're mock once you have an understanding that maybe my D is wrong maybe this is not the job that I should be working in maybe this is not the sug that I should be learning maybe this is not the I should be ding in there maybe it was until this point now you outgrew it people grow you you evolved you have new new new now you have to have to move into another thing maybe till 40 years old you have to be a and now from 40 to 80 you have to sit and learn or the opposite how do you know and the Abisha sometimes sends you signs after sign after sign and says this is not working this is not working so maybe you have to look for something else or and and the first thing you have to do is you have to liberate Jas you have to have a gas gas means I don't want to be stuck to this story anymore I want to see the the Basher I want to see the or in this this m i want MK any situation I'm in my life I want to see how I MK myself with the think about the abish the whole day it's kind it's gone simple you have to you have to make hashem's presence real not not just when we DAV and Sh not to you learn not you do a every single moment that you you're having an experience in this world every single experience you can actually direct with Hashem everything and feeling sad Hashem I'm feeling sad I'm feeling happy Hashem I'm feeling happy thank you for making me feel sad thank you for allowing me to feel every single and if you you enter into into dialogue not monologue dialogue because abish is always talking to us abish is constantly talking to us the only Reon why says that why was chosen why was he chosen the T tells us clear what was his what was his uh criteria what what made mosu great we know mosenu was a defender of of the of the oppressed he he stood up when the when when a Jew when an Egyptian was hitting a Jew we see that he was even a stand up for people that he didn't even know when the Roy were against the the daughters of is the gives him like a story a backstory the doesn't tell us why was chosen what what what what AB do what was his his backstory okay so the medes has a whole story where he came from what he learned and and okay we know the story but we how come doesn't say so says that from the beginning of the Bria is always speaking to people saying the is always saying this was the first person to hear it he heard it always talking to us we're not listening you wake up in the morning and the sun is shining they is talking to you they it's raining they is talking to you you wake up in the morning on your left side they is talking to you your right side is talking to you your wife who says this they is talking to you that's but that's the that's the you want to know what the is telling you ask your wife she'll tell you exactly what the is telling you and what if your wife says I want to