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Fabrengen Gimmel Tamuz 5779, Rabbi YY & Rabbi Pinson: Cultivating a Gulah Conciousness
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This farbrengen kumzitz took place on Thursday night, 1 Tamuz, 5779, July 4, 2019, at Ohr Chaim Shul in Monsey, in tribute to the 25th Yartzeit of the Lubavitcher Rebbe.
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welcome
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I want to welcome my dear friend RAB
Dober Pinson who's gracing this for
bran together with me and all of us and
I want to welcome all of you here I want
to welcome to rashak K who's here with
us and uh all of the guests all of the
locals and all of the residents and all
of the guests who are here both
physically and
virtually make yourselves comfortable
I want to share with you a
story I want to share with you two
stories both I heard from the people
themselves who had happened with and
they left a deep impact on me I think
they contained very profound and
relevant lessons in today's
world I had a congregant in a his name
is manim lei
a son of the a grandson of the founder
of okay some of you remember Rabbi barl
leevy Bernard Ley yeah a grandson of
his and he shared with me a story that
happened with him and then his mother
filled in the
gaps it was summer it was a hot hot very
hot day in July or August
1978 you know the humidity right the
July and August
humidity of a smeltery summer day in
Brooklyn and uh manim leevy was a 4-
year- old
boy and he was playing around on Eastern
Parkway if you're familiar with the
geography of brookin and Crown kns he
was playing around that e parkway his
family happened to be there too his
grandparents the last name deut came
from
Yim to visit and they were all there on
the Parkway and the LA walked out shabas
afternoon was a few hours after Shak M
he walked to go home to make kdes to
have the meal with his
rabbitson and Le was holding on to the
hand of his mother she was he was a
four-year-old boy as he saw the rebba
walking on the parkway he tore himself
away from his mother and he ran over to
the LA gave him his hand for
gabas but then to shake away the Reb's
hand like they were having a competition
who can shake harder pulling his capot
shaking his hand and walking with him
good chabas and starting to walk with
him and shaking his hand
nonstop as his mother told me later she
told me a number of years ago she says I
was I was absolutely horrified by the
disrespect by the I never saw the side
of my son this aggressiveness and he's
not letting the re go he's just shaking
his hand on and on finally I got him I
got him to uh leave the rebba alone and
the Reb moved on and I was so uh I was
so disturbed by what I felt was really
disrespectful to such a great man that
shabas right after havdala was par P I
sat down she this Mrs Levy told me I sat
down and I wrote an apology note on
behalf of myself
I apologize that my four-year-old
behaved
disrespectful and I asked my husband to
give in the note to the
LA now those whoever wrote a letter to
the Reb especially in later years know
that if an answer was more than a few
words it was unique the Reb wrote very
very briefly extremely
concisely sometimes he would answer
letters not even by writing anything but
by changing a word and some of the
biggest I heard from Rabbi Jonathan
Sachs for example he didn't know if he
should accept the offer to become Chief
Rabbi of the United Kingdom in 1990 so
he penned the letter to the LA and he
finished the letter Pros the cons should
I accept the position of Chief Rabbi the
rabbi didn't even answer he just
exchanged the should for the ey the
should and the ey he reversed the order
in other words now it read I should
accept the position of Chief RAB and
that was enough and the rest as they say
is history rebba was extremely
meticulous and precise and concise with
words she expected either the wouldn't
answered it wasn't the point he should
answer or he'll say don't worry it's
fine the de wrote her back that night
the same night she told me two hours
later she got a call from his secretary
RAB K one of the Reb
secretaries and he dictated a long
answer the wrote shab is right when he
got it she gave me a copy of it and I
want to read it to you I printed a copy
of it that I got from this mother who
received this answer she wrote she's an
Israeli woman so she wrote in Hebrew she
wrote
an I am
um sorry I'm aggravated I'm in pain by
what my child did so the Reb circled the
words on he made a question mark and an
exclamation point
and then he wrote In other words why are
you in why are you upset why are you
sorry to the
contrary this was a tremendous source of
delight and joy for
me there's no way to even describe the
enormous depth of the heartfelt the
hearts and the Simplicity and the
wholesomeness and the sincerity and the
truthfulness the authenticity of a child
and that's why it caused me so much
pleasure I wish that
adults would at least behave in a
similar way to this
boy especially when you learn in the
various of and
about what children are what they
represent especially that this boy knew
exactly when to do it it
was how does
the I remember hasem says I remember the
grace the love when you were a child
when you were a n the grace of Youth the
innocence of
Youth may you raise this boy and all of
your children and descendants to a life
of tah to a life of marriage ultimate
life of good deeds and then he concludes
which startled me ask and I'm going to
mention this on the resting at the
resting place of my of my
father-in-law how to look at a child
what a lesson how to look at a child
how to see a child how to appreciate a
child and how to invest in a child we
live in a culture in a time where people
have often so little time for children
even their own children WhatsApp Trump's
children everything Trump's children
there's so much everything going on that
ability to be able to tune in and to
embrace the world of a
child episode number two I was visiting
Sydney Australia and there was a rabbi
there name was Rabbi sabransky
and I uh was in his I was I met him and
he told me I want to share something
with
you that something that happened to me
in the
1980s and he shares with me the
following experience he said I had a
pressing dilemma in my life and I
decided to pen a letter to the reab this
is before the days of
emails it was just the beginning of the
days of faxes
but you sent a mail snail mail that some
people don't even know what that is you
write a letter you put it in an envelope
you know what that is you put in an
envelope you stamp it especially from
Australia you send it and you hope a
month later a few weeks later you may
get a
response today if you don't get the
response within 5
seconds it's a question on the
Friendship but then you could wait two
months for a response three months for a
response yeah and people thought before
they wrote
too that was another
Advantage so he sat down to write a
letter to the LA in his
home and he told me that he had a two
and a halfy old boy who was sitting on
the floor and playing around he was
making pictures playing with crayons or
with
Lego and uh in
his in in his own style the little boy
turns to his father says tati what are
you doing doing so he says I'm writing a
letter to the Reb so the 2 and 1 halfy
old says I also want to also want to
write a letter to the re okay so he
gives him a
paper and he takes his pen and he
scribbles scribbles a whole picture it
takes him a while a few minutes he does
this whole scribble on the paper he says
to his father here this is my letter
father looks at
it this was a 2 and A2 what we call art
of a 2 and a halfy old that you put on
the refrigerator you know what it looks
like right pictures of faces and
pictures of noses and the attempt to
draw Waters and rivers and homes and the
family you all know what those pictures
look like you keep them on the
refrigerator until the next picture he
looks at this and he's about to seal his
own letter and he's
like I can't send this to the
rabbit I'm going to send him a scribble
of a
child so he thought to himself just you
know cast it in the dust bin but at
second thought he tells me he says I
thought maybe I shouldn't mix in my son
said he wants to write a letter to the
Reb this is what he gave me maybe I
shouldn't
mix back and forth but it's the Reb's
time was so precious I don't know if you
know that re could receive between 500
and a th000 letters a day just to open
up the envelopes himself CU they were
private used to answer almost every
single
letter and that was not even the main
work that Reb did so I thought every
moment is precious he has to now deal
with this this Scribble of my child it's
unfair it's not nice no I'm throwing it
out and then he says on second thought I
shouldn't interfere in the relationship
between a child and his own
Reb so he tells me he decided to send
it to send it as
well he sends them both off to America
from Sydney Australia 3 weeks later he
opens the mail and and there's a
letterhead an envelope on top it
says laich but he sees two envelopes
that come from laich from Eastern
Parkway from Brooklyn to he opens up one
it's a letter to him addressed to him
with a title and responds to your letter
the answers to his questions and a
blessing he opens up the second letter
and he showed me the letter the second
letter is addressed to his
son his son's name was y it reads as
follows
the young buing know I want to say the
young man we wasn't exactly a young man
the young budding
flower may you be well shom peace and
blessings which in English would be
yourit your literally the Redemption of
your soul the letter which you conveyed
your soul was received
and when I go to the resting place to
the to the oil of my father-in-law the
previous whose name
was I'm going to go there and I'm going
to read your uh your message your P to
him and he concludes with a blessing to
this to this young
man I once shared this story last year I
was at an event
and somebody gets up when I finish the
story and he says I'm the boy I didn't
know he was an audience he's an audience
I'm the boy and when I saw it I thought
to
myself I'm looking at a piece of paper
and I see scribble all I see
scribble but aad a Reb looks at the same
scribble and what does he see he sees a
p neish he sees the soul of a child
sometimes you look at a child you can
dismiss words pictures statements even
trouble just
scribble it's
meaningless but if you look a little
deeper you may find there aidion
nees and I think this was one of the
Hallmarks or one of the teachings of the
Bal were commemorating the 25th
of how much to take your children
seriously to be emotionally present for
them to be able to tune in into their
inner world of course children are still
children children are children but you
know adults are also
children but children are not just
children that you dismiss and you just
give another toy to distract them or put
them in front of a video children are
real people they're souls and today we
know what Terra has taught thousands of
years that the formative years of a
child are in many ways so much more
crucial than anything else the years
between 1 2 3 4 5 those years when it's
a child you know just entertain him take
care of his needs or her needs but
really those are the child those are the
years when the the core is developed Reb
would always give an example about
education about the roots of a tree if I
scratched a trunk or a branch or a leaf
it's not so bad but if you make a
scratch in the
root it can completely destroy or damage
or affect the entire tree cuz you went
back to the core you say something to an
adult you have to be sensitive but you
say something to a
child you're now dealing with the roots
and when you're dealing with the roots
it's everything it's everything and
that's why
education for him was so Paramount it's
really at the essence
of our relationship to
Children the first message
thatu told him so I think there's a very
powerful lesson here for for us with our
own children or our students and our
disciples listen to your
children listen to your children and
celebrate them celebrate their lus their
ptos their tus and their
amus you have to understand what the
four words exactly mean lus the
heartfelt the Simplicity the
wholesomeness and the amus the
truthfulness of a child
and we should all be able to find our
own inner child and have that same
heartfelt and earnestness and sincerity
and tus and amus imagine if we would be
able at some point to sometimes shed the
need to be sophisticated and have the
ability to dance like a child cry like a
child laugh like a child celebrate like
a child be sincere as a child be
authentic as a child
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everything that I'm saying I'm saying to
myself that you should
know I think I said this last time say
again means
that so I want to talk to myself and I
Do by the way I talk to myself
but I'm sitting here in front of the mic
I'm talking myself loudly so you can
accept what I say or not and it's so you
can tell me your ideas and
your
interjections your
comments
yeah so there's an
idea when you think about I think Lula
the passing
yite so there's two ways how
to to this idea one
is especially for the people that saw
the
re was see to be for many years so a lot
of it creates
Nostalgia memories I remember when this
happened and that
happened and uh recalling different
stories events but it's like a a time
for
Nostalgia some people nostalgic talk
stories and generally Nostalgia brings
up a lot of
sadness because it was once you don't
see it physically
anymore so for the person that
experienced it it brings up sadness for
the person that didn't experience it
it's it's m okay it's
stories there was aad that lived in this
world
so it also brings up maybe sadness
but anyone that knows a little bit about
the re would
know that the Reb was a person this is
all
the that didn't talk about the past at
all wasn't nostalgic
person in contrast to other ebos that
spoke about
this happened that bich and this
happen his biography was not relevant to
anybody never told stories about his
youth he said he had three famous few
stories that he hled
over but
nothing didn't talk he went through the
Holocaust never spoke about the war
maybe once twice how many times I'm not
sure but my days when I was listening he
never spoke about
it because the oil
this is maybe we have to be momic a
little bit to go a little bit deeper to
understand
this there's the O of Gus and there's
the O of
gula there's the Gus mentality and there
the Gul
mentality the Gus mentality by
definition Gus
means that it's it's it's
bad and in this place of and in this
place of darkness and confusion and
emptiness and void in
that you can find some more you avoid
the you're really tempted to eat this
piece of cake but you probably SC that's
the little o in the you're really not
such a good person you struggle with
your Darkness you can find some
o this is Gus this the mentality of
gas but there's
is an O of
gula the O of gula started to be brought
down as everyone knows with the
with that there was a new Gil in this
world and then this
Gill of this oil that came down to this
world it revealed a new type of way of a
new way of thinking about things a new
way of looking at life a new way of
looking at yourself a new way looking at
the
world not from a place of gas from place
of
gula
the there gas and Gul this go and
G the of and of gas and Gul have the
same letters
gim gim means
g means to
reveal so there's a revealing
of which is a a revealing of Gus and
then there's a a revealing of
gim it's a different type of
revealing this the that lives in Gus
what's the state of Gus gas is not only
a physical
thing physically Eng goas we're talking
goas
but it's also a state of mind and a
state of perception and and and
ontologically and how we think about
things
and
Gus is the gal that's revealed the Gus
that's revealed in the hay what's the
hay the ha is
alaz or if you want to use the O of the
maral the hay is the D and the
yud what's the D do is a do confar it's
the four the four corners of the world
the clol is spread out through all
Dal and in the four corners of the world
in
the the and the corners and the edges in
that place there's a sliver ofus of
Y of the
Y and that yud reveals that in
the that's
G so what what condition am I in I'm in
gas and I find some type of connection
to G in my life some type of connection
to the O of the
ud this is Gus this is the mentality of
gas it's fet it's the
past it's
dark all you can do in gas is
nostalgic you can
remember you know what what do you
remember when you were younger okay so
some people it's 25 years they don't
remember they have no
memory some people were not connected
they were alive they were not
connected and some people were connected
and still connected and we alive but we
don't want to live in the
past why want you live in the past
because the past is Gus why you want to
live in
gas and you want to be mcoser you want
to connect yourself to the oil that's in
the present and in the
future
the AI that comes down to this
world brings a
new o into this world brings a new light
the the O that's brought into this light
is revealed in every aspect of
life Jacobson spoke
about that's a
PR but but we and it's it's PR you have
to understand the pr and sometimes you
go from the pr to the cloud sometimes
you go into details and you you pick up
all the pr and then you say ah this is
the cloud this is what was
revealed but we want to connect to the
oil to the cloud so we should
know how to act in every single aspect
of our life because we're connected to
the O and therefore it's expressed in
our voem how we relate to our children
you relate to your wife and to your
house and to your parents and how you do
business and how you sit and learn
everything because you connected to the
O the O the O is not an o that was it's
an o that
is said this there's certain sikim that
come into this
world
that they they they they're standing
like 11 and Cedar like a strong pillar
of Faith they
uphold what what is
there certain
big and thead in his generation that's
that's connects to
that that
strength and does it to the maximum
level and he becomes
the in this
world he upholds the status
quo and then there's
come in this world to create a to create
an unfolding of a new
o that doesn't mean that they don't
uphold but with a new A New Perspective
a new way of looking at
it and that oil never
ends the O that was revealed by the Raj
and the O that was revealed by the the O
revealed bym it's not that it was it was
one that was no the is present if you
live in
the and the is present and the same
thing also we talk
about you talk
about it's Tak time of Celebration and
doesn't mean that it's not painful
because also is a little G in every one
of us
that is nostalgic and does remember
and but I
think the would
want people to connect to the o to the
light to the to the life to the
highest to connect to the oil is to
connect to something that's vibrant and
something that's alive something that's
present
and connect to the G aspect of it this
the Gus is the G of the do and the do
conf of the a small little or that you
can find in
the in every single aspect of your
life that's you're and you're dark and
and it's trauma whatever and you find a
little lawyer and then the
Gul is you take the Al and that becomes
the foundational level foundational
letter
it's the G stands on the AL the G stands
on the AL means not that there's there's
a gal of the he which means that there's
a revealing of the ud within the dalad
but it's revealing of the to live with
hm's presence in a revealed way to see
in this
world to see the world the way it really
is the way it really
is that the world is is is a part of
hasem it's part of ab's expression
like and and this world is is is is this
is this this
place that will be
revealed for there'll be a time that
we're able to see this in our own
lives so we have to make ourself a
little biter
to
the the the in English it's called
paradigm shift a new way of thinking
there's a there's
a that came down to this world and you
can be You Can Be You Can
Be You can sit in darkness your whole
life
and and you can D and you can learn and
you can do to mitz but still gas
and the
O that was that began with the or
of was finalized and revealed in a very
gtic way the O of the
re the O that's revealed to change the
whole perception of what it means to be
a human being what it means to be
a what and to see the the G in this
world to see the lus in this world
so suggestion the only way we can do
this if we do it
together
that that when a person does something
alone so there's a lot of denim when
something is singled out there's
denim Mish minion something that's
counted something that's measured
something that's defined doesn't have a
br cuz you off why do you deserve it I
don't know maybe I don't but if you
become part of a
tior become part of the
collective speaks
about the minion of and the sh beginning
of is how's how's it possible there be
a when your counting them and Counting
them is the opposite of
ab thean writes the beginning of that
was
counted the beginning of
the that there was counting that brought
them that they came in front of they
received
right probably someone who learns knows
this
it's so how's there because the comes
says the before they count it and after
they count it because after they count
they became part of
the they became part of
the then there's no denim
anymore so when you fa you want to
connect to the cloud
want to connect to the oil we want to to
a place that's beyond
in but to do that we have
to this is
one
together so you
ready but to be ready you have to say
you have to say or you have to be as if
you said doesn't you don't have to
actually drink alcohol that's St
nonsense
to drink alcohol is just an excuse for
your body to know that it can relax and
it doesn't have to start
overthinking but if you can
be you have to be in have to
be brain
together
oh maybe someone should be talking
to thank you for taking care of the
is sitting with his hands
folded yob we have to make a mat because
the is sitting here and
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I want to share with you a
story Rabbi Pinson spoke about Paradigm
shifts Paradigm
shifts or in the language of uh
or in the language of man I don't know
the language of M yet I'm learning but
uh in the language of uh of the b or the
bat it's an right a new light a new a
new energy A New
Perspective July 4th also a new
day also A New Perspective
so
in the fourth section
of asks why it
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says in his words if's eyes are focused
on from the beginning of the year till
the end of the year so that means it's
always because the beginning of the year
till the end of the year means always
because every year it's from the
beginning of the year to the end say
it t it right one word t it not
beginning of the year till the end of
the year so he says over there that
theat is that every ER
of at the end of the year the light the
the Divine energy goes back
up goes back up into the source and it
comes down into the world
will explain the difference
of that this light never ever existed
and came down from the beginning of
creation so it's not
t and at the end of the year it's over
and a whole new Earth comes in so that
means you have to be able so that's why
it doesn't say tomit
that's why it doesn't say t because then
it would just mean it's the consistent a
consistent energy but it's not the same
light and how how do you become
receptive to This Light you have to open
yourself up to new
possibilities but everybody knows that
to open yourself up to new possibilities
is always very challenging in the world
of business they speak about different
zones your father talks about this right
there's different zones there's the Zone
there the comfort zone Zone there's the
fear zone right there's the fear Zone
which doesn't let you leave the comfort
zone and then what else the this
is and after the fear Zone anybody knows
from experience what happens after the
fear
Zone
huh how old are
you he says Thea
I'm trying to explain this to the
adults maybe you want to come give the
she in the
morning where's your father I think we
have to have a conversation by litzman
ah gal okay know the end Su huh and then
there's the success Zone at the end but
to get to there you have to open
yourself up to the
Earth
so one of the most beautiful things in T
is we say every morning this CL or Pratt
this Pratt or CLW right
this you know what all these things
mean
so says CL is always the claw is the
first Claw is of it's co everything it's
the Oneness the Pratt
is the individuated energy that becomes
very specific thises my life does your
life there's your issues and all of
creation is about the pr that came from
the
claw but the purpose of it is to go back
to the claw without compromising the pr
you understand what I'm saying in t also
there's the CL
of so the says body asked him say what
it could have
said and everything else what's
this God is going to be saying a lot of
things you can go
through if you're
doing and a lot of stuff
all the words Lamer is that a person
should be able to
experience the claw so you go from the
claw to the Pratt to the
claw and the ability to be able to take
every Pratt back to the
claw is really the the going back to the
to the light that comes out from every
PR when you link the pr to the claw
so sometimes so the Reb's teachings were
very much focused on this what I'm
saying the CLA the Pratt and the
clown in it was the of in every
Pratt he saw a clown there's a sanedrin
I
think I don't know sanedrin but the re
used to quote this very often so I know
it brings
if your Reb is
teaching and two students ask
questions let's say he's talking
about or percentage somebody asks a
question
about yeah if my laptop is on my chair
by the dining room table Friday night
what do I do it's a good question what
do you do with the laptop what do you do
with a
screwdriver if the candle the life is on
the and I want to clean up
what do I do good questions how do you
deal with M and then another person
comes to the Reb and says uh are you
allowed to celebrate July 4th according
to
right or better in July 4th he asked
about Thanksgiving dinner if you allow
to have turkey with cranberry
sauce so may says you answer first the
person who's asking kinan the person
who's asking on the topic you ask answer
him
first disagree you know why they say no
there's no no no no no precedence to
anybody one person is
asking why here are the words of
the there's no such
thing am talking about and you're asking
me about
Z I'm talking about ribbers and you're
asking me about ch
or t or
t so you have to figure that out but
it's it's one that's the claw the
ability to go to the and go back to the
claw and see it within the individuality
is really the Utopia of seeing in every
detail everything and today we see it in
science the
DNA right in every single cell there's
40 50 trillion cells in a body but in
every single cell you know how tiny your
cell is in every cell you have a double
copy of the manual for the entire
organism is an organism it's a human
being and in every detail you see
everything in a Tad's life in a small
detail you could see a claw so I'm
telling you a story it's one story it's
a
pratt but this Cloud Pratt and coming
back back to the
clown had a
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custom he would distribute cake whoever
wanted to come take a piece of honey
cake and give them a blessing
for anybody who was
there but a lot of people would come on
so he would do
again the end
of explained in Zoya
would stand at a had a su there near 770
Eastern Park and he would give Le honey
cake was one year sh the rebba was
standing and distributing honey
cake the lines were very very
long thousands of people flocked all
types of people but it moved pretty fast
because most would get a honey cake a
and move
on there were three people in the line
one person from whom I heard the story
name name is Rabbi Ley booket he lives
in
Chicago and he was the mut he was the
intermediary in front of him was what
you would call A Classic
hippie his hair extended from his head
far far
down very unkempt and his whole SE his
whole gestal his physique was one that
displayed the fact that he's proud to be
a true hippie of hippie culture behind
RAB B was a rash who was
a a very distinguished and
prominent what brought him there
something interesting
theed
away you were
there August 1979 till satma appointed a
new reab took some time I think a year
or a year and a half so that edim
Kipper that edim
Kipper this was he wanted
a so he decided to take the trip from
Williamsburg to Crown Heights and get a
piece of
from it's a long line and the hippie
goes
by the Reb gives him a piece of honey
cake blesses him and then he turns to
this Jew with long hair young man and
says where are you planning to be by the
hakus he asked this
Jew she says I don't have any
[Laughter]
plans no kidding right so the rebbi says
these words it would be a privilege for
me if you would come dance here with me
in the sh together with so many other
Jews we'll dance together on some
it would be a
privilege the man wasn't impressed he
says what you say in English you know
what do you say in English when you're
not
interested we'll
see you know complete non-committal
which basically is a nice way of saying
it was nice seeing you we'll see we'll
see and he left he went on right after
that book it moved on and the SAT comes
he saw all this the Reb gives him a
piece of H cake and
says good and
sweet out of the blue he turns to him
and he
says you
learn now to ask if he
learns is like to ask a brisker if he
learns gzz
stencils if he
learns it's like asking a if he learns T
you
learn was written
by
title he's considered the founder of the
dynasty of sat he was the r of U in
Hungary
eel and he wrote a
beautiful so the Reb is asking
this if he
learns so he says of course
Lear so he said you so you remember the
story that he writes in his
to he tests him say that story he
doesn't
remember so the Reb is standing there
and there were thousands of people
waiting the line
stopped he tells him the story he tells
him the whole story
that a called it's a story that he heard
from his who was
hisab yeah
he heard it from his reab who was the SE
ofin the ofin who was a student of the
M which was the
famous he used to
call because he was
a would
say so he said he heard this from
the there
was was a tal of the
B his father was a yid
named uh d
right when he came up to heaven he says
he heard from the that rash
rash came to
greet the father of so he says why do I
owe the this why do I get this honor as
you should come greet me so he says it's
in honor of your
son and I have a question he creates
a that nobody else do creates he creates
a commotion in heaven like nobody else
there's a pleasure that he gives hasem
that nobody else gives I want to know
what does he
do so the father tells Rashi with a lot
of Pride you know when somebody asks you
about your child you know how did he
become so great so he says my son he
learns
he learns t for the sake of Heaven day
and night soash says gal but there other
Jews who learn Terra so he says my my
son fasts M shabas shabas he's
completely Beyond materialistic
Pleasures he fasts could be from a week
to a week rash says wow but there's
other Jews I know they don't create this
tremendous Ruckus In Heaven so he says
to Rashi my son also distributes
enormous amounts of money that he
collects to widows to poor people to
destitutes dtit Jews who are destitute
to orphans Rashi says
listen but there are another few Jews
who also give tremendous amounts of
there something singular unique about
your child your son and the pleasure he
brings to the what is it so the father
tells actually does one more thing and
he quotes three words from
the three
wordsim
May which literally means my son brought
back many many Souls from a life of sin
back
to
says heard that
was
satisfied Rashi was
content the Reb looks at
this I saw that you were quite taken AB
back and
astounded by how I spoke to this person
in front of
you so I'm telling you what says
how Rashi was
satisfied the man was flab
aasted there were thousands of people in
the line he was taken a back based on
his education and his background it was
very difficult for him to appreciate
what the was doing he is a kid with long
hair tattoos piercings earrings MF
yeah
tat
piercings I don't know exactly but it
wasn't exactly theic look let's put it
that way very not like it what what's
this and the was sensitive to the
feelings of this who came to see
him and could not deal with it could not
tolerate he couldn't understand
it so he told them the story from the
title that she heard a bunch of things
when she
heard that clenched
it if Rashi was content you can also be
content and the S looks at the and says
[Laughter]
I understand what you're saying very
well and said was before and he moved on
the story has a little postcript
book shared with
me at night that would dance for many
hours it was really an electrifying
experience to be by by the
Reb when the Reb would leave night it
was very late cuz he start only at 1: in
the morning because for a few hours
before there was a
BR that night from 9:00 till around
midnight or later and then they would
prepare the sh for our our would start
around 1:30 in the morning or 1: in the
morning and then it would go for a few
hours the Reb would leave it could be 3
in the morning 3:30 in the morning 4 in
the morning many would stay on to dance
till Shak they would just dance and
dance and dance it was quite a scene it
wasn't no alone it was lot a lot of
people
Rabbi bit I heard this fromit he says it
was around 5: in the morning the re
already left Aus and he's about to leave
himself he wants to get a few hours of
sleep two three hours of sleep before
Shak because tomorrow there would be
another by the was something out of this
world was it was something uh very even
hard to describe he would dance for
hours but there was not a not a not a
tip ofus it was with such
with suchas it was incredible just to
see it was like a revelation of of Kad
in this world that was
incredible and uh for hours dance and
dance and dance the remember the was
dancing in his high 80s and the couldn't
keep up there were 20y old nobody could
keep up it was a it was half of a fell
to watch to see to be part of
it and uh rabuka tells me says he's
leaving sh 7 70 to go home to get a
little sleep 5: in the morning and who
does he see
dancing he sees this
hippie dancing with a they were dancing
like in a circle you
know one hand and another hand they were
dancing he said after all he couldn't
refuse the
invitation after all he couldn't refuse
the
invitation it's a beautiful story but I
think also the story has a very powerful
message for us it's not just a story
it's part of a CLA it's a
perspective I would say from my own
little
experience that one of the greatest
challenges that so many of us have is
contained in one word it's called
judgmentalism people always feel judged
I can't tell you how many emails I get
from from from from religious
people modern orthodox this type that
type yeshivish more yeshivish less
yeshivas all types I grew up and I feel
so judged everybody's always judging me
something happens in my life and
everyone is looking at me an issue with
my child and I'm stigmatized an issue
with my marriage and I'm stigmatized the
Judgment I change my hat and I'm judged
I do something not Mish perfect and I'm
judged and it creates a lot of people
who are very
unhealthy because the need not to be
judged is what motivates so much of my
behavior so I'm not doing anything
because I'm there I'm just want to make
sure that nobody judges me in other
words my whole life is being lived
externally and the judgmentalism is so
powerful it's so
toxic and many people think that that's
exactly what yudish is of course you
judge how don't you judge there the
right way and if you the wrong way I
judge
you the fascinating thing you
that the holiest Jews were not
judgmental they would the people with
more should be the most judgmental
because they care the most about God but
you see
take all these types they had
tremendous and they the in our
generation was an example of this the
year Shay of the Reb you can't be messah
I tell people you can't be MH to see
the on a Wednesday afternoon yeah if I
could
feel yeah like I felt when I saw
the once in my life it would be
a the year of the you can't
be
AE a
from a footnote of a
was incredible to see and without
anybody even noticing you had to be able
to notice these things because
without he should have been such a
judgmental person because his standards
were beyond what people can imagine
here's a person who lived 90 years you
couldn't and he spoke a lot you couldn't
catch him 50 years on one word
ofar s he didn't speak to people he
spoke constantly to people 50 60 years
you couldn't catch 90 years he didn't
stop fasting people don't know he fasted
days and weeks I saw
myself I saw myself in his 80s not when
he was 25 years old he fasted tremendous
kadha his mother once told somebody a I
knew Gordon your
neighbor he came out of my womb
holy he came out of my womb holy I'll
tell you something I remember myself
there's a his name is Bob
Dylan Bob Dylan yeah not Robert
Zimmerman Shi Zimmerman
okaya
yeah shopi zusa not Robert I know shopi
zusa he is considered the founder of
rock and
roll H more or less okay the founder of
rock and roll
Nite yeah you talk about Paradigm shifts
yeah consider the icon won the Nobel
Prize probably the only one who won the
Nobel Prize who didn't show up to get
the
prize yeah because his
b or whatever his
stick he dresses like a homeless man I
don't know if you know but when he's in
public he would hang out in 770 Friday
nights with a hood and a homeless guy
cuz the Israelis didn't know who he was
and it was perfect for
him once in a while he would come to
theb one shabas in the early 1980s
midnight he came for
shabas and they told the Reb before that
he's
coming so the Reb
asked he doesn't it's yish said he's
going to stand there somebody who's
going to translate by the songs will
translate what theb said so the rebba
was expecting him
boban he came and those who knew that he
was there he wasn't dressed exactly like
he was dressed M like a schnor bennar
Benn trust me how he was dressed if you
didn't know who he was he was not very
respectable
look every person whoever wanted would
pick up a cup
for and re said to everybody even if
there were thousands of people the Reb
during the songs between the talks the
Reb would speak most of the time but
between the talks there was a song for 5
minutes 10 minutes and during that time
the rebba would look and greet every
single person with his head
even if there were 5 6,000 people he
said to everybody sometimes you saw that
he looked at somebody for a few extra
seconds he gave a gesture to somebody
and you knew that person needed a
special it was quite an experience to
watch sometimes in Middle the would go
into Adas for a few moments or a few
minutes Bob Dylan picked up his cup to
say and the deba looked and just passed
over and again the
again just he just like looked and
just ignored him completely
aabis that asks one of his
secretaries Dylan is
G was Bob Dylan by
the he says yeah he was
there you said he's going to be there
why wasn't he there he was
there that I didn't see him I didn't see
it that EV was maintaining it he
said he said I didn't see him it was
very strange was very
strange somebody picked up on something
there was a sensitive person he picked
up immediately on the secret Bob Dylan
converted to
Christianity he converted
Christianity and he probably never went
to the
m was it possible that chabas of and did
didn't see him the with you know the
yeah
huh there was uh uh it was the mil
milk people were drinking and he didn't
see it they gave him to see he said he
doesn't see anything later they found
out that it
was and he said there aish the Mish says
was also Friday night he was touching
the walls like like it's dark they found
out that it was
uh somebody put up the light but it was
in a way that was forbidden on shabas so
he
said he didn't see the
light so was it possible that in a Halo
of Kad didn't see that he was there and
the Y told him go to the mikah he went
to the
mikah cuz he came back to yish he came
back to the Jewish people he went to the
mik the next shabas he picked up his cup
immediately theba looked and gave him a
strong
strong such a person should be very
judgmental because when you have such
standards of Holiness it's very hard to
tolerate people who are not that
way the was probably one of the most UN
judgmental people that you would
encounter but it's not was wasn't only
his gift he inculcated this into
thousands of T the fact is you have
kabad houses all over the world that all
types of Jews come to and they'll always
tell you I don't feel
judged generally the hmark of aabad
house
is that people don't feel
judged you have religious people you
have secular people you have religious
people from all Stripes they don't feel
judged
this uh this whole sh was replicated on
that
Paradigm people don't feel judged here
that's where everybody comes you look
around you'll see who's here even I feel
comfortable even you feel comfortable
here right
this how does it work does this mean
you're compromising people who don't
have principles of course don't judge if
you don't believe in anything there was
a Jewish Comm his name was Sam Levens
and he used to say like this I have
principles and if you don't like them I
have other
ones a person who's spineless is not
aish if you don't judge you don't if you
don't stand for anything then you stand
for everything it's not that you're not
judgmental it's just these things you
really don't care about the Kish is when
you care about something with passion oh
then people who are not judgmental
usually become very judgmental
V when you oppose their view on
abortion then suddenly you become the
sist and the Barbarian of civilization
well what happened to a
tolerance tolerance for everything
besides someone who doesn't tolerate
your view why not why can you tolerate
my not tolerating your view my not my
not disagree my disagreeing with you
it's not easy when you're passionate
about something not to be judgmental
but the Reb inculcated this approach
into thousands and thousands of talid
who are really not judgmental people and
it's an incredible
phenomenon he's standing in front of
this person with long
hair wants him to come to AAS but the
person doesn't feel judged and a moment
later he's standing in front of
a and there's a deep connection to both
of them that is very very powerful
what's the magic behind this what's the
mechanism behind
this mechanism is two things there's
many more but I just want to point out
two things number one is
a don't judge other people until you
don't experience their life we don't
know anything about other people until
we live their lives there he
says until I'm not wearing your shoes
and walking in your shoes a thousand
miles
how can I judge you this doesn't mean I
agree with you and that's the difference
not being judgmental doesn't mean I
agree with you maybe you're wrong
actually maybe I'm right maybe you're
wrong but I can't sit on a throne with a
superiority complex what a low life what
a sick person you are that is what
creates separation fragmentation people
become defensive and they'll never
actually grow into their ultimate
potential always always look at a person
and appreciate the fact they may be
doing the wrong thing actually but don't
sit in a throne of judgment I'm so much
holier than you you're such a lowly
person the re wanted to be this attitude
from
CLA and to a significant degree he was
successful and every day it's getting
better and better cuz when you're not
judgmental you can actually bring people
much closer to their ultimate purpose
their ultimate Destiny because they want
to be close to you if not they become
defensive and they become alienated and
suspicious we always have to create
environments where people don't feel
judged where you can accept people be
sensitive to their anxiety be sensitive
to their pain as this young litzman boy
says be sensitive to their
trauma that's something I'm supposed to
say not you you have to be sensitive and
I ask you a question who who doesn't
have shame in this world is there
anybody in this room who doesn't have
shame huh anybody raise your hand please
huh huh nobody has any shame here about
anything well I have some
shame that one guy who says I have shame
he's not talking about
himself like one guy who raises his hand
and says yeah I'm an
addict we're all on a journey we all
struggle doesn't mean doesn't mean that
the fact that you did something wrong
suddenly becomes a good thing but it
means be sensitive to people's Journeys
and lives lift them up embrace them
number two what the rebit taught
was that nobody knows about Nas
is suffer from
the in other words it's not
a it's a nice word it's Mish what's Mish
Mish comes from the word mamosas you can
touch it this is mish yeah the pickle is
mish you touch a Jew you're not touching
a piece of meat you're touching
a you're touching
a and therefore you have to love cherish
appreciate have tremendous respect it's
a gift I he has flaws of course yeah
people have flaws he may have done wrong
things perhaps but you're dealing M with
a with a godliness believe in it invest
in it trust it look at it see it
and then there's a certain appreciation
that you have for every person wherever
they are if Hashem is inside of them
then you a pass dear to also stay with
them and to be close to them so I think
this little story about this Jew
that it's not just a PR it's a paradigm
it's a
claw and when we can emulate that in our
own lives and we can create that in our
homes and our communities and in our
schools and our shs imagine how healthy
it would be for Yeshiva Boys for girls
for teenagers and sat visit and B and
Papa and laic in new Square in Lakewood
in mon in B Park Crown Heights
Williamsburg mayard benra Chicago
Toronto Gold's green Stamford Hill if a
17-year-old would be able to say
something and not be
scared that he's going to be judged and
stigmatized oh
about you always say it as is he says
how about a 70-year-old not scared of
being Jud they used to say that there's
three three ages 20 40 and 60 right when
you're 20 you're very self-conscious any
20 year olds here right we have some are
you very anybody 20 are you
self-conscious like iron you're 20 no
you know who am I what type of sh am I
going to get who do I fit into I don't
fit into you know it's like the whole
Mah myo my Mahal whatever environment
you're in you're in Lakewood freezer or
you're in uh whatever or you're
in it's not but you have your your way
how you how you present yourself to the
world because you want to be perceived
in
this okay then when you're
40 you say you know what I really don't
care what you guys think about me I am
who I am you like me you don't like know
that's when they start putting on the
t-shirts you know that moment yeah rakov
Ma yeah Ma they start putting on the
t-shirts and even though their father
like this is who I
am this is who I am Pride what do they
call it in America
Pride when you're 60 you realize nobody
was ever looking at
you okay but I'm not 60 yet so I don't
know about that but that's what uh
that's what they say so I want to uh I
want to bless myself and all of us that
we should be able to cultivate a little
bit of this attitude to be able to love
Jews to be able to be kind to Jews to be
able to inspire people to be able to
elevate people instead of being
judgmental respect their journey and
bring them to a more powerful
place and
finally I want to share with you this
experience which is also so powerful so
smart and so powerful there was a group
of secular students it's a very
interesting thing during the 1950s and
60s I don't know if you know but the
rebba was an address for thousands and
thousands of young people who were
confused you had Holocaust Survivors and
you had you had Russian refugees but you
also had a lot of people who were
confused students and this they would
come the re would sit all night with
people there was a group of students who
came and they asked a lot of questions a
lot a lot of
questions when they finished asking the
questions the re would answer all the
questions one of them was
aak he wanted a you know I guess it's
called a trap question he
says you we are a bunch of secular
Jewish students be honest with us do you
think we're good Jews or bad Jews this
is m is a trap question cuz if they ever
says bad Jews you know he just lost it
that's it fine if he says good
Jews there was no shabas there was no
kasas there was noin there was no yish
they were secular people what is he
supposed to
say he looks at the student he
smiles and he says I'll answer you the
student says I want an honest answer I
want an Hest honest answer no fluff give
me an honest
answer so he said in my mind
is
a it's the lad in the dream
of it's etched on Earth on the ground
but it reaches heaven and it's the
Journey of every human being for
Transcendence we are a synthesis of
Heaven and Earth there's a body and
there's a soul and there's a ladder we
climb from
earthiness to touch Infinity to touch
truth to touch the Divine and in the
latter of the Jewish people there are
rungs we call them
mitzvas and each rung is a step in the
ladder that starts on Earth and reaches
heaven and that's what Yakov Jacob
saw now I ask you a question there are
two
Jews one of them is on rung
612 one of them is standing on rung
number two who's the good Jew and who's
the bad
Jew who's the good Jew and who's the bad
Jew
what do you say the student says well
from your
perspective the person on the 612th rung
is obviously a lot higher and a lot
Superior says but wait I have one more
thing to tell you the person who's on
step 612
yesterday he was standing on rung
613 person who's on step two yesterday
he was standing on rung number one
now what do you
say the student was quiet the Reb says
you see what matters is not which Rong
you're standing
on what matters is which direction
you're heading in could be a person
who's on 612 but yesterday he was
613 he's going down another person who's
number two but yesterday he was number
one he's going up what matters in the
latter of Jewish life is not which rung
you on its wear your head
which direction you're
going what matters really is not where
you are but if you're allowing yourself
to be challenged if you're allowing
yourself to be stimulated if you're
allowing yourself to
grow that's what matters so you ask me
are you a good Jew or a bad
Jew every Jew essentially is good now
you want to know in your behavior are
you good or bad you have to answer that
question it's never about where you are
which direction you're
heading that ability to be able to look
and not put a person into a box this is
where you are this is where you're not
this is who you are it's about the
ability to become the possible human
being who you could become and that
allows people to grow into their
potential to develop themselves in an
extraordinary fashion
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saw I never saw any don't have a job in
the animal
kingdom and I'm to to serve my
master this is one
Gea then there's another
Gea I'm created to serve my my
master I am not created I
need and Ella which is the negation of
all
possibility means I'm
created meaning I am Aus I exist I'm an
eye and my eye is here to
serve means I don't even begin to exist
and my whole existence to serve my
Creator we talked a little before but we
really have to say to connect to this
o is that there o
there's a light that comes
through there's a light that comes
through
Darkness but love
and used to say you're giving out
whiskey whis is
Red vodka is white so he said in
I live with
love I don't really hate the adamites
the red it's a worst case scenario you
have to drink whiskey but we drink
vka
soia a person serving
Hashem there's you're struggling
you're tempted and then you
overcome that's the the posture that's
the of a person
that's but
then
means there's a different
sour the
G the G
know
it's what's tamos what is tamas where
does the word tamas come
from where's the name of the word come
from so thei says says that
the were all that adapted these names
from B Babylonians the acadians the
Assyrians CL all adapted these names
originally if you look at
zakar it's
called It's called The set forth month
doesn't have a
name they're called by their the names
the numbers but the names do not come
from
sources sources but they actually come
from other cultures
that says that it's da All Because by
because by
P they celebrated so
therefore so you
count but the the second G which was a
smaller Gul
which with with Ezra so therefore they
wanted to do a remembrance of that that
so that K actually implemented which
actually called kashus of B
but the name t where does the name t
come from where is the shame T where
does where T come from
so if you
look the talks
about that's
called I think the r says that it's not
but it was someone that was
the name of the of the priest that
served in this was called T what's T
what's
this and it's strange that we
call you call this month why do you call
you're not supposed to you're not
supposed to name
after what is the
ofas so Rashi writes
in that was was like
this they um
there's something that's called the
summer and the winter sal sal
sal which means when the days Chang from
Winter to the summer the longest day the
longest night and these were days that
were marked in the
calendar was occurred in the summer
salces and therefore what they did was
the practice of this AAR was that there
was an image it was an
idol the idol was Hollow so they made
like an image of a t of a person
and it was empty in the
middle then the eyes they had had no had
no place for the eyes and then the place
where the eyes were they put lead they
put lead pellets in the place of the
eyes then they would heat up a fire
within the AAR the
Sash and when they heat when the AAR
became really hot the lead
melted and when the lead melted it
looked like the was crying tears were
coming out of the eyes this melted lead
and when the tears ofar was
crying says that the
women CL would actually sit by this is
trying to inspire them they shouldn't do
this sit by the and they would
cry they would cry together why cry what
was the crying what was the idea of the
crying the crying was that there was a
spring it was a new month new year new
spring new possibility New
Hope and these women felt like this is
going to be a time they're finally going
to find a Basher they're going to get
married they're going to start a new
life and now the seasons that's turning
it's already turning towards the winter
it's already the the summer soles and
the days are getting shorter and
therefore they would cry and lament the
fact that they didn't find their love
and things didn't work out the way it
should be this is the
so why do we why do we uh why do we
celebrate why do we connect to T and not
only that we connect
to the
whole
especially is IDE of tears of
crying that day that they that they by
the story
of they
did so
through
tears so there's two types of tears and
there's two types of ways of looking at
this world and this is the we're trying
to say before a little bit about the
O there's one type
of a way of
thinking
that what is called
tragedy or fate which means no matter
how much you
try no matter how much you're going to
try to Aspire to be different to do
things differently for things to happen
in your life no matter what's going to
happen faith is going to take
control
and the winter is going to come
anyways you can't win this is the great
tragic Greek
tragedies which is that a person tries
has a Hero Journey we're going to try
I'm going to change the world things are
going to be different he pushes up this
big boulder up the mountain and the
boulder comes flying down end the
mountain and that's Faith you can't do
anything you can't fight
faith that
is means you're crying from the
possibility that was and it can't be any
longer and there's never ENT possibility
to change it this is the way it is this
the way it always will will be you can
try you can struggle you can move the
dial a little bit but the dial is going
to go back to square one you
have you're a person that struggles with
this and these and these type of
thoughts and this types of depression
and this types of this is who you are
you push a little bit the dial and then
it goes back
down and to to fight with or the is G
because the definition of
g and the mocker of of gas is the
tum right the mocker of all gas the
mocker of all separation of all havala
comes from the there's a of the the was
not a place of emptiness and we're
living in the place of the and therefore
you're living in the place of the so no
matter what you're going to do
at the end of the day you're always
going to be back to square one back to
the so you
have and you struggle so today you're
going to push yourself to be and to do
and you're G to do it and you're GNA
have five minute success and then
tomorrow you're gonna have the
same and you're struggling with
depression you're going to push the
boulder you're going to push the the the
the
the the rock up the mountain and your
mom going get to the top of the mountain
but it's tragic it ends with a tragedy
why is it end with a tragedy cuz the
boulder always falls back
down that's inherent in the idea of
of inherent in the idea of
Gus is that Gus is perpetual and it's
it's Everlasting this is what the of is
that it's and you could push some or but
will always come
back so when a person thinks about to to
to move something to get somewhere
he was old was
a someone's asking
B fact I think it's the only thing
that's written on his C
is he's a big a
big he was the only person the only that
wrote on
him never wrote
on other people but his own personal he
never wrote the word sad but was
wrot his
his he a big someone came and told
him how do you reach how do you get to a
place how do you get
somewhere and he was a that sat six
hours every day learn for two three
hours he was a person that was his whole
life he was a big
and uh told him like
this 20 years you have to break
yourself 20 years you have to DAV like a
Manch DAV doesn't mean just to say the
words but DAV really means to live the
words two three hours to
be 20 years you have to
learn he used to learn with his nail
he's learn a line a day with his nail he
used to carve his nail into the page one
line he would sit for five hours not
sure what he did one line he five
hours
okay 20 years 20 years 20
years and then
nothing sh nothing
I'm not giving a pierce on on on this on
what he said because what he said he
said but when a person lives from a
place of
Gus from the that was
Gala before is
Gala of the oil of the ab that was
revealed in this world this
generation so your your connection to or
is
through so you have the dominant feature
of your life
is it's concealed it's empty it's lack
and what you're trying to do is bring a
little bit light into the
darkness but darkness is is the most
important thing so therefore what
happens is the moment you're not
connected to light all of a sudden the
darkness comes back and that's why
people feel like wh what happened I I I
I I I did this and I DAV and I learned
and I did isaf and I did all this AV and
I still feel like I'm the same person
like I was 20 years
ago so there has to
be another way that has to be there was
another way there's another way not I
need I
need I need Lo
Ry is
the
understanding that the the
means Gul means already
that in your neish and who you really
are there's already G there's already
Redemption you're already
perfect there's already shus in who you
are already before you there's already o
before
the the is
not if the there's a little so you're
stuck they could be here but it could be
a revealing of the light but you're
still you're still inherently
in but
revealed revealed and then the Reb
revealed in even a more revealed
way that simptom is mean
that really there is
no where is the of
the
everywhere where is there no you choose
not to see
it if you see it if you live that
there's there's in your life there's
there's in your life the spirituality
and in your life then there is no it's
not that you're trying to find in the
some that's
G and
by definition there's for every thesis
there's antithesis for
every there's the
opposite there's every there's a
dialectic there's always opposites you
have one so you have the opposite you
have you
have but then there's another way of
thinking it's beyond Duality Beyond
separation Beyonds Beyond hav
in
the
there's the lower Waters cry they want
to be closer to the upper Waters but the
is because you can never M you can never
reach
it Jacobson said some beautiful stories
I'll tell you a story that happened with
my wife's grandfather Alber
maybe this is the the of the
story also some people know was a
very he he
said was originally his
he on the radio and there was M
the he was a and he was also he was sh
used to collect money for Thea that's
what he did for a
living he was very close to a famous
family in Brazil called the saffas very
famous
Bankers Jacob
saf it was the it was in the
80s T Ms and at night one night it's 2
three o'clock in the morning he gets a
call from Mr Safra he's a very famous uh
G and he tells him that his wife is in
labor and uh there's complications with
the labor she's in the hospital there's
complication with the birth and he needs
a from
the and uh the doctors are saying that
that they should do a C-section and they
should just pull out the child they
shouldn't have a natural birth but his
wife doesn't want to do that for his
wife wants to have a natural birth and
he wants to know what to do should go to
natural birth or she go to the C-section
and he doesn't want to do it until he
gets a clear answer when they what to
do so uh saffra tells uh uh y w tells uh
saffra that it's 2:00 in the morning
what should I do I should go to the's
house knock on his door he says listen
I'm Jacob saffra you you you do what you
have to do he says listen the reab
doesn't work that way I can't uh I can't
buy them all for money but what I could
do is I'll go to his office not g to go
to his house I'm GNA go to his office in
770 and see if the lights are
on I'll I'll
knock but I'll
knock so he gots see gets dressed he
writes this letter that Mr Safa is
asking a question C-section not
C-section birth or not birth and what
should be
done so when he gets to 770 he sees that
it's not sure if the lights are fully on
or not it looks like maybe a lamp is on
doesn't know if the re is taking a nap
or not doesn't know what to do he
doesn't want to knock because maybe if
the Reba sleep doesn't want to do that
so he decides he has an idea he'll put
the note under the door
and I'll make a little noise as the note
is going on the door and if the Reb's
awake and sitting by his desk the Reb's
going to see the Note coming in he's he
hear a noise he's going to look at the
desk he's going to take the notes and
read it if not I'll wait till tomorrow
morning what could I
do so kav starts P pushing in the note
and he leaves a little bit of the note
outside so he can see if it's being
picked up and he sees he waits there for
a minute and all of a sudden the the
notes picked up the opens the door
says what you know reads the note and
the Reb says that they uh they should
not do the C-section and she's going to
give birth a healthy
child and everything everything be
fine he goes home he call saf he tells
him that this is the story The said not
to do anything the mother's going to
give birth healthy child you don't have
to do anything it'll be a natural birth
okay of course the baby is a healthy
baby the next
day also wber is thinking to himself
I should really asked M I asked M
why because the re happened to be up he
was up so I could have knocked on the
door instead I put the door the page on
the on the floor and I made theab B down
it was not wasn't a young man so I
should really ask M that I'm sorry so he
wrote a little
note that the baby was born everything's
healthy but I want ask because I I
troubled theb to bend down it's not nice
so theba sent them back a
note similar to that note before he says
he doesn't understand why he's
asking and then he said and then he
wrote my whole thing in life is to pick
up this is this is what my sh in life is
my sh in life what I do in this world is
pick people
up called
JJ and um he used to
uh used to create was a l Boer there
used to create a parade to come out to
this
parade and there was a lot of for the
parade and
JJ was
if it's going to work out and he's had a
little at the end of the parade turned
to him and asked him if if the left him
does he feel good now everything worked
out smoothly it was good everything was
about so he
said pulled me out of
my says I was there you're
probably was loud you can hear in the
mic says
pulled you out no I didn't pull you out
I lifted you
up there's a very big difference between
being pulled out and lifted
up pulled out means you're dealing
with and you're pulled out of the BL
you're pulled out of the darkness
there's there's a tum there's a there's
there separation there's a in this world
you're struggling with thear
is real your is real the world is there
is and then you're pulled out of that
how long you pulled out of five minutes
10 minutes a day two days a year but
then if you can be pulled out you can be
pulled straight back
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in but then there's
something lifted you out of this
condition
totally it's a different paradigm
it's it's not an that says that is its
opposite because if is its opposite then
today it's tomorrow
it's and it's it's a pendulum it swings
one day it's good one day it's
bad one day it's knocking one day it's
not knocking one day you feel connected
one day you don't feel
connected but then there's another way
of thinking about
it and this this is the vo vo is is a
total reorientation of yourself instead
of focusing in this direction you start
focusing in this direction it's it's one
it's one
care it's one turn it's one shift in
your
Consciousness it's instead of looking at
yourself and looking at the world as a
place of and Hester and simum and a
place of darkness and you're struggling
with darkness and you're overcoming in
your better days and worse days you turn
you shift to a different direction and
you're you're the place of Life the
place of
gula I the world is notal and there
still but if you're not going to be
your own
self then how do you expect the G come
that we're un that gas is a un you know
why we're in gas because we dream
gas this is our imagination when you
close your eyes and the
auto Story the automatic story of your
imagination creates you know what you
tell yourself I'm a
failure I'm not a good person I
struggle the world is against me I can't
really do anything I'm a failure this is
the this is the narrative that you're
telling yourself
okay so then you wake up and you say no
no no it's not EMS I can I can beem I
can be connected I can be I can reach
oil within this I can overcome my
struggles yeah em you'll have a good day
then you're GNA be back to
goas the last few
years that the rebba
spoke mainly n Al in Bay those few years
spoke about this
idea that that that it's Nar it's
already
finished and now all we need to do is
open our eyes what does it
mean what does that
mean because we know that the
whole in this world is everything every
SLE you're
doing you do one you going another o
another another right there's there's
there's there's elevation of you're
elevating Sparks
and this is a whole and
then so so
what's stop thinking about means that a
and you have to extricate you have to
reveal the
in that was Tak foras we're ready this
is the sa this is already as
manula it's not
as it's not we're not it's not it's not
we're not talking about that we talking
about the O of Gul the O of G already
was revealed so if the O Gul was
revealed live
it that's technical that means the world
is ready for the O of of Mia for the O
of G the of G is not a or that has an
opposite doesn't have an
opposite you have you have
but it's one it's a
singularity when you function from a
place of a
singularity there's no opposite you
can't be in a place
of there is no and if you find yourself
in a it means you fell you left the
perspective the
orientation
today the realf
the real real work that a person has to
do is not only not to have that
bka okay that's already means you have a
Ty for the babka I never understood
babka until I
started and our CRI and bka was
not thing no yeah B was it wasn't
wasn't but I I remember in the when I
was a a 15-year-old B I was in the I was
in a bakery monell
and a Long White Beard came to the C
says never heard of
this should be
wet chocolate like a whole another level
of tyers it's like okay you eat bka n it
has to be Nas said was
such not saying you should eat NASKA
should help you should have a lot of Nas
in your house you should
have everything should bealing but a a
little means them this is not where your
head is what B if you don't have the
B no if you didn't get the B for shabas
and and the kigle was not so good no
come that's one level
of because the
more
writes that if a person wants to create
n in his life wants to create miracle
once to cre
something you have you
have and
US never
said we don't know where it comes from
but and he says that
that that the reason the person was
created is to break his break his nature
means you love bka okay so I don't love
bka anymore
but that's a pro you're dealing with
protim you're dealing with details and
if you're dealing with details then
every detail has a counter
detail and if the if the O comes from
the then there's G to be another
tomorrow
the is not the or that has an
opposite it's
not it's not that I'm in this darkness
and I'm being pulled out of this
Darkness it's living in a different
different
states you're living with an
understanding that every single moment
of your
life
is I'm not created only to serve the
abish this is what my life is
about not that I have a
life and I'm breaking myself what is
what do what do I live for I live to
serve the Hashem for my life to be a for
my life to this what I want this what I
live for and I live with vas I live with
a connection with and I try to see the
abish in every single thing that I
do and and life gives constant
opportunities to
this every single moment of the day you
have an opportunity you're
feeling you're feeling
happy so you say thank youhm for making
me feel happy you're feeling you're
feeling Joy thank you for letting me
feel
Joy
becomes that's the
difference and to
be be means we're a living
God Don't Make can like this how do I
serve the like
this yesterday I did this this is
exactly way they do it not
true we have the the relationship has to
be be
alive and
alive not nostalgic alive not
remembering alive not fate and tears of
the past but if there are tears this is
the beer of tamas the elevation of tamas
is that there are tears the tears are
mirus the tears are because I can
achieve something I can do something
that tears of atus it's hopeless there's
no possibility it's gone it's finished
I'm never gonna kick out of this
problem I just saw a few weeks ago I
told Yankee we talked about this in the
car he says why is
it that
the was
not until the other three
then there was another
three says that they were not until
after they did the other six ARL even
though there's going to be another more
ARL yeah after that that's the one the
R's proofs from M there'll be a future
be more but when was was established
that's when was able to be why what's
the what's the says because there's a m
that says that
is through Al
elazar that uh that he would be the
K and has to come through him so he says
like
this kill
somebody goes into AR mlot when does he
leave AR mlot with the m k the K passes
away that's when he leaves AR
mlot says this guy that killed before
get stuck in
the
he right that's what it says he he Co
should die because that's how he gets he
gets freed but the co is not going to
die because there a that says that the
will live till
after so he says he starts living
without hope says he starts living
without hope is
not now listen to the story here's
okay he's but is a mock amaz he's he's a
he's daving for the highest person in CL
for the to die so obviously he's a rash
Ben Russ right he's a and he's he's D
for someone to die not only so he's ding
for the co to die but that gives him
hope and if he doesn't have that hope
it's not
Co doesn't put you in a condition that
you don't have
hope even
if a person says that it's
hopeless and I can never get
anywhere my life is a constant struggle
and I will never achieve an amount to
anything I will
never manage to K out of my
darkness if a person says that he's
living without this is T this
is it's hopeless it's fate I'm born this
way I'm born this way and nothing will
change it I'm going to push push the
rock up the mountain and push and push
and push the PO the rock is going to
fall down I'm never going to out of this
if a person says that
he's we have to believe that there's
another way there's a way that there's a
way that we could actually reach a
new
light that's mgal us that's revealed to
us that allows us to live in a different
light in a different way and then it's
notat you're
struggling it could be also it's
possible maybe that you will also have
struggles but the struggles comes
from there was a the gamor
says says
never has it's constantly moving
constantly growing not in this world not
in the other world
so doesn't have the the whole
idea is that like the says in is
it's so once made to see him on this on
this
sh and uh and it's and it's a
very it's a very accurate of what the
RAB lived and the way he looked at life
says that there's a
d of movement within the context of
Stillness of
movement in a place
from that man is not a steer
to which in very
practical language what this means is it
doesn't mean you're not going to grow
when a person says I'm shom okay I'm
perfect perfect and you you have a place
that's that's your that's the M that the
wres
that which is
the which
incidentally if you ever look in
look all the you'll never
find I don't think ever talks about m in
the
future doesn't talk about it doesn't
mean they didn't believe in it one it
doesn't talk about it
is
present
now there's a famous there's a famous
that it
says so says
how
says if you're if you're living in the
in the future in the present then you
can laugh if you're living in you're
living
o it's the
future and O can be the future can be
the past so if you're living in the
future in the fure okay in the future
you're going to reach it so then why you
laughing why you happy you haven't
reached anything but if you
reach the present that you reach a place
of man that you're you're totally in a
place of peace and perfection andus in
the present moment right
now then you reach the present so it
doesn't mean you're not going to grow as
a human being as a
you're going to be over the and tomorrow
you're going to grow a little one more
but your whole movement your whole Tua
is from a mock of of of your whole T is
without anxiety without guilt without
shame these things have to be eliminated
from your Consciousness
completely totally what what what are we
talking about why you want to live with
guilt want to live with
so you're growing every day you're
becoming more and more connected but the
foundation of your growth comes from
place I'm already
perfect the foundation of where you're
moving from is that I'm already
connected
to and this is what the in the last few
years again one one of the G thatb
brought down to the world and talked and
and and the last few years of his life
is
that is is finished
bir means like like like like bir like
Bo like your Boer good from bad this is
you know what you want what you don't
want like
like
one it's it's over the B came was
revealed we're hundreds of years later
the world is already ready we're holding
to ready mhia you have to start thinking
differently now you want to do this fine
continue but you want to live with with
with with mashia
with then it's a different Mah all you
need is to open your eyes you have to
change your perspective of how you look
at this world what's the world so
you it's epistemology it's not theology
correct it's not it's not it's not it's
not the msus it's your it's your it's
your
mind is everything is in your mind
that sh is like a nice V it's if you
feel yourself that
you're no sh is no other place that you
are you can be standing here and
being wherever you are if you put your
mind to that place that you are in the
state of gula and you live like
that you try to
see the Y you try to see the the in
every single detail of your life say
every single thing you're doing is O
it's not like now I'm
eating you
know this uh there's a difference
between means now the
r it's the same
thing he writes it in one and that's the
way the learn but came and said it's
reveal a new
order means I'm doing this for that it's
a means to an end
this I'm doing this action I'm eating no
what should I do tells me that I have to
eat you probably don't have to eat as
much as you think you need but you
probably have to eat a little bit some
food you do need guaranteed probably 50%
less than you think you do but that's
already a whole another avoa so you you
have to eat but may what should I do I'd
rather be sitting and learning to I ra
rather be sitting and ding but I have
those seeds so therefore I'm eating so
I maybe I'm a I have to work so I'm
working for the few hours that have I
can
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learn means something else
means become the
yourself who
is and that actually writes in this week
that is connected to and is connected
to this means that A's Transcendent
presence of which
is transcendent is actually present
in that there's
a that's what it means that when I'm
doing work and I'm eating food and I'm
taking out the garbage and I'm doing
mundane activities I'm actually serving
the abish because there's no place
that's up empty of
the and you have to deal with so you
bring a little bit more
means you're struggling with the bring a
little
o but the O the O the O of the where's
the where's the O of the of
the the is the O that didn't that's not
the O that had that is the opposite of
it's the that's
also where's that or it's
that's which means that if you're
learning to as as as a as a respit a
place to to find Refuge as mikl I'm
struggling with I'm run
toes okay so it's going to last in thees
the moment you go back to work you're
back to square one the moment you go
back to eat you're back to square you're
the same
behmer you're learn with a big ass
mother you're ding with a tremendous
isav and then uh 10 minutes later you're
not sure you know you're uh I don't
know you're knee deep in a
nasab and you don't even know what
what's with what's happening the b is
all over your face and the same or that
you had with
daving the B the same as lavas and and
and and there's no one to blame by the
way there's no one to blame because if
you have or you have you have and that's
you're you're going to go your light
bang ping ping like a ping pong ball
this way that way this way that way
every day is's another swing
but this
aula is a higher or the higher is a a a
light that permeates and is revealed
and every place is is
is that's the BOS itself is it's not
that I'm eating the shame so I should
have so I can can D
well I'm doing this this
is you tells you to take take out the
garbage it's an avoa you're serving the
abish you should do it with an
excitement with a passion with these
slav say thank you AEM for allowing me
to take out the
garbage like thank you hm for allowing
me to do to you thank you hm to allowing
me to learn
your this is the O that's gala this is
the oil that we have to be connected
with it's the oil that we could be
connected with this that was revealed in
this
world comes into this world comes into
this world is is is M the world it
refines the world for a new that the
world should be open to a new to be
nikla to be to re to receive a new type
of
O it's not just it happened it happens
and it it happened and it's continuing
to
happen it's continuous to happen we
should be dou in this to see this in
every single that we have
amen amen
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I know a few people have questions we're
soon going to get to
questions so the faan becomes not just a
a monologue
but also a
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dialogue the balat writes Ines
why is it that byen we commemorate a
yard site what's the hav in
this the day that somebody passed away
what's the idea of commemorating
it balatan writes this he says this
about
uh was written after the P
ofel of horok
V the author of priit tal of the Magid
and another letter to that was written
to the
holy after the of his son I think his
name was
May and he says there following
point
that when a person completes their life
so that day when they completed their
life their entire life comes
together the L of the
the whole life story of the person their
actions their teachings their Ava it all
comes together it's all completed it
becomes wholesome and it's revealed on
that day in a whole new powerful way
that is unique and as he puts it
there to give a more illustration for
this perhaps maybe you know sometimes I
guess you could say laav those of you
who are readers maybe when you were
younger you're reading like this big
book this 1,500 page book and it's
delicious and you don't want it to end
you know those books there's books you
put down before you start books you put
down after a few slines you don't want
them to end it's so good especially if
you're a teenager you don't want to go
to school you know you get into bed with
a
book especially if you're lucky to have
a flu or earache or a virus you have a
good excuse you don't want it to end but
then it
ends and you're very happy you're happy
because it was a great read you're sad
because it ended and the whole thing
comes together Zer
this a person's life is a safer the life
comes to a completion so the whole story
comes to a completion and at the end of
the book you figure it all at the end of
the book you see the whole picture the
full picture
the you know the sum total like the
whole novel the whole narrative the
whole drama comes together and there's
an element of sadness that it's over but
there's also an element of joy for the
experience and for the inspiration so
the balat says a person's day of the
their whole life comes together and each
year
says by remembering it it's recreated
in is eternal so therefore every year
like
P or individually in a person's life
the year that it happens every year
there's that energy that comes into the
world
of with the LA you see a fascinating
thing in his lifetime he touched
hundreds of thousands maybe millions of
people but today 25 years later probably
hundreds and thousands and millions more
it's not a regular thing it's not a
regular phenomenon usually a person 25
years years later it's
Al 20 it's a lot of years 25 years is a
quarter of a
century most today never saw the or they
were children when they saw
the but that's even within the I'm
talking even outside of
it because the brought an an into the
world that every day is appreciated more
and
more it's not a secret that when the
devil was alive he had a lot people who
criticized him
because always that's the cloud the
maral says whenever a great Soul comes
into the world it's very hard to contain
it's just natural what happened with the
r for example what happened with M
himself take a look at a k you think K
was a
nobody you think
got
250 to attack
M why is it because the of m is very
powerful the Ram's you know how many
opposition the rambam
had the B came into the world bat K
these people there was tremendous
opposition not from people who were
noodies from great people because it's
such a big light it's very hard
to hold on to it it's
misunderstood and the same is true with
theb but today you see a mat 25 years
later that besides a few five six
individuals from the Stone
Age The O that they brought into the
world is every single day appreciated
more and more and more by all Jews and
non-jews
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even that was an inside
joke it's an infinite light but an
infinite light it's not easy to deal
with it's like what are you supposed to
do with it unless you have tremendous B
tremendous humility it's very hard to
deal with it but every day and every
year it grows more and more because it's
an o that brought in who was the was an
didn't have Aus of his own his whole
msus was B so it's an of hasem that a
real sadic brings into the world that
changes the
Paradigm and the
perspective in very powerful
ways the more and more you see that the
perspectives and the light that the
rebit taught for 40 50
years is pen
rating in all every single place every
single home and every single doity more
and more why because it's the light that
brings God into this
generation so you say 200 years ago do
we know but every Dirt has its
challenges and every Dirt has its gifts
and you have to have the to be able to
speak to that
D the B writes
I said this once in a
sheer and somebody said it can't be that
he says this then I showed it to him so
he said oh it could
be people if they don't understand
something it can't be I never heard such
a
thing after there's people sitting in
she they don't understand what Al says
it can't be cuz they don't understand
the ofish is
humility B
if you're not humble you won't open
yourself up to anything outside of your
foolish narcissistic ego and your
traumas and insecurities you have to
open yourself
up and you nobody will destroy you with
your humility humility doesn't destroy
you humility builds you opens you up to
Infinity it opens you up to
Godliness so the K SL writes like this
he asks it says take everywhere in gor
take take
so says
what's to answer all the
questions will come and he'll solve all
the
problems I don't understand who knows
how to learn
better if you can go to
a yeah and there's a sign in the here is
going to give
a is going to give
a is also going to be the comes the
says is going to be with us why is not
going to answer the why
why interesting question
and him in the back you know what his
answers listen
huh says where was mha for the last
3,000 years in Gaden where was aoan over
the last 2,000 years two and a half
thousand years three almost 3,000 years
he's hanging out every bris every bris
he
comes he goes into the S he knows the
latest
iPhone he knows the latest issues he
knows the issues with addiction with
trauma with therapy with with with kids
at risk and kids in pain he knows what's
going on with shom bayas he knows
challenges he knows the mat he he knows
what's called the Zeitgeist the
Zeitgeist yeah of the
generation he understands what's going
on he hears what you know he hears what
they talk about in the mikah and in the
and in the bris and at the
for a person to answer questions it's
not enough for him to know everything he
has to be part of the
people that's what a man is is not
enough that he's a a saintly Mal was one
of the most extraordinary things about
the Reb that combination the Reb
combined royalty with Simplicity Heaven
and Earth there was a part of him that
was always in heaven not in
anybody who saw that ever you knew he
wasn't the whole of it like didn't
register on one hand you saw we
ate but without on the other hand he was
as earthy he could talk to anybody about
any
subject any
subject and not like from a place of
superiority from a place like oneon-one
with complete Simplicity like almost
like a
child there was a yid we knew him we
grew up with him he was a yid without
children he was a Russian his name was
zman
Tel he didn't have children and he
became sin he had Alzheimer's and they
put him into the nursing home AEL of R
in Williamsburg you remember aav R
they and a nurse brought him AR Kipper
to get honey cake from the with a would
give they brought him he was already
close to
90 but he had
Alzheimer's the knew who he was Al
because he came from Russia and he
brought toab a niggan that he was his
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niggan you know the know
know in the 60s he brought that
into laich zman now was already in the
80s later 80s mid 80s he was already uh
unfortunately with Alzheimer's and they
brought him to the rebba to
get but he didn't recognize theb he
didn't recognize
anybody and the Reb was trying to
connect to him but he couldn't was
talking to him looking at
him
alsheimer took over his conscious
brain there were thousands of people on
the line this was
after so there's a little time people
have to go home to eat the meal so th
but the line would move very very fast
everybody would get a piece of C say and
move on and he was there standing
somebody was holding him up cuz he was
much he was almost 90 and the Reba saw
that you know this he's he's completely
not here he he was not there he was
there physically there but there was
nobody
there so the
the whole line stopped theb started to
sing and not
after theb sang the whole to him
know know the niggan that he composed
decades earlier the saying the whole
line stopped the saying the whole
nigan from the beginning till the end
you know music has a power to stimulate
and arouse trigger regions of the brain
that are very deep especially when it's
your name again especially it's a niggan
from your young years in middle of the
and the Reb sang beautifully the had a
besides other had
a I don't know if some of you heard but
the sang every heart would melt it was a
combination of depth and
simplicity there was a sweetness and
there was a depth in his niggan that was
very very deep very penetrating theb is
Sayang it was like a like a special toog
that was very deep like from
the andb singing this him and the
middle of theb singing the inexplicable
happened he emerged from
Alzheimer's he like became he became
aware of his environment and he looks
and he's in front of
the and he broke out in such a smile cuz
he couldn't believe that he's standing
right here Mish at this moment and they
two gazed at each other with so much
love and the showered him with
blessings and uh gave him and then the
nurse took him away and he slipped back
a few minutes later but for those few
moments he was elevated from the abyss
of
Alzheimer's to the loving Embrace of uh
of
the how did I tell the story
huh
huh ta ta
ta you have to be it's connected to
heaven but you always have to be
connected to people if you don't
understand people if you don't
understand your generation you can't
inspire a generation because you don't
understand what they're dealing
with and if you tell them why aren't you
like a different generation it's not
fear I am I likea said you know I have
to be Z I can't
be so that's what theit says
why only one of will be able to answer
the questions the questions that we
struggle
with the articulated a road
map for yite in this
generation that has Mish inspired
hundreds of thousands if not Millions
I'm not talking in laab I'm talking in
the whole world directly indirectly
consciously and
unconsciously it's a fascinating thing
in the
1950s those who remember those years
it's before my days but if you speak to
anybody REM the attitude in the whole
from world is that it's a big question
if religion will last and how much it
will last and where it will last the
yush was so deep everybody was just
holding on to the few little and
institutions that they had first of all
there was a holocaust and that destroyed
not just physically the Jewish world but
the spirit the the the passion how could
it
not talk about
trauma but besides all that the the
Embrace of secularism was so
powerful right it was it was incredibly
powerful he had finen but everybody was
on the defensive
and at that time the started to send out
to the whole world and people were
saying what to just hold on to your
little Community built said no you don't
understand Jewish World wants realish
Jews want to be real Jews because the is
a real thing Theus and Hashem is a real
thing the world is a Divine world
of
the is the real world the real world and
people were making fun it was that
you're going to lose them all they saw
man in the Public Square what are you
doing to be
anti-Semitism but re understood two
things number one the world is yearning
for truth and the Jewish people are
Yearning For Truth
they're really yearning for
truth and number
two he understood very very well and
taught us that with the
proper with the proper perspective with
the proper
attitude if you could see
Theus in people and in the world like R
Pinson explained they'll be able to see
it and you'll make a
revolution today
then in the 50s for a guy to say my
grandson is going to be more from than
me yeah would be as realistic as saying
that tomorrow we're all moving to planet
Mars at best your grandson will marry a
Jew zes used to beg their grandchildren
hold on for shabas shabas something
something today everybody says my
grandson yeah he takes it
seriously me yeah I'm not so sure but my
grandson oh yeah N9 years here 9 years
in the brisk 9 years in Lakewood n9ine
years in the he takes it very seriously
it's a common conversation don't take
this for granted this was a revolution
it was a transformation that happened
how you look at yish kite how you look
at the world how you look at God how you
look
at it's a paradig was it a paradigm
shift and this
attitude the
positivity is growing every
day was noal quarter of a century
ago and there you go light today in
Siberia a Siberia the just finished
building a Mikvah in southern Siberia
the women had to fly 7 hours to find the
Mikvah 7 hours he finished building a
beautiful Mikvah in Northern Siberia
you know where Northern Siberia is you
know how many time zones Siberia
Hasa and Y they taught you how many
times on Siberia have huh
11 Siberia Siberia is
America July
4th and it was the place of where Stalin
sent Mill tens of Millions to
die in biran you know where biran is huh
biran were Stalin wanted to ex Exile 5
million Soviet Jews in 1953 before he
died on
purm still has signs in yish communist
yish the just opened up their GL
restaurant Mah you could take your wife
on vacation
to you go to the today you go to 3,000
Jewish kids marching
screaming 10 yard away from Stalin and
Lenin's body in the in the mosum I want
to say they're turning over in their
graves but they don't have Graves
they're there in the mosum they're
turning over in their musim I almost
feel bad for
Stalin 10 yards away from Stalin yeah
and they're screaming
3,000 Putin is smiling at Lazar
that s Putin is smiling on this didn't
happen in a
vacuum today in the former USSR you have
400 you know what that is in Moscow
there are 70
moas 70 moas I'm not giving you
exaggerated numbers you could look it
up and the inspiration the inspiration
it grows the influence grows why cuz
it's not about a
person I always laughed when I grew up
there were people who used to call the
bich a
cult and I used to smile why cuz I never
met anybody who encouraged more
independent thinking than
the you'll be hard pressed to find a
person who told people you got to f
figure things out on your
own not only
that to send out to the whole world in
their
20s they have to raise millions of
dollars to put up buildings build camps
schools without training with even
without a good English
education if you're not an independent
individual if you don't got ambition and
if you don't got a mind of your own you
will be a miserable
failure anybody who even touched Reb's
teachings know one of his greatest
themes is I don't we don't create
followers we create
leaders the wasn't interested in
followers the once
said m is good
nine I'm happy with nine people to stay
so I can have a Minion for myself
everybody else go change the
world go change the world that's what he
wanted but today the differentiations
the polarities this andol are coming to
an end today is the generation of
AK that this this that tried to bring
into the world from
Hashem is something that belongs to
every Jew it has nothing to do
with I'm aak I'm a Orthodox I'm this I'm
not a I'm it's
irrelevant you got to be a leader today
change the world and everybody could
change their own
world how through the three
loves that the B used to speak about and
the didn't stop talking
about and is and he used to say that the
three are one if you love God you love
Jews and you love T if somebody comes to
me and says RAB why I love you but I
happen to hate your
kids this they
scream then they see a
Jew God says do me a favor if you don't
like my kids have a wonderful day if you
love Hashem you love his
children if you
love it's one
love so come such a that is an o in the
world special o in the world it's an
opportunity for everybody to be able to
find their own light not to be a
follower to be a leader stop being
AATA be a
leader but says to be a leader to be
able to understand that you were sent on
a to light up yourself and the people
around you that's did once said a v a
beautiful V that if I bringing he said
that what's the first thing
creates so he asked light should have
been at the
end why because if you look at the
system of creation everything was
created so that it should be used at
this point nobody was benefiting from
the
light Monday There's oceans and Brooks
and rivers and and
right this he makes the hav Monday
Tuesday there's a a different between
yam and yha so now there's finally
Earth there's Earth there's vegetation
there's produce you need photosynthesis
you can without lights without sunlight
nothing will grow so on Wednesday he
gives us the Sun so the so sunlight
could become what is it called glucose
sugars everything can grow now you have
vegetation so animals can eat fish can
eat yeah birds can eat there's something
to eat to ESS so Thursday the living
organisms come into being and finally
Friday there's an
Adam say light belongs in the later
stages of creation this especially K say
that this is not the light of the sun
like Pinson said it's special
unique why is it the first thing like
who who benefits from
it so the said he said the first
creation was not what he created it was
the mission
statement in Cutting Edge terminology if
you want to create a company or a
movement or a website before
anything mission statement what do you
want to accomplish without a mission
statement you'll for 40 years every
successful infrastructure needs a
mission statement why cuz that defines
you who are you what do you do what
don't you do
a mission statement is always one
sentence Hashem creates the world he has
to give a mission
statement why maybe you want to tell me
why there was a shiker that we grew up
with his name was
abalan he was a sophisticated man but he
was drunk 24 hours a day so he once said
of he says so rash says right
away there was really no need for this
yeah real
can say it this was really a mistake you
created a world tell me why the mission
say let me tell you the mission
statement the mission statement
is your job is
light woulde
from a whole with workers and a boss
about wages he paid he did didn't pay so
there's an
expression which means we're basically
daytime workers in terms of legalities
so we are daytime
workers we're not nighttime workers we
don't deal with Darkness we let other
people deal with
Darkness our job is to generate light
sadly theara sometimes inspires people
to throw in
darkness what's the response more light
more light more light more
light our job is to create
light let there be
light what is that why do you need it
cuz that's the mission statement the
mission statement is any moment in life
what's your job bring
light so Pinson was saying a paradigm
shift you could live with G you could
live with messia there's no Darkness
yeah and somebody is sitting at the
table and saying very nice
speech but his son is struggling with
terrible demons and his marriage just
fell apart employ Al is dealing with
mental crisis in his life so it's all
nice there's no darkness which world are
you living in
Redemption doesn't
mean Redemption doesn't mean that
there's being naive to a situation it
means that my focus at this moment
is that I am a messenger of Hashem to
bring light into this
place I'm never stuck in
darkness I am an ambassador of light
some of us are are sent into very dark
places because we have a lot a lot of
light so we're sent into very dark
places I maybe told you
once there's moments
that I got from the Reb a perspective
that changed
me there was a boy who was suffering
from uh homosexual uh
Tendencies alternative uh what is it
called compulsion to an alternative
lifestyle he felt he can't get
married unfortunately this is something
that people deal with I I have I deal
with this pretty often I have to say B
Yesa B from different different groups
and and and and Persuasions and killas
communities this was
1986 and he penned a letter to the rebba
a heart-wrenching letter to the
rebba about his struggles
the is
obviously nobody can be Messiah it
wasn't I still don't understand
it
NN all
types now there are people who have big
hearts there are people big hearts but
usually they don't have such big Minds
there are people who have crazy minds
they don't have big hearts you'll see
they're genius they don't have did had a
mind that was like uh Beyond it's like
the
AL Beyond but his heart was equal it's
very unique
combination and the they were very
balanced that on his own could sit sick
on his own he would have sat 40 years in
a room and read and learned and nobody
would have known about him that's that
was his plan he wanted to be an engineer
and make a innocent living and do his
own thing but I I guess he realized that
God has different plans like everyone
has to realize at some point God has
plans and once he embraced it he
embraced it but naturally you should
know that the Reb was a shy a very
internalized person he wrote a letter I
once saw a letter he wrote a letter to
the chief Rabbi of Bando in
1949 1949 he wasn't a re yet he wrote k
we know each other for many
years
bu I got no feel for public activism I'm
just not talented at it but you do have
so why don't you do things and I always
think myself for somebody Mish had no
talent for for public acud he didn't do
so bad for himself his mother would have
been proud of him but that was his Mis
people don't realize for the re to be
who he was was M but once he realized
this is his there was no looking back
so I'll call upon him how did we uh ah
ah the obious to a Jew who needed
something was incredible I heard from
his secretary bam Klein that EBA had a
double heart attack in middle of
a I was a little kid in middle of aus
dancing he had a one heart attack and
then a second one they didn't think that
uh it was very very
serious a secretary grer came out he was
white like a sheet they thought
that but the survived the heart attack
and he he quadrupled his activities
afterwards in the the 80s it was
completely Mish quadrupled everything
then came out with time to change the
whole world M
Etc the recovered from the heart attack
it took come a very long
time and he stayed in his room he didn't
even go home because it was to walk
wasn't s he stayed in his room from for
more than a month he went home till
today they
PR the went home that year it was a big
thing um so I heard from his secretary
theba was still in bed a day or two
after his heart
attack he calls in he says tell me how
is this lady
doing go find out how this lady is doing
there was a woman who recently got
divorced and she had children and it was
a miserable marriage and it was a
miserable
divorce and uh said imagine a patient
who just suffered from this cup was a
woman who wasn't part of his not alich
nothing he said go find out I want to
know how this woman is
doing that was so this boy writes a
letter to the Deb the debba wrote him
back a three-page letter
I told you the Reb was a very
non-judgmental
person he had very very powerful
positions but very empathetic to people
very empathetic empowering but not
judgmental not dismissive not
denigrating empowering but not
denigrating he wrote back a three-page
letter to this boy very beautiful letter
I send it to many many people who
struggle with it cuz I got hold of the
letter was a private letter I took out
the name and I I I use it a lot
today and recently somebody sent me a
letter that he wrote to
transgender in the early
80s addressed transgender
1983 talk about a person who had Vision
1983 of course it's a letter to
Berkeley Berkeley California where else
right A whole letter about it his
somebody who was suffering with the
issue and they wrote and the gave them a
perspective also beautiful letter but I
want to say one thing that he wrote to
this boy that startled
me the boy asked him why did God do this
to me why did Hashem do it to
me not a bad question why do I have to
go through the struggle of these
Cravings that I have to deal with so the
Reb wrote to him I'm not saying it
verbatim but the the content the theme I
don't know why this certainly is one of
the mysteries of Divine Providence at
we don't know the secrets of the world I
don't know why you have to go through
this however I want to share an idea
that may be
applicable sometimes the writes a person
has inside of their
soul the power to change the
world but for the person to be able to
get in touch with that Inner Light and
inner secret and own
it they have to be compelled to overcome
a major
struggle if not they'll never be able to
discover who they really are and even if
you tell it to them they'll never own
it I'm reading this and I'm thinking you
know many people that this B would come
to sadly would dismiss the boy as just
get over it learn another blad gamar cuz
they're
clueless rabbis who are a little more
experienced and sensitive will be
empathetic to this
person the re wasn't just empathetic it
was a whole different perspective this
is called Gula
perspective he didn't see this boy as a
tragic figure ne ne and I'll be here for
you and I'll invite you for shabas and
whenever I see you I'll give you a big
hug
and I'll call you my holy
brother and I'll give you extra pickles
and Cake he didn't see him as a tragic
figure he didn't see him as a victim of
some neb what did he see he saw him as
somebody who has an incredible light
that can change the world and in order
to get access to that light you have to
be able to fight and overcome a
tremendous struggle so you could learn
who you really really are and it has to
be yours not freear you have to own it
only way you can own it is if you manage
to work through yourself in other words
from his
perspective your
challenge your crisis is an
opportunity you're not some victim
you're an ambassador of Hashem sent to
very dark places to bring in light deer
because your potential is of a different
magnitude and that's why you're sent to
places that other people are not sent
now you could look look at your
difficulties not from a place
of case but from a place of where of
light so every circumstance in life you
could see from two perspectives you
could see it from a place
of
polarities I'm like I'm a NE case look
at this look at my marriage look at my
kids look at my house look at
my no open yourself up to the of
me there's only
light my is to bring in light to this
situation you never take it personal
you're struggling with one of your
children
anybody
huh anybody no nobody okay
huh the best of the best the best of
complain
but how do you look at it some of us we
take it personal right my kid is not
giving
me you get upset at your kid you lose it
or you get into a depression or you feel
like a
loser you on a mission to bring in
light the circumstances everyone has
different
circumstances but you're not stuck in
darkness
and the same is true with your own
Darkness there are people sitting in
this room who have been through some
stuff I'm not laughing I'm I'm I'm
huh besides that kid there's another few
people in this room this kid spoke about
it but everybody else doesn't speak
about
it wall toall carpets everything is
under the carpet those people went
through a lot that's not a question what
you the question is how you look at it
do you look at it as
neb you're a failure you're a loser you
got stuck in darkness or you look at it
from a different
perspective you were sent on a mission
to transform situations that nobody ever
transformed you have a gal to bring into
the
world and a light that can reach very
very toxic
places and every moment and opportunity
says I want to hear I want to see your
light you know what that means Shem says
show me your beautiful face let me hear
your voice you have a beautiful voice in
a beautiful Mar another thing that e
could not tolerate is when people did
not recognize their
potentials can't lien when people looked
at themselves as incapable and
incompetent and losers he couldn't deal
with with
it he couldn't understand it he could
understand it but he it was very
difficult for
him one of his great Motts is Shine Your
Light and shine it in the most powerful
way and don't let anything stop you cuz
that thing that you think wants to stop
you is really waiting to be transformed
by you too
I'll tell you a scene probably whereon
remembers it also it was the night of I
was
a it was was middle of
a there was a a
uh there was a rabbi in E Flatbush but
he was world-renowned Rabbi JJ remember
Rabbi JJ r yud ncf j was a big Asin
Rabbi JJ he had a SCH in East Flatbush
so after he made a cus with his sh I
guess and whatever he did or he had his
P or his H whatever he was he came in
the middle of
the middle
of he came
in and I didn't see that he came in cuz
I was looking towards the front where
they were dancing with were but suddenly
I see the re do a gesture that I never
saw him do the re standing by his place
there probably those years I don't know
8 n 10,000 people in a room that legally
supposed to hold 1500 2,000 people
hanging from air conditions and beams
and ceilings and if you would drop a pin
it wouldn't fall and you could see the
vapor the the literally
Rising it was quite quite an
experience and uh the re is standing by
his by his uh his place in MRA and they
would dance T he would clap and make
with his hands dance to the
and suddenly I see the deba go like
this he throws a kiss which was not a
gesture that you would see by the at
least not in public private I don't know
but not in public especially surrounded
by
9,000 with a big smile throws so I turn
around to see who threw the kiss I see
JJ y JJ who was a very charismatic
person a big Asin he built a lot of Maus
was a very dedicated Jew for har from
the famous he family and he came in he
came in and he was approaching and he
was he came to his playwear he was
standing and I saw that the de was
looking at him and smiling as he threw
him this kiss I knew that there's
something here but I didn't know
what that year a few months later RAB JJ
passed
away suddenly Tu in the summer in Camp
he had a camp he made a camp called camp
auna in the cats he passed away he was a
young man 65 so I thought to myself
right when I heard the news I thought oh
maybe the Reb felt that it was the
last he was very close to the Reb I
thought maybe the Reb felt it was the
last together in you know in GM so he
threw a kiss it was like
uh bidding him farewell so to speak
which was very moving to me I didn't
know I just thought I had a flashback
and that was it you know life moves
on two or three years
ago I happened to be somewhere for and
when I come out who do I see Rabbi JJ's
daughter so I say you know him do you
remember your father the year that he
passed away he came into a
and out of the blue from 10,000 people
in the room threw him a
kiss do you remember that it was this
night
this was this
happened this uh was a few years ago so
it was I don't know like around 25 years
later I tell this to his daughter her
name is Mrs
abowitz she's she's AB I tell this to
her walking at a SCH I meet
her I say why did Abba kiss your father
why did he Throw This Kiss do you think
it's really cuz he passed away that year
she says no no
I say what she says you don't know I
said no how am I supposed to know I got
no I don't know how am I supposed to
know she say let me tell you what
happened her father finished in the meal
in east Flat but she had a killer there
and then he said he wants to go do Aus
for the to the ever so I walked with him
I walked with him from his house in East
Flatbush to Crown night it's not such a
long walk what is it uh few miles
to go to 775 C on the
way my father tells
me that after yank was a he was a
he workaholic he didn't stop working he
was a big big worker he worked and
worked he had a lot of moist and a lot
of pressure and he says so he he barely
slept he had a famous radio program that
he did WD for many years Isel program he
was a was a
tour a lot of he did the you know you're
familiar with release time program the
uh the release time program he did this
was an idea of the rebat that the Reb
was unbelievable Public Schools allow
one hour of religious
instruction understand this so in the
1940s and at some one point they had
50,000 Jewish kids learning every MIT
they call called the MIT the Wednesday
hour the 50,000 kids in public learning
and this the started with the of the
theb continued all the
years till today
Wednesday B go out to teach for an hour
public school kids fascinating program
it's not even known to most uh most
people but that's how did that's how
that's how the thought the public so he
ran the program for dozens of years and
the Reb was very appreciative of that
particular program because of how much
yish that brought to people to kids you
would never reach them because they
weren't they wouldn't come to Jewish
schools either because of secularism or
because of tuition or a
combination he's walking to hus she
tells this to me 25 years
later and she he tells his daughter you
know I had a crazy
dream what's the dream after the lunch
after I was exhausted
I sat down on the couch I was learning
and of course I fell
asleep I fell
asleep and during my nap I had a dream
and in the dream I see the re he's
telling this to his daughter and I have
this Ty he
says I want to kiss the but there's a
problem don't kiss it's not
the don't kiss and they didn't even
shake a hand by others you shake a hand
when the bells of came to the Reb so all
the bells were there with the hands
stretched out so I remember the re said
that it's
not in Bells it's a big thing
get wasn't even giving but a kiss you
don't kiss so y says I'm in the dream I
see the I want to kiss him but don't
kiss so I decided I'm going to ask him
permission
so I went over to the Reb and I said do
I have your permission to give you a
kiss he said I didn't wait for an answer
I went over and I kissed it in the dream
I didn't wait for an answer it was too
strong my love was too I went over and I
kissed him I woke up from the
dream I woke up from the
dream he walks into 770
the ne returned This
Kiss she told me she heard this from her
father before the never returned the
kiss she knew about the dream on the way
to
true it wasn't after she knew the story
before he walked
in return that's the the of a re to a
and a
to these things don't
die these things don't die
said
is in real spirituality there's no such
a thing as the
past you
understand if it's real if
it's it's it's it's forever so this is
a of connection connection to
the connection to the to the to the to
the T to the of the the B
those who have the ability in the next
few days it's K to go with your family
to
the to D over there to hasem for what
you
need it's K especially these days or
even those those who can obviously but
it's days in which person could seize
the
opportunity wherever you are whatever
it's not NE get if you wear barcelino or
you weara or you wear a baseball cap or
you don't wear a hat at all it's
irrelevant your background and where you
come from this is not about a party of
one kahill one the whole inion of the
Reb was
M every Jew without
difference and that's what Jews are
yearning for they're yearning for truth
EMS the pus of yish the pus
of to be to be
to be in shom to be in your own
relationship with yourself with
your relationship with the world that's
the greatest tribute to this that the
whole Jewish world is looking
for
huh special huh I heard this from her
mouth some at night
I have to be M I have to I was a little
suspicious I thought maybe after the
suddenly there's a dream you know how it
works
with I said you heard about this dream
after before I was just maybe I was
projecting I don't mean to I was maybe I
was just projecting for my own stuff I
don't mean to be judgmental of anybody
so she says you call over my husband he
was walking with me don't talk to me
call over my husband ask him what my
father said that day during the
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walk said after they walked home tells
he says I knew that the Reb knew what I
thought I didn't know he knows what I
dream
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about but he
knows
huh that that year he that year he left
the
world
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huh I once heard from
SCH not a bad for I heard from he said
like this said an interesting
thing how long does it take two friends
to open up to each
other yeah there are I know for 10 20
years I still don't know anything about
them even your therapist who you're
going to for 11 years I promise you he
doesn't know how much money you have in
your savings
account right you tell them everything
because for Americans how much money you
have is more confidential than intimacy
do you know
that how much money you have we're
talking about guys who have money uh if
you have $68 in the bank account then I
know you tell your therapist and
everybody else yeah I asked my sister
she's in Manhattan her husband is I said
how are you doing with paros she says
when we came here there on the upper
side of Manhattan her name is so she's a
smart girl so I say how you doing with
money so uh she says we we came here we
started off with nothing and we're still
left with most of it so uh but I'm
telling about somebody who has you don't
tell the secrets you don't tell anybody
okay and then there's other stuff it
takes a long time to trust somebody to
be able to really think out loud so says
an interesting thing he saw people would
come to
the they never met him before they were
in his room for five minutes and they
said
everything everything they wrote on a
note where they said everything
everything that happens in their bedroom
everything any how does this happen how
does this happen so on one level it's
trust obviously it's
trust so he said one thing I want to add
something else he
said said I heard this from him he said
cuz when you came into
the you felt aasis
shine he knows it
already it's fine you're not going to be
everybody else thinks you are he knows
but I want to say one more detail it may
be even
deeper cuz the first thing is not
something that everybody can relate to
we don't know people's thoughts but the
second thing we could learn from you
knew that whatever you tell the
Reb he will not give up on you and it
will not diminish the quality of the
relationship and we all know in a
marriage that's the key
if you know that you could be open with
your spouse your spouse could be open
with you and they're not going to judge
you oh I always knew he was a idiot mgy
low
life it doesn't mean that rebba wouldn't
be pained by what he hears but it
means there's nothing you can tell him
that will make him
feel why in the world should I ever look
at this person again
nothing he may he may tell you something
that you have to hear that's not so
Pleasant if he's a good teacher that's
what you
do but not with a sense
of such a person you'll tell anything
to We should strive to be such people
for our
friends for our spouses for our children
for other
Jews and how does that what does that
come from comes from a deep
understanding of human nature and a deep
understanding of the godliness that's
always there
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huh
huh but he are yeah the mission
statement the mission
statement huh find his the mission
statement two
words bring
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huh separate this is Wednesday this is
Sun this is
Sunday this is Sunday this is
Wednesday last time we F bring your
people asked a lot of questions very
interesting questions you remember R
Pinson answered the questions a lot
about guilt and all these stuff and
tonight he also said that guilt is a
terrible thing and some people grew up
that guilt that's
everything
huh equals
guilt equals guilt learning equals guilt
right never mind once El
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hits is
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guilt so this is something that really
triggered a lot of um a lot of questions
last time when we sat here so I'm just
opening the floor anybody can ask their
questions you could text me you don't
have to ask if you're shy even though we
spoke about harus Mari
but if somebody is shy you could text
the
questions if you don't want to text them
to me cuz you think I'm going to judge
you you could text him to M he doesn't
judge
anybody
right we're working on it we're working
on it
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okay you're asking a good
question
in you don't have to overcome don't
overcome we're still waiting for
mashiach no no no no
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that didn't happen
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yet but it didn't happen
yet sadly the world is still a place
that needs a lot of healing and a lot of
light but there's a life in which you
start living with a consciousness of G
when you're still in Galos you live with
a consciousness of Gul and it's a
different life and in the last years of
the Reb's life he spoke a lot about this
he said many times that the of is over I
heard this from his mouth and today the
is to open your eyes and see things from
a g
perspective what does this mean it means
I have struggles there's people here are
dealing with heavy addictions tell them
there's no Darkness you know what's
going to
happen there's people who are dealing
with a lot of challenges physical
Financial psychological emotional
spiritual social marital families
children I mean there's a lot of people
sitting here I know quite I know I know
a few of you a little bit I don't know
your bank accounts but
uh and you don't have to tell me you
could just give once in a while but you
don't have to tell you don't have to
give me
the but
um but the question is the attitude and
it makes a very big difference I'll tell
you a word from
the
from I'm
sorry writes we did a she once on
this
says if you come to be cleansed they
help you from Heaven if you come to
contaminate yourself they open the doors
for
you it means hm is not going to help you
sin but he opens the doors in other
words he won't stop you if a Jew wants
to be Mama himself you want to
contaminate yourself he'll open the door
right says
the it's not what it
means means much
deeper and the is the one who
says right is only if
it's but if you're living now with G you
could be very
happy so it's
connected says like this listen to
this when when somebody comes to be
himself meaning he has a thought or an
addiction or a habit or an instinct
that's going to contaminate him let's
say
anger jealousy hatred depression
despere losing it becoming disintegrated
giving up on yourself or on your family
or on your
relationships or other forms of immoral
stuff that this person wants to do
it's it's it's here it's it's inviting
him it's inviting
him a Jew has to know that this
very this is his
P this is his
door we We Said Today in the
morning what's the how does God open up
the door for you
what does this mean what does this mean
it means this this Instinct that just
came into my brain I could look at it in
two ways I could look at it as what I'm
such a horrible person look what I got
to deal with
or this is an invitation for me to reach
a place in life that I couldn't have
reached without it this will bring me
awarness that I've never would have had
and when I work it through it I confront
it either I push it away I sublimate it
I transform it I ignore it but I never
repress it or deny it I give it its
place and I utilize it for its ultimate
purpose what is its ultimate
purpose to bring me to a place of to
bring me to a place of
wholeness
suddenly what what what did you see here
this wasn't an
obstacle it was a a tremendous
opportunity without it you would have
never been able to reach this
place and that changes
everything a person is running a
marathon you ever ran the marathon mid
sight when when I when I together with
me he's running a marathon suddenly he
sees a
fence he sees a barrier right three
types of Jews one Andrew starts
screaming calls his lawyer sues the
company goes on an ad campaign closes
them down and wants to find the Nazis
and the anti-semites who built it
because he shouldn't win that's one type
of Drew another type of Jew looks oh my
God this is crazy these low lives but I
got to win and he goes he runs around he
finds away sh doesn't get in his SP this
is already much more elevated place
instead of dealing with fighting for the
next three years you're in court you
become stronger yeah first thing is
called second thing is
called but then there's a third
mid what's the third mid he comes to the
barrier and he says oh wow I didn't
realize that part of the marathon is to
jump over
fences jumps over and he goes you see
the
difference for the first two there was a
real obstacle in my
life either I fight for the rest of my
life or I just become stubborn inside
which are both both have their moments
in the third level I don't have
obstacles this is part of my
Marathon this is part of my mission and
I don't take it personal nobody's here
to put me down nobody's here to destroy
me no I was sent exactly this this is my
journey this is a beautiful journey and
if I don't jump over it I'm not reaching
my Destin ation if it wouldn't be here
I'm not doing the marathon I'm doing
something else this this is
it now it's not always easy and we don't
always understand why this person's
Marathon has this type of fence and this
person's
Marathon my father told
me I think it
was there was no in 770 there was no
water there so they used to walk to
Brooklyn Botanical Gardens you know the
botanical gardens F it's a beautiful
Pond there it's a very nice the
botanical gardens beautiful Pond there
with fish they used to go for Tash now
then cron Heights was full of Jews it's
not later there was a migration from
bronzville to bford serson was all Jews
mostly secular Jews and the Reb with
hundreds of would go on a little parade
on right after from 770 to
it's like a 20 minute walk or so right
you know all the way down to the park
and they would sing nun and all the Jews
would come out to watch it was a very
beautiful
scene I think it was it was pouring rain
but not just pouring rain pouring rain
like uh you know those downpours when
you go out for like 5 seconds and you
come back you're drenched you know when
the the borino die starts dripping on
your face and it becomes black it was
not St a mble it was a mble a real real
mble but the Reb went on they came to
Brooklyn Botanical Gardens and the
downpour
increased they come and the guy who was
working there was normal so he assumed
that nobody is coming to the Brooklyn
Botanical Gardens today he of course
didn't know about
laich so he called it a
day and he uh and he checked out you
know he'll be home early two hours early
3 hours early the Reb comes
the gate is locked there's no way to get
in so the Reb gave his s to somebody and
without without hesitation theb started
to
climb and everybody's on hundreds of
people out the world elter there in
their 80s old the started to climb
himself climbed climbed the top jumped
over was down
and he's waiting for the
isum and everybody climbed over everyone
climbed over some people wasn't
easy but uh everybody climbed over they
said t pouring pouring
pouring the with this embodied something
it wasn't just
was barriers are only in your own mind
the
says gas is Das and G is
Das in my mind I'm in Exile and in my
mind I'm
redeemed in your mind there's barriers
and in your mind there's no barriers
this is
it and everybody knows that when you in
the presence of the rebba you came out
and you looked at yourself as a
different person cu the Reb really
believed in
the people he made you feel it you came
out of an encounter with the Reb and you
Cast Away forever your inner sense of
mediocrity your inner sense of shius was
was was cast away he just didn't see
people that way and therefore he let you
see in yourself what he saw in you and
that was a tremendous
quality and that's the answer to your
question many of of us have
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struggles but to overcome those
struggles we are much more
empowered and much happier when we do it
with aim how do you do it with
a when you never feel like you're a
victim of the darkness and somehow God
is punishing you and you're a horrible
person and you're stuck you're never
stuck you heard the ver from the you're
never
stuck says the
who's
the God has
barriers he doesn't have barriers you're
the
says me when you're an evid of the Mel
you are the Mel me puted together I who
am I I'm nobody but I'm an avid M he
chose me as his conduit
the more you're in an ego place the more
you get stuck the more you say I'm a
conduit for Hashem it's not me ever Mel
then you are the Mel cuz it's not you
it's the Mel who shines through
you so your kid makes this common to
you and we sometimes get so flustered
and overwhelmed and angry take a deep
breath
always K take a deep breath and then
realize you're a conduit to polish this
diamond that's what you are you're a
conduit to bring out the best in this
diamond and that's what you're going to
do with
positivity with faith with conviction
always positivity doesn't mean there's
no challenge doesn't mean there's no
struggle it doesn't mean there's nothing
that I don't say you know God why don't
what what what's the expression over
there we're the chosen people why don't
you choose somebody
else you know there are ambassadors to
canada4
their ambassadors America to Canada
ambassadors to Afghanistan it's easier
to be an ambassador in Canada than an
ambassador in
Afghanistan you have to
for some people have such o in them that
they're sent on that other people are
not sent so you
say I don't need your honey and I don't
need your your uh your B
bite okay these are Big questions of how
the whole world how the whole Cosmos
runs
and maybe will tell us about all the
and this how the cosmos runs you'll
have the ra and you'll have the Von and
you'll have all the m and all
the and we still at the end don't
understand everything but the question I
have to ask now is where am I right now
and that's a
choice either I see myself a
of and guilt and negativity and toxicity
we call that
gas or I see myself from a place
either I look at myself and I
say and I'm now a of God to do whatever
I got to do now it's this and tomorrow
it's
this
right I'm always in the same I'm
good not you're not detached this is not
Detachment this is more attachment with
this attitude you can be attached to
everything you don't have to run away
from anything you can look it in the
eyes because you're not afraid and the
the most important person not to be
afraid of is yourself and your emotions
we have emotions that scare us we're
afraid to talk about them we're afraid
to deal with
them never be afraid of any emotion
you're bigger than your
emotions the emotions are just part of
your your path to
awareness you can have the ugliest
emotion in the world yeah you would tell
it to the Reb yeah and you would think
he was
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like you're dealing with this this is
exactly your path this is going to bring
you awareness this will bring you depth
don't fall surrender don't become don't
surrender to it don't become uh don't
don't fall prey to it that's the
opposite that's not that's not yish
that's thear the want don't fall prey to
it realize this is my the would always
say is
from huh n miracles from
another next
week's what's a n an elevated place a
banner an elevated Banner
he tests you he elevates youas you
should be able to have D every n is an
opportunity for an elevation and for a
miracle that's what it is in order for
me to be able to create Miracles I have
to like Pinson said I have to be able to
make that miracle in myself not get
stuck now please don't take this as a
lack of empathy this is not about a lack
of
empathy it's like e it's nothing no no
no it's big
stuff it's about empowerment not a lack
of
empathy sometimes part of the is to
cry book about two types of crying
there's a crying of Despair and there's
a crying of pain some things are very
emotional
says
the really
oh you
hear I'm crying I'm
crying not from his place from your
place wherever you
are I'm not sometimes
pain in the world before the there's
pain but those tears are not tears of
Despair it's tears of looking at the
reality and some realities are very
emotional there there is pain in the
universe there's
huh huh he said you were saying no no
no no no everybody's dealing
with you say no Darkness he says people
are overcoming dark instincts that they
have he say like this boy who had this
terrible tyer which was which is against
her he has to overcome what does it mean
there's no he's not in a state of G he's
in a state where he T terrible tyers
from the so what are you suggesting to
this
boy
itans shot is
I think theat
is this is the this question huh you
were speaking of the T this question
yeah yeah
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yeah I was explaining the
question is
everything has
both we'll call it an OAS simple OAS or
has
a has the is the actuality of the
thing this the thing itself and then is
the which is the form is how we relate
to that
thing everything in this world the
itself is not what is dark that's not
the it's our
relationship our narrative our
story the way we connect with
it creates
the let's say you're
having a physical problem let's say with
parosa it's not such a big let's say
you're having an issue with
paros ISS of itself the of the ISS of
what's that
yeah for some people this will
be so there's the issue of Theos
itself you invest you lose
money that in
itself is doesn't have is not o it's
not it's your
relationship to that
story or to that event that is either o
or
you relate to it as
something huh
why understand so what you can't pay the
bill
huh no it's I don't want to get because
that's a drastic analogy but let's say
you can't pay a bill to M
what and then what and then no okay and
then what you have to move to a smaller
house and then what and then what no I'm
saying what's your kids are thrown out
of school and then
what they come
home and then what you go psychiatrist
no no no let's go to this thing no
matter how bad you're going to get the
story no matter how bad you're going to
get the story now I'm not saying it's
easy I'm not I'm not for any one second
saying this is an easy story no matter
how bad you get the story it's always
going to be your relationship to the
story that's the
so let's say theoretically yes you have
to move Upstate and you have to teach
your own kids and light your own fire
I'm not saying that's a nice story but
it could be he's getting excited that's
what he
wants it could be that that's the story
that you want and that could be fine
elmi you have a certain expectation of
how you want your life to look you want
your kids to be in a school that you pay
$5,000 you want the house to be 5,000
sare ft and you want the house to be
cool cool in the winter and I'm not
saying you shouldn't want it I'm not
this not Thea Thea is how we relate to
that story is the is the the of
the your father no matter what
everything
even sickness and every single mat in
the in the
Bria let's ask uh sh little when there's
something that's
a let's say there's a
tree that's dying is the tree really
dying it's dying like a person dies same
thing a tree has a lifespan and it dies
but since there's no consciousness to
know that it's dying it doesn't really
die it does physically die but there's
no pain in
dying if you look at the ran in the
beginning of braus when he talks about
the says that when a
person then is going to
be that you're going to die so brings
a he doesn't say that he actually argues
with it but he brings the first opinion
he says like this that was
a and a NRA by definition has a
beginning and by therefore by definition
has an end everything that's a NRA is
not if it's a NRA means it has a
beginning therefore it has an end so he
says
even were going to die so what does the
say you're GNA eat you're gonna have
you're gonna have awareness now you're
going to know that you're GNA die you
were going to die anyways now you know
you die now it's
painful but if you don't know you're
going to
die or if you're a tree that doesn't
know it's dying or if you're something
that's not a stim being something that's
conscious you don't have the the fear or
the the the the the anxiety or all the
other things that are connected with
this thing yes so in other words
everything
itself is
aoral there's no to and there's no ra
it's everything in the Bri before
the is
just Bri this is the cre the world
without Das
Das is is the key that opens up
ourselves up to Jo the joy of life and
also opens up ourselves to the pain of
life we suffer and we have joy because
we have Das the Das allows us to have a
relationship to this issue and therefore
according to our Das we have either
positive experiences good experien we
call to or we have negative experience
we called and
darkness and other words so it's it's
not shot when we when when
the when he says that this that the
whole of of and G is
through and when we we spoke about
before about the that revealed
the spoke about in the last few years of
his life very very strongly
that all these it's over what do you
mean but it's not over and I'm still
struggling with pain and suffering and
bills and children andas em change your
perspective and and this is this is the
this is the cons this is the trick the
moment you change your perspective and
say
Tak that it actually is O and you can
recognize the Gul in it that it's
already Schamus that's the moment you
let go of the anxiety and that's the
moment the BR comes
because we hold up we hold up Chef on
our life the reason why we hold up the
chef on our life is because we have
M that we create I need exactly this
amount of
money who says so your whole life let's
say a person has is is Place let's say a
person is working and they decide okay
everyone told me as a b as a as a young
kid I'm a you're going to make money I'm
a Okay so then you you start believing
the story and you're 25 you're going to
work and you're not t making money and
you're not such a by the
way but but that's the story you told
yourself maybe you were supposed to be
uh maybe you're supposed to
learn how do you
know I don't want to I I have a personal
story I don't want to say who he was
with but the re was once in certain
family member m
and the re told this person they were
told this person this the husband should
go and become a
Dian so the the the ker said I know this
guy he's not sh to learn it's not he's
a this he's a doer he was like a head
counselor in Camp he was like he should
make he should go
okay like if that's you and said the
should should pay him he should go learn
she said the does have money okay you
know what you want to go work he never
made a dime in his
life superficially the guy he loud he's
everyone
thinks he's
not he he' be better at
dying sh is you have to know you have to
you have to know yourself and you have
to know what is the what is the that you
really need and what the you don't need
and sometimes we we we get in certain
Das that is not
Ms what's
G that the the
the so it says in based on the that
there was was
a this this speaks
about
what's
means you connect yourself with the
stupidity this is the way should
be
that's that's that's he decided this is
the way this is the way I should be you
need EMAs you need R you need of
K
and and
and between and
is how am I related to my life so once
you open yourself up and what this is
what that the B says
that when you're
that is no
longer once you're
mock once you have an understanding that
maybe my D is wrong maybe this is not
the job that I should be working in
maybe this is not the sug that I should
be learning maybe this is not the I
should be ding in there maybe it was
until this point now you outgrew it
people grow you you evolved you have new
new new now you have to have to move
into another thing maybe till 40 years
old you have to be a and now from 40 to
80 you have to sit and learn or the
opposite how do you know and the Abisha
sometimes sends you signs after sign
after sign and says this is not working
this is not working so maybe you have to
look for something
else or and and the first thing you have
to do is you have to liberate Jas you
have to have a gas gas means I don't
want to be stuck to this story anymore I
want to see the the Basher I want to see
the or in this this m i want MK any
situation I'm in my life I want to see
how I MK myself with
the think about the abish the whole day
it's kind it's gone simple you have to
you have to make hashem's presence real
not not just when we DAV and Sh not to
you learn not you do a every single
moment that you you're having an
experience in this world every single
experience you can actually direct with
Hashem everything and feeling sad Hashem
I'm feeling sad I'm feeling happy Hashem
I'm feeling happy thank you for making
me feel sad thank you for allowing me to
feel every single and if you you enter
into into
dialogue not monologue dialogue because
abish is always talking to
us abish is constantly talking to
us the only Reon
why
says that why was chosen why was he
chosen the T tells us clear what was his
what was his uh criteria what what made
mosu great we know mosenu was a defender
of of the of the oppressed
he he stood up when the when when a Jew
when an Egyptian was hitting a Jew we
see that he was even a stand up for
people that he didn't even know when the
Roy were against the the daughters of is
the gives him like a story a
backstory the doesn't tell us why was
chosen what what what what AB do what
was his his backstory okay so the medes
has a whole story where he came from
what he learned and
and okay we know the story but we how
come doesn't
say so says
that from the beginning of the
Bria is always speaking to people
saying the is always saying
this was the first person to hear
it he heard it always talking to us
we're not
listening you wake up in the morning and
the sun is shining they is talking to
you they it's raining they is talking to
you you wake up in the morning on your
left side they is talking to you your
right side is talking to you your wife
who says this they is talking to
you
that's but that's
the that's the you want to know what the
is telling you ask your wife she'll tell
you exactly what the is telling you
and what if your wife says I want to