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you can do. >> Welcome back to the Hire to Inspire and Torah Info podcast. >> We are here with >> a brand new guest, Rabbi Schlomando. >> Thank you for joining us, Rebby. >> Thank you for having me on. >> No problem. >> We want to open up the floor to Rebby. Um if Rebby could give us some of his background, Reby told me in person actually we met up in my Rebi was a 20 plus year uh Reby for girls and for boys. So if Rebby could give us the background of how Rebby became that appreciate it. >> Sure. So again, thank you so much for having me on to be a part of this. Um so probably in the year 2000 I was living in Israel till the year 2000 lived in Israel about five years after I got married and I lived in K I got did a lot of great stuff Hashem and then came back to United States and I started working in Kirov an outreach in a community um called East Brunswick New Jersey. It's not far from Ruckers University. And um while I was there, I was really teaching within the community, you know, teaching Tyra to many of the people that were there, families, and doing events and all kinds of great stuff. At the same time, a very dear a rub of mine um made me aware of the fact that there was a a modern Orthodox high school in the area, and potentially they were looking to hire someone after Sukus. Um that school was called Mosha Arushiva High School or lovingly called Maze. It's no longer around. um the school closed down since then, but I I did teach in that school and I really loved it. I didn't know that much about teaching as a young guy in my 20s, but I came in with a a burning passion to make a difference and more importantly to uh to show my tomb that they mattered and they were valued and that I had something amazing to share with them which was titis and it was amazing. It was wonderful. I'm still in touch with many of my students from that period of time. And then when the school eventually shuttered, um I was a free agent, if you want to call it that. Um Shiva Flatbush offered me a job and I didn't want to take that job because I didn't want to go in the Staten Island turnpike. Uh Staten Island Expressway. I have a fun it's called expressway. It's not really express. Um and then uh Kushner came out. They offered me a job and I took a job at Kushner and that was a beautiful period of my life. Wish I could still be there but I live in Lake now. The commute is just too much. I have a full-time job. But I I do teach a little bit in the school called Mayan teacher number as well. Um so still trying to teach as much as I can. >> Yeah. >> Introduce yourself. He doesn't know you. >> Yeah. Yeah. Reb like to introduce myself. My name is Rubenov from sixth grade. Yeah. >> Happy to meet Ry also. >> It's a pleasure. >> Thank you for coming on for time and joining us. So I think we could start with the first question. Yeah. So the first question for we want to ask um soon is coming out and we want to know what's the first thing should do. We didn't learn the whole day. Not really all all he was really well mus jump onto the meal or something. But should learn or how how should we how should we be? >> You're talking about onisha like when we didn't have our learn. Yeah. Oh, what you saying once the t once the fast is over? Is that your question? >> Right. Right. >> I got I'll tell you guys something absolutely fascinating. I have a a very near de near de near de near de near de near and dear kab his name is rabian classical very special person and uh brother Klatskco um shared with me last week we were sitting together at a sem actually and brother Klasco shared with me something unbelievable. He told me that that about a few weeks ago he likes buying stuff from auctions like he likes buying like you know antiques and you know >> historical items of historical value. I told him a few weeks ago so he's on his computer and he's on an auction. He's trying to buy something. His wife comes in. She goes to bed. What are you buying now? He goes it's not so important whatever. And he says give me a second. I think I got it. He goes I got it. His wife says what did you buy this time? He's like it's not important. Whatever. Let me tell you what he bought because it's really incredible. He bought a clipper, hair clipper set, you know, the oldfashioned kinds. The kind of was like this thing that you like you squeeze it together and it cut your hair, you know, instead of the motor that we have on it now. Yeah. >> And he bought one from Awitz that was used to clip the hairs of the prisoners in Awitz. >> Wow. >> And he said to me that the reason he I said, "Why'd you buy that? It's a strange thing to have." He says, "Because what happens when is over?" He says on the 10th day of of so that everything is over. You could listen to music and you could eat meat and you could drink wine. You could cut your hair. you could take a shower, all do laundry, all the different things you couldn't do until that point. And most people have just like jump into the fact that a is overem it's kind of like people who are have to say chiva and then the second shiv is over like yeah it's over awesome. So he says, "You know what? When I take my first snip of my beard or my hair, whatever it is, I want to use that actual clipper, the clipper that was used in Awitz, as if to say,"I know that maybe Aveis is over and I can't live my way this my life this whole way, but I'm not willing to let go so easily." >> And and listen, that's a high level and it's not a part of the situation and most of us don't have that. >> But imagine if you waited another 10 minutes before you turned on your favorite music or fishy swishy or whatever people are listening to these days and stuff like that and whatever you whatever you're gonna do. But imagine before you before you ate your first schnitle sandwich or you know you jumped into the shower you took five or 10 minutes and I don't know you don't even have to do anything crazy in those you don't like to sing sad songs just five or 10 minutes to push it off to say you know it I understand how says that you know we have to get back to regular life and do us to be happy all the time but I don't want to let go that quickly so here let it linger a drop more and then I'll go back to life as as usual so you know not to run away from it I know when I was a kid in some of the camps they would have like a countdown like the whole camp would get together 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 20. Yeah. Boom. And the music would go on. Everyone would jump and it would be like a major mashpit in camp. Okay. I don't listen camp you need. But maybe maybe we could push it off a drop. Not not for reason. Just like we don't got to jump into it the first second that it's like ruins the whole atmosphere. >> Yeah. Just inspiration. >> Yeah. You're waiting for it to be over and boom, it's over. So, >> right. Fine. Thank god the cancer damn. >> So Ruby, I wanted to ask you this question in Monty. >> Okay. >> Didn't work out for a reason. >> Your mic is much clearer than Yak. >> Really? >> Yeah. >> Oh, okay. So >> maybe just have a clearer voice than him. I don't know. Okay, go ahead. Yeah. >> Um, how did Rebby told me that he didn't start vi but how did Revie get involved? >> So that's a really good question. Um, let me just say for those people who are not exactly sure what we what vitamin is, it's a daily it's a daily video that helps people with it's for anyone really and it helps a person kind of get get their where they look and what they what they you know where their focus is in check with a daily very beautiful very well done professional video which is really a tremendous amount. I know countless people told me it's the video today. >> Yeah, they did. Correct. Um and and every and every morning a lot of people start off their day with that and it kind of gives them a boost so that whatever gets thrown their way um they could be they could be strong and and be in control of themselves. I did not start it. Actually was started by a young guy in his 20s who instead of taking some money that he made um you know with his job and his business and buying some fancy car or maybe setting up a cigar lounge in his house or a wine seller um he decided he wants to do something more special and he started this initiative mess's grandfather and he started this daily video. It started probably two plus years ago and uh I I was not involved at all. It was started by a few great sadikin. And at some point the guy who started his name is Isaac. He calls me up and he says to Orlando, I like your stuff, like your videos. Could you potentially come on board and do some videos for us? I said, "Okay, let me hear a little bit more about it. If I have something I feel I have something valuable to add, I'm sure I'm happy to do it." So I showed up in the basement of Ash Matabas. It was raining actually. And he had a camera set up and he had some lighting. Almost as professional as you guys. Not as professional, almost as professional. And um I recorded then five or six videos um of different short things that I thought could be inspirational for people who are dealing with mirror and I for myself personally as well. And uh he was like whoa he did that and I he just did each one once. He didn't got to do it five or six times. I just I talked I talked about what was on my and um he liked what I had so he put it out pretty quickly and from that point on we became very close friends. He's a very special person in in in Lakewood. has a big tadic. His name is Rabbi Graa and he teaches a lot of Jewish people about the mud and he said that he would be happy to trade his haba with this guy Isaac's haba because of the impact that he's had. So since that point like I've kind of been pretty friendly with him and there were a few opportunities where they needed a face of the organization because whether it was a podcast that was a headlines podcast about 9 that they wanted someone to run so I ran that or or a podcast with Yakob Linger they just they wanted a face and his rub didn't feel that you know a guy his age or his stage maybe is is the right person to be the face of the organization. So he asked me if I could step on board and I could you know I could do those interviews. So I've done a bunch of things with him since that point. have been part of some other interviews. So that's really my cash. But I have infinite for him a for this of being able to disseminate some and be for the impact it's had on my own life. >> Wow. >> Thank you. >> Sure. >> That's a crazy story. It is. >> Okay. >> I'll tell you that. I'll tell you >> Reby knows that. >> Go ahead. What were you gonna say? >> Oh no. Rebi knows that I'm doing the social media program, >> right? >> Yeah, of course I know. But that's half of that's amazing. If a person could Yeah. somehow get that in check, you know, over the summer and then come into L in control of themsel, well then they're probably light years ahead of where they were in the beginning of the summer. So that's very special. >> According to Rebi, do you think it's proper for me to run it? >> Oh, you're asking a very good question. Um, I don't know you well enough. Um, and I'm sure you're not on social media, although on some level I guess you are for doing this. It's always a to it's like a I have this own personal tossup in my life where I def I try to, you know, create content and make do all kinds of videos all the time. I try to put out one short video every single day and it is on social media platforms. It's on meaningful minute and it's on LinkedIn and sometimes some other things that makes its way around the world and it's a little bit of a of a of a tugof-war inside of me. On one hand, I know the impact is so much greater and we could do so much with it if it's in a broader world, but personally like it's not good for me to be on it. And I'll tell you the truth, like two people approached me in the last few weeks and said to me that I have that if I work on my brand, I could be 10 times as big. And I was like, what's my brand? I don't have a brand. I'm just trying to teach to teach and inspire and I'm trying to do what the right thing is and I'm not looking to get any further involved. So I don't know. I'm a little older than you. You could be my child, you know. So my child asked me if they should be doing this. I don't know. I'm sure you ask your rabbis or you ask your whoever the people give you your dy and you're doing this because they think it's the right thing. Um but yeah it's it's it's a double-edged sword. You got to be really careful because it could take you also I want to point out something which is very very important and especially for two guys who are just getting into this like you know you need to understand something that just because something that you do has a lot of views or a lot of people watched it nothing changed in you. You could have a video that goes out and gives a million people, but nothing changed in you. And the Sahara has like this way of saying, "Oh my gosh, you're changing Kai. You're at you're amazing. You don't got to work on yourself cuz look what you're doing." It's not true. Absolutely nothing changed in you. Whether you put out a video that a million people saw or one person saw. So you have to be honest with yourself that like yeah it's nice and yeah it's it's a to be able to teach a lot of people or to learn with a lot of people but at the same time it it doesn't exempt you from growing and becoming a better person yourself. And the moment that you start using that um as as a as a replacement you got to run for the hills. >> Well >> I didn't mean to give you ice. I'm just telling you experience of one of one year of what what I feel you know >> really one person came over to me um before Chavez or I think on Chavez and he was like you're having the famous Jewish brown guy over it's crazy I'm like and now you're telling me this oh you know you're not a Jewish brown this and that. >> Yeah. >> But why do people call call me then? >> Why do they call me what? I didn't even understand you but you said Jewish brand >> like the Jewish brand of like like Nike or something like that. >> And Mish have no clue. I think maybe it's because you know I'll just tell you like the what what my mahal has been. It's like to try to be consistent. >> Yeah. And you know to to I personally try every single day and I'm not always matzah but to try to put out one little tiny thing and it's a story it's a it's something that moves me personally hashka practice moment an insight in ding and if you're consistent you know to me every single day you try to put something out then and I guess it's somewhat decent quality because I guess people people for some reason like it then eventually you end up you end up getting followers and people want to they want to listen and discuss is compounded where more and more people can hear and I can't begin to tell you how many times people reach out to me in all different ways of communication to say you know what that video that you shared today I it's exactly what the doctor ordered I needed to hear that I was in such a bad spot and what you told me came to make it through the day or to be so it's you know I dash keep giving me the opportunity and more importantly the content to share because you know I don't know I'm like I'm almost I'm almost at a thousand daily videos and like I don't think I ever repeated myself yet and somehow Hashem throws something to me every single day almost every single day that I could share further. So it's a total of the and I'm I'm a regular person like everybody else. I'm no different. Maybe I struggle more than other people. So no one should get the impression, wow, sometimes you see a basketball player and he's so good at basketball and you some some all-star guy and like wow that guy's amazing. He's not amazing. He just is really good at basketball. That's it. >> Yeah. So I think we could ask everything the Rabbi just said being and being constant and all that. How can we apply that to to ourselves in in a spiritual way? How can we try our best to be consistent in a certain thing that we want to take upon ourselves or especially as a tish we all think how can we be a constant because we know a person says you know what I'm going to wake up for I'm overnight I'm just learn and a person think takes he's making all these things but the says oh okay fine you know for a few days he'll go st escalating back and okay fine let's go with this thing and then that and this whole thing that he want to be this whole nice bubble just pops after two weeks. So how can we mad ourselves and try to keep that that contend inside of us? >> That's probably one of the most powerful questions that a person needs to ask themsself. So before you even start doing anything I think the first thing you need to understand is that used to say that you should take a cabala on yourself for kipper and then whatever kabala is it should be small and then once you take it you figure out what the cabala is you should slice it in half. So like you said before, a guy says, "I want to finish a in a month." First of all, that's unrealistic. So you're setting yourself up for failure. Maybe. But even that, it's not easy. You have to be realistic. What's real? And whatever you accept upon yourself, you should cut it in half. So let's say you figure out you want finish over the next six months. Okay, that's realistic. Give yourself 12 months. That's number one. Number two, you need to do it in bite-sized pieces. So I'm going to try to learn every single day 10 lines of gar. And of course I'm going to the 10 lines I did yesterday. If you don't then it's pointless. It's just the anyway. >> Um that's the beauty of for example which is this initiative which many people do where you learn and is very doable especially if you're an adult and you know how to learn a little bit and then you the next day so that actually you're entertaining and you again on chabas don't even learn nuance chabas and over the weekend you what you did during that week. So it's small and it's it's digestible. So that's really important. So a you have to focus on the cabal. it can't be too large and B you have to figure out a plan. So this is what I'm planning on doing every single day. Um in addition to that it's really important to understand that the way of the is that always gives us a spark of inspiration a flash of of strength of of understanding when we start any cabala because it's hard for human beings to change. So we get the shaya initially and but that's not really us. That means let's say your first week of not being on social media that's the shaya okay it took you the strength to make that decision and that's where you really get a lot of credit but but once that comes Hashem gives you the gives you a burst of of energy of adrenaline spiritual adrenaline to be able to pull through that but then is like okay let me see if this is really something that you can make yours and he pedals back and he takes away theat and that's where it becomes really difficult and challenging and that's where the real growth and ownership happens And if you have that mindset every day, you know, when it comes to that, you're like, I know it's going to be hard today. I know the Yates is trying to get pull me away from it, but I'm going to pull through and I'll grit myself. I'll grit my teeth and I'll make sure that I'm able to do a come what may. Then eventually it becomes much easier and it becomes part of your daily routine. And that's where real growth happens. And it's it's it's many opportunities like this and you know one after the next you know not to relent you finish one cobell you start the next one but again small understandable understanding of the perspective that it >> starting small >> you have to start small and you have to also know that at some point it's going to get really challenging because that's just that's the way life is set up the bria >> I think that you could do >> yeah and if you know that in advance right it becomes much easier for a person to do it you know to to to to be successful to in the long run. I'll tell you just another interesting thing which is that two more like pieces of advice that help when it comes to cabalis one is if you don't do it alone means you get two guys who commit to do exactly the same thing and they check each other each day so let's say I know for example when it comes to like people are struggling with like you get two guys and they both send each other a picture every morning of them putting on so then it's a it's because the other guy is doing it so that's that's definitely something that that works you know strong and number two is and we're all we're We all like doing things Chanel as a kalas is to motivate yourself. If I'm two weeks in and I strugg to my Cabala, I'm gonna go out. I'm gonna buy myself, I don't know, uh, ice cream, super lap, pla, mappuccino, whatever. I don't know what they have in Queens. Or if I do something really strong, I'm going to get myself >> I wanted to get some kind of music. They want them, you know, download music cost a little bit of money. I'm going to I'm going to spend five bucks on myself or whatever it is. Sometimes, you know, I'm going to ask the Cabo press by motivating yourself um by offering them self incentives. that sometimes is is is is a motivator as well. So I think each person has to know themsel but like you said not too much slowly but surely and to understand that it's not always smooth sailing. Life has peaks and life has valleys. >> Thank you. So is almost coming to an end. >> Yeah. It's hard to believe. >> We still didn't get to BC. >> That's right. But >> um what's one thing that rebi can give to everybody um to take away before tish ends? So you know I brought this yesterday and today to to to do like the kinis for for here in Leo which is like a place where a lot of people come and a lot of holy Jews from all different walks and backgrounds come and it's kind of like gullas or msiah it's every kind of Jew and everyone just you know I I what I I said a lot I said a lot of different things. One of the things I said is that you can't go by tish without having a moment of emotion. You can't go by tishabove without feeling some moment of connection. So you know the the the sun is setting it's you know within two hours it'll be and and tishabove will be over you know very soon actually. But if you haven't had that moment where you felt something, do something about it. I don't know. Sit down on Linda Kennes with the arts girl. Um, go online and listen to someone's share. Do something. Put in some effort so that you don't go by the 24 hours of tishab and just get so busy and >> Yeah. But get busy and distracted by the fasting and preparing what you're going to eat after the fast is over, but you didn't actually do anything. And if a person >> walked away empty-handed. >> Yeah. It's such a shame. And if a person can't feel the the actual because it's just too far removed from then well go out and look at the picture of the those hostages that was just released last week and it's so scary to see that and understand that there is then the way we start off is that how's it possible we're so alone think about those guys that are so alone or think about the wives of the soldiers in or their parents there's so many ways we could connect to to pain and we have to understand that all comes from that all comes from the fact that we don't have a bas and and a whole year long we try to stay positive and upbeat how Jew is you know we have and we trust and that's probably the only quote you'll get from me but the bottom line is a person right >> that's right but at the same time um to understand that you know there is one day a year that we do focus on loss and we do focus on pain and we do focus on personal loss on the loss of claim Sarina as well. So if you didn't have that moment yet, like figure it out. I mean, you can't let Tishab go by without without a moment of of genuine connection. It's it's not okay. >> Yeah. As a Rebi for 20 plus years, >> what's one advice Rebby gives to his Talmud? >> So I wish that my Tamil would always come to me and say, "Hey Rebby, can you give me a piece of advice?" Like I don't know about you, I had every bay. Um I would say if I had to tell my to my Tom is graduating high school and it's going off to Israel if they're going to yes or they're going to seminary. I would say >> sure >> get keep in touch. That's what I would say. You know, you need a you need a Rebi. I don't have to be your Rebi, but let let somebody in Israel become your Rebi, but and once >> as a Rebi, let's say as a as being a Rebi advice would give >> um a boy anything. I I think that you need to have um something built into your daily calendar every single day that helps you grow in your kite. Um it could be something that you're working on and every day you focus on that. It could be it could be a day that you didn't grow, a day that you didn't get a just a drop better is a wasted day. And and and part of the atahara's is that he gets you so busy with life and especially as you start your life and you get a job or you know you you you you join a program of learning or whatever it is and life is just so crazy and it's so busy. He gets you so busy that you don't grow and if you don't grow it's you're dying every day that you don't go up you're falling down. So to try to build into your schedule, whatever it is, even if it's five minutes, five minutes of growth, five minutes of five minutes of strength every single day. This way you remain connected and the whatever inspiration you get in your life continues to flow. And then it's like, you know, you tell this to kids who are like, I don't know how old you guys are high school kids and I tell this to you and you're like, what do you mean whatever? I've got my whole life in front of me. The life becomes very busy very quickly. And if a person doesn't have a real plan, then they're just going to tread water like so many people. And that's such a bash of life because you can really grow and you can become very hush and very special but it takes effort. >> Yeah. Sure. >> Okay. >> You have any other question? Um I think one that that I learned especially or any other Muslim that is always there and we know that's one way for a person to always realize always by his shoulder including stops a person from or always feels that he's with Hashem he's protected and there's hope. So how how can how can a person instill really that concept in him that Hashem is always there >> again it's like everything in life you can't live you can't be high all the time it's impossible to con I shouldn't say that but I think we have to be realistic with ourselves that most of us are not a madrego where we're constantly thinking about hashem because if we are we probably are obsessivempive compulsive disorder it's just very hard to be super hyperfocused on one thing and it takes a god to be like that but at the same time like I was saying before until this point that like it doesn't mean to say that because of that you throw out the baby with the bath water and you need to build in your life moments of so just just to give the most classic one which when I started doing it it was a total game changer and I'll be honest I didn't start doing it till I was well into my adulthood is that before I start I take 10 seconds and I think to myself I'm about to stand in front of a he's the he can do anything and he wants to do everything and now I could start So that's 5 seconds, but it's 5 seconds of trying to bring Hashem into your life or like one of my who's a huge he's not a regular guy. So I don't know if everyone should try this at home, but he has he sets an alarm on his on his phone a few times a day just to like don't forget that you're not running life that Hashem is running the world and all the efforts that you're putting in can only seem if Hashem does that. That's what he does. But I'm not so holy like him. I don't do it. But I try by Tibil at least before um to do that and you know periodically throughout the day as well. You know it's hard to pre to be like I said to be high all the time but like is an opportunity to connect to Hashem. before you eat something, after you eat something, go to the bathroom, opportunity to connect to Hasheming, learning um there's there's an infinite amount of times, but it's hard to constantly be doing it, but to build into your schedule real moments um where those moments become part of who you are. That's how you grow. That's how you develop, you know, muscle if you want to call it that. And even thank said that like said that before 10 seconds before say even then for a person to say that and then it required lot of >> well everyone says this says this also so that if you don't believe in it doesn't work. So you want to make sure that if you're dabbing and so many people dabbing all the time and just never think about it but you're dabbing three times a day and you're talking to you got to believe it works. Um how do you believe it works? It's only if you really have or of so yeah that's a big part of it as well. You know it's it's a good way to kind of focus yourself and say yeah I'm standing front and what I'm about to do works. Um, and I challenge I challenge everybody to like, you know, start opening your eyes and open your ears and open your heart and you'll see that Hashem is answering your just got to you got to figure it out. You know, people always focus on what they don't have. They don't focus on what they do have. If they focus on what they do have, they see that their is constantly giving them amazing things and that he's constantly answering their feelings. You know, >> and some can't even answer in five years or 10 years in a long time. And when people I think they hear that they get they get maj like okay I'm not waiting that long for you because like that >> it's definitely true. Um but you know and sometimes Hashem you ask Hashem for something and he does answer you but he says no >> it's not the right thing for you. It's complex. It's complex but I think you know it's amazing if you look if you if you look at the we just actually mentioned the whole in in the kinn that we read today. Um, you know, people there's a lot of things that could go wrong in your life, right? The has just a few of the positives and I don't know deep of all the negatives. There's a lot of things that could go wrong. Most people focus on the negatives and this negatives is overwhelming. There's so many things that are not exactly the way that I want them to be and very few people focus on the braha on the positive. You don't need a lot of things to be really happy. Um so to take time for a person to take time and understand that all those constant goods in my life those are all there also because of my love. So yeah maybe I have to wait three years to get that off or to get that job or to get that level of understanding and learning or that self-control or whatever it is. But that's okay because I'm not supposed to get it now and I'm supposed to get it when I get it. But look what I'm getting now. Every single day I'm getting tons of amazing things in my life. And this way you live your life blessed as opposed to stressed. Right. problem thing. The pro the problem is Rebby. Everyone thinks that if Hashem says no, that means it's not an answer. >> It is really an answer. >> I'll tell you guys something really interesting. When I was like in sixth grade, my Rebi said that if you dab him for something hard enough, he's going to give Hashem will give it to you. You just have to keep dabbing. You have to be insistent and Hashem will answer you. So, I wanted a go-kart. I don't even know if you guys know what a go-kart. This is before like, you know, the go-karts that you can get nowadays, but like I wanted a go-kart real bad. It was like an electric. It was like a gas one. People didn't have go-karts, but I I I really wanted it. So, for six weeks, I ded into Hashem for a go-kart, and I didn't get one. And one day, I was so frustrated with my rebi like in middle class, I said to my reb, this is not appropriate, but I said, "Reb you lied." >> And to his credit, he didn't. Yeah. Total disrespect. And to his credit, he didn't throw me out of my head. And he goes, "Well, what do you mean? When did I lie? What did I say?" I said, "You said that if a guy dominates long and hard and he has all these, you know, he's consistent. Hashem is going to answer him. I've been dominating for six weeks for go-kart." And Hashem didn't answer. My Rebi said to me, "He did answer you." He said, "No." >> I said, "That's a cop out." He goes, "Not true. Think about it." So, think about it for a moment. Imagine that you had that go-kart. What would have happened within the first 24 hours? You would have killed yourself or somebody else. >> So, Hashem is like, "I'd rather this guy not kill someone. I'd rather him not kill himself. I'm not going to give it to him. It's not the right thing for him at this stage and at this age." And he was right. Not for a kid in sixth grade. It was hard for me to understand that. But as we mature in life, we we realize we understand that sometimes Hashem says, "No, because it's not the right thing for us. Maybe now it's not the right thing." Or maybe in general it's not the right thing for us. >> We >> it's better in store for us. >> That's right. Maybe Hashem wants to give me something way better than a than a go-kart or whatever it is. But it's complex and and our relationship with that just like every relationship is complex and it has its ups and it has its downs. But hope there's more ups than downs, you know. Thank you for such smart questions. A >> pleasure. Pleasure. Okay. Yeah, it's good. I think that's a wrap. Thank you. >> Thank you, so much so much for having me. I'm happy I was finally able to do this and you guys have keep changing the world one at a time and that should be yours. What a movie.