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>> Welcome back to the Hire to Inspire and
Torah Info podcast.
>> We are here with
>> a brand new guest, Rabbi Schlomando.
>> Thank you for joining us, Rebby.
>> Thank you for having me on.
>> No problem.
>> We want to open up the floor to Rebby.
Um if Rebby could give us some of his
background, Reby told me in person
actually we met up in my
Rebi was a 20 plus year
uh Reby
for girls and for boys. So if Rebby
could give us the background of how
Rebby became that
appreciate it.
>> Sure. So again, thank you so much for
having me on
to be a part of this. Um so probably in
the year 2000 I was living in Israel
till the year 2000 lived in Israel about
five years after I got married and I
lived in K I got did a lot of great
stuff Hashem and then came back to
United States and I started working in
Kirov an outreach in a community um
called East Brunswick New Jersey. It's
not far from Ruckers University. And um
while I was there, I was really teaching
within the community, you know, teaching
Tyra to many of the people that were
there, families, and doing events and
all kinds of great stuff. At the same
time, a very dear a rub of mine um made
me aware of the fact that there was a a
modern Orthodox high school in the area,
and potentially they were looking to
hire someone after Sukus. Um that school
was called Mosha Arushiva High School or
lovingly called Maze. It's no longer
around. um the school closed down since
then, but I I did teach in that school
and I really loved it. I didn't know
that much about teaching as a young guy
in my 20s, but I came in with a a
burning passion to make a difference and
more importantly to uh to show my tomb
that they mattered and they were valued
and that I had something amazing to
share with them which was titis and it
was amazing. It was wonderful. I'm still
in touch with many of my students from
that period of time. And then when the
school eventually shuttered, um I was a
free agent, if you want to call it that.
Um Shiva Flatbush offered me a job and I
didn't want to take that job because I
didn't want to go in the Staten Island
turnpike. Uh Staten Island Expressway. I
have a fun it's called expressway. It's
not really express. Um and then uh
Kushner came out. They offered me a job
and I took a job at Kushner and that was
a beautiful period of my life. Wish I
could still be there but I live in Lake
now. The commute is just too much. I
have a full-time job. But I I do teach a
little bit in the school called Mayan
teacher number as well. Um so still
trying to teach as much as I can.
>> Yeah.
>> Introduce yourself. He doesn't know you.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Reb like to introduce
myself. My name is Rubenov
from sixth grade.
Yeah.
>> Happy to meet Ry also.
>> It's a pleasure.
>> Thank you for coming on for time and
joining us. So I think we could start
with the first question. Yeah. So the
first question for we want to ask um
soon
is coming out and we want to know what's
the first thing should do. We didn't
learn the whole day. Not really all all
he was really well mus
jump onto the meal or something. But
should learn
or how how should we how should we be?
>> You're talking about onisha like when we
didn't have our learn. Yeah. Oh, what
you saying once the t once the fast is
over? Is that your question?
>> Right. Right.
>> I got I'll tell you guys something
absolutely fascinating. I have a a very
near de near de near de near de near de
near and dear kab his name is rabian
classical very special person and uh
brother Klatskco um shared with me last
week we were sitting together at a sem
actually and brother Klasco shared with
me something unbelievable. He told me
that that about a few weeks ago he likes
buying stuff from auctions like he likes
buying like you know antiques and you
know
>> historical items of historical value. I
told him a few weeks ago so he's on his
computer and he's on an auction. He's
trying to buy something. His wife comes
in. She goes to bed. What are you buying
now? He goes it's not so important
whatever. And he says give me a second.
I think I got it. He goes I got it. His
wife says what did you buy this time?
He's like it's not important. Whatever.
Let me tell you what he bought because
it's really incredible. He bought a
clipper, hair clipper set, you know, the
oldfashioned kinds. The kind of was like
this thing that you like you squeeze it
together and it cut your hair, you know,
instead of the motor that we have on it
now. Yeah.
>> And he bought one from Awitz that was
used to clip the hairs of the prisoners
in Awitz.
>> Wow.
>> And he said to me that the reason he I
said, "Why'd you buy that? It's a
strange thing to have." He says,
"Because what happens when is over?" He
says
on the 10th day of of so that everything
is over. You could listen to music and
you could eat meat and you could drink
wine. You could cut your hair. you could
take a shower, all do laundry, all the
different things you couldn't do until
that point. And most people have just
like jump into the fact that a is overem
it's kind of like people who are have to
say chiva and then the second shiv is
over like yeah it's over awesome. So he
says, "You know what? When I take my
first snip of my beard or my hair,
whatever it is, I want to use that
actual clipper, the clipper that was
used in Awitz, as if to say,"I know that
maybe Aveis is over and I can't live my
way this my life this whole way, but I'm
not willing to let go so easily."
>> And and listen, that's a high level and
it's not a part of the situation and
most of us don't have that.
>> But imagine if you waited another 10
minutes before you turned on your
favorite music or fishy swishy or
whatever people are listening to these
days and stuff like that and whatever
you whatever you're gonna do. But
imagine before you before you ate your
first schnitle sandwich or you know you
jumped into the shower you took five or
10 minutes and I don't know you don't
even have to do anything crazy in those
you don't like to sing sad songs just
five or 10 minutes to push it off to say
you know it I understand how says that
you know we have to get back to regular
life and do us to be happy all the time
but I don't want to let go that quickly
so here let it linger a drop more and
then I'll go back to life as as usual so
you know not to run away from it I know
when I was a kid in some of the camps
they would have like a countdown like
the whole camp would get together 10 9
8 7 6 5 4 3 20. Yeah. Boom. And the
music would go on. Everyone would jump
and it would be like a major mashpit in
camp. Okay. I don't listen camp you
need. But maybe maybe we could push it
off a drop. Not not for reason. Just
like we don't got to jump into it the
first second that it's like ruins the
whole atmosphere.
>> Yeah. Just inspiration.
>> Yeah. You're waiting for it to be over
and boom, it's over. So,
>> right.
Fine. Thank god the cancer damn.
>> So Ruby, I wanted to ask you this
question in Monty.
>> Okay.
>> Didn't work out for a reason.
>> Your mic is much clearer than Yak.
>> Really?
>> Yeah.
>> Oh, okay. So
>> maybe just have a clearer voice than
him. I don't know. Okay, go ahead. Yeah.
>> Um,
how did Rebby told me that he didn't
start vi but how did Revie get involved?
>> So that's a really good question. Um,
let me just say for those people who are
not exactly sure what we what vitamin
is, it's a daily it's a daily video that
helps people with it's for anyone really
and it helps a person kind of get get
their where they look and what they what
they you know where their focus is in
check with a daily very beautiful very
well done professional video which is
really a tremendous amount. I know
countless people told me it's the video
today.
>> Yeah, they did. Correct. Um and and
every and every morning a lot of people
start off their day with that and it
kind of gives them a boost so that
whatever gets thrown their way um they
could be they could be strong and and be
in control of themselves. I did not
start it. Actually was started by a
young guy in his 20s who instead of
taking some money that he made um you
know with his job and his business and
buying some fancy car or maybe setting
up a cigar lounge in his house or a wine
seller um he decided he wants to do
something more special and he started
this initiative mess's grandfather and
he started this daily video. It started
probably two plus years ago and uh I I
was not involved at all. It was started
by a few great sadikin. And at some
point the guy who started his name is
Isaac. He calls me up and he says to
Orlando, I like your stuff, like your
videos. Could you potentially come on
board and do some videos for us? I said,
"Okay, let me hear a little bit more
about it. If I have something I feel I
have something valuable to add, I'm sure
I'm happy to do it." So I showed up in
the basement of Ash Matabas. It was
raining actually. And he had a camera
set up and he had some lighting. Almost
as professional as you guys. Not as
professional, almost as professional.
And um I recorded then five or six
videos um of different short things that
I thought could be inspirational for
people who are dealing with mirror and I
for myself personally as well. And uh he
was like whoa he did that and I he just
did each one once. He didn't got to do
it five or six times. I just I talked I
talked about what was on my and um he
liked what I had so he put it out pretty
quickly and from that point on we became
very close friends. He's a very special
person in in in Lakewood. has a big
tadic. His name is Rabbi Graa and he
teaches a lot of Jewish people about the
mud and he said that he would be happy
to trade his haba with this guy Isaac's
haba because of the impact that he's
had. So since that point like I've kind
of been pretty friendly with him and
there were a few opportunities where
they needed a face of the organization
because whether it was a podcast that
was a headlines podcast about 9 that
they wanted someone to run so I ran that
or or a podcast with Yakob Linger they
just they wanted a face and his rub
didn't feel that you know a guy his age
or his stage maybe is is the right
person to be the face of the
organization. So he asked me if I could
step on board and I could you know I
could do those interviews. So I've done
a bunch of things with him since that
point. have been part of some other
interviews. So that's really my cash.
But I have infinite for him a for this
of being able to disseminate some and be
for the impact it's had on my own life.
>> Wow.
>> Thank you.
>> Sure.
>> That's a crazy story. It is.
>> Okay.
>> I'll tell you that. I'll tell you
>> Reby knows that.
>> Go ahead. What were you gonna say?
>> Oh no. Rebi knows that I'm doing the
social media program,
>> right?
>> Yeah, of course I know. But that's half
of that's amazing. If a person could
Yeah. somehow get that in check, you
know, over the summer and then come into
L in control of themsel, well then
they're probably light years ahead of
where they were in the beginning of the
summer. So that's very special.
>> According to Rebi, do you think it's
proper for me to run it?
>> Oh, you're asking a very good question.
Um, I don't know you well enough. Um,
and I'm sure you're not on social media,
although on some level I guess you are
for doing this. It's always a to it's
like a I have this own personal tossup
in my life where I def I try to, you
know, create content and make do all
kinds of videos all the time. I try to
put out one short video every single day
and it is on social media platforms.
It's on meaningful minute and it's on
LinkedIn and sometimes some other things
that makes its way around the world and
it's a little bit of a of a of a
tugof-war inside of me. On one hand, I
know the impact is so much greater and
we could do so much with it if it's in a
broader world, but personally like it's
not good for me to be on it. And I'll
tell you the truth, like two people
approached me in the last few weeks and
said to me that I have that if I work on
my brand, I could be 10 times as big.
And I was like, what's my brand? I don't
have a brand. I'm just trying to teach
to teach and inspire and I'm trying to
do what the right thing is and I'm not
looking to get any further involved. So
I don't know. I'm a little older than
you. You could be my child, you know. So
my child asked me if they should be
doing this. I don't know. I'm sure you
ask your rabbis or you ask your whoever
the people give you your dy and you're
doing this because they think it's the
right thing. Um but yeah it's it's it's
a double-edged sword. You got to be
really careful because it could take you
also I want to point out something which
is very very important and especially
for two guys who are just getting into
this like you know you need to
understand something that just because
something that you do has a lot of views
or a lot of people watched it nothing
changed in you. You could have a video
that goes out and gives a million
people, but nothing changed in you. And
the Sahara has like this way of saying,
"Oh my gosh, you're changing Kai. You're
at you're amazing. You don't got to work
on yourself cuz look what you're doing."
It's not true. Absolutely nothing
changed in you. Whether you put out a
video that a million people saw or one
person saw. So you have to be honest
with yourself that like yeah it's nice
and yeah it's it's a to be able to teach
a lot of people or to learn with a lot
of people but at the same time it it
doesn't exempt you from growing and
becoming a better person yourself. And
the moment that you start using that um
as as a as a replacement you got to run
for the hills.
>> Well
>> I didn't mean to give you ice. I'm just
telling you experience of one of one
year of what what I feel you know
>> really one person came over to me um
before Chavez or I think on Chavez and
he was like you're having the famous
Jewish brown guy over it's crazy I'm
like and now you're telling me this oh
you know you're not a Jewish brown this
and that.
>> Yeah.
>> But why do people call call me then?
>> Why do they call me what? I didn't even
understand you but you said
Jewish brand
>> like the Jewish brand of like like Nike
or something like that.
>> And Mish have no clue. I think maybe
it's because you know I'll just tell you
like the what what my mahal has been.
It's like to try to be consistent.
>> Yeah. And you know to to I personally
try every single day and I'm not always
matzah but to try to put out one little
tiny thing and it's a story it's a it's
something that moves me personally
hashka practice moment an insight in
ding and if you're consistent you know
to me
every single day you try to put
something out then and I guess it's
somewhat decent quality because I guess
people people for some reason like it
then eventually you end up you end up
getting followers and people want to
they want to listen and discuss is
compounded where more and more people
can hear and I can't begin to tell you
how many times people reach out to me in
all different ways of communication to
say you know what that video that you
shared today I it's exactly what the
doctor ordered I needed to hear that I
was in such a bad spot and what you told
me came to make it through the day or to
be so it's you know I dash keep giving
me the opportunity and more importantly
the content to share because you know I
don't know I'm like I'm almost I'm
almost at a thousand daily videos and
like I don't think I ever repeated
myself yet and somehow Hashem throws
something to me every single day almost
every single day that I could share
further. So it's a total of the and I'm
I'm a regular person like everybody
else. I'm no different. Maybe I struggle
more than other people. So no one should
get the impression, wow, sometimes you
see a basketball player and he's so good
at basketball and you some some all-star
guy and like wow that guy's amazing.
He's not amazing. He just is really good
at basketball. That's it.
>> Yeah.
So I think we could ask
everything the Rabbi just said being and
being constant and all that. How can we
apply that to to ourselves in in a
spiritual way? How can we try our best
to be consistent in a certain thing that
we want to take upon ourselves or
especially as a tish we all think how
can we be a constant because we know a
person says you know what I'm going to
wake up for I'm overnight I'm just learn
and a person think takes he's making all
these things but the says oh okay fine
you know for a few days he'll go st
escalating back and okay fine let's go
with this thing and then that
and this whole thing that he want to be
this whole nice bubble just pops after
two weeks. So how can we mad ourselves
and try to keep that that contend inside
of us?
>> That's probably one of the most powerful
questions that a person needs to ask
themsself. So before you even start
doing anything I think the first thing
you need to understand is that
used to say that you should take a
cabala on yourself for kipper and then
whatever kabala is it should be small
and then once you take it you figure out
what the cabala is you should slice it
in half. So like you said before, a guy
says, "I want to finish a in a month."
First of all, that's unrealistic. So
you're setting yourself up for failure.
Maybe.
But even that, it's not easy. You have
to be realistic. What's real? And
whatever you accept upon yourself, you
should cut it in half. So let's say you
figure out you want finish over the next
six months. Okay, that's realistic. Give
yourself 12 months. That's number one.
Number two, you need to do it in
bite-sized pieces. So I'm going to try
to learn every single day 10 lines of
gar. And of course I'm going to the 10
lines I did yesterday. If you don't then
it's pointless. It's just the anyway.
>> Um that's the beauty of for example
which is this initiative which many
people do where you learn and is very
doable especially if you're an adult and
you know how to learn a little bit and
then you the next day so that actually
you're entertaining and you again on
chabas don't even learn nuance chabas
and over the weekend you what you did
during that week. So it's small and it's
it's digestible. So that's really
important. So a you have to focus on the
cabal. it can't be too large and B you
have to figure out a plan. So this is
what I'm planning on doing every single
day. Um in addition to that it's really
important to understand that the way of
the is that always gives us a spark of
inspiration a flash of of strength of of
understanding when we start any cabala
because it's hard for human beings to
change. So we get the shaya initially
and but that's not really us. That means
let's say your first week of not being
on social media that's the shaya okay it
took you the strength to make that
decision and that's where you really get
a lot of credit but but once that comes
Hashem gives you the gives you a burst
of of energy of adrenaline spiritual
adrenaline to be able to pull through
that but then is like okay let me see if
this is really something that you can
make yours and he pedals back and he
takes away theat and that's where it
becomes really difficult and challenging
and that's where the real growth and
ownership happens And if you have that
mindset every day, you know, when it
comes to that, you're like, I know it's
going to be hard today. I know the Yates
is trying to get pull me away from it,
but I'm going to pull through and I'll
grit myself. I'll grit my teeth and I'll
make sure that I'm able to do a come
what may. Then eventually it becomes
much easier and it becomes part of your
daily routine. And that's where real
growth happens. And it's it's it's many
opportunities like this and you know one
after the next you know not to relent
you finish one cobell you start the next
one but again small understandable
understanding of the perspective that it
>> starting small
>> you have to start small and you have to
also know that at some point it's going
to get really challenging because that's
just that's the way life is set up the
bria
>> I think that you could do
>> yeah and if you know that in advance
right it becomes much easier for a
person to do it you know to to to to be
successful to
in the long run. I'll tell you just
another interesting thing which is that
two more like pieces of advice that help
when it comes to cabalis one is if you
don't do it alone means you get two guys
who commit to do exactly the same thing
and they check each other each day so
let's say I know for example when it
comes to like people are struggling with
like you get two guys and they both send
each other a picture every morning of
them putting on so then it's a it's
because the other guy is doing it so
that's that's definitely something that
that works you know strong and number
two is and we're all we're We all like
doing things Chanel as a kalas is to
motivate yourself. If I'm two weeks in
and I strugg to my Cabala, I'm gonna go
out. I'm gonna buy myself, I don't know,
uh, ice cream, super lap, pla,
mappuccino, whatever. I don't know what
they have in Queens. Or if I do
something really strong, I'm going to
get myself
>> I wanted to get some kind of music. They
want them, you know, download music cost
a little bit of money. I'm going to I'm
going to spend five bucks on myself or
whatever it is. Sometimes, you know, I'm
going to ask the Cabo press by
motivating yourself um by offering them
self incentives. that sometimes is is is
is a motivator as well. So I think each
person has to know themsel but like you
said not too much slowly but surely and
to understand that it's not always
smooth sailing. Life has peaks and life
has valleys.
>> Thank you.
So is almost coming to an end.
>> Yeah. It's hard to believe.
>> We still didn't get to BC.
>> That's right. But
>> um what's one thing that rebi can give
to everybody
um to take away before tish ends?
So you know I brought this yesterday and
today to to to do like the kinis for for
here in Leo which is like a place where
a lot of people come and a lot of holy
Jews from all different walks and
backgrounds come and it's kind of like
gullas or msiah it's every kind of Jew
and everyone just
you know I I what I I said a lot I said
a lot of different things. One of the
things I said is that you can't go by
tish without having a moment of emotion.
You can't go by tishabove without
feeling some moment of connection. So
you know the the the sun is setting it's
you know within two hours it'll be and
and tishabove will be over you know very
soon actually. But if you haven't had
that moment where you felt something, do
something about it. I don't know. Sit
down on Linda Kennes with the arts girl.
Um, go online and listen to someone's
share. Do something. Put in some effort
so that you don't go by the 24 hours of
tishab and just get so busy and
>> Yeah. But get busy and distracted by the
fasting and preparing what you're going
to eat after the fast is over, but you
didn't actually do anything. And if a
person
>> walked away empty-handed.
>> Yeah. It's such a shame. And if a person
can't feel the the actual
because it's just too far removed from
then well go out and look at the picture
of the those hostages that was just
released last week and it's so scary to
see that and understand that there is
then the way we start off is that how's
it possible we're so alone think about
those guys that are so alone or think
about the wives of the soldiers in or
their parents there's so many ways we
could connect to to pain and we have to
understand that all comes from that all
comes from the fact that we don't have a
bas and and a whole year long we try to
stay positive and upbeat how Jew is you
know we have and we trust and
that's probably the only quote you'll
get from me but the bottom line is a
person
right
>> that's right but at the same time um to
understand that you know there is one
day a year that we do focus on loss and
we do focus on pain and we do focus on
personal loss on the loss of claim
Sarina as well. So if you didn't have
that moment yet, like figure it out. I
mean, you can't let Tishab go by without
without a moment of of genuine
connection. It's it's not okay.
>> Yeah.
As a Rebi for 20 plus years,
>> what's one advice Rebby gives to his
Talmud?
>> So I wish that my Tamil would always
come to me and say, "Hey Rebby, can you
give me a piece of advice?" Like I don't
know about you, I had every bay. Um I
would say if I had to tell my to my Tom
is graduating high school and it's going
off to Israel if they're going to yes or
they're going to seminary. I would say
>> sure
>> get keep in touch. That's what I would
say. You know, you need a you need a
Rebi. I don't have to be your Rebi, but
let let somebody in Israel become your
Rebi, but and once
>> as a Rebi, let's say as a as being a
Rebi advice would give
>> um a boy anything. I I think that you
need to have um something built into
your daily calendar every single day
that helps you grow in your kite. Um it
could be something that you're working
on and every day you focus on that. It
could be it could be
a day that you didn't grow, a day that
you didn't get a just a drop better is a
wasted day. And and and part of the
atahara's is that he gets you so busy
with life and especially as you start
your life and you get a job or you know
you you you you join a program of
learning or whatever it is and life is
just so crazy and it's so busy. He gets
you so busy that you don't grow and if
you don't grow it's you're dying every
day that you don't go up you're falling
down. So to try to build into your
schedule, whatever it is, even if it's
five minutes, five minutes of growth,
five minutes of five minutes of strength
every single day. This way you remain
connected and the whatever inspiration
you get in your life continues to flow.
And then it's like, you know, you tell
this to kids who are like, I don't know
how old you guys are high school kids
and I tell this to you and you're like,
what do you mean whatever? I've got my
whole life in front of me. The life
becomes very busy very quickly. And if a
person doesn't have a real plan, then
they're just going to tread water like
so many people. And that's such a bash
of life because you can really grow and
you can become very hush and very
special but it takes effort.
>> Yeah. Sure.
>> Okay.
>> You have any other question? Um I think
one that that
I learned especially or any other Muslim
that is always there and we know that's
one way for a person to always realize
always by his shoulder including
stops a person from or always feels that
he's with Hashem he's protected and
there's hope. So how how can how can a
person instill really that concept in
him that Hashem is always there
>> again it's like everything in life you
can't live you can't be high all the
time it's impossible to con I shouldn't
say that
but I think we have to be realistic with
ourselves that most of us are not a
madrego where we're constantly thinking
about hashem because if we are we
probably are obsessivempive compulsive
disorder it's just very hard to be super
hyperfocused on one thing and it takes a
god to be like that but at the same time
like I was saying before until this
point that like it doesn't mean to say
that because of that you throw out the
baby with the bath water and you need to
build in your life moments of
so just just to give the most classic
one which when I started doing it it was
a total game changer and I'll be honest
I didn't start doing it till I was well
into my adulthood is that before I start
I take 10 seconds and I think to myself
I'm about to stand in front of a he's
the he can do anything and he wants to
do everything and now I could start
So that's 5 seconds, but it's 5 seconds
of trying to bring Hashem into your life
or like one of my who's a huge he's not
a regular guy. So I don't know if
everyone should try this at home, but he
has he sets an alarm on his on his phone
a few times a day just to like don't
forget that you're not running life that
Hashem is running the world and all the
efforts that you're putting in can only
seem if Hashem does that. That's what he
does. But I'm not so holy like him. I
don't do it. But I try by Tibil at least
before
um to do that and you know periodically
throughout the day as well. You know
it's hard to pre to be like I said to be
high all the time but like is an
opportunity to connect to Hashem. before
you eat something, after you eat
something, go to the bathroom,
opportunity to connect to Hasheming,
learning um there's there's an infinite
amount of times, but it's hard to
constantly be doing it, but to build
into your schedule real moments um where
those moments become part of who you
are. That's how you grow. That's how you
develop, you know,
muscle if you want to call it that. And
even thank
said that like said that before 10
seconds before
say
even then for a person to say that and
then it required lot of
>> well everyone says this
says this also so that if you don't
believe in it doesn't work. So you want
to make sure that if you're dabbing and
so many people dabbing all the time and
just never think about it but you're
dabbing three times a day and you're
talking to you got to believe it works.
Um how do you believe it works? It's
only if you really have
or of so yeah that's a big part of it as
well. You know it's it's a good way to
kind of focus yourself and say yeah I'm
standing front and what I'm about to do
works.
Um, and I challenge I challenge
everybody to like, you know, start
opening your eyes and open your ears and
open your heart and you'll see that
Hashem is answering your just got to you
got to figure it out. You know, people
always focus on what they don't have.
They don't focus on what they do have.
If they focus on what they do have, they
see that their is constantly giving them
amazing things and that he's constantly
answering their feelings. You know,
>> and some can't even answer in five years
or 10 years in a long time. And when
people I think they hear that they get
they get maj like okay I'm not waiting
that long for you because like that
>> it's definitely true. Um but you know
and sometimes Hashem you ask Hashem for
something and he does answer you but he
says no
>> it's not the right thing for you. It's
complex. It's complex but I think you
know it's amazing if you look if you if
you look at the we just actually
mentioned the whole in in the kinn that
we read today. Um, you know, people
there's a lot of things that could go
wrong in your life, right? The has just
a few of the positives and I don't know
deep of all the negatives. There's a lot
of things that could go wrong. Most
people focus on the negatives and this
negatives is overwhelming. There's so
many things that are not exactly the way
that I want them to be and very few
people focus on the braha on the
positive. You don't need a lot of things
to be really happy. Um so to take time
for a person to take time and understand
that all those constant goods in my life
those are all there also because of my
love. So yeah maybe I have to wait three
years to get that off or to get
that job or to get that level of
understanding and learning or that
self-control or whatever it is. But
that's okay because I'm not supposed to
get it now and I'm supposed to get it
when I get it. But look what I'm getting
now. Every single day I'm getting tons
of amazing things in my life. And this
way you live your life blessed as
opposed to stressed. Right. problem
thing. The pro the problem is Rebby.
Everyone thinks that
if Hashem says no, that means it's not
an answer.
>> It is really an answer.
>> I'll tell you guys something really
interesting. When I was like in sixth
grade, my Rebi said that if you dab him
for something hard enough, he's going to
give Hashem will give it to you. You
just have to keep dabbing. You have to
be insistent and Hashem will answer you.
So, I wanted a go-kart. I don't even
know if you guys know what a go-kart.
This is before like, you know, the
go-karts that you can get nowadays, but
like I wanted a go-kart real bad. It was
like an electric. It was like a gas one.
People didn't have go-karts, but I I I
really wanted it. So, for six weeks, I
ded into Hashem for a go-kart, and I
didn't get one. And one day, I was so
frustrated with my rebi like in middle
class, I said to my reb, this is not
appropriate, but I said, "Reb you lied."
>> And to his credit, he didn't. Yeah.
Total disrespect. And to his credit, he
didn't throw me out of my head. And he
goes, "Well, what do you mean? When did
I lie? What did I say?" I said, "You
said that if a guy dominates long and
hard and he has all these, you know,
he's consistent. Hashem is going to
answer him. I've been dominating for six
weeks for go-kart." And Hashem didn't
answer. My Rebi said to me, "He did
answer you." He said, "No."
>> I said, "That's a cop out." He goes,
"Not true. Think about it." So, think
about it for a moment. Imagine that you
had that go-kart. What would have
happened within the first 24 hours? You
would have killed yourself or somebody
else.
>> So, Hashem is like, "I'd rather this guy
not kill someone. I'd rather him not
kill himself. I'm not going to give it
to him. It's not the right thing for him
at this stage and at this age." And he
was right. Not for a kid in sixth grade.
It was hard for me to understand that.
But as we mature in life, we we realize
we understand that sometimes Hashem
says, "No, because it's not the right
thing for us. Maybe now it's not the
right thing." Or maybe in general it's
not the right thing for us.
>> We
>> it's better in store for us.
>> That's right. Maybe Hashem wants to give
me something way better than a than a
go-kart or whatever it is. But it's
complex and and our relationship with
that just like every relationship is
complex and it has its ups and it has
its downs. But hope there's more ups
than downs, you know.
Thank you for such smart questions. A
>> pleasure. Pleasure. Okay. Yeah, it's
good. I think that's a wrap. Thank you.
>> Thank you, so much so much for having
me. I'm happy I was finally able to do
this and you guys have
keep changing the world one at a time
and that should be yours.
What a movie.