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suffering something the first thing that
I need to do is to make a quick analogy
maybe I need something maybe I did
something and I need to do to buffer it
and once they do chuva it will stop we
will disappear the the self the first
the first thing that comes is my ego -
triggers in and by the way can be that I
did something wrong I may have softer oh
I'm so perfect not that I do something
must be the world is it something that's
how the ego will react but the right way
when something happens in my life is
betray you know maybe I did something if
I'm getting hurt from that direction
maybe I hurt somebody on this direction
if something is not working from this
department maybe I did the same thing in
the same department in the different
direction the first thing is I have to
make some type of a fishbone nefesh a
self-assessment to see maybe I did
something and I need to do two up and if
I live like that then I already diminish
half of my problems because I realize
you know not so long ago somebody was
very upset at me and I was like you know
I really didn't do anything
I Hindu I didn't do nothing it would be
very easy to say to myself you know what
he's wrong how they're here etc well
like you know if that person is getting
upset at me maybe I got somebody upset
without even noticing
let me think maybe I sent something no
tonight maybe I hurt somebody maybe I
hurt my child a lot of people they don't
understand that the child is also a
human being and sometimes you will hurt
your seven-year-old or your 12 year old
and you're not going to put any
importance are to touch my child I'm
allow discriminate that's not that I'm
saying that you're allowing I'm just
saying that's the way of thought and
sometimes yeah parent hurts their child
and they don't understand that it's
wrong and they will never even think of
coming to the child and saying I'm sorry
I screamed at you the other day I had a
very bad day enough and a long day and
I'm sorry I let it out on you very few
parents will come to their child and
apologize
but could very much be that when
somebody's upset at me I have set
somebody and that somebody is holding
grudge or is affect or disappointed or
sad so first of all I have to make
always an analogy why Hashem is showing
me the situation because every situation
that I deal with is a mirror to my life
just you know the other day I was
watering all the plants outside and then
you know the hose was spritzing water
everywhere and somebody was screaming at
me why am I wearing the the the this
alley like what I mean what I mean I
can't control the water the water just
goes where it goes and he was screaming
at me that I'm more than I'm disturbing
and all the water is always a link so
the first reaction you would think is to
scream back like are you are you
listening to your words he was telling
me that I'm watering that moment putting
water in the alley that would be a
natural reaction but there a reason what
I'm telling you that is to understand
that my first thought is like wait a
minute why is that person screaming at
me I'm you know one person will say oh
he is crazy he has issues he is
impatient he is having his problems that
is coming out of me that's a very
superficial way to Aniyah
do the analogy rather I was saying maybe
I did something wrong maybe maybe he's
right maybe I should do the watering
late at night when it doesn't bother
anyone
maybe I should they control the wall I
don't know the point is that I was not
seeing in him the problem is seeing but
maybe I did something wrong and if he
screaming at me maybe I screamed at
somebody with a reason that was
ridiculous because in my eyes in my
opinion when he was telling me I'm
making the alleyway so I was like that's
ridiculous I mean what can ever what are
you that's what you're telling me so the
analogy was in my mind is maybe I was
screaming at somebody that
in make any sense maybe I raised my
voice is my child on something
completely irrelevant and my child now
is hurt that I said something and that
you know in the language of a child
that's not fair why discriminate so the
point is that in any situation that
happens in my life like a challenge
is first of all to look at myself
because the colosseo who puts these
mirrors in front of me all day long
and if something happens in my life is
for me to analyze something in me ashram
is basically showing me me so if I'm
sitting around the table and I see
something annoyed then annoying my child
is doing something annoying that thing
is in me that ashram is allowing me to
see it in my child and anything that I
do and every place that I go something
bothers me most likely I have it in me
that I'm able to see it
recognizing the shrimp says by the way
that you so
