Even Teenagers can do Kiruv (PART 2) FOR TEENAGERS | Rabbi Avrohom Walkin | CHAZAQ

[Music] just 5 10 minutes we're going to we're going to do an open question answer Forum regarding kir the topic of this part is what is it called again even even teenagers can do kir anyone have any we're going to open up the questions yes when do we stop doing and when do we actually move on to doing I'm talking about intellectually or or when do we what you ask when do we stop doing stop when do we stop doing C to a certain B like when a certain B comes under your wings so I'll be honest with you um I don't believe C ever stops because as close as this student will be to you I have students that I've done kirv that were 12 years old and now they're 45 married and they're ronam now I mean kir this guy comes from a very religious home but he himself he himself needed K of the boy but right now he's a rubing flaish and I Mish he calls me up like he's 11 children so kir never ends okay kir on yourself never ends kir on any individual never ends therefore therefore there is no end to K what was your second part of your question I me and so more so just when to move on from kir and just always being inspiring and all these stories well everything a does hopefully is mar Charlie Harari re Ben re name the ri everything they do is K they're trying to build no end no end next question anybody have a question so in reality everyone can do kir even teenagers why kir doesn't necessarily mean that you actually um have a kirv discussion kirv means that through your behavior even with a friend of yours your if you're behaving a certain way and you inspire somebody through your daving through your learning through your friendship that's kiru kir doesn't mean that it's a rabbi with a microphone standing in front of a multitude of people and he's being marar kir can be at home too you can be M of your parents you can be M of your brother through your actions so everyone is capable of doing keyw but the most important thing you need to be a good influence as a m if you take upon yourself to help others you need to make sure that your too is cabaro your inside is like your outside and that you're not that you say one thing with your your your heart and then how you act is a different way you need to be the way you are with your mouth the way you are inside otherwise a good student will catch on eventually you'll slip eventually he'll see that you're not as real as you say so you really need to be not sound but understanding that your actions as a marar whether you're a teenager or an adult people see I've made that mistakes before I'm going to be honest I'm sure you know I've made mistakes before that I could be one way one way and that you know I'm more serious when I'm dealing with people you need to know that the spotlight is always on you whether you're in the house whether you're in the street besides that Hashem sees you besides that Hashem sees you you need to know that you are walking M through your actions anyone else any questions I'm sure you have a question um about anything or k kiru can teenagers do kiru so a question um I have I guess is s yes my cousin yes when he was 15 he started also I will tell you a little story about I want you to hear this when I was working in an organization in on Main Street I was upstairs over I think shom Pharmacy I think it was called and they had a floor over there where I had an office over there and I do remember rean at 15 16 whatever the age it was he comes over to me with a an album it's true story obviously I'm not going to lie to you comes over with an album and it wasn't even done well it was like the old day like I don't know 20 something years ago an album that you open up the plastic and you put a page in and you close it and he had loose papers it wasn't even done professionally it was like an an album that he put together with Flyers with d r Tor that he got from people and he said to me what do you think and this is this is I'll tell you what I said what do you think about me with this album starting an organization look at the paperwork and I'll be very honest with you I'm telling you the TR I work for the organization I said yeah could work work deep in my heart I didn't think it would be successful because I was wrong obviously and I said but I didn't tell him that I said yeah wow this is amazing listen a 16-year-old boy comes to you you never heard of the organization it didn't exist why would I think all of a sudden yes it's for sure going to be a big thing but I didn't tell him that let him let listen bar if he can do something with it eving but I didn't think it would would take off I'm thinking this is a young guy has a dream has some papers and a thing what in in Main Street in the whole neighborhood kazak what are you talking about and today I work for that organization so that's pretty ironic no I work for the organization that I in my mind didn't think would actually make it so that's a good lesson I he was M of Me by me realizing that go for your dreams go for your dreams you never never know and Incredibly what kazak does all around the world it's amazing I mean think about it like you like a 15 16 year old boy rean came to me and look where kazak is today what did you want to say so my question is does kiru have to adapt to each new generation how people are like now there are people on Tik Tok excellent question excellent question that's that's an unbelievable question because the problem I wouldn't say with r i don't want to put Rim in the word problem together but it's very important for a rebi to a certain degree to know how to adapt that it's not one size fits all what worked 25 years ago yes pure Tyra works every generation if you're sitting in a Yesa learning real real T I'm it's the same the same the same in a way but when it comes to K you need not get involved and to know well you need to know what lies behind many new things that that have Arisen and like you said you mentioned uh Tik Tok and Instagram what ever it was not that a rebbi should know exactly what it is or marar but he should know to identify what are the what weaknesses it causes what are it strength which aren't many and obviously the weaknesses so yes A rebi and M are very important without um getting too involved in what's going on like aie doesn't have to watch a movie to know that movies are a problem so yes you need very important I won say should or should lessen their religion the religious observance but they should be aware a little bit of what the dangers and challenges teenagers and even adults have today yes I just want to follow up that like technology now is moving so fast that there's artificial intelligence there's virtual reality in a few years kids might have like headsets on their head and they're in a different world and how how will we reach them then so what did we say a rabbi AEM in every generation gives tools for people to be able to stay close to Hashem be able to learn T to be able to stay very pure but but a person has to be aware of the challenges so he knows how to address them the G the PO him like red mosha 35 40 years ago 45 years ago they have technology like they have today but the concepts of how they work are are the same yah haras are the same yaras in a certain way but coming out with different technology for example theim is theim from 100 200 years ago and it is what it is today so the same shim can work on people 100 years ago to the people day when you open up you think he's talking to you you actually you read the you can read the and learn it when you're 15 and it talking to you and you could read it when you're 70 and it's talking to you and that's the Great of T and mus the concepts are the same the evil is the same but it manifests itself in different ways and the marar the PO the rebi should identify what damage it is for example laziness is laziness whether you're on a computer or you're laying in bed or you're just not you're running around um Yara to look at things you shouldn't look at could be in the street it could be on a phone it could be on a computer it can also be in a newspaper so therefore the damage is the same damage it's called not looking at improper things so it doesn't make a difference on how you see it but it's the difference is it's the problem itself that that we have to address so therefore even with a virtual reality we understand that a person can get so involved in it that it's difficult but it all boils down to not learning when you should be learning or keeping away from things that take you away from learning if you learn T it will protect you from any type of disease if you D in and you get close to Hashem it will protect you from any problem so I hope that that answered your question anybody else and well I think we can end with that but I will tell you everyone can do kirov through his actions through the way he lives his life through the way he addresses people you know MV is also a guy who Smiles at people you know today I was in sh in chabas you know in the morning and an individual probably 70-year-old man walks over to me after d and says you know I love your smile you are very very exciting excitable and your your smile radiates so I said I'm a happy person then I told him something he loved he said the smile of a person is a it's public domain when a guy walks down like this frowning a person feels worse people see the guy H when a guy smiles it brightens somebody's mood Therefore your smile affects people and even in a book I shouldn't bring it up but I will there's a famous book from Dale Carnegie I'm not into gisha books no one should read non-jewish books but it was one of these famous self-help books of like almost 100 years ago they even have courses it's called the Dale Carnegie book The Dale car how to win friends that influence people now yes it's based on kifa it's based on on fooling people but there is a truth to it too and he brings down a person one of the things he says a person should always smile person should always smile because a smile will brighten somebody else's day when you want to go buy an item when you want to be a Salesman smile cuz your smile now it shouldn't be done in sh but in general a smile is a very powerful thing and we know this from actually in Paras um parro asked yob know how old he was so yob said my life is x amount of years and Par thought he was much older than he was jakov he almost thought wasu and K tell us that yob aged because of his suffering and kazal say that jakov lost years of his life cuz it was no able on his face that he a and that's why P had to ask that question cuz is judg he should not even be noticeable on a person's face if you're on that high standard that you're suffering because then people say oh he's aad he suffered look at Hashem look ATM did to this guy but if you're smiling and you show that you're happy people say wow this sadic went through a lot but he realizes hasm runs the world and he's happy so Yakov lost many years of his life kazal tell us because parro asked the question how old are you only because he looked so old he looked like a so therefore he got punished years almost word for every letter that parro asked he got punished every word parro asked he got punished and even on the question he got punished why because it should never have been noticeable on his face he suffered because a face is a when you walk out on the street people look at a tah is he happy with what he's going through or is he sad and that can uplift people so that's K without even saying a word that's K without even saying a word so I'm going to let you all eat your ice in peace