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English/Yiddish Lecture | Some Children Are Just Not Scared to Die
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How Can We Call Ourselves Chassidim While Ignoring the Baal Shem Tov? Rabbi YY Jacobson presented the keynote speech at the Yeshiva Birchas David Banquet, on Tuesday, 4 Av, 5781, July 13, 2021. To sponsor or dedicate an upcoming class click here: https://www.theyeshiva.net/donate To watch more classes & to read Rabbi YY's articles visit: https://www.theyeshiva.net Follow Rabbi YY Jacobson: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RabbiYYJacobson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheYeshiva Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yyjacobson Twitter: https://twitter.com/YYJacobson Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yyjacobson/ Telegram: https://t.me/RabbiYY
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[Music]
here goes another one
english it sounds sophisticated right
like everybody feels
fine
to speak at a dinner
but as the minik by most jewish dinners
barak hashem not this one there's ten
speakers before the main speaker
the veist of the min
so there was one speaker another speaker
at the end they asked for of con man
to get up and speak so he gets up and he
says
why are we here why are we here
so you could guess probably the reason
why you're here
but the bonavitcherov
the truth is i am really thrilled by
this privilege of being here
for the habbonum of yeshiva's burkhas
david and thank you
versus for your host
for your hospitality more importantly
for
your big hearts your great hearts
and thank you so much to my friends
yeshiva and the summer behind the
yeshiva
and the passion behind the yeshiva
so i was once having a conversation with
a group of
people who are responsible for the
education
of many young boys many bakra
and there was an argument there was a
riku there was a debate
about what's the right way of being
mechanic
and at the end of the conversation i was
getting nowhere
so i said
[Music]
that a child a fetus have admired
gives him a patch on his mouth
and this little baby this little
malachol
forgets the whole toyota what type of
story is this
what type of story is this
you forget the old title from apache and
what's the purpose
watch think about it trying to tell us
anybody who remembers color toyota cola
from the womb of your mother
and why do the japanese also have
something on top of their mouth
they also learned kala teruku mainlan
south korea
they translated gemara into south korean
because they decided that the jews are
the most brilliant people
right so they asked it's amazing what's
this sorry they said good morning
so i saw a translation of gomorrah into
south korea so supernatural
good to south korea
but what did what about the japanese
what what do they have
so when i asked the question when i was
a kid
an abuser but whatever so i told the
chevron
so i told the kevin now i understand the
gemara the gomorrah is telling you
something
you have a child he's the sweetest kid
in the world
and he learned the whole torah he has a
twist in the whole torah
and then comes a jew and you look at him
he looks like a mallach
a fine a tigereed amalah
straight to grenadine versatra
but he gives one smack to this child
a physical smack or an emotional smack
and with that one smack
he causes him to forget
the torah and it doesn't come from a
russia it's a mala it's a good jew
a jew who's massa venasana
stencils
he's a good guy good man and he's doing
what he knows
he's doing actually what was done to him
that's how you do it he doesn't realize
she just detached
he severed the conscious connection of
this child of this booker
you tell me if it's not strange and
don't blame this on rabbi
you could blame this anashi open up
arashi the first passage of dwarium this
week
five weeks before his passing he decided
it's time to get an abuser
he waited 120 years to give a muslid
russia
half-live fella flecked rashford
you give a muslim 120 when did your
father give you a muslim when your
hundreds are drinking 20
no he's 25 years old he starts having
kids
when was yakov his children
147 years old he decided to be
rouhan do the mice with billah he took
out yaakov's bed
from leia's oil and put it in biller's
oil
how how i'm sorry he took it out of
billow's oil and he put it into
rockhold's oil
into layers oil
how many years ago was this this is when
ruckle passed away
so this is close to 60 years 60 years
yaakov was quiet
ask sarashi why did he wait
you know why on my yakov
if i give musa to over now shema
reuben is going to say bye bye tate
bye bye
wait wait reuven stroll
yes it says he's
so somebody once asked me why wasn't he
afraid that now yaakov is going to go to
reuven
so another year that newfoundland is
going to go today so why is he afraid
now
somebody said the shanghai kingdom he
had to get them into seminary
you have to marry over the eight o'clock
one and he wanted to go to brisk
one and nicole wanted to go to the
mirror one want to go slobotkin i wanted
to go ponovich
one wanted to go to everyone wanted to
go to chibin
who's you say that he's one of asav's
bacon
what's the real reason why was jakob not
afraid now
if reuben is such a fragile person
shouldn't you be afraid even later
i looked at this and i'll tell you no
you don't understand what rashi is
saying
when heard the music from yaakov
he looked at him and he said
but you have a challenge you have to
overcome and even looked at himself and
he thought
my father was quiet for 60 years
he hurt and he said nothing for 60 years
why
because he wants me to feel his
connection his love his attachment
when you realize you have such a father
you don't go to asap
when you realize you have such a father
you don't go to asia
there was a yitz
and this is what he says
stipelagon told it to the bianca
legolinsky he said it over
it says yaakov says kibbe
makliyavartiyas hayarden
only with my stick yitzhak was a rich
man
he couldn't give him a couple of shekels
my stick so what does rashi say he sent
him with a lot of money
but asap sent his son alifa's to kill
yaakov
alifa's came to yaakov he said i gotta
kill you
in our family kibudav is a very big
mitzvah tati said
we need to say kaddish for you
grew up in the bosom in the cake in the
choice
the choice for nietzschek he couldn't
just kill yakov
so what did yakov do to his murderer
what yakov do he started to give a shirt
in the darham he said state in it
smack of art give me your money
and yaakov is alive
says the stipler you know who eliphaz
was
we know who asa was elephus was already
the next generation
take a look in by isla and in the rashes
based on the gomorrah in sanhedrin who
alifa's was
a ben bailey
there was gilead rex links on sentence
farther kind i get it i get it
it's a pity that yitzhak didn't take a
consultation with some of the mum today
and they would have told him throw him
out of the house
somebody once told me i told the father
you don't
throw out a child at least
ninety-nine percent of the time
before you throw out a child remember
it's not fresh
he says hashem told avram to throw out
his child
i said into the sun
hashem told his father throw how you
small
and yitzhak didn't know that he threw
him up because of him
next generation
i said it was affected by by my clips
he was watching too many rabbi
i said but you know what maybe throw him
out of the house but i'll tell you who
you have to send away with him
his mother she'll probably like it
to do it let me know i'll help you when
you get that message straight from the
bonus
and let me know mela asaf but alifah's
to keep in the house
you spoke about an addict
probably had an iphone under the shabbos
table yeah
and he was doing videos or worse
[Applause]
would not let go of his grandson so
you're gonna say
okay yitzhak was a nice man no
that's why claul israel
exists today alpiteva
because if alifahs would have murdered
yakov
there would be no hampshire to the
others of ram it said
there would be no jew alive today so why
are the jewish people alive today said
the stipelagon
because yitzhak would not let go of
alifah's
elif did eliphaz become rabbin
no did he become that's no did he become
the god
i don't know but all of clay's role was
saved
because yitzhak kept them close and as i
thought about it
i remember i opened up on iaev
i think it's
money alifah's become suddenly a navi
saktrashi
one day he became a novia like him he
became a balru
because
you know
i was once a
sometimes you hear something and you
know you're going to remember it for
life sometimes you hear something and a
few hours later you're trying to
remember it
sometimes you hear something you know
this is going to stay with you adsibula
basarais
i remember was in morristown new jersey
i was sitting at the kabbalah
there was some sponge cake that was in
royal achille
it was episode
and there was masada kedusha was sitting
in front of me
he's a yiddish enough his name was
gordon
sean beck gordon was arrow of many years
in newark
and then in maplewood in new jersey
he was an alternative i saw that he's
not feeling well i found out later that
he had cancer
and he passed away a little while later
i took look at him and was sitting one
on one panama panama at the cabela's
tell me what you learned it's not a fair
question to ask karov
what he learned in 60 years with
balabata yeah
every day is
especially when you have a good board of
directors present company excluded
but i wanted to know so he looks at me
he says without skipping a beat
he says i'll tell you a story
i was a younger man and i got an offer
to get this job newark new jersey tufts
and tess
1949. america and tufts and tess
is not america as you understand
orthodox jury was so weak and frail
completely on the defensive you could
count the yeshivas that existed in the
united states on one hand
you can count the khinukaltara sakaidesh
on one hand or two hands
my mother told me when she was going out
with my father all of our solomon tufts
and tessai in 1956
they were walking in manhattan my father
had a beard
and everybody was pointing it's like a
man who landed from another planet
pointing this is 1956.
and he gets this robonus for an orthodox
synagogue
in newark new jersey nope
and he talks about shabbos president
tells him
the islam here is not so into shabbos
they drive on shabbos
change the subject next week no next
week he talks about castrus
he says it's not so popular not
everybody eats custard you don't want to
offend anybody
no next week he speaks about a jewish
education he says most kids go to public
school
it's not good to talk about next week he
spoke about
it in america
so he looks at the president he says so
what do you want me to talk about i
can't talk about shabbos i cannot make
if i can talk about karchers
he says talk about judaism
laid back
he couldn't live with himself how am i
supposed to what am i supposed to do
with this show
if i tell them what they want to hear
if i tell them what they need to hear
they give me a one-way ticket through
the exit door
so what's left
they'll get a point
he told me i went to b
passed away one year later you smart of
shinyu at 1950.
he was a paralyzed man he couldn't speak
then
but he was very active he's he ran away
from nazi occupied warsaw ten years
earlier
and settled in brooklyn he said i went
into the laboratory
to the rebel yachts and i presented my
dilemma
if i do my job as a rov
they'll throw me out if i don't do my
job as there of and i just hunt for them
and tell them nice things every shabbos
what am i doing
what's to it with my lemon i heard this
nish clay cheney at his clay edition
he says if you ever saw a video or a
picture of the rayats
aina of him you know his eyes did
his eyes
abundance in newark not a for schmitz
now you have to know even today
sufficient
is gain
but in 1949 it was one of the
fundamental
ascerio sadibris of american jews they
would sit in the schwitz
fashos and they would decide the fate
of president truman eisenhower
kennedy
that's when jews decide who's going to
run the united states of america
of course who's going to run israel
that's where the real real the summits
the world summits of claudius
all come together to decide
if you've ever been there so he was
wondering
so he looks at that he tells me i was
embarrassed
he says
describe it to me so what should i tell
the number
about ottoman cover before they ate
sadas
what should i tell them what am i going
to start saying
fire it's hot this cold like a column
and everybody loves it and there's steps
and you go higher and higher and the
read higher heat rises so you go higher
and you get hotter and the whole body is
burning hot and the representation he
says then
in the real schwitz's you have a shamish
abed a gabba
yeah it's called a broom you should come
to my neck of the woods we'll introduce
you to
some people call it
schmidt
says
if somebody walks over in the streets
somebody walks over to you in the street
with a broom
and starts whipping you over your back
what are you going to do either you call
the police
or you run away or a bella harger hash
kevlar
he'll run away he'll punch you back in
the nose he'll call the police
but in the schwitz that's not what you
do
frieire varmdemon
[Applause]
you don't just beat him you bring him
into a room
where he becomes warm and passionate
his heart and his body is on fire
and then you lift them up from step to
step to step
then when you take out a broom he says
more
more more and the rabbit ayats looked at
rip solemn bear gordon and he says rap
shalom
and he looked at me and he says
this was the one and only piece of
advice
i needed to hear from my career over the
last 60 years
that's all i had to hear and from that
day my hat
was endless and just to show i cook for
not even
ever not everybody but though many
people discovered the gemara
they discovered the gemara through art
scroll
sherman was one of those american kids
in newark
and the priscilla and beg gordon plucked
him out
sent him
just just one effect one effect from a
schwitz
on one person the whole art school
revolution goes back to where schwitz
in newark in new jersey for a young man
because you and i know
that people want to hear the truth
mention lex and for the ms who doesn't
want to hear the truth
you think boys don't want to be
successful you think the 15 year old
boys in borough park
williamsburg muncie lakewood curiosity
toronto chicago benebek your
london manchester and don't want to be
successful people
all of you want to be successful
vahrehvah you're here
but suddenly the gene didn't go over to
the kids nah i want to stay in bed till
four o'clock in the afternoon
because that's mama's list
but somehow there's a pain in me there's
a paralysis in me
who doesn't want to be successful when
you create a schvitz
you warm people up you lift them up
you embrace them you show them who they
really
are and who they can be and you give
them unconditional
respect and pride and acceptance and
love
challenge me stimulate me
bring out my potential and make of me
the person
i'm capable of becoming know i want to
share something with you
i would say that this is divere nevua
mamesh that's how i would put it
you'll judge just my opinion
i open up a helicopter
that i think everybody around the table
heard of but usually when you hear the
word naomi malek
cipher many of you shut down because you
heard so many nuyamali melodies by
shalashuddis
it triggers the herring the sight of
herring and sponge cake
the lights are going dim because the
shul can't afford the electricity
the skynym are in a bad mood because
somebody woke them up from the nap
right and shabbos is ending you know
that much of solace
these mirrors are being sung by three
depressed people
yeah it looks like you have to call the
chevro kadusha
and then the guy who gets up which he
doesn't understand the word of
and he says the cipher shall said how am
i supposed to understand it
so i'm going to tell you but please no
triggers
don't associate it not with herring not
with sponge cake
not with electricity going down and not
within the summer you say the leaving
and the pizza not going to be ready for
my toy shoppers
tune in and you'll hear navoor for tufts
and a vue for yeshiva's breakers david
and for the program
you're walking in the street and you see
a tennis bracelet now you're having a
40th anniversary next week
and your wife was madame is that a
tennis bracelet well given good
the problem is cost 25 grand
right
it's a problem yeah so you try to
convince her to get ice cream and
schnitzel instead
or to go to cancun be less than twenty
five thousand dollars okay
suddenly raw rosamuts here you see a
bracelet a tennis bracelet
you fall on it you drop over it
but you didn't lift it up
comes another person another guy who has
an anniversary in two weeks
the hexagon he's typhoon
boy
the second person is not the first
person
why first person fell on it but he
didn't lift it up there was no mischief
there was no hakabar there was no kenyan
the second guy
took it heck
moment jaime ankle the first man walked
into the dollar amiss of the tennis
bracelet
even before nothing
and for the gemara i quote
because he fell on it so he's making
hilu a statement
i don't want to be macabu the takanas
ghazal of daladamus
i'm not interested in it if you would be
interested in it was faster
i don't want to be macabre ef
i want to be at koino through physically
being on top of it ah
you extricated yourself you will not
kill yourself from the king in daladamus
fine now we go back to the basics
he said you're gonna lie neva i'll call
you israel
open your hearts
something unique something out of this
world
samitia such a sensitive soul
such a beautiful soul such a good soul
mat
you don't expect it here suddenly
sometimes there are under shamans
that come out in places that are
unexpected
in families that are unexpected it's
but instead of lifting up this nishama
in front of nurturing this neshama na fa
lallaha
you fall on it and emily malek says
words
i'm translating into english you see
such a sensitive soul
and instead of lifting it up you fall
over it
scarring it abusing it wounding it
causing it to have a deeper nephilia
either the soul does it to itself not
knowing who it is
feeling so much pain it's trying to numb
the pain
it's trying to distract itself from all
its pain so it falls down no fala allah
it falls down
and he falls underneath and it goes
deeper and deep into the abyss or other
people
not knowing beyond them consciously or
unconsciously
they traumatize the soul even more
this poor medici is now feeling like a
piece of garbage
says
[Applause]
and he holds on and he lifts up this
nisham and he says
hex milossian somebody comes to this
summer and looks to the some in the eyes
and says you're my boy you're my girl
you're my
child i will never let you go i
love you and i am proud of you and i
embrace you and i am here for you
and i respect you and i cherish you
nobody can estimate the skus
the privilege and the edelkite zakus
the zach of this person
who had the supposed to be maxing and
lift up this neshama
i'm reading the new malima and i'm like
wow
but now comes the bomb
mitzvah
how large is the grave of a person how
big
most people are between five and
seven feet somewhere in between that's
dalaran's
that's how much a caver is so amaze
smits when you find the mace mitzvah
wherever it is he's kind of the dalai
lamas and you could bury him and nobody
has resources to be mahalik
to to to exclude him says the dean of a
mess mitzvah
ain't it for the takonis
frag de gemara you want to be kind on if
some of us is ge fallon
dallad ahmed is kinda slow you know what
the yiddish of egg is
calling the bachelor and say bajero
ain't gesture you're gonna die
and you're gonna have dalaramas you
better wake up and smell the
[Applause]
you're such a good boy that's a good boy
that's a good boy we know the truth
yeah it's a good boy it's good for a
dinner for breakfast david you have to
fund a couple of dollars
so people get upset they're good boys
come on azakin will stew
that's who you're taking for your
daughter the master is
that's not how you clean under sham what
did you tell your own son
what are you telling your son to tell
your anikal come on
get out of this rut enough
become a mensch learn from tati learn
from zaini
we wake up 4 30 in the morning every day
six o'clock drive blood gamora
by 8 30 we already made 2 million
dollars
and we could retire you know why we
don't retire
because we want to support you
and you know why zadie survived hitler
so you should sit on a couch
and do nothing maybe thursday night i'm
now
fine we also do nothing
you want to be kind of tell them about
death
they're not calling the name
they're quoting what they think is
brilliant brilliant pedagogy
listen to his answer
and foreign listen to this
[Music]
amazing
look at this boy's life look at this
girl's life look at this person's life
and you'll see that they are in a rut
they're stuck benefila
they're abusing themselves they're
ruining themselves
they're not living a productive life
they're joining me from one level of
nephilim to a lower level of nephilia
what do you learn from this that the way
they want to be kain of their neshama
the way they want to live has been the
filler they don't care about dalaras
in the words of the naam ali malek here
is a person
you're threatening him that death and
him
don't you understand this kid is not
afraid to die he couldn't care less you
know why
death for him will actually be a
solution
don't you realize that he buried three
of his friends
don't you realize that if you go to the
cemetery
there's seven graves of the same age
there
and he knew them all don't you realize
that you wanna live
and if i tell you you're gonna kill
yourself you get scared
because for you death is fearful
death is dreadful nobody wants to die
but then emily malik says
he couldn't care less about your imam
sir what you
want to scare him with is for him
as boys told me kill me so i won't have
to wake up tomorrow in the morning
with this pain kill me you'll be much
better
i still don't know why i didn't do it
like ploy any almighty my friend
now most adults don't understand this
healthy people don't understand this all
we would do everything to live
what would you not give up in order to
live what
i don't understand it
but i know it
i know it from experience i know it from
contact
i know it from listening and i know it
from people
i'm gonna die great
so you're telling him thank you you have
to live a good life and a productive
life
be a mensch you don't want to sit in
kylo no problem
go into real estate and you think you
just said a brilliant thing
and you think you're like a liberal
father
because i'm often a cop you gave us
hector to your son
that he doesn't have to sit in lake with
kaliyama
or here in kailua kanyama he's allowed
to do like his father and zayd
zind mushrik who we're in real estate
don't you get it that there is something
very broken in this person
so you say why his mother is a good
mother my wife makes the best kugel in
butter park you know that
and she even makes sourdough challah and
the coastline that we have
has so much sugar and mayonnaise it
surpasses every other family in health
and cholesterol
never mind the liver or the tree
on the calories and the cholesterol
ultimate cough
on the kadisha don't you realize a good
mother good father a good family
you are a good family you're wonderful
people
but this boy for whatever reason it
could be genetic
it could be environment it could be he's
an hsp he's a highly sensitive person
and it could be that he's actually more
spiritual
than all of his firm relatives
dr twersky allah
told me i said dr twersky
60 years you're in recovery same
question i asked rabbi gordon
i asked dr tv 60 years you're in
recovery
what did you learn
in a conversation ain't sentence and
vision
it's called director shortcuts
dr twersky looked me in the eyes and he
said
60 years of experience have taught me
that the addicts among us are the most
spiritual among us we
know how to deal with hypocrisy through
distracting ourselves
with small distractions some souls are
too deep
too sensitive too spiritual they can't
just cover up their pain with small
distractions their pain is so deep
they have to numb it they have to numb
it with drugs and tomorrow you need more
and more because they're really looking
for god for emma's faruhnis fella coz
they don't know it
and some souls are traumatized by
existence itself
when thy results said that all of
existence is based on its simpson
on the helm of ainsof most of us don't
mind
no don't get off
yeah give me some chinese food and
abyssal sushi right i'm guessing
but some souls actually feel the pain of
existence
you're looking at me as though i'm a
little strange but this is the truth
living is painful because it's a state
of periods and this can make us
and therefore they need oi mekatori
to survive
they need ain't safe in their lives and
then there's epigenetics
genes that we get from our parents and
grandparents with all the trauma
and then there's things that happen in
school and then there's kids who are
struggling with learning and they feel
for 10 years they feel like
absolute losers and then there's people
who deal with mental challenges
and people who deal with abuse and those
you're going to tell him if you don't
wake up like a men's you don't go back
to yeshiva you're going to end up dying
that's good news tati thank you i'm main
so zimbabwe and you pick up your hands
says there's only one
thing you could do and what's that thing
bahashaini stuff coming out sweetie a
different approach
the heck boy hold on to this boy tight
attachment attachment attachment
and attachment kalila the cast to let
him go
kalila the cast to sever the cords
khalil of the cast to detach
to run upstairs to avoid
become more connected more attached more
present
more loving more emotionally connected
this child needs it more than any other
child in the world this child who's
giving you an attitude
this child who is rebelling this child
who's not keeping terror mitzvahs
this child who's confused with his life
he needs more than anybody the hectic
boy
father and mother brothers sisters ada's
bubba's uncle's aunt
hold on connect
attach and keep him close and keep her
close
and if it causes me pain because it's
not the nachas i wanted
it's time to close my eyes and take a
deep breath
and ask not what hashem can do for me
but ask what you can do for hashem
ask not what your child can do for you
ask what you can do for your child
ask not how your child is gonna give the
family knackas
ask a different question what does the
reboiner shalolum want from me
right now to do with this child that's
the only question
every other question is a question that
comes from ego
from yeshus
and stupidity and social conformity
people are ready to be mockery of their
children on the mizbayach
of social conformity the should look
good and for that i'm going to kill a
child
i asked the father you know your kid is
in the micent
he's being abused there he's struggling
there
he said what are they going to say about
my mishpochah
if i put him into that other moist and
every kid went through this moisture
that's why we have such a good name i
looked at him and i said i never
understood
the way the zorro of now i do
now i do
slaughter your child for the family
reputation
and call yourself
because what was the why didn't they
like the balsham
why did they put the balsamic of the
maggie the bellatanya in
why they put the bar in a goddamn
so now is not the place and we live now
in a different kuffa
but one of the biggest things was by the
balsamic vinegar
at least
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is
and if i'm looking at a 15 year old boy
who didn't make it in mainstream
yeshivas
i'm looking at a helicopter
how do you put him down how do you put
her down how do you denigrate them
i don't see it
if you look like me if you dress like me
if you eat the same type of food like me
now you're a good jew hashem says you're
a holy jew
sorry
who was born
and if this is your diamond lift them up
cherish him love him be proud of him
just like when you were
proud of him or her when they were one
years old and two years old and you
looked at them and you said
a lichte kineshama just because she's 16
just because he's 15 as an ischemic
sunday i asked yeshiva
i was honest with him
why didn't you get yourself a job in a
mainstream yeshiva
you'll make a what do they do a paper
headline
covered they'll put you at the dais of
every event you come in
now you know yeshiva i'm king covered
barely attention struggling you have to
explain to people that it's a good place
first after this why don't you go to
mainstream yeshiva and you'll get
covered malachi my god
that's what i asked him
so he said
he said i was a masjid for thirteen he
says two visage
i'll give you an answer vibe so i was a
masjid 13 years in a mainstream yeshiva
i was doing well
it was geshmaq and one day i turned to
myself when i say
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i'm going with the system i'm going with
the flow i'm not doing what i'm supposed
to do
and then he told me something else he
told me that
and he told me that he heard from the
zeida that he
as a child was considered
a dropout he wasn't successful
he was sitting get potted at sight
he wasn't interested the teacher said
nothing is going to come out of you
you're wasting your time you're wasting
mommy's money
you're wasting the family's money this
is a waste of time
and even after bah mitzvah he was
considered that boy
who did not make it in the system he was
a dropout
on the way to otd
only when he got older
which is beyond the realm of the speech
and the rest is history became one of
the poison so rabbi vosner told me i
realized if this happened to my zed
against
with the wrong vert with the wrong
person would have been in the gutter and
this is before the second world war we
know what was going on then
i thought to myself how many matsias are
there out there in the street
and because of somebody who's not
relatable to them
who doesn't get them who's not connected
to them
who doesn't give them respect who
doesn't make them
feel dignity who doesn't give them
attachment
they feel they belong they're connected
they're precious
and it's not a game it's not fake how
many such materials are being lost
to sherpacht
and that's why i for one
feel privileged and proud to be part of
an evening
dedicated not just to help
but to create a mahapeh to create a
revolution in our consciousness
that we have to understand that the
moment
our systems are not there for our
children
we are of the derek
maybe they're not of the derek somebody
once said
we create we have dreams and we create
systems to facilitate our dreams
and then we become prisoners
to those institutions and those systems
i once visited a place
i'm not going to get into the details
they're painful
and i said i never understood a madrish
the madrid says that in stoim
they had one bed you remember if you
were too
short they pulled your feet
so you would get to the end of the bed
and what if you were too long
they cut off your head they chopped off
your heart they chopped off your feet
and then i said sudoim is the same
oysters like moisture
you have a moist that the tactless of
the mice it is to be there for the boys
to be there for the girls and then you
have a moisture
noise we have one bed for everybody
you like it good if not we'll chop you
up
we'll mutilate you we'll amputate you
we'll destroy you
we'll insult you a mother comes to me
the other day
she says her child was in a place and
somebody looks at her child and says you
know
you can't sit on your brain a whole day
your brain needs oxygen
a sensitive boy a sensitive boy
you kill the peace of his neshama
and trust me i am not the person to get
up and say
every muslim and every yeshiva is a
horrible place let's close it down
khalilah there are unbelievable
moistures and unbelievable yeshivas and
unbelievable schools
and amazing rashes
and moiras and amazing people some of
them have mysterious snf
but we also have to recognize the truth
that there's a huge huge amount
of people of youngsters struggling
terribly
the aim points upon they try another
year and another year another
until they plots until they plot
i want you to know
i got an email over a few weeks
from a boy i see he doesn't have a
record he doesn't have a smartphone
he only has a flip phone so he could
text but he could text the email
so he's writing me very short emails and
he starts writing to me
i'm listening to you share him on the
phone and i love them
i wrote back thank you very much and
then he writes again
i appreciate it so much and again the
next week
so after a few weeks i said he's
reaching out to me he needs something
so i wrote back
how amazing it is and how much i
appreciate the feedback i wish you gave
much luck
he says could you please call me and he
leaves a telephone number
and i'll be very honest with you
was very hard for me because i i'm not
behind a guy i get now i get between
200 and 300 emails a day and that's
besides telephones
and personal pitfall would do nothing
else but just answer it
i would be working nine days a week 24
hours a day
and i know there's no nine days in the
week and usually you have to eat and
sleep at least a massius
but something told me called the boy
asked to call
so i took the number i took the
telephone i dialed it up i called him
he introduces himself and he talks to me
a little bit about his life
and then he tells me i get so much from
your
and i share it with friends who are
struggling
and i just want to speak to you live and
say thank you
to say thank you i didn't want to email
thank i want to tell you thank you
and i thanked him we spoke for a few
minutes i wish this right before shabbas
i wished him good shabbos
he sends me an email a few minutes later
thank you so much for calling me men so
much
and just i felt this natural urge and i
wrote back three words i love
you guys
after shabbos i get an email from him
and uh he writes to me i love you too
and it means so much and thank you for
everything you do
and then he writes to me a few hours
later and i hear
i just heard that you're speaking for my
yeshiva
that tuesday night you're speaking for
may yeshiva and i want to thank you for
helping me
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so i wanted to hear more he told me
about his experience could be made
because i told him the name
the last name he told me about his
experience
i want to ask you how many people you
think call up
say please call me because you didn't
have my number i just wanted to say
thank you
you look into these souls deep precious
sensitive people
so this yeshiva is not just the place of
tyranny or shaman but vadavada
which is
with your help this fire
the schmitz will not be extinguished
it will go from strength to strength to
be able to build a big benion
to be able to take in more bachrim and
more bachrim and more bhakrim
and never to have to say no to any
individual
got me menuish and not just taken to
fill
benches and cheers but taken knowing
that each one of them is priceless
and each one of them has the potential
to be able to be the diamond it really
is
on such a night i say to yeshivas david
to the manalan
and all the time
and all of you are here
and allow this h
thank you very much
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