Rabbi Reuven Kigel - The Connection Between Pesach & Shalom Bayit (Marital Bliss)

hello everybody my name is rabbi reuven Kegel from Emmet and i want to share with you a Shaolin biased tidbit for pesach now a central theme of our pesach seder is her corset or hakata Tove loosely translated as gratitude for Shem as a matter of fact in the middle of everyone Seder by the Ashkenazim all the kids sing a song called diana died I knew died I a new and the Sephardic during Diane no I don't know if they sing or not I haven't been privileged enough to be at the Safari Seder but I've heard that during Diana they hit each other with scallions right now why what's happening with Diana Danny knew basically were saying that even Hashem just took us out of Egypt and didn't bring us to the desert didn't bring us mana didn't gearing us a tour didn't bring us a shabbos any one of these 15 things that you're going to read on Passover we say Danny no means it would have been enough my Rabb explains what does it mean it would have been enough it would have been enough for us to have our Seder and this massive celebration that we do in cleaning our house and everything else just for one of those things because remember have chemin only did these things for the Jewish people any one of those things he did not do for them any other nations but he did all 15 for us how much does a sham love us unbelievable how much gratitude should we have for a sham intense amount any one of them would have been enough now let's take that to our spouse of course no relationship is perfect and there's always ups and downs but if you and me and all of us concentrate on the good things that our spouse to us for us we would think wow any one of the good things that would be enough for me to marry them right any one of those good things and meanwhile if you think about it and you make a list of all the good things that your spouse's for you I recommend following the Diana making 15 things before passing to face up if you can if you come up with this list right 15 things you say wow my spouse did all these fit does all these 15 things for me there's these 15 awesome things about my spouse amazing i'll have so much gratitude towards my spouse and when you can have that kind of ion tube good eye when you can see the good things and think about the good things that your spouse does for you you have beautiful shown by the key to shall invite the key to love the beginning first step is to realize all the good things the other person does for you a lot of times we get caught up on what we do for them and we don't think about what they do for us and when you think about what they do for you and I suggest strongly to make a list of 15 good things that your spouse does for you when you see that list you realize you know what Wow my spouse not so bad they're great and once you have that gratitude it's so easy to give back and it's so easy to love have an awesome pace off