Rabbi Reuven Kigel - Parashat Behalot'cha

thank you okay so we are recording from the beautiful Emmett headquarters in uh Jamaica States Fresh Meadows somewhere in Queens over here we just got our wall our new wall as you say Emmett engage educate and power yeah it's a little bit about us so we're talking about this parash of the holoca so bihalosa fall is a special Parsha because basically everybody all the key characters in this car show complain everyone complains about something okay so now what are we complaining about by the way do you know why this is in our wall because one time we had a big view of like a wealthy man nothing to do with them interest we was visiting go straight on our office like well this terrible office looks terrible so you know what our couples director shy he fix it he put up a few years later he's put up this beautiful wall now our office looks great engage educate empowered so now who's complaining this week's Parsha starts off the holoca Ron's lighting the manure why is he laying the manure because last week's Parsha when all the uh to see them all the different heads of the tribes brought gifts are on he said Hashem I don't have a gift to break Hashem says don't worry for you I have the most special gifts you get to you and your condom get to like them you know every day okay now who complains again pays a shiny man the man from Taste of China they were told me they said oh Moshe Urbana we can't bring a carbon pass up what should we do if we complain Hashem says oh make you a special holiday just for you so loud what a good answer first our Enlightenment does he complain then uh the police are shady men that were Tommy so they get a new holiday just for them now who completes next oh unfortunately Army show we complained there wasn't enough food there wasn't enough this the mind didn't taste good okay basically Hashem almost killed us not the best answer to those complaints who complains the next emotion even more complaints he say he said Hashem how can I carry this nation they're too much for me Hashem said okay no problem appoint a Sanhedrin 70 men who complains next to you Yeshua he said two of the men from the Sanhedrin were prophesizing bad things don't complain on my account then who complains next As We Know Miriam and then she complained that you know why is different than us and I'm not judging her but she didn't wind up you said it was Russian Horan she wound up getting to us so you can see from this some people complained and it was not really so good some people complain and wow the guy really almost like a reward for it so we have to remember that it doesn't necessarily mean there's a problem complaining just what are you complaining about are you complaining because you want to get closer to Hashem or are you complaining because you think oh this is too much for me too much to bear let's run away as long as you're complaining about something because you want to get close to Hashem you're going to get an answer that is a reward that's gonna make your dreams come true and the other way complaining because it's too much severe let's try to stay away from that now I want to add a little piece about showing bias at the end you know when we're married it's so easy to find some fault in another person somebody's gonna complain about so I want to just say when it comes to Sean bias try not to complain at all maybe you could request once in a while but try not to complain at all and if you think about what's the thing that you really want to complain about all the time to your spouse and for 40 days do not complain even once about it but just dive into Hashem maybe just maybe that will get much better have an amazing Shabbos and remember don't complain