Rabbi Eliyahu Maksumov - Happiness

Do you want to be happy? Well, I have the solution for you. Everybody thinks happiness is all about [music] what I can get, what I can receive, and the more I get the happier I will be. But, the truth is that [music] the more you make your happiness depend on things that are out of your control, the less happy you will be. Because getting things is not in your control. We feel like we're [music] entitled, life owes us things. But, if we stop and we say, "Life is not about what we can get and receive, but [music] rather what I can give." Because giving is in my control. And the more I start giving, [music] the more I will become happy. Then, I will take control of my happiness, and I don't have to depend on something to be happy. I can [music] take control to be happy at any moment. I can choose to go and help somebody out. I could put a smile on someone's face. I could give my kid a hug today. I could give my wife words of affirmation. Don't make happiness [music] all about what you can get, make it all about what you can give. Number two, my best, favorite solution to becoming happy is [music] don't despair. Anything that is worrying you right now, stop yourself and just add one word and say, "Yet." It's not working out, yet. [music] I didn't get the job, yet. I didn't get married, yet. Because once you say yet, you just added God to the equation, and [music] you're saying that Hashem is capable capable of everything at anything. And my final final solution to becoming happy is be present, be in the moment. Don't be mindful, be [music] mind-full. Just enjoy what is going on around you. Enjoy your time with your kids, with your wife, with your family. Enjoy the surroundings, [music] the nature, and then you will find tranquility, serenity, and I give you a blessing that if you follow these three steps, you'll appreciate every single second and you'll go through life a very happy [music] person.