Earning a Living - Part 7: Balance & Burn-Out - Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller

balance between giving yourself giving and protecting yourself yeah Saddam be so much that you okay so um I wasn't going to go there now but I will since you asked there are robots in halacha about self-protection and giving so it is it's a good question so the basic rule is don't give no matter how much you have let's say you have more money than on a logical level you could spend in one lifetime even if you have that much money you don't give away more than twenty percent the rest came to you if somebody came to you legally it's yours okay if you don't want to reach a point where you don't have for your needs now suppose again your wealth is so huge the twenty percent still leaves you with more than you could possibly spend in a lifetime so that point you would choose things that give you pleasure to give as opposed to feeling a moral obligation to give these are two different things because we'd be far more selective it clears to that basic flight 800 watt like wasn't racing on my Bobby right ask when you so unusual ok so today our topic was material some goat ok so I'm going to give you a shorter answer than the question deserves but I will get there ok so in terms of giving a tricky thing about humans beings is that we have an enormous amount of elasticity so what that means is when you think you could give a you may discover if you give it be you really could have given comfortably a and a half you understand this so you have to watch your LS icity so what I'm saying is don't make giving more anon goal but go back to your comfort level and see how much you could expand without it leading to tension or neglect that makes sense ok so you do have to go back to your comfort level but the goal is to slowly and sensibly rise beyond your comfort level which people do but the trick there is again being very gradual and seeing and seeing that again you're moving from A to A plus not from A to B from A to B is painful and difficult and leads to leads to burn out but I wanted to say one last thing about burnout a puzzle i always had was that the real sadiq him don't burn out I was like I couldn't figure it out and I want to tell you the basis of this I have a daughter who has a kindergarten here in her nope that's for special needs children and well children's called gan harmony they learned together and it's good for the handicapped children because they have and more they have a normal basis it's good for the normal children because it builds their compassion ok but so she has a fairly she has a big staff her special needs teachers last she worked it out most of the list around five years then they leave the field so she was trying to figure out why so first she thought it was the conditions of the kindergarten maybe she should pay them more she should base more money be able to offer the better salaries didn't make a difference ok then she that she boarded that she began to network and find out in other early childhood situations how long do people stay in the field somewhere between five and ten years so she tried to figure out why so her conclusion i'm talking about specially it's not ordinary young Charlie early childhood people go into the field with the illusion of being Helen Keller you know who I'm talking about but in real life it doesn't work that way so you could be working with the child with hearing and speech impediments and at the end of the year you can get him to speak understandably enough that his mother knows when he had enough food he doesn't have to throw it on the floor but that's not like Helen Keller where she was uber which she was lecturing internationally so people get tired of like ah bah ah bah and getting bad you understand this and even if it eventually becomes a ver it's not satisfying enough so I wanted why the realtor Deacon don't get tired of us you know people come to them with unsolvable problems with profound difficulties Israel is always embattled and they're they're like encouraging and giving good advice like keeping impossible hours yeah so I got it ok they don't think that the end result belongs to them guarda once you realize that you don't own the end result that you are just there to do what you can it's a whole different world you