Dumb mistakes smart couples make number 9

[Music] when I was a real little guy maybe five or six years old I remember going into my mother alam's bedroom and she had a dresser on top of the dresser was a mirror and behind me was another mirror and the two mirrors were facing each other and I looked and I saw me but I also saw me reflected from the other mirror and the reflection was bouncing forth and back forth and back many many times and I remember as a little boy trying to find the last me but because it kept on bouncing and bouncing and bouncing I could never find the last me and I think that's an important Parable to marriage you ever watch a couple when they come into the R's office or to a marriage therapist and you ever hear them both say we both agree it's his fault no no no we both agree it's her fault that's not what you hear her fault his fault her fault why is that because each of them have a lot that they've done each of them have a lot that they've said and astonishingly I remember vividly and clearly what she said but I forgot what I did that precipitated that this is the ninth mistake the really dumb mistake that many very smart couples engage in they play the blame game your fault your fault your fault the ability to remember that I do things that are wrong and my spouse does things that are wrong and I have to learn to overlook and get Beyond them and not play the blame game is one of the keys to a successful marriage you have just seen an excerpt from the marriage seminar the entire seminar is available free of charge at the.com [Music]