Dumb Mistake Numebr 8 Smart Couples make

I got a call a little while back and it sounded something like this Ruby she left me she loved me and she won't even go for counseling and when I heard those words my jaw dropped you see I had been taking that couple from marriage therapist into marriage therapist for the past two years trying to get him to shut his mouth one of the most abusive husbands I'd ever seen she left me would only reason and she when he goes to therapy and you know why he felt that way good guy and he had a floor his floor was he had a temper every once in a while maybe every two weeks or so he would lose his temper and say things but then he calmed down but why can't she get over it why can't she get past it and what he didn't realize was that it's easy after he expressed those words of damage and destruction to her it was easy for him to calm down but it was a lot harder for her and what she felt on the receiving end was my best friend the person who I'm dedicated to I'm devoted to just stab me in the heart twisted the knife a few times over and this is one of the great principles if you have a temper you can probably remain happily married but your spouse can't at least not to you angry outbursts annoying habits and selfish behaviors are the destructive forces in a marriage like blowing up a balloon you fill it with love and you show your spouse all of the attention and you develop the courtship you keep together that fills a balloon up but all of these things the angry outbursts the annoying habits the selfish behaviors pop holes in a balloon let the air out and this is one of the really dumb mistakes that very smart couples make they don't learn to change if you're not ready to change you're not ready to get married love won't cure all and they may make it easy for you but your spouse is on the receiving end and you have to learn how to change you have to learn to stop those things that are difficult for your spouse to live with you have just seen an excerpt from the marriage seminar the entire seminar is available free of charge at the schmooze com