Dr. David Lieberman - One Change Challenge on The Shabbat Show

tell us how to galvanize the willpower okay so number of steps number one is you have to have a clearly defined goal number two is you know you have this uh great thing where people can go ahead and write down their goals you can triple a success rate if they put down a penalty attached to it the reason is because human beings live by deadlines and penalties you think about coupons companies spend billions of dollars in advertising you figure they'd say whenever you get to using my product clip it and buy it no expires in two weeks ten days why is because we are inherently lazy unless there's a motivation unless there's a clearly defined deadline limitation we do not take action so you need that clearly defined goal which you have two is a time frame we don't run the world we don't run our lives but we do make decisions and there's something called parkinson's law which basically says that tasks expand or contract depending on how much time you give for it which is why you can be rushing up the shabbos in the summer when you've got maybe a couple extra hours that you do in the winter it's not like you're sitting around reading the magazine and having lemonade you know two hours before skia it's because tasks that are elastic expand or contract so when you give an actual time frame a limitation a a a boundary around the goal you're able to bring into your purview your dollar amis there's something called the activating system short short uh psychological brief here is that it hones in on what's significant so if you give something a shorter time frame you're going to be able to galvanize and pull in from your world all different types of resources that you need that you never would have seen if you didn't have this necessity and third is that penalty look you know the taxes come around every april 14th and you see lines around the post office if there were no penalty attached to it there wouldn't be the lines so if you added to that list there what are you willing to do if you don't hit this goal you're gonna find compliance rate goes off the roof [Music]