Double Class | Letter #20-21 of Thirty Letters in Thirty Days 5786

Let's do it. What? 18 streak 18 days in a row, share with friends. I'll do that later. I didn't unmute it properly. So, you guys didn't even get to hear the sound here. Wow. Why is not making this sound? Which way do you flip it? Or maybe the volume is low. The ringer was down low. I keep pushing the button. I'm giving more and more money to Chabad, and I'm not getting my ring here. There you go. I [bell] just gave like $8 tonight. It's okay. Nobody ever went poor giving tzedakah. Especially not $8. I think I'll be okay. >> [sighs] >> I'm going to make a bracha. All right. Let's learn, shall we? Guys ready? Did I put the right um >> [snorts] >> link in the description? Cuz I remember last night it was the wrong link and uh Second, let me just make sure it's the right link. PDF Yeah, that's the right one. Okay. Guys ready? Day 20 Thursday, Aleph Nissan. Today was Aleph Nissan. I hope you said the Nasi today. Okay. Baruch Hashem Taves Tofshin Tes Zayin in Brooklyn. Shalom Uvracha by my name Tove. She is the Kois Biyem Shlishi Ovar. In response to your letter which you began writing last Monday I'm assuming the person wrote the letter in two sittings and like wrote two different dates. That's what I'm assuming. Anyways, in a comment Martilai I've told you many times I've been >> [laughter] >> I was getting nervous for the letter writer when uh something like that comes up like when the Rebbe has to remind somebody of something that the Rebbe already told them. I told you many times K'nireshum B'zichroni, if I recall correctly, you know, according to my recollection She'eilis Amuklis Bainan B'inyanum Eidei Sum K'seiv, that you should not think deeply about the matters that you're writing about. Meaning to say, the guy wrote to the Rebbe about something and the Rebbe says to him I've told you before to cut that out. >> [laughter] >> Stop thinking deeply. Stop what do you call it? Ruminating. Stop ruminating. That's the word. Stop ruminating on those matters. I've told you that before. I told you that already. Hein Matzav, now the Rebbe spells out what the guy's been ruminating on. Hein Matzav Briyos Mahalach Nafshei V'chulu, your health your spiritual direction and uh etc. V'Yochasim Shel Ploni Ben Ploni Ela Also your relationship with so-and-so, the way you know, so-and-so has been treating you, his attitude toward you. Yeah, I don't want you to think about that. No, I don't want you to ruminate about that. K'im Lisker Klal Godol, but rather you should remember the big rule. V'ahavta L'reiacha Kamocha, love your fellow as yourself. U'meila Mabit Im Al Azulus B'ayin Yaffa then automatically when you love your fellow as yourself, you'll look at your fellow with a good eye, meaning favorably. Meaning trying to see the good. V'lisker Maimer Amishnah, and remember the saying of the Mishnah, Ani Nivraisi L'shamesh Es Koni, I was created to serve my maker. She'lazeh Tzorech L'yaisa Guf Body uh that in order to serve your maker properly you have to have a healthy body. K'meishe Hareiach Rambam Perek Gimel V'daled Halachos De'os, like the Rambam speaks about at length in chapters 3 and 4 of Halachos De'os. V'lo Kein Tzorech L'hisnaig B'seder U'msudar B'achilo U'shtiya Sheina V'chulu, that's why you have to have a normal routine with eating and sleeping eating and drinking and sleeping. It's interesting here. Cuz the Rebbe just told the guy stop ruminating about your health. And then the Rebbe in the next line brings up the guy's health. What's the difference? Can you tell me? The Rebbe told him stop ruminating about the stuff I told you to stop ruminating about, namely um your [snorts] health and uh I'm not sure exactly how we should translate uh the Mahalach Nafshei, but it [cough and clears throat] might mean mean more your like emotional state than your spiritual state. But at any rate, the Rebbe told me one of the things I want you to stop thinking about is uh is is your health. And then the very next line the Rebbe's like, by the way, take care of your health. You got to eat, you got to drink, you got to sleep, you got to have a seder, you got to have a regimen. You have to have a normal routine in eating and drinking and sleeping. So, what's the difference, guys? We're looking in the chat. See if anyone has any thoughts. Someone's asking in the chat, are you still doing the live Thursday night call-in show? Uh I haven't done it in a few months. I'm certainly not doing it tonight cuz look, we're doing the double letter tonight. But maybe after Pesach I'll go back to the live Thursday night call-in show. Anyone has any theories? The Rebbe just told the guy stop ruminating on those things I don't want you to ruminate on, and one of those is thinking about your health. And then the very next line the Rebbe says, by the way, take care of your health. The Rambam says, the Rambam paskens, you got to take care of your health. You got to have a normal regimen of eating, drinking, sleeping. What's the difference? Nobody's writing in the chat. I feel alone. Okay, fine. It's just little old me by myself. What's the difference? The difference is this. The guy was obsessing about it, just thinking about it, thinking about it, thinking about it. The Rebbe says, cut that out. Don't think about it. Just take care of it. In fact, you can go on autopilot. You don't have to think about it at all. Just have a routine. So, that's the difference. It's not that your health isn't important. It is important. But obsessing about it is not helpful. Just take care of it, and take care of it with just setting up a routine. What's What's someone's writing? What's the condition that people think they have an illness that they don't have? You mean it being a hypochondriac? Why you think this guy was a hypochondriac? I don't I don't think he was a hypochondriac. I think he did have health problems. Cuz the Rebbe told him he needs to take care of his health. But I think the Rebbe was telling him stop obsessing about the thinking about it cuz that's not productive. Just establish a routine and take care of it. Okay. Um Let's keep going, shall we? Fine. V'gama V'dosa B'mishrasa B'emuna, you should also take care of your job faithfully. I don't know what nature that what the nature of his job was, but you know you got to take care of that. Mib'li L'konis B'pilpulim U'mukeim U'svaros L'hanel L'hanel L'elav, and I don't want you getting into all types of pros and cons arguments. Al Kol Davar Gadol V'afilu Katan, about every big thing and even small thing. You call it the analysis paralysis. Please, cut it out. Im Mokeim She'nismuch Yash Sofek B'rubo D'rubo Hu Mipnei She'nichnosim L'pilpul B'zeh. Wherever you think there's a doubt, in the majority of cases, vast majority of cases, it's cuz you got yourself into this whole back and forth in your mind, and then you think there's a doubt, but really there isn't. Masha Ein Kein Az Minemt Dizach Glattic, that's not going to happen if you just take things simple. The Rebbe would never say this, but there's an expression I've heard from you know, I heard it heard it from like the two guys I heard it from were both crusty old uh AA guys, you know, sober alcoholics with like decades of sobriety. They used to say remember KISS, K I S S, keep it simple, stupid. >> [laughter] >> Just keep it simple, stupid. Okay, that's not nice to call someone stupid, but keep it simple smarty. The Rebbe used to call people smart boys. You know that? The Rebbe would speak about the smart boys. The Rebbe would say in English smart boys. Um those are the people who would go on Talucha to the closest possible shul. Those are the smart boys. Okay, so keep it simple. Stop complicating it. Stop making yourself all nervous thinking you have doubt. U'v'miuto D'miuto She'nisha Sofek, and then in the tiny minority of cases where there will be an actual doubt, cuz sometimes sometimes there is a doubt. Yeah, that that's legitimate. Gam Oz Harei B'siyatzus Im Yedidim U'makirim Toivim you'll you'll speak it over, and the advice of your friends and people who you who you know well and if there are pure suffering in the majority of cases you'll you'll you'll solve you'll resolve those doubts. So stop going in all the analysis and most of the situations will no longer have a doubt and whatever tiny amount of situations are left over that still have doubt you'll talk it over with with friends and and people you know and and it'll be fine and you'll figure it out. The car in late called the positive my late day and our sages already gave us the proper direction in life when they told us >> [snorts] >> the straight of the better and I told you this because we had this in a letter when we first started was one of our first few letters that I've been told this to somebody else called the positive my late day. I told you the origins of that. Does anyone remember? The origin of it where does it come from this my middle style the saying of our sages called the positive my late day the straight of the better anyone remembers the source the context okay again nobody's answering here it's about a shofar should be a straight shofar a curved shofar so it's a my like is tonight should it be on straight on Rosh Hashanah and curved on Yom Kippur or curved on Rosh Hashanah and straight on Yom on Yom Kippur but the point is that there's this expression the straight of the better and that I was saying that about life [snorts] I think I remember last time I call it the akam's razor of a vida which I thought it was kind of cute. Anyways keep it simple simpler the better don't overthink it. Now everything I just told you applies also to your keeping a regular study session in both the revealed and inner dimensions of Torah chain all of last days tachlis of the man last days hash bonus a few months as man and the steam on the whole don't get all technical and make a schedule and figure out where you're going to fit in the learning and all the positive to be human you just start just start the all you should ain't a double question and you'll see it's not so hard collation of course of color of a lot of my people love to say like it says the matter is very near to you in your mouth and your heart that you may do it sharp blood of Tanya right? So just start don't don't get all technical about it. I wrote a whole chart. I wrote my schedule. I'm trying to find here I have 12 minutes please just start doing it. You'll see it all work out fine. The last day of the whole armor we used to a shallow and the main arm you call your mind is all lay my second claim access broker Ella has shown lane the blessing that you should report good news and everything we're speaking about and that peace should rest in your home like the saying of our sages that [snorts] the holy one found no better vessel for blessing to rest within than peace. And that is the end of the first letter. How are we doing out there? Doing well? Oh someone's writing in the chat in 1994 during the first Democratic elections in South Africa there was a party called kiss keep it straight and simple. That's very interesting. I did not know that. Keep it straight and simple. Yeah keep it and then we don't have to say the word stupid. We can say keep it straight and simple. Right. I love it. Keep it straight and simple. That's what it is. Okay. Someone's writing here common theme in many of these letters not overthinking. Yes absolutely correct. That is common theme of the rabbit. Don't overthink it. Okay. You ready? Should we go to the next letter? Mhm. We're good? All right nobody objects. All right. [snorts] But I got some good olive schwab tough is I'm Brooklyn shall I go home now? You got all schwab to very special day you got all schwab is the anniversary of the first day of the in the CS. Yeah. This is tough is I am this is just uh Wow. This is 5 years after tough you got all of like the fifth anniversary of that I was first day of re of receiving the position of the rabbit. Cool. All right. In and for of I a brief may you make a commission this letter is in Yiddish. I think this is our first Yiddish letter. We've had letters that have had Yiddish phrases like the previous letter had a Yiddish phrase. But uh This is our first Yiddish letter I think. Usually Yiddish letters are to women I found maybe I'm wrong in my I haven't gone through the entire egress although I know people who have maybe I should ask them. I think the majority of Yiddish all Yiddish letters are to women. But could be wrong. Anyways this is not to a woman this is to a man shall I go home now we know it's to a man. In and for of I a brief may you make a commission is rotten and then mask is I I either kinder on any clock sheer kill machine is broken so help and as you result have not from say and for all men says I am in Emerson not for stars is Yiddish and not us. I got your letter from and this is an answer to your letter from Thursday and then at a at an auspicious time I will mention you and your children and your grandchildren and may I shall help that you derive not from them all together true not Yiddish and not us. The rabbit doesn't say what that means I will mention them but I assume that means I will mention them at the aisle meaning at the feet of the rabbits aisle I assume [snorts] that's what that that's what that means. Okay. Unlighten my mirror to send a good day show the manner you call it called over. And like our Torah says our holy Torah says there's nothing that is too hard for a sham nothing is too wondrous to be removed from a sham. I'm kind of reading into this that maybe the guy was writing about some issue he had with his children and grandchildren. I'm kind of reading into this that maybe it was the opposite of not us. Because just from the context that I was saying that you should have true not Yiddish and not us and nothing is too wondrous for a sham. So it's possible that maybe this guy was concerned about his children or grandchildren not necessarily going in the right direction. That's kind of what I'm reading between the lines but I don't know. Fear you do miss for the migration now as is known according to our holy books when men cook the meat the iron your fair iron type when you look at somebody with a good eye generous eye meaning you have a charitable view of someone is neat not of us men but marked my list it's not only you notice their good qualities but even them cooking by common say his look but that looking at them favorably actually strengthens them. So if my theory is correct and I told you it's only my theory and I can't prove it if my theory is correct that the guy was a work it was a little bit worried about his children or grandchildren and that I was saying yeah don't worry you're going to have true Yiddish and not us from them because nothing is too difficult for a sham so then if I'm correct about what that means then what that I was saying next is basically you have to look at them favorably. And if that's what that I was saying which again I don't know for certain but then that's a very very powerful directive that when you're worried about somebody that they may not necessarily be going in the right direction very important have a positive view of them. Now I want to tell you something I'm a little bit emboldened to guess that this is what that I was saying cuz I've seen other letters from that I was saying that say explicitly this idea. That I've seen where parents were worried about a child about their child's spirituality and and and that I was saying that the more positive you can be the more it'll strengthen the the child. So that's kind of what I'm I'm I'm guessing is going on over here. So look at them favorably not only will it cause you to notice their favorable qualities more but it actually strengthens them. It actually helps them. And that causes that the negative stuff decreases. Negative qualities become uh diminished. In light of what it says in Igalev of Tanya and what it says in the the mitzvah of of of Israel in the safer mitzvah of the Tzemach Tzedek. Moshe's brother Aaron, who was the holy of holies. It's interesting. He went into the place called holy of holies, but the Rebbe refers to Aaron himself as holy of holies. It says about Aaron. It says about Aaron. He loved the Brius. Brius means people, but literally it means created beings. Even those who have no redeeming quality other than the fact that they were created. That's what it means when we refer to people as as creations, it means they have no overtly redeeming feature other than the fact that they are God's creations. And Aaron loved such people, even such people. And that's what the Rebbe was saying to this guy, you can always find something positive about someone even if it's only the fact that they are God's handiwork. I don't know if you're watching, if you're cracking nuts right now. He has a minute now getting ready for Pesach. He cracks nuts. And your is going to be like gigantic. I don't think you're still cracking walnuts after uh a week ago. You got You got to move on to the making some salt water maybe at this point. Um but Rebbe the parenting course. Don't we talk about this in the parenting course? Lesson two of the parenting course. Looking at your child and seeing the unconditional value, intrinsic value, the infinite value of your child. Okay. Fine. So, maybe I got it from here. Uh says the Rebbe Aaron was the master of he loved even people who are called us. He loved people cuz he could see something worthy in them even if they had no other outward sign of being worthy other than the fact that hey, God made them. That itself is already enough that they are worthy of our love. Yeah. And I do have you know, I do think my theory is correct that the guy was worried about his kids and or grandkids and having from them and the Rebbe saying just focus on what's good about them and it's going to it's going to strengthen them. Okay. So, Aaron was able to love even the people have no other value other than the fact they were created by God. And like we say in the parenting course, when you value your kid even when he's not giving you anything else to be excited about other than the fact that he was created by God then you're going to connect with him. You're going to give him confidence and he's going to start living up to it and then then also his behaviors will be something to be proud of, but you got to have that unconditional positive regard before even his behaviors give you what to be proud of. Rebbe knows exactly what I'm talking about, right Rebbe? And nobody knows this yet, but I'm going to tease it. Big developments are happening in the world of the soul parenting course. We had a very important meeting just today. And uh let's just say that God willing over the next year we're hoping thousands, perhaps tens of thousands of people will be exposed to authentic parenting according to Torah and this and the Rebbe's teachings. God willing. Okay. Um I'm sure I'll get a text from Rebbe afterwards saying I shouldn't mention him anymore. I do it specifically because you told me not to mention you. That's why I specifically mention you. I hope it's not a problem. Okay. Um So, the yes. Yeah. Okay. Like it explains over there but in in Tanya. Okay. Now I think this guy was probably a guy. I think. It doesn't have the name. And it's not surprising it doesn't have the name cuz if he was having issues with his kids or grandkids, probably didn't want to publicize that, but I'm thinking the guy himself was a guy. And if the guy himself was a guy, I think then it's probably um poetic that the Rebbe was saying, "Hey, Aaron you know, Aaron was and he was and that's basically the ancestor of this letter writer." I'm making some assumptions, but I don't think I'm I don't think these are you know, bold assumptions. I think it they're pretty conservative. So, let's say this guy was a guy and the Rebbe was like, "Okay, but your Aaron was the master of seeing good in everyone." Okay. And being that are season, they are known for their alacrity. Tick-tock. They get it done. When they come The cause that Hashem's work should come down speedily, swiftly. My head up. Without any delay, without any setbacks. Like it talks about at the end of the in Korach. Uh not the end of the but the end of the Korach part of the Torah. There's a minor speaks about the Korach. Why? Because the whole thing about Korach was he opposed the he wanted the for himself. This whole thing about in Korach. And uh so the the minor there in and my mom and other Rebbes as well which elaborate on this concept. The Rebbe has a minor on this. Um all based on the the Rebbe's minor, but the idea of how the Korach part the blessing of the has this special quality that it it's like a swift uh you know, like on the the highway sometimes you have like the uh the HOV lane, you know, the high occupancy vehicle and you get to like you have like a passenger with you and get to go a lot faster, to pass all the traffic. Okay. So, that's like that. Anyways, I'm thinking the guy was a guy and the Rebbe was telling him and just like the have this special ability to bring the blessings down swiftly. So, coming was so the above mentioned, which I believe is referring to well, everything about don't worry about your health and I mean, take care of your health, but don't worry about your health. Do you understand the difference? Okay. Um and uh Yeah. That was the previous guy. The previous guy was the ruminating guy in the health. Sorry. I'm messing it up. Um the What what what what was this guy's issues? Um really just uh the kids and the grandkids. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So, the means the above mentioned stuff, the stuff with the you know, the from your kids and your grandkids that that should all happen swiftly coming was should materialize uh very quickly the whole now with blessings for being able to report good news and all of the above >> [snorts] >> mentioned. Yeah. Um >> [gasps] >> Yeah. >> [sighs] >> Okay. Um I'm looking at the time. It's interesting. It's 29 minutes since we started the stream. Um I thought a double letter. You know, it's interesting cuz we had one letter that took us over an hour. I think one one of our letters took us an hour and two minutes. And now we just did two letters in 29 minutes. You never know. You just never know. But did you get your money's worth? You want me to tell you more stuff about it? I mean, I don't know who the letter writers were. I don't know that I can't I can't really know for sure the background of the letters. Um all of it's based on assumptions. I don't have any research for you because I wasn't able to look anything up about the letters cuz I I I don't have anything to go on. So, that's what I got. That's what I got for you. But uh I think I think we can come away with some uh some good stuff from there, right? So, the first letter, let's say keep it keep it straight and simple. Keep it straight and simple is letter one. And uh uh recognize the power of the way you look at someone, that when you see the good in them, it actually brings that out. That was the takeaway from letter two. >> [sighs] >> Someone's writing in the comments in the chat. Let's do one more letter, please. >> [laughter] >> I don't know I I What do you want me to do? You want me to do the Motza Shabbos letter? Tonight? Then what are we going to do Motza Shabbos? Let's do one more letter. I don't I don't have I don't have another letter. I mean, I do, but I don't have one for tonight. We just did two. Anyways, they say in show business, you got to leave the stage while the audience still wants more. So, thank you so much. Everyone should have a wonderful Shabbos. Don't forget the Nossi. Um tomorrow also, in addition to being the second day of the Nossi, is Beis Nissan. Actually, right now is Beis Nissan, oil of Beis Nissan. So, we should mention that this is the Hilula of the Rebbe Rashab and the Gimel Tammuz of the Friediker Rebbe. And uh yeah, it's a important day. Beis Nissan was the day that the Friediker Rebbe became Rebbe. Oh, that's so interesting. As I mentioned that the letter that we read was from Yud Aleph Shvat, right? That the second letter that we just read was Yud Aleph Shvat, which is the first day that the the Rebbe became Rebbe. And Beis Nissan, which is today, is the day the Friediker Rebbe became Rebbe. And just for full disclosure, the Hachraza of Yechi Melech is connected to Beis Nissan. The Rebbe said that, in conjunction with the beginning of the leadership of the Friediker Rebbe, you should say Yechi Melech and it gives life to the Nossi. There you go. All right. >> [sighs] >> Good Shabbos, everybody. And we'll see you uh Motza Shabbos for another letter.