Don't Forget To Turn The Page - Rabbi Zecharya Wallerstein

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went to yeshiva as far as all these shoes that i know we don't teach our children we don't learn Hilsa scoubidou name actually the whole local of curative aim talk about it we don't actually learn how to walk us and i think a lot of people when this safer comes out i'm it's a sham will come out in l what's already all done we're just raining out fraud page dedications but we're already all done i think that a lot of us are gonna be shocked that we really didn't know the whole office of of of cuba defame so whoever's interested in dedicating a page i'm going to leave this paper on the on the table where was listening or was watching you can dedicate a page for lili nish mouths for anniversary for whatever you want to dedicate it and if you don't have anything on that day if you dedicate if you dedicate a page and give it a vein then that day is a special day so i'm going to leave this so you can look at it afterwards you just have to send an email to info at or nava or call it's very simple or novice numbers o HR nav or nine one seven four four four seven five five five extension 200 so this is a very important book and we intend to get it into every session to every were just discussing should it be in eighth grade or should it be a ninth grade safer to learn I'd health s curative aim it's definitely gonna make it a lot easier full appearance we hope also on Tisha bow we have a special edition of schedule I'm going to leave an example of this I speak to ship of night in our Nava time 30 and then it's televised across the world the next day from 11:00 to 12:00 I speak after that from 12:00 to 1:00 is Jackie B tone for more 15 to 2 is run by Freeman from 2:15 to 3 is Charlie Ferrari of its time after that thus all the same foundation that are labeled lam then the fall of the stein foundation again there wo Wasser so ever you can't come tour navajo I'm sorry guys you're not invited but online you can actually listen to it or watch it so I pulled out one lesson pretty randomly from the safer today that would like to read to you from this lesson so it's less than sixty to honor and Mithila Iredale quotes one is obligated to rise for his father a father or mother maybe Michael the honor due to them of course one will also rise for his mother this is brought down in the same home office the consensus among commentators is that one must rise to its full height not if you pai walks into the room you just get up a little bit like the show honor but you have to actually get up and stand up straight according to the base is a safe whose sock is always followed by the smarty jury one must rise every time a parent enters the room however Ashkenazic jury follows the opinion of the rama that one one one must rise once in the morning and once in the evening i'm not going to ask the people here of how many of you get up when your parent walks into the room what it seems to have been lost in the Ashkenazi community it's interesting the Morgan of Rome it's not on this page the Morgan of Rome says that Friday night it's a fetish from organ of Rome a Friday night before kid is you should go and kiss your mother's hands she kiss your mother's hands I don't think that's our Minnie we do what we're supposed to do that and he and the reason he that you're supposed to do it because the mother who worked so hard with the kids the whole week is sitting there and the father gets to bench them he wasn't home a whole week he shows up he's benching them he's kissing them on their head they're kissing him and she's sitting there she did all the work and garnished samoa rome says that every person daughter and son has to go to his mother friday night before kiddush and kiss her hands this is stuff that we I feel that we don't know because it's just not done by most people it is a common custom for parents to be muscled regarding their children's obligation to rise in their honor and the whole shiny ravenous and careless rights that arise for parents is an important aspect of Cuba a man should not be totally ignored at the same time he states that parents should not demand us of their children instead they should learn with their children the hawkers of Cuba Devane so the children will realize on their own what they should be doing he also suggests that you shiva's teach this a local to their students from the age when they start living tomorrow approximately ten years old but she will come an esky read through our whole safer we have mocha sham house comer from him and all the good dial in and he responded to this page as follows a Russian will come unless he was asked regarding the halacha he responded it is definitely a beautiful hun Haga for children to stand up for the appearance when they enter a room however since the accepted practice is for parents to be muscled it is very difficult to recommend that parents be Makana to their children to do so that the children will not be able to fully appreciate the motivation behind this clinic and may misunderstand it as a reflection some selfish desire that the father wants your mother wants you to get up when they walk in my father is out saw a vehicle was not Masonic us to stand up for him and his children did not stand up for him when he entered the room and we were not mechanic our children to do that either that said Russian welcoming us he says if a child wants to fulfill this Aloha Lok 12000 LOI Brussels there's a beautiful thing I do feel it would be a worthwhile for a macaque him to teach to tell me them about the halacha of standing up for parents this can have a positive impact on the children and can be conveyed without the concerns we have mentioned reveai says Viner related one of my daughters expressed a desire to stand up for me when I enter the room I told her that kama custom is to be mindful but she would get a mister if she does it I added that a benefit of standing up for one's parents on a daily basis is that it automatically makes the child more focused on key word of aim my daughter was respectful and helpful before she began rising in our honor but I have seen that since she began this practice prohibitive aim has gotten even better I deal with a lot of children that struggling with cubed of aim at a very big way I can't imagine that they would be struggling is that my phone that's like an alert bogey it's my first right now my phone is not my phone I forced that making noise because it's quiet but it's an Amber Alert okay Amber Alert are walleston speaking they're giving an Amber Alert which I do so well my so am I so I could tell you as a mechanic for close to 43 years that if your children get up for you and you walk into a room they're definitely gonna have better curative a mime dealing I dealt this past few days I don't want to say exactly what day cuz the person might be listening I have never in my life ever witness what support of a girl to appearance in the way that I would never saw anything like and I've seen a lot it is so out of control I told I told her you're a terrorist you're a terrorist you're like if you don't give me what I want I'm walking out I'm leaving about a young kid and and I believe that if your children from when they're very young when Totti and mommy walking through me stand up like this is my mother this is my father I don't think we're gonna get to that point but anyway there are there are 360 lessons in there and I think that we are it's going to miss havesham be a game changer for klystron commit session okay so so the subject tonight is turn the page so let me explain to you what this is all about and in this generation in every generation one of the biggest struggles that people have they don't talk about it they don't say it because it's sort of a lack of a more know it's sad thing for a boy girls come to me all the time they're older they're in their 40s they're in their late 30s like that wall saying I don't I don't understand how Shems ways I'm it's newer I don't talk to boys I went on Mooka I said sure share him 40 times 40 times I went to the Chrysler 40 days in a row I went to every drug linearity stro I went to every Rebbetzin and I'm 40 and I'm not married and my friend when I was younger who took the boys who was not it's Noah her children are married she has children and they're married they don't understand what I should want for me many times and we're gonna see this in the tire tried to go away but sure they don't had a problem with it now but I'm Ella had a problem with it because what we said for you to understand your Google D kunam and everything else I have to stop from the beginning of the world as we know with that Sarah every game I'll because I have to take apart the whole suit and then show you the whole suit and I'm not going to destroy the world to answer your question but it is a question that we have that we get stuck on our in our trauma in our pain and the things that we're going through and we really don't think we deserve it and we really don't think we deserve it and we did everything we're supposed to and we follow the letter of the law and I don't know what's going on over here parents are the most beautiful parents they give the best clinic to the kids and their kids are often there are parents who don't get along with each other with totally dysfunctional the father's never coming home and then the kids have got a hot dog how's this happened so inside some of us have this question and most of us don't ask it because how could you ask question on tomorrow we need to understand that it doesn't work that way so I want to start tonight with Avril Lavigne O Rama V New Found Hashem on his own I sure didn't come to him in a dream Michelle didn't come to him in a bush he was logical he saw his father selling avoid Azara he saw that my desire had no wife the razor could do nothing he went outside he said the Sun you can't look at the sight it must be God but the Sun went down at night so it must be the moon and he went through high Gaggia and it must be the water of it the water the fire but the water out the fire in the cow jumped the water he mamas went through a whole side guide yeah and he came to a conclusion that all these things the whole keg idea is created by one Accord is vertical and therefore he was called an III he was against the whole world Nimrod and the world against the Robin vino and the one thing that Rama vena was preaching now human sacrifice that was my life that was a way to sorrow don't bring your children as a carbon that's pretty stood for Hashem comes to him and tells him I know what you stand for but I'm telling you now to bring your child as a sacrifice the whole world said like your hypocrite until now that maybe says until now you're preaching never bring your children for everybody that you only become Bono's bring animals and you yourself are taking your child and the Sultan and the Meldrick says if something came and told everyone he knew you the whole world's gonna be talking about you that you you spoke your whole life one way and you're not listening to your own thing for sure Shem didn't tell you to kill your child it can't be your father has shown that you shouldn't kill your child but he listened to what a shame told him and this is the biggest test of all his tenth s where you ll ma Hashem Hashem I am well you're a man of Rama Rama you mean a knee well yeah mal Tishler your color now don't you touch him apostle Illuma don't you even give him a scratch why because you passed you passed you in a son in you passed your test can tell you that the qlm I came out top I know now that you fear me there's no reason to kill him that's not what this was about you're right you don't bring you with sacrifice you're right I don't want you with sacrifice was a test no you're a dick everybody passed his test he didn't put his phone on by Dominic he was his test he passed his test so time for reward now it's cold okay that's the it's clock not cold like haters have wrong it's not called she to show you it's Congress no it's called like a that's yet Scott why because bigger than whatever arm did so I promise told by a sham to kill his child but Y it's cook wasn't told to die fresh air so it was an everyone of home you too could have said listen that's your navour but I said didn't tell me to die I'm not going I'm not going I don't have a new fool that I should give up my life no yes I've said the opposite you said not only put me on them as they are but tie me down because if I move and there's a mum then you will never get a chance to pass this test because I'm the childish M wants and if there's a mom then we ruin we messed up the whole okay then we're done you won't be able to do anything so I could show Tommy down so the ik a dog of yourself is what we said on Yom Kippur that cave is called the act aid of u2 was much bigger than ever I'm I'm wrong I shall take him okay I said told him what to do no I said think of the it's cook and say give up your life not only did he give of his life but he said tie me down so I've run past he leaves the mountain he comes home and sorrow a man who died that's his reward he's coming all now he passed his test a chef said no more tests he's gonna go home with his wife and live out there his life happily no your reward is that your wife saw the Ocado or heard about década and because of that because if you're an assignment because of what you passed your wife died not only that says this plate Lesotho who live closer with a small cloth because he knew that everyone's gonna say uh he's gonna do chew it you can do chew on him it's where people don't know that you can do chew an affair you don't have air you feel bad for it they're very goes away let's see let's say you decide you're gonna go to shul today I'm going for minion I usually don't go for number four minion and you get a speeding ticket and you're like you know I wish I never went to minion you don't get the credit for minion you can do to vote on a mitzvah you can give a guide sadaqa and then there's something about him you don't like he's like I wish I didn't give him anything then you didn't give him anything the same power of to run a mitzvah is Chu is Chu Han availa this troop on a mitzvah he wanted to show the world that he's not doing chew on the Mitzvah so if we were to stood there and cried like crazy they would've said I you have remorse that you that you did I can't I said look you killed your wife so the boy saw he's specifically cried very little I have no remorse whatsoever and I run was talking about my yellow I shouldn't bear this around like all let's look at yet suck what was your sucks reward frycade us it's gone so he's tied down the malach him cry the measure says the tears of the mala him going to use hooks eyes it becomes blind that's how you rewarding yet skunk for going willingly even though I shame you didn't ask him and he asked to be tied down so he's tied down he can't move therefore he comes off them his back blind he should have gotten wings of an angel it comes off blind you can't get stuck there you have to turn the page you turn the page a couple of passages later you realize that you sir had to be blind whether it was from the tears or whether it was from the smoke of avoid Azara he had to be blind because had he not been blind there's no way that Yaakov could have stole the Bolero because no matter what he got dressed or what he did he would have seen that he was Yakko so you had to be blind in order for us Clyde row and Yahoo Avenue to get the bra but you have to turn the page if you get stuck on that he's blind you like Zeus I Rosa Clara I don't understand what's going on over here but it's much deeper I think I once said this I don't know if I said it here or if I said it in Rabbit Reisman shul is that amazing hey doll with her of Chinatown and he says the following since that yet hook was born his hook was born with Ana Shama de nuke feh he had a female neshama what that means is a female neshama is a female in the cave ah is din he had an ax Shama of dim and if the husband and the wife both have on the Shama de nuke foe or neshama the surah a male or both of them have the same you cannot have children and there's no neshama that can come down you cannot have children Yitzhak was born with an ax Shah Merdan look fo the Sultan came and told you it's hard it must be that your father heard wrong because I Shem said that from you is going to come his nation and if you're going to be shafted there's no nation coming from you but it was the opposite says the CEDAW and of crime fatale that when Rama V new took the knife he actually shifted one of the C Mon name of Yitzhak hornish ma submission and neshama his neshama the kiddo says left his body where did it go so the neshamah de nuke VII went in terrific Oh rifka was born at the time of the akkada three years laters when she met him she got that tonight listen to this she got that neshama then you show me that you suck had the nuke from was a yoga love of Java was shared with sorry II may know and he was taken it's beautiful beautiful Vittorio because he was taken he had one cinnamon cut and he was dying the Milwaukee came and took him to GaN Eden and in guy Nathan he healed and the Fodor says that the minute he he went to go Nathan Sarah II may know whose nationís with sure with his nephesh also had to go to GaN Eden and she was talking again Aden with him she couldn't be in this world without him because they were sort of the same Tico and saying Gil go I'm not gonna get into the whole safe of Gugu Liam so what happened listen to this later on yes look says when he smells the big head of Yaakov a serves beggar the cosmos are he says Rashi says that he says it smells from guy named then how did he know again they didn't smell like yet said this jacket that you're wearing smells from good any because that klutz nuts always meeting her name then so how do you know kudos it's how'd he know and you know what kind Aidan's Melvin it's a ride that he was in gonna it okay but here's the point had he not gone to the arcade everybody had he not been chested had not his neshama they look for left him and in the Shambhala the sucker came in he could have never had children he would have been married to riff growth whoever he would be married to and he would never be he would be barren because they were both having the shamans to look for the only way that you could have children is if he went through and I kada we actually got half shut up did the tsaatan knew that that if he would if he if he would go to the akkada he would be able to have children so he was telling you in the opposite how you gonna how you gonna have children you the new boys walk it's gotta be hundred percent wrong the sucker knew that if he went they packaged like this it wouldn't happen where he went he's gonna have children so he tried to stop them from going so what looks on the page as I don't understand why did you make a realm Aveeno go through this problem if you don't had to go through this with you it's gone because had he not gone through this with its clock yes it would've never had children and they would never been a classroom you have to be able if somebody asked me today what Sam you know somebody's swaro my name you know what's in Munna what's be talking you know the famous story where they wouldn't be talking on the very famous story what's between a Munna and be talking so there was this this guy now this guy used to walk on a high wire in the circus you know that wire that walks across and the guy walks across the high wire and I remember when I was a kid they used to have a net underneath and he would have a unicycle on the wire and all kinds of tricks on the wire and then they took the net away to make it more exciting so taco guy fell but we didn't realize when he fell he grabbed onto the wire so he was ever a danger of really falling because I was they fall they hold on till the wire they get back onto the wire but anyway it was very exciting so so one day his friend came up to me says you know we just got an awful the circus just got an offer that if you would do a high wire across the out there in in Arizona of course the Grand Canyon we're gonna give you a million dollars to walk across the Grand Canyon on a high wire are you crazy I'm gonna walk a high wire across the Grand Canyon you know what happens in life for me hello it's miles since a million dollars you're the mayor you're the best you're the best of the world your Ringling Brothers you deal with your eyes closed you do not one foot you hop you're the man you gotta do it see you sure yeah but upset let's go the best friend so they come to the Grand Canyon they got the wire across that's m'hona one is believing he says you really believe I could do this he says you are the man there is no one in the world of course you can do this you get the other side you're gonna get a million dollars he says you sure you're my best friend you love me right yes you sure making for a wonderful side you're not gonna fall you promise I promise mo no is it really okay good if you really believe I'm not gonna fall get on my shoulders he said no no that I'm not gonna do that's be taco that's the difference between in morning be talking but really what is it you know what from all this one that I'm learning I just learned from the from the from the base lav he wrote a whole thing in a Munna the Munna is surrender total surrender Tasha I believe in you and whatever is supposed to happen is going to happen it's sort of like having a sailboat putting up your sail and if the wind comes from the east you're going east and if the wind comes from the West you're going west like wherever the wind blows that's where I'm going total emunah is total disconnection from yourself ha cycle SMU ha ha ha whoo you calculus just just just surrender no doctors no medicine no business of course you have to do all that stuff but understanding that this is all fake in fact it's fun let's say that medicine doesn't really work and she wanted to put something in the world tea so you should you shouldn't see him total total surrender a realm of vino total surrender you tell me that you now I do sacrifice than you tell whenever you tell me I shall when you have total surrender you have the ability no matter what trauma and pain you're in to turn the page as long as you think that it has something to do with you you get stuck on that page okay that's that's irrelevant oh I think even bigger I'm not really here to say what's bigger let's go to yes if it's Isaac who I always talk about also see though I'll actually don't they staff at Sadiq we don't even understand we don't even understand the relationship between yah : l safe and that Yosef is the H that's going to burn a selves the cash who he was he does says that he was he's the foundation of kedusha in the world was Joseph's shame ahah bris was a stiff at Sadiq his brothers take him and take his clothing off and throw him into a pit and it's brought down that the most painful bite in the world there's a scorpion they don't let go and the poison is fire and they throw into a pit of scorpions without any clothing and snakes and nothing happens Saavik right Lauren Akash may miss a lot hate no hate but instead of Saints I think they take him out and they sell him to the most immoral place in the world by far with the most the 49th level of Tomo immorality and our Vedas are they sell this boy this seventeen year old boy this Kurdish conduction and Shama and Poti fob eyes him and the slave trade in a slave market he buys him says Rashi when Mishka was Elsa for himself to be his boy do you understand what's going on here he's selling you brother he's in bits Ryan but he's not and then working in the field he's bought because he's a pretty looking boy you're fast Meyer and who buys here the lowest of the law the mission of Tsar a Soros the Michigan soccer well party fraud doesn't act on it but he has shame is a safer he is mats Lea ha but Jana don't ah've and this lowlife party far saw here shame Ito that God is with him the whole a chef who loves said let's Leah hands off why did that why did he know that much that he was honey know about Hashem so the manager says that wherever he went whatever he did he said I'm it's a sham Baruch Hashem who's this Hashem who this Hashem so even his lowlife master knew that iodine of Ketchum etoy so kill Shem name you Dicky kiddush Hashem okay he's this guy's not bothering him shows up the worst of the worst the lowest of the low that he does says she was mannish created by the tsaatan the most beautiful woman in the whole world it was the whole thing that no coach would have it's a whole story over here but anyway the bottom line is if he could get you a safe to sin with Asia Sportiva the world will be destroyed so he doe says because once the the foundation of the world the kedusha in the Tahara which is yo say would sin would crack the world in half the world the world the world finished there's something did everything he could the yosef should fall into the hands of the asian 45 in this world and as he says and in the next world well he could do Bessa yes if you're in the I imagine every single day in the tsiyon every single day being seduced by this woman Felicia my wealth I didn't listen to her vishka Etzel Lehi SEMA to be with her in this world and in the next world in ishm Amaya's it's set up the situation is set up to fall but Yahweh I'm ISIL Isis Malakal you ain't ish branch a bias number bias there's nobody there but to shave the victoy she grabs onto his clothing for me she says but Yas abhi debris out of a Janos well Yates say a hoot sir he left his feet shiniest and her hands and he ran for his life you have to sit and think about this a little bit it's not something we could do so fast you have to think about the whole set up sold miss Ryan Potiphar his wife nobody will ever know she made it okay the hold measures on that she said you can see in the stars that Big Daddy come are going to come from us the fry Menasha she said I'm not married I'm not a nation's ish because because of what Rashi says that he was Michigan's oh Clark so he didn't consummate the marriage according to gaya McCoy thoughts with so she wasn't a married woman and she said as far as being a Jew you see that the big tsadikim are coming from us when Hashem wants she mama came up with everything and he ran away so in my picture of this story if I was telling this to my girls in seminary I would say and so what happened another Wildstein every single day Yeats ihara he did it every single day and he ran away so how shall we write him an eagle came he got on the ego it flew Terrance's fro dropped him wolf by Yaakov and they lived happily ever after that's the way it should end but that's not how it ended what was his reward for fighting off this woman and passing and passing his niece iodine dungeon matrons dungeon the lowest worst place in the tryin zoo Tyrell Azusa Saira you could get stuck on this page that's how you reward someone who fall off everything who had every reason to go wolf the Dare at every reason after what his brothers did to him and instead he wins this fight and you punish him a sham you put him in a dungeon if you get stuck at that page it looks like Hashem is very unfair but go a little bit further by Yahweh la him you I say by bike safe came to them different share about asking why bhaiyaa I Sabina is off him he saw them and he saw that they were brewing they were depressed something was bothering them but you shall he asked them my do open a Quran my yarn why do you look so depressed today I asked my girls in seminary I said what does it take to save the world president the United States girl Hadar Shas Roberta Tom's chillin what does it take to save the world that be a girdle what save the world you live outside they asked to low life Egyptian meaningless people who had nothing to do with him when he was suffering why do you look depressed once he asked him the question they told him about the dreams then they fat then that's I'm asked him do that he could the whole saving of the world was because he asked to garden why do you look so depressed we don't understand we don't realize how would be watched in this world and how much we can do a woman told me today after my share today that she knows for a fact that the true story was her neighbor that the male man once came to her neighbor and said do you have a sister buy this is this last name that lives six blocks from here on Avenue J and she said to the mailman how do you know that's my sister he said you two are the only ones that ever asked me if you can bring me a coffee or a drink when I'm at the door you must be brought up by the same people you must be sisters we don't realize you see someone in shul and his head is down or he looks like there's something wrong even if he's not going to tell you what's wrong just to be asked what's bothering you makes a person feel that they belong and he may tell you I need a job who knows what he's gonna tell you I don't know what you gonna tell you and I I spoke about it this morning that this is something we need to do it's called I have a subpoena it's asking for no reason I don't want anything from you it's caring about other people I want to ask question to everyone in this shul show me a raise of hands when someone comes to your shul and they bang on the table and it happens my rabbi Franco every morning when I'm there and he's like I'm here for tadaka I have a son with cancer I have a wife with cancer how many people in this room asked that person after you gave him the dollar could you give me their name I want a diamond for them raise your hands why not you think the dollar is gonna make the difference how come he ain't asking for the name of the kid he's collecting for yeah yeah I'll accept my dua why do you look depressed a person comes to shul and he's crying and he's putting his hand out you're giving him a dollar how come how come you didn't take down his name the guy in sure that's that that has a daughter that you know it's twenty-nine thirty thirty-two he's got three kids in she knew him how can you walk up to and say by the way you know um I say to Hill him after that everybody says to him after Domini give me your kids names really you're gonna down that my daughter's she's playing this up even if they don't find the up right away somebody cares I'm not giving what's it to you guys I am the same problem I don't have a list I'm telling you by Franco every morning there three or four people that bang on the on the Bema and everybody has a different problem and we just give them dollars of quarters of fifty cents we've never asked them by the way you said you have a sick child you have three sick child is a guy that collects four she has five kids that have cystic fibrosis come right I never asked him for his five kids name never asked him what's your five kids names like Adama for them you want to save the world you want to change the world you want to have us feed them to the opposite of sin Athena asked for a name I was with a bunch of therapists two years ago I told him the same thing I said I understand after 45 minutes you kicked a kid out that's it times up and the kids in the middle of a but I'm about trying out okay whatever it is it is I said I said to them all same thing like in this room I said how many of you have the kid that you're seeing and you're seeing them because they have a problem you're taking money because they have a problem how many of you know their their names and their mothers names how many of you go home at night after you got you might after everything and you sit down and you say okay I'm seeing these seven kids because well so I'm gonna say capital Dylan for them no Madhu I know medulla I want to tell you what just happened on my ranch so I have a ranch it's a it's a place for mental health to help girls with mental health problems girls that don't need anorexic girls depressed girls anxious girls girls who cut girls they try to commit suicide so we have this ranch a very very special place very very special place we do a coin therapy we have horses whatever it's an amazing place we have going and working on the ranch because I'm not cleaning the manure on the barn and most Jewish girls are not doing that and most Jewish guys are not doing that so we have this real guy named Chris you know what Chris does Chris was 45 years in shop right up in Monticello and then he retired and he decided that he wants to be on a farm so he comes in every day and he cleans the manure out of the paddocks of the horses cleans their brushes them feeds them takes him in takes him out not a job than any one of us would do and I have girls on this on this ranch and I see - a girl that was on this ranch from England when she came she wouldn't talk to me three words no communication skills whatsoever she was here for five months this Friday I went to the ranch I'm in the mountains and Chris works every day except Sunday he's a real guy redneck open the hill in the Catskills the real thing with the pickup truck they got some ice and the boots and the whole thing he comes over to me he says rabbi Wallace team you remember Jenny called her Jenny I said sure I remember Johnny he said you know she when she left two weeks ago she wrote me a letter I was like she won't you yeah I shouldn't even talk to get high she wrote you a letter he goes yeah I think it's on his phone he says could I give you could I give you the letter I'm like sure I'll walk you to your pickup chart listen to me everyone I go to his pickup truck he has a box he made a hundred copies of this letter nobody in their lives ever woke this guy a letter or thanked him for anything he's giving this letter out to everyone he meets you want to hear girl wrote me a letter or a crazy cuz you said you have no idea he was crying to me he was standing there and I read it and as I was reading it this is a 60 year old as I you know tough cowboy mountain guy the guy was crying like a baby I want you to read a letter from a girl that had mental illness that was challenged and I call us at talk to a guy that cleaned her horse - Chris as I leave I wanted to take this opportunity thank you for all you do at the ranch thank you for the times I know about and the times I don't know about for what you do I really should underline enjoyed your company while tending to Lacey Lacey is the name of the horse thank you so much for cleaning all the stalls and caring for the horses especially those treats he gives them like cookies whatever really you did it with a smile not just doing your job I learned she drank to a good I learned a lot of positivity perseverance and commitment from you really may God give you continued strength to help so many others horses ducks and humans and may you have lots and lots of joy love which I can't when she wrote love Jenny this man's life is changed forever he's running around in a pickup truck with a hundred copies of this letter we don't understand what it means to ask someone madula what to thank somebody it's called Alice it's for no reason she wrote this letter he's nothing she left she went back to England he's not gonna do anything for her she wrote this letter because she saw someone took your horse well that is kind of a comma the people our parents our friends our family that people ensure the rub how many times do people walk over to the rub and say I just want to thank you I know it's very hard to be a rough you can't make everyone happy and people walk out when you give you share and people talk and it annoys you but it doesn't matter you still are rough and you're still there for us and you still care about us you think a rough doesn't mean it you think a person doesn't need a compliment and a thank you yeah it's obvious it's obvious enum there's no reason for it the same thing is sin asking them up why do you hate someone for no reason they have something you don't have you're not supposed to have what they have why do you hate them well they're there they sometimes people say I don't like him I'm like why don't you like him I don't know it makes me nauseous it makes me nauseous every time I look at him makes me nauseous why did he hurt you did he steal from you they do something to you did he take your driveway through rocky driveway now I understand why you hate him but no just don't like him he just he echoes me I love that word he just pickles me that's why we don't we don't have a basin big dish everybody people I tell you for no reason II I'm playing I'm not talking to you you listening it to me talk to myself why I don't let you like him usually because he's like you that's why you don't like him it's usually the reasons I can't psychologically you don't like someone because they remind you of yourself yes if I sounding well listen to what happens so he's lost he's in a he's in a dungeon but a bunch of lowlifes can imagine they're lowlifes if they ended up in the dungeon how lowlife they are and he's in this dungeon and he's asking these two Arabs he's got his own problems he's lost his brothers we'll never find them right they accused him of terrible aveiro so he's a big trouble he stuck he's not getting out but tifa's wife he accosted forget it you're done and what happens he says you know what because most I believe in you maybe this side of my skin was gonna make it out he'll mention my name my brothers will come looking for me they'll hear there's a Jew in jail and maybe as a long way around they're gonna get me we have all claro moisture mask is sitting here what's the last word moisture and positive ie a chef well you could say oh well you should go say he passed the test to do he had no time service brothers as you see later one he said I have no time to sent you a call from a shop you say you and he's forgotten this is what Sally's forgotten yeah so Moscow forgotten and if you stop at this pulsing at the end the price of a chef it's very very painful because so many of us so many times feel in this world why you say you assure you forgot me what's going on in my life where you could say I feel forgotten I'm doing everything I was supposed to it it's not working I feel forgot about my family I feel forgotten by God if you'll forgotten I feel alone last word a positive a chef but if you turn the page just one parent of the page in this cornish the next posting after value you should go pay you is by you he mutation us I am young man will pilot claim and turn the page again and this yo safe was forgotten in the worst place in the world well yo man parallel yo save but he also plows Tabata a Yeaton I thought yeah yo say about you bush and what does he say to him he says I thought er bassy you are second to the king and the only difference between me and you is the key say is the throne from the lowest place in the world for being forgotten too though second to the king of Egypt the king of the king of the world and he saves the whole world you just have to hold on until the page turns don't have time there's a few more like this it is maybe I'll have time to come back to Mission Bay no I want to go somewhere amazing I want to go to ruse interesting Schwartz before Titian above let's go to list for a minute amazing amazing this really when I taught this in school maybe even hit more because they're girls maybe it hit more even the ice about sounding let's start off Regulus for us first three pursue Kim you may say how shaved in here uh boretz the page is not good class all starving well email let the army masculine and Killian by Yama cell email at third posture the MLF dies and she's left with the two kids well he moves to come stay him and they die macht Lynette Fillion the beginning of Russ is tragedy tragedy the army loses her husband her sons her money she loses everything she's in a very bad place okay she comes back she has nothing right she comes back what does she say Article II the army colony Mara call me Mara Kihei mashach Le Moyne I'm really suffering a sham really made it better for me I need Malaya Hall a sativa rake in mushy Vani I left full children boys future grandchildren I'm gonna have grandchildren a husband money and I came back with nothing don't call me Nami I deserve it for letting my husband go where he went whatever call me so at this point she had kharece she had no children her two boys were dead to be no grandchildren she told herself that I'm too old I can't have any more children so that's it life is over she's not going anywhere nothing's not happening that's the first five six sukham of us the last plus ik of rus well I've a highly desi shy what's the last four words the yeesh I hail it as dove it tragic no food no money no sons no husband nothing and then you finish worse you have doubled a milking machine it's amazing turning the page what happens but a girl of my summary got up and said none and then I ran Watson you can't mix the two must had the baby not Nami so you're right not me had a very bad start but just had a bad ending this had a baton a bad start she had a good ending why why are you giving this you shy Haley is dogged you're giving that to the army that's because you have to look at the sukham the turkey was telling you something what are the sukham say but he cast me as her Yellen but the healer gloominess she was his nurse but the Gran Dolina Spanish a lame are you lad been leaning on me a son was born to Nami not to rose now everybody listen to this had mrs. husband had a child before he died they'd be no ye boom and if there was no ye bum they'd be no Boas if there's no Boas there's no Yishai Haley this dove it so what looked on the first page as such tragedy that she lost both her sons she's not gonna have any more grandchildren the only reason that there was even was because she was most her sons and her child was his child ended up being named after Nami just have to turn the page and this is in our life this is not just in the Toyota the Toyota is all lives we don't always get to see the end of the story but if you surrender to a Kurdish bar where you understand that it's a safe reserve way nice on Rosh Hashanah the young cowboy and the pages turn it's a safer of the toilet there are pages in the safer that is written on Rosh Hashanah and just because you're stuck on a page and something's going wrong there's another page and another page in a claw we shouldn't have to read I have a young dude but just in case Aixa it begins your buddy ear oh you wish a lion sits alone c'mon ah like a widow Widow is the most painful relationship it doesn't say like an orphan it doesn't say like a woman who's divorced it says like an almond ah because then I'll mana a husband and a wife shouldn't happen in South room but the husband and wife of one of them dies so this relation if someone pastor Shawn counselor someone loses a child pastor Shalom this relation if someone loses a parent does a year why why isn't do a year for all of them or solution for all of them so cause al says that if someone loses a child they don't need to be reminded over the year that it wants to child it's something that never goes away a person who loses a spouse goes to bed every night in a room that's empty they look across the beds empty they don't need to say Kaddish for a year to realize that there was this fast they see it every single night when a person loses a parent they don't see them all the time and we don't remind them every day that there was the parent they go back to work they forget about that they had a parent so they'll sit for three year you're gonna you're gonna remember you gonna say Kaddish you remember you have a parent someone loses a child has a shovel or somebody who loses a spouse we don't have to remind you so the reason it's brought down that a claw is karamaneh is because Kleiss role should feel every single day that the bed next to them is empty and that we don't have you with Shalom and we don't have machine and we don't have the base on meet us and we don't have the Sheena and therefore that's the expression that's used not a yas'm not a divorcee but an al mana that's how a hoe begins you're alone in your room you're missing you shall I am you're missing the Sheena you're an al mana don't get stuck on that page don't get stuck in gulls because there's all the all of us know that if you turn the page as you see me turning how she very know the last bus sick how she very know Hashem Alessa in a shoe book how this you may know kick and then Curtis Barth who bring us back bring us back the old days turn back the pages bring us Messiah we and Gullah s-- are going through such a such a hard time don't get stuck on the page everybody it's a very hard time it seems like my yushka say who it seems like that last word and passes by a chef turn the page there will be any case they will be an end to this godless we will sit by the king like I said italic did we won't make a kill shot sham for the rest of the world don't get stuck on the page of gulls that wash em do have us FINA somebody told me I don't know if the story is true or not I can't tell you if the story is true or not but someone told me today that Carlebach you know slow acog passed away had a heart attack on a plane I think it was going to Toronto coming back from Toronto whatever it is and that a man came to the Shiva there was sitting Shiva I guess his daughters and they didn't know who he was and he said you don't even know who I am but I'm gonna tell you why I'm here this person will tell me today said his aegis on this and this is a true story I don't know I wasn't there so Carlebach used to take numbers of people like he would go to a restaurant he says give me your number I'll call you one day I'll give you a link whatever it is you should take numbers of people so he was in the airport and he was there early and in those days there were quarters of telephones and he had met some man in a restaurant whatever it was and he had a whole list of papers he did have a whole list of paper that had phone numbers on it so he called this guy up not me that's what a slave Allah my holy brother how are you today he says why are you calling me it's his memory in the restaurant together yeah you should all come back cuz yeah he says you're my holy brother I just want to know if you could if you're okay yeah okay I'm fine thank you so much for calling I'm on the plane he died that on that fighter on the flight coming home so why this guy come to Barack Obama so he told the door this is what I was told I want you to know that when your father called me I had a noose around my neck I was about to kick the chair off and this angel calls me for no reason and I realized it's not my time to go he says that's why I'm coming here tonight that was the last phone call supposedly that he made I again I was told this today from someone who said nominators you don't know when you say hello to someone well how are you with that person's ad so when the guy comes collecting tomorrow asking for the name of his wife or his kid whoever sick whoever needs she took him find out the name maybe go to a restaurant that you know give them a hundred dollars and tell them every once in a while I'm going to send someone in here I'll write a little card to you a little note because all these collectors they don't have a place to eat whatever it is and go there to go to Garden of Eden wherever it is go wherever you want here's $20 just just show people that you care about them asked you know asked the question asked the question last night a bunch of boys asked me I was going to speak in Woodburn in a camp and what you guys asked me for a ride and they got into the car I say guys yeah money they were like ready they didn't look like they were so you have money going you want you want you want to get some pizza or something you guys are hungry whatever's known right whilst you know yeah we just state we just say thank you sure I won't kiss you said you know no one ever asked us we hitched a lot the whole summer nobody asked us if we're hungry nobody asked us do we have a place for Shabbos even if they don't need they don't need the place just like you ask me means I exist you don't know everyone in this room how many people feel they're invisible they don't exist they come from a nice well they're coming collecting you we don't even ask them who they are what they are well the last time someone bench grammo in shul and you ask them did you come back you just go back to ready to throw or something did you have an accident did something happen it's going well next one bench grab on this one bench read you have a place to eat tonight you have a place for Shabbos you bench go he's a stranger right you bit why'd you bench grandma you know what's going on we like we know my duos we don't ask my do what we just like everything goes right by this is what we need to fix we need to have a vez que Nome for no no reason the ladies that sit outside Landau's I've asked them anytime you want a coffee alright cuz I'm into this now since I'm giving my ones myself loser well you know many times I say yes a lot of times they say yes there's the early in the morning oh that would be so nice there's a person that I know there's a cup and I always say this is a cup and we put quarters in the club remember everyone that the cups connected to a hand and the hands connected to a person so don't pay so much attention to the cup in your corner pay attention to the person who's holding the cup and if we do that guaranteed has she 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