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Don't Be Afraid of Success - A Different Reading on the Story of the Spies
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Women's Shlach Class This women's class was presented on Tuesday Parshas Shlach, 22 Sivan, 5779, June 25, 2019 at the Ohr Chaim Shul, Monsey, NY
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the yeshiva dotnet it was probably the
greatest collective failure of
leadership in the genesis of Jewish
history when Masha Rubino sends twelve
leaders 12 spies upon whom about whom
the terror testifies that they were
prominent leaders
Ailish Moyes Hashem mashallah mashallah
Souris R is neither the names of the men
who Moshe sent to scout the land and the
terror describes them as coulomb an
awesome they were all men rush ibanez
roll aim of the heads of the sons of
Israel what does it mean Kulemin awesome
they were all men obviously if he sent
12 men they were men so rashly says :
awesome Shiva McCarroll awesome Kashi
voz when it says they were men it's like
you say you're the man or he's the man
they were all men of distinction men
people of great prominence of great
dignity of great significance of great
virtue as he says voice aw shucks cherem
are you they're considered they're
described as the heads the heads of the
Jewish people
meaning they are blessed with with
leadership skills with extraordinary
qualities and characteristics this is
how they're described and yet and we had
notwithstanding the great qualities that
these individuals possess somehow their
mission ends up in a colossal failure
and catastrophe the stakes are high the
hopes are elevated everybody is looking
forward to enter into the Promised Land
they are so
host to come back give a report and
explain to the people the nature of the
land the flavor of the wine thank you
thank you
the nature of the land the flavor of the
land the nature of that position the
empires they would have to confront
moshe asks them to describe the people
who are living there how many people are
living there the population the strength
of the population the nature of the
earth the different types of cities that
are there how fortified they are to
bring back the fruits and when are shem
sense the hemlock Aloha an awesome send
men and as we said Rashi says men means
people of prominence my guess in
parentheses it would be worthy to note
the commentary of the clay ochre written
in the 17th century
1600s and Prague the clay ochre says God
says to marshes Locka Locka notion send
to you men and the word to you is of
course very awkward flocking awesome
send men and let them scout the land to
slack locomotion so the clay ogre says
the fact that you're sending men is your
position it's your idea and it's your
responsibility if it was up to me so
clay a little older than me I will only
send women dude that's what he says you
could look it up
Slavic on mush this is a bad idea to
send men listen to me thank you for
agreeing and very good make sure to tell
your husband in God's name that's what
the clay akka says this is not a
commentary written today he wrote this
in the 1600s he says God says if it was
up to me do not send men this mission
has to be done by women take ten women
twelve women send them Terry to zero
because they're loved
land and their resilience is far
superior but you're not ready for that
so I'm just telling you I disagree I
think you should send women anyway the
rest as they say is history
and history is made up of two words his
story should have been her story and
then history would have been changed and
substituted with her story which maybe
would have been better but that's what
the clay up here interprets the Schleck
Lacan notion you could look it up in the
Commish my crocodile is clay occur the
truth is we do we're source sheets on
the yeshiva dotnet I'll put on the clay
occur and the video of this source
sheets so you'll be able to see the clay
occur inside what happens as we know
instead Marsha doesn't send women he
sends men and the terror lists the names
of the men they come back and when they
come back we have an explicit report of
what they said they spoke to moisture
they spoke to the people and they said
we went to the land it flows with milk
it flows with honey they display it's
delicious fruits but then they add but
the nations that live there are mighty
and the cities are excessively fortified
and the inhabitants are giants the
people say lay knew koalas we can't we
cannot ascend into the land the people
are more powerful than us in the quarrel
and the battle that we will encounter we
will surely be defeated
they say that it's a land that consumes
its inhabitants
all the people that we have seen there
are huge humongous muscular powerful the
result is of course national despair
they managed to dissuade the entire
nation
and deplete the energy the vitality the
enthusiasm to go in the entire nation
breaks down sobbing and says we wish we
could have died in Egypt or at least in
the desert why should we die a violent
bloody death why should we subject our
wives and our children to die in
battlefields let's at least go back to
Egypt where we could spear slaves and
not die there are two spies as we know
who disagree Yahshua from the tribe of
Ephraim Yusuf and Khalif from the tribe
of Yehuda collie the son of you funa and
high share your issue with the son of
known those are the only two of the 10
of the 12 who take a different position
who try to instill confidence and faith
and conviction but the majority they're
outnumbered by the majority of their
colleagues who disagree with them and
managed to transform the mood of the
nation and from a hopeful promising
moment in Jewish history turns into a
moment characterized by the spear by
sadness by depression as the terror says
the entire nation cries a whole night
attacking Moshe and I rain about this
horrendous and vicious idea of taking an
innocent people to die by a sword by the
hands of these fortified nations living
in the land of Canaan and Erica strong
we all know the continuation of the
story
Hashem tells Moshe that I want to smite
the people let them die here in the
desert and you will begin a new nation
moysha once again stands up and prays
and argues god
forgives he says so octahedra I forgive
but the people will not enter into the
land they will remain in the desert 40
years they will wander the wilderness
their children their children the top
hem their children they will enter into
into the land they left mitzrayim on the
15th of Nissen this happened one year
and two months later 14 months later the
spies were sent on the 29th of 7 one
year after the anniversary of the exodus
one year in 2 months 14 months they
spent 40 days scouting surveying the
land they came back tradition has it the
gomorrah says and Thainess it was the
day of tonight of touch number / they
came back and that's when the edict
happened so you're dealing with one year
after the anniversary of Egypt a year
and a few months and then they remained
there for the four decades they came
into the land over to stall with Yeshua
be known in the year 2488 since creation
the exodus of Egypt happened in the year
2 4 4 8 now we're living in five seven
seven nine right hey Allah from Tufts
and I ain't s go back a few years to
Bayes Allah from tough Memphis to four
four eight since creation that's when
the exodus of Egypt happens forty years
later the enter into the land that's
two thousand four hundred and eighty
eight forty eight to eighty eight forty
years yeah and four hundred and forty
years later my mom my look builds the
first base of McNish so for the first
four hundred and forty years there
without a temple they have a Myshkin but
that's mobile it moves around but the
permanent structure in Jerusalem was
built only for engine of forty years
later it stood for four hundred and ten
years and then they were exiled by
Babylonia in the first exile to bubble
which was present-day Iraq so they
remained an area to sell for more than
800 years
proximately 850 years for 40-plus for 10
and then they were exiled so that's
around 850 years and then many come back
70 years later to rebuild a second base
on Marrakesh most Jews remain in exile
but 42,000 Jews come back to rebuild and
there are some Jews who always remained
in Eric's East role even during the
Exile Nebuchadnezzar allowed some Jews
to stay who mostly assimilated and
intermarried during that period and Ezra
and his colleagues had to create really
a Jewish Renaissance ok you got it
the moraga l'm forty days oh I thought
you meant how long would the Jews in
Israel so I gave this whole history
lesson sorry the morale in 40 days that
alone forty days yeah a month and ten
days yeah they had to travel the land so
it takes 40 days you'd ever travel there
too strong when Hashem turns to moisha
and starts sharing with them his
feelings about what happened his first
words is omnia not suniye Amazo how long
will this nation cause me such pain
Vardhan Allah yamino be bacala a sister
shall see she became boy how long much
longer will they not believe and all the
wonders all the miracles that I have
done to them and hence I don't think
there is a future here
let them perish in the desert Masha
fights back so to speak he's successful
and God says they won't die in the
desert it'll be a long time many of them
lived for another forty years or thirty
years whatever it was and their children
will come in into the land will come
into the land after this story the
terror makes a sharp shift into a theme
that would seem disconnected and the
next theme is called in a Sock'em
moussaka means libations right after
this story
Shem tells moisha tells the Jews that
when they enter into the land which now
we know is going to be 40 years from now
so you start speaking to him about
something that's going to be relevant
forty years later and as Raschi says
that it's actually a very promising
moment because after everything he ran
away tells Myesha tell them that when
they come into the land in other words
they're going to come in it's gonna take
some time he gives them a mitzvah Venus
Aachen the middle of an assault him is
that when they brought offerings in the
base--emitter dish many of the offerings
had to be accompanied with nosaka which
are libations of wine a certain
measurement of wine would be filled in a
cop and poured together with the
offering on the altar
that's the Mitzvah that is introduced
right after the spies the second Mitzvah
is introduced one that you're very
familiar with them it's Valhalla that
when you're breaking grey you're baking
the dough you're baking the bread or
whatever you're baking from with the
grains from the five grains so part of
the dough is separated as tithed and
it's identified as a sacred section of
the dough known as challah which is like
a true mat separated and given to the
cayenne and it's considered a holy food
a sacred food that the Cayenne must eat
in purity that's the second Mitzvah
that's introduced seems very disjointed
we have the story with the spies and
then suddenly in 40 years bring wine
libations and separated oh ask Allah and
then there's one more Mitzvah that's
brought in this portion at the end of
the portion the Mitzvah of tsatsis also
suddenly emerges the Mitzvah of tsatsis
that if there is a cloak with four
corners there should be what we call the
fringes the National I'll sit cysts are
kind of so pale as the fringes that come
out of that club that we know it's it's
us and as the terrorist says each one of
the corners should have one strand one
one of the fringes should be of Kahless
which is turquoise bluish wool that is
dyed with a special turquoise color
that's that Mitzvah comes in here as
well what is the connection what is the
fee
seems very disjointed as there is a
thematic connection which brings us to
the central question how did this
failure happen how did this happen if
moisture would have sent no-goodniks
rabble rousers troublemakers okay we
could perhaps understand that even then
it would be difficult to grasp but how
did this catastrophe happen what went
wrong how are we to understand the story
the commentators have struggled with the
story for thousands of years
any commentator of himesh from the
earliest generations till our generation
was forced to confront this story what
happens what was the mistake what was
the error there are enormous amounts of
interpretations a large diversity of
interpretations today I want to present
to there really two on two extremes two
opposite extremes at least on the
surface one has to do with an element
that we know today very well a lot of
studies have been done research has been
done we call it self-fulfilling
prophecies we also know a lot about the
power of fear the gripping power of fear
and maybe the best way to summarize it
in simple terms is this whether you
believe you can or you believe you can't
your are probably right if you believe
you can you're probably right
and if you believe you can't you're
probably right it's not just semantics
and feel-good psychology but there's a
truth to it much of life is a
self-fulfilling prophecy
I believe I can't
I'm right I can't I believe I can't and
I really can't because I can't
my actual neurons my hundred billion
neurons firing away every millisecond
every nanosecond if the message that is
conscious in my brain is I can't then I
really can't I'm not joking I'm not
trying to run away
I can't I'm incapable and if I believe I
can then I actually can
is it true in every situation of life I
don't know if it's true in every
situation of life but many situations of
life we can see it a lot of us have
experienced this or experienced this in
our own lives I once read the sad but
humorous story or anecdotal story about
this fellow who was an ultimate
pessimist but like the real thing you
know he always spoke about of how
miserable his life was and how he was
destined to the worst block and Mosel
and everything was supposed to go wrong
and whenever anything went wrong it was
I told you so and he worked for a he
worked in the exporting business and he
would load trains that would travel
intercontinental long long distances for
hours or days to different different
states of the Union and he once loaded a
train it was a refrigerator train with
Beery products that was supposed to go
to Vancouver and it had milk and yogurt
and cheese and cream cheese and ice
cream and butter dairy products a
refrigerated train just simply to
transport the food and he finished
loading this train which would now
travel for approximately 40 hours and
he's about to leave the train but
mishap the doors close and off the train
goes before the cellphone days and he
knows it's supposed to be a refrigerated
train which means he's supposed to be in
a refrigerator for the next 40 hours or
so slow death of hypothermia and he sits
down to write his final will and
testament his family finds a piece of
cardboard takes out a pen after of
course pounding on a door that nobody
hears as the train is off off on its
journey and he's pounding and pounding
no response finds a piece of cardboard
writes his final will to his wife and
children he starts off I always knew
that I would die in such a fashion and
he laments how miserable his life was is
and will be what a miserable death he
will encounter he does wish them well
and hopes that they experience a
brighter and better future than he did
the train arrives in Vancouver the door
is open and the people are there to
unload the merchandise and they see this
fellow looks like in a comatose state
unconscious there on the floor they
immediately immediately bring the doctor
to check him out he checks him out and
the fellow is unconscious symptom is
hypothermia but he can't understand
because the refrigerator was off this is
just a dramatic display of what is true
and so much in such a more subtle
fashion and that is we seldom Lee we
often fail to challenge the initial
awareness that produces so many of our
emotional responses when I'm
experiencing an emotional response
whether it's anger or despair or
terrible frustration I
orphan worship that emotion and take it
for granted it's a given and the
question is how do I deal with this
given but what if I could go back what
if I can trace back this emotion to the
awareness that is producing it there is
a certain mindset that is behind it that
mindset I have to challenge I have to be
able to look at I have to see what is
the belief system that is the oxygen of
this emotion every emotion has oxygen
and without the oxygen it can't live
there's not a motion in the world that
is not being fueled by messages from
your conscious and from your unconscious
can I can you have the courage to be
able to look at those to be able to
examine those the Moraga limb actually
didn't lie
the Rambam points this out they didn't
lie
they described factual truths when they
came and said the land is flowing with
milk and honey and these are its fruits
it was accurate when they said that the
nations the empires the tribes that are
living there are mighty the cities are
fortified excessively they were
describing facts we will see later in
the book of yahshua the book of Joshua
that they were describing facts the fact
that they encountered Giants was a
description of facts the Ramban asks the
question did you want them to lie did
you want them to come back and say
peanuts
it's a garnished chopped liver bupkis
nothing don't worry nobody home did you
want them not to say the truth they said
what they saw but it came with a
conclusion and the conclusion was and
therefore loin local allies we can't we
really can't they are more powerful than
us we simply can't
the
it's were true Hashem is response to
what happened in many ways
the Rambam says the Sumerian of 'him is
not a classic punishment as we often
perceive the word punishment when we
hear the word punishment and that's
something I think people have to really
get over we understand that it's like
I'm gonna get even with you I'm gonna
teach you a lesson
I'm stronger than you and you will see
it you will not defeat me I will defeat
you we sometimes hear in the word
punishment some vengeance some quid pro
quo I'm gonna get back at you I'm gonna
get take back my honor and my power but
imagine you are the most confident
loving empowered mother in the world
anybody the most confident loving
empowered mother okay and and your
little baby like disobeyed rules do you
ever feel like I'm gonna get back at him
I'm gonna take revenge I'm gonna teach
you a lesson we have such emotion
especially we men have such emotions but
that's when we're in a more primitive
and weak and impulsive and impetuous and
exhausting state but when I'm in a
wholesome state I may want to discipline
my child but completely out of love out
of hearing out of affection it's never I
lose myself my temper overtakes me and I
simply lose it now we lose it sometimes
because were weak and that's why there's
something called apology saying I'm
sorry learning lessons saying you know
it was this was a weak moment and that's
part of the view of humans and that's
why we always try not to judge people by
their worst moments rather by how they
respond to their worst
don't judge yourself based on your worst
moments we have bad moments weak moments
judge yourself based on how you respond
to those challenging moments the fact
that I lose it okay
I'm human and I lose it I have eight
Sahara how do I respond to that moment
do I suddenly take my failures and turn
them into success stories does my
weakness now become a philosophy that's
where the challenge is not that I have
weak moments and bad moments it's that
the weak moments are suddenly hallowed
and worshipped and sanctified and they
become a gangster
there was an old Yiddish anecdote about
you know this fellow who was sitting in
the theatre in the theatre and you had
to take off your hat you know in Europe
you had to take off your hat wherever
you went
coming in with a hat was disrespectful
and this fellow was sitting in the
theatre and with this big hat so the guy
behind them says you're blocking me he's
sorry I have a principle I don't take
off my hat and they get into this whole
argument and finally a middle of the
play he's so frustrated he knocks off
his hat and he sees that the guy is
completely bald
so then with expression in you dishes at
the hostel Caracas my flesh constricted
from them just because your ball don't
turn it into a philosophy into a
I have weak moments I don't have to turn
them into awful acephate I can say I'm
sorry I can apologize I can be
vulnerable and when I learned from that
and I learned to be in a more confident
loving and empowered space then even if
I'm disciplining it's never with a sense
of impulsive anger and and craziness
it's coming from a deep place of effect
of affection of attachment of carry so
when we read the story in posh LA and it
seems like you know God says that's it
that's it I'm wiping them out again and
I let it wait wait it's not
understood god forbid kalila as this
impetuous uninhibited sense of vengeance
and anger but it's really much deeper
than that and that is once the Jews
believe that they can't go in they can't
they can't they won't be successful
there was a formidable task edema
Wrangler weren't lying that's why the
first thing God says is uh-uh no lawyer
I mean do be Bajal oi sister sure Assisi
the keeper there was only one tool that
they had that would allow them to be
successful and that is faith and
conviction if they lack this tool they
indeed would not be able to go in it
would really be cruel to take them in
just to be defeated if you believe you
can't you really can't it's a
self-fulfilling prophecy we spoke last
week about Miriam and and and the
daughter of Pyrrha she stretched out her
arm but she stretched out her arm
if you stretch out your arm I am going
to do what I'm going to do great things
can happen but if I pull back to my arm
I'm incapable I can't deal with this
this is beyond me it's beyond me I have
to be able to extend my arm
who said Roosevelt we have nothing to
fear but fear itself it's the fear that
they experienced when they sought and
you know when you see something that's
very powerful it's extremely impactful
it's the fear that gripped them it made
them panic it made them paralyzed and
when they brought that back to the
Jewish people it became a self
actualized prophecy
I believe I can't and I can't I really
can't I'm not capable the same facts
don't change
there was a senator of Senator mone Ian
used to say you're entitled to your own
opinion but you're not entitled to your
own facts there's a big difference
you're entitled everybody's inside of
that I prefer not to your own facts but
the same facts could be said in
different ways the morale gloom came
back and said the facts and then they
gave a conclusion and therefore it's
obvious heavier we're barking up the
wrong tree
Egypt is a much better option Loy
Newhall alloys we are not capable that
is a belief system that is not a fact I
say it to myself as a fact I can't I
can't I can't deal with this
those are my neurons that are
pre-programmed to think slavery it's a
mindset of slavery I can't I can't I
can't we don't even notice that we're
telling it to ourselves it's obvious I
can't write somebody once said just
because I'm paranoid doesn't mean the
whole world is not out to get me
just because everybody why I said I
shouldn't say I can't doesn't mean that
it's not true that I can't true it's a
fact it is a fact it's a fact because I
turned it into a fact because I shrink
myself I put myself into that box
because I don't realize Who I am you
don't realize who you are you're an
ambassador of the divine God says if you
really don't have this conviction if you
don't add muscle oh yeah I mean only by
Hollow incise if you don't have this
type of conviction of course you can't I
understand so you won't that's true
impartial safe them very good when they
went to war the kaiyan would announce me
Huish I you're a miracle evolve somebody
who was frightened shouldn't go because
they were afraid that he will demoralize
the other troops that fear can grip
people and then they really become
paralyzed
but there's another way of interpreting
the story a completely different way of
interpreting the story
I shouldn't say completely in a deep
place that two interpretations are
really one as always a loo valid every
alikum Khayyam and God is one but it's a
different angle a different perspective
and this second interpretation I heard
from the lubavitcher rebbe and it's
probably I could say from all the
interpretations it's certainly one of
the most creative ones and deering ones
and he argued that the spies were not
afraid of defeat that was not the fear
at the surface it seems like it was a
fear of defeat they were afraid of
something else they were afraid of
victory what they said to the Jewish
people is one thing what was behind what
they said is something else completely
the spies were not afraid to lose they
were afraid to win let's understand them
what did they have now going on in the
desert what did they have they have
everything they had everything this was
a messianic life par excellence they
were living in a utopian jury no
mortgage payments no tuition payments
moisture than in charge to wish God
didn't charge to wish yeah no grocery
bills no therapy bills no e-bills even
to go to a nutritionist to help you deal
with the Shabbos diet of egg salads and
mayonnaise and chopped liver and Shaolin
Kiska Allah and Allah P no herring with
a lot of oil because the
no rugelach in the desert no cheesecake
no babka and all the zhonya no carbs
heavenly mana mama so he didn't even
have to pay to go to the gym personal
trainer yoga pilates nutritionists with
acupuncture even that bill was gone what
the gamora says in you malaria by P
soilless the mana had nothing in it that
couldn't be converted into the
bloodstream when we eat food part of the
food hopefully most of the foods depends
what you're eating I don't know what you
had for breakfast but hopefully most of
the food can become part of the
bloodstream and part of our energy flow
and this part of the food that the body
evacuates because the body says sorry no
use for this it belongs somewhere else
we call it the soilless that's what our
body does for us the man did not have
any Silas
there are many producers they made a
brush on it I'm worried she left him
mean hashamayim wasn't Minar it's asthma
not sure my that was the blessing on the
manna so you understand what type of
bodies they had their bodies were
aligned with its natural innate divine
energy and chemistry you know who the
teachers were moisture Urbana was a
teacher Aaron was a teacher they were
protected on every level physically
emotionally socially spiritually now I
ask you a question you got to be crazy
to leave this life you got to be crazy
they knew that in the land everything
changes no mana from heaven sudden leads
carbs
can you imagine they have to become
farmers agricultural experts they have
to build armies and fight wars they have
to build an infrastructure they got to
build homes and cities there is the
politics of building a nation even pure
politics it's the politics there's the
responsibility of a physical life of a
material life there are bills to pay
they have to make meat staff
make ends meet there's the stress of
raising children of building families of
maintaining a country of dealing with
enemies within and without
so the spies were frightened of victory
they were afraid that we're going to be
successful and we'll enter into the land
and what will happen in the desert
you're living with God in the closest
proximity Hashem is in your bedroom
engulfed by clouds of glory Ananya cover
it with moisture as your teacher the
greatest prophet communicating what he
heard today in the morning yesterday
from my chemin self the Shema is there
there's a cloud of glory our PRM used to
appear sham yahoo knew the GPS God's
positioning system every step you take
every breath every step you take every
breath every moment is an expression of
that intimacy with the divine presence
in the Land of Israel
nature will take over a life of nature a
life of rain and seasons and natural
foods you don't have this rolling rock
biracial Miriam coming with you and
everything else that came along with
life in the desert protected on all
levels it was literally a heavenly
existence on earth the spies were
terrified of it and it's three words
they say Eretz ILS your smell it's a
land that eats up its inhabitants the
responsibilities of material life will
eat us up they will consume us they will
stress us out and most importantly it
will be it will spell the end of this
rich powerful infinite relationship with
the divine everything is going to change
that's what the spies are afraid of
that's what the miraculous are terrified
of they're afraid of this awesome
miss responsibility pressure and stress
as a whole new paradigm opens up before
them as the previous life is transformed
and they have to face a material world
in all of its Brutis air it's a hellish
mal what they tell the Jewish people is
one thing what they their intentions
behind what they tell the Jewish people
is something else completely
and yet this means that there was a
nobility to their sin there was
something wholly about their sin the
space Emmis says the Zohar says why
didn't the Miss spies want to go on tear
to zero because here they were leaders I
mentioned in the beginning the terror
identifies them as a rush a B'nai you
saw they were heads Cesaro says they
knew if they enter into the land they
won't be heads anymore they're going to
be feet so everyone interprets desire
that they were scared they're gonna lose
their leadership position here
they're big markers over there they'll
be replaced there'll be new elections so
they said let's stay here it seems like
a power struggle but the truth is it's
not it's much deeper what they meant was
not only themselves everybody is ahead
in the desert the brain is the place the
seat of consciousness the brain is the
place where the soul is visible the
Meldrick and obviously Reb Nasim calls
the acre of the sole of the foot the
malacca mother's shiva autumn the angel
of death and a person because it gets
the least circulation that's why people
who suffer a little from diabetes though
the feet always get affected first
because the circulation they're in a
good day is not so strong it's so far
from the heart and therefore when
somebody is suffering with blooded with
the sugar and the blood etc the feet are
affected first the seat the head the
seat of consciousness is the brain the
central nervous system spiritually
speaking they said here
Rashi B'nai Israel we can where we have
consciousness we're aware were alert you
go into that land will be like in a
spiritual comatose state you're not
fully alive
it's like somewhat of a zombie we won't
have that that mental space that mental
awareness that connection that spiritual
deep intimate connection with God that
we have here in the desert what's
fascinating as we know today there are
two types of fears in life there is the
fear of losing of defeat there's another
fear it's a fear of success you'll ask
somebody do you want to be successful of
course I want to be successful but
sometimes we undermine our own success
because there is a fear in being
successful you know what happens when
you're successful you can't blame
anybody for your problems if I'm losing
I could blame everybody I could blame
this rig in the mom and that popped in
the community and the rabbi in the
system and the school and it is if I'm a
powerhouse I'm successful am I gonna
blame now I have to take responsibility
myself sometimes we're afraid to be
successful because success comes with
responsibility success means the buck
stops here success means I could
navigate my own life success means I can
author my own biography success means I
can let go of the resentments and the
fears and the shackles that hold me down
success means I'm free is it so easy to
be free free means actually there's
nobody else to blame the buck stops
right here I can be the master of my own
life I'm a free human being
I'm uninhibited I can't blame my spouse
and my sibling and my family and my
extended family and this one and that
one I have the ball in my court
sometimes we're very afraid of that
there's something nice about being a
neighbor case you know what I mean
although nobody says it nobody you want
to be another end the whole
no but then I started etching if I don't
want to be why am i this is an
unconscious source of fear this fear to
fail and therefore I will not try new
things I will not take risks I will not
be vulnerable I will remain in my
comfort zone
there's also another fear I'm fearful
that I'm gonna succeed there are people
sometimes stuck in a difficult marriage
they know that there are certain things
they can do and not do that will make
that marriage much more successful and
happier but they will revert back to
their old habits of looking at it the
same way saying the same thing and
reconfirm the negativity and toxicity of
the marriage what is it perhaps it's a
fear of being hurt again and sometimes
it's a fear of actually being free of
being happy of being powerful of being
successful it sounds a little
counterintuitive but the unconscious is
a very slight tricky guy the aids are
sometimes people are afraid to be happy
do you know that especially Jews they're
afraid to be happy that you're gonna
want to know what I'm taking what I'm on
why am i miss sugar if we're all
miserable
Baruch Hashem they say that once the
Knesset had this whole debate about how
to boost the Israeli economy because it
was in a difficult situation so an old
man says I have a great idea let Israel
declare war on America like Japan and
Germany and what did America do to Japan
and Germany wiped them out felt guilty
because Americans feel guilt and then
they rebuilt them into economic
superpowers let's declare war on America
America will wipe us out feel guilty and
that will become an economic superpower
and one old Jew in the Knesset gets up
he says one problem I have it's a
brilliant one from what happens if we
win the war
believe it or not sometimes people are
afraid to be a success story there's a
voice in me know my relationship with my
children has to be problematic my
marriage has to have some issues what am
I gonna say to them about busmalis
connection what's gonna happen to the
either Chakiris what you know what are
you dish attracts us you know what I
initially thought he said in French
there's no word in French the French
don't saya okay
are you the Seacrest what's gonna happen
to the grown to the site of the oh you
know the Oi
what's gonna happen to the and I ask you
what's gonna happen when she comes to
the inertia crafts ah aha like you know
the story about the three women in Miami
Beach and one says oh I got new reboiler
siloam and the fourth is we made up not
to talk about the children today
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sometimes there's a deep voice in me or
in you were in us that says I'm now let
it be happy I'm now let it be successful
I can't be a powerhouse I can be as
influential as I could be I can't be as
beautiful as I should be or could be
physically emotionally spiritually I
can't be Who am I to be for whatever
reason maybe it's some trauma maybe it's
some messages maybe this is going too
much out of the comfort zone maybe I'm
afraid of vayan horas all these types of
messages that say you stay in the closet
for life much better place but God says
it should I shoot him Hashmi Nia Skylar
her Amy s Moriah he call a arrived
or marry another you know those verses
in the Song of Songs he describes you're
a Nazi but have a a celibacy Sam I drink
my dove
is in the clefts of a rock you ever saw
a bird hiding in the cleft of Iraq
because it sees a vulture you ever see
you could see it in muncie sometimes I
got some vultures on my block and hawks
and these cute little adorable doves are
hiding but have a hog maze-like the
cleft be say sir Hamid Riga sure shoot
him says under a hidden step not to be
noticed so sure shoot him says her
Aeneas Mariah
show me your countenance Hashmi Mia
Scylla let me hear your voice recoil a
ra-vu my lover your voice is sweet and
your countenance is beautiful Carl had
tarnished my Bart's ain't no spring has
come it's time to come out of
hibernation learn from the trees they
hibernated a whole winter learned from
the beers they hibernated a whole winter
but as the Rays of the Sun emerge God is
saying come out of the clefts of the
rack it's time to blossom it's time to
get back your pigment of green it's time
to begin the process of photosynthesis
look at the trees and their full blossom
that's what he says they're the the
grains and the legumes and the
vegetables and all the fruits are
blooming and blossoming why don't you
also emerge from hibernation it's a
different type of fear it's a fear of
success what is it to be on top of the
world not on bottom of the world it's
very scary now I have to make decisions
now I'm responsible it's a whole
different experience am I allowed to
even be somebody once told me I'm afraid
to be happy
I said why cuz then God is gonna punish
me and I said and if you're not happy
then I'm already punished so it's good
but if I'm happy now I'm living a good
life he's gonna have to punish me I'm
like just give God as much credit as you
would give a healthy mother not more
just doesn't what would you say to a
mother who speaks like that about a
child you know I see my child as happy
time to destroy him right never heard a
mother speak like that my 17 year old is
happy which is a miracle of course right
your seventeen-year-old
comes home hey how is life MA awesome
right she okay we're ready if your 17
year old says MA and I'm looking forward
to tomorrow usually how is life what's
for supper again
good luck how is life yet you see your
child is happy oh this is not good this
is not good let's make it who thinks
like this why do people think that our
Shem wants them to be miserable I never
understood but everybody needs a source
for everything so it says in Paris he
saw a at the end of all the toilet huh
the worst thing is tacos I should lie
about it doesn't Shambala cancer simcha
over to evolve says the Rambam milk is
love that's what hurts God why aren't
you happy
Takata Basim kuvvatov wave of the Ramba
mineral crystal event that reaso gives
the same interpretation but sometimes
there is this I feel a lack of
permission for success and unconsciously
I may undermine my own success sometimes
people will say something they know deep
down they could have said something else
but they will perpetuate the toxicity of
the relationship they will perpetuate
the negativity just to make sure that
things don't change because success
comes with a big responsibility the
origin of this idea which is prevalent
today in psychology is in the spice the
Murad l'm they had a very noble
calculation but sometimes noble
calculations are still wrong because
it's not what Hashem wants in the words
of the Madras tongue Homa parshas nos a
matter Shaba parshas now say miss
avocadoes borrow holy is Lloyd dear
Batak Steinem one line god desired that
we build a dwelling place for him Batak
Steinem tak dhina means in the mundane
lower elements of reality I could
disengage from the world but my soul
could have also remained in heaven and
not come down the whole story of
existence of birth is entering into a
world entering into a body entering into
a Material Plane with the divine
consciousness is eclipsed a human being
dealing with physical reality facing the
realities of inside and outside and yet
having the courage to reveal the sheen
of the divine presence create a fragment
of heaven on earth this was the error of
the spies the spies were afraid of that
because they knew they are risks they
knew it takes courage it's easy to
remain in the paradise and yet that was
their sin it was the lack of the ability
to understand to believe to appreciate
that is your very purpose we are very
purposes to transform the landscape of
planet Earth
your very purpose is to confront your
demons your skeletons your insecurities
your trauma your addictions your very
purpose is that you are empowered to be
able to take earth and transform it into
heaven to take on holiness and transform
it into holiness to take the body and
align it with the soul to eat regular
food and eat drink regular drinks and
deal the day-to-day responsibilities of
life and yet experience divine intimacy
within that space are the risks involved
of course that's what they were afraid
of air it's a hell of a smell and thus
they neglected the whole purpose
of it it's something that paralyzes
still many Jews we are sometimes
terrified of the world we want to remain
sheltered in our own desert and then
when we do face the world it's sometimes
so difficult it becomes so overwhelming
we don't have the tools and we can
easily get lost the mistake of the spies
was to understand that the ultimate
purpose of Yiddish skite is to engage
and transform my environment into the
divine reality into a divine abode I
have nothing to fear and the reason I
have nothing to fear is because look how
shallow them camisa as the messengers of
our shrimp every Jew must enter into the
land and turn his or her land into arity
stroll into a place of holiness into a
place of sacredness never ever fear the
challenges that face you the reality
that you're in and feel that you must
disengage detach numb yourself from the
reality that faces you and all nominees
is a form of disengagement know I could
remain fully present and I can transform
the very gosh me the very hungry into
the divine of course the Jewish people
had to first be in the desert in order
to be able to enter into the land
because they had to have the strong
foundation but the desert was not the
goal it was the means it was the
beginning of the journey it was not the
end of the destination they wanted to
turn it into the end of the destination
and sometimes I have to really
appreciate this that the ultimate
purpose of yiddish kite was Lusaka knew
all along them all who sinned Allah dude
as we say three times in LA no to fix
the world to transform the landscape of
civilization the world was given to you
to elevate to sublimate to
metamorphosize don't be afraid of it
it's there for you to transform
beginning with your with your own body
with your own self with
your own environment internal and
external
and therefore right after the story come
the three mitzvos that give a blueprint
to this exact idea and here you see the
subtlety of the connections and the
profundity of the connections you're
going to become farmers you're not gonna
have mana you're not gonna have Miriam's
one of Miriam's water you're gonna build
gardens and orchards and farms and
fields and of course your orchards will
produce fruit and the greatest prominent
through the vineyards the vine with the
clusters of grapes that has a special
blessing usually fruit juice just gets a
Shaka oranges burger prea aids apples
burger create apple juice
shikaku orange juice shikaka why because
it's not the fruit anymore the value of
the fruit is the fruit you squeezed it
into juice great it's Asha haka like
water one exception wine you squeeze the
grape and from a8 it's elevated into
beta period often so you have this
beautiful orchard that you work it very
hard those of you who are farmers or
planted orchards you know what it takes
to nurture a vineyard or other fruit
trees it's not simple it comes with
blood and sweat and toil booze is a
pecker like Alaskan God tells are them
but the terror says a little bit of this
wine you're gonna bring up to the altar
and you're gonna pour and it's gonna
become really clear crush em of the vine
aroma and your whole vine is now
sanctified the whole vine is transformed
as part of it literally becomes a carbon
it becomes divine this is not mana from
heaven
this is mana from earth this is my labor
with weeds fighting grasshoppers and
fighting all the birds of all the birds
that are eating up my my ving my vines
and building fences vit Seng and
Seng and part of it becomes a divine
carbon
and then I farm migraine my spelt that
my oats and my rye and my wheat that my
barley and I'm baking but this is not
manna from heaven that lands in the
morning on forshay or on Lynn Crest or
on Lodi lane or on 3:06 or on the 59
everybody goes out of their house picks
up their mana brings it home there's
enough breakfast lunch and dinner how do
I know cuz right now some of you are
thinking what's gonna be for dinner
tonight they didn't have to do that by
their mod now today now if you can go
into the store and buy bread they didn't
have that luxury didn't buy bread you
went that you planted wheat then you
planted barley and the storks grew and
then you had two harvests and then you
have to Thresh and then you had to
window and then you have to select and
then you have to grind and then you have
to need and then you baked and today
many people don't even know what all
these words mean not even needing they
walk in give me pen Fowler's sign didn't
work that way and I finish and I have
this dough and it's ready he says no on
a piece of this dough you gonna separate
and it becomes true mirth becomes holy
it becomes divine both of these myths
have something very powerful and common
the rest of the dough you're going to
eat but part of this dough became divine
and then you have animals or your
animals that you have to raise you need
to get milk from your animals and you
need your animals to plow and you get
your animals for fleece and from your
animals from the fleece from the wool
you're gonna make a garment you're gonna
makes it's us and a part of this fleece
a part of this wool is going to become a
mitzvah census so you have here the
world of fruits you have the world of
grain farming and you have the animals
which becomes part of the ancient
lifestyle day to day life in generating
the revenue that came from these natural
resources that earth provides but what's
it's is there's one more thing there's
the Tallis of tsatsis the cloak that
garment and then there are the fringes
the tailor says I'll sit seasick enough
in each corner there should be one
strand one thread that's dyed with a
special turquoise so the Gemara says rip
mayor says painless dye Mulayam it looks
like this see the ocean which is diamond
Lakia which looks like the sky which is
diamond locusts are covered which looks
like the throne of glory blue in ancient
times was considered a royal color that
bluish turquoise color has something
very unique to it appealing to the eye
the color of royalty the Gemara says
reminds the person of the ocean reminds
them of the heavens and ultimately
reminds them of the throne of glory what
what does this what does all of this
mean what it means is I have a garment
and I have fringes hanging from the
garment and there's one strand one
thread that I look at it and it reminds
me of heaven and that's the Mitzvah of
cities I'm not living anymore in heaven
I'm living on earth but there's one
thread that I look at and it reminds me
to be able to look up to be able to see
heaven and that's the midst of tsatsis
and here lay the ultimate power of human
existence the ultimate power of human
existence is not that the person lives
within the blue heavens I don't but I
have to be able to stand on earth and
yet look up at that one strand that is
mixed into the other strands it's mixed
into the other threads it's heaven
leanness that's mixed in like makalah
like the nests are him and what does it
teach the person it teaches the person
that under all circumstances in every
single situation that I'm facing I never
ever have to be terrified from any one
of my emotions I never have to be
terrified of anyone of any reality that
faces me I never ever have to be
terrified of a world around me I never
ever have to be
terrified of my own impulses experiences
of my own body of my own psyche of my
own brain I never ever have to be
terrified of the responsibilities the
journeys the relationships the people
who are in my life I never have to
disengage I don't have to detach why
because the function of a Jew is to
reveal oneness to reveal that a night
Malvado there is nothing outside of him
this for the spies was so difficult to
wrap their brains around not because
they were lowly
but because they were noble they were
celestial there was a heaven leanness to
them and that's exactly where they
wanted to remain it is fascinating
because the Gemara says when they said
key kazakh who me men knew he's more
powerful they're more powerful than us I
mean men who really means than him so
the gomorrah says Rashi says they said
that the people in Asia Cyril are more
powerful than God a fillable abayas
ain't alkaloid see Calif you're living
in my house and you're a gangster and I
can't come in to get out my vessels cuz
you don't let me they said Hashem can't
take out his Kaleb for Mary to stroke
because they're more powerful isn't that
how could they Gomorrah say this is what
they said isn't that utter nonsense
the spies really believe that you just
left Egypt how did he get out of Egypt
really
God can't go attach a straw what were
they saying they were saying something
very deep they knew that God could do
whatever he wants but what they said is
this there was a system of nature and
there's a system of miracles where we're
in a miracle mode I'm good God can do
whatever he wants but he's sending us
into a civilized land to live according
to nature nature was established by God
these are immutable laws it's fixed even
God Himself can subtly change the system
he made assist them it's a respectful
system if you want to operate in a level
of miracles
I mean the level of miracles but you
want me to operate in a level of nature
you want me to fight a war you want me
to become a farmer
you want me to live according to nature
if that's the case despised said let's
look at nature let's look at the
statistics let's look at our manpower
there's no way we're going to win even
our shed can't change that
because this is the world of nature
that's what the Moraga lamar saying and
you want us to go into that world what
was their error their error was nature
too is a conduit of the divine nature is
not separate nature is not detached
nature is not a different reality the
same god of miracles as the god of
nature nature too is an expression of
godliness and therefore if he sends you
here you will be successful not only by
reverting to heaven leanness by engaging
the earth you will be successful because
earth and heaven are really one have a
wonderful week no so you shouldn't mean
after not to flaunt it off the flaunt
success we're not talking about
flaunting we're talking about fulfilling
your mission
yes
you can't make mother's on her way
destroy you when you succeed yeah don't
confuse the language right be afraid of
success right even because a mother yes
yes yes that's why I said I said a
healthy mother a mother who has
borderline personality disorder will
often destroy the success of her child
phonetically yes yes yes I know
so we can't always confuse God with our
mothers when they're sick your father
lot of hats Lana don't be afraid of
success it's still quite about Leah snow
is still hard to accept to see their
natures is another advantage like you
said it's listen they were very
spiritual people a lot of people till
today feel that you have to you this
guide could only be successful in a
particular cocoon you can change the
world
so even well there's still a lot of
people like that they feel that as a
cheetah as a ultimate goal Judaism has
to be Judaism has to be protected
that's oh it's a very genuine idea that
we could live in the world of Ronnie's
we can't transform the world of gosh
miss we cannot we cannot change planet
Earth and therefore we have to remain
segregated essentially not just as a
means for an end but as an end in and of
itself now we all need segregation
children have to be educated in a
protected environment
you can't send the chicks out of the
nest before they know how to fly you
have to nurture you have to nurture them
in a protected environment but
ultimately the birds the birds gotta fly
and there are always Jews who have to
remain in that cocoon like always you
know connected to a higher plane of
reality
throughout history there were always
those people but the ordinary Jew is
empowered in his or her own way to be
able to make a difference to be able to
change the world there's a mission here
don't just think about yourself and your
own spiritual growth you have to think
about that but you can change the world
this was one of the big ideas of their
ever to to change the world
yeah listen you're not supposed to
flaunt Jakob says La Motta strong enough
to show off and I'm not flaunting you
know it's a Stefan and organ to flaunt
it now I'm talking about that know my
inner success Guinness know what I'm
saying for me to fulfill my mission with
with full power and fakers and yeah so
proven somebody else's face and then
it's not successed and it's you know
petty games huh yeah that's it you
understand what I'm saying cover her
some women are iron means - the person
has to be modest but modesty doesn't
mean that I have to think of malice this
means that I'm in a relationship with
God I'm not in a relationship you know
with with the media with people I'm not
a facebook addict everything everybody
has to know and has to see I'm in a
relationship with Hashem if my mission
is to put it out there put it out there
my mission is not to put it out there
it's a different mission everyone in
their own like it was a base for the
future something to look forward to and
stuff like a goal to reach but it seems
natural that they wouldn't want to leave
that perfect right so that's exactly the
point that we understand their challenge
we can relate to them they were saying
something beautiful and yet it was
considered a sin because they should
have been able to see the mission of the
world because it's not the ultimate
purpose of the Jew the ultimate purpose
of a Jew is Lusaka noi'm to transform
Teva to transform the physical world to
transform all the nations of the world
what was your question my question was
the same kind out
very much like being in the middle they
care when they live and that's what the
Turin all the diamond the Gemara is
about how long as I'm like yeah yeah
yeah so what is your answer to that
seems to me very it's an interesting
comparison there are sometimes young men
who call me fellow called me from a
particular community who was in Cairo
for many years and yeah now asked to go
work and and he was a terrible terrible
pain I said what's the pain it's a
disappointment is that you're going to
miss it because that's good you're going
today
he said no he feels that I'm
disappointing Hashem I'm disappointing
the Jewish people one I'm a failure and
I told them that you know I don't think
you should look at it that way I don't
think you look good look at most of
Jewish history the word Jews who had the
schools to remain and learn their whole
life just like the Kohen Gadol never
left base-emitter Shailaja it was not
out of leave even for a funeral of the
family wouldn't get taught me but if I'm
gonna compare myself to coin goggle it's
wrong
take the coin goggle himself Yom Kippur
you had to go into the Holy of Holies
what if he says I want to stay here
forever it's a sin it's time to go out i
I want to be in the Holy of Holies when
our Shem wants you to be in the Holy of
Holies go in now he wants you to go out
he wants you to go out and being in
helps you go out but that's the purpose
to go out not to stay why don't we have
every day in Kippur every day we should
have your capital what angels watch
there would be angels every day you got
to be a human angel not an angelic angel
so I told this person you had many years
you had asked us to learn Tyra now God
is sending you out you could bring
godliness to the world two people could
be McAra Vidan
he didn't look at it that way he saw it
as a failure as an abandonment of
Judaism as as a loser and I think it's a
it's a tragic error people shouldn't see
it that way it's really the question of
where Hashem wants me it's really the
question of where Hashem wants me
learning tire is AG evolve the cathain
there's nothing like learning tire it's
in the Holy of Holies so it really
depends what Hashem wants from me
throughout history to always some Jews
who said and learned their whole life
and this gave a certain connection you
know to everybody there were teachers
and rabbis or authors or Asha Shiva's
etc as as the responsibility for most
Jews that was never the case that most
Jews have to do this if a person if a
person could learn and the person is
being much slower hemant really
successful and you utilizing their time
in an optimum fashion and a real maximum
fashion then there's certainly something
to consider something powerful to
consider you also have to know the
person in other words today we live in a
generation where there's so much
assimilation that any person who has a
skill to use at least part of their time
to reach out and educate and teach and
bring other people closer it's a
responsibility in our generation to give
an example I could be sitting and
learning all day and very successful if
I see a house on fire I stop and I go
put out the fire because my perfection
shouldn't trump what could be the death
of other people today we have a fire
burning fire fire burning
there's not many Jews and we're losing
them every day so any Jew who has the
ability and there is privilege and the
know-how to have influence on other
people in terms of Education in terms of
leadership in terms of reaching out
whatever it is
today has a responsibility I think to
dedicate at least some of their time to
do that
everybody or at least I know everybody
but people who could people who could
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