Does Suffering Have A Divine Purpose - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (77)

[Music] good to be back inent t uh the um world continues to get crazier and crazier there was a uh another shooting today unfortunately more people died in California uh the uh last I only saw one report said that uh it ended up in a uh Elementary School which uh whether you're a Jew or non-jew religious or non religious it seems like everywhere is becoming more and more dangerous and unfortunately the uh the prediction of what going to happen at the end of times and how things are going to um become insane in so many words as we're seeing in front of our eyes anyone that's still in denial about where we stand with the world where we stand in the eyes of hem we'll learn a little bit about that today because it seems like most people are still fooled by this world still convinced that you're supposed to come here and be on vacation for seven or 80 years and um as even though it's not necessarily uh an obligation to suffer no one says do you're supposed to suffer all the time uh it seems like everyone suffering it seems like there's not a person that I met in my life that hasn't gone to some type of some form of suffering at some point or another um where people are suffering different things I mean I uh just uh every week every week There's new news every week the we meet new people and uh unfortunately many of them have uh suffering stories either it's because of uh marriage issues children issues uh death in the family diseases money losses business deals going bad all types of things usually the things that make people become more religious or even more interested in religion altogether uh are a suffering so it's almost like a calling card for Hashem uh and that's also why you'll see why generally speaking the most religious people in the world throughout history have always been poor and the Hashem says there's not a better trait that I found in my people than when they're poor meaning that we're closest to Hashem when we're poor but Hashem wants to reward us Hashem wants to reward us hhm wants us to to to do good to feel good unfortunately we don't really know how to use it that's where there's a couple of places in the Torah in book of Deuteronomy and Ecclesiastes and Proverbs a few other places where Hashem reminds us constantly not to forget him once he gives us parasa once he gives us money so For Better or For Worse suffering is applicable to everyone the rich the poor the uh tall short male female Jew non-jew everyone suffers in their life to such an extent that anyone that really thinks about it I really thought about it a few times in my life if you really think about it life in general even if you put the Torah aside for a moment I mean obviously you get a lot more clarity with the Torah but just using your rational brain life in general is moments of Happiness moments of Happiness surrounded by months of suffering that's life in general I'm not trying to depress you guys but that's just a reality in reality let's say if you have a year you have a year you're going into the work world you're going to be I don't know a real estate broker or you sell some type of technology or whatever you're going to do for a living in general your entire year is aiming for a single goal goal one two or three goals that you have for the year one goal is maybe to have a vacation for a week another goal is maybe to get a deal close so you can get a raise and uh third goal is I don't know maybe a different position of some kind or some other type of Target that you have so the entire year you want to sacrifice your life your family your time your happiness your everything just to achieve these three moments of short-term happiness so you the whole year you're saving extra money you're even eating less just so you can go on vacation for a week and that's what people do people save the whole year so they can go on vacation for a week the whole year you're gonna spend less time with your family so you can get this deal done so you work overtime so you can get this deal done because the contract's a big contract and the customer is a big customer but a big customer is always a demanding customer and they need extra time and you want to get it done this year and you're afraid that if you don't do if you don't work 900 hours a day you're not going to get it this year so you lose your family you lose the friends you lose your sanity to get this one contract for the moment of Happiness you're going to get when you finally finish the contract you get the contract you get the deal done but then you have to start all over again then the rat race starts all over again same thing after the vacation sometimes you become successful hasem blesses you with success but that success becomes a curse and the reason why is because when you're successful that means you're able to get those short-term happy moments very often and they start losing their meaning we used to go on vacation once a year now you're going on vacation once a month and sometimes you can get to a point where you already start suffering while you're on vacation because you know that the vacation is going to be over in a few hours or a few days and you're going to have to wait a whole month before the next vacation so suffering for Better or For Worse is something that really is the vast majority of our life obviously the suffering that I'm talking about right now is just general daytoday the bigger suffering of course that all of us deal with death in the family diseases pain sickness stress who doesn't have stress so what's the Tas what's the point why am I mentioning why am I trying to depress all of you go you know go to psychiatrist at the end of the class to get you out of the uh out of the Torah why the thing is that since we all suffer it's time we ask does it have a purpose is there a point of this suffering what we're all going to suffer anyway we're not talking about Gom and that type of stuff no just this life here what's the point why did Hashem create suffering why can't he just make us all go on you know Vacation all the time why can't we all be happy all the time why can we by default be happy wake up with a smile ear to ear we have to get a surgery to fix the smile make it normal why why are we always so stressed out that we're not going to have this we're not going to have that why do we have so much suffering why is it every time I reach my pocket to get a dollar or $10 or $100 three pennies come out where did the $100 bill go how come is there a point to the suffering so the question she we're going to do with the Mish is we going to try to answer the question of is there a purpose to suffering because it's a significant question that if you understand that suffering has a purpose then suffering changes changes its meaning it changes its you know its application in your life but if suffering is purposeless meaning there's no point theem just wants to beat you up then you have to question whether you want to continue doing what you're doing if you're going to suffer anyway it's a very significant question in life but most people don't have the time to even think about the question let alone think about the fact that they need to answer the question because most of their life they're they're actually doing it they're experiencing suffering so we'll answer some of that and as you can see in the world today there's all these people that are suffering above and beyond with these sending their kids to school and getting that horrible phone call some crazy guy showed up and started shooting people who could even think of a thing in your wildest nightmares you couldn't think of such a thing your wildest nightmares you wouldn't think that this a phone call that someone you know is going to get sent a little kid little boy to school you get the phone call yeah boy was in school yeah went to school he's still in school not so much who could think such a thing but now you see that many of theim the righteous people of am had an exorbitant amount of suffering much worse much worse than anyone could even imagine and one of them we'll talk about a little bit today is the yavitz yav he gave me the book uh last week uh ROV from mden he was the son of it's one of the a couple of hundred years ago about 250 years ago and uh he was during the era of the war against shap was a big giant I mean the amount of work that he published the amount of work that he has out there I mean it's it's just it's not doesn't make him just the gador of that generation but literally one of the biggest that ever lived and he was full of controversy he actually even went to war with some of the biggest rabbis in the world at the time that were also righteous it wasn't like today where unfortunately you don't know who's righteous and who's who's who is and who is not back then you was it was clear certain people were uh like uh um IIT the one that I tell you guys that he is the one that gave the best definition at least the one that I heard of the best definition of most people think that you know baseless hatred is when one ashkanazi doesn't like a safari or one Safari doesn't like a asazi or the whites don't like the blacks or the blacks don't like the whites or the yemenites don't like anyone people think that it's not liking people just because but actually defined it quite differently more in line with and he says that the biggest the biggest baseless hatred the biggest reason of why we don't have bet mikdash today is because when one Jew sees another Jew making a sin and doesn't do anything about it that's why because if you see another Jew making a sin you know that hhm is gonna punish him for it now if it's a really big sin like eating you know into marriage and so on and so forth in essence you're seeing your brother or your sister on the train tracks while the train is going 150 M an hour with only one way to go and that's to hit him or her and you're not going to tell him to move you're not GNA say anything no no let him mind his own business I don't know him that well what do you mean but he's going to get hit by a truck does it matter if you know him that well he's going to get hit by a train no I don't want to bother him do you think he's going to really care that you bothered him after you save his life right now maybe he doesn't realize you're saving his life once you get him out of the T that he's in he's going to be excited that you're even acknowledging him so says the reason why we still 2,000 years later don't have the bet mikash is because the same we had 2,000 years ago we still have today people are scared to rebuke one another with the purpose of obviously helping people do Chua not just to yell at people for no reason so obviously the work and Tora that learned and taught was extraordinarily holy but unfortunately uh the yavitz suspected that he was also a very deep follower of sh the false mashia at the time he suspected many people of being followers of shap and unfortunately it was not such a easy test to pass a lot of people think that it was such an easy test to pass listen he's a false Messiah just kill him and that's it what's the problem why is any why is any big following this guy was because these false mashi weren't like today's false mashiach where every day I get an email if somebody thinks he's a mashiach every day I get an email somebody tells me he's the mhia last three or four days I have this one guy he's convinced convinced he's going to change the world he's writing me emails they're so long I don't even read them I just read the first line I realize how crazy the guy is and but honestly it's so long just to scroll to scroll to see the length of email or message that he sends me on Facebook takes 25 seconds I say if if he spent half the time learning instead of writing of what he's doing writing maybe it' actually be something in his life but he's convinced he's the Messiah he's convinced he's going to save the world he's convinced of all these different things that he has every week I get somebody that thinks he's a mashiah this one yeah I'm related to King David really wow that's amazing let's go come on no wars in the world make everybody healthy make everybody no what happened no no I need I need some money what do you you're a broke mashiach you're a broke mashiah get a job first then you can be a mashiah again get a job first go make a few bill you know go go invest in Bitcoin go invest in the stock market make a few bucks then be mashiah no no I was hoping maybe you could raise money for me so I could save the nation fund me do a do a uh do a fundraising for me every week I get a different crazy person at least one at least once a week I get a crazy person telling me he's the mhia so today's mashia is a bunch of idiots people that are just sick bored in the middle of nowhere and uh they're convinced convinced many of them are not even Jewish that's the best part that's the best part many of them are not even Jewish convinced they the mashiah they want to be the mashiah one guy says listen I don't know if I am the Messiah I just think I should be and he made a whole video for me he made a whole video for me telling me I don't know if I'm the Messiah I don't really know but I think I would do a good job and he gives the whole description of why he thinks you could do a good job this little Asian guy you know he's like cute he's like you know like three feet tall and he's like convinced that he should be the Messiah because he thinks he would do a good job so crazy people have plenty of plenty of plenty plenty it says in the Torah when the king of the Philistines they uh the uh one day they caught David aik they CAU David was roaming around and uh they caught him so they David didn't know how could I get out of this they if they realize I'm DAV they're gonna kill me so had and he said oh Hashem he realized that Hashem put him in a situation specifically to answer a question that he had for hasem what was the question he answered he asked hem hasem why' you make drunk people why' you make drunk people for what why' you make spiders why'd you make uh you know a mosquitoes for what what purpose do these things serve so then in that moment he realized I have to play like I'm drunk so he started playing like he's drunk and the king of the Philistines looked at this guy looks like he's a drunk and he says what are you bringing me more crazy people don't I already have enough in my house why cuz his wife and his daughter both went crazy both his wife and his daughter went crazy he says why you bringing me more crazy people I don't have enough crazy people in my house who is this is not King David it's some crazy homeless guy wearing his outfit so I know so I I see all these people every week I have new crazy people I said don't I already have enough crazy people so everybody thinks the mashia every everybody thinks they mashia sometimes the rabbis think they're the mashia like the guy said that God spoke to him and said thank you you say anything else CRA I don't know it's like a disease for me I can't I can't I can't if I hear it if I hear him for 30 seconds it affects me for a week it's like a virus my Mas is like a virus I have stomach aches I have headaches I start bleeding for my eyes money Satan has a lot of money what's money the iy care about money just the guy the guy is going to invent a new I'm telling you I already predicted this two years ago no prophecy no nothing no prophecy no nothing don't say I'm a prophet I'm just telling you based on experience this guy is I say over under 12 months away from inventing a new religion like outright new religion like right now he's still pretending it's Judaism 12 months new religion altoe he's the mashiah he's this he's that 12 months 12 months give a take six months give a take he's definitely inventing a new religion this guy's whatever but people still love love love to listen to him why because he tells everybody he's okay everybody's okay yeah the other day last thing I heard and I wanted to vomit as he says uh you have to educate your kids the way they want to be educated if your kid is angry then teach him when he's angry if your kid is uh bad kid teach him like whatever your kid wants to do let him do it okay just throw him in the zoo go in a zoo with them you the lion the monkey and your kid that's it same thing what do you mean if the kid's angry let them be angry got teach the kid M what do we have the Torah for teach the kid the way they want to be taught this this is what he's teaching people and people yeah yeah wow your pays look extra long this week because people are stupid people are stupid people are stupid the vast majority of the public is stupid yes I'm I'm not afraid to say it it's it's a sad reality the vast majority of people are either foolish or they're looking for excuses that's just a reality why the stupidity of man the stupidity of man leads him to sin against hasem and then he gets mad at hem for punishing him this is in the Torah I'm not saying that I'm not hey this guy thinks he's extra smart it's in the Tor it says in the tah it says the people are stupid naal what's naal despicable people stupid people what did you go against you went against hem the hand that feed you you know how many times in it's in that we stupid not stupid like our intellect our IQ is like a monkey but stupid like we're making foolish mistakes careless mistakes for no reason reason why is because it's we have kud we have a very free mind we're looking for the easy way out we're looking for just a uh we don't want to work too hard we want to be on vacation our whole life so now going back to our story we have the yavitz was a KES kesim couple of hundred years ago and uh he actually is the first one that I read up a little bit about it it says he was the first one and there was one other Rabbi after him that actually wrote his own bio meaning his own autobiography usually rabbis somebody else after they die somebody else would write about them or if they're later in their years somebody would write in their in their you last few years before they die so usually if there's a mistake they would ask the rabbi or if there's a mistake or an exaggeration it's it's because you love the rabbi you're exaggerating like a lot of people like to exaggerate a lot of about big rabbis oh yeah this rabbi promised that if you go to uman you don't have to do anything ever again no he never said that no he never said anything like that never said you don't have to do anything he never say he's gonna save you from getting know if you just went to um he says if you follow the entire the entire meaning you're already aad you made a few little sins then he'll pray for you and Sh if you give him extra attention you study his Torah that's what he said but to say if I go to um and I break dance with a bunch of crazy people that's going to save me from get he didn't say that all people say oh no theab if you go to the oil everything's going to be okay no he never said that he never said those things people make up things that people say all the time so the yitz actually made sure to say it himself is life now you read this book within five minutes five minutes you start questioning whether it job or it's yavitz honestly the little bit that I know I think his life was worth than job and I'm going to give you some things of what I like it's horrible horrible life he says himself my entire life he lived almost 80 years my entire life I never had one day one moment one moment of Peace one moment of happiness you would think this is somebody that's like a clinical depression maybe this is a guy that's like you know doesn't have God in his life you think whoever's writing this is somebody that's definitely not a says one moment in my life I didn't have peace One Moment In My Life didn't have happiness so you're thinking what kind what this guy is who why what happened he start reading about his life I'm going to give you guys a few notes of what happened to this guy's life honestly after I after I heard a little bit about it I don't think anyone any one of us has a right to complain ever again about anything anything anything ever ever ever M made me feel bad about myself I I'm actually thinking about deleting my lecture by my personal life story complaining for two hours what he experienced to give you an idea when he was seven years old he already knew the uh one M by heart one by heart if we're 70 years old and We Know by heart we're doing great he was seven he knew it by heart a few months later he went blind lost Vision they prayed whatever he got his vision back eventually then one day he has an absess where on his breit he an absis on his breit now I have a little experience with absis is little bit little bit of experience with abs when I have one absis one absis my whole body hurts one absis I have my whole body hurts like it's awful horrendous thing where pretty much you have in essence a pocket created in your in your body that continues to consume more and more blood and infe ction in it and it continues growing it continues growing but it's not like cancer that may take 3 months or 6 months or a year or five years to grow this thing grows from nothing to like a like a cyclops in like 24 hours like one day you're like ah yeah you're a little little little you know little Smurf the next day you're like ah you can't move you're in pain you don't know what happened you have a golf ball sticking out of you have no you have no idea what happened it's one one absess he said he had an absess on his b just thinking about this made me sick M thinking about it made me sick made me sick days later the entire area became full of abscesses not one absis the entire area became full of abscesses Days Later almost his entire body became full of laes I would have I want to jump off the build just thinking of of what he has in the story he this is about 250 Years Ago by Miracle they thought he was all going to die they all thought he's going to die he said by pure Miracle one day everything went away one day everything just disappeared then his uh when he was uh 17 his father his mother and his sister all died in the same year his father his mother and his sister all died in the same year he's 17 now he has to be the father for his younger brothers now he's the father now he has to go get P he has to go survive he gets married finds a Kala you would think oh the father-in-law it's going to support him going to help him out a little bit at the very least at the very least he's not going to get in the way at the very least the father-in-law sh of the first wife not only doesn't help but he even stole the wedding money they word they got money in the wedding they stole the money one guy gave the uh the yit the money in his hand gave him some money in his hand for present and the father-in-law had theot give me that too give me the money too it's mine and he didn't want to get says I didn't give it to him I didn't give it to him what happened his new wife started getting into an argument with him no you should give it to my father so now from that moment on from day one he had problems with his wife in his life six of his kids died in his life six of his kids you know thear says the worst possible punishment a person can get in this world is seeing one of their children die before them six six died six died he says one day I felt pain in my stomach but I said oh it's GNA go away it's going to go away go away but little by little it started feeling like someone was actually stabbing me inside my stomach like ripping my stomach up he says one day I went to the bathroom went to the bathroom back then was different than today and all of a sudden a worm comes out from that area 2 met long six feet six feet long comes out of his body six feet long this point of the story I'm wanted to vomit by the way when I first heard this six feet long worm comes out of his body yeah diseases different worms they can grow they if you don't take care of things they can grow significantly he only 17 right now guys the the amount of pain that he had in his life he says there was never a day without pain he had the uh helpers every helper he ever had somehow went against them start starts to sound familiar every helper he had went against them one book he wrote was 80% of the way there 80% finished the helper decides nah he doesn't want to do it anymore work is gone imagine you put your whole life into a work you're almost done the helper decides no see you too later too later you me this is not like uh you are uh playing a video game and the game turned off after an hour of playing you're putting your life into a piece of work and it just if it's 80% there 90% there 70% there it's the same thing as 0% it's all gone then his first wife dies marries another first second one dies also second wife dies also never had schom B with any of them third went married the third time everywhere he went he had to keep moving from place to place cuz everywhere he went people would chase him because he was a he told people the truth and he fought against the whole shap uh false Mah stuff so he kept having to move from place to place every time he would he made a little bit of money somebody stole everything one day he has money next day he's broke homeless no food to eat again had to restart all over restart all over made a little bit of money finally got on his feet again the whole house burned up with the money with everything build it up again somebody stole it again M like it's like a nightmare after a night if you have one of these stories in your life you should write a book one story one of these stories you should write a book because it would be a bestseller this all happened to him and this is not even half of it he actually says in the book I'm not even telling you this is 250 Pages I'm not even telling you everything that happened because if I tell you everything that happened to me in my life all the disaster happen in my life the world would end and the problems wouldn't the world would end but the amount of problems that I had in my life would not end does anyone here actually have the audacity to complain about anything in their life what a life you hear about this it's like you think you're looking in the mirrors of everything is perfect and by the way the whole book he's saying this happened to me this happened to me this happened to me he's praising hem that all this happened to him he's not complaining he's not crying like I'm crying to you guys right now he's praising hem I lost my money andem I had a worm six Fe six feet long come out of my body a snake came out of his body saying a snake came out an anakonda came out of his body because he's saying that there's a significant value to suffering significant value where if we only knew the value of our suffering we would actually pray to Hashem to get some so we'll get there so now this week's we are introduced to more details about aino last week we find out that s man who dies and uh aam gets uh remarried to another woman named but is actually Hagar it's the same woman I got the first the first uh the first pish that he had that was paro's daughter she left and then she came back and he remarried her again he had more kids with her the mother of Ishmael and he had more kid with her but this time here the toah calls her in chapter 25 verse one proceeded and took a wife whose name is but Rashi says that is really a it's not a different woman it's the same woman the same woman he remarried the same woman so the question is why is even why is this name even mentioned why is there a different name why could just call her AAL so in the page 16 and also in Thea it says that one of the things that a person can do in many cases should do when they do full chuva is change their name and the reason why is in essence not to have any connection to your previous self uh sinful self if someone was a very big sinner of some kind or another you don't want any connection to that past you want to show AEM I'm a completely different person this is not necessarily where you have to do it but this is something that some people did especially in the past today people just have a flat tire they add three four five names to their name oh yeah yeah I so I went to a lecture okay what happened in a lecture I got another name why'd you get another name the rabbi said that his cabala said that I should get another name said why do you realize the significance of getting another name do you know that if you get another name you actually have to use that name all the time you can't just have another name people ask me all the time oh yeah I'm having a daughter I'm having a son I want to call him uh you know two three names you know I want to call him uh David Elan Shu because after my father my uh you know father-in-law my uncle that died my grandfather the rabbi I don't want to insult everyone so I want to call him after everyone but in reality I'm really going to call him David is that okay no it's not okay it's not okay why if you call your son or daughter multiple names you always have to call them by that name meaning if they have two names three names let's say if it's the David you have to call the kid davidm come here honey you can't say David you have to say David if you want to call your daughter sahu you have to call sahu all the time you can't just say oh s s come over here no no you have to use the whole name you can't shorten a name it's actually a bad thing it's a says when you actually shorten a person's name you're shortening their life that's also why you should never give anyone short names should never call any of your kids like Ron or Don or any of those short names people think there actually is a significance in names but the key is to know what not to do what to do is not not so hard just pick one of the biblical names you finished what not to do is more difficult why because you have a lot of in the world a lot of nonsense being taught to people today in the world every other day you have three four five names the best thing is when I you know people want to join the group so they send me an email so I always ask what's your name I mean I have a lot of context I need to know how to identify you you know people always say hey hi how are you I hate those emails don't ask me how I am you don't really care how I am first of all and second of all what do you want just tell me what you want let's get to the point the first line of how are you is not really right it tell me what you want but the best thing is they want to they really want to test my my uh my patience is they just send me how are you no nothing else just how are you that's it or hi they send me a text message hi like we're friends from like high school hi hi where are we going with this we're going to become friends what are we doing we're going to go hang out we have a couple of beers what what where are we going oh I'm from uh you know Bangladesh so why you telling me hi oh I was wondering then you got a whole Milla 5 hours long of but just wanted to know that I answered don't say hi just say what you want let's go I don't have that kind of time so I usually just don't answer somebody sends me hi I don't answer at all and they think I could say uh it's personal it's no it's just that there's no I'm not looking for friends I'm looking to help you I'd be happy to help you but if you're looking for a friend get a dog so anyway the uh people ask me all the time about names and they say that they want to call their kids these multiple names and it's a very big mistake because you're going to have to use those names their entire life and it's not as it's much easier to call your kid two or three names than to actually say it you know so if you have if your kid has two three names it's difficult so sometimes you see like for example converts they pick a new name but they like multiple names they like Sarah they like Isabel they like uh I don't know Hada they like uh RKA they like ra they like all the like oh they have all of a sudden you get an email just the uh just the the title of who this person is takes me five minutes to read I feel like I'm reading the T just a name enough enough pick one name it's no it's one person I'm telling you three four five names one person three four five names one person just that takes me 25 30 seconds to read and then 3 minutes to think about why are they calling themselves so many names I thought like you I'm like maybe it's like five people that that have a joint email account maybe it's five people that have a joint email account and they're sending me an email together like it's a representation of like a union it's like a un but no it's not it's one person I thought it's like a un it's like a group but it's not it's one person so pick please pick one name please have some mercy on me even if you have even if you have multiple names just give me one name one name one name I I don't want to know two names I don't know want to know your secret name and what your boyfriend knows about and what your mother and what he used to call you when you were a little kid just give me one name that said I remember I remember your name if I remember your name it's already a miracle five names come on have some mercy I I need to leave some room for Tora you remember all these names five names stage stage name yeah the writer's name my Anonymous name this is what the guys on YouTube know me as on Facebook it's something else profile name oh this is one of the Messiah role that's what the name I'm playing as so supposed to be a serious lecture guys you guys are making me laugh too much so okay so so now you have the name was actually ha because ha did CH did CH okay said up so this week's we uh we see so we see that the these are the uh we're talking about the story of abam and and then it actually goes into a few extra details that seem like they're not necessary about RKA it says that when was 40 years old he took Rifka the daughter of betel the aramian from padanam Sister of Lavan the aramian and his wife for himself okay we already knew this from last week's par that she was the daughter of bwell and she was the sister of Lavan why is the Torah mentioning it again why is the T mentioning again the to is mentioning again for the same reason I told you the story about the yavitz the yavid taught us what did he teach us in this 5 10 15 minutes of story that I told you about him don't complain you don't have such a bad life doesn't matter what you have you don't have the yit's life unless you have yit's life you have no right to complain pretty much because why he still managed to be with all the problems that he had see here this week's par is teaching us something else you have no excuse you have to do chva why where'd she come from you can't say oh my father was not religious my brother was atheist my cousin was a m no no no look at who she came from her father was a murderer her brother was the biggest mafioso in the world biggest gangster in the world to such an extent that asav who becomes the biggest gangster is still scared of him that's why when yov ran to lavan's house why did he why did RKA sent her son yov to lavan's house her brother because she knew that asav as big of a murderer as he is he's still scared of Lavan everyone's scared of Lavan a reputation so this is the family she came from meaning you have no excuse doesn't matter where you brought up if you're from from birth if you're not if you're pretending you're not pre doesn't make a difference you have no excuses why who managed to become regardless of the situation that she was in so ifka is pregnant and hasem tells her in a prophecy in verse 23 and hasem said to her two nations are in your womb two regimes from your inside shall be separated the might shall pass from one regime to the other and the Elder Shall Serve the younger so here we're getting a prophecy that's relevant permanently it's not a prophecy that's relevant only to her it says the asks why is it that we only have 55 prophets mentioned in the tanak means so 24 books of the T and there's 55 different prophets in the tanak mentioned 48 males and seven females and ask how many prophets did have throughout history and Hashem answers at least 1.2 million so we're missing a few what's the answer why why don't we have their prophecies written down somewhere and the reason why is because their prophecies for the 1.2 million or the vast majority of the 1.2 million were only relevant to a specific time their time their location and so on meaning what do we learn from this what's theat what do we learn from this the uh the lesson from here is that anything that's written in a Tanakh is eternally relevant meaning anything any prophecy that's written in a Tanakh is not prophecy just for the story it's not prophecy just for got to know it's not prophecy just for Abraham just for yov just for mhu no it's a prophecy for you for you right here you watching it's the prophecy for you that's why it's written in the Torah because tah is eternal so now hasem is telling that there's two nations in the womb so there's a couple of Pim of what this means the says that this one one uh prophecy that we actually learned from here is the birth of one of the most famous and extraordinary kutas that ever existed most extraordinary study partners K study partners that ever existed most unusual circumstance but one of the most important kutas that ever existed between rebi rabi and antoninus the Roman Emperor here Hashem is telling there's two nations in your womb two regimes and this is actually what happened with this K rebi was K with the Roman Emperor he was teaching them T they were learning toat together and eventually the Roman Emperor actually converted to Judaism left the Empire became a sadik and so on and so forth but the point is that there's a lot of different uh um laws in the Torah a lot of different a um not laws I'm sorry a lot of different arguments and debates in thear between them and a few times antoninus wins antoninus wins antoninus gives the uh gives the winning argument and we go by him so point is that this K was significant we're not I'm not going to you know I could talk to you about five hours just about the story between them the point is this is a very famous K why because it was unusual because he was not originally Jewish he was from asav he was from asav side and rebi was from yov he was actually a descendant of D he's a descend of where the entire all the that lived in his generation said that if the mhia came right now it would be rebi it would be RI he was that Holy and rebi by the way suffered his whole life different stomach pains teeth pains and so on the other thing that we actually learned from uh Ralia Shore one of the original gim in America uh that uh Cotler said he was the original Gad he was the original gador in America lived in the early 1900s and uh he wrote In A Book gyah Different commentary on on the Torah and he says actually there's a big secret in this verse there's a very big secret in this verse about the original plan that Hashem had for and yov we all know that and yov were twins what most of us think is that asav was predetermined predestined to be rash to such an extent that the prophet it's written the prophet hasm says to the prophet I hated him I hated as the only person the entire Tor that hem says I hated him is asav he says he's despicable Bazi he's a despicable person hates him he has no share of the world to come he's still suffering to this day 4,000 years later we're suffering from him till this day 4,000 years later from all of his Descendants the Romans the Nazis all the anti-semites all the lefties all the amals all that comes he's suffering we're suffering also though so a lot of people think he it's not fair why is it that isav was born to be a RHA why should he suffer if he was born to be a rash then you shouldn't make him suffer for it you shouldn't punish him for it he was born to be if he didn't have free choice then why are you punishing him for it for example we learned from par didn't die his entire nation died when hasem made the ocean the Sea of re collapse on all the Egyptians but par himself did not die he became the king of nve he went downtown became a new king for nve and we learn about him again in the Book of Jonah we learned about last week or two weeks ago so why did par not die even though he killed a lot of Jews even though he was a rash hasem removed this free choice at some point and because hasem removed this free choice Hashem did not punish him for the things he did because in essence it wasn't his choice so how come Hashem is punishing asav until this day because raal says originally the plan was quite different as a matter of fact until the two boys were late in their teens I believe until they were 17 years old you couldn't tell the difference between yov and they're both they're both going to they're both Geniuses they're both they bought everything was fantastic Yesa the best Yesa the best rabbis WR everything you want finish the sh B whatever you want they finished same you couldn't tell the difference between them asab didn't look like a murderer like they picture him in the illustrations asab looked like aabad looked like breast with the p and the he was born with a beard he looked more religious than yov he was born with a beard it says he was born hairy he was born with a beard he ugly baby is a different story point is he was born with a beard born already he didn't didn't look like a murderer he looked like aad different story not 13 a little older 15 but uh point is is that for many years no one can tell the difference they both went to Yesa they both learned he would come to and he would tell his ABA ABA how much Ma how much Mel do I have to put for the salt you don't have to do Mel for salt by the way how much m do have to do for things that don't need M to pretend like he's really righteous like he's giving M on everything else on the cows on the Sheep on the gold on the copper on the whatever last thing he hasn't given the ti on is the salt like says don't be over righteous so she pretended to be over righteous he was righteous and not righteous meaning that at some point something happened where everything changed the original plan R sh says was actually for the the two of them to run the world yov and as was supposed to run the world where six tribes out of the 12 tribes of isra were supposed to be from yov and six tribes from asav six from yob six from because as was a is was a was a Gib was a hero he was supposed to go fight evil because yov was a would sit in the tent he was supposed to go bring good to the world so they were a perfect match one fights the evil one brings the good mashia is going to come in a week six Stripes from you six Stripes from you everything is good that was actually the from show what happened what happened later on we find out that abah ainu dies when they're 15 years old and uh as part of the morning yov decides to cook yov decides to cook the M says comes back from the hunting and he says well since when do you cook because haven't you heard our grandfather died so it's customary for us to cook something round something round to show that the world goes around and life goes around so isav shows his true character here and he says I'm starving to the point where if I don't eat I'm going to die give me this red stuff that you've made or else I will die and what ends up happening is that he gives it to him he sells it for for his a uh for his firstborn rights but it says because he you know he said give me this red stuff this ad ad in Hebrew is is red give me this red stuff it says that from that point on hasem called him adom he ate something ad so hasem called him adom so what does that mean if I ate bambba in the way here they're going to call me yellow because bomai is yellow or if somebody ate something that's green they're going to call him green somebody ate a salad early this afternoon they're going to call him green so what if he ate something red so he ate something red big deal how normally every food every food you eat on Shabbat is red so what all of us are ad also since when do you call somebody since when do you start a nation and you call them by a food color so your color of your hair is black I'm G to call you Blackie so what so okay so you he the only kazer in the world I know how many I know people go to synagogue just to eat they don't want to pray they go to the synagogue just to eat M just to eat you see them they put you know a few people sponsor they put it on the table but you have to pray first they don't care about pray they already start eating before the prayer while they're everybody else is praying they're already eating no b no Mi no nothing they're already eating like they've never eaten before it's they're pretending they didn't just eat chint or something for the afternoon the size of their head everybody pretends like sud is the first time they ever ate in their life I don't understand how anybody can eat at all by the time you get to sud you already ate enough for a week but somehow people pretend oh I'm going to call I have to eat the salad pass that pass the pizza no no don't take everything they fight over the food give me this give me this what you haven't eat bro come to my house I'll give you more food come to my house you haven't eat all day me scan you start feeling bad for the guy you haven't eaten all week what happened no no I ate I ate what' you eat I ate a big plate so why you so hungry why you so hungry why you acting like you never ate before why can't you pray five minutes 10 minutes and then eat what happened unfortunately what happened is that some of us are little asvs some of us are little asvs what's the little asav Hashem called asav ad because he ate something ad because in essence the way he behaved defined him had an opportunity to be had an opportunity no different than Yu's father wasu giant of giants someone that was willing to die for AEM not one of us would say we could do the same esa's grandfather started started Judaism can't get better than that can't get better than that people call their kids Abraham just in hopes that someone can connect the two in theoretical sense abamu his grandfather was alive in his throughout his life it's not like he was like a distant memory a picture on the wall like people have sadik pictures on the wall all the time they don't have any connection at all to these SED I don't even know their names but they have them like sometimes you go to a place for food and you ask the guy where's you know where's the kosher certificate I think I told you guys this joke last week where's the kosher certificate and the guy says no no look come on babaali MOS Feinstein okay Ben all these tedim on the wall it's like yeah if theim were here and your picture was on the wall no problem I trust them I'd eat the food here but since it's them on the wall and you here I need the coach certificate so now it was a good joke needed two weeks in a row I don't have that much material you got to help me out here got to write me some jokes get me some content so I for three hours no jokes today I was good with it good jokes was good so anyway uh asav had an opportunity as had an opportunity his father couldn't get better grandfather couldn't get better his brother isov Tora says yov was bigger than all of them yob was bigger than and even though was the lowest in the generation he was the third one usually goes the closer we get to ad the greater in this particular case is an exception first of all he was born un he was born circumcised second of all the mid says he was as beautiful as Adar he was as beautiful as Adar meaning everyone in the world looked like monkeys next to him everyone in the world including s menu which was as beautiful as I can get he looked like a third hasem decided to put his image image of yov on his throne Hashem has four images on his throne a bull a eagle a lion and yuu why he's a li it's an image so next week's par you're going to see when yov falls asleep and it says the Angels go up and down the Angels go up and down what are the Ang going up and down the mid says the Angels go up go up to Sham they see they go downstairs they see how could you be in both places why they see Yu on hm's throne and then the Angels up there said no no go he's down there he's down there they go down there like how is he over here also he's faster than usov was his brother was as's brother you know this he his brother he learned with him his whole life but was materialistic cared about all day he thinks about food all day he thinks about material all day he can't stop being materialistic it wasn't the food was read it was his n was R it was that his whole self his whole being was whatever material was in front of him that's it the world ended doador can be right next to him as soon as he sees there's a little chips on the side he runs to the chips instead of the doador a new gar said arrives at the house he sees that there's a show on TV runs to the TV is a new they're publicizing no more tight pants no more skinny jeans what does he think about he's thinking about oh I should buy jeans skinny he doesn't care he doesn't care about the truth cares about material he cares about what he looks like he cares about what people look him at he wants to have the watch that's bigger than his hand he wants to have the suit that everyone can see the brand on the outside so he takes the tag from the inside puts it on the outside just so everybody knows it's Calvin Klein or it's Donna Karin or one of these manufacturers he wants to make sure that everyone knows he made it in life he's materialistic asav was not that different than us isav consumed material to such an extent that he destroyed his owna I sometimes tell people it's time to do CH it's time to learn to time to ask yourself why you even here in this world start answering the question of why you here in this world can't be to be become a blender all day you're eating all day you're drinking that's it you eat a burger you eat a steak you eat this you blend it in and it comes out that's it that's what you came to the world to do to just eat eat eat eat eat just consuming non-stop pressing buttons so you could order more food order more things that help you eat food more and more and more nonstop consumption we've become a people that consume nonstop to such an extent that there are plenty of people in the world today especially in the west especially in America that have gotten to the point where they start buying stuff they buy brand new stuff and they don't have open it it just stays in a box stays in a box there's like shopping bags full of stuff that they bought and they put it in a closet and they forget about it and it stays brand new in the box for months years one day they move like oh wow I forgot I bought those $500 worth of plates I forgot about I bought this uh $300 shoes I forgot I bought they they buy they consume so much that it's they lose themselves one time a guy told me that he was moving downsizing from a big house to a small house and he's a bunch of extra stuff in his house anyone that wants can just go and get it whatever left it's uh freefor all and uh we just moved to the area and he said listen maybe you could do something maybe you can give some of the stuff out maybe use something whatever so I went there and I was thinking it was going to be a bunch of broken toys whatever I'll use a couple of broken toys we just brand new maybe we'll uh find something that works who knows what's going to be there I arrive literally 80% of the stuff is brand new not just brand new like it's like really good condition brand new it still has a tag on it brand new like it's still in a shopping bag brand new like you can sell it as brand new it's just there but these not the only one we used to do the same thing plenty of people still do the same thing we consume and consume and consume because we've been we've become addicted to material to such an extent that we don't even care about the material we just care about the purchase the fact that it's so easy to press one button on Amazon on one of these websites and boxes show up at your house it's so much fun at least theoretically they just want to press the button just to just just fun to do it and boxes arrive a couple of days later that that becomes more fun than the material itself you start ordering stuff my friends that's isav that's asav asav connected to so much material that if he existed today you wouldn't be able to tell the difference between him and any of us it's not because the food was read that they called him ad is because the food represented him perfectly he became so connected to material that he became the material and that's how he lost hisa because eventually he got so connected to the material he forgot about the purpose of life he forgot about the mitv he forgot about God you start telling the guy why don't you uh come to pray why don't you pray Al why don't you come to beet no no no I'm busy what are you busy with I'm busy making money so I could buy more stuff we get to a point where we work so much we don't even know why sometimes they hear from people like oh yeah know it's we're having money problems I'm thinking the couple is unemployed he's unemployed she's unemployed I'm like oh so you guys are looking for jobs no no we both have jobs oh okay you both work at homeless shelters maybe for free nonprofit organizations pay you 500 bucks a month like why okay if you both have a job why do you have money problems do you make any money or you work for free maybe it's a volunteer if you're volunteer and volunteer for me I'll give you a couple of dollars anyway no no we both make good money she makes 3,000 4,000 a month and I make 3,000 4,000 a month I say so why do you have money problems you make more than most people I don't understand why do you have money problems the reason we have money problems is because we consume to such an extent that we forget ourselves we're constantly competing with the so-called Joneses there's actually a term that was invented in America for this state of mind you're competing with this theoretical people that don't exist the Joneses that have everything there's actually a movie made about it many years ago said I think it was called The Joneses actually where they pretend to have everything unfortunately we're constantly competing we constantly have to have the brand new car why because if the neighbor has a brand new car and we don't have a brand new car we already start suffering U ing if the neighbor is doing an extension to their house and we're not doing an extension to our house we're already suffering if the neighbor has brand new shoes that are a month younger than ours we already start suffering if the neighbor's watch is bigger than ours we already start suffering we're constantly competing the problem is this is not Yakov this is not yakov's Behavior this is a this is as the mindset that we have today in a religious world I'm not even talking about the non-religious world the religious world is that we so much competition for material we forgot about God instead of praying to Hashem and thanking him for giving us Eyes Ears legs arms hair for some of us at least children wives husbands jobs air in our lungs life with less pain than the yavitz the ability to read in multiple languages or at least one fresh food be ability to go to the bathroom without screaming for three or four hours at least for some of us we forgot to thank him for those things you see people go to beet every single day and the only times they wake up is when it comes to the blessings that have to do with money when you say kades everybody talks is on the phone we're praising H's name nobody pays attention the only one talking is the nobody cares nobody except when it gets to the end of the long Kad the oh when it says Prophet oh everybody everybody wakes up the guy that was sleeping wakes up the outside wakes up the guy everybody the guy is off the phone he hangs out I got say everybody gets to wake up when it talks about money when it gets to the blessing talk about money again anytime we talk about money everybody wakes up aside from that we're sleeping we're sleeping on the wheel people say that they have money problems even though they have two three jobs it's not normal it's not normal people are hungry after they just ate you guys ever eat Chinese food co of Chinese food 5 minutes later you're hungry it's the best business in the world the customers are Never full five minutes you just ate Chinese for five minutes later you're already hungry unbelievable it's like what they put crack in it five minutes late you just ate you ate as big as your head this food and that food and L andain China is in your house koser version you just ate the whole thing you ate as much as your head five minutes later you finished you just you just put took took a little tissue you know just to look civilized the tissue goes down you're hungry you want the second meal unbelievable I don't know how it's possible you're always hungry I don't know what they put inside all I know is that I'm not eating Chinese food ever again it's a never ending business like a never ending monster so the problem is that the rest of our lives are like that we're constantly getting more stuff and the stuff is becoming meaningless we've become addicted to pressing buttons we' become addicted to competing with our neighbors we' become addicted to the materialistic part of our life that if the house is not perfect we're suffering already if the car is not perfect we're suffering already and anytime you tell a person listen it's a fast day just the fast just the fact that you have to fast from morning to afternoon or to evening people already start suffering a day before the fast started it's like no no the fast is tomorrow man relax no no no I don't know I feel hungry I'm like well hung eat then you eat the fast is tomorrow the fast eat the Chinese the fast is tomorrow you're already thinking that you're not going to have you're already suffering I'm here to tell you that all of this suffering is as's behavior it's not yov we've turned into a nation of little asvs little adums instead of being like eventually he forgot about God to such an extent that he committed five of the worst possible sins in the same day the same day that he sold his uh his uh uh what's firstborn rights he denied God he raped a bride he murdered somebody but why do you get how do you get to such an extent how do you get to become such a rash when your father's goor your grandfather's a giant your brother everybody's said how do you get to go off the death to that extent listen you're not going to be theor okay fine no problem you're not going to be the biggest sadik okay fine how do you go from this corner to that corner everyone's a giant you're the worst person on Earth how could it be problem is that when you become so materialistic eventually you become numb one of the things you notice in the in Hollywood AKA Sodom and Gomorrah of today is that many of these people that are being accused of uh raping molesting little children used to be normal they used to be normal like you and I they used to be normal they used to be married to wives used to be normal people one mate one person committed honest trying to be at least normal they were they were no they weren't born psychotic how do you go from that to a psychopath that has a ring of little children you're going to rape how do you go to that level how do you go from being a normal person to now you're a homosexual that pretty much wants to be with anything that moves how do you do that how do you get how do you how do you get there some of these people are good-look people Hashem blessed them with good looks and they only want to be with the same sex they can't stand the opposite sex how could it be how could it be it could be because they all became asav they all became so materialistic with physicality that they overc consumed they ate too much Chinese food one mate was not enough so they got a second mate second mate wasn't enough so they got a third mate and eventually got to a new one every day a new one every week and eventually got to a point where the same thing was meaningless they became numb the pleasure they used to get like every normal person disappeared when you have too much of something it becomes disgusting even if your favorite food is steak or whatever is your favorite food is if I tell you that for breakfast lunch and dinner you're only going to have steak or whatever your food is every day after a day you're happy after two days not so happy three days you're not happy at all a week you hate me two weeks you hate the steak three weeks you don't want to eat four weeks you're suicidal not only do you not want to eat steak but just the word steak or whatever the food that you ate non-stop is just the word itself gives you a physical reaction what makes you sick you've become not only numb to the benefits you've actually become disgusted by it there's a p in the Tora says if you found Das if you found honey eat a little bit eat a little bit you found honey honey is delicious in those days that was the candy if you found honey it's delicious if you like honey but schar says eat a little bit what I need diet rules from schar mind your own business SCH what do you care if I eat a lot or not he says if you eat a lot eventually you're going to throw up you're going to vomit meaning even though even though honey is delicious for most people it's the greatest food let's say it's an example of the greatest food the sweet beautiful natural not fattening whatever gluten-free everything is good right if you have too much of it eventually you're gonna vomit you have too much of it eventually you're gonna vomit but the real Secret in this pasuk is different the real secret is that it's not about honey the real secret is that it's about seed it's about it's about sex say you find a woman easy take it easy keep half the month you're together half the month you're not together why you have too much you're going to be disgusted she's going to hate you you're going to hate her that's why you see Hollywood get divorced every day every day oh this uh so and so got married it's only marriage number 87 oh they just adopt adopted their 37th kid they never actually had kids themselves but they adopted 37 why they never stayed married long enough to actually have kids everyone's married five six seven times and it's very normal this is the secret of Secret of even intimacy has to be within reason asav didn't have this control of himself and he lost his because of that now this mishna that we have we haven't even started so this was the introduction guys we still have about two three hours left uh so this mishna gives us a little bit of an understanding little connection to this it says so he used to say since it says he used to say it's referring to the same T that talked about something that taught us about something the previous mov the grandson of soov says better one hour of chuva and Good Deeds repentance and good deeds in this world than the entire life OFA of the world to come and better is one hour of spiritual Bliss Ina in the world to come than the entire life in this world so this mishna tells us a few principles that if we actually knew understood and applied them to our life it could fix our asav syndrome ROV is trying to tell us how we could refocus our attention refocus our lives in order to heal our adome syndrome he says if a person understands why they came to the world and they realize they didn't come to the world to eat steak and if they do fine but it's not the purpose they didn't come to the world to make money but if they do fine but it's not the purpose they didn't come to the world to go on vacation and if they do it's fine but it's not the purpose Hashem says I brought I made a beautiful world for you enjoy it but it's not the purpose enjoy it you know it's not it's not a sin to enjoy the world but it's not the purpose sometimes the Torah allows us to do certain things but it tells us that not only is it not the purpose you actually shouldn't do it but wait a minute you just said it's allowed but you shouldn't do it one of the examples is that if we go to battle if we go to battle after the battle we beat the enemy there's what's left is the the women and children the soldiers are allowed to take the women and marry them be with them after they put them through a month of delay where they shave their head they make them very very ugly they allow them time to mourn but after that month they're allowed to be with them they're allowed to marry them if they still want them some po actually say that they're allowed to be with them one time without marrying them and then wait a month to be with them for the rest of you know however long they want to be with them to marry them so this is a mitvah that's in the Tor finees the fourth part of the of the you have AB yob and then DAV David one time started getting some suffering in his life and he didn't understand why he's getting all this suffering and the prophet came to him and told him it's because you did something wrong immediately David started apologizing crying hysterically sh what should I do how could I fix it what did I do I know I did something wrong suffering is not happening for no reason not like us like we question godem you know you maybe you're making a mistake said I did something of course I did something just what what did I do the prophet told him you took a woman as part of a war it's like yeah but I'm allowed it's says I'm allowed says you're allowed but you shouldn't why you shouldn't because the very next verse says that the Sun that will come out of it will be a meaning the Sun is going to be a wayward son it's going to be a criminal so hem gave us the sign that this is allowed but he shouldn't do it so why should he allow something that he shouldn't doem says here in this case I know my people I know their nature that I created them with and I know that if I didn't allow them to be with these women at the end of war the adrenaline is so high at the end of a war the testosterone is so high at the end of a war the craziness is so high at the end of the war that if I didn't give them a way to make this permissible they would do it anyway in a impr premise in a in a in a way that's not allowed in essence instead of it being allowed they would now make a sin so they went into the war they came out of the war because the only people that were allowed to go to war in those days were only sikim were allowed to go to war if you actually look at the details of the requirements to be a soldier at the time of mosu Yeshua sha and so on the real righteous Kings of is if you actually understood the requirements of what you need to have and what you need to be in order to be a soldier in their army you realize you have to be you have to be a giant be a never sinned never sinned not even not even talking between putting your on the arm and on the on the head it's not even a small sin if you made a small sin they tell you're not allowed to come to war you're going to kill all of us your one sin can kill all of us don't come if you made one sin so these people went to war with says they went to the war I don't want them to leave the war so I'm going to allow him to do it but he shouldn't do it you shouldn't do it just because it's allowed doesn't mean you should so there are many things in life that are allowed but you shouldn't do it and sometimes it's MIT sometimes it's things that the Torah allows us to do but you shouldn't do it unfortunately when people are looking for excuses they only look for the things that they shouldn't do because they're allowed to do it so so for example sometimes you tell people listen you know you have to cover your hair oh okay so but look at this raban she's uh she's wearing a uh a hat and she's showing half her hair it's fine no but she's a raban doesn't make a difference just because she's doing doesn't mean it's allowed oh well look at this one she's wearing a skirt it's barely covering the knees not allow like it's a borderline koser it's not really that koser but it's koser it's like M on the line you want to be with a saf on the line fine you want to be people are constantly looking for excuses just to get in and this is a problem this is a very big problem so the r is telling us is that if we actually start understanding our purpose in life things will change quite a bit because we realize that this world is the only world we could possibly do Chu we did not come to this world to have a party we did not come into this world to eat steaks we did not come into this world to become blenders we came into the world to work we came into the world to do chuva now he says that better one hour of chuva and good deeds in this world an entire meaning that even one hour of you doing chuva in this world is more than you could ever do Ina meaning that Ina there's no more chuva there's no cha in once you get to that's it you're as as is as is what you appear as is what you at what you stay as meaning if youra is good it's good permanently if it's bad you're in trouble so the nations of the world page 38 the nations of the world said Master of the Universe give the Torah to us and we'll observe it meaning give us another try this is in essence a what's going to happen when the mhia comes theim say to Hashem okay listen we didn't follow your Torah until now but give it to us now give it to us now and we'll follow it now that we know that the mashiach is here we know that you're real we know that JC Penney is just an idiot that died 2,000 years ago that was really a uh a m we know that Buddha is just a statue you buy in Chinatown for 15 bucks is worth nothing we know the cow is really just a cow you can make Stakes out of we know that all this in the world is all worthless the god of Israel is the only God everything else is nonsense we know now we know the Torah is real we know the only real prophets are the Jewish prophets we know the mosu is the prophet of all prophets abah and yob the Patriarchs and so we know the Torah as is 24 books of the tanak that's it we know that's the truth there's nothing else nothing more nothing less that's it this is it we know so give us the Torah from now and we'll do it the Holy One blessed is he says to them says drunks of the world fools of the world who have toiled on the eve of Shabbat will eat on Shabbat but whoever did not toil on the eve of Shabbat from where will he eat on so explained what does this mean on Shabbat what is this talking what is it talking about it's talking about if you're gonna celebrate Shabbat in a Kosher Way that means you already have to start preparing on Monday on Sunday you can't start preparing for Shabbat three hours before Shabbat starts because if you start preparing for Shabbat three hours before Shabbat starts most likely you're going to violate Shabbat most likely some of the food is not going to be ready and you're going to cook it on Shabbat most likely you're not going to be ready mentally and you're going to press the light even though Shabbat already started because by accident your mind wasn't there most likely you're going to take a shower 5 10 15 minutes into Shabbat most likely you're G to do something that's going to violate Shabbat why because you're not ready for Shabbat you got ready last few minutes so hasem says you want to be ready for Shabbat you have to already start on Sunday the the all of the greatest of would already start Shabbat in the beginning of the week it says shamai from bet shamai shamai the original shamai already will start his shopping for Shabbat on Sunday you would buy something whatever was the best in the story would buy it but then if he saw something better on Monday Tuesday or Wednesday he would buy it and whatever he already brought he would eat it during the week so let's say for example he bought a nice piece of Juicy meat on Sunday looks good going to make good for chulent Wow amazing but on Tuesday a better meat piece of meat came into the market so he buys that piece of meat the other one eats today but then on Friday afternoon sees another bit piece of meat so that one we put in the somewhere else we're going to make the best piece of meat it's a famous story inar about a person by name of YF Shabbat you guys know the story M Shabbat M Shabbat wasad kados that respected the Shabbat in such a significant way that the gar has a story about him his life story but he literally got the name of someone his name turned from what is y Shabbat YF that honor Shabbat that became his name like it says rados which is R rados defines who he is Shabbat to find who was that honor Shabbat why sh didn't honor Shabbat didn't didn't honor Shabbat mbat what what did YF do so special well the truth is that YF was very poor poor very very poor and he would struggle to survive and not eat throughout the entire week just to make sure that all of his money was spent to make a Shabbat as extraordinary as can be all of his money would spend just on Shabbat one day the fortune tellers came to a rich non-jew Idol worshipper and they told him listen we see a fortune in the stars that all of your wealth is going to go to this uh YF M Shabbat person that live somewhere else what do you mean all my wealth I'm a billionaire I have real estate in uh Bali in Dubai in New York I got skyscrapers I got stocks I own Google I own Tao I own how could I lose all that all the money is going to go to one gu guy how even if the stock market crashed real estate's still going to be okay even if the real estate market crashed my oil is still going to be okay even if the oil crested I still have some Bitcoins how could I lose all of it to this guy but you know a rich guy a rich guy of rich people the Richer they are the more they worry about money I met a lot of rich people in my life that's what I used to do and the funny thing is about rich people is that they're always worried about money but not money that they have money that they want to get oh what's going to happen next year if the economy doesn't do good if uh this guy doesn't get elected if taxes go higher if taxes go lower if oil goes this way if oil goes that way hey buddy you already have 20 million in the bank what are you so worried about there's people in the world don't have food to eat they're not worried about the food to eat they're worried about next year what's going to Happ happen and what's going to happen in 5 years and 10 years and 20 years that's why you see a lot of these big investors they invest in things from 10 years from now why I still have to be in a Forbes 500 in 10 years from now Shalom I don't make the Forbes 500 I'll kill myself so now this guy some people told him that he's going to lose all of his money he can't sleep he doesn't know what to do he wakes up in the morning goes all listen I got to protect my wealth I got a plan I'm going to sell everything he sells everything he has everything he has gets a bunch of cash he goes I need the diamond the most expensive diamond in the world he buys a billion dollar Diamond it's like all right this diamond not only I'm going to hold it on me with bodyguards and everything I'm going to tie it under my little hat inside must sew it inside so it's not it can't fall out sew it inside the Hat little turban that he had put on his head it's like all of his money's on his head only thing that's left is a little bit of cast to pay the uh taxes on on the property other than that he's good he's got all billion dollars on his head he's walking on his land everything is good as AEM would have it one day a wind comes and his hat his little turban flies off his head right into the river this guy almost has a heart attack jumps into the river chasing his hat but the hat is long onone a huge fish eats the Hat eventually the Hat disintegrates inside the fish and the diamond is left and one day a fisherman catches this huge fish on a Friday afternoon right in the town of Shabbat now this is already already late afternoon he goes to the market everyone already left only one person is packing up he goes what do I want to do with this hat what got to do with this fish this fish wow it's a beautiful fish it's what 50 PB fish who's going to buy somebody Rich has to buy this fish go listen the only person that would buy a fish now such a fish like this is only where does he live he lives down a street in a little whole cave over there doesn't have any money doesn't have any food doesn't have anything but if somebody has he's going to buy it if you bring your wife a fish at 2:00 in the afternoon she's not going to cut the fish open she's going to cut you open she going to cut you open because what you bring in all the stinky smell already finish Shabbat already at 2 o'clock in the afternoon you finished Shabbat you want to fish you want to bring a fish into the house at 2 o'clock in the afternoon put you next to the fish put you in a tank and a fish on the table so the guy comes to hello I got a big fish guy's got a dolphin giant fish over here Kosher fish size of a dolphin falls in love with this fish wow what a fish what a beautiful fish how much is this fish he says it's uh 10 10 coins this is all of yourf M Shabbat money all the money that he has everything the savings the 41k the IRA the stock portfolio the Google the Bitcoins everything he has why shabbat it's a little expensive but it's Shabbat he gives him the money cash on the spot honey I know it's 2:30 in the afternoon please don't cook me let let's cook the fish for Shabbat his wife was a tedit she opens the fish and L and behold they see a billion dollar diamond and turn it to the richest people in the land this is AAR story it's a real story point being is that when someone honors the Shabbat Life Changes Life Changes someone doesn't honor the Shabbat life also changes so ROV is saying that if you didn't always honor the Shabbat you made some sins you messed up a few times you know like 20 30 40 50 years of your life you messed up you didn't keep Shabbat a few times you can't show up the Sham with a Shabbat deficit can't show up the sh and say listen I I didn't keep Shabbat 50 years 60 years 70 years and now I'm here why because says if you show up the sh and you didn't do CH page 17 says the G of those people doesn't end meaning the punishment never ends someone that doesn't the Jew that doesn't keep Shabbat is considered 100% an idol worshipper in the eyes of hem to such an extent that their Judaism is on suspension while they're alive if they die they die as an idol worshipper which means the worst possible death the worst possible punishment it doesn't get worse than an idol worshipper doesn't get worse because literally when you're an idol worshipper aside from being stupid in the eyes of every normal man and woman aside from that you become the biggest rash in the eyes of hem and the reason why is because you've replaced him the source of everything with nothing you've replaced a that created everything with his creation's creation because the idol is not even the creation the idol is the creation's creation the idol is the man's creation so it's not even the creation itself it's the lowest form of creation you've replaced everything with nothing dying a that's what you've turned into so now is saying one hour of doing CH in this world is something you can't do inat why once you're inat that's say you're finished if you've cooked for Shabbat you'll be ready for Shabbat you didn't cook for shabat you're finished you're going to be you have to do CH in this world you have to do CH in this world I know it's hard I know it's difficult I know it's different I know all the reasons in the world I had also all the excuses in the world that you have I had more it doesn't make a difference it doesn't matter your excuses are worth absolutely zero in shamim zero zero in shim all the excuses of not keeping mitv are worth absolutely zero in sh zero like not even 1% 2% zero big zero big huge zero just draw in your mind the biggest zero in the world that's how much it's worth why because to say that that excuse is valid would make AEM Shalom evil how so what is it like each one of you has a parent has two parents hopefully they're all alive if they're not you still you've obviously had Parents everyone has parents now every normal parent loves their child when I see my little kids I see little Sarah and noada I think they're the greatest thing on earth other than their mother their mother is the greatest Lana is the greatest the raban is the greatest and the kids so now I see my little kids now because I love them I'm not going to tell little Sarah it's two and a half years old honey go pick up the car pick up the car on your head and bring it inside the living room I'm not going to tell that I'm not going to tell little aadya that just starting to stand upada go pick up the house on one hand and walk around the neighborhood with it Aya go make a barbecue for the whole family make a nice steak I'm not going to tell him that why am I gonna make why am I not gonna say it because I know you can't do it so if I tell him to go do something that I know for sure he can't do that's evil that's mean I'm setting them up to fail I'm not going to set up my kids to fail because I love them I'm not going to tell them go do something that I know for sure they cannot do she cannot pick up the car in her head he cannot pick up the house in their head maybe one day they can't today they can't today they can't I'm not going to tell them to do it now just to see them fail why because that will destroy their whole system their whole system that they have their whole spine is going to collapse their whole mindset is going to collapse their confidence is going to disappear they will realize that they they will think that they're incapable because if ABA tells them to go do something and they can't do it they'll say well aba is only telling me to do it because he thinks I can do it now if I can't do it that means I'm a loser they will think they're failures but in reality I'm the failure I'm the evil one why I told them to go do something they can't do and I knew they can't do it not that they should be able to no I knew for sure they can't do it now I'm human I'm the creation I'm not even a Creator I'm a creation I am one of the lowest forms but yet somehow some way all of us are convinced he gave us stuff that we can't do if I'm smart enough to know that I'm not going to do it to my kids why don't you guys think that hem is smart enough not to do it to his kids if Hashem told you to keep mitv that means he knows for sure that you can do it if Hashem says keep Shabbat that means he knows for sure that you can keep Shabbat if Hashem says don't go in and become intermarried that's because he knows that you can avoid intermarriage that's because he knows you can break up from into marriage if necessary that's because he knows you can keep the entire Tor that's because he knows you can study Tor if he gave you a mitvah if he gave you a commandment that's because he knows for sure without a shadow of a doubt that you can pass not only pass but you get a perfect grade because to say otherwise is it's heresy in hem it's actually calling hem evil if he's not capable of having children then he's an then he's not obligated to have children you're only obligated to do things that you can do if somebody is for example if somebody if everyone is obligated to run but one person doesn't have legs he's no longer obligated to run because he can't same concept goes with Hashem if a woman doesn't have a head if a woman doesn't have a head she doesn't have to put doesn't have to cover a head if she doesn't have a head she doesn't have to cover a head so you have one tail one ha tail one leniency where any woman in the world any woman that's watching doesn't have a head she doesn't have to cover her head anyone that has a head has to cover their head but if she doesn't have a head she's good any guy that doesn't have a head also doesn't have to cover his head but if he has a head he has to cover his head so the key is that we have to do everything that we can do if we can't do it because we have some type of deformity some type of disability then we're no longer obligated weim but the reality of it is that all of us are perfectly fine to do everything all of us are perfectly fine to have children to learn Tor to fulfill the mitv to be kosher people to work on our midot to work on our character traits and the things we say oh this is hard for me to do in reality we can do them we don't want to do them but we can do them I was talking to a wonderful woman the other day and I was telling her listen you have to work on your modesty the toy the the clothes you have to actually start wearing you have to cover yourself you have to wear looser clothes you have to look like a Jewish woman no no I can't do it I said why why can't you do it it's hot it's hot I said oh so are you the first of your kind he said what do you mean said are you the first of your species or are there other people like you in the world she goes no there's other people in the world I said no because according to my history there's been people in the world for thousands of years and until recent Generations none of them had air conditioners none of them but yet all of them wore more clothes than you none of them had air conditioners some of them lived in the desert for 40 years but no one complained one PUK in a oh it's hot yeah see s men who saying oh I'm in a desert no air conditioning it's hot I'm going to put a bikini on excuses you don't want to but you can you don't want to but you can that's a reality so people need to understand that for all of these mistakes that we're making the time to do chuva is now in this world after this world there's no more time there is no more time so now what is chuva what is actually chuva we always talk about doing chuva what is actually chuva first and foremost you should see the mind of a ish kados the mind of a holy person works very different than regular people so first and foremost the rambam says Ina chapter one of a uh and it says so it says if a person transgresses any of the mitv of the Torah whether positive commandment or negative commandment whether willingly or inadvertently when he repents and returns from his sin he must confess before God blessed be he now if you haven't caught it this intricate part of the language that the rambam uses is extraordinary I remember I told you guys people that learn the rambam don't just learn what he said they learn how he said it now us we're thinking just saying anyone that made a sin went against the Torah he has to do Chua and the chuva begins with him confessing to Hashem by the way I made a sin I'm sorry that's an Essence what it means to most of us the first time you read it second time you read it third time you read it fourth time you read it it means the same thing but if you actually understand the words what he's saying whether English or Hebrew you'll see something more significant first of all he says if a person transgresses not when a person transgresses if a person is crazy enough to transgress if a person transg if a person makes a sin IM means if if he made a sin if it happened Shalom if it happened that you actually sinned for us in our mind it's when I sin in his mind it's if he sins he says and then he says when he repents when he repents meaning there's no such thing as you making a sin and not repenting there's no such thing in the mind of a is kados like the ram there's no such thing as someone that's a Jew it's a son of hem it's a daughter of hem making a sin and not repenting unless they unless there's no hope for them which he has a whole chapter about those people so so when a person transgresses he repents what's to repent the key how does he repent he confesses how does one confess he says out loud says I implore you God I've sinned I've transgressed I've committed iniquity Before You by doing whatever the sin was behold I regret it that I'm embarrassed for my deeds and I promise to never repeat the ACT again says this is the foundation this is the most important part of Chua saying this out loud talking to Hashem whether it's through your or it's in your living room or it's uh in your study or it's in your car wherever you have peace of mind whatever it is you want to do chuva it has to be verbalized it has to be verb ized meaning if you just say no listen from now I'm going to keep Shabbat okay you're going to keep Shabbat that's good you're making MIT but as far as repenting for the Shabbat you violated you haven't done yet I'm going to leave my non-jewish girlfriend great that's great that you are now going to go into a Coos relationship great but the sins you've made up to now you still haven't started chuva how do you start chuva you have to say I'm sorry I sinned and the first part is feel bad about it confess it and feel bad about it and it has to be verbalized why verbalized we said this before the sh started many times in the Torah we see that Hashem showed us things that he could have easily told us for example he tells mosenu remember make the Min or do the mitv that I showed you in the mountain tell us that actually showed M how to do the how to do how to do all these different things he showed him how to do it why he show it to him so one day rant comes to his Yeshiva comes to his bet mus where the focus was learning M day and night and he brings a big fish with him still alive in the water brings a big fish he puts it on the table everyone knew that is is a very serious person he's not here for he's not getting a pet and he's not bringing his lunch so everyone's wondering why did he bring a fish so they're all surround to see what's happening here they're looking at the fish takes the fish out of the water gives it a little tap on the head fish dies puts it on a table takes out a machete chops off the fish's head so the students ask for the raav what's theat what are you doing here what what's what what do we need what's this for he says to them this is what they're going to do to you in sh if you don't learn T because thear says someone that's someone that's an ignorant they should cut him from the back of the neck they should chop off his head from the back of the neck he gives up his right to live someone doesn't want to learn T doesn't want to fulfill the will of hem so he tells his students he's not telling he's telling s little he says this is what they're going to do to you in sh if you don't learn T so all the we know we learn this in the Tor we learn this in the we learned we learned from you already go yeah you learn it in the books but you need to see it because seeing is different than hearing or or reading so we see that in sh made sure to showu some of the show some of the so the first thing when a person does chuv he has to verbalize his chuv he has to say something he has to say it out loud there's a m some say you should say it in front of people it's considered meritorious to say it in front of people to admit your flaws in front of people some say it's actually a bad thing to do why because potentially it can give you more suffering than you deserve or perhaps it can cause other people to sin so for example espe in this generation if you made any sex crimes whether it's being with the woman you're not allowed to be with or anything of the like if you say this next to some of your friends you may encourage them to go sin instead of encouraging them to go do chuva so in reality in our day today I think it's more likely to just do this simply alone but the point is the rambam says you have to say I'm sorry now how significant what if you don't say I'm sorry what if you don't say I'm sorry you don't feel like it you say I'm sorry like inside in really really low voice like you know like nobody can hear you including yourself no one can hear you what about that says in the times of the bet mikdash the ra language the times of bet mikdash you'd have to bring a Corban bring a Corban big cow 10 15 $25,000 cow why you lit the light on Shabbat by accident by accident you turn on the light if you did it on purpose they kill you if you did it by accident you have to bring a cow you did it on purpose they kill you there's no Second Chances you turn on the light on Shabbat they kill you death penalty you go cook on Shabbat oh no no I know it's Shabbat okay by accident okay bring a cow on purpose we're going to cook you it's no joke in sh Shabbat is big deal so now people come to bet the mikdash with a cow $25,000 cow big giant cow and they bring him koban $25,000 the guy just spent his life savings on this cow for one sin one little accidental sin he made last Shabbat three months ago so the rambam says the sacrifice will not atone for their sin until they repent and make a verbal confession as it says in Leviticus 55 he shall confess the sin he has committed concerning it meaning that if he brought a $25,000 cow but he didn't say out loud hey by the way I'm sorry I'm really really sorry I'm terribly sorry that I turn on the light by accident on Shabbat I'm terribly sorry I cooked on Shabbat by accident I turn on fire by accident I'm Sorry by accident I'm really really sorry it's making me I can't sleep at night I'm sorry hasem R says he doesn't do that the cow is a waste the chuva is not there's no Chua it's like he did nothing he has to come back next week and bring another cow he has to come back as many times as he has to until he says I'm sorry it's as if he did nothing meaning that when someone starts doing Chua unless he actually starts by saying to Hashem I'm sorry he hasn't done anything yet that's the value of I'm sorry to to such an extent that the says that if would have said I'm sorry I'm sorry simply I know I sinned I ate from the Tree of knowledge because my wife gave it to me because the snake convinced her and whatever all the whole story I'm sorry I messed up AEM if you would have simply said I'm sorry everything would have been different hem wouldn't have kicked him out of the garden it would have still been him and everything would have been fine none of us would have been 5,000 years 6,000 years of and his wife that's it everything would have been perfect would have accepted as Chu finished because he didn't say I'm sorry one time that was the sin that was the real Sin so here we see that the value of saying I'm sorry in the eyes of hem is extraordinary they say that when they in yum Kip when they send one of the goats to Azazel to atone for all the sins of the sends it to him and the Coen confesses on behalf of all of am this whole process of throwing the the the the goat off the mountain the whole thing if there's no confession none of am the entire nation is not forgiven the value of I'm sari is as significant as can be now unfortunately sometimes I'm sorry is not enough sometimes saying I'm sorry is not enough if a person violates a sin in chapter one Al 4 I believe yeah four it says if a person violates a sin that's punishable by K there are 36 sins that are one of them isab another one is being with your wife when she's another one is eating onip another one is uh eating on P and so on and so forth there's 36 different sins that are punishable by K which is execution by court so if a person violates one of these sins that is K which unfortunately you know anyone that hasn't done Chua or has done chuva or even anyone pretty much all of us have done something that has K once twice or a million times in our life says if someone has such a sin chuva he does chuva does chuva he repents he has every year and he does he does everything we just talked about this has a tentative effect meaning it's not the full effect what's the effect that it gives it this Chu you did Shabbat your whole life you finally did chuva 30 years old you've been an idol worshiper your whole life finally did chuva at 30 years old finally did chva at 50 years old my mom just told me that her dear friend has been watching the sh and so on did CH she's 72 years old 72 years old she's already keeping Shabbat I think for the last year so it's possible for everybody none of us have an excuse so now if we have this problem where we made these sins it says the chuva that we're doing is preventing the sentence of a premature death in God's hand from being executed meaning that if Hashem was going to shorten our life because of all the sins we made our chuva is putting that on stop meaning once we start chva hm gives us the opportunity to continue doing Chu we're buying ourselves more time this cha is buying us more time if Shalom came and you were supposed to get di that particular year that person did chuva says okay let's give him another year let's give him another two years let give him another five years let's see where he goes let's give him more time so now you've put the clock on stop the timer is on stop why because you did Chua but since it's a sin since it's the worst possible sin the only way to complete this chuva is and and get complete complete atonement is through suffering he will never achieve this is the language of the r I'm not trying to depress you guys I'm just trying to give you guys a reality check and you'll understand why the yav said he will never this is chapter one 4 so anyone that tells you otherwise doesn't matter where theyab or breast or some other religion or whatever it is this is Torah I didn't make this up he will never achieve complete atonement until he endures suffering for concerning these sins the source is Psalm 8933 where it states I will punish their transgressions with a rod however a person who desecrated God's name even though he repented yum kipur arrived while he continued his repentance and he experienced suffering he will not be granted complete atonement until he dies so now you have two different things here someone that had for violating Shabbat for going with a uh Nida and so on he says the only way to do chuva is regular chuva saying I'm sorry and all and so on but a that point all the suffering that you have in your life you can blame yourself for it meaning that that's what's going to get you into G that suffering that you have the fact that you don't have money the fact that you have uh you know headaches the fact that you got a cold last week the fact that your wife uh you know yelled at you the fact the kid is uh late to school every day doesn't feel like going whatever whatever suffering you have you're sick you have stomach ache you have diarrhea you have a uh boss yells at you whatever you have toothache all the suffering you have you package it all up you say why that's what's going to get you into why because you made some sins before you did CH now that's for sin if you made such a big sin as big as meaning you made other people sin you went to a non koser restaurant and you told your friends to come knowing that it's not Kosher but they didn't know it's not Kosher or perhaps you walked around not modest you walked around not modest which is pretty much almost every single woman in this generation and you may and other guys looked at you and they sinned because of you or you told people to stop listening to a certain Rabbi because he's too extreme and he yells and he screams and he makes people do Chua but that's not good and uh he does it for free but that's not good either and uh you know any any whatever excuses you have to not listen to him you did something like that you have a problem why because even suffering is not enough even suffering is not enough he says the only way they complete that Chua is after a life of suffering death is the only way they complete that Chua assuming they've had enough suffering in this world and enough Chua if they didn't do Chua the nothing going to help them they have to go to a really really hot place for a very long time if not forever so now you have yourself a reality check that's no longer from my lips I'm just saying I'm reading out loud but you could see it in the book yourself now why is it why is it that someone that made someone that in essence desecrated the name of asem in public where they were caught doing something bad and in essence they were blamed for doing it because they were a Jew or such such a thing why is that much worse than let's say which in essence is one of the worst sins in Judaism why is even worse why do it have to die in order to repent for the sin and he gives a masal he gives an example the example is that if actually Rashi gives the example and it's also explained in mod page 22b it says if let's say for example somebody makes the sin of adultery they go a married woman and uh they say after that they do once and I'm sorry I'm sorry hasem I made a sin I made a sin I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry okay that's great it's wonderful great thank you very much for saying I'm sorry the problem is a was born out of it so regardless of how many sories you say there's an end product there something came out of it something is still in the world world as a result of it something exists because of that sin you could say I'm sorry until you become a little Blue Smurf doesn't make a difference this little m is still walking around the world because of that one time sin it's not his fault that he you made the sin the point is he's in the world because of your sin you could say I'm sorry until next year doesn't make a difference there something happened because of it the same thing if somebody says L about a rabbi he could say l and then say to the rabbi Rabbi I'm sorry I'm sorry for saying L the problem is if the rabbi now lost 50 100 200 a thousand listeners that are now not going to do Chua because of you you could say I'm sorry until you blew in the face you can donate a billion dollars doesn't make a difference a thousand people are now guaranteed to not do because you said some St about him something happened something was left in the world says the same concept with once you desecrate the name of hasem something changes in the world permanently something changes in the world permanently and you can't undo it you can't undo it something changes it says that when married the daughter of par he married the of and he saw that she wasn't exactly a righteous convert she was a fake convert because she still had her idols and she told them yeah this Idol I worship on Monday this Idol I worship on Tuesday this one on Wednesday and he didn't rebuke her it didn't rebuke her and he almost lost hisa because of that but the gar says that at that very moment that he saw her sin and he didn't didn't say anything Mal Gabriel the angel Gabriel came down from shamim and smashed the world smashed the Earth smashed the Earth and a bunch of sand came up from the sea making a small island that little by little grew to becoming Italy grew to become the Roman Empire that would eventually destroy the bet mikdash so I know that people don't like mysticism think this is ridiculous that's their problem that's how Italy was born that's how Rome was born it was born out of of a sin of one of the greatest people that ever lived when we do aom we have a very serious problem now I'm going to finish it up with this better one hour of spiritual Bliss in the world to come than an entire entire life of this world people don't understand that if they work really hard if they suffer in this world but they suffer like the yav suffered they praise hem because they realize this suffering is as a result of their actions the suffering they have is good for them I'm not Shalom telling you guys to start praying for suffering we're not at that level anyone that prays for suffering kazal calls them foolish no I'm serious it's not it's not a it's not a uh it's not something you should pray for kazal specifically says don't pray for suffering because you've probably made enough sins that enough suffering is going to come to you anyway serious so don't pray for suffering don't be a hero we're not the sages of the gar we may enough sins that suff enough sufferings coming anyway the point is how to take it how to take it if I know that every time I spend three hours in the bathroom screaming and yelling that's going to remove a thousand years from G if I know that every single time I have money problems that's removing a few hundred years from G if I know that every single time one of the people I think is my friend ends up being my enemy that's for something I did in my life it's terrible it breaks my heart it's awful I hate it you understand so the same that says this is the source of how suffering is a necessary part it's a necessary evil if you will it comes from Psalm 8950 and I looked at Psalm 8950 throughout the day today and it's truly beautiful it explains this whole mishna explains this whole thing I mean it's with a lot of details I'm not going to go over to the whole thing because that would take hours but just to give you an understanding first and foremost David is writing this Psalm and uh some of the commentary here is saying that actually he's writing it uh it's either about a person named aan the uh azra aite which is actually the second White man that ever lived a prophet that was one of the second second smartest after live that ever lived after SCH or it's actually the describing another name for ab aino because a lot of this stuff is describing abah aino anyway first he's praising Hashem who is like you Hashem who in the sky can be like you who is like you in general he's praising Hashem then he says in verse 15 righteousness and Justice are your throne's foundation kindness and Truth precede your countenance so even though this seems very simple nice adjectives that give AEM beautiful description the reality of it is that these are the reasons of why suffering is necessary it says in verse 31 if his sons should forsake my Torah he's talking about uh the Jews if the sons forsake his Torah and not walk in my judgments if they should profane my statutes and not observe my Commandments then I will punish their transgressions with the rod and their iniquity with plagues but I shall not utterly remove my kindness from him and I will not be false to my faithfulness soem outright literally tells us if we don't keep mitv if we don't follow his Torah if we don't do what he says he's going to punish us with his Rod meaning he's going to hit us and he's going to give us plagues things that make us suffer why why why is this why is this for the very same reason of what I just said because he's righteous and he is just and he's kind and he's true meaning righteous he's not righteous because we just like to call him nice names he's righteous because he gives the evil punishment and he gives the righteous reward Justice means that he gives everyone what they deserve kindness means that he gives us enough time when we start doing chuva he stops the clock he gives us enough time to do chuva even before we started do chuva he still gives us more time to do chuva in truth means that there's no way around it there's no way around it there's no way says listen I like this guy he's really really nice he read a few books he uh sold a few books he even wrote a few few books but he doesn't keep Shabbat but whatever I'll let him pass CU he's funny there's no such thing why cuz his signatur is emit meaning the same law applies to all the same law applies to all so lastly I had this nice and then I realized it's not really my it's from 500 years ago it's always nice to see that K that I have is not really a k it's actually something that was already thought about 500 years ago at least says in the right direction so at the end of this at the end of this a uh Psalm where he says that because he has to punish us because we made these sins and so on and so forth it says the following who's a man that lives and will never see death and will and will rescue his soul from the grasp of Gom of sh so m m means who's a hero G like if you were just talking about a person or a male it would just say me is it says G comes from the from from the same word of gib gib means hero meaning who's a hero that's going to live what does it mean live live means live by the Torah because someone that's what's follows the Torah is considered living someone that's a sinner in the eyes of Hashem is considered dead even during their life so who is a hero to live and save themselves from G who is a hero to do chuva who is a hero to do chuva why because chuva is not easy it's not easy you have to pretty much first and foremost admit that every single thing you've ever done is wrong your mindset was wrong your understanding was wrong your direction was wrong your friends are wrong your parents are wrong your everything is wrong and now you have AEM and now that's right so first and foremost you have to take your ego destroy it recycle it and throw it in some other neighbor's garbage and then start all over from scratch that's first that's step number one after that you have to become a sponge for information you have to consume as much Torah as possible to restart your life doesn't matter what age doesn't matter if you're the 72 year old that just started doing cha a year ago my mom's friend or you're 25 years old you just realize there has to be a purpose to life why because at the end of this of this um T it says your enemies have taunted oh Hashem they have taunted the footsteps of your mesiah blessed is HEM forever amen and amen it says the ones that haven't done Chua they're the reasons that are actually slowing down the mashia from coming the ones that are not doing Chua the ones that have too much of an ego and they don't want to do Chua the ones that are still sinning and causing all of to suffer that's the reason why we it's delayed because is trying to give us time but at some point or another hashem's going to show up mhia is going to show up not going to have any more time and that's when it says what we say at the end of every lecture amen amen that's where it comes from comes from this comes from this tting so you see this theory that people have that everyone's going to be okay when a mashiah shows up I don't know where it comes from it doesn't come from the toah this understanding that people would like to have and they like to imagine that no one has to do chuv and everyone's okay whether you're Shabbat or not whe whether you're religious or not whether you're this or not has no Source has no Source because every lecture I bring you more books every lecture I bring you more sources and I'm honestly I'm looking for the sources I'm looking for the source I'm looking for a sources to not do anything doesn't exist it doesn't exist so the point of all of this is for us to understand hasem didn't bring us NE necessarily to the world to have a party he doesn't want us to suffer but if we party we have to know that we have to do it in a Kosher Way and if we suffer we have to know that we deserve it and it's our own hands it's our own hands we made it if you cook for Shabbat you'll eat on Shabbat if you get ready for Shabbat you you'll be ready for Shabbat but the reality of it is that if we have any form of suffering we deserve it but better yet it's still kindness from Hashem and the reason why is because he's even using that suffering to help you to help you clean whatever sins you have in this world that's why the yavitz that had a six foot long worm come out of his body children die divorces you know stolen money you know bad friends bad Partners pretty much every possible horrible thing that could possibly happen happened to a human being in a lifetime happened to this person I mean it's unbelievable that he even survived and not only survived he thrived he was the giant speaker he was a giant he was huge sadik I don't know I mean I honestly he had every single excuse in the book to be the biggest loser ever he had a big excuse to be a loser a criminal or asav at the least he had an excuse to be asav what's our excuse [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]