Does Judaism Cherish Hair?

and yesterday yesterday in israel there was a funeral they say close to seven hundred and fifty thousand jews or half a million jews had garnered of blessed memory yeah this is a jew who was born in 1928 in pinsk that's russia belarus then i think it was poland i know it was belarus i think belarus lithuania he moved to israel in 1934 with his father the stipeler rabiacovistrol kanowski who was a name after the biakovis role of cherkas who was a son-in-law of the middle earth a brother-in-law and they settled them in a brack and you know i think for probably for around 85 86 years a drew who sat around 18 hours a day and learned in a little room so that's very special and he was a very he was a very private person last few years they turned them into a very famous person but on his own he was not i don't think he needed it at all so we're going to start a new mimer today please open it up if you're in the zoom go to the chat if you're on the yeshiva.net you have the source let me tell you what this is this is from a safer called derek mitsubishaka is a safer that was written here you see the jacket the cover was written by the tsa a few words about that is the third rebbe in the dynasty of khabad the founder of khabad you all know is the altar ebber rabbi zalman of lee adi who was a student of the margaret who was a student of the balsham the altareba was born tafkoff hay 1745 and he passed away 1812. he had children one of his sons rabdiv bear a banu dave bear succeeded him after his passing he's known in khabar as he passed away in the year tough pay that's 1827 and tess kislove in other words his leadership began after the alberta's passing which was tough kofi and gimmel 1812 the end of 1812 december 1812 and his leadership lasted around 15 years until 1828. a year later the leadership of chabad went over to his son-in-law not to his son to his son-in-law it's name was and he his mother diver leia was a daughter of the altareba and also his wife khayamushka was a daughter of the mithlereb so he was the mithuli rebbe's nephew and he was the mithley rabbit's son-in-law is that clear in other words the altar ebba had a son rabbenu but he had a daughter she had a son who became she died very very young it's a whole story about that it's not for now and altered raised her orphan nakamendo he was raised on the lap and the bosom of the al-tarab in his home he was like his father and his mother he took care of him so they had a very close relationship when the mitzler ever passed away that samar sadiq who was both the son-in-law of the middle arab and the nephew of the mithlarib became the third rebel of lobavich he lived in the city of lobovic and he he passed away tafresh chavov which is before pacific on this just just for history purposes the rebel laboratory was named after him because he was a grandson and there are his wife kaya mushka was named after the tamaksadag's wife who was also a daughter of the middle earth was one of the great minds of his generation and of many generations and he is one of the people who took the altered teachings and really developed them in a very very powerful and organized and structured way as i once heard from the rebbe who said it from earlier that the ultra rabber was the khmer of exodus the middle arab was the binna of siddhis and the tsumatic was the das of exitus i'm not going to get into exactly what it means now but if you learn there smart and well and deeply you see the difference one of the classics of the tamak sadiq what is it he goes through many mitzvahs of the 630 mitzvahs and he explains the spiritual emotional psychological metaphysical kabbalistic and hasidic meaning behind them it's every mitzvah eating matzah right eating matzo or blowing shaipha or counting the aimer any mitzvah there is the concrete element of the mitzvah i have to hear the shay for after eat the matzah after either mcgill after light hanukkah candles of light shabbos candles but that's one part of the mitzvah then there is the inner dimension of the mitzvah what it does to my mind to my soul to my heart and my body and even those mitzvahs that don't apply today because they say there's nobody the mitzvahs of bringing offerings still the spiritual dimension of the mitzvah is always applicable so derek mitzvah is the safer mitzvah he goes through many mitzvahs according to the order of the famous safer which is an encyclopedic list of all the mitzvahs and he explains the deeper dimension of the mistress today we're going to do one of those mitzvahs it's going to be a series of a few classes and as you see on top it's mitzvos taglachus material if you have a derek mitzvah you can use the book it's page 208 or daf dalarami bays 104b or here we have the source sheet so we go straight to that page mitzvos de glace why did i why did i choose this mitzvah first of all it's going to be the upcoming parshios this parsha shimini deals with purity and impurity and tazria and mitsura deals with leprosy and and the purity of a leprosy when he becomes pure she becomes pure and a few weeks later nasa uh down the line schwa's time was the parish of naziris and the parish of saita talks about here we'll see all these things but it's connected right away to the parishes of these coming weeks so i chose it and also the theme obviously is a theme that's very very uh powerful and relevant the mimer has two sections one the section deals with here what is the jewish approach to hear it deals with questions like why does a nazirite grow his hair and why did the levites in the desert have to cut their hair and why should a married woman cut cover her here what's this what's the meaning of here in judaism is here good is here uh sensual is here constructive is here dangerous is here gorgeous do we love here are we are we scared of here are we allergic to here what's the relationship of judaism to here here as in cyrus in hebrew cyrus osiris and as someone will say we'll see contradictory messages right do you leave your hair long do you not leave your hair long what's what's the relationship of judaism to here here is a very uh it's a sensitive issue here it's not there's a lot of significance in here which is why you see that people like to express themselves through their hair i can't express myself much through my hair because i don't have much but some people express so they they at least try to express themselves through their hand that's the first part of the mind the second half of the miami deals with how people handle the pressures of making a living the anxiety and stress that comes with the fact that all of us need money to live or at least many of us need money to live and our involvement in it what's the right balance between family and money what's the right balance between god and and having a job what's the right balance between serenity and tranquility and taking your job seriously which is obviously a timeless issue in history from when admiration had to work to make a living until today but i think today in the age of anxiety these issues become even more acute and relevant at least equally and powerfully relevant today as well despite all of the progress that was made in uh with the industrial revolution and the computer revolution and the internet revolution and many other revolutions since that saddeks days it was born tough memphis 1789 era verse hashanah the day before rosh hashanah as i said he passed away tafe which is 1866. you'd give on this he was born and everywhere this is let's start the mimer we're going to start the first piece today and then we're going to continue this over a future in a few classes okay okay so if you didn't open your source sheets please open them again you could get them on their yoshiva.net or you could or you could get them here on zoom if you're here with us on the zoom mitzvah is the glacos masaira this is the mitzvah that deals with the shaving or the cutting off of the hair of the messiah of the leper and he's going to explain this is mitzvah in dallas mitzvah 174 and say foreign i don't know how familiar you are we with say know it's author but it's one of the cardinal and important books in jewish literature was written they say probably in the 11th century or the 12th century some say by rabbi aaron halevy of spain and it's a encyclopedia of all the 630 mitzvahs mitzvah by mitzvah based on the order of the portions it gives you a summation of the mitzvah and it gives you the reason for the mitzvah from the perspective of the sephirah it's a very fundamental brief concise it's a good work to have a very general and brief mastery of what the 630 mitzvahs are so mitsubishi 174 from from 613 is in parshas tazria and then in particular what's the mitzvah that the material the leper should shave should cut all of his hair when he becomes purified shanemar the passage says this is sephiroth you dial with passatas on the seventh day igalaikis call sarah he should cut all of his hairs right here on the head the hair on the beard of the beard is gaba's enough on the eyebrows but he's called sorry and all of us here you go he should cut vayikra perrick you download us let me just give you the context in the passion the torah discusses the symptoms of what we call saras we don't have an exact translation for saras because we usually translate it as leprosy but leprosy is a skin disease but it's not exactly what sarah says it's just the closest english term to saras are symptoms that affected a person's skin usually there was a white patch on the skin and then the hair became white various symptoms of different shades different colors of whites that can affect a person's skin and under certain conditions not all the person the man or the woman was deemed amitsara and there was a process of cleansing now these symptoms we don't have today anymore there's a mirror in the terrarium which we learned a few years ago it's on the yeshiva.net and parachute dr ebba says what happened why do these symptoms not exist anymore and therefore these halachas are not relevant not because they're not relevant they're relevant but the symptoms are not here so what does the terrorists say what happens on the day that the symptoms are gone so the cayenne comes to examine the mitsura and then there's a whole process of how he or she goes through the cleansing process of the tzaras of the leprosy so the toyota says that uh after the the mitsura bathes they bathe themselves they they they clean all their clothes and cut over here and bathe themselves go to the mikveh so after that there's a process where the material waits for seven days and then on the seventh day after the purification and there's a whole process of the purification with two birds i'm not going to get into all the details now because it's not directly relevant but you can look it up in the beginning of partisan the whole process after seven days it says that the material needs to cut all of his hair that's what he's discussing here and when you say all of his hair it's literally his head his beard his eyebrows and all of his hair that he shaves off and afterwards he becomes pure on the eighth day on the eighth day of this process he brings an offering in the mishkan of the basamiktus and as the terrorist says he's completely pure and life goes back to normal so this is a mitzvah literally to cut his hair the um our sages said our sages of less memory said people take haircuts all the time but it's not a mitzvah but there are three types of haircuts that are a mitzvah three hanazer muhammad sarah valhalla there were three types of people the nazirite as we'll soon see the mitsura the leper and the levites living negotiating payroll admission but they're not identical in the desert had to shave off all their hair but it was a temporary mitzvah meaning it was not a mitzvah that would be continued over the generations and that's why it didn't go into the list of 630 meters because 630 mitzvahs only includes mitzvahs that are eternal that are timeless that will continue for the generations now when we say that let me explain what that means it doesn't mean necessarily that you're going to do every one of those mitzvahs during all the times but it means that the mitzvah is applicable to all times if the circumstances are there the mitzvah is applicable but then there are mitzvahs that even if the circumstances are there they're not applicable for all times they were mitzvahs that were given at a specific moment not to be repeated at a later point you have such of them is for example there was a myth one of them is this example the levium in the desert who were commanded in parishes a whole parish over there to shave off their hair not the cayenne and by the way the medra says that one of the reasons that kaira staged a rebellion against aaron was because aaron was a kind goddamn and kairak was his cousin and kyrie was a levite a lady and he shaved and his wife or other people said look at the difference aaron lange you're like clean shave and look at adam right deposit says until him skan iron yeah shayari dal pimi daiso so kayak got very jealous because he didn't have today maybe it would be the other way around cairo would appreciate his looks depends i guess what context but this was one of the reasons why kyra got very upset so the manager says he got upset because aaron had his line get bored and kairak didn't but that was not a mitzvah for generations that levied him after shave at all they're here it was a unique thing in the mid bar now we're going to see why that's a strange mitzvah what do you care if a person has hair they will see but this is a mitzvah that's not forever it's only then in other words the levine later did not do it it was only in the midwest in the desert very very limited time frame for the mitzvah now somebody's asking what about all the mitzvahs connected to the base amiktosh are also only a limited time frame no they're not those are eternal mitzvahs you need abhis amiktas but if there would be a basal migners you would have these mitzvahs there are certain mitzvahs that you need certain conditions to fulfill them but they're timeless for example eating matsan pesach it's not all year it's on pesach but whenever there's a pesach there's a mitzvot monster when there's a basamiktus there's a mitzvah to bring offerings but it's a timeless mitzvah the mitzvah of the livium was not timeless it was only during the desert even though there were levium afterwards that so there's a very very big distinction these mitzvahs do not make it into the list of 650 misters you want another example moshe told the jews that when they offered the carbon pesos in egypt they had to put blood on the door yeah it's not a mitzvah that goes into the list why because it was never repeated it was just that year anything that was only temporary it's not continuing doesn't go on the list of 650 meters it was a mitzvah that god gave for that time not for any other time this is the mitzvah of shaving the living room next but the shaving of the messiah and the nazis this is for generations of course you have to have the circumstances you'll say there's no lepers today you're right but if there would be a leopard today would the mitzvah apply yeah if there would be a leper in a basement there's a minute so for generations other mitzvahs even if the circumstances are there they don't apply the same is true the mitzvah nazi who also there's also a concept of shaving the hair allah and that's why we see that the rambam and the the shaving of the nozzle is also a mitzvah in zion it's part of the mitzvah 397. what's the mitzvah the mitzvah is this is later in the homage in paris and very briefly again i'm just going to briefly so you know we we understand the context of it the torah speaks about a person who decides that he wants to be or she wants to be a nazirite the most famous nazirite in jewish history was who samson in fact as we're going to understand a little later his whole strength came from is here right when delilah when dalilah found out the secret of shimoshima's hair and the philistines managed to cut shimshin's hair they could abduct him they could kidnap him and ultimately shimshin could not could not she did not survive but the concept of another is that a person decides he wants to segregate himself a man or a woman they want to segregate themselves somewhat from the material physical world and live a life of aloofness or sacredness or sublimity so of course then i'll let it become impurified through a corpse and there's no intoxication there's no wine and there's no grapes and one of the things is the nozzle is not allowed to cut his or her hair suddenly the hair has to grow and grow long you're not going to touch the hair all the days that he wants to be another now you have another islam you have people who are a nazi for life shimshin shmuel afshalam they are allowed to so they're for life they don't cut their hair but because if it comes very heavy they're allowed once a year make it a little lighter simply because of the pressure but during the time let's say i want to be another for 30 days or for a year for five years i'm wrong girl am i here if you ever see that like a chubber that i could shove with god never saw pictures i've been in the ice of rose and he has very long hair there's always a question did he accept upon himself in his zeros that would be strange then he couldn't make kiddus friday night and yamcha it's not so clear what happened with the rakachava but he had very long he ever saw the record trevor rabino yosef rosen passed away in 1936 he was the sarah one of the greatest minds of jewish in recent jewish history or maybe even of earlier chavagon and he had lower long hair longer so there's different speculations what happened but the halakhas of nizeros apply even today they apply even today in israel there was somebody you remember david his father by david cohen he was known as the nazir long here you got to say if he called said the secret of prophecy he was a student of haravaram the first chief rabbi so this is the concept of a nazi so the titus says that during the days of the naziris he's not going to cut the hair but what happens if suddenly he finds himself impure she finds himself in pure for example somebody dies in the house god forbid and the nazi becomes impure they didn't do it intentionally so what's the halacha is that the nazi has to go through purity the regular purity if somebody becomes impure you have to sprinkle the the ashes in the water of the red heifer on the third day and the seventh day that's going to be this week's parish apparatus para and on the seventh day the nazir again has to shave his hair he has to shave his head shave his head which he allowed the hair to grow long and then on the eighth day he has to bring offerings because he became suddenly impure excuse me and then he goes back he resumes the count so he resumes the count so here again on the seventh day from the impurity there's a mitzvah for the nazir to cut off his hair and start the process all again and then there's the whole procedure what happens when the nozzle finishes his time frame of naziris what does he do he brings offerings it's a whole process and when he brings those offerings it says that near the mishkan and in the best at the entrance of the oil maya the nazir shaves his head and we take the here of the nazirite's head and it's put on the fire that is under the feast peace offering so the here of the nazir now becomes part of the carbonis it's put on the fire that is under the slum one of the offerings that he brings a carbon and the hair is burnt in that fire and then there's the whole process of what they do with the offerings and who eats it and how it gets cooked and then the nozzle goes back to regular life he could drink wine and he could just resume regular life so here we have three situations where there's a mitzvah to cut here when we have the mitsura as we discussed we have the levy and we have the nazis the difference is remember the levy is only a temporary mitzvah the nazir and the mitsura are mitzvahs that are for eternity if the circumstances call for them if the sermons don't cover them they don't call for them that's what he says when his days are up his time frame from the zeros is up there's a mitzvah that he cuts his hair and he brings his offerings if by mistake he becomes tame we're not by mistake he becomes tommy vigila but that's only when his time is up or if he becomes impure during his days of being in nazareth made his inaudible even in the middle of the era of the time frame of his naziris the mitzvah that he should shave his hair on his head and bring a carbon and then he resumes the mitzvah of naziris and again he grows his hair like he did it in the beginning in holiness during that number that he prohibited himself he made a commitment to so let's say i made a commitment that i want to be another for one year 12 months okay after six months suddenly i become impure let's say by mistake i didn't mean it somebody died i touched the corpse i'm in the same tent so what's the mitzvah the mitzvah i have to cut my hair and start all over again why because i became tummy and middle what if i didn't become tummy at the end of the 12 months i go up to the base of makers i bring my car bonus and again i shave my hair i will be made but while you're a nazir you're not allowed to touch your hair you know let us shave commercial costumes with shiny and gable this is mitzvah 373 in the shalom razor is now let it go over his head but midway this is partial now say the book of numbers chapter 6 verse 5 not only in mitzvos it's a positive mitzvah to let his hair grow come on shakas of mitzvah indala this is mr 374. paris irish it's not just you're not allowed to shave your hair on the contrary just like it's a mitzvah to put on filling and it's a mitzvah to hear show friends a midfielder shaykh lulu it's a midfield to give charity it's a mitzvah for him to let his here grow long cardo cardassia what does it say he should be holy god alpera what's goddalpera goddalpera is to grow is here god will pair up here as they hear here on top of his head he has to let grow so what did we learn till now what's the summation the summation is that the mishnah tells us there are three instances with the third wants a person it's a mitzvah it's not just a voluntary it's a mitzvah to cut shave the hair which is a matsaira a levy during the desert not afterwards and another but with another it's only when he finishes or she finishes whether there's a man or woman no difference when he or she finishes the naziris time frame before that they're not allowed to cut their hair they have to let it grow and grow and grow and if it's another for 10 years or 20 years your hair is going to be long and you're not going to cut it it's a mitzvah to let the hair grow if you become tummy before you start again you have to cut it and at the end of the naziris again you cut to here and that's what the mishna means in the game that there's three situations where we shave and it's a mitzvah to understand this what is the meaning of this in other words what is the meaning behind this mitzvah what's the significance of here why is the nozzle now let it cut his hair but then he asked to cut his hair why should the lady cut his hair and not the client why should the midsider cut his ear what do you care if he doesn't cut his hair let him let him leave his ear why does it apply to other people well having calls it to understand this leviathan we can explain all of this alpe masha shamanu based on what we heard and what does he mean what we heard when he says what we heard it means what we heard from my grandfather he doesn't even specify because it's so clear what we heard is the toyota that we heard from my grandfather alpi masha shaman he says what we heard because it wasn't just what he heard himself it was a maimer that altered that beset parachute say i believe 1805 1805. from the alternate and that is going to rephrase here what we heard he was a young man but he grew up by his grandfather so he heard it as well a minor we heard from that altitude and based on that teaching of the altar this mimer is going to be developed based on there's another fascinating instance where the titus speaks about shaving let me give you again the context so we will understand the point the terrorist has embarrassed he said say it's a very unique and unusual mitzvah and obviously it's uh it's a complex mitzvah and the mitzvah if you go out to war and as you know people during war war is not a simple thing sadly we're all our world is now engulfed in the war between russia and ukraine but war it's not just the casualties of war of course the victims of war the death the wounded the humanitarian crisis the starvation the illness the et cetera et cetera it's also the way it affects the soldiers even those who survive we're not only talking about those who are killed and wounded even those who survive the ptsd i don't know if you know that the term ptsd post traumatic stress disorder is not an old term it was coined in recent decades based on doctors and psychologists who were dealing with soldiers who came back from vietnam if you're familiar with the history of it it's very interesting history lots for now to get into but this is when they realized there's a syndrome called post-traumatic stress disorder that was not part of the ancient diagnosis for thousands of years it existed but there's no diagnosis now here's the word here's the the we always have to understand when we don't have language for something it doesn't exist not because it doesn't exist but because we don't know how to talk about it that's why it's so important when children are growing up that we give language to their emotions because if not they're not allowed to legitimize their emotions right if if if you can't talk about emotions in the house what happens if i'm a child and i'm having a lot of emotions so i say i must be meshigar i must be crazy or i must be bad because this is like not part there's no language there's no language for it can't exist so what i'm feeling is either i'm just a weird weird weird person or a very very big problem case and it can create a lot of a lot of not unnecessary conflict and tension and anxiety so language is so important language is very very important this mitzvah articulates and pays tribute to the crazy ptsd not just when you come back for more of course but even more when you're in in the conflict the impulses are crazy people see death all over the place and something happens to you you see your own friends die and there's certain instincts that we don't want to know about that come out it's not a simple thing and this is the uniqueness you can't understand the beginning of this mitzvah without understanding this that the toyota understood what happens to people soldiers during war and therefore the turtle says you're going to see a woman and by war there's no rule no rules before geneva convention but then there's always a geneva convention so trader doesn't tell the soldier just be a good person go back to yeshiva he's in a war zone so the toyota prescribes the way to do it with limits in order to help this soldier deal with the situation under the circumstances so it's not a simple mitzvah to understand i'll say about is talking about the sahara of war which could bring to the worst worst worst atrocities and therefore to ignore it and make believe nothing is happening this person is overwhelmed and if you don't let him have any of it it can bring further consequence a very interesting mitzvah so there's like a certain compromise which is very hard for us to understand because thank god most of us are living in prosperity and we're very irritated by such a mitzvah i'm just being frank with you but if you understand the circumstances you can appreciate the mitzvah what's the mitzvah so it says you go to war it's beginning of parishes among the captivity those taken captive you see a woman and she's beautiful and the soldier has a desire for her he has a desire for so the toyota says something fascinating he says okay okay i hear but there's a process do not act just on raw raw raw impulse which can cause untold harm to you and to her and you're going to later regret it so tayden says take her to the house you could take her to the house and here there's a mitzvah of a gilchrist russia allow her to shave a louder allow her to shave her head she should shave her head her nails should grow remove the garments of the captivity from her let her dwell in your house you have to feed her take care of her and let her weep for her father and mother for a full month months for a full month and then you could be with her physically and you could live with her and you can marry her but if you did not desire her then you don't keep her you send her free let her go back to her nation let her go back to her people do not sell her for money in ancient laws of ancient times when there was slavery do not enslave her you have afflicted her you have taken her she was in combat she's a victim of combat you don't want to marry you're not going to treat her as a spouse fine but let her go let her go free let her go back this is a very very interesting mitzvah interesting complex sensitive and nuanced mitzvah what does it mean no it's so late okay so i'm just going to explain this very briefly because we want to get to the explanation of the tomahawk we're going to learn until we're going to learn until 8 45 today the toyota is responding to the inflamed passion of a soldier in battle so he sees a woman among the enemy captives he feels an uncontrollable desire for her i don't have to elaborate what used to happen in war zones with men soldiers women children you could read about this in history of war not only in ancient times but even in modern times and very very with very very sophisticated and apparently law-abiding citizens and soldiers who otherwise would be mentioned it's not a simple thing so the trader recognizes that this soldier who has this uncontrollable desire may not be able to restrain himself so what do we do you tell him don't do anything don't do anything be a mensch take out your gemara and start learning but that may lead to just an absolute breakdown of the system and uh and really really negative consequences so the toyota provides an avenue for the lustful soldier to satisfy his desire and i find this to be a fascinating mitzvah you can't just destroy lust don't ever don't lust go be a mensch he's in war there's death all over the place either you acknowledge the lust and you somehow harness it or you lose it he's going to lose it it's a very interesting mission now you could say no no he's very disciplined you have to know war if you don't know war you don't know where if you know war so toyota wants to provide an avenue for the lustful soldier why so that it will cool off before he causes more harm it's a very fascinating psychological way of dealing with it as i told you our sages say loyd ellicott negotiates sahara this is a a mitzvah that's a response to the sahara now according to rashi and rambam's understanding of this of this mitzvah the soldiers now let her touch the woman he's not letting molest violate the woman now he's permitted to take her and she should go through the process that toyota describes and then they can get married now since he knows that she will become permitted later so the toyota hopes he's willing to wait rather than do something right now which is inappropriate this is how rashi and the rambam say it i should just add that there are some commentators who say that he's allowed to have relations with her one time even before this whole process of conversion and weeping for her parents and then she makes a decision he makes a decision does he want to be marrying her or not but after that one time never again before we go through this whole procedure that's other opinions rashii and disagree says he has to wait completely according to either interpretation the purpose of the delay is so that the captors desire will evaporate will cool down during this time and a look at her she's a woman she has a family she has a nation hopefully they're alive maybe not and she'll go free that's mitzvah's asia faster there's a lot more to say about this but that's the key one of the things is the gilda's russia sometimes the way they used to dress up the women what used to happen is this is interesting they used to um it's another tragedy they used to dress up the girls and the women in war with very very beautiful clothes and they would adore them their body and their physique because they wanted to lure lure the they wanted to lure the jewish men we see that by midian and maya that women are the ones who lured them into their emotional trap and then they had them serve idolatry the titan knew that the toyota says you know sometimes you're overwhelmed from the first sight so shave her here take off the clothes let her weep for her parents don't just jump into it and then you'll see if there's a real relationship here because so many relationships are fake now this teaches us something else a lot of relationships are fake you get overwhelmed by a sight but just because you're in a difficult state so you fall in love i have a crush i'm overwhelmed yeah i want you for life and then after a few years it's let's see without the fancy clothes without the beautiful hair without the long nails very interesting mitzvah a lot of things they schlep you into temptation because it's so powerful there's an alert and it triggers something in you this deep void this deep knee this deep lust but if you wait a month and you get rid of the outer stuff the epitome is that's not for you she's not for you let her go back so it's a very very interesting mitzvah you always have to tell people you know these things you're making a decision for life wait wait a little bit see what's behind i can't wait she is mine she yeah sometimes you know teenagers come young buckroom come young girls come they saw something and they're overwhelmed and now they're making the decision for the next 85 years i said listen listen maybe you're right but maybe you're not right let's figure this out you know but people don't realize because when the blood the blood you know the oven is burning so the cycle is the same the cycle is in the air that's how it is right people don't think i once uh i was once speaking at duke university duke university we had a few hundred students i was talking about dating from a jewish perspective dating and relationships so one of the students raises his hand and he says he says do you in your world do you touch the your your girlfriend before marriage you know are you together so i said no she starts laughing and he says you're giving advice to students in duke university in the 21st century about dating and marriage when you come from the stone age you know you're from before the big bang who today doesn't spend a few years at least a few months with your girlfriend with your boyfriend before you get married right it was a very it was a it was a it was a challenging moment so i said i still remember i said that on the contrary on the country i said look it's a fascinating thing look at the divorce rate today what do you attribute that to our great grandparents didn't live together and they were married for so many years they stayed married today everybody lives together before the marriage so they should stay married even longer because they already know everything why is it the other way around so there's a lot of different reasons i said one of them maybe has to do with the fact that what happens is when you get physically involved you're so overwhelmed and you're intoxicated and maybe you never take the time to really connect to the personality of the person and then two or three years later you're bored from each other people's bodies change you find somebody else people's looks change i said in the system of the system of judaism dating is designated for one purpose only to get to know the panemias my values my personality who i am as a person those things are not going to change they're going to be there till you're 70 80 90 your sense of humor your views on life what are your priorities what do you live for what makes you happy what makes you sad what are your deep deep primal drives if you could know them when you're dating what are your insecurities what are your skeletons what are your blessings what are your challenges this is where people could connect of course the physique is important of course physicality is important but it must be a continuum of trust of loyalty of dedication i said so don't dismiss your heritage as just being foolish and stupid because maybe that's what allows for a much better relationship i got a big applause and then a bunch of girls came over to me after they said wow wow wow so should we really like when we date we shouldn't uh touch that even i said listen you're gonna have to figure that out you know they're living in duke as a secular environment but i just wanted to tell you you know just be cautious about these things so that's what the turret is telling us here you know don't jump in to a relationship because during war you were lustful take the time take the patience the giljas roy she here again she shaves her hair so that's set a my mirror on this mitzvah on that mimer this mime of that sadiq is based what did we hear from the altar so now he shifts right away as always as often from the concrete mitzvah to the spiritual mitzvah asians if astoria has a literal meaning it also has a spiritual meaning what is it what is it says explained on this passage is the beautiful one represents the soul that does not become manifested in the body it remains hovering above the body above the body doesn't mean only on top of the body also but it means it's that energy level that the person doesn't consciously feel and experience in their visceral self necessarily skin why is it called eufasttayar al-simba sayo sin in sheches but because the soul is never one dimensional it comes from the cohesiveness from the synthesis and integration of various divine qualities from this always comes beauty kamoi bagashimi is just like physically one color is nice but it's not so beautiful when something has multi colors it has diverse colors who you feel it's pleasing to the eyes palette it's attractive it's appealing means beauty is always about symmetry and harmony it encompasses known to those who know kabbalah mysticism so what's your fast tire beauty what creates beauty symmetry harmony various forces various sounds voices colors aspects coming together creating synthesis integration one color is also beautiful and something that's one dimensional also has a beauty but real beauty always comes from balance from integration just like think of a symphony think of a choir the voice is merging think of a of a song of a ballad where diverse notes come together to create a melody to create a niggin to create a song think of a piece of art think of a physique of a body it's all about symmetry and when the symmetry is balanced that's what creates yoifi so he says the neshama has called you fast taya which nashama major part of the soul is not embodied it doesn't manifest itself consciously it has an impact on me you know sometimes you'll say i s this person has a halo around them right this person gives off a light it's not tangible it's not something you said it's something intangible it's a halo or you'll you'll speak about the subconscious that impacts you drives that impact but i don't know them i don't know them that's all part of the neshama that's not manifested but sometimes it may be responsible for much more of my personality than anything else right most of ourselves we don't know we i don't know most parts of myself so then the most of the neshama is not manifested in the body it's there it's all there but it's called makif it hovers above us that's called your fast tire why because it's not one-dimensional it's made up of symmetry a diversity it's multi-colorful it encompasses it encompasses many aspects of divine energy what's asia si fastayar hainu hailik meno shama lubas baguf s the wife which is beautiful she says it means the wife of the beautiful one the part of the soul that is manifested in the body the part of the self that's manifest that's called asia is the fast tire she is the wife of the soul what does it mean wife of the soul she receives just like a woman who absorbs absorbs and intensifies and gives back to the husband she is the ultimate macabre which becomes the ultimate mashiach through the kabul it's like the earth you put in the seed and the earth gives you back a tree the husband the husband grants the seed of life and the woman absorbs it and conceives it together with the egg and it develops she gives us a child she gives the world a child so she's the macabre that receives and absorbs so the neshama that goes into the body what i mean goes in it's manifested and revealed through the body the part of self that's manifested through the body receives she's mecabul from the soul that's not manifested in the body so she's called asia's toyah the wife the spouse of the aphastoya was in a war and she was kidnapped the enemy was taken into captivity p.o.w is prisoners of war what does this mean it means that our beautiful wife asia's tyre is my soul is in captivity it's an exile where is it an exile it's an exile in my reptilian brain in my mammalian brain in my animal consciousness and it's in it's it's an exile in my body which i'm not recognizing its true values it's stuck it's stuck in my body or it's stuck in my reptilian brain in other words i don't have access to the expansiveness of the self my divinity is is is limited it's narrow it's an exile so mishra the body if it's not refined is defined in zayer as the skin this the the high the skin of the snake are the dispositions the characteristics and the garments of the animal soul they rule the divine soul as explained in tanya chapter 11 zoho indian massacre in the war of life you're going to find in captivity the beautiful woman which is your soul you're gonna have find that your soul is in captivity and what do you have to do because you want to take her out of prison you want to take her out of captivity you want to take her out of exile you want that she should run the house you want that this beautiful woman should rule you wanted the body and the animal soul should be a continuum to the divine consciousness not the other way around not the other way around that my my prefrontal lobes and my godly soul are stuck in my reptile and in my crocodile than in my lizard and in my mammal i want it to be the other way around i want that all the parts of my brain and my consciousness should be a continuum and a flow of my divine consciousness so we need my so then what happens as an emma the turtle says you want to desire the soul i want the soul the gilja is russia and you cut you shave her here what does this mean who's here do you save your your your souls here peter said means first thing is you have to want your soul you desire this woman it's not just if you desire this woman you desire this woman i have to be able to learn about the transformation of the middles that seem so negative but really they can all be transformed because essentially all the medias are survival coping mechanisms so when i release my soul and i see what i really need i can transform my negative middles of sham explain what's shaving the hair of the head sometimes i'm not ready to transform the midis but at least i could remove the filthy garments that my animal soul got dressed in in order to survive i can't always transform the internal dynamics yet that's at least i could take off i could take off the rush of the levush messiah what are these levers from saying this that samadhika is going to explain in the next piece based on what he heard from the altar which is going to bring us back to understanding the whole concept of here in judaism which will help us understand this whole suggest by hashem we will continue this next time in the meantime i wish you all a beautiful day and tomorrow tuesday we have our regular women's class 12 45 p.m it's in the tenth on 8 20 for shea all women and girls are invited and it's also going to be well live streamed on the website the yeshiva.net i have a hatslacha and a beautiful day thank you question i once heard about the record chaver that the reason he didn't cut his hair because he said that physically it hurt him it was like cutting nerves because of his brilliance yes it's possible they said that it was very hard for him it was like something alive in his hair like it's i don't know what that means scientifically but apparently it literally hurt him because of his brilliance now it's going to be explained in this mimer what here is and then we'll understand some say that when he was a child to learn and he felt that he had a connection to naziris even though he wasn't officially a nazir um others say that he for the record shove he says the hardest day for him is shabbos because he can't write down his thoughts and his mind was overwhelmingly brilliant so some say just the time when he would take it here couldn't take off his yamaki wouldn't be able to think tireless he decided that it's not for him was a person that 24 hours a day there was nothing but tyra he was it wasn't just that he learned his mind was of a different mind he saw the world through toyota it was something unique in many generations it's a very interesting thing what happened with architrave the pusher didn't cut his hair question thank you for explaining the smithsonian of hse fast tire which always perturbed me yeah it's not an easy mitzvah it's it's a hard mitzvah but i'm saying you have to understand what happens during war if you ignore it you know just just tell them to be moral that's very nice to tell people to be moral when all humanity when when they're facing a crisis that shatters the basic structures that keep us civil you know it's like uh imagine people are stuck in a situation where there's no food and there's no water you know what they do to each other you know what they do to each other it's very hard to judge people during such moments because if you ever heard of the jews in the camps you know how they the starvation and your humanity is taken away from you and when your man is taken away from you things are dangerous so i actually find it comforting that the turtle acknowledges how difficult it is how how insane it is it's not it's not a simple thing okay have a beautiful day