Does A Divorcee Have To Cover Her Hair on a Date? {Daf Hashavua Iyun Sugya Kesuvos 72a}

tonight's special Shear is dedicated by the feder family for family progress okay good evening everyone like mentioned we have a very interesting topic tonight uh we're going to speak about whether a woman who's widowed or divorced has to cover her hair it actually comes out very beautiful in the Rashi thear on brought the mishna the mishna says that if a woman violates either Das orud she goes out with subba so the gumar um the mishna says what's an example of violating Jewish practice goes out with her hair uncovered that's a violation of Jewish practice a woman who goes out with her hair uncovered that's a violation of Jewish practice so the gumar has a question on i al that a woman not covering her hair is not a violation of Jewish practice a woman not covering her hair is a violation of biblical law the says it says by you will uncover the here the head of a woman and it's taught in the academy it is a warning to Jewish women it's a woman for it's a warning for Jewish women that it's a Biblical violation to have their hair uncovered so there are two uh okay before we see Rashi I want to share with you a few interesting questions number one let's share the screen here do you see the marak yeah okay this comes from EV says I was asked regarding a widowed woman she has to support her family she can't get an office job unless she doesn't cover her hair the only way she could get a decent office job is if she uh doesn't have her hair covered I guess back in the day to what they didn't have shos like they have today you know with all the criticism of sha and how glamorous it is but the truth is in the last 20 30 40 years it really came along with the more widespread observance of women covering their hair cuz reality is uh many women don't want to cover their hair with a TI or some kind of shata and but this woman apparently the shato was not an option and to wear a a t she's not going to be able to hold down a job that way nobody's going to hire her so the question is can a Al take a job um and and take the job without covering her hair I mean we could ask the same question can a regular woman let's say a regular woman would only be able to get a married woman would only be able to get a job if she wouldn't cover her hair here would she be able to forgo covering her hair to get a job so let's analyze this before we see Rashi and before we see anything in general how much money does a person have to spend to be M Mitzvah there's a general rule you have to give up one fifth of your money to fulfill Mitzvah Mitzvah um certainly let's say let's say you you have very little money it's going to cost you a fifth of your money to buy to buy uh to buyus you got to spend to be what about how much money do you have to spend not to violate an A so the is you have to uh you need to spend all your money not to violate a a person has to give up all their money not to violate a AA what about it's interesting what about um an a you have to give up all your money not to violate an A so for example let's say somebody tells you talk by karat are going to take away all your money you have to give up all your money not to talk by kashat even in one would have to give up all their money so what would you say covering your hair is is that a positive Mitzvah or is that a a iser of not covering your hairir then afam would be how much money do you have to give up to be M because let's let's set the record straight get having a job having a job is worth at least a fifth of your money even someone is's a millionaire and he has a lot of money in the bank but having a job a career it's worth at least a fifth of your money right so if covering your here is a positive Mitzvah so then a woman would not have to cover her hair if it means losing her job if it's AA not to cover your hair then a woman would have to give up all her money not to cover her hair so let's look at rashi andya rashi says what's the source that a woman has to cover here the says the fact that we uncover her hair to make her disgusting measure for measure just like she uncovered her her to be beautiful to her the uh adulterer M that means it's user in other words the fact that we why do we uncover the hair of sa presumably because it's mid she uncovered her hair to her so we uncover her here that implies that it was prohibited for her to uncover her hair to the then Rashi brings another or you could say from the fact it says we uncover here Peru that implies that at that until then it was not covered that implies that at that moment it was until then it was not covered from here we see it's not the for Jewish women to go out with their hair uncovered so the second Rashi is the fact that we uncover here that implies that until then her hair was covered that means biblical Jewish practice is for her to cover her hair this is the that Rashi says he would like to go with so Raa brilliantly says that if you study these two explanations in Rashi it would come out a very big nafina of how we look at a woman's obligation to cover her hair according to the first reason that we do it to her to be menav her to make her disgusting like she did to her B that implies that what she did to her B was user then not covering your your hair is an iser but if it's just an implication that until now it was covered which means Jewish practice is for woman to cover her hair then that just means it's a mitzvah for her to cover her hair but it's not na for her not to yeah it would be a because she's not fulfilling her obligation but it's not in is it's a Mitzvah then AF would be how far does a woman have to go to do it does she have to give up all her money now another thing is doesn't ala does a widowed woman have to cover her hair is that or is maybe that only the so says like this answered that this Widow can be lenient for a very pressing need why he says it's that even the and the DOA who say that an has to cover her here that's not biblical that's only it's only Jewish practice that has to cover here only has to cover here since you could explain the to doesn't say a woman is not allowed to cover her hair I'm sorry the doesn't say that it's a woman is not allowed to go with her hair uncovered rather it's a positive obligation that she should go with her hair covered so Raa says just out of logic it's m that the T never said that it's user for a woman to go around with her hair uncovered but rather it's a positive command oh it's logical to me it's to me that this is between the in explaining the going to the first who explains the fact that we do this to her just like she did to be beautiful M that look at the who explain who writes according to this pish we see that PRI is according to the first of rash the says it's PR for a woman not to cover her hair who it would it would be an iser for her not to cover her hair to the second so we see it's not the of women Jewish women to go out with their hair uncovered there's aah on her not a matter of is there would be an because she's not fulfilling her that the main reason that the main source for woman covering her hair is the fact that we uncover the hair of that implies until then it was covered says the simple difference between these two if it's an you would ask her even if it's a big she would have to lose all her money but if it's just a positive command then it's a a a a a extenuating circumstance of money more than a fifth say anything that's a hefid of A fifth or more namely for example she can't get a job unless she goes with her hair uncovered that would be an o that she's not according to the lnas which is so you'll say then even if she's not in Al even if she's a regular married woman she should be able to take a job even if it's going to mean not covering her hair because she doesn't have to give up a fifth of her money to she doesn't have to give up more than a fifth of her money to cover her hair what does it have to do with the fact that she's in even if she was in a says Raa if she was an ases is where biblically she has to cover her hair then you could say well even though Rashi says the ier reason a woman has to cover her hair is as a a and then she would not have to do so if it's more than a fifth of your money but it would be a will may be the first version of Rashi is correct and for a woman not to cover here it's an iser and then she would have to give up all her money so a married woman she would not be able to take a job if it meant her not covering her hair even if it means her giving up all her money even though Rashi says the iar is the second but it's at least a sa on the third line in next paragraph look where my icon is but where it's only Jewish practice because it's not more than an if it was an outright we would say and furthermore says Raa in other words the Das yudas here which covering her here is which is not more than so M she would be able to be lenient and say well maybe the main reason a woman has to cover her ha is that it's a mits she doesn't have to give up more than a fifth but you could say further it's only Jewish custom out of Jewish practice but maybe it's not Jewish practice for ala to cover here if it's going to be a he so that's the first na between the two and Rashi the na would be in where it would only be dasas and now we have a suff is it a Mitzvah or is it an a I want to share with you one more Naina amazing Naina unfortunately you have situations where a woman is married for a short amount of time and then she gets divorced and she's dating again and if a guy sees a young girl on a date and she's wearing a sh doel he's not interested so the Shila is can this young gusa go on a date a date or two without a sh so that you know if the if the if the man likes her so she'll tell her um she'll tell him that you know she's a grusa even though the chances are ra says the guy already knows from before if he before going out with her that she's probably a gusa but at least the first time he sees her she'll be appealing then the next time if she wears a he already she's already but if she wears the sh the first time he thinks it's already you know uh it's already something that he's not interested in so the question is can this gusha date without covering your air this is in a young woman who's divorced she doesn't want people to know that she was married before she wants to go without her hair covered she's not trying to trick anyone and the truth is she can't trick trick anyone cuz all her friends know anyone who's going to want to marry her he's going to do his they're going to say they're going to tell him that she's a when they get when they go for a marriage license it's going to be recorded that this woman was previously married so she's not trying to trick anyone her is her kav is that once he gets to know [Music] her she finds favor in someone's eyes that somebody wants to marry her she won't lose her charm when she lets him know that she was previously married but a guy who knows about this girl that she was once divorced she's not going to think anything he's not going to even consider her it's a very reasonable concern can we give this woman a het based on what I wrote in that who needed a job we said she didn't have to cover her here based on the second reasoning of Rashi that it's not user for her to go without her here covered it's a mitzvah for her and therefore she doesn't have to give up a fifth of the money so just like I was M there that woman who they didn't want to give her a job only if she didn't cover here so the question is can we extend the to allow ausa to go out without covering her says that's a very reasonable extension yes you could give this woman a he yeah it's that's also a big heid not being able to find another husband is a big just like was there a divorced woman covering her hair is also not biblical she's not it's also only this Jewish practice but it's not it's Jewish practice but it's not she needs to know you need to know in it's once there's no concern anymore that he won't like her she's obligated to cover her here it's not going to be outright m in other words the bottom line is a divorced or widowed woman woman must cover her hair but if it's a matter of her not finding a job or it's a matter of her not finding a so again a married woman can there's no heter for her not to cover her hair for money because even if she's going to lose all her money we would be concerned for the first L of Rashi that it's an iser for her not to cover here she would have to give up all her money but in the case of AA or a case of an Al where it's not it's only it's only it's only M it's only M then we could say maybe the second rash of Rashi which anyway Rashi says is the is that it's not a is for her not to cover here it's only a Mitzvah and she would not have to give up more than a fifth of her money giving up a job giving up the ability to remarry is considered more than a fifth of her money it's a huba and she could be lenient but otherwise and Al or has to cover her here it's not it's okay that's what I wanted to share with you tonight and uh on that note have a great night if you have any questions quick question but if the B is already quote unquote broken for say if it's a divor why why why does she still have to continue to cover hair there's no there's no connection anymore I mean and I would then question is there a difference between a widow and divor SE so there's no there's no there's no difference between a widow and and divorce the bond is broken but it's considered um Das yudis Das yudas is modest Jewish practice you know there are opinions that single women are also obligated to cover hair we we don't follow that by some they are M that they braid their hair why because they're that right say okay it's more by a married woman but it's not totally out of the realm of logic that really any woman has some type of uh so so so we say it's a Jewish practice it's once she's married once she was in a relationship with a man she would have to cover here the sh is when does that start by the way does it start by the right where does it start by I think we spoke this out the Mishu is of the opinion a is must cover her here so in our Yesa they're very always follow the so uh the rash will not be K if the woman does not wear a at the by my my wedding those were the uh terms of the cedar kadus you know and we that's what we that's that's what we did we were M on that most follow ra Raa says it's dependent on the or on the itself and then you know most Orthodox weddings even Ben the the girl is not wearing a not at the and not even after the room at the dancing her hair is not covered um I want tell you we we have the C that we don't when they go into the the room we don't close the door completely so there is not that problem right to avoid that issue yeah very good SK thank you much good night good night thank you C good night recording stopped