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Okay, episode from positivity. I'm going to discuss a lot of a wide range of topics. I'm going to see how we can slice it up. So, it's a pleasure to have you on. The first time I brought you up, I don't know why I forgot to say and introduction. People know who he is. I'm a therapist, a coach, a mentor, aid, administrator, entrepreneur. so many beautiful titles that you hold yet humble. I always say that I would choose you. I feel like you're uh you know the amount of topics that you know that you're involved. I know you have about five or okay without exaggeration I think you have four phones or something like a different um thing. It's just incredible to see what what you've done and what you've accomplished and congratulations for coming out and speaking in topics that nobody come will speak about. So that's beautiful. Um, I'm gonna start and do a little bit of a buildup says and last year I did a podcast just to talk about the anxiety of it >> and it was very well accepted meaning that mentioned Zen um >> and in there's a whole pressure and a bubble and story of what is, what it's meant to be. But mentioned there's >> stress about kids, about money, and stress about the whole energy. There's stress about going out of the usual schedule. There's stress about not being in your work routine suddenly. So the there's a lot that comes along with it. Um so I'd love to hear your perspective but the mention was what would you say something how to approach it? >> Thank you. Thank you so much for uh doing this interview again >> and uh I do very fine without being called. It's fine. >> Yeah. >> I actually prefer slang me. It's more hish. It's like like uh I come from a family we called our uncles by the name uncle. We call B. >> Yeah. >> And my wife comes from a family you say the name uncle, uncle this, T this, aunt. >> I saw it as a distance like so close to my uncle. >> But they see it as a preaching respect. >> You call him. >> So I think love connection is more important to me than honor. >> Right. >> So but any case regardless thank you. Yeah, >> let's talk about I think that English I think it's first language mention certain perspective of guilt I see the way they spend it. I tried to teach them perspective. Yeah. So an adult perspective of guilt as adults redone. Yeah, you know we have to redo you know human being. So we have to redo of an adult leg. the so perspective those only adults can handle them is black or white. So gray area. Yeah. >> The older we have, we we become do not do it, you know. Wow. Wow. So, the gray area is in the gray area. So, let's talk about such a beautiful coun by the way. Very, very I never even thought about it that way. when it comes to an adult like I often tell you know I say you know very well you used to say >> and I don't even go into what he said but it was just the concept like for like there were certain things you okay you're going out of the ordinary because you're an adult and you know what to do what the right decision is and I think it's so powerful what you said certain adults Mama child black and white they don't they can't use their certain beliefs anything young perspective as as as a young teenager as a little child >> and added on to But when you get older, you only have to work in like do what's right because it's right. >> You have to tell do what it's right because if not you're gonna get punished. >> Yeah. But we get older. commentary and I realized punishment >> it doesn't say anything about punishment consequences alcohol drunk drunk in the wrong, right? >> If you drink in the wrong time, you're going to end up >> in No, but what I learned more and more is that the is of consequence consequence. >> Exactly. >> So, so is the beginning. The beginning celebrated celebrate. Yeah. [Music] We love renewal. Inspiration. So the beginning it's like I don't want to bring along it's like into perspective I lost the word. >> Yeah. So that's not doing it again. I'm going to I'm going to this time I'm going to do more. That's the whole idea. It's not about that much about >> it's more about before you start the new year. >> Yeah. H you reflect kick sik he's like man let's what am I doing it's such a beautiful time >> yeah now I'm thinking to myself I was looking back at my own Google photos >> and I saw the place where I was a year ago like you said it's such a beautiful time to see where I was like my company was in half my the my relationships were were a mess the my health everything. Yeah. Personal growth. I was in such a different place. So, yeah, it's so beautiful to be able to look back. Correct. And I feel like you want to throw away a gift. >> Yeah. >> Now, let's look into the >> Okay. Yeah. Mhm. Tomahawk stakes. Yeah. We'll talk about >> that's dedicated. of the family. Let alone Yeah. But there was still a sweetness in the Yeah, >> it was such a beautiful time. Right. But when you say it, I I think to myself, but they also finish 4:00. By the time you get home, it's 4:30. You don't have a day. >> It sounds like twoers connected. >> But I want to say this Yeah. >> No, I'm saying it makes sense. I'm not I'm not Yeah, it makes sense that the whole day and you don't even have time to focus of the past and on future. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Dry lines. Yeah. Dry seconds. It's the newcomers in the freezer in the fridge. Right. >> You have to think what you're doing for the generation. I'm not saying but I had I had a trauma. Wow. >> I had trauma again and to give them over analysis. You're you're you're doing a lot of damage. >> Wow. >> Is this the ultimate ultimate goal for >> is to celebrate So we celebrate celebrate the velt beautiful do flowers with orchids with bees with Allah beautiful music with pleasures and colors and say thank you >> for giving and we say it's a divine design right from the [Music] I love it. >> Yeah. He wants me to to grow in. He wants me to enjoy the develop. taste. Oh wow. Interesting spices. >> Did you enjoy it? >> Wow. >> So that's what we need to reflect like Just you start realizing that [Music] is the most awesome amazing. >> I love that. Um daily affirmations is my first thing that I say is I'm happy and grateful now that I wake up daily living life to my full potential. And that's really how I want to live every day. >> And add one word. Thank you for that. >> Yeah, I add a lot of words. I'm saying this is one of the like when I do my morning walk the 1500s, 1520s. Yeah. Wow. Universally accepted. reason and I think it to these words most of the days >> as much as I can and then I add other words always. >> Yeah. >> Funny because I literally do the same. >> Yeah. You do the same. >> I have a before I go to bed I I thank for small things. Basically I learned this in psychology. You want to put your brain to find the little things. So And thank you for the green light and thank you for the client and I'm just basically teaching my brain to find little things and then in the morning when basically when the stress hormones stress is very high I try to find the bigger things to thank. Thank you healthy. Thank you. That I have a business, that I have a life, a relationship, whatever. Um the the last question in regards to is from a coaching perspective. We we spoke about the spiritual perspective, but from a coaching perspective, how should he measure his year? And then how should she should he go about he or she about New Year's resolutions and okay so actually how do I actually change my life because a lot of people they're truly stuck they don't even know where to start but they want to take upon themselves a bunch of good things where do they start >> okay I I I want to start with one introduction to the answer. >> Okay. >> Yeah. >> Checks and balances. How is my day? [Music] Right. Mhm. Right. Different people. Yeah. This is the drive from Wow. >> I don't think people need to make New Year's resolutions of do it on the go calendar. >> Yeah. >> Okay. January 1, you make New Year's resolution, guys. Join our gym. Is not made for that. Is a time when we think back. Thank you, Hashem. opportunity opportunity opportunity. Thank you for the How about reflecting on that? >> How about reflecting on that? That's going to be your biggest drive for the next year. I think >> that nothing drives you more than working and being proud of yourself. I don't want whoever said it highest levels the happiness that I had every time. I think on that we all need to do >> on that we need to reflect on being humble in the wrong place right >> and say yes celebrate it instead of you could that's >> yeah is motivating you through positive motivating you through loving yourself and thanking and appreciating and thanking Hashem for giving me the opportunity. I believe that if all of us would do achieve on this of being humble in the wrong place, >> we're going to have a much higher spiritual and and a physical year next year and we have this in business. >> I can't believe I accomplished so much like you said before. Isn't that going to give you more drive to do more next year? >> 100%. I'm proud to say that I keep a gratitude journal, the highlights of my day. And sometimes I think to myself, >> thank you. I really feel that way. I took it upon myself a year ago and I made the promise to God. I said, you give me a good life, I'll journal about it. Like legit, I think that God if I think if he has one, by the way, that Yeah. Is that true? to he's good. He wants he wants to do good. >> Wants to do good. >> The only thing he was so to speak missing is giving to be the best person. >> Only tested when so if you don't accept that giving if you don't recognize it >> oh that Hashem is giving you >> then you're then you're out of his line of like if God's giving if you're accepting then you're doing his duty. That's how I see appreciating your surrendering. Exactly. >> And you understand it's coming from him and you understand it's coming from love and you understand and and we all make mistakes and >> and that's >> Yeah. >> Yeah. So beautiful. So I think that accepting and and being able to acknowledge the good will put everybody in a better mood >> and we accept ourselves for for doing the mistakes. >> Yeah. Oh created the mistakes in us. He created us to be Right. >> Right. So now let's get into talk of the conversation of mistakes in >> Okay. It's even more serious. It's it's it is a rough day. Zero distractions. It's a good song. >> It's a good song. Beautiful song. Beautiful song that true forgiveness means um forgiving so that it doesn't live in you, you know. The black and white version is okay. Is is controversial. And then you grow up and you start learning, you know, like for the mistakes that I say. One of my affirmations by the way are every single day I say I forgive myself for everything that I did up until this day and today and I fully accept myself for the person that I am. >> Excellent. That's that's >> thank you. So let's talk about forgiveness. >> So I I I want to split there's >> okay >> is probably the most important week >> of the of the of the Jewish calendar. >> Okay. That's that's actually mentioned, you know, it's the time where you're still actually interacting with people >> and you're doing business and you're talking the guys, it's such a good time to really reflect, >> right? Yeah. Fine. But yeah, do it in real life. Let's do that week. Was the jump start. It was a transition. It was a happy day. Yeah. But it was reflect. It was the beginning of the year. he wants. So it's like I think whoever is going to be really self-reflective look, you know, and then alliance is the happiest day of the year. >> Yeah. But the you know you regret It should be the happiest day of the year. Bumpers. Totally clean. Wow. I didn't [Music] Yes. Clean slate. >> You're as clean as it gets. It's a beautiful day. >> Yeah. But most people don't know that is and if you want to go into of that, you learn a lot of so it's it's hard for them. It's hard especially the black and white version of is to say because Because you're right, they do work with black and black and white minds. >> Usually black and white. >> Yeah. But when I vice and if truly his idea of the boogeyman then of course he's petrified in this in this whole of season. He how can he see past that? How can he see this beautiful version? Okay. Yeah. But is in the back burner. That's all I'm saying. Yeah. >> Focus on self-growth. Focus on reflection. Focus on completely. Wow. You're clean. Zero. >> That's the scary part. and and mention as they get older child. It's not >> it's it's it's such a humbling experience >> to owning up. How do we call it in psychology? Owning up. Own up. >> You know, I call my father, right? What's wrong to just owning up? You know how how rewarding it is afterwards. >> You feel very good afterwards. It's a very good feeling. >> People get very stubborn after selfrespect. egoists, the business partners, they never did self-reflection. They never looked at themselves. They never did chiever to themselves. They never achieve with and they're losing out of this world. They start >> just let's enjoy it. Let's >> And how about rebuilding that connection with Hashem? Amen. I want to see Hashem in a positive light. I want to see you as a as a beautiful >> Let's talk about that. That's a very very good a good thing. I I I think that the average guy Joshmo guy was vo in America. >> Yeah. >> Loved certain models, certain zingers, certain superstars excitement connected. park every so why is that [Music] sweetheart yeah but The nature is connected is the biggest artist. >> If you look at a flower, if you walk down, I love botanical gardens. >> Okay. >> You can name hind botanics. Oh yeah. >> Names of different plants. Yeah. I'm one of those I and I enjoy nature. mention I see right over there. >> Wow. >> I want to be close to the ultimate talent. >> Yeah. >> I want to be close. was once in Europe a billionaire. He loves them. You're going to see him. You're going to hug him. They're dying to see God. >> Yeah. And I heard a beautiful reason why he doesn't show us what he looks like because limited. We will all would have been disappointed in some way or another. >> N like It's it's a it can be whatever you want it to be. Yeah. >> Pictures and videos. >> Okay. Yeah. So I know where was and the story is unbelievable. >> It's got the beautiful when you see if you like art. >> Yeah. and and neighborh I got into certain I wish I could find Alex paintings beautiful >> the talent in the painting the arts it's unbelievable humbling to want to connect to everything that that's happened >> Boring. Nothing. I'm clouds. The clouds of the Atlantic Ocean. The germs in state parks in the mountains of the mountains. Yeah. Nobody knows. Yeah. Exactly. The boats we could see Hashem. It's a to want to see him, >> right? >> It's a you can't explain. You want to hear something very interesting? They didn't know there was the brother. The mommies. You look at it. You see a mask. Like war. Wow. to me. Wow. >> I want to share with you a beautiful story. But I I I think I think it's very very very very powerful quick. >> Yeah. diialysis and he couldn't find a donor special type he told me zero recognition fine He tells me and it hit me in my head when he told me this. Wow. This might I'm supposed to love wholeheartedly. I always Matama donor community donor m taste buds donor and I start singing about Yeah. My heart's >> Yeah. >> And how do you see that? How do you You look around the world and there's so much beauty. >> Yeah. >> And enjoyed art and enjoyed poetry and enjoyed nature. You're going to love him just like this guy loves his kidney donor. So you don't need to see you need to open your eyes >> beautiful and to bring it full circle is I feel that when we have that connection with Hashem when we see him in that way when we see nature we see his beauty I think it's a lot easier for us to believe that he can also forgive us and understand us the uniqueness I always say when a when a kid in class doesn't behave and then give us a test of arts and crafts there's always that kid that the teacher says it's okay sit next to you know, and I think that I think the is in the same way like that like >> the energy says okay if you don't mind touch dangerous part Because it's like yeah a blind eye right >> but do I want to have a blind eye I know what's good for him right >> and he cannot come and say yeah you know swimming pool >> yeah This is Yeah. >> So we don't know what Hashem is important to what that's dangerous, right? He tried. Yeah, >> beautiful. That's >> I love that. Very nice. Okay, beautifully said. Um, okay. Let's get to the yub of sikas. I think that this >> this might be in a sense the hardest one because over here people are challenged with the happiness and they're like, do you want me to be happy? I don't know what happy is. like I'm so afraid to go to a place of happiness. Now I have to tell you something. You said something in this is how you know it was in Israel about six months ago. I think they gave and I just listened to it. You were talking about the scale of happiness. >> Oh that the books me. >> Yep. And I think my brother is also there by the way. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Producer from the podcast. >> Yes. So he helps me out with the videos. >> Um, >> shout out to him. >> Shout out to him. Yeah, he's a good good person. >> And the scale of happiness that people think that happiness is above. Yeah. And like basically unhappiness and reality level is content. >> Freedom. The middle line, the middle line, >> the middle line is if I can go and be happy. Yeah. So the moments I get the moment, I get the I get the that's beautiful. Thank you. >> And and same as for for for worse sometimes that I have to do something to get myself up to that middle line of excitement. Exactly. Fun and extreme extravagant. let me be able to live in in a mile of joy. If I'm not there, I I need to go for help or change something or whatever. And I think that that to me changed it so much. I mention how you doing and my answer it used to be I'm happy. I'm mention a sense it's toxic happiness happy about happy mind. I'm happy with what I have. >> Yeah. >> It's in there, >> right? >> I'm happy. It's the middle of it. >> Exactly. Yeah. Happy is the middle. >> Yeah. Right. It could be that. So I think the des for me a very big uh lesson I mention how you doing I'll always say yeah I'm I'm good like and happy meaning I think my body and mind got used to being okay and content with the freedom level >> so it's a be is this your own concept or >> I don't know it's formulated collectively it's a beautiful perspective but oh Yeah. >> And I was making it up as I was talking with them. >> Yeah. >> Like and I remember it was a whiteboard and and and that's got formula and I worked on it and then I was able to >> such a beautiful I can't give over something that I didn't >> Yeah. >> I really needed to work on that and and and I really >> Were you searching for happiness all the time? What's the how did you get to that place? No, but but then then >> then then do problems you need to Hello, you know, come on. This is childish. You know, you know, realistic stables. That's beautiful. >> And he's very happy by the way. It's very happy to be [Music] Yeah. Hello. You got to search inside. It's something but just able to just breathe. >> Breath work is in whatever it is. Just just enjoy it. Relax. >> It's such a happy feeling to be relaxed. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I I used to speak about uh breath work meditation and then I stopped because I noticed that people they mamish can't relate but I I would come back and make a claim that if you can close your eyes for like five minutes during the day not sleeping it's very different during the day if you can because I did it a few times now I was a pum like my coach I was the barber I was heading to the barber on Thursday and like I just closed my eyes while while he was doing something like and then I open it was a completely different world we can close your eyes for two three minutes even just close your eyes middle of the day middle of the everything it's it's very powerful most people don't do it I think because they're afraid like and that's also why they're so afraid of the season so like the guy >> no escape >> yeah there's no escape no stimulation you actually have to sit but but isn't it and I think the sus [Music] >> I think it's like 16 ft Not all the time. Sometimes this is everybody has a part. We're all sharing plan certain fight ages. Plan ahead, right? Yeah. Sorry. >> Yeah. >> Is gorgeous. If you don't know how to if you misusing it, alcohol is beautiful. Such kind of addictions. >> Yeah. >> But drinks you misusing you can misuse. >> Yeah. So [Music] plan ahead games favorite. >> Yeah. family and enjoying it's so beautiful. >> Yeah. But if you find yourself in it single in in the season, >> I think it's such an opportunity. But if he uses it as an opportunity to bond with the family of Isn't that now is the time? >> Yeah. you know the married bonding through the table through the table. >> There's always an opportunity in the guys plan >> right >> and and plan to have self time alone. Yeah. >> To reflect and enjoy the answer for sickest. >> Yeah. I would suggest to singles that they should learn to be happy with themselves. >> Yeah. being single like I think that you can really exactly because all I knew was to be individual and then we turn 18 and we have this idea not good enough legit and and I don't blame myself for thinking that way like exactly But then again, the best I worked on it over the last few, the last few years again. I told myself miserable and I that's I told you before like business is you know monthly subscription in a sense my social media is monthto month so there's certain people okay and I'm like frustrated at me the client frustrated If I just trust God and says, "Okay, yeah." Wow. So just just chill. Ah yeah vulnerable. Yeah. [Music] became a mom. Yeah. >> This is this very thing is the sickness and this is the ultimate happiness. >> Yeah. >> And I'm happy and I'm content. Right. >> Right. And I feel in relationships, you're the first one that I saw that that told me this concept of let it flow. And I and I see it for myself time and time again. issue about something that happens and then you're like just just let it go says meaning to say okay yes >> and I think that's an incredible flow when I mention again this is the best of healing the ide just the clients and came up in just random outreach like he can fight. >> Yeah. To a certain point and again the brain the ego brain by the way the ego brain is not in charge calls the ego and that's that's death to the ego scary situation for the ego. So yeah is is a beautiful day because it is no and I think it is heavy. I can see for myself just not being in routine and routine is a challenge >> but but it's a challenge. Don't you want to sometimes just feel like okay Sunday to Friday true yes >> there is you know >> but there's all kinds of >> there's a man of vacation also >> right >> there's a man of you know something like the phone just you know this all healthy routine is healthy as long as you have vacation also as long as you have y as You need to have all the cake layers, right? >> You know, you know, >> right? So, it's a part of the year was >> Yeah. It's it's it's a beautiful way to start the year actually. aspects you know I don't blame but take five minutes enjoy one piece just one piece zoom in on you know It's so beautiful is interested in me. >> It's a gorgeous moments. >> Gorgeous. I don't think we would ever be able to go through the winter. >> Never be able. >> Wow. It's just a little bit >> and don't beat yourself up for being a teenager. But whatever you do, don't knock yourself. >> It's okay. But Again, thinking back Yeah. I felt punished family. Yeah. >> And the next thing I found in the climate building communities Wow. Educated in school. Yeah. Whatever. constant fun the swimming pool. Wow. So, wow. eventually. Yeah. is the type. Yeah. Just an example >> that Yeah. Yeah. Okay. lady families. Right. Yeah. Wow. That's not a problem. But Wow. age, right? and above him is got a square and he's got a triangle triangle. Wow. I have no issue with that. Wow. It's not emotally stable. mentally stable. Family. Yeah. Right. Right. Favorite pizza. Whatever the excitement is. just pre-war. >> So, so explain to me what's happening. Why can't we go back to a place where 50 years ago, 60 years ago, if I mention why why are people being so fim and friends and my friends are like family and family are friends in inner circles we just try to be good. >> That's why I told you what I'm looking for in my future is to can we just be people. >> So what happened? >> Okay. value, >> right? >> Because some people say so that to me is important enough. only because he wants to follow somebody right. So okay but extra category but the general conversation is became mass- prodduced in the time. values. Yeah. I was always on the wrong They didn't work with me, right? Get mass produced by mention with some easily makeover. Yeah. >> Wow. >> And why are people following it? Comfort. You just follow the rules and whatever. Personally appreciate level. >> Oh, wow. Yeah. But I get to see them. I get to Yeah. Mhm. >> And the amount system is >> right the the numbers. >> Well, you know that I I personally pray for the for the extreme extreme, >> right? >> Why? >> Because the mayor extreme the mayor found. So the guy when they made the idea of voicemails like the outlet and the voicemail I'm just saying the more extreme the mayor mention okay the neighbor automatically 50% of might do it the other 50% will say okay this is too much I think the went completely the went completely like half of the so yeah whatever but the idea yeah but inside and there aren't any ones. Mhm. Okay. Right. [Music] for smartphone. Mhm. meaning of the level of exactly he'll get you that way. Wow. So, anybody who can support him. Wow. Don't take my words wrong. Works for you. Do it. >> Yeah. Lakewood doing Lakewood to do plenty. Yeah, of course. Wow. >> I think so. I love it. This is the best. The future hasn't involved the government and the local voting hasn't involved in guilt for the involved So the headquarters of power, right? But it mentions just follow the box. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. see this. But until then, we really >> I'll tell you the positive though that I think that as we evolve Yeah, correct connectisle and people really connect it. Good point. Yanches. I respect people's uh you know I believe And and you know you nailed it. This was >> Yeah. Cool. Ending with a beautiful master. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Okay. was. Yeah. tells me I'm I'm going to say the short version. Yeah. I get something. [Music] Yeah. flat screen. >> Microwave screen. >> Yeah. beautiful lin. >> Yeah. Yeah, I like he started feeling the love in the family. film is [Music] Wow. Feel wholesome. Smart choices. Why shouldn't we do that to ourselves? >> Yeah. >> I was rough to myself. >> Wow. If you love yourself days that I did not love myself enough and I didn't blame myself. I to stop blaming myself and stop feeling bad for everything I did wrong. >> Yeah. Beautiful. [Music] I love it. Very nice. I said yesterday, no amount of disvalidation will make somebody feel validated. >> Beautiful. Exactly. >> So I feel we live in that kind of world where we try to disvalidate issue problems and personality. Nice. It's valid. Filster's voice is valid. >> Beautiful. Thank you so much. So enlightening really beautiful. Thank you everybody for listening. If you want to get connected with we'll put his information. Um you can book a session on his website and we'll leave >> rabbi.com and if there's a website I'll also or if there's a WhatsApp number if you want to share we can put it in the thing as well. Thank you everybody for being here. Reminder to subscribe to the channel. Leave a comment. I always say if there's enough questions and comments, I'll ask him if we can meet him again and ask those questions. 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