Did you Win - Rabbi Dovid'l Weinberg

made it a focal point of his voters hashem to study safer divarm every single day of his life he was his muslim safer of choice and seeing as now we as a nation are entering into this amazing safe area beginning safer the barn this week it's a rare opportunity a chance for all of us to learn from one of the master educators from moshe bin himself about how to speak to ourselves secretary is really a master safer it's a work of tokha the addresses of moshe vayner to the jewish people the last will and testament of moshe and it's an opportunity for all of us to learn how to receive how to give ourselves to how to speak to our children and to know how to do it in a way where we're elevating and lifting up the people who are listening to our slight criticisms rather than pushing them down between proper and fitting rebuke and improper rebuke imagine a person who's walking at this house holding a bag of garbage on his way to put it in one of the bins outside someone comes over and azerbaijan says imagine a person takes that garbage bag and rips a huge hole in the bottom of it or throws the garbage bag out of his hand so that the content spills all over the floor and all of his clothing you haven't done the person much of a favor they were taking something which was not really part of them and they were removing that solas that externality they're removing it from their house and bringing it outside proper rebuke is like taking the lid of the garbage can and lifting it up for them so they can get rid of it more quickly and saying to them this is not really part of you i see that you're just taking this out of your house as opposed to identifying the person with their shortcoming when moshe albeno rebukes the jewish people in the beginning of safer devarm it's never with an actual reference to the failure that the jewish people committed but rather a veiled reference some sort of coded language speaking about the place where the jewish people made a mistake because you never want to associate the person with the elira you instead want to show the person that this was circumstantial and this was secondary to who you are [Music] of honest from milwaukee was the father of rabbi dr abraham jatorsky they're now a psychologist in rose on rosh hashanah they were having a guest in their home and that guest who was a hashibrov in his own right asked the young avram torski if he wanted to play a game of chess he obliged and after playing the game a few hours later word got back to young avraham's father that he had engaged in this game of chess on rosh hashanah called into his study and said avraham was there something they wanted to tell me and the young rabbi dr abraham j torski said his head was hung in shame and he said yeah abba you know i played a game of chess rav asked if i wanted [Music] the day of the coronation of the king you know we're still careful with every single moment of sleeping and eating and what we what we say and you know there's nothing wrong with the chest about rosh hashanah so sitting there kind of head hung low dejected uh the young afrom said yeah it wasn't wasn't the right thing to do and he started to back out of the room and just then his father looked up from his safe hair and turned towards the rom and he said tell me did you at least win and the young avram turski recounted later in his life that he remembered feeling like a thousand pounds of bricks being lifted from his shoulders because in that moment he realized that his father's criticisms his father's rebuke was coming from a place of love all his father wanted was for him to win so we take the words and we plant them firmly in our hearts and we ask hashem to help us that we should have to speak to ourselves and speak to other people in a way where it's clear that it's coming from a place of love take with you say for divine