Derech Mitzvosecha Vidu vTeshuva #8- A good Gabbai is the success of a shul - RC Dalfin

So we're learning the mimemer the mitzvah of confession and mitzvah in the we're middle of chapter 2 where is talking about the idea of filling the void. The void is the piggum, the blemishes and empty spaces caused by the clippus. And how do we cause the clipus to come about? Through our avadus, our transgressions. And he cited the verse in which says I I Hashem says twice I will pardon your sins. And he questions why the twice I why twice anoi? And to explain that he starts an elaborate explanation on the difference between creations versus emanations. A creation is an actual creation. Now when I say actual in the spiritual realms they begin spiritually but as they trickle down to a lower world and a lower world they ultimately become materialized where they're tangible and where the five senses can appreciate and relate to. But it begins all in what's called the world of creation. If you compare that to the world of emanation, which is the world of the first and highest world, there we don't have creations, we have emanations. Einations are reflections. And the reason is because since God Almighty is infinite, how is the energy able to come from infinity to this finite world? So the cababala says that that's only through a process called contractions. And this has many steps and levels. It's not just a one-time thing. And this is what the is getting into in this second chapter that the begins with the kesser with the crown. There's a crown on top of the head. Then there's the head and there's the heart and there's the feet and the hands and the action behavior. The crown functions as two parts. One part of the crown is associated to what's above it, God Almighty. And one part of the crown, the lower part of the crown is on the actual head. It has a connection already to the head. So too he says within the spiritual levels of the crown of kesser there is what we call y and amp. Atik or in short atik and arik means the inner aspect of the crown. Hence it's removed from the world. And then there is long faces meaning there is a face here some kind of image spiritually but it's long it's not direct and short that's called aren many times inas you'll see the term panmius ander the inner aspect of the crown and the external aspect of the crown Those are cinnamons for atic and atic is the higher level the pimmas. When it's within it's higher because it's closer to the soul. When it's outward it's moreius it's more external. It takes into consideration what others the way others will perceive it which is also an important lesson as an aside for in our life people are sh are people exist on two do in two in two platforms one platform is and the other one is many times we look at a person we look at a situation and we we're judge and we make a judgment call and we say there's so and so. This is so and so. And we're only seeing the we're not seeing the inside. We're just seeing the outside. The outside facade. On the other hand, there's also the inside of a person that isn't necessarily expressed in the outside. Surely not in behavior. Where is the inside more expressed in desire and pleasure? Mosa, as you mentioned yesterday, rats and tuk, if you want to know where a person's at, look at their desire and their pleasure. If you want to know them just from the outside, look at their behavior. Many people do a lot of nice things and behave nicely but inside they can have some very very uh decrepit character issues. The previous rabbis says it. I'm not saying this on my own accord although if it's so true in our lives to throw away to discard behavior is wrong and silly. But at simultaneously to consider behavior the end all is just [clears throat] as silly and maybe even worse. So when we say and Mark when we say action orientation the bottom line is deed right THE DEED THAT'S WHAT counts all your philosophies all of our philosophies and ideologies can go out the window are you doing it or aren't you doing it now that's true if you're looking at it just from behavior Right. And the bottom line is Moshe as far as mitzvah are concerned and not doing transgressions behavior mode is the bottom line. Did you do the mitzvah or not? But that doesn't yet tell you about the person. Did you hear that? It doesn't yet tell you about the character. SO, AS FAR AS HASHEM IS CONCERNED, one second. As far as God is concerned, you one minute. You did the mitzvah and you didn't do the sin, you're [clears throat] in. You're in. You're doing what Hashem wants. But does that mean you're a nice person? Not necessarily. What do you want to say, Moshe? >> Yeah, I was going to say that. I think we have a little bit of a contradiction here because you can tell a lot about a person by looking at their behavior, right? By looking at their actions. You can >> you can tell a lot but you can but you cannot >> tell everything and and plenty of people plenty of times. Let's say let's say a per let's say let's say a person writes a a nice check to an organization to sedak that same person if you know you know his character he could be a real uh not nice person no the bottom line is he gave a big check to the duck organization does that yet mean that he's a nice character not at all >> correct correct >> okay does that mean but does that disqualify that he gave the saddaka absolutely not and the bottom line is when you give the saddaka it feeds the poor it helps the organization and that is the s the but that doesn't tell you about the character so all I'm saying is that the way you could see more about the character of a person is their and their and their tuk you know >> and also if someone gives Sodaka and they have a huge plaque on the kesh. It's also uh it's you know doesn't necessarily mean it was Lashma either. >> Correct. You know when I was meeting my wife I forget it was the first or second meeting might have been the first. Um she had to go to the bathroom. I had to go to the bathroom and and she had in her in her coat or she had a reb you know to me that's more than just behavior that shows this is important to the person. I think I'm just I forgive me for jumping in here. I think I just, you know, this is the Gabby my Gabby hat coming out. But unfortunately, we've spoken about this many many times before. Unfortunately though, we also have situations where you could you could have a guy in sh. He could be a nice person. He seems like a nice person. He's he's kindoser pleasant in sh. And you find out that the guy's, you know, an abuser, >> right? 100% you know when you finally nice nice guy you know >> so that's so so Mosha you're >> oh so Mosha you're supporting what I'm saying that behavior isn't the all the end all to tell you the the truth about the person that's that's exactly it >> right >> you know >> you're right you're right >> so and where where can you know if the guy's an abuser that means his or if he's a molester or if he's a you know whatever. So that means his pleasure is in these TYPE OF TERRIBLE TERRIBLE THINGS. His pleasure AND THAT MEAN THAT'S BAD. THAT MEANS HE'S NOT CONNECTED. He's not holy. >> Well, he's not he's he's >> one would say that he's there's an illness in a sense. >> Okay. There's an illness. Anyway, going back to the text. Good conversation. Let's go back. You're welcome. that the difference between desire and pleasure versus behavior. So the says that to to bring to bridge the gap between the two you need an intermediary kesser the crown is the intermediary. I don't know if you round when I said this Mish the crown sits above the head right in other words the top of the crown is upward towards heaven EXCUSE ME THE BOTTOM of the crown SITS ON THE HEAD in other words it has a connection to the head that's the two points the head already begins the sac the intelligence what we call the 10 ros the 10 10 emanations the the the top of the crown has nothing to do with THE WITH THE HEAD. IT never reaches the head. It's the top of the crown. It kind of is going up. It's it why? Cuz it's tak up. It's looking for heaven. And that's why it is a perfect intermediary. What's a perfect intermediary? You mentioned you're a Gabby. What's a what's a what's a good negotiator? Um a good uh what's the word? arbitrator, right? Which is very important as as a god, right? To have this this uh talent and this uh faculty, you got to right on one end, you have to look to heaven, you have to look to Tyra, you have to look to the to the RV on and on and at the same time, you have to listen and and and hear what the person on the ground is is complaining about. and and and you have to BRIDGE THE GA THE GAP right if so an inter a good intermediary negotiator arbitrator right has both that and that and that is the trick the trick that is the the refinement that is the expertise in in in being able to bring someone who is elsewhere there with the truth the way it should be which is the truth and how do you bring that together so that's what Kesser does and taught us yesterday that Kesser does this not only for the world of Axilus where it brings what was concealed to the emanations. That's what we learned yesterday. We're on page um we're we're we're in the second chapter. >> Yeah, we're lament. Okay. What word do you have at at us? Do you write you have the word over there or not or the line? Um, >> vine >> I think we're after we we spoke about >> veh is which means from the long faces that are drawn down from abba the father I'm sorry once we talk about the lower level of which is from there we have the extension to aba are analogous to this is explained in Tanya chapter 3 m abba gives the semen the drop of semen the imma um takes it in and the nine month stationation period where it's developed and and results in a child. Right? So bina is analogous to the mother. Right? What do we say in the mother of children is happy? Why not next time you guys is coming up? Well, that's where we just had whenever the next time is you're going to be playing those um that music to what ARE YOU PLAYING? WHY DOES IT say I want you to ask anyone by you? Why doesn't it say you know what they're going to tell you? They're going to tell you because a mother feels for her children. SO THE TRUE JOY ISN'T the mother says. I mean that's a what we call a balabata answer. That's a you know an answer that give which is good. Well learnes the doesn't have yet sim because the ab is just the drop the drop of semen the idea there's no development there. You can have excuse the expression the best semen in the world and you ain't having a baby. Okay? It ain't happening. YOU CAN HAVE THE GREATEST IDEA, RIGHT? Plenty of geniuses. WE ALL KNOW THERE ARE PEOPLE in every sh IN EVERY COMMUNITY. OH, THEY HAVE THESE GREAT ideas and nothing comes from their ideas. They don't make a dollar from an ideas and it's bubbises but they have great ideas but they didn't develop their ideas. You talk about a guy the same as he has to take people's ideas and either DISCARD THEM [laughter] OR DEVELOP THEM. So it's the mother the mother is bina the developmental PROCESS that brings I gave you a vert for your shabas fang I decide I'm going to try to give every Thursday a vert so in case you do want to share you got something to share I'm sure you have other things to share but I think this is this is a very uh something that that lends itself to conversation the at the end of the first halleluah in hal versus right a children have mark a father and a mother. So why does King David say the mother brings the joy? The mother of the children brings the joy, NOT THE FATHER of the children. And then you're going to get some smart ALEX TELLING YOU, "WELL, THE FATHER CAN GO AND RUN AWAY and cheat and do whatever he wants." Well, so can the wife if she wants to do it. So don't you know you know let's not go that direction. No, there's no there's no no joy if there's only the father and what the father represents which is giving the drop of semen and giving the idea. So it's physical and and and and spiritual and spiritual I mean you know an idea compared to a drop of semen is spiritual. Okay. So, so, so what I'm saying is that either or is lacking sim, but when the mother comes about and develops the idea and takes that semen and develops it for 9 MONTHS, THEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN AND THEN YOU'RE HAPPY. And this is a very important point, Misha. Really you can really talk about this at a good fabian kesh how important it is not just to come up with an idea great idea thank you very much you know the a dime a dozen right that's THE EXPRESSION A DIME A DOZEN FOR ideas but to develop an idea oh my gosh you have an entire teams at Google and Microsoft and here and there and everywhere finally they develop an idea or at the FDA or or or or or NIH NIH, you know, FINALLY COMING UP. I just read yesterday about a um a drug that they that they uh that they rushed and for pancric um cancer to slow it down twice the time which is you know that's in other words it's not a cure but it right and they and they gave it to a person 8 86 years old in some city here in America and she for now she feels great so So they went and they RUSHED THE APPROVAL. IT'S online this information. Point is the development the development process is a very listen it takes another nine months right 7 to nine months you know you're full term nine months IT TAKES TIME TO develop but when you develop you have sim so I'm saying this because we're learning here is saying that come from So I just pointed out the difference between abba vima the rebba mush the rebba would always emphasize at his fabangans the importance of the mother of the of the Jewish woman in the home because she's called the she's the primary source of the home and this is so true seldom do you have the reverse in other words where kids kind of are I'm not saying there aren't but generally and that's why it's so important for men males when they they should choose the right woman in their marriage in their life if they if they want to have children and develop a family because the woman if she's a yamayim greater than her husband that's better I always say that When I counsel people, you know, looking to marry and all of that, you should be so happy that you you meet a woman that's more from than you as long as she doesn't breathe down your back and make you crazy, right? So you could tolerate it, but but you should appreciate that she's more from because the results the will be seen the positive results in the children because she's the main stay. you're going out to work or whether you're working from home, but you're busy to bring bread home and all of that. She's with the children. Now, of course, I don't mean, you know, she can't work and doesn't work. I'm just saying. But the children learn most from the mother. Let's continue the text. Z and after the father and the mother we have what's called zun z is zin small faces and is and the feminine and the female this is a reference to the midos and malus. So we have all 10 emanations all 10 spheres is imbina and is already included in them and then you have z the zion of zun is which is an acronym for zin small faces the middles they they display God in a small way but they do display him the feminine is is mal is kingship which is the feminine. And we also it's it's known and explained the primary mode of doing mitzvah which is 248 limbs of the king. What we what we seek to accomplish is to draw the infinity of Hashem through the intermediate intermediary of Kesser into the midos. So this MV is full circle. We seek to draw through the intermediary through the mediator and negotiator the Gabby the tit which we will call here infinity of God into Zo into the six midos into the behavior that's the ultimate for the gabi to sensitiv in a sensitive way to to communicate and and demonstrate ate that the the petitioner who has the issue and the complaints. In other words, the midos should elevate himself or herself to a higher play that's in unison with the So what happens when happens is that light of that we is supposed to reach the midas beh the the character is lacking in that particular limb. Hold on, I got to close the window. I'm [clears throat] sorry. So in other words that that's the breakdown from the sin. Yeah. If I if since we're talking using the Gabby mushel the breakdown would be that the person coming to complain is not interested in following what the says and what the says etc as communicated by the Gabby. So he looks at the Gabby who's who's the intermediary and says not interested. It's my way or the highway. That's the idea of a sin. Not interested in in in God. >> Rabbi, don't shoot the messenger. >> Exactly. Let's continue. The And when that happens, guess what? From that particular organ, that particular limb that's now damaged because the of the sin You give nourishment to the extrrenuous forces. The secret concept that we said before making a puncture in the name of God. Basically, one congregant learns from the other. If he can complain and get his way, I will complain and and get my way. And this happens unfortunately. I think it happened in Israel. I think he told me a little bit about the fiasco over there where groups of people kind of uh gang up on the rabbi and the and the people who are you know kind of genuine and and they create their own or they and they're troublemakers where they're you know so it's it's it's just that's what he's saying here that when you bring damage to your own limb through the aa it's going to feed the enemy the clipper and THE CLIPPER IS GONNA GET AT you says what's the correction the reparation to draw down the higher life and the two images of from the image of the at the old days which is the lower level of the emanator Its shine is encompassing and encompasses. When you have the overwhelming light, it blinds the extrrenuous forces upon him. They can't receive their nourishment at least through the opening that you made by your sin. Then we have the second effluence coming from this lower level which is the source of the emanations. This will fill and complete the dam the blemishes that were made in the inner in the inner part of the einations just like a river which be which dried out. You hear this Moshe, you dig very deep in a dried out wind river to bring up from there from the underground the water. We'll stop here and will continue on on Monday. So so the in this last part is basically saying like this and if you have to bring it back to the gaba mush I would say Sometimes the gobby isn't able to bring satisfaction to the complainer, right? And that's when you need to bring in the rabbi thereof or a bezdon. In other words, you need something higher than the Gabby that basically puts the their foot down and they say, "Hey guy, you didn't want to negotiate and work it out through the Gabby." Well, I'm telling you in the name of the Torah, in the name of the sh of the sh this is the way it is and have a nice day, Charlie. you know, you know, like I could go to another shoe. It's unfortunate that but and many times when authority of that level gets involved I shouldn't I don't know if many times but at times it's like it blinds the person in other words on one hand the complainer can't relate to the r to the rabbi you know to the to authority that's right so the gobby serves as an intermediary kind Hey, I'm I'm like you. I'm one of you guys. You know, I'm not a rabbi. But if that doesn't work, he says, then you have to overwhelm them. You have to o overwhelm him. And sometimes it'll take the authority to overwhelm him. And again, either he'll cooperate or he'll he'll vacate. But there is a soft pok there's you know a soft puk. Now we do have situations where people will vacate a shoe and you know leave a shoe and go to another shoe but they keep on [clears throat and cough] and talking to their friends and trying to badmouth but that's all a matter of time because people see the truth at the end and they see that the r is a nice person and the gaba is a nice person the people are nice people and that this guy is the troublemaker you know yeah we've seen that time and time over over and over. So anyway, it's a mushel to to to to kind of concretize this these lofty capitalistic ideas of and all that. And and I'm saying if you if you trickle it down, you could you could somehow relate to it that these concepts are very very real. So they begin, you know, in the cabalistic realms which is aloof from us. It's it's like what you said yesterday. I don't know like what's going on here. I'm thinking you know that's kabola. That's why we that's why most people don't learn kabala. I'm not talking about them reading kabala learn right like I told you yesterday guy comes to pay in where it says kabal he skips he keeps on skips it. There's nothing left to learn. Sidis takes Kapala and explains it like we just did here. And I'm not saying this is the only explanation. I'm not even saying it's the right explanation, but it's something that you could work with. So if you understand the source, the source, I think both the rabbi, the rav and the gabi will have more ammunition to deal with these difficult situations where a gabi will say at a certain point, I can't anymore. I I I can't not because I don't want to. I'm not getting anywhere. and just belaboring the point, then it's just it's it's feudal. It it's it's ridiculous and it's making it worse because the person is led to believe, oh, it's going to go my way. Well, it's not going to go your way, you know. And um so when when what when what when what aos transgressions sins are very damaging spiritually for us personally and for the world and and it makes blemishes damages. So the are Hashem, you know, WE TALK ABOUT WHY ISN'T THERE A HASHEM in the world as much and what you know this is part of the what's going on here is because there's pam you know people don't want to hear it and and and to say oh you know why October 7th happened because of Sarah's night and you were violating y by partying and and you know all night who is hashem to but but but at the same time it was Right. So what are we going to discard that just out? If that if we do that THEN DON'T PUT ON film tomorrow. So there needs to be a balance. To be a propheter and a doomsdayer is not the way of ta. At the same TIME TO DISCARD TA IS ALSO NOT THE way of ta. There's a middle ground and the end of the day is we don't know. So is important and at the same time every yeed is important and when a ye is murdered it's keshashem and that's it and if there's any reckoning because of that's between hashem and those hashem will you know if hashem says that they and they are because they were murdered hashem it's an oxymoron to say that hashem is going to punish punish them because they were doing this That is I think but I'm not God. I'm not God. But one thing's for sure to to to to to go and um dwell and unfortunately coming out of you have all these babas and you know soothsayers and mamish like doomsayers you know that it just came up now with this new year and I was surprised it was published at Cababat some some rabbi wrote an article that the last many years where the first day of Shana was on on on on Shabas. No good things happen throughout the year. Some bad things happened to Jewish people, the Jewish people throughout the year. Now, Sha Ta made a video and wrote and countered it, but it took a while, but I was thinking to begin with, hey, why did CO printed? But forget about that. Why is the rabbi writing this? So, he was writing it because he wanted to point out that IT WON'T HAPPEN IF YOU keep Shabas. And since the FIRST DAY OF SHABAS, IT emphasizes the importance of keeping Shabas. So like Tal said, is that the only way you could teach the message of keeping Shabas? So there is this attitude out there from many Rabon where the WAY YOU GET THEM TO KEEP SHABAS IS BY SCARING AND THREATENING THEM. Way is not is not this way at all. is not through these tactics. Shabas is very important and we should learn from this here. But you know what Hashem is going to do. It's like come on. It's like ridiculous even to say that to think this you know and you and you're basing it on a chart. Yeah. So what what tal showed is that IF YOU GO BACK many good things happened on years that shab first of shabas and I remember that in the 80s7s or 80s spoke about and he spoke about it regarding shabas the days of your holidays your festivals and how special it is to HAVE RASH ON THE FIRST day of shabas And that what's accomplished through the blowing of shaur IS ACCOMPLISHED THROUGH SHA KEEPING SHABAS ITSELF. So you don't need the in other words and I remember there was a lot of sim they made a song that time on this I think that song they put to the words of or if not another tune. MY POINT IS IT WAS a n So we need to emphasize this. Um,