Derech Mitzvosecha Vidu vTeshuva #5- Soul & Body of Sin, Sexual issues - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

The day we're learning this mymer the Tzemach Tzedek called Mitzvah of the Mitzvah of confession and and returning to Hashem repentance on page 38 if you're using the all Hebrew edition and we're on the last line where the Tzemach Tzedek is now going to explain beautifully how do you deal with damage that was done. Okay? That that's what we're going to talk about today. We're talking about doing teshuvah, returning. Well, certain schmutz, certain certain spiritual filth was created by our transgressions. So, how do we deal with it? And more and more importantly it's important to deal with it because not only as I've been saying all along as the Tzemach Tzedek has been teaching us isn't this a person just just a personal venture, but this is relevant to the overall global manifestation of God's presence in the world. And and and when we and when we commit a transgression it's not just, you know, Chaim Dovid little Chaim Dovid in Boro Park who commits a transgression and uh it's a personal thing. No, it has a global impact because Hashem can't the can't Hashem chooses not to shine the way he wants to vis-a-vis the transgression. So, it becomes a universal issue. So, therefore correcting it, removing it, eradicating it becomes a universal tikkun, a universal correction. So, it it leaves just this only the state of a personal venture and it becomes an overall issue relevant to the world at large. Let's continue now. The he name The halo of the is the first two divisions. Which are to remove the nourishment given to the extraneous forces the clippers. And that they shouldn't have any more and that they shouldn't have any more nourishment. Who are they? I'm writing so my my love with him as next page 76 in the old Hebrew text. market market It's to to draw down infinite the infinity of God from above in a manner called encompassing periphery market. Shaha market missame in a society. This is an expression which means the market here now the encompassing light is so overpowering it blinds the extraneous forces. You know, if you look into the sun ball it can be blinded. It's it's very unhealthy for the eyes. The the energy of market is overwhelming godliness. That's why it's only market encompasses and it doesn't permeate. It's too great to be able to be permeated within. Now the there's a virtue to that that it knocks out the negative forces. Because the negative forces are are now getting are getting it's life force and through the market through drawing down the the encompassing energy of Hashem you will accomplish as he says further in the text, sh'lo yin ku oid, that it won't have any more nourishment. In other words, Chaim Zev, this is an interesting thought. He's saying HE'S PROPOSING THE FOLLOWING. THE WAY YOU stop the negative energy, the klippos, from nur- nurturing and nursing and nourishing more, is by knocking them out. How do you knock them out? If you go If you're going to go into market If you go If you're going going to go into the ring, you against them, you ain't going to win. They're too powerful. They seduce you in, and they win. So, what you have to do IS KNOCK THEM OUT FROM THE OUTSIDE, overwhelm them. SHINE ON THEM SOMETHING THAT'S SO STRONG THAT THEY CAN'T BEGIN to negotiate and ultimately CONVINCE YOU. OH, THAT HAPPENS, they become oblivion. V'gam next next words in the text, u'man maley kol ha'goyim, the makif, when the when the periphery energy of Hashem shines, it fills automatically all the holes and blemishes. Ki ilushlema d'chulu, for he is the completion of all, the wholesomeness of all, v'chulei kamaey, and all are before God, k'tipa m'l'kyanus, like a drop of water of the ocean called u'kyanus, u'kyanus. There are four oceans. I think this is the Atlantic Ocean, but anyway, the u'kyanus is one of the four. So, it's a drop compared to the millions of billions of drops in the in the ocean. What is present on earth only God's splendor. His splendor are on the earth and in the heavens. As explained elsewhere our possuk on the verse for this mitzvah It is not wondrous from you. Says the Tzemach Tzedek, so how do we get this makkif? You're telling you're telling us that we need the or makkif to knock out the klippah. That the klippah shouldn't nurture anymore from kedushah. How do we get it? So he says as as I'll explain mitzvah shem as explained mitzvah shem please God perek beis in chapter through two he says it's teshuvah through teshuvah v'charatah. Regret. Which we'll we'll speak about later. So we're not going to talk about it now. Ah, however chalukah gimmel the third category l'havein nitzach tzeinim to remove the nourishment of the extraneous forces. She'eiribus b'moed which is in great multitude they're nourishing A LOT THEY'RE SUCKING A LOT. They're eating A LOT OF HOLY OF ENERGY of holy energy. You know it says so too. Now the Tzemach Tzedek explains what is the purpose of confession. Right here. And this is important cuz you're going to see now what Jewish confession is versus Catholic confession and other types of confession. But he does say, as it says [clears throat] in our writings, and as we do every day when we say I've sinned, I've robbed, Ashamnu, Bagadnu, Gazalnu, twice a day, and then we say it a third time at Kriyat Shema al Hamita before we retire at night. And then comes Yom Kippur and WE SAY AL CHET, I'VE SINNED for this and sinned FOR THAT. FIVE TIMES it's coming out of your ears. So, THERE'S A LOT OF CONFESSION going on. WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF THIS CONFESSION? Says the Talmud Sukkah, "V'einah." The idea is K'ima d'azois it's known she'aklipas yashlim gam k'neged hakeli. The negative extraneous forces also have what we call a light, energy, and a vessel. Which are nefesh, a soul, the guf, and a body. V'isavusom, and how are these created? Al y'dei aveirah, through our transgressions. Who, and how is that? K'i y'dei hata'avah. Through the lust. Misavah, and lust doesn't mean only in sexual matters, any kind of lust, called ta'avah in Hebrew. K'i y'dei hata'avah, misavah hanefesh hara'ah, rachmana litzlan. What's created, listen to this, Yidden, is the soul of the klipah. THE SOUL OF THE EXTRANEOUS force is created through the inappropriate passion, the [clears throat] ta'avah. V'i y'dei hama'aseh. And and through our action, not our passion and desire, but our action, actual implementation of the passion that we have for something inappropriate miscible we create the actual body the receptacle of the clipper whether this action that's inappropriate is in thought bad thoughts let me explain this heaven in order to act you need to think otherwise the action is pathetic if you want to get the best out of a deed of action you got to think about it when it comes let's say to sexuality which is alluding to here which is one of the primary transgressions of man inappropriate sexual behavior the key force that causes it is here who am I in fantasies bad thoughts imagination that's considered not thought it's considered action within action right a thought is a fleeting idea that passes your head and and it goes and it goes and it goes by it passes passes by but when you take time and you focus on whatever that issue is that's called here who am I in bad thoughts and by the way it's not only to about sexual um inappropriateness it's about everything let's say harming someone you take time TO DEVELOP A PLOT right like all of these people who do such things they they they they think exactly how what, when, where he would him royim and then they act upon it. Let's go. He name. >> Like premeditation in a way. >> That's right. He name me oy sius misabe alguf shel a clipa now from the letters from the words that are created in the mind during the premeditation state, we create what's called the body of the clipa. Uminataiva and from the lust within that misabe hanefesh YOU CREATE THE SOUL OF THE CLIPA. So we have a very clear definition here. THAT THE TAIVA IS ASSOCIATED with the soul and the action be it in actual behavior mode or premeditation which is the step before the behavior mode and inappropriate things is what we call the maiseh, the deed. And that creates the guf of the clipa. So Mosha Myers, this is a new way for you to look at about the whole idea of sin. The idea before we get to correction of sin, chuva you need to understand what am I creating when I come says that time of tzaddik in the day in name of the chassidus and kabbalah there's two aspects, there's soul and body just like within us there's an neshama, a soul and a body. The soul invests itself in the body. Well, in the clipa, in the negative extraneous FORCES IN THE WORLD, THEY ALSO HAVE A SOUL AND A BODY. Of course, it's spiritual. YOU CAN'T TOUCH IT. OKAY? WE'RE TALKING ABOUT METAPHYSICAL ideas but it's real. What is the soul? The soul is your passion and lust for whatever that particular inappropriate behavior is. Right? Again, I want to make it clear, it's not just for sexual matters. In sexual matters, it's very it's understandable, right? But in in all other transgressions, THERE IS THE SOUL of the transgression. I have [laughter] to have it. I have I must right? I SEE SOMETHING THAT'S DELICIOUS. SO, I think about it and then I say, "HOW CAN I GET IT?" SO, it's the drive and the passion for it that creates the energy, I.E. the soul of the negative clipper. The gulf the body The body is either the actual behavior mode, what you do from that passion that creates you that help that makes you act or even the premeditative state as the holy said. The pain so also in who be the bull Take for example speech. I'm sorry, take the aspect of speech to my lotion horror. Negative talk, gossip. The show of swearing falsely the shaker and lying and all similar matters. The right? So, the never the summer salad says there's also there is the same idea the soul of gossip. You hear that? The soul of lotion horror and there's the actual body of lotion horror. What's the soul of lotion horror? I have to talk and find out about this because I'm going to get this guy by FINDING OUT EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM? THEN YOU GO AHEAD AND YOU GOSSIP. THE GOSSIP IS THE AFTERMATH. >> SO, BUT ONE SECOND. SO, the actual thought of the vera isn't a vera? >> Yes. It's brought down in the Gemara. That's not It's called Kashi That's from the The thought of doing a vera is even more difficult than the avera. Why? Cuz the avera IS A ONE-TIME THING. And I'm saying you did an avera but so do teshuvah. You stole something, give back the item you stole. BUT WHAT ABOUT THE PASSION, the lust? It's very hard to get rid of it. We have our local social worker here, psychologist Hillel, can tell you that from the counseling THAT HE DOES. IT'S SO MUCH HARDER A PERSON TO STOP BEHAVIOR is relatively easier. It's not easy, either. It's relatively It's compared to the drive, the mindset, what we call here the the nefesh to get that rooted out. I mean I know that, you know, there's so many podcasts that talk about this in many, many areas, pornography and other things, that you have to you have to get RID OF THE DRIVE AND THE AND the lust for it. And that's a much harder cuz it's it's it's it's it's so much more connected to soul. It's closer to soul. Now, you have soul body. What's in between? So, we said premeditation, for example, right? Premeditation, which you only hear thoughts of avera is closer to soul than action is closer to soul. Action is is cut off from soul, right? You're doing it, finished. Okay, stop doing it. I stopped doing it, but the type was still there. And by the way, yes, Moshi, yes. >> If I might ask you, yeah, uh you know, we there's a battle always going on between the Yetzer Hara, I guess, and our neshama, and it seems like when things come up the Yetzer will plant an idea in your mind of whether it's ourselves or the Yetzer, I don't know what the balance is there, but we we get that thing coming through our head, you know, you see whatever an image or something, and then you go "Oh, wow, maybe I can eat that whole coffee cake or whatever it is, you know." >> Right. Right. >> So, so, how much control do we really have? We have to fight that battle with the >> That's right. That's right. Now, the Rebbe Tanya chapter 12 and 13 deals with that exact issue, and you're 100% right. And that And that is That is our battle. That's why we are potential benoni. That's the Alter Rebbe's point. A tzaddik has reached a plateau where he doesn't have that battle, as he had shared with us the other last week. But if you're not a tzaddik, which we aren't, we have that battle. But the Alter Rebbe says that we can, we must work on doing that. And as much as we can, that's what we're called upon. That's what we're kind of have to be accountable for. Whether we Whether we eliminate or not is not our not our cheshbon. Because >> It's the battle. >> Waging war Waging war. >> That's right. That's right. That's right. And so, at that But But But in in context of teshuvah, when the person wants complete teshuvah, they need to They need to deal not only with the actual action, the maaseh, but also the nefesh. Not only the guf. That's That's what the That's the chiddush, the novelty in this section of the maamar is that you got TO DEAL WITH THE NEFESH OF THE AVEIRAH. What's the nefesh? THAT DRIVE AND PASSION MINDSET, WHATEVER WORD YOU WANT to use, that that's is stimulating and causing, and that's much harder to deal with, but that's what we have to deal with. And as the Amoxicillin is saying, that's what confession is about, as we'll see soon further on. Let's just continue so we can get to hopefully to see that. The coast can be my son surely to say when someone actually create it acts upon his thought. Should miss that miss out the how good should a clip of this quote creates the body of the negative force. I'm going to tie the shovel out and from the lust of the heart nights at a never show people you create what we call the soul of the clipper. The cause of holy fish show them bushes the mile of essence sweet as the goose. >> [laughter] >> Says that said that you know why you were able to create a soul and a body of clipper? Because we're rooted in God. >> [clears throat] >> And And if you're rooted in a sham >> [clears throat] >> a SHAM HAS A COUNTERPART BECAUSE that's part of free will and choice that he put us on Earth with. So, in other words, this is another very important point. What he's SAYING IS, DON'T THINK THAT THAT'S COMING from a secular place. It's actually coming from a holy place. The holy place wants a challenge. So, if there is in holiness a soul and a body, there has to be a negativity a soul and a body. I think I had a day of time of our minds of shall I you mom should learn after the groove. And through the time of and the action you draw down the soul and body that nourishes shall we use sweet as commission as well out from the 10 emanations. That's what the clipper is doing. It's robbing energy from THE SOUL AND BODY OF HOLINESS. The healing the zest This is the esoteric and secret meaning of within the of the positive that says in till him the says I've sinned the and my sin negates something is always before me. This refers to the negative extraneous force that a person does through his transgression. I met his negating it's always facing him the hot to make him uncomfortable. That's what says. I'm reminded every moment of issues that I you know that I dealt with in the past. I know you were probably thinking HEY YOU'RE A SUBJECT we're talking about on his level. says your your bad YOU'RE NO GOOD THAT YOU DO will make you suffer and pain give you pain. In other words, don't look at the outside, look at yourself. It also says in Job and in Job pale all done you shall enjoy. The activities of man you shall enjoy will pay him. IN OTHER WORDS, WHAT WE DO PAYS US BACK. SO THE AS THE ZOHAR explains over there. Now when a person does true love when he returns Now you need to kill to eliminate to obliterate the negative clip is to get rid of them from the world could have seen as it says I have erased like a cloud the sin your sins. In other words, they've gone away. They've gone into a cloud like coming together with confession. Why? NOW THE QUESTION IS WHY? WHY DO YOU NEED CONFESSION? through regret which is removing your will, your desire for sin that itself that takes out the soul of the from the clipper whose birth and being came to be through the lust of the heart. and now by you removing your will and your passion for this for this issue as we said earlier, you you EXTRACT THE SOUL THE DRIVE within the sin. in order to erase and obliterate the actual body of sin that was created through the action it's through confession of words. And he quotes the movement of the lips having my say is considered action. We have a right action means do something actually, right? But the good mother speaks about that a a minute way of action is called Diva speech and that the movement of the lips at key mass for self the movement of the lips is considered like an action. So that somebody said it says in this scenario where you're looking to remove the body of the clip of it's an the akima for self the movement of the lips visa v the saying of regret or shabnum but God no go down LOW AND I'LL HATE is adequate to remove the body of the clip. Over there who mama go from through movement of the lips. You actually eliminate destroy the body of the clip OF THE HIGHER HIGHER AND IT SAYS AS THOUGH THE BODY NEVER EXISTED. Now the summer said it in the parenthesis is going to say that the ultimate is to get rid of the body of the clip of through action. HE SAYS BECOME A RESULT OF THIS THE sages say is there about sugar who is a real about sugar says about a beta someone who now is is confronted with the a beta with the same type of sin or voice in Markham he passes the same McDonald's. He smells the same hamburger cheeseburger or voice he shut the morning and you must speak about a woman who he had who who he had relations with. Right? AND SHE WALKS DOWN THE STREET AND HE SEES HER AGAIN. HE AND AND HE holds himself back. THE SAME THING THAT HE DID LAST TIME HE'S CONFRONTED NOW. The same person the same issue and he prevents himself. He owes my sister I say I say link is good for a clipper. So then the action that he does by preventing himself from doing it again, it it destroys the body OF THE CLIPPER. WHY? BECAUSE HE went and sinned with this woman, or he went and ate this cheeseburger, and now he's walking down the same STREET AND THE SAME SMELL. AND HE PASSES IT AND HE DOESN'T go in to buy it and to EAT THE CHEESEBURGER. SO, HE'S HE'S ACTUALLY DONE JUST THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT HE DID BEFORE. >> That's conquering your It's a horror. >> [laughter] >> That's the ultimate way of of chuva, which you you expressed as conquering the eight to her. So now, when he holds himself back from doing the exact same act that he did before, HOW DO YOU HOLD THE GOOFA? HE'S KILLED THE BODY OF THE KEEPER of God the God. However, I will begin IT IS OF GOD'S CASSID, GOD'S BENEVOLENCE, MARK. You hear this? THE HASHEM SAYS, YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE WITH THE SAME WOMAN. Is it the same woman? You don't have to have the SAME YOU DON'T HAVE TO WALK DOWN the same street as the as the cheeseburger on Race Street in wherever wherever it was. But anywhere you are, when you see a woman AND YOU HOLD YOURSELF BACK FROM HER, YOU HAVE destroyed the goofa of the clipper. When you SEE SOMETHING NOT KOSHER, YOU SMELL IT, wherever it is, and you don't you don't eat it, you get you've killed the clipper the body of the clipper. And and the Sam Satic says, IT'S OF GOD'S KINDNESS THAT DOESN'T require you to be in the same exact situation. That's what he says. Let's back in the text. I have become nevertheless because they okay. IT'S FROM GOD'S KINDNESS TO COMPARE the action of verbal confession through the movement of the lips. It should be considered A COMPLETE ACT OF CHUVA. Lim gufa clip up to consider to to eliminate the clip. Okay, tomorrow continue from the Zaisai and we'll finish the chapter. But this is this is a very good information and very important information. A few things just to recap. It's not enough to deal with the act. I mean this I think he is a very important piece for for your work. For all of us. You know, but this is a very important in other words on one hand we say look, behavior modification, right? On the other hand if you if you don't root out the the cause you know, the cause which is not action. THE CAUSE IS MUCH DEEPER. THAT'S WHAT HE'S SAYING. He calls it nefresh. Nefresh the clip. If you don't so so let me make it clear. YOU WILL GET CHUVA. You will get chuva for not doing the action. THE BOTTOM LINE IS NOT TO DO IT AGAIN, RIGHT? PREVENT YOURSELF FROM DOING the sin. Fine. But that doesn't mean you've dealt with the the inner drive that drove you to that. And that's a much harder feat accomplishment. As as Malaysia said earlier, Malaysia matters said earlier this you know, but but that that's part of the aveda. That's part of the aveda. In other words, we want to CORRECT THE SOUL OF THE SIN, not just the body of the sin. And when we correct the soul of the sin, there's no guarantees, but as much as a guarantee is possible, it won't happen again. >> [clears throat] >> Because you're you're you're you're elsewhere. You're no LONGER THE SAME PERSON. THAT'S He doesn't say it here. I'm just paraphrasing. When you get rid of the drive and passion and lust, YOU'RE NOT THE SAME PERSON BECAUSE NOW YOU HAVE A PASSION AND LUST FOR HOLINESS, FOR FRIENDSHIP, for for Jewish things. You understand? So, ultimately, and and I'm I'm sure you've seen it. I've seen We've all seen it. And we all experience it. Until we get rid of that nefesh, the klippa, the klippa's there. And the And that's what the Alter Rebbe says in chapter 12 and 13. THE KLIPPA IS ALWAYS READY TO COME BACK AND HAUNT YOU. It's only asleep. But if you think that IT WON'T WAKE UP ONE DAY, it's going to wake up. You know, and unfortunately, again, you know this better than I here a little One second. That that, you know, with people who are suicidal and things like that, I don't they see it. It's You know, in a sense, I don't We don't understand it. I don't understand it, but there's something in them that's that that that's very very unhappy. And even if their behavior for a long period is fine, they could SNAP IN A MOMENT. And you know, it it's it's I'm just saying I'm taking an extreme, but it's so true in every aspect. Cuz we tend to say, "Oh, you know why he this person did this and this? Because of this and this and this." It's much deeper than that. It's It's deep thing and it and and you know, you hope and pray that a person will never get to that point and you put up uh blocks and ways of distracting the person. Again, it's not my field, but I know with depression, the Rebbe wrote to people who had depression uh clinical depression, the Rebbe said, you know, they should they should be busy. Help them be busy with volunteer work. Get their mind off these things. So, you know, these these the drugs, the you know, medical drugs that are used are, you know, are temporary holdings to you know, and uh it's it's it's a it's a hard issue. It's a very serious issue and I I think again, I'm not I'm not the expert in this field, but you know, I'm not sure we could, you know, succeed with most people to get them to eliminate that. In other words, if we could just accomplish that they they they alter through distractions their behavior, I don't know. You tell me, Hillel, if I'm wrong, but that would be a a big accomplishment versus total elimination of the taavah, etc. One second before you, Hillel. What are you saying? You're you're in the You You were saying something. I'm sorry. No. Okay, Hillel. Anything? Anyway, >> No, I think what you're talking about is you know, the the tendency towards recurrence and and relapse with all of our addiction. And it's so rooted in, you know, the thoughts that we continuously have that we're not aware of often. >> Yeah. You know, it reminds me of a of a saying of the mayor of Kalamash Lam, the big Sadiq. I've told you this, but it just reminds me now again. You know, he was going to the mikvah in Ukraine somewhere and it was icy and some schnab them were around there and they wanted to make fun of a rebbe Hasidic rebbe and all that stuff. So, they they hid in the bush to see he's telling everyone he goes up with this this mountain to the mikvah. He's full of it. He can't get up cuz as soon as he goes up, he slips down. So, they hid in the bush and they said, "We're going to catch him." You know, today they would have a cell phone [laughter] and they would video him, right? And he gets up and he makes it up to the mountain and he GOES TO THE MIKVAH AND HE DOES IT ONE DAY, SECOND DAY, THIRD DAY. SO, they come and they ask him for forgiveness that they, you know, had this bad thought about him that he's a liar and a charlatan, a faker. But they say, "Rebbe, how in deed YOU GET UP THAT MOUNTAIN? >> [clears throat] >> IT'S FULL OF ICE." AND HIS CLA- his answer was in Yiddish, "As men is far bund in oben." English, "If you are CONNECTED ABOVE, IF SOMEONE'S PULLING YOU WITH WITH ROPE FROM THE TOP up and you're holding on to the rope, as men is far bund in if you connected above, falt men nit unten, you don't fall below." >> All right. >> So, so not so it's an investment, chevre. When we attach ourselves to a Sadiq, that's one of the benefits. THE SADIQ IS IS CONNECTED and if we attach ourselves to A SADIQ, THE SADIQ SCHLEPS US AND and he mamash CAN SCHLEP US UP IN a way that you know, will be good. Have a Have a great day. A lot to think about. Yes, what Hi, I'm Zev. You want to say something? WHO'S SAYING OH, MOISHE, YES, WHAT Moishe what? >> No, Yoni was going to say something. I know he wasn't there when you called on him. >> Oh, oh, Yoni, what do you want to say? You remember? >> Yeah, yeah, yeah, I just wanted to say it it seems from this it seems that um Chabad is a a a different take on how to deal with um with your with your yetzer hara, with your because you see look at people, right? They Satmar and and Belzer and Poper and everybody, right? They want to seclude themselves from people. Go to Mea Shearim, go to Monsey, go to Kiryas Joel. And and okay, you won't see a woman there. You won't see a Burger King. There's not going to be a Burger King. It'll be a McDonald's. So, as what you know, what do they say? See no evil, hear no evil. I don't see it and that's it. >> Yoni, a lot to a lot to talk about on that subject. It's not It's not for now. You can find hundreds of podcasts on this and I I want to stick to the text, but um you know, yeah, yeah, listen, listen. You It's not just you know, you simplified it, which is fine, but when you learn a maamar like this inside and he goes into the details, the soul of a sin, the body of a sin and how you deal with that and what removes what part and and you and you think about you learn it and you know it, Hi, I'm Zev, and you understand it and then you think about it. It's a whole different >> [laughter] >> sin. It's a WHOLE IT'S THE WHOLE REALM of of transgression and teshuvah, it's a different It's a different world. And a healthier world. And you're able to kind of say, "I'm now working with the with the body of sin. Now I'm going to work with the soul of sin. How to remove it, you know?" Have a Have a great day. We'll see everyone tomorrow. Take care. Shalom. Bye-bye. Bye-bye.