Derech Mitzvosecha Minu Melech #11 - Breaking Through requires an unconventional way - RC Dalfin

Good day. It's um like I wrote in my brief uh Shabbas wishes to you if you had a chance to look at it. Normally we say that we the the Jews, we the Eden, we comfort Hashem of the the full name of the month is of who's manim who comforts we comfort the father Hashem. My message said just the opposite. Hashem comforts us. So several people wrote to me that uh this is something new unfamiliar. Normally we don't do we don't bless the new month for right we don't because God and and and the and what we say is that Hashem blesses that month. So they asked me is it besides tish is it of also and I explained to them no the tish is a hala a minute by everyone I was speaking about a spiritual idea of course we bench we blessed the new month of of and in looking once they asked me I started to research and I spoke to a few people and the rebuttes matis M he has a talk which implies that there is this concept that I said as well that not only do do we comfort God but it takes the father it takes a father to comfort us of in other words who is comforting us of the father. So I just wanted to um mention that if you happen to be wondering. So it's not a or a mic. Of course we we bench the month in concept because the descent is so great. Today starts the 9-day period which is a very is the most mournful period of the Jewish calendar until we get to the most mournful day which is tishabove the 9th above which is next Wednesday night Thursday. a 24 to 26-hour fast and we're lamenting the destruction of the holy temple in Jerusalem. And at the same time, the Talbut says that Msiah is born on that day and we're wishing and hoping and praying to to and trying to bring Mashiach into the world to end the the exile and the destruction. So this period because it's so it's so difficult you need the father himself to deal with you deal with us. It takes a father to deal with the the the most difficult time. That was the that was this the thought that I shared and uh there is some support to it as I said in the in in in in the reb although the the normal conventional interpretation is otherwise but going back to the mime we're on the bottom of page uh and we're learning here about we learned some most of you weren't here but I hope you do follow through in listening to the uh YouTubetubes and Spotify where I record everything there and we we've been learning about why Marisha Ara Yakov and Yseph gave David King David years. I'm not going to repeat it now but this was the thrust of the last um few pages. Now, even though it's still part of chapter 2, but we're it's the end of chapter 2. The who's the author of this mime the mimer's min appointing a king asks without asking the question, he's asking a question and that is what about Saul the first king. Why did we need a meal? Now we all know that King Shaw goofed up and he was told to eradicate everyone and all cattle and all animals of the nation Amalik because Amalik is the seat and root of all evil and the only way it the only thing it understands is one thing destruction. Everything else is simple simply a game as we see now you know with our the nation of you know that I don't know if they're Amalik but the Iran and you know how they play games constant games right so Amalik was that type of a nation and worse so Hashem says get to show get rid of everyone men and children and all their animals and cattle battle. Never before in in did Hashem called for such destruction. And Melik says, "I have no problem with getting rid of the men, you know, the men 20 to 50 or 60, whatever the case, but uh the the or the women and the children, you know, even if I get rid of all the men, why should they suffer? Why should the animals suffer? and in fact I could bring animals to the temple as a sacrifice so we can utilize the animals and and he doesn't listen to what God says and because of that he's punished and he loses his kingship and it transfers to David King David and Hanovi Samuel the prophet is the one that communicates this to Sha that was his job as a prophet and if you study the the verses in in the prophets you'll see that the nation was not happy with me just as a regular king. In other words, what I just told you is from God's perspective, God punished him because he didn't listen to him. But if you read the verses, you see that the nation themselves want didn't didn't like him ultimately and they wanted a change. So the is going to explain this in spiritual terms because the garra says that was from his shoulders and above he was greater than the rest of the nation. In other words, HE WAS A SPIRITUAL GIANT. He wasn't small change. He was a very big sadic, a very big rabbi, a great a great Jewish soul. and a great leader. I mean to use that term. Sois explains it velvet that refers for it refers to the midos the emotions the attributes is refers to the midas that even even his midos were greater than the rest of the nations intellect in other words not only was his mind refined his his emotions and character was refined to the point where his character outdid the greatest intellects of the Jewish people at the time etc. That's the way explains the the phrase but in a just in a in a more uh hashkafa kind of interpretation in a uh philosophical philosophical uh you know u a way of deriving benefit and understanding in our lives what was going on over here. MAKE UP YOUR mind is is he the king? Is Shaw the king? You made him the first king of the Jewish people and and why aren't you happy with him? So that's what the samic is going to explain now and from this we'll understand the virtue and the the advantage of David which is what the the the objective in the mimer is to explain the appointing of a king and that king David was the the paradigm king not sh not saul let's look inside now we are again on page kufud three lines from the bottom I'm sorry uh two lines in the bottom in middle of the page after the word canal the the acronym canal apostrophe comma we're at the word um however the idea of who is bina it says that sh was what we call bina bina is the quality of understanding ing and comprehension. And the second of the 10 emanations, the second of the 10 spheres, it's greater than malus, which is the 10th emanation. Why? Why malus? As we've been learning all along in the mime is the practical aspect, right, to implement. It's the transition between the higher and the lower. So already has a a connection association to the lower lower being how we should conduct our life. Bina is within the the it's within the mind. It's like abstract thinking but not it's not the the the germ the idea the but it's the DEVELOPMENT OF THE IDEA BUT IT'S STILL ALL IN THE MIND. It's still all not relevant to the recipient to the Mabel. And it says that his soul is is is comes from as it says. Where does he come from? are from the width. The broadness of the river a river expands bina is expansion mark is just a an idea. It's a point, right? You could be a genius with a genius idea. If you don't develop it and you don't expand it, it's not going anywhere. We have plenty of people, they're great geniuses, but they can't explain it. You know, I was a sh now we ded early and someone made an appeal. They come once or twice a year to make an appeal for an institution that helps um students in Williamsburg. They're old elderly people. And I I couldn't understand him. I know and I don't think anyone understood him because he doesn't have a clear dictim. But he's the one making the appeal. Why am I saying that? There is there is nonclarity and there's clarity. As as as wonderful as it is to to be the power of creativity, it's still missing the expansion. Right? If if if I share with you an idea, Mark, and and it said you say, "Oh, IT SOUNDS IT SOUNDS GREAT, but I don't understand it. Give me details. Show me how. Expand, you know, explain it. Expand it." Coming from bina's virtue is expansion. Hence the verse says that where does he come from? Hanor. Okay. the next next words as we go on to the page 220 that's what I just told you is called the the expansion the breadth of the river and because bina is greater than mal in the sense bina is the is the second of the 10 emanations and is the 10th. But is it's not just a numbers game here. This is number two and this is number 10. We're talking about the to the concept is aloof. It's you're swimming in the in the unknown. You're swimming in the idea expanding the idea, but you're all totally not real about it in the real world. Malcus is just the opposite. Mal is in the world. So he says since is greater than higher than therefore the kingdom the kingship OF BEING THE JEWISH king did not last by show. Stop. What's the explanation here? In order to be a king, Hashem said, "I need someone who can relate to every person." We spoke a lot about that in the previous few chapter. And that was the virtue of King David that he and and and the said, "You weren't here for this year, but he said he's like like Yeshua. Just like Yeshua, it says he was appointed to to succeed because he was able to He was able to understand everyone's spirit. Everyone he related to the people Yeshua. That's why he was the proper successor to Mosha. It wasn't JUST THAT HE HUNG OUT WITH MISHA AND HE KNEW ALL OF MOSHA'S CUSTOMS like you know of the Reb who knows all the details of the Reb when the Reb is eating, when he's sleeping, when he's learning, when he's walking and and and how he does this and when he ties his shoes. That's not it. He understood every person and that's why made him the the the successor to Mosha. So says so to King David King David why was he why is he called David? Because he understood the person and he got into the person's mind and heart and that's what he and and and he helped him accomplish where he was coming from. Melik is just the opposite. Shah Melik is not interested in any of that. He's interested in being a monarch, a ruler, a guru. I say this is the WAY IT IS. THAT'S THE way it is. Ah, it makes no sense and people won't relate to it. He doesn't care because he's floating in the world of bina intellectualism in the world of ideas and if the idea resonates with him it's already okay and he and the and and he adds um salt to the wound BY SAYING NOT ONLY DO I HAVE THE idea I have the expansion of the idea The problem is the the expansion of the ideas in your head. It has NOTHING TO DO WITH REALITY. THE WAY THE person on earth and at the job down below here, how the person feels and deals with it AND TO THEM IT'S TOTALLY ABSURD. IT DOESN'T make any sense and he doesn't relate to it. He doesn't care for IT AND HE DOESN'T WANT IT. THAT'S WHAT THE SAYS. WHEN HASHEM SAW, you hear when God saw that Sha MELIK WITH ALL OF HIS GREATNESS, he's not he's not able, we'll see in a moment, to give the Jewish people what they need. THE KINGSHIP ENDED WITH BY HIM AND IT WAS TRANSFERRED to David. and and and the fact that like as I said before the people DIDN'T WANT HIM THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT THE PEOPLE DIDN'T want right again when we learn the the the say you know why IT WAS BECAUSE GOD PUNISHED HIM SO HE LOST THE KINGSHIP and that's true but there was also a human factor involved a human factor that has this spiritual mystical explanation that he wasn't cut out TO BE A KING OVER PEOPLE. IS THERE THIS EXPLANATION YOU'VE NEVER HEARD IN YOUR LIFE? I DON'T THINK SO. Have you EVER HEARD THIS EXPLANATION WHY was not why it was taken away? I always learned and heard in yeshiva and I learned it myself in the prophets. The reason is because he was punished because he DOESN'T LISTEN TO HASHEM BY KILLING ALL OF OUR MALIK THAT IS NOT GETTING INTO THAT. THAT'S TRUE. SADIC SAID THERE'S ANOTHER ASPECT THAT THE WHOLE IDEA of a king over Jews requires the involvement and interest in the nitty-gritty details of EVERY JEW. AND MELIK WASN'T INTERESTED IN that phenomenal insight. New insight velvet. Did you ever think of this? The gum now in the in the parenthesis adds another caveat because he was so great. He was Hashem was more particular and stringent with him more than others. The Gmorra says did one thing and also and he got punished right for it. David did two sins and he gets he goes scot-free says that you know why just doing one and he GETS PUNISHED IS BECAUSE HE WAS FROM a higher level of there's more of a you know the says who has a little insect on his shirt on his clothing IS PUNISHED BY DEATH it's a very very sharp gum. And everyone asks why the and and the answer is cuz if he wasn't a scholar mark, if he wasn't a a you know a big shot and he has a little insect a little dirt on him, no one pays attention. But if you're a IF YOU'RE A TRUE TORAH scholar and you HAVE A LITTLE DIRT ON YOU, then the the fault is not is is Adam for item GREATER AND YOU GET PUNISHED FOR it because you represent Jewish scholarship and for you to walk around that way is a disgrace. For a regular person, it's not a disgrace. It's not good. It's not the best. You look slumpy, but you don't get that same punishment because you're not at that level. So the higher you are, the greater you fall. That's the idea here. So look again in the and also the another reason why the kingship of of Shaw didn't last. It's because of his great level because he was from Baha. Therefore, Hashem had a greater than him. Hashem was more particular with him to the point where the Talmud says just by doing this one sin of not listening to GOD AND KILLING A MALIK. OH, it it ascended for him meaning it took it took it away from him. It was it was a it was cons rec it was recognized by God that this sin is the sin that makes him that that I take away from him kingship and I give it to David VERSUS says he did two sins major sins that we know about in the pro in the writing in the prophets and yet The surroundings are evaluated very much based on the surroundings. Same idea that if you're surrounded by a certain culture, then you're assessed in a different way. In other words, Mark and I told this to you said yesterday before the shir that you got to me through my son Mendy. So when when Mendel when he was a a a young boy 10 11 12 whatever he went to the Kabad camp in here in the Catskills in in the city called Parksville which right next to Liberty, New York. He went to the Kabad camp system. It's called Ganisro. Camp Ganisro Garden of Israel. And that was the first camp for boys that the Reb made in the 1950s 56 55 something like that 57. Anyway, at that time it was a Swan Lake. It wasn't in Parksville. But be that as it may, he came back from camp wearing a t-shirt. Now we live we live in Burough Park. I don't know if you've been to Burough. I know you've been to Kron Heights. The community of Burough Park where I live is like day and night to Kron Heights. In Kronites it's kabadnik. It's labatur. And here it's mostly other. and other as you know they wear the black and the pis and the strimal and but and the women are you know in a way uh you know that's is on a higher level at least outwardly anyway so I at the time in a called the is the a part of the chernobyler dynasty which is coming out of Ukraine okay Chernobyl And that's what I was doing during the week, not Ashabas. And I was a recognized member there in the sense of I was the only Kabadnik and I was a a proud carrying Kabadnik and everyone knew it. And in fact, my uh signature was the Kabadnik who sits in square. So when I donated money for an ad in their uh in their dinner journal, I signed off my name. It's the kabadnik who gave this don't THIS AD. THE KABADNIK who sits in square. In other words, I'm not a squarer. I'M A LAB. I'M A KABADNIK. BUT I HAPPEN TO SIT IN SQUARE AND D THERE IN THE MORNING. ANYWAY, we we really, you know, was I 20 YEARS I DAB IN THERE FOR 20 out of the 30 uh years that I'm here back in Brooklyn. Anyway, AND MY SON COMES in to D. I say, you know, get up and come to sh and he does. And he comes in with his t-shirt which says camp Gasro and it's, you know, short uh, you know, sleeves be over the elbow, which you know, sneer than the elbow anyway. And I, you know, I to myself I'm like embarrassed. Everyone here is dressed with a white shirt. Looks so sterile. But that's that's the culture in the shoe. And he comes in with his camp shirt and his sneakers. No one no one said anything to him in a in a real no one said anything really nasty to him. But I said to him when he came home, I said, "You can't come in to show this way. It's just this is not a kabad in kabad here in borrow part they TOLERATE IT IN CHRONICS THEY SAY YOU'RE THE best but this is they don't understand and they don't want to understand this culture so even if they don't say anything to you in the back of their minds they're thinking look at these liabers and it was a struggle and a battle because you know He said he he didn't understand. He was a young boy. He says, "Look, I'm coming to Darin. I'M COMING TO DARIN. BE THANKFUL. I'm coming to Darin. I'm 11, 12 years old. I don't have to get put filling on." I think or maybe it was I take that back. Maybe it was after his bar mitzvah. Yeah, I take that back. I think it was after he was 13 or 14. And it was uh it took a while for me to convince him please when you come here change your shirt because they don't relate to it. Why do I say that? Because we he quotes a verse of your surroundings assess the situation. You got to take the situation into into consideration. I'm sorry that that's the the normal world world the and and you know I I'll tell you people who don't do this they really don't have respect because you don't create the community there's a community there's a culture there's a synagogue they have certain rules follow the RULES YOU DON'T WANT TO FOLLOW DON'T COME NO PROBLEM YOU WANT TO COME AND DO IT YOUR WAY AND AND AND and be a pariah to the to our style it's not right you know a club. A CLUB HAS MEMBERSHIP. YOU DON'T FOLLOW THE RULES, THEY KICK YOU OUT OF THE CLUB. So the says because he was so great, he he couldn't relate to the people and therefore he wasn't the right king for the Jewish people. his domain, his culture of being a flutin tootin intellectual king, not interested in understanding the people and being with the people ground up from bottom to top, from below to above. He wasn't interested in that. So, Hashem says, "I don't want you as king. You're the wrong king. YOU HAD A CHANCE TO CHANGE. You didn't CHANGE BECAUSE YOUR SOUL is associated with Beina. is in in the intellect. It's higher. It's but it doesn't do what I need of a that's what says let's go further was borrowed. So the question is why was he even chosen as a king? He was borrowed. HASHEM GAVE HIM A CHANCE. TOOK HIM from his high level to this low world in order to create the concept of kingship. This is because all beginnings are difficult. Velv this is such a rich word. Every word here you could talk and sermonize for for hours. Samic says there are times you need to do shock treatment. devil. YOU KNOW WHAT SHOCK TREATMENT IS? SHOCK treatment is, you know, you're a doctor. YOU HAVE TO SOMETIMES TO CHANGE A SITUATION, YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING OUT OF THE ORDINARY. The Rambam says it. IF A PERSON HAS A very bad mida attribute, a behavior that's kind of addictive and and very bad, you have to go to the other extreme. And the Rambam says that's why so that you'll come back to the middle path. IF SOMEONE MARK IS PLAGUED WITH EGO, they have to DEFLATE THEMSELVES TO THE POINT WHERE THEY KIND OF HUMILIATE THEMSELVES TO BECOME back normal to be middle of the road. Now we know this wasn't the shittita of the balento of you know uh you know the the the madim and the musernix. They would go into a store that was selling food and they would say do you have they would say ask do you have a pound of nails because they wanted to show that intellect is is nothing not only but also but I don't want to go into this another discussion says that as a norm that's not the accepted way but at at the beginning to set the tone because the beginning you got to break through CAUTIOUS HERE IT'S ACCEPTABLE AND THAT'S WHY GOD CHOSE SHAW BECAUSE SHAW WAS FROM BEINA and because Shaw was about the idea. Shaw was not in the right. So the first thing you have to do is create a domain a realm where the whole CONCEPT OF KINGSHIP and rulership becomes acceptable then you can deal with the particular details. That's where David comes in. KING DAVID WHERE HE STARTS DEALING WITH THE P people's needs and the details. But King David wouldn't be able to GET THERE IF THERE WASN'T FIRST A SHAW WHO BROKE THROUGH. What an important lesson. You need TO HAVE A SCHOL BEFORE A KING. Even though the ultimate choice is king David and not says that and This breakthrough to break through the difficult beginnings REQUIRES AN ENERGY COMING FROM A MUCH HIGHER PLACE I.E. has explained regarding the idea of and he gives the citation what we learned today is gold and more than gold. I promise you, think about it. Shabas, when you're ding, take a few moments, think about what we're learning in the mimer. First, understand the idea and then bring it down into your life. Have a great day, everyone. We'll see everyone tomorrow. A good. Take care. Bye-bye.