Der Rebbe Redt Tzu Kinder — Devarim

welcome back we're learning uh kinder the best hashem this particular seeker is from gemma menachem of topsham aleph and uh and uh the nine days this this is mishra bana's words to uh hashem in parishes devoted safer at the bottom of the wholesale dividend is mishna is a repetition of toyota so the incidents of seifer devoteem are very often repetitions of stories that we know already in particular this verse is referring to something from parties yesterday when mesha was given advice from israel how to delegate responsibility okay let's jump right in in hindi kappa this particular parties had a complaint to hashem how can i bear this alone by myself we as meg as how is it possible that i alone should lead the jewish people the balder yiddish folk is as a grace since the jewish people are so big saiyan soul in anderskeit both in populous meaning there's a lot of them kaninhara kenyabu and also in diversity there's so many different kinds right everybody's got their different uh aim days shall beneath nobody thinks exactly like the other person via how is it possible as a mensch one person [Applause] even such a holy person like meisha so can an unfolk should lead such a large people so that's the complaint that was maisha's complaint so hashem responded with the following command he should take for himself sorry i love him [Applause] heads of thousands and heads of hundreds etcetera a whole system of delegation of leadership owns a valen health and media and they will help moshe to lead the jewish people okay that's the story we've spoken about before that in the basics to the children the setup is usually pretty straightforward so here we don't even have a question usually we're used to a question answer and then like a refutation you know but that's not enough okay another answer oh that's good oh but that's not enough and we don't do that here here we just have a narrative that's the story that's what happened and we jump right to some of us learn sikhs like this all the time right you look at the first ice and then you run to the yanisha there you go to the last ice with the nice hero okay so this this is like uh already speeding it up for us so we just learned a little narrative there and we jump right to the hero to the teaching the teaching from this for every jew what's going to be the teaching let's find out and and when you see the hera for this you see two things first of all how the rabbit sees the psychology of a child very clearly you know a a question that a child would ask and at the same time you see the the vision that the rebbe has of a child it's almost almost a paradox on one hand the question or this the the problem that the child has that the the hero is giving a solution for is very age-appropriate and it's very emotionally and mentally it's the kind of problem that a child would have and at the very same time the hero is so uplifting and empowering in such a a big way so it's almost like a paradox there you know it's like so age-appropriate and yet so beyond what people normally think of children being capable of which is another one of the big klullum principles of uh the rabbis to children especially which is that children rise to expectations and really we're all children so all of us rise to expectations let's take a look at the hero infotainment to conduct his life according to the directives of taira to be afraid more or less in themselves to influence other jews to also conduct themselves in a similar spirit so we have a schliches see what the schlichtas is isn't be a good jew and if you have time bonus points for being much beyond others no no no this is all part of the schlichtas all part of us is conduct yourself according to today and be pale on others that they should conduct themselves according to toyota okay so it's a tall order it's a tall order not only i am supposed to be concerned with my conduct but i have to take some responsibility for influencing other people's conduct kendo claim yiddish kind fragile so a child could ask a little child could ask rightfully he could ask how am i supposed to do that alone how can i do that via soy can ich is a clean kind how can i as a small child pull off such a big mission furthermore there's even more to the schliches even more it's not enough to just take care of your own yiddish kite this guy does not just make sure that you are doing what you got to do you have to worry for another year you know somebody once asked me about miv tatevillen and i mean it was somebody who i was putting villain on with he says why is this so important to you like what do you get out of this and it was an interesting question because you know i didn't think about it what do i get out of this you know like yeah okay what do i get out of it he's like why are you so motivated and i said uh listen let me let me tell you like this let's say i got it on an airplane and somehow by some fluke let's say um i had in davent and i thought i was gonna dive in on the plane and i i i forgot my i forgot my film i didn't i didn't know i didn't even have my film i realized i'm gonna land right before right before skip so do you know that from the second that i land from the second my phone is working and maybe maybe even before i'm going to do everything in my power to make sure there's fill in there for me when i land so that i don't cast fish on this a day of villain you understand that i mean is that much clearer to you because if you wouldn't even get that then my next point of my of my of my argument would not make any sense so daddy understood i said okay so let me explain something to you if i see you and you didn't put on filling yet today for me to not try to get you to put on filling to the same extent that i would try to make sure that i had fill in is equally impossible just like it's not possible i'm just going to land oh i forgot my villain well you know maybe tomorrow i'll go look for some filling in this city it's not possible okay the same way if i see you and i know you didn't put on film today and i have an opportunity to help you to do so i'm not going to let that slide anywhere i'm going to let my own film slide because the truth is there's no difference there's no difference so that's the first thing here is that being pale on another jew is not bonus it's not extra that is part of the mission okay so we have that that we have that i have to take care of myself i have to take care of others but that's not even where it ends nahmer furthermore aidan is not only i have to take care of myself not only i have to take care of another jew i have to take care of hashem because a jew was given a shlikaz that he has to make hashem happy durham by making the entire world a dwelling place for the shrine and this is one of our twelve sokkim yismaki is who is rejoicing and happy over his dwelling place in the lower realms that we're giving him bring him so every jew including the little jewish child has this triple mission he has to take care of his own yiddish kite and he has to take care of other jews whoever he has whoever is within his circle of influence and he has to take care of the shrink of take care of hashem make hashem happy wow and all of this is none of this is bonus this is all intrinsically you know this is you can't take any link out of the chain it's all one thing big job big job for a little kid big job for a big adult so the child's going to complain where do i have the power to to carry out such a mission so we already know basically what the answer is because we were already told the hera and this taina of the jewish child mirrors the taina of may sherben of ego assalavadi and the answer is going to mirror hashem's answer to meisha the the sikh is a very basic i mean there's a story and there's a hero and then the hero repeats itself two different ways so it's a very simple structure lentun's dictator so the traitor teaches us the power that he needs to be able to carry out his mission to conduct his own life and also to influence all those around him to go in the path of plato you were given the way you were given that you were given the power what does it mean i was given the power we're going to go on yet since that's the first of our twelve took him every one of us every jew was given theta as a yiddusha fun oh interesting formation really edited that was commanded the tata that made rochester's kihilis yankees but he gets all the powers that he needs to be able to do what he's got to do in life just like hashem found the way to give maesha the help he needed which was what case it happened to be through having surreal often by having delegates but whatever it is you'll be given the way whatever you need so ken and unfit and edition folk it's the he mentioned was given so can an unfold to be able to to be able to lead the jewish people and so do you you'll be given whatever you need it's a blank check here you understand the bible's giving you a blank check he's not saying what specifically the help will be for masha it was that was that was the system that was how that was the help that he needed but just like maisha got help and you are commanded in tata because it's a miraculous yankee this is my sustainer and you're carrying out my sister you're just like my should get help you're going to get help what kind of help whatever help a little bit of vet get in a bag right so i'll give the rubber fin in a veg doesn't mean i have to know the veg that's it's not my problem there will be a way to help me out so i don't have to worry about it just like maisha had a problem how am i going to do this and hashem solved the problem he gave you know gave him a way to deal with it so hashem will figure out how to figure out for each one of us how to make it possible to do whatever we got to do so let's just let's just review this a simple narrative maisha said how can i do it alone hashem found a pro a solution to his problem okay what's the parallel in our lives each one of us is going to say hold on i have to not only do what i've got to do to behave according to the theta but i have to influence my friends and my neighbors and everyone who i can reach and i have to give joy to hashem as well that's a big job how am i going to do it and the answer is don't worry just like maisha had a big job and he told hashem i don't know how i can do it hashem said don't worry i'll help you out and we'll give you a way that you can manage so to you with your job yeah it's a big job but hashem is going to work it out for you and he'll figure out the ways he'll give you the ways that you'll be able to manage okay statement let's go further statement if jews would have been meritorious voltanze which are the opening words of miguel the lamentations about the corbin about the destruction of the the base of ignesh the temple sits alone in other words madhur says that really whatever it was that turned into the negative we could have just had the the positive or the echo from partisan which dwarim always comes before tishbo that's why dwarim is is shabbos khazon which comes you know the division campus of vision like about that i used to explain so the mentor says we could have been yates with just assalavadi and we wouldn't have to come to the yashwabad that's what the matter says what does the rabbit do with this unpacks it with a logical deduction therefore it's understood we understand that reverse engineers it you see if it would have been zaika we would have only needed but we weren't saying so therefore we have echi but it's still not lost it's never nothing's ever lost and that is world view nothing's ever lost we can go back and do it the right way the right way was what does it mean well we just have a whole hero about icha so if we'll go back and do it the right way and we'll do is that will cancel the the exile which was the re which is described by eric joshua bothered what does that mean that i was about to say das main that means but i mean we already know basically that when we follow the hero that was just outlined for us very clearly not only is that a solution to our problem that we didn't know how we're going to do our job our triple job of taking care of ourselves taking care of others taking care of hashem yoho not only is assalavati the answer to our problem in that regard it's an answer to all the problems because it will bring gullah thus mate that means bashar he leads his life and helps those around him lead their life in them geist fonterra in the spirit of terror anger just like maesha led the jews by doing that the jew nullifies the whole concept of of exile and the of the destruction you don't need you have by the way the tone changes do you hear this because used to be like like almost like a rhetorical question how could i do it like there is no of course i can't doesn't really mean i'm asking really how can it tell me how to do it no like the way we read it is how could you do it a rhetorical question it has no answer the answer is it can't be done right but now we're reading it i'm asking i'm really asking how is it going to work and hashem will answer it he'll make it work and then we won't need any because we'll all do it just work it out for me and we're going to do it every every one of us can do our slickest and then what we're going to have we're going to have goula and there'll be no need for either yeshua so basically let's wrap it up very simple acknowledges a very common human emotion but particularly for for a child overwhelmed we all experience overwhelm we all come to a point where we feel chemist i'm tapped out i'm overwhelmed right i just and it's a it's a common feeling i mean and children especially children encounter frustration all the time because children are just learning resilience and they're just learning problem solving and and you know children are often irritable because they don't they don't know how to deal with the problems that bother them right and part of maturity is having that perspective of okay hold on take a deep breath we'll find a solution we'll find a solution so that is addressing a very age-appropriate very realistic dilemma of a child also of an adult but that is addressing it on a child level i'm overwhelmed i i feel like too much is being demanded of me and i don't even know what to do and then i was guiding the child through this and saying here's what we do when we feel overwhelmed but as a an honest oh like almost like out of curiosity like well this doesn't look really possible for me to do but hashem told me to do it so i know it's going to happen so i'm really curious to find out how it's going to work out this is this is neat i think i'll stick around and find out how this plays out because i know it's going to play out so that ev is teaching here resilience that i was teaching coping skills that i was teaching problem solving and that i was teaching all of these in a spiritual context of of a munna you know you know in in secular child psychology they can also teach you problem solving and and resilience and coping but here the debit is teaching to even a small child the prop part of your tool kit for life you're going to hit points where you're going to feel overwhelmed you're going to take that to your relationship your personal relationship with hashem such a remarkable concept of like i said before on one hand it's so age appropriate the the way that i was describing the child's dilemma and on the other hand at the same time it's like such lofty expectations for a child but so empowering the idea that a child has a personal relationship with hashem so it's not just hashem is the one who wrote these rules so long ago and gave them to my great great great great great great grandfather you know hashem is in my life hashem is the power in my life and when i need help carrying out these rules lean on him i rely on him and he works it out for me he he he finds out just like maisha was overwhelmed might should have been overwhelmed it's okay to be overwhelmed just don't give up so just when you're overwhelmed ask hashem the question hashem just like hashem sorted it out for maisha hashem is going to sort it out for me and it's going to be possible i'm going to be able to do my schleich of living life the way i need to live it helping my friends live the way they need to live and even bringing simcha to hashem it's all going to work out just have to ask the question innocently with confidence with sincerity like children know how to do because they're not cynical they know how to ask a question sincerely that's that's such a powerful tool such a powerful tool when you're feeling overwhelmed turn to and hashem hashem going to work with you like he worked with maisha and we're going to figure it out and when we do that each of us when we ask sincerely the echa assalavadi and we get the answer then there's no 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